A Gay and A NonGay
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
Episodes
November 19, 2025 • 15 mins
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2015 to an episode all about one word... Chickens.
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November 13, 2025 • 20 mins
We’re heading to Solihull for a special episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
Recorded just days before the first-ever Solihull Pride, Dan sits down with Melanie Palmer — CEO of the Solihull Business Improvement District — to discover how one of the “straightest parts of the UK” ended up launching a Pride celebration that captured the whole town’s imagination.
Mel shares the surprisingly emotional origins of Solihull Pride, how she has ...
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November 5, 2025 • 32 mins
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are sitting down with the iconic Daniel Lustig-Webb, a familiar face from the hit show Gogglebox.
Daniel discusses the unique concept of'Gogglebox, filming experiences, and the show's impact during the pandemic.
He shares personal stories about his friendship with ex-partner Steven, living arrangements post-separation, and experiences navigating the gay dating scene as a public...
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October 29, 2025 • 13 mins
James and Dan are back with another chaotic, hilarious episode of A Gay and A NonGay!
This week, Dan’s lost his phone — and apparently his sanity — leading to a deep dive into how impossible modern life is without one (and how long James can last without rolling his eyes).
From there, the pair spiral into a debate about narcissism — is it always a bad thing, or can a little self-love actually be healthy?
James insists it’s a gre...
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October 22, 2025 • 23 mins
Dan and James are back with more A Gay And A NonGay for a wide-ranging conversation, starting with stereotypes!
Is there such thing as a gay name and a straight name? And what's up with straight men putting their hands down their trousers?
Plus, they talk about the issue of creatively navigating first dates without relying on consuming alcohol and share their experiences attending Solihull Pride.
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October 15, 2025 • 17 mins
Why is it that straight men can seemingly never behave themselves in public? That's the discussion on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
James and Dan are looking at two similarly gross incidents: a concert in New York and a burlesque show in Edinburgh, at both men were ejected because they couldn't keep their thing in their pants.
In a debate that ranges from the outrageous to the somewhat facetious, our co-hosts discuss everyt...
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October 8, 2025 • 17 mins
We're getting political on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
Rylan’s controversial comments on immigration - the episode spirals into a fiery debate about misinformation, far-right rhetoric and the way everyday conversations in the UK are shaped by fear rather than facts.
From England flags mysteriously appearing on lampposts to Pride merch being vandalised, James and Dan unpack what it really means to be "proud" of your countr...
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September 24, 2025 • 27 mins
We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and Dan are diving into the age-old relationship question: should you share your location with your partner?
Dan reveals he doesn't share his location with his girlfriend of 14 years (despite her sharing hers with him)... which James has some strong opinions about!
Dan also updates on his viral campaign to rename Birmingham Airport after the late Ozzy Osbourne and we expl...
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September 10, 2025 • 31 mins
James and Dan are back with another hilarious deep dive into gay and non-gay life!
Kicking off with a listener question about what gay people really listen to at the gym, things quickly spiral into a heated debate about whether liking Kylie or Madonna is performative — and whether James is secretly pretending to love Drag Race.
From there, we head to the rugby, where James (fuelled by Sauvignon Blanc) and Dan find themselves surr...
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September 3, 2025 • 11 mins
James & Dan's Webby Award has finally arrived... and it's going to cost HOW MUCH to get a second one!? They'll be sharing for now!
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James spills the tea about his recent wedding DJ gig that broke the internet because of the banned songs list he was sent! Is this purely straight behaviour?
Who has the better taste in music (gays or non-gays)? And should James get into DJing more weddings? All ...
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August 27, 2025 • 38 mins
Get ready for a raw and honest conversation on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, as James & Dan are joined by broadcaster Rich Clarke to talk about being gay in the public eye.
Rich opens up about his decades-long struggle with authenticity - and the breakdown that changed everything. He talks about working on Capital FM in the 2010s and being told he was "too gay"... and ultimately the conversations that led to the deterioratio...
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August 20, 2025 • 32 mins
We're here for another Summer episode of A Gay And A NonGay. With James at Edinburgh Fringe, we're focusing on the really big questions in life...
So, after we debate killing a fly or not, James & Dan are talking about regional gays (who even are they?!), why lavender marriages are making a comeback and the bizarre rules around who gets financial support in relationships.
James questions why we don’t just marry our friends, while...
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August 13, 2025 • 27 mins
We have our first guest-free episode of A Gay And A NonGay in ages! We're diving into everything from backpack etiquette to Oasis concerts.
We kick off with a burning question from their straightest friend: Why did we all believe that wearing a rucksack with both straps was gay? Queue a debate about bags, masculinity and school-era social dynamics.
Dan also shares his incredible experience at the Oasis reunion concert, leading t...
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August 6, 2025 • 43 mins
We're diving in deep with historian and author Harry Tanner on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
As a teenager, Harry was an evangelical Christian and came to believe homosexuality was a sin. Now, he lives a fulfilled gay life in London where he writes and teaches ancient languages and history.
In his new book - The Queer Thing About Sin - Harry explores how the West invented and weaponised homophobia — tracing its origi...
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July 30, 2025 • 10 mins
We’re joined by Eurovision royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay — the winner of the 2025 Eurovision Song Contest, JJ!
Fresh from Vienna, JJ chats with James and Dan about everything from broken trophies and bubble wrap fails to navigating unrequited love in the queer community.
They open up about the struggles of dating when everyone seems a little self-obsessed, the importance of listening to your friends’ red-flag warn...
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July 23, 2025 • 29 mins
We have a record-breaker on the podcast this week! It's Eva Echo's third appearance on A Gay And A NonGay, which puts her in a class of her own!
Eva is a trans activity, NHS campaigner and is the Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride.
On this episode, James, Dan and Eva talk about pride as a protest amid rising transphobia in UK politics, the recent UK Supreme Court ruling on gender identity and the Download Festival toilet ...
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July 16, 2025 • 27 mins
We have pop royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay as James and Dan are joined by actor, singer and famous brother Frankie Grande!
Frankie's new album Hotel Rock Bottom is out now and covers everything from gay joy to his journey to sobriety.
In this conversation, James, Dan and Frankie talk about sobriety in the gay community, the evolving nature of Pride and queer representation and the significance of chosen family.
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July 2, 2025 • 35 mins
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins!
Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are st...
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June 25, 2025 • 36 mins
We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all.
Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV...
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June 18, 2025 • 22 mins
If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season.
From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of ...
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