U Up?

U Up?

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com Watch U Up? on YouTube: http://youtube.com/betches

Episodes

October 14, 2026 • 88 mins
This week, J&J learn that Hinge is banning screenshots, and they question whether this is good for dating or helps cheaters get away with it! They Jordana and Jared see a man who posted his divorce announcement with a thoughtful, brief FAQ and discuss whether all breakups should have posts like these. They then discuss if it’s weird to keep a list of everyone you’ve slept with, whether single friends should be invit...
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Jared and Jordana are learning about Instagram’s new blur feature for “soft launching” couples in their new segment, Are U Up to Date? They then answer a listener’s email about asking for an engagement ring back after years of marriage and whether it’s petty or prudent. Lastly, they help an unsure listener who doesn’t want a second big wedding, but her new fiancé, who has never been married, want...
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Jordana and Jared are reading through a listener’s breakup texts, and the list of reasons to end it is long! A cozy cabin weekend in the woods was not as romantic as she thought, with complaints about restaurant choices, what time to go to the farmers market, and feeling judged for her kinks. J&J also get into the latest dating news, from Margot Robbie taking her husband’s last name after nearly 10 years of marriage...
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Heather McMahan joins Jordana & Jared to talk about living with her mom after becoming a newlywed and getting fired from the Ryder Cup! She talks about how meeting her husband in a gay bar made her feel love at first sight, and she shares her direct advice on how to pick a life partner! Lastly, they help give advice to a newly married couple with a baby on how to navigate living with their parents while being new parents themse...
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It’s a rapid fire episode with 10 relationship questions from YOU, the listeners. Jordana and Jared answer questions about how long is too long to go without sex or a marriage proposal! They discuss whether high-drama baby mamas are worth it long-term, how to split chores at home, and how to combine finances. They also discuss trips, from honeymoons to splitting visits with the in-laws for the holidays, and how both can be st...
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It’s autumn, and Jordana & Jared are challenging their listeners to put down their phones, get out of the house, and talk to people! They then get into questions from you and decide if secretly hiding your partner’s ugly clothes is petty or prudent. Or just helpful?! Lastly, they help a woman decide whether or not to make a move on a guy 7 years her junior. Does age really matter? Learn more about your ad choices. V...
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Jordana discovers her husband used an AI chat to help him write her birthday card, and she has some feelings about whether a love letter still counts when chat gpt edits it for you! Jared and Jordana then get into listener questions, answering a woman who found her husband texting an ex, whether busking on NYC streets is a red flag, and whether asking for a number before a date means something or if it’s okay to keep the chat...
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September 18, 2026 • 57 mins
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Jordana tells Jared how her vacation ended up being the busiest and most unrelaxing, but also the most fun, due to Ronnie the dog getting kicked out of boarding for peeing and joining the family’s chaotic Montauk trip! They then get into listener emails and discuss whether a partner should wait in the regular TSA line, what actually marks the end of the honeymoon phase, and whether small gestures like Trader Joe’s flowe...
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Jared and Jordana discovered that you can crash a wedding and think it’s the best way to spend a night out with someone you’re dating! From black-tie dress codes to open bars and live bands, it’d probably make the best eighth date. They also advise a listener to take a break from dating apps after he starts analyzing whether his spontaneous Bumble date will make a good mother. Too soon, buddy! Lastly, they discuss...
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It’s Jordana’s birthday, Happy Birthday, Jordana! J&J debate wedding plus-ones, jealous partners, and how much texting is too much when you’re dating. They also dive into a text thread discussion of a boyfriend fangirling over a professional tennis player and his girlfriend is getting the ICK! They then discuss if it's a red flag for a woman who spends five nights a week at salsa class, and whether you should ...
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September 4, 2026 • 34 mins
Lauren Lapkus joins Jordana and Jared to talk about dating actors, marriage, kids, and whether being good at acting makes someone too good at lying?? The three play red flag or deal breaker, asking Lauren on everything from an ex’s wedding dress to bad breath, Disney adults, and having a sexual fantasy about your date’s famous character! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jared shares about meeting his girlfriend’s friends, how he got questioned about his phone use, and how being in a relationship means meeting the friend group! Then J&J discuss how men really feel about losing a partner, how they would go about life after a partner’s death, how often your spouse should visit your grave, and whether remarrying too soon should get you written out of the will. They also discuss a husba...
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Jordana and Jared watch a TikTok of a groom zip lining into his own wedding and debate whether a groom spending $24K is a major ICK. They then answer a question from a newly single mother who is nervous about dating again, and they call Jordana's mother! Jordana's mom is a gynecologist who has dated after divorce and raised 8 kids, and gives a lot of great advice this episode about getting back into dating, talking about your kids ...
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Jordana and Jared discuss a dating app match who canceled a first date after there was a lull in texting and then sent practically a full dissertation explaining his communication style as if his date was in the wrong for not knowing. J&J also answer whether wearing an ex’s gift years later means you’re still thinking about them, if a co-ed bachelor party where partners aren’t invited is petty, and whether a f...
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It’s a Friday Feels episode and J&J are questioning, "would you pay $5,000 to break up with someone"? The two then get into listener questions and discuss whether it’s petty or prudent to ask for your shared spicy toy back after a breakup. They also read a question from a single woman who is searching for a sperm donor to have a child and was surprised when her married male friends offered their own – without ...
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Jordana and Jared discuss what to do when your friend starts dating your crush, whether the way you handle getting roasted at a comedy show is an ick, and how to handle overbearing in-laws. They also talk summer dating, waiting for your partner at the airport, and using AI to write a prenup. Also Jared has a new Netflix special, The Family Plan, coming September 1! Add to your queue today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...
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Harry Jowsey joins Jordana and Jared to talk about how he was engaged to 20 women at once for his new Netflix’s show, Let’s Marry Harry, what changed for him after losing his father and why dating is harder when it's played out on social media! Harry weighs in on listener questions where the guy asks for a first-date ultimatum and whether it’s ok to date multiple people at once, and why he’d rather text than...
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Jordana and Jared debate whether it’s okay for your boyfriend to go on a trip with his ex, especially when they still own an apartment together. They also decide if an ex was petty for showing his former girlfriend the engagement ring he bought for her, and whether a bad first kiss is enough to end a great date. Plus, they talk fanny packs, tasting-menu dates, and why some couples get engaged without planning to get married. ...
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Jared opens up about a fear of his when getting serious with his partner, figuring out how to balance love, family, and a career that keeps him on the road. Then J&J debate whether a husband should text his ex happy birthday and solve a bride’s very specific $10,000 wedding dress wedding night dilemma! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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