The Coming Out Chronicles

This week’s Saboteur is the Stickler.

🎥 Watch the video clip of this Saboteur in action. I’ve purposefully made it a little silly, but I think you’ll get the picture.

Here’s how it might be showing up, and how you can shift into your Sage perspective instead.

Stickler is about rigidity and perfectionism. Noticing it helps create flexibility and release energy spent on unnecessary control.

Here’s a simple reframe to move from Saboteur...

I’m so delighted to be ending an old and starting a new year with you!

As I looked back at 2025, I found that in every area of my life… there was more ease and flow! And that was not just a me thing… while things got crazier and crazier in the world around us, all of my clients also reported that as they’ve grown their mental fitness muscles, they have grown in feeling like life is so much more ease filled for them as well!

That is m...

I’ve been a part of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Substack community, Letters From Love for the last 2 years and it has truly been transformational for me. This group of us who we call “The Lovelets” has become a safe space to connect with the spirit of unconditional love (SOUL). Each week, Liz offers a prompt to write a letter from love to ourselves. It has been a beautiful way to start my day feeling held in love. Then I show up diffe...

For the past 15 years, I have carried a dream that I share whenever anyone asks what my ideal life would look like. I envision myself sitting on a front porch somewhere in East Vancouver—one of those big, old porches with lots of pedestrian foot traffic. I'm there in a rocking chair as people come at different times to visit and sit with me on the porch. They tell me about their lives and what's happening for them, and I help them ...

Hi friends! I shared this soul stirring moment on my social media this week, but I realized you might not be on my socials and might be inspired by it too. Perhaps you also have something in your life that feels like you’ve been pushing and struggling and trying to make it happen for so long. I so feel you! And I wanted to share the moment this week when it felt like all the sudden, the doors opened and the way has been made cle...

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Finding My Calm (And How You Can Too)

When Glennon Doyle joined Substack with thousands of subscribers while I struggled with my 400, I felt the jealousy rise. Instead of spiraling, I used my Positive Intelligence tools to identify my "controller saboteur" at work.

What's Working for Me:

Daily "Letters from Love" journaling (voice-to...

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And help you develop powerful ways to access your Sage wisdom rather than be driven by your saboteurs.

We don't need so many cages!

Are you constantly trying to make everyone happy at the expense of your own authenticity? In this vulnerable and connective video, I share my personal journey of recognizing and overcoming the people-pleaser syndrome.

Key Insights:

* How people-pleasing sabotages your success

* Real-life examples of people-pleasing in action

* Insights from Positive Intelligence methodology

* Strategies to reclaim your authentic self

Sign up for a Sabote...

Merry Christmas!

Whether you're having a wonderful time with family or simply making it through – I see you, and I want to remind you of something important.

During these days that can be particularly emotionally charged, please remember to check in with your inner child – that younger version of yourself that might need some extra care right now. If you find yourself overwhelmed by emotions or frustrated with certain relationships, ...

Hi! It’s good to have you here!

You might be noticing some changes to my newsletter and I wanted to send along a little update so you know more of what’s going on.

TLDR: (Too long- Didn’t watch… here’s the coles notes)

* Moved to Substack for easier community connection

* Shifting from "Centered" to my name (Nancy Shadlock) to be more authentic

* All content stays free and accessible

* $5/month subscription available if you want to sup...

Meet Kailey Gilchrist, the inspiring Founder and Sauce Boss at NONA Vegan Foods LTD. She delves into her entrepreneurial journey, from coming out in college and meeting her fiancé in a cooking class to creating a food brand with her late mother’s delicious Italian recipes.

Discover how joining CGLCC’s Out For Business program and finding mentorship helped her business thrive.

Key Points:

• Coming out about her ...

Join Nancy Shadlock & Dr. Jackie F. Steele スティール若希 for a captivating conversation touching on the complex journey of transgender youth, diversity of thought, family law rights, and the role of Democracy.

They delve into cognitive bias, freedom of conscience, and the importance a variety of voices and yet maintaining emotional safety in democratic dialogue. The episode also explores law reform's role in creating equalit...

Jennifer Knapp is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter, author, speaker and advocate. Her impressive history includes selling over one million albums with her first three releases Kansas (debut 1998, Gold-certified), Lay It Down (2000), and The Way I Am (2001). She has earned four Dove Awards and two Grammy nominations. The Kansas-born musician has toured the globe with artists such as Jars of Clay and was featured on the Lilith Fa...

Dr. Lynda Spann shares her personal coming out story as well as her professional coming out story.  The two are connected.  The work she does at the Lesbian Couples Institute with her wife Lisa is very important and unique. You can find them here: https://lesbiancouplesinstitute.com

If you'd like to sign up for a Front Porch session with me Nancy Shadlock, you can do so here: https://www.centered.ca/workwithme

Nadja is a powerhouse of a coach and someone that I have personally learned so much from in the past year.  I love that in this episode she shares vulnerably about her own internalized homophobia even though she's been married to a woman for years.  She teaches us some tools to work through this and inspires us to live whole lives.

If you would like to take Nadja's Money mindset course from her institute Conscious U, the next c...

I share my synopsis of Annie Duke's book Quit.

She shares so many helpful ideas of how to know when it's time to quit and how to do it well.  It really stretched my opinion of quitting from a judgement of being a bad thing, to it being a really good thing.

I hope it stretches you to think about times you maybe should have quit sooner in the past, or gives you courage and tools for quitting something that's not working for y...