February 27, 2023 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old woman and I just moved in with my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for one year and we have a great relationship, but of course there’s an issue, or I wouldn’t be writing you. Our love making is very good, but we are never alone when we are intimate. There’s always four extra eyes very close by, staring at us. It’s his dogs. He has a Doberman and a German Shepherd and these dogs are very spoiled and run the house. When my boyfriend and I get in the bed, they jump in too! Since I moved in, my boyfriend has forced them to sleep on the floor next to our bed, since I didn’t want them in our bed..............
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on your relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click Submit Strawberry Letter. It's just that easy.
It's just that simple. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one today. Okay, buck up, hold on tight, We got
(00:25):
it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter, subject
Doggie style Lifestyle. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty
seven year old woman and I just moved in with
my boyfriend. We've been dating for one year and we
have a great relationship. But of course there's an issue,
or I wouldn't be writing you. I love making is
(00:48):
very good, but we are never alone. When we're intimate,
there's always four extra eyes very close by, staring at us.
It's his dog. He has a Doberman and a German Shepherd,
and these dogs are very spoiled and run the house.
When my boyfriend and I get in the bed, they
(01:10):
jump into Since I moved in, my boyfriend has forced
them to sleep on the floor next to our bed.
Since I didn't want them in our bed. I have
asked them. I have asked him to put the dogs
beds in the guest room so they can sleep in
there at night. But he says I'm being inconsiderate and silly.
He says, they're dogs and they don't understand what we're
(01:30):
doing when we're intimate. But it creeps me out. They
always come right up to the bed and stare at
us the entire time. I have asked my boyfriend over
and over to close our bedroom door and keep them
out while we have sex, but he says they will
wind the entire time and spoil the mood. I think
(01:51):
this is very weird. I can't enjoy sex with these
two big dogs breathing on us. How can I get
them out of our bedroom? Or maybe I should go
and let the dog stay. I didn't sign up for
this doggie style life. Please help. Wow. Yeah, I agree
with you. This is weird. Okay, watching is watching. I
(02:12):
don't care if it is dogs watching. I don't care
unless you're into that sort of thing, and clearly you're not.
This is weird. I mean, I think your man should
definitely put his dogs in another room or give them
something to do while you guys are doing it. I
think that's only normal. I mean, I know people love
their dogs, and they're crazy about their dogs, and they
(02:32):
treat them like people and all of that. But this
right here is ridiculous. You're uncomfortable, you know, it makes
you feel creeped out and everything. I think he's being
disrespectful to you, putting the dogs above you. I think
he is, you know, because since you're officially moved in now,
(02:53):
you know, I know, it hasn't been that long. It's
only been about a month or so, you say. But
guess what, it's your house too, so you get to
say something about you know, how you want your house
to be run. You're the woman of the house. That
means you shouldn't be uncomfortable in your own home. You
shouldn't be uncomfortable in this relationship. It sounds like he's
disregarding your feelings. You don't want the dogs in there
(03:15):
during intimacy. He doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
Is this a deal breaker to you? If it is,
you're gonna have to keep it moving, Steve, Well, well,
well let me just say this right here. If we
really in here, tell us some damn don't. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
(03:38):
there were we talking about in the bedroom. No, now,
twenty seven year old lady, she'd have moved in with
a boyfriend. They've been dating for a year, they've got
a great relationship. But like she said in her letter,
you know, something gotta be wrong that I wouldn't be
writing y'all. I love making this very good, but we're
never alone. It's always extra eyes very close by. And
(04:03):
it's two damn dogs. Now, these ain't you wis and
you know, you know shit sues, and these ain't little
picking knees deesus German shepherds and Dobermans. Yeah, these two
damn big ass dogs now all up in the here.
(04:25):
You got these big dogs in your house and you
want them in the other room. Now you had your
you had your boyfriend kick them out the bed. I
didn't understand that they're getting up in the bed now
they ain't. Why we stay get in the floor, his sheets,
his best bread steak. Because she let me explain something.
You dogs smell like dogs. I don't kill who the
(04:47):
hell you bathe them every day? Dogs still smell like dogs.
Now as soon as you bathe them, they're okay. But
don't let the hands run outside and come back in.
