Self Care IRL

Self Care IRL

Welcome to Self Care IRL, a brave space for you to create better wellness experiences. Join me, Ty Alexander, wellness blogger and best selling author of "Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died", as I explore strategies and ideas for becoming your best self. This podcast will inspire you to take life by the horns and enjoy the ride despite your traumas or circumstances. Topics include relationships (especially the one with self), transitions, inner growth, life purpose, spirituality, and whatever else the world throws our way. Sharing the most intimate parts of myself with you...this is Self Care IRL, a podcast by Ty Alexander. Use the hashtag #SelfCareIRL to chat about each episode on the Innanets! Website: http://selfcareirl.com IG: @SelfCareIRL & @TyAlexander

Episodes

113. A Guide to Real Connection: 8 Ways to Check In Without Being Weird

December 2, 2024 • 18 mins
In this episode, you and I discuss how to actually be there for your strong friends. And not that surface level 'how are you?' text energy, but the genuine checking-in that your day-ones deserve. We're talking everything from how to celebrate their wins (even when they try to play them off), to respecting their space (without ghosting them), to making it okay for them to not have it all together (because baby, none of us do). Whet...
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112. My best advice for not crashing out during the holidays

November 26, 2024 • 27 mins
In this episode, we're getting real about maintaining your peace during the most wonderful (and sometimes most chaotic) time of the year. If you're feeling overwhelmed by family expectations, missing loved ones, or trying to make everything Instagram-perfect while your bank account is giving you the side-eye, this episode is your holiday survival guide. From learning the power of saying "nah" to toxic situations, to protecting your...
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111. A Brutally Honest Guide For People Who Feel Like They're Faking It

November 18, 2024 • 21 mins
In this episode, you and I will discuss what it really feels like to look "successful" on the outside while battling imposter syndrome and anxiety on the inside. Through vulnerable conversations and ten practical strategies, we'll explore how to manage the weight of success when your brain keeps telling you you're a fraud. This isn't another toxic positivity pep talk – it's real talk about mental health, success, and learning to tr...
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110. Why Being Nice Is Not Your Superpower

October 28, 2024 • 25 mins
Today, we're going to have a real conversation about breaking free from these patterns that our mothers and grandmothers before us struggled with too. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical ways to set boundaries without guilt, specific phrases to use when you need to say no (and mean it), and most importantly, permission to put yourself first. Because contrary to what society might have told us, your well-being is not u...
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109. Click here if you're always the one apologizing in your friendships

October 16, 2024 • 19 mins
Today's episode is all about knowing when to fight for a friendship and when to love yourself enough to walk away. We're talking toxic dynamics, accountability (or the lack thereof), and how to know if your bestie is still your bestie or if they've become your frenemy. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My d...
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108. High-Maintenance vs. Low-Maintenance Friendships: What’s the Difference?

October 1, 2024 • 30 mins
Friendship is a beautiful thing, but let’s be real—some friendships can be more work than others. We’ve all had those friends who need constant check-ins, and then there are the ones you don’t talk to for weeks (or months) and pick up right where you left off like no time has passed. Both types of friendships have their pros and cons, and understanding where they fall on the maintenance spectrum can save you a lot of headaches. Let...
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107. Let’s Talk About Overcoming Unresolved Trauma

August 6, 2024 • 32 mins
Today, you and I are going to discuss how to BEGIN to overcome unresolved trauma. Now I say begin because I recognize that (1) this isn't a one and done kinda of practice (2) with everything great and worthy you must at least just start. So this is the beginning for us. Now. This is a heavy topic, but I promise we will tackle it together. We might need to make this a series or even a live podcast with some special guests. Let me kn...
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106. Listen to this if you need help managing your emotions

July 9, 2024 • 24 mins
We all know that emotions can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster, am I right? One moment you're on top of the world, and the next, you're down in the dumps. But don't worry, I've got your back. Today, we're diving into the topic of managing our emotions effectively. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My deb...
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105. The Hidden Dangers of Silent Anger

July 9, 2024 • 22 mins
Ever find yourself just fuming inside, putting on that “I’m totally fine” mask for the world while internally you're about to combust? Yeah, I’ve been there too. It’s like this weird, toxic cocktail of simmering rage and pretending everything’s peachy keen. But let’s spill the tea: being silently pissed off is not the move. It’s actually super damaging to your mental health. So in this episode you and I are going to dive into why k...
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104. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 3)

