A Good Man Not Trusted

Hello. Morning Crew. So I've been in a relationship with my fiance for seven years now and I can't trust him. He's never done anything for me not to trust him. But looking at all the men in my family and knowing that they cheated I can't trust him because I feel there is no way he's faithful. I have the mindset that all men cheat.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Strawberry LETTA subject A good man not trusted, that is
the subject. Hello morning crew. So I've been in a
relationship with my fiance for seven years now and I
can't trust him. He's never done anything for me. Not
to trust him, but looking at all the men in
my family and knowing that they cheated, I can't trust

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him because I feel there is no way he's faithful.
I have the mindset that all men cheat. My grandfather, dad,
and uncles all cheated on their wives, and those idiots
are still with them after they've been caught time and
time again. I refuse to get hurt. I've never had
a problem with females calling his phone or anything. But

(00:41):
I can't trust him. He does everything for me and
the kids. Every day he comes home from work or school,
I'm asking him if he's talked to any girls and
asking him has he ever cheated on me? This is
every day he says he's never cheated and will put
it on his mother who is deceased and his kids
that he's never cheated. What am I to do? And
my about to run a good man away? Uh? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

(01:03):
you can very well run this man away with your
nagging every day. Uh. And if this has been going
on for seven years, I'm really surprised he's still there.
But he must be a good man. But this letter
is really really about you and your trust issues and
your fear issues. You said, this man has never done
anything for you to feel this way. You're comparing him
to all the men in your family who have cheated.

(01:24):
I kind of understand that because that's what you saw
growing up, and and based on that you made an
assessment about all men. But in relationships, you have to
judge your man individually by how he treats you. You
say he treats you well, he treats the kids well,
he's coming home every day. Uh. Seven years is a
really long time. Don't you want to get married? One day,
you're gonna have to trust someone. Okay, we're running out

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of time, but when we come back from the break,
we'll have more of today's Strawberry Letters subject a good
Man not trusted? All right, Steve, come on, let's get
to part two of your response to today's Strawberry Letter
sub A good Man Not Trusted. Hello, Morno crew. So
I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for seven
years now, and I can't trust him. He's never done

(02:09):
anything for me. Not to trust him, but looking at
all the men and my family and knowing that they cheated,
I can't trust him because I feel that there's no
way he's faithful. I have the mindset that all me
and cheat My grandfather, dad and dad and uncles have
all cheated on their wives, and those idiots are still

(02:29):
with them after they've been caught time and time again.
I refused to get hurt. I've never had a problem
with females calling his phone or anything. But I can't
trust him. He does everything for me and the kids.
Every day he comes home from work or school, I'm
asking him if he's talked to any girls and asking
him has he ever cheated on me? This is every day.

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He says he's never cheated, never will and he put
it on his mother who has deceased, and his kids
that he's never cheated. What am I to do? Am
I about to run a good man off? Yeah? Yeah,
matter the fact, you're you're lucky he's still that because
I'd have been going out your crazy ass life. What
you ain't gonna do? For seven years. I'm doing the
right thing, and you're checking me every day. I'm on

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the man side. This time. You need therapy. You need
gonna sit out somewhere, check yourself into a class with
a room full of multicultural people. You need doing with
about Chinese women, white women, yourrigreat women, pig me women.
You need to get in a group with all kinds
of women. So y'all can set your crazy ass in

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the group in a circle and look at each other
and say this mess to them crazy women over there.
You need therapy. Your man has never done anything, but
you are of the mindset that all me and cheat
and then just say and then these women didn't know
they cheated. Still staying with these idiodiots? You've been with

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you for seven years? Don't you think he cheat? Ain't
you still sitting your ass up to her? So now
who's stupid here? But you've been to run a good
man off. The man ain't done nothing. I am stunned
that he's still there. She's nagging him. Would abndon got
me somebody else? A matter of fact? Or what you

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ain't been through to me? Make me you think I'm cheating?
I show yeah, Please lady, you need to go get
yourself some help and quit doing this to this man.
I don't know, no man gonna take this for everything
right here? And then you say I refused to get hurt.
You're hurting now. That's the line that I underlined in

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my letter. And you're hurting him, the kids, everybody. You
can't trust me if you think, oh man, cheat what
you want want for you know you can go the
other way. You know that's an available chance. Don't get
you a woman hello. Since you don't like me and
all I cheat, go get you a wo man down. Hello,

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that's a different answers. And we're doing crazy stuff. Let's
just do crazy stuff. I don't know what to tell
you except you need therapy before you run this good
man off who ain't cheated on you. But please know,
if you keep going, it's going to have to happen.

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