They goes outside and gets a lot of dog on them,
and now they back in the house. So now you
(05:07):
want them in the other room. You ask him to
do that, He says, you're being inconsiderate. Wow, okay, Now,
how is your man and is he stupid? Don't you
think they're on the same age? Howld is your man
and is he stupid? To tell your woman you being inconsiderate? Now,
(05:30):
Shirley said it right, because you're the woman of the house.
You can't be uncomfortable in your own home ever. Ever.
A woman should never be uncomfortable in her home. Ever.
I got news for you. A man should never be
(05:50):
uncomfortable in their home ever. And your children deal with it.
But even a child wants to come home and be comfortable.
I don't care if it is just in their room.
Everybody wants a place where they can go and be comfortable.
(06:10):
But the dogs can't have to run at the house.
Shirley's absolutely right. You deserve to have comfort in your
home and you can get it. I'm just gonna tell
you what's gonna happen during end of this thing. If
we don't get the dogs out the room. I'm gonna
just t I'm fantation. Can I wake up the other
(06:33):
night with your Doberman licking your hand? Man? It freaks
you out? My damn, this shot him through that sitting
that Tom and Jay and a cat carton. All right,
we'll have part two if Steve's response coming up in
twenty three after the hour. Subject of the Strawberry letter
today doggie style lifestyle right after this. You're listening, all right?
(06:57):
Come on, let's recap today's letters. Twenty seven year old
to live with her man Tyler. The letter is what
your doggy style lifestyle? Wow, she got moved in with
her boyfriend, been there for a year. That the dogs
is getting on the nurse because when they intimate, they
ain't never in the ruin by theirselves day and they're
watching crying now she wants dogs to be put out.
(07:23):
He didn't told a girl he ain't putting them out
because she'd being inconsiderate and silly. That is what you think,
the dog think. The dog don't even know what's happening.
I promise you that big ass is wanting what is
all his moaning? What is all this driving? Why y'all naked,
you're fitting to heal someone. Next thing, you know, you're
(07:45):
gonna have a dog moving in close because dogs like
to snip. No, I'm just telling you facts about dogs.
That's their primary sense. It's not feel, it's smell and haste.
They're gonna eventually come sniffing around. Now I'm a little
edgy when the dog is sniffing me with my clothes on.
(08:09):
Now I'm somewhere ass naked. Well, I can't have it
that little cold ass nose touch me. You know the
nose be cold. Yeah, you're on your back and all
of a sudden you feel this little cold dot on
your ass. We really need this visual. Yeah, you need
this visual because we gotta get the dogs out this rule.
(08:30):
Now I'm trying to help this lady wrote this letter.
Now you think you're tripping right now, that's because they
ain't moved in to participate. But them dogs is fitting
to participate. Oh we played. They thank y'all in that playing.
They're gonna want in on that. That's gonna start with
the breathing. Then it's gonna go to sniffing. They're gonna
be smelling your breath either. Now he might be all
(08:52):
right with that, because you know how it probably had
a little cold nose on his ass before I'm telling
you he has. He'd been in that house with these dogs.
You ain't consider you silly? Why because he's so comfortable
with Yeah, he comfortable. They've been in the bed before
she moved in. He's slepperty two, big ass dog. DEM's
taking as my damn dog. Smell like a dog. He
(09:16):
got bad breath. Make go get away from me. There
are a lot of dog lovers, Steve Dog, you can
be a dog lover. This is my joke. My joker
is for people that ain't dog lovers. This is my joke.
Is not fun dog lovers. You might not. I don't
think that's fun at all. But how high it is
to me? She says, they're very spoiled and they run
the house. Hell, yeah, they spoiled, they run the house.
(09:38):
But now here, come on. See now, we didn't breathed
and we'n sniff I ain't got none to tell you
said it wasn't next now, okay, if we hadn't done
all the breathing and all the sniffing, tell me what
you have seen your dog do that makes you uncomfortable,
and every body is uncom aftable with it, even the
(10:01):
dog love. How many times you've been sitting up there
eating your plate and you look over there and he gnash,
it's going to town man, because I eat. Marjorie loves dog,
but damn bad. Sometimes we get in front of that
fireplace and ain't nobody looking, and Bad just started looking everywhere,
(10:24):
and now Marjorie don't want a damn dog no more?
