Becoming Me

EPISODE 1

In this introductory episode, I share some background about myself and why I am doing this podcast. Becoming Me emerged first and foremost from my own ongoing journey of becoming more and more my True Self.

Listen to how I struggled to have any sense of identity apart from the mirrored perspective of other people's affirmation or criticism of me, and how I realised I needed a fresh start to get to...

EPISODE 2

Today’s episode continues from the first episode to introduce Becoming Me. Previously, I had shared a little about my own backstory and why I am doing this podcast. In this episode, I’m going to talk a bit about what Becoming Me is and who it is meant for, as well as how you can make the most out of it for your own journey.

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EPISODE 3

In this episode I talk about the challenge of accepting and valuing ourselves as we are. I propose that the way to becoming the best and fullest version of ourselves cannot be found by running away from who we are or by trying to remake ourselves in somebody else’s image. Instead, the path we need to take is to embark on the quest to understand and learn how to thrive with the unique gift that we have been given...

EPISODE 4

Do you ever feel like you are pulled in a million different directions, often running like hamsters on a wheel just trying to keep going without falling? Do you often find yourself feeling stressed and tired and emotionally drained? Or do you experience your life as an integrated, harmonious whole? In this episode and the next, I share with you a fundamental principle of growing in authenticity and wholeness - a...

EPISODE 5

Do you find yourself easily triggered by the events in your life and feeling overwhelmed by the noise of the world? 

In last week's episode, I explained with the help of an analogy using the avocado fruit, the three layers of living life. 

In today's episode, I'm going to take a closer look at these three layers of living, how they affect one another and what the implications a...

EPISODE 6
 
To live from the inside-out requires us to first understand how to listen to our own lives speak to us. Most of us allow many voices to guide the direction that our lives take except our own inner voice. 

In this episode, I share my own story of how I became awakened to the fact that I was not listening to my life speak to me, and the transformation that happened when I began to learn how to listen. In the Praxi...

EPISODE 7
 
Fear can be a powerful prison that keeps us from taking the steps we need to know our True Self and to make the changes we need to heal and flourish. But it is not unbreakable. And part of what helps us to break out of the prison of fear is this trio of virtues - Curiosity, Courage and Compassion.

In this episode, I share about my first significant breakthrough from the fear of self-knowledge and how ...

EPISODE 8

It doesn't matter how much we understand conceptually about living authentically. If we do not make space in our overcrowded and busy lives to connect with ourselves and work on our interior journey, there will be no transformation in our life.

In this episode, I talk about why it is paramount that we learn how to make space in our lives. I also share about how an awakening to inauthenticity led m...

EPISODE 9
 
Making the interior journey and living from the inside-out requires us to learn a new way of being and acting. The process of learning to live from the inside-out consist of deep soul work that cannot be done while we are living at the typical “warp speed” of our modern lives.

In this episode I explain how “slow is fast, and fast is slow” when it comes to living the interior life and offer some practical suggest...

EPISODE 10
 
Many of us encounter people in our lives who cannot understand the new direction we are taking in our lives to know our True Selves. The experience of being alone on this journey can often make us doubt if we are on the right track.

In this episode I look at one of the most common reasons beginners on the interior journey get discouraged and offer an explanation of why this struggle exists as well as ...

EPISODE 11 (BONUS)

Christmas is just around the corner, everyone seems to be merry - but are they really? Are YOU? What if you don't feel like celebrating this Christmas? Does it mean you are being a Scrooge, a Humbug?

As someone who still feels contradictory emotions every time Christmas season rolls around, I made this special episode for everyone who needs to acknowledge that they are less than happy dur...

EPISODE 12
 
Have you ever felt like you were regressing in your journey? It is a common experience among many who have started to take their interior life in earnest to feel discouraged when it seems they have stopped moving forwards and started back-sliding. 

In this episode I share why regressing is normal for pilgrims of the interior journey, why the usual "goal-setting" mindset doesn't really ap...

EPISODE 13
 
Have you ever felt that you had to be _________ enough (fill in the blank) in order to be loveable? In this episode I share my experience of chasing an 'ideal self' that I could never quite catch up with. The closer I seemed to come to my ideal self, the more fearful I became of failure because I believed I would be loved only if I was "good enough."

I talk about why even noble idea...

EPISODE 14
 
Do you find that you have a hard time differentiating your own emotions and needs from that of your family or significant others? Do you feel that you are responsible for making sure that other people are happy and end up living a life that others want you to live instead of living the life that makes YOU more fully alive?

In this episode I talk about how I realised that a lack of healthy boundaries was an obsta...

EPISODE 15
 
Do you sometimes feel like a fraud, and that you're not as ____________ (fill in the blank) as other people think you are? Do you sometimes feel even more fake when others praise you and look up to you?

In this episode I talk about how feeling like an impostor and being unable to feel joy at our achievements could be an indication that our lives are out of alignment with our inner selves.

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EPISODE 16

When was the last time you went away to a quiet place to spend some extended quality time with your inner self? No interior life pilgrim will be able to make headway in this journey without entering seasons of hiddenness from time to time.

In this episode I share why seasons of hiddenness from the distractions and pressures of our lives are invaluable for going within and connecting with the core of ou...

EPISODE 17
How do you feel when you hit up against your limits? Most of us have been taught that limits are meant to be surpassed and that growth comes when we push past our present limits. But what if some limits are meant to be embraced? What if some of our limits are important signs we need to understand in order to become our True Selves?

In this episode, my guest (my husband Henry) and I discuss how our personal ...

EPISODE 18 (BONUS)

Are you overwhelmed by the sheer number of things that you feel you need to care about? In this bonus episode, I remind you why it is that you don't need to care about everything that is good or worth caring about.

An essential part of the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is knowing yourself well and where and how you - with your limitations - are uniquely created to make an impact i...

EPISODE 19 

How can we tell the difference between true limits which are meant to be honoured and false limits which could be an invitation to transcend the limiting beliefs that we inherited from our life script?

In this follow-up conversation about limits (Episode 17), my husband Henry shares his experiences with both true and false limits in the context of leadership. We also talk about how to differentiate be...