June 15, 2024 • 21 mins
Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities, expectations, and the constant push to keep moving forward. In the midst of it all, it's easy to forget the simple truths that can make our journey a bit lighter and our hearts a bit fuller. That's why we're here to remind you of a few things you might need to hear today. In today's episode I am giving you 15 cheeky, relatable messages to give you a little boost, a chuckle, and perhaps a...
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103. What to Do When Someone Doesn't Accept Your Apology

June 13, 2024 • 17 mins
We've all been there. You mess up, you apologize, and then… crickets. Or worse, outright rejection. It's like a punch to the gut. In today's episode you and I are going to discuss what to do when someone doesn't accept your apology and how to handle it with grace, dignity, and a sprinkle of self-love. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://...
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102. Things you can do to improve your relationship with your siblings

June 11, 2024 • 26 mins
Even though two children in the same household can have very different experiences of childhood, my brother is the only person who will ever understand what it was like to grow up in my parents' house. In this episode, I give you some insight on how I'm recommitting to a better relationship with my brother. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - htt...
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101. Lemme read you this email I got (it's about depression btw)

May 13, 2024 • 23 mins
Someone on Twitter recently reminded me that I use to be on Beyonce’s Internet really writing. Time and tasks have me missing that part of me. But I actually read my own words on this blog post and I sobbed. I also took a few deep breaths of relief because I know I am not in this dark place anymore. I wrote this blog post about grief in 2014 but I felt like it deserved a new space to breathe. After you listen it let’s chat (hoping ...
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100. Wow we really cleared "a hunnit" episodes + our origin story

May 9, 2024 • 33 mins
WOW! A hunnit episodes later and you are still here. Clap it up for yourselves while I take you down memory lane. This episode is our origin story (I rambled, sorry). Enjoy. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - htt...
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99. These are the 5 manifesting techniques I'm using to create my dream life

April 15, 2024 • 20 mins
Manifesting is a larger umbrella term for a lot of aspects of making your goals a reality. So in today's episode you and I are gonna discuss how you can get better at manifesting your dreams and goals. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in ...
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98. My journey to reframing my sadness

March 25, 2024 • 23 mins
In today's episode, I am going to give you some suggestions on how we can reframe our sadness. Now all of these suggestions are under the assumption that you have already sat with the sadness, you have reconciled that you are sad, you have determined why you are sad, and you are now ready to reframe it. This absolutely does that mean that the minute that you begin to feel sadness rising that you "quote unquote" reframe it. Because ...
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97. Lessons I Learned From The Wendy Williams Docuseries

March 11, 2024 • 32 mins
I watched the two part docuseries, Where Is Wendy Williams? and I am honestly a bit floored. Which is why it's now two weeks later and I am just gathering my thoughts. It was not what I expected. I was geeked to see Wendy cut up in the ways only she can. Messy, cheeky, and semi rude. But instead we got a raw, unfiltered, and highly vulnerable depiction of the media legend. In this episode I unpack some of the lessons I learned fro...
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96. How to have a relationship with a toxic parent

February 5, 2024 • 24 mins
In today's episode I am going to tell you a quick story of what lead me to a 30 day break and then I'm going to give you/me some guidance on how to navigate your relationship with the toxic parent. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in book...
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95. How To Have A Relationship (Or Not) With Your Emotionally Immature friend

January 25, 2024 • 25 mins
In today's episode you and I going to dive into how to handle this with the grace. From setting boundaries to understanding when to take a step back, I’ve got you covered. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https...
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94. IDK who needs to hear this but... (part 2)

December 19, 2023 • 16 mins
To celebrate the end of 2023 this episode is back to back gem-worthy memes (remixed of course). You might wanna grab a journal and pen to take notes. RESOURCES: Make It Happen Journal - https://tyalexander.co/downloads/p/make-it-happen-journal 5 Day Gratitude Challenge - https://tyalx.com/gratitude-challenge My debut book, Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died, is available in bookstores everywhere - https://amzn.to/3M7BZ8h CON...
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