Stop it Brown and Bad be looking up like what
dog stop? And I'm looking at him going, oh my god. Yeah,
if I could do that, you could do what if
I could do what my dog dog? God to myself? Man,
(10:51):
you know the moment I would have been the hat
you're so crazy, Steve, where you had I ain't coming
in today. What's happening. I'm busy I'm doing though, So
now I ain't saying nothing nasty. I'm not saying nothing cruel.
I'm allowing you to write your own joke on your
(11:12):
way to work. But we all know what our dogs
do that embarrass us. Yeah, well he gonna walk up
to you and really embarrass you. He said, wait a minute.
Oh oh everybody got the oh oh, everybody got theirs out. Now, Oh,
(11:33):
there's what we're doing. First, he's gonna start with Jess itself. Oh,
then what we're doing. Dogs are smart. You've got to
get these dogs out of your bed room because eventually
they're gonna want to make the want to participate. Is
this a deal breaker? I think it is. Now, here's
what I think you could do, young ladies. This is
(11:53):
I think you can solve the problem. You're going to
have to issue an ultimatum. Either you put the dogs
out of the bedroom and get comfortable and make them
get okay with being in the room. They're gonna learn
to stop the whining. They're gonna stop. And if you
don't get them used to it, then you're gonna hear
my wine and we're gonna see which one of these
you like better, the dogs wine than than my wine,
(12:15):
because my whining comes with consequences. I'm not making love
anymore in front of these damn dogs. I'm not doing
it now. I want to be with you, but I'm
not doing it anymore in front of these dogs. Period. Secondly,
if that don't work, here comes the other altimatum. Either
(12:36):
you put the dogs out, I'll go out. Let me
go back to where I was until the dogs can
sleep on their own, because all you want to say,
have privacy. You didn't ask the man to get rid
of the dogs. You just ask them to move the
dogs around. So those are the ultimatums. I can't do
(12:57):
this anymore with these dogs. I'm uncomfortable. Call me silly
if you won't to, but I'll tell you who're really
gonna look silly? You aren't there with them damn dogs,
and you're don't looking at each other. Now they can
lick theirselves. You can't. All right, guys, we gotta get
out of here. Email us or instagram us your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. It's Steve Harvey FM. You're listening
(13:18):
to this Day morning show
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on your relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click Submit Strawberry Letter. It's just that easy.
It's just that simple. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're gonna read this
one today. Okay, buck up, hold on tight, We got
(00:25):
it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter, subject
Doggie style Lifestyle. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty
seven year old woman and I just moved in with
my boyfriend. We've been dating for one year and we
have a great relationship. But of course there's an issue,
or I wouldn't be writing you. I love making is
(00:48):
very good, but we are never alone. When we're intimate,
there's always four extra eyes very close by, staring at us.
It's his dog. He has a Doberman and a German Shepherd,
and these dogs are very spoiled and run the house.
When my boyfriend and I get in the bed, they
(01:10):
jump into Since I moved in, my boyfriend has forced
them to sleep on the floor next to our bed.
Since I didn't want them in our bed. I have
asked them. I have asked him to put the dogs
beds in the guest room so they can sleep in
there at night. But he says I'm being inconsiderate and silly.
He says, they're dogs and they don't understand what we're
(01:30):
doing when we're intimate. But it creeps me out. They
always come right up to the bed and stare at
us the entire time. I have asked my boyfriend over
and over to close our bedroom door and keep them
out while we have sex, but he says they will
wind the entire time and spoil the mood. I think
(01:51):
this is very weird. I can't enjoy sex with these
two big dogs breathing on us. How can I get
them out of our bedroom? Or maybe I should go
and let the dog stay. I didn't sign up for
this doggie style life. Please help. Wow. Yeah, I agree
with you. This is weird. Okay, watching is watching. I
(02:12):
don't care if it is dogs watching. I don't care
unless you're into that sort of thing, and clearly you're not.
