We're Having Gay Sex

We're Having Gay Sex

After 10 years of serial monogamy, comedian Ashley Gavin, trades in her u-haul for a life of sleeping around and documents every gritty detail of her queer experiments in this podcast. Always in fear of being cancelled, Ashley is aided by her queerest friends, Kate Sisk, known as the "Cancel Coach", and the "Youth in the Soundbooth" Gara Lonning, equipped with a gen-z themed soundboard, to call Ashley out on her BS. Together they interview people from all over the gender and sexuality spectrums (from straight to gay and cis to trans) about their sex lives. And yes straight people, you will find out what lesbian sex is. For advertising opportunities please email PodcastPartnerships@Studio71us.com We wanna make the podcast even better, help us learn how we can: https://bit.ly/2EcYbu4 Privacy Policy: https://www.studio71.com/us/terms-and-conditions-use/#Privacy%20Policy

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May 4, 2026 70 mins
This episode is lore heavy, listener! Brad Davis is a queer musician, tech artist, and my dear girlfriend’s little brother, but today he’s in the apartment to be my little BOTTOM! In addition, for the FIRST TIME… WHGS producer and man-behind-the-camera Alex Vrahas fills in as co-host. It’s a BOYS EP as we discuss romantic flings while abroad, anticipation in sex, coming out, being a very straight-passing gay, and what it’s like to ...
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This episode is the most inclusive, listener! NOAHFINNCE is a transgender pop-punk musician and YouTuber that’s been rocking the internet since 2015 with his incredible songs, but today he’s in the apartment to rock your BED! We discuss having a fivesome with every single person represented in “LGBTQ,” sexual dynamics when you have autism, horny fans, disabilities, and starting your career as a “My Chemical Romance” fan account. As...
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This episode is depicting women correctly, listener! Halie Torris is an oil painter and visual artist whose incredibly detailed work you’ve seen go viral on TikTok/IG, but today she’s in the apartment to paint YOU like one of her French girls! We discuss the female gaze, how to define it, capturing it in your work, the artistic process in the modern attention economy, and having your gay little heart get broken over the vast and in...
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This episode is philosophizing, listener! Chelsea Cutler is a singer, songwriter, producer, and one of your favorite queer musicians with over 3 billion global streams and worldwide tours, but today she’s in the apartment to take a tour through your BODY. In addition, we have the incredible comedian Emily Wilson filling in as co-host! We discuss queer identity, when one can claim that they’re gay, the power of music, and how queern...
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This episode is going all in, listener! Andrea Allan is an unfathomably funny podcaster, comedian, and co-host of “Respectfully” alongside Lizzy Cassidy, but today she’s in the apartment to “respectfully” pipe you down! We discuss exploring your bisexuality in the Burning Man orgy tent, the dynamics of using a strap on, embracing the chaos of coming out, and getting diseases from butt-munching. Ashley needs sex therapy. Lizzy gets ...
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This episode is BI, listener! Franchesca Ramsey is an actor, comedian, writer, and producer known for her hyper-viral content and award-winning series “MTV Decoded”, but today she’s in the apartment to taste the sexual rainbow! We discuss bisexuality, polyamory, dating a man and a woman at the SAME time, coming out late in life, and encountering genital piercings so crazy that it stops sex. Ashley combats gay shame. Lizzy only date...
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This episode is POETIC, listener! Eileen Myles (they/them) is a celebrated poet, novelist, and journalist best known for “Chelsea Girls” and poems that queers everywhere tattoo onto their arms, but today they’re in the apartment to SEDUCE! We break format this episode to interview Eileen and learn about their career, history, and legendary love life. In-between, we discuss art, coming out, New York in the 70s, and how camp is the b...
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This episode is DRY, listener! Sofie Hagen (Netflix, Fringe) is an award-winning Danish stand-up comedian, author, and podcaster that tours all around the world, but today they’re in the apartment for some SEX tourism because things have been dry! We discuss not having sex in 10+ years despite liking it, why that can be affected by the intersections of trauma, gender, and body image, and how you can absolutely positively FUMBLE the...
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This episode is historic, listener! Jenny Zigrino (Conan, JFL, Don’t Tell) is a hilarious stand up comedian, writer, and performer that breaks boundaries, but today she’s in the apartment to thrust DEEP… into history. We discuss queer history in Colonial America, attraction to masculinity regardless of gender, drag, burlesque, and how bisexuals are pretty dang cool. Ashley has sex on a timer. Lizzy queens out with a taxi driver. ...
