Resentment-Free Relationships

Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours!

Get practical tips on:

• Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks
• Deepening emotional connection
• Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!)

Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide!

Resources: ⁠https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad...

This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited.

Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf

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Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone.

Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay.

Discover how to:

• Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self.
• Navigate uncomfortable emotions with self-compassion.
• Build h...

Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth

In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth. 

00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings

00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection

01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress

03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning

06:27 Practical Tips for Building...

Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foster a deeper connection with your par...

Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships

.00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness

00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake

02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict

03:01 Strategies for M...

This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority.

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth

01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority

02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships

04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority

06:23 Conclusion and Reflection...

In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty.  Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore the significance of perspective in...

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with ...

In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's v...

In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statem...

This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse' (criticism, contempt, defensivenes...

Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict

In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance conflict resolution is valuable, ai...

In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-responsibility and offers advice on...

Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce

In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date again. She encourages viewing adversities as growth opportunities. Becky ends b...

Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships

In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free from resentment.

The first pillar is 'Selfhood' where individuals wo...

Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to understand better, respond to, and navigate grumpiness in their relationships...

Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also introduces the Law of Creation model ...