This is weird. I mean, I think your man should
definitely put his dogs in another room or give them
something to do while you guys are doing it. I
think that's only normal. I mean, I know people love
their dogs, and they're crazy about their dogs, and they
(02:32):
treat them like people and all of that. But this
right here is ridiculous. You're uncomfortable, you know, it makes
you feel creeped out and everything. I think he's being
disrespectful to you, putting the dogs above you. I think
he is, you know, because since you're officially moved in now,
(02:53):
you know, I know, it hasn't been that long. It's
only been about a month or so, you say. But
guess what, it's your house too, so you get to
say something about you know, how you want your house
to be run. You're the woman of the house. That
means you shouldn't be uncomfortable in your own home. You
shouldn't be uncomfortable in this relationship. It sounds like he's
disregarding your feelings. You don't want the dogs in there
(03:15):
during intimacy. He doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
Is this a deal breaker to you? If it is,
you're gonna have to keep it moving, Steve, Well, well,
well let me just say this right here. If we
really in here, tell us some damn don't. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
(03:38):
there were we talking about in the bedroom. No, now,
twenty seven year old lady, she'd have moved in with
a boyfriend. They've been dating for a year, they've got
a great relationship. But like she said in her letter,
you know, something gotta be wrong that I wouldn't be
writing y'all. I love making this very good, but we're
never alone. It's always extra eyes very close by. And
(04:03):
it's two damn dogs. Now, these ain't you wis and
you know, you know shit sues, and these ain't little
picking knees deesus German shepherds and Dobermans. Yeah, these two
damn big ass dogs now all up in the here.
(04:25):
You got these big dogs in your house and you
want them in the other room. Now you had your
you had your boyfriend kick them out the bed. I
didn't understand that they're getting up in the bed now
they ain't. Why we stay get in the floor, his sheets,
his best bread steak. Because she let me explain something.
You dogs smell like dogs. I don't kill who the
(04:47):
hell you bathe them every day? Dogs still smell like dogs.
Now as soon as you bathe them, they're okay. But
don't let the hands run outside and come back in.
They goes outside and gets a lot of dog on them,
and now they back in the house. So now you
(05:07):
want them in the other room. You ask him to
do that, He says, you're being inconsiderate. Wow, okay, Now,
how is your man and is he stupid? Don't you
think they're on the same age? Howld is your man
and is he stupid? To tell your woman you being inconsiderate? Now,
(05:30):
Shirley said it right, because you're the woman of the house.
You can't be uncomfortable in your own home ever. Ever.
A woman should never be uncomfortable in her home. Ever.
I got news for you. A man should never be
(05:50):
uncomfortable in their home ever. And your children deal with it.
But even a child wants to come home and be comfortable.
I don't care if it is just in their room.
Everybody wants a place where they can go and be comfortable.
(06:10):
But the dogs can't have to run at the house.
Shirley's absolutely right. You deserve to have comfort in your
home and you can get it. I'm just gonna tell
you what's gonna happen during end of this thing. If
we don't get the dogs out the room. I'm gonna
just t I'm fantation. Can I wake up the other
(06:33):
night with your Doberman licking your hand? Man? It freaks
you out? My damn, this shot him through that sitting
that Tom and Jay and a cat carton. All right,
we'll have part two if Steve's response coming up in
twenty three after the hour. Subject of the Strawberry letter
today doggie style lifestyle right after this. You're listening, all right?
(06:57):
Come on, let's recap today's letters. Twenty seven year old
to live with her man Tyler. The letter is what
your doggy style lifestyle? Wow, she got moved in with
her boyfriend, been there for a year. That the dogs
is getting on the nurse because when they intimate, they
ain't never in the ruin by theirselves day and they're
watching crying now she wants dogs to be put out.
(07:23):
He didn't told a girl he ain't putting them out
because she'd being inconsiderate and silly. That is what you think,
the dog think. The dog don't even know what's happening.
I promise you that big ass is wanting what is
all his moaning? What is all this driving? Why y'all naked,
you're fitting to heal someone. Next thing, you know, you're
(07:45):
gonna have a dog moving in close because dogs like
to snip. No, I'm just telling you facts about dogs.
That's their primary sense. It's not feel, it's smell and haste.
They're gonna eventually come sniffing around. Now I'm a little
edgy when the dog is sniffing me with my clothes on.
