Pillow Talks
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
Episodes
June 4, 2026 • 56 mins
When was the last time you and your partner did something purely for fun? Not productive, not logistical, not about the kids, just fun.
If you had to think about it for a beat, you're not alone. Most long-term couples slowly drift from enjoying each other to managing life together, and fun is usually the first thing to quietly disappear.
In this episode, we're talking about why couples lose the fun, why it matters way more th...
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May 28, 2026 • 67 mins
Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking totally different languages when it comes to sex? One of you wants spontaneity, the other needs to feel emotionally close first. One of you craves novelty, the other finds comfort in what already works.
Here's the thing: it's probably not about compatibility. It's about your sex personality types.
In this episode, we walk you through all five types, what drives each one, the superp...
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May 21, 2026 • 58 mins
The response to our first episode on penis performance problems was so big that we knew we had to come back for round two.
In this episode, we're getting into the practical stuff: what to do in the moment when things aren't going as planned, how to keep your sex life feeling connected and fun even when performance issues are in the mix, and how both partners can show up for each other without making everything weird.
💛 In th...
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May 14, 2026 • 65 mins
For a lot of women, orgasm feels like this mysterious thing that either happens or it doesn't. Nobody taught you how. And somewhere along the way, you picked up the idea that your pleasure is complicated, too demanding, or just... less important.
But here's what we want you to hear: that's NOT true.
In this episode, we reframe the whole conversation, asking what it would look like if women approached their own pleasure with t...
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This one's for the sleep-deprived, the time-starved, the diaper-changing, homework-helping parents who still want to feel like a couple.
We see you. And we asked our community to help us show up for you in a big way.
In this episode, we're reading real responses from real parents — practical, doable ideas and a little tough love for making intimacy a priority again, even with kids in the house.
💛 In this episode, you'll h...
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April 30, 2026 • 64 mins
Whether it's a glass of wine to take the edge off or a gummy to get out of your head, a lot of people use substances to feel more relaxed, more connected, or more in the mood.
But there's a lot more happening under the surface than most people realize.
In this episode, we're pulling back the sheets on how alcohol and marijuana actually affect desire, arousal, communication, and orgasm — including some real talk from our own exper...
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April 24, 2026 • 63 mins
One of our favorite series is back.
You sent us your wildest, messiest, most "wait… am I the problem here?" relationship stories. And we have opinions.
We're talking about a wife who's been sharing intimate details about her husband with her entire family for years (but only good things, so it's fine… right?). A partner who was a little too honest about his wife's body (brutal). Neighbors banging on the ceiling mid-sex. And a...
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April 16, 2026 • 61 mins
Let's talk about doggy style.
It's one of the most popular positions out there. It can feel intense, wild, and incredibly hot.
But it also comes with a lot of questions. Is it supposed to slip out that much? Why does it feel too deep? What if you queef? What about the… view?
Yeah. We're going there.
In this episode, we're covering everything you need to know about doggy style. How to get into position, how to move, how ...
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April 9, 2026 • 43 mins
Only 36% of our audience says they've tried mutual masturbation.
Which means most of you are missing out on one of the most erotic, intimate, and surprisingly easy things you can do with your partner.
It sounds intimidating. Maybe even a little awkward. But here's the thing: it doesn't have to be.
In this episode, we're breaking down what mutual masturbation actually is, why it's so hot, and exactly how to try it for the first t...
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April 2, 2026 • 53 mins
We're back with another real-life couples coaching session.
Have you ever gotten to a point where sex doesn't just feel uninteresting… it feels like something you actively resent?
Where you love your partner but the thought of being touched makes you want to crawl out of your skin?
That's what's going on here. And there is so much underneath it.
We're talking about what happens when orgasm has always been a struggle, when postp...
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March 26, 2026 • 67 mins
We do weekly “ask us anything” boxes over on Instagram… and let’s just say… you all really show up with the questions 😏
Today, we’re bringing your q’s to the podcast and diving into them for real.
We’re talking about everything from sex pillows to dry spells, morning sex mismatches, body confidence, toys, and what to do when your partner just isn’t that into the resources you know could be helpful.
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March 19, 2026 • 52 mins
Most parents dread “the talk.”
How much are you supposed to say? When do you start? What if you say the wrong thing?
If you’ve ever felt awkward, unprepared, or secretly hoped your kid would just… figure it out somewhere else — you’re not alone.
But here’s the truth: talking to your kids about sex doesn’t make them reckless. Research shows it does the opposite. It reduces risky behavior, increases safety, lowers shame, and...
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We’re talking about something that explains so much of the tension couples feel around sex and desire.
And no — it’s not about having a “high” or “low” libido.
Desire isn’t as simple as being “in the mood” or not. It’s shaped by how desire shows up for you — in your brain or your body — and when you want intimacy — before or after emotional connection.
When you combine those two dynamics, you get four distinct Desire Types. This...
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March 5, 2026 • 63 mins
Ever wish you could get a straight answer about what’s actually going on in his head? 🧠
We’re back with Part 4 of our “What Do Men Really Think About…?” series — and this time we’re diving into everything from Heated Rivalry and seeing gay sex on screen… to mental load, breadwinning, and why it takes them so long to poop.
💛 In this episode, you’ll hear:
How men feel about watching gay sex on screen (including the Heated ...
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February 26, 2026 • 48 mins
Not orgasming with your partner is way more common than most people realize.
And for a lot of women, it turns into one of three coping strategies.
Faking. Doing nothing. Or convincing yourself it’s “not a big deal.”
In today’s episode, we’re talking about why so many women struggle to orgasm in partnered sex — even in loving, committed relationships — and how those patterns quietly shape your confidence, desire, and connection o...
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February 19, 2026 • 55 mins
Life has been a lot lately.
So today, we’re digging into the archives and bringing back one of the most important episodes we’ve ever recorded: how to talk about sex.
Because communication is the thing that keeps connection alive. And these conversations don’t have to feel awkward, heavy, or like you’re about to start a fight.
When you know how to do it right, talking about sex can actually be fun, flirty, and bonding.
In this ...
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February 12, 2026 • 52 mins
We’ve been experimenting more in our own bedroom lately, and in today’s episode, we’re pulling back the covers on what we’ve discovered.
The things that surprised us. The moments that felt a little vulnerable. And the small shifts that brought a big boost of curiosity and connection.
Exploration doesn’t have to mean doing anything extreme or intimidating. If you love the idea of trying something new but feel stuck on how to a...
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February 5, 2026 • 62 mins
Lately, we’ve been hearing from so many of you in our DMs. People are telling us they feel guilty wanting pleasure. Ashamed for craving closeness.
Disconnected from their bodies and their partners because the world feels overwhelming, violent, and unstable.
Others have told us they know their relationship matters, but caring about their sex life feels hard when so much is happening globally.
Many of you feel less present, less m...
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January 29, 2026 • 62 mins
Testosterone is one of those topics that feels loaded.
It’s tangled up in masculinity, aging, sex drive, energy, mood… and a whole lot of misinformation. Because of that, many men quietly wonder if something is off — but feel embarrassed, unsure, or afraid to even ask the question.
So today, we’re having a very real conversation.
In this episode, Xander is sharing his personal testosterone journey — what made him start ask...
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January 22, 2026 • 49 mins
If the thought of scheduling sex makes you cringe a little… we get that a lot.
You might be thinking..
“Ugh. That’s so unromantic.” or… “NOT hot.” or… “If we have to schedule it, something must be wrong with our relationship.”
We’re here to today to give you our hot take on our favorite controversial relationship topic. And yes… we’re going to try to change your mind.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest myths about...
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