Somebody You Love

In this episode, Jenna shares some of her worst experiences dealing with mainstream media, and we chat about discretion in our Question of the Week and Shit People Say. If you stick around until the end, you’ll be soothed by crooning tunes by our fearless hosts.

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Welcome to season 5! Today we're talking about "accidental activists" and "sex work influencers". What is the cost of speaking about the industry under your work persona? We also answer a question about transitioning from a client/provider relationship to a friendship, and Holly delivers a "won't someone think of the men???" style Shit People Say. 

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It’s a big fat Holly & Jenna recap episode! What did we get up to this year? What games, movies, and tv shows did we love? What new sexual experiences did we encounter? And what is coming up for us in 2025??

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NSWP (Global Network of Sex Work Projects): https://www.nswp.org/members

APNSW (Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers): https://apnswnew.wordpress.com/membership/members/

Sources: 

https://soundcloud.com/socialismconf/behind-the-rescue-sex-work-migration-and-the-anti-trafficking-industry

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CfYvmGIzRE

https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/the-white-savior-industrial-complex/254843/

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Well, the time has come. We are finally doing a deep dive on the Nordic Model! End Demand, Swedish Model, Equality Model... whatever you want to call it, it sucks. 

Sources: 

• Sex in the New Europe: The Criminalization of Clients and Swedish Fear of Penetration, Kulick, 2003
• Twenty Years of Failing Sex Workers: A community report on the impact of the 1999 Swedish Sex Purchase Act, Fuckforbundet, 2019 
• Sex Work and the Nordic Model (...

The film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas was released in 1982, based on the 1978 musical, based loosely on a true story. The movie stars Dolly Parton and Burt Reynolds and this week Holly and Jenna are sharing their thoughts on it! 

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Combining 15 years as a professional undresser, award-winning stripper, pole dancer, & 🌽 star with an international research portfolio spanning SWer activism, LGBTQ+ health, sexual rights and sextech, it’s Zahra Stardust!

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Pomma Granet, also known as Blair Bishop, also known as OnlyPomma, Juicy Pomma, Succubus Slut, and a host of other usernames given how many times they’ve had accounts deleted, is a New York-based full service sex worker, adult content creator, BDSM & fetish provider, cammer, and much more. 

Blair describes themselves as a bit of a nerd - they love video games, cosplay, anime, crafting, and alternative fashion and they are often ...

CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault

Welcome to part 2, and apologies for the darkness of these episodes! This time Holly & Jenna each share another story of stalking/harassment, as well as talk about the red flags they’ve learnt to watch out for, parasocial relationships, hitting on people at work, and female perpetrators. 

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CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault, animal death. We use the term “grandfathered” in this episode. We understand this term has very racist origins, and we apologise for the mistake. A better term would have been “legacy rates”

While we are not more likely to be victims of violence because we sell sex, we are more likely to be victims of violence because people think the fact that we sell sex makes us less than human. Which is ...

Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are!

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For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/
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Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver! 

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Dr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women...

How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?”

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In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job. 

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In part two of this series, we are moving more into the logistics of the job itself. Holly and Jenna talk about advertising & advertising platforms, dealing with time wasters, screening, getting deposits, and supplying invoices. 

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Michael (he/him), and Louise (she/her) both lost their “virginity” to sex workers and they’ve both agreed to share their stories on the show! *Virginity is a social construct, but we talk about that more in the episode. 

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Yep, this week we are mining reddit for content. We read out the SW-related stories of contributors to /r/AITA and decide if we think:

• NTA (not the arsehole)
• YTA (you are the arsehole)
• NAH (no arseholes here)
• ESH (everyone sucks here) 

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Get your jazz hands ready, we’re doing musicals! 

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Songlist: 

1. I Dreamed a Dream (Les Miserables, 1980) 

2. Lovely Ladies (Les Miserables, 1980)

3. The Movie in my Mind (Miss Saigon, 1989)

4. The Transaction (Miss Saigon, 1989)

5. No One Knows Who I Am (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990)

6. Bring on the Men (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990)

7. Someone Like Yo...

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Mandatory article: https://www.mandatory.com/culture/1066689-the-10-best-songs-about-prostitutes

Song list: 
1. Call Me (Blondie, 1980)
2. What Would You Do (City High, 1999)
3. Sweetest Girl (Wyclef Jean, 2007)
4. Slut Money  (ZAND, 2020) 
5. The A Team (Ed Sheeran, 2011)
6. None of Your Business (Salt-N-Pepa, 1993)...