(08:09):
Now I'm somewhere ass naked. Well, I can't have it
that little cold ass nose touch me. You know the
nose be cold. Yeah, you're on your back and all
of a sudden you feel this little cold dot on
your ass. We really need this visual. Yeah, you need
this visual because we gotta get the dogs out this rule.
(08:30):
Now I'm trying to help this lady wrote this letter.
Now you think you're tripping right now, that's because they
ain't moved in to participate. But them dogs is fitting
to participate. Oh we played. They thank y'all in that playing.
They're gonna want in on that. That's gonna start with
the breathing. Then it's gonna go to sniffing. They're gonna
be smelling your breath either. Now he might be all
(08:52):
right with that, because you know how it probably had
a little cold nose on his ass before I'm telling
you he has. He'd been in that house with these dogs.
You ain't consider you silly? Why because he's so comfortable
with Yeah, he comfortable. They've been in the bed before
she moved in. He's slepperty two, big ass dog. DEM's
taking as my damn dog. Smell like a dog. He
(09:16):
got bad breath. Make go get away from me. There
are a lot of dog lovers, Steve Dog, you can
be a dog lover. This is my joke. My joker
is for people that ain't dog lovers. This is my joke.
Is not fun dog lovers. You might not. I don't
think that's fun at all. But how high it is
to me? She says, they're very spoiled and they run
the house. Hell, yeah, they spoiled, they run the house.
(09:38):
But now here, come on. See now, we didn't breathed
and we'n sniff I ain't got none to tell you
said it wasn't next now, okay, if we hadn't done
all the breathing and all the sniffing, tell me what
you have seen your dog do that makes you uncomfortable,
and every body is uncom aftable with it, even the
(10:01):
dog love. How many times you've been sitting up there
eating your plate and you look over there and he gnash,
it's going to town man, because I eat. Marjorie loves dog,
but damn bad. Sometimes we get in front of that
fireplace and ain't nobody looking, and Bad just started looking everywhere,
(10:24):
and now Marjorie don't want a damn dog no more?
Stop it Brown and Bad be looking up like what
dog stop? And I'm looking at him going, oh my god. Yeah,
if I could do that, you could do what if
I could do what my dog dog? God to myself? Man,
(10:51):
you know the moment I would have been the hat
you're so crazy, Steve, where you had I ain't coming
in today. What's happening. I'm busy I'm doing though, So
now I ain't saying nothing nasty. I'm not saying nothing cruel.
I'm allowing you to write your own joke on your
(11:12):
way to work. But we all know what our dogs
do that embarrass us. Yeah, well he gonna walk up
to you and really embarrass you. He said, wait a minute.
Oh oh everybody got the oh oh, everybody got theirs out. Now, Oh,
(11:33):
there's what we're doing. First, he's gonna start with Jess itself. Oh,
then what we're doing. Dogs are smart. You've got to
get these dogs out of your bed room because eventually
they're gonna want to make the want to participate. Is
this a deal breaker? I think it is. Now, here's
what I think you could do, young ladies. This is
(11:53):
I think you can solve the problem. You're going to
have to issue an ultimatum. Either you put the dogs
out of the bedroom and get comfortable and make them
get okay with being in the room. They're gonna learn
to stop the whining. They're gonna stop. And if you
don't get them used to it, then you're gonna hear
my wine and we're gonna see which one of these
you like better, the dogs wine than than my wine,
(12:15):
because my whining comes with consequences. I'm not making love
anymore in front of these damn dogs. I'm not doing
it now. I want to be with you, but I'm
not doing it anymore in front of these dogs. Period. Secondly,
if that don't work, here comes the other altimatum. Either
(12:36):
you put the dogs out, I'll go out. Let me
go back to where I was until the dogs can
sleep on their own, because all you want to say,
have privacy. You didn't ask the man to get rid
of the dogs. You just ask them to move the
dogs around. So those are the ultimatums. I can't do
(12:57):
this anymore with these dogs. I'm uncomfortable. Call me silly
if you won't to, but I'll tell you who're really
gonna look silly? You aren't there with them damn dogs,
and you're don't looking at each other. Now they can
lick theirselves. You can't. All right, guys, we gotta get
out of here. Email us or instagram us your thoughts
on today's Strawberry Letter. It's Steve Harvey FM. You're listening
(13:18):
to this Day morning show
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