A Gay and A NonGay
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
Episodes
April 24, 2024 • 23 mins
Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode.
Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for Joan Rivers? And which Minogue sister would be amazing as a UK or Australian Eurovision entry?
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April 17, 2024 • 20 mins
Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed as a stage show. Trigger Warning - this episode does contain conversations about abuse and sexual violence.
For help and guidance, you can find Survivors Network at survivorsnetwork.org.uk.
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April 10, 2024 • 19 mins
Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think?
In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas.
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March 27, 2024 • 18 mins
James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'.
Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance encounter with an old friend (Hillary Baack) on his way home to a dreaded family reunion that forces him to confront long-buried feelings.
They explore the creative process behind creating this film and the importance of trans masc representation in cinema.
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March 20, 2024 • 20 mins
What would you do if you had to have tea with someone's mum on the first date?
James and Dan are back and in this episode they explore whether online LGBTQ+ inclusivity posts actually do more harm than good... as well as responding to more of your pressing dilemmas!
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March 13, 2024 • 18 mins
Happy Ken Day! ... But where were the gays in Barbieland?

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March 6, 2024 • 21 mins
Crystal Hefner sheds light on her time at the infamous Playboy Mansion, from the glamour of the mansion to the shadows of manipulation, abuse and control.
James and Dan discuss Hugh Hefner's legacy and the dark underbelly of the Playboy empire. From the pressures of maintaining physical perfection to the emotional and financial exploitation.
Crystal shares her conflicting feelings about her relationship with Hefner and her eventua...
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February 28, 2024 • 20 mins
Do you find yourself attractive? Would you put your honey where your mouth is and literally taste your own penis?
James and Dan are back with a chat about self-image, arousal, and how to navigate intimacy in modern relationships.
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February 21, 2024 • 20 mins
Is the "girlfriend effect" real? Do straight men suddenly get their act together because of their girlfriends? Plus James wants to know if it's okay to filter your pics before sliding into someone's DMs?

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February 15, 2024 • 19 mins
James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking?
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February 7, 2024 • 25 mins
It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to settle the score on Dan's Jamie Dornan lookalike status.
Plus our listener shares his struggles with being mistaken for gay and wonders if there's something he's missing about himself.
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January 31, 2024 • 22 mins
James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions for his friend who's about to tie the knot.
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January 24, 2024 • 25 mins
James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexities of love, loneliness, and the queer experience, taking viewers on a journey through time and emotion. Andrew shares his insights into the creative process, discussing the challenges of revisiting his childhood home for the film's setting and the cathartic experience it brought.
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January 4, 2024 • 32 mins
Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023.Â
Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NHS over waiting times for trans patients, a lively debate with gay Tory Councillor Andrew Boff, our emotional conversation with the Real Jill Nalder from It’s A Sin, a chilling conversation about chemsex murders with Patrick Strudwick and legendary DJ Fat Tony opening up about his strugg...
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December 26, 2023 • 40 mins
Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 2.
James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by legendary DJ Fat Tony for an in-depth conversation about addiction, recovery and how he finally found happiness.
We also hear about Tony & Stavros wedding plans, and how their special day will be dedicated to the entire LGBTQ+ community.
DJ Fat Tony interview starts at 01.35.
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December 20, 2023 • 23 mins
In the first of two episodes recorded live at Cheerful Earful Festival in November, James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by LGBTQ+ educator & YouTuber Jamie Raines - who gained a huge online following by sharing his personal transition with the internet.
But first, Things Dan Cannot Say returns, and Dan thinks gays ‘should admit that RuPaul’s Drag Race is over’ 😱. Alyship REVOKED.
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December 13, 2023 • 13 mins
James and Dan are joined by Cristal and Alisa from The Aces. We’re going to talk about the new album, growing up in the Mormon Church and why they decided to leave - how amazing their shows in Utah have been and the positive effect they have on queer youth around the world.
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December 6, 2023 • 43 mins
Re-release: Our big gay show with Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson and Vanessa Feltz.
In light of the sad death of Sophie Anderson, this week there's another chance to hear our Big Gay Show.
This episode was recorded live at the Underbelly Festival in September 2021 with very special guests Sophie Anderson, Vanesa Feltz and Felicity Ward.
Episode Timings
04:14 - Things Dan Can't Say
09:13 - Felicity Ward Interview
19:04 - Sophie Ande...
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November 29, 2023 • 10 mins
Why do people feel the need to announce that they're in a relationship? Is it arrogant?
James has had it with people telling him they have a boyfriend. Dan thinks it's pretty normal. Let us know your thoughts 😂 find us on your socials by searching gaynongay.
Kisses x
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November 22, 2023 • 16 mins
Is the Conservative Party welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces?
Dan and James discuss a recent twitter/X spat where some members of the Tory Party were allegedly physically thrown out of gay bar in Manchester.
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