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If you have the funds, Donate to Kylie’s GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-kylie-kick-brain-lesion-ass  (TW \\ SA; skip 42:44 - 49:33 to avoid) This episode is SICK, listener! Kylie Vincent is a stand up comedian, writer, and beloved co-host of WHGS, but today she’s phoning into the apartment fresh out of the hospital. Kylie got a freaking BRAIN LESION, so we take some time to check in on how she’s doing alongside Ash...
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This episode is a POWER BOTTOM, listener! Chrissy Chlapecka is an enchanting musician, content creator, and activist that’s about to kick off a nation-wide tour, but today she’s returning to the apartment for some verse activity as an out-and-proud LESBIAN! We discuss topping as a high-femme lesbian, methods to approach that with your butch GF, overcoming comphet, and the best queer scenes across the US. Ashley power bottoms for th...
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This episode is HORRIFIC, listener! Roz Hernandez is a mind-blowing stand up comedian, podcaster, actor, and paranormal export that has been sending people to the afterlife with laughter, but today she’s in the apartment to investigate the most GHASTLY ick she has ever encountered on a date! We discuss purposely being given the ick by people you’re trying to date, only dating queer people, identity, labels, and cruises. People try ...
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Go watch Kate’s NEW stand up special RIGHT NOW: http://Of.tv/lmaof130 or https://bio.site/KateSisk. Kate Sisk is a beloved comedian, writer, and the former co-host / “cancel coach” of WHGS! But today, he’s BACK in the apartment to make a movie…and it’s RATED X! We discuss watching queer adult content, bizarre videos, seeing your friends in said videos, & suckin’ self. Oh yeah, and the set may or may not completely fall apart. Ashle...
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This episode has been years in the making, listener! It’s a DUO episode today as we are joined by Alayna Joy, an incredible queer therapist, content creator, and co-host on Ashley’s other podcast, Chosen Family. However today she’s coming into the WHGS apartment, because Ashley banged her doppelganger?! In-between the details of this epic story, we discuss getting married after coming out 6 years ago, compulsory heterosexuality, di...
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This episode is trying new things, listener! Sarah Keyworth (they/them) is an award-winning stand up comedian & podcaster that’s been taking the UK by storm, but today they're in the apartment from across the pond to teach us naughty students a lesson! We discuss your friends taking dominatrix lessons in their 30s, coping with bad times, biking, gaming, and how 3D printing is a massive turn off. Ashley beefs with a homophobic troll...
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This episode is running experiments, listener! Carson Olshansky (they/them) is a fantastic stand-up comedian, writer, and creator that you’ve seen blowing up your social media feeds, but today they’re in the apartment to fingerblast you so accurately you’ll scream “Eureka!” We discuss a/b testing the best finger for bangin’, finding sexual compatibility, dating mascs with a complicated identity, and having LEGITIMATE trauma from Ji...
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This episode is breaking new ground, listener! Vico Ortiz (HBO Max, Adventure Time) is an enchanting Puerto Rican drag king, actor, and activist that is pushing boundaries in the media, but today they’re in the apartment to pop our drag king cherry! In addition, all of our usual co-hosts are tied up, away, or sick, so Ashley’s girlfriend Jen Davis fills in as our temporary co-host! We discuss polyamory, relationship anarchy, decolo...
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This episode is saying all the wrong things, listener! Yvette Segan is a fan-favorite stand up comedian, actor, writer, and podcaster with over 400k followers across all platforms from her hilarious videos. However, today she RETURNS to the apartment because she’s finally in a queer relationship — she's dating a bisexual man! We discuss queerness in straight-passing relationships, being so in love that you’re writing poetry (gay), ...
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Happy Holidays, Bottoms! To celebrate everything you have done for us, enjoy this special highlight reel of some of the best moments from our Patreon bonus series, “You’re Having Gay Sex,” where we read and react to stories submitted by you! In addition, Ashley gives an extra long holiday message, answering some of your gayest questions about the holidays. Gather round your chosen family and get ready for some of YOUR most hilariou...
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This episode is risking it all, listener! Brandon Rogers is a massive queer actor, content creator, and comedian that’s had you laughing on everything, from YouTube sketches to shows like “Helluva Boss.” However, today he’s in the apartment to have you GASPING from the situations he has put himself in! We discuss your first time having gay sex getting interrupted by your partner’s family walking in, acting, representation, the dept...
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