September 1, 2023 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in my late thirties and I’m married to an older man. We dated for a short period of time and he moved in with me before we got married 4 months ago. My home is in a cozy, close-knit community and one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn’t wait to come give me some gossip on him. She said my husband was messing around with her aunt a few months before he met me and she thinks he’s been seeing her again since we got married..................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
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could be yours. You never know.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
All right, ladies, during this time for the Strawberry Little
My good friend ever.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you junior subject he came home with bedbugs. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm in my late thirties and I'm married
to an older man. We dated for a short period
of time and he moved in with me before we
got married four months ago. My husband is in mean.
My home is in a cozy, close knit community, and
(00:47):
one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn't wait
to come give me some gossip on him. She said,
my husband was messing around with her aunt a few
months before he met me, and she thinks he's been
seeing her again since we got married. She described her
aunt as a slut that sleeps around and keeps a
nasty house with cats and dogs all over the place.
(01:10):
She said her aunt tried to sleep with her daddy,
so nobody in the family deals with her anymore. I
couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman. He
says he knows of her, but that he's never slept
with her or been to her house. I was sure
to tell my neighbor that my husband never fooled around
with her aunt. My neighbor jokingly said, if my husband
ever comes home with fleas, lice or bedbugs, he is
(01:34):
definitely still messing with her aunt. I didn't pay her
any mind until three weeks later, when I was lying
in the bed and my cabs and feet started itching.
I threw back my sheet and saw tiny black dots
on the sheets, and it looks like all of them
were moving. I woke my husband up and accused him
(01:55):
of bringing bed bugs home. I checked his khakis and
they had a few bugs too. He said the bed
bugs could have come from anywhere. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Please advise, really you want advice from us, because you
(02:16):
already know the deal. Your husband is sleeping with the
nasty woman with the cats and dogs and all of that.
You're I mean, what now he's brought bed bugs home?
This is so disgusting. So let me ask you something.
Are you gonna just wait for him to bring something
even worse home while he's sleeping with her, like a
(02:39):
rash or an infection or a disease or something, And
he's lying about it, saying he knows of her, but
he never slept with her here. Right, So it looks
like your neighbor was correct about everything. I mean, she's
nosy and a gossip and all of that, but it
looks like she's got her fact straight because she's the
one who told you first hand about the bed bugs,
(03:01):
and three weeks later he brought them home. So I mean,
you know, you can believe what you want to think
in your head, or you can believe what's what was
right before you and on you bed bugs on your
Oh god, all right, So believe her, all right, that's all.
She's not lying about this bed bugs. Come on, just
(03:24):
thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yes, Steve, I'm a little toring on this left.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You don't believe it?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Not really, It's a lot going on, but it's so
many different conflicting statements in this letter.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You in your late thirties, You married to this old dude.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Now he moved in before y'all got married four months ago.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Your home is in a cozy, close knit community.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
And one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn't
work to give me some gospel on it.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
If she said, your.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Husband was messing around with her aunt a few months
before we met, and she thinks he's still seeing her
since we got married. How does she know this? She
clearly said that your husband was messing around with this
(04:16):
her aunt a few months before he met me, and
she thinks he's still seeing her again since we got married.
She thinks that why she described her aunt as a
slut that sleeps all over town, keep a nasty house,
(04:37):
catch dogs all over She said her aunt tried to
sleep with her daddy, so nobody in her family deals
with her aneymore. Okay, couldn't wait to ask my husband
about the woman. Here's where the letter took a turn.
He said, he knows of her, but he's never slept
with her or been.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
To her house.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
What's the chances of your husband knowing of this woman
who just happens to be a slug. Who your messy
neighbor says she recognizes your hook?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
What's the chance of that? I mean, don't it.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Don't make no sense in this whole world we live in,
it doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
So right, what shary?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Why do you say it doesn't make sense?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Though?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Explain that part? Why not?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I'm trying to figure out. Know what I'm saying is
what doesn't make sense is how.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
He says to you that he knows of this woman.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Right, he says he knows of her, but he's never
slept with her or been to her house. Of all
the women in the world, how does your husband even
know of this woman? See, your house is in a cozy,
close knit commun and one.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Of your neighbors recognized my husband.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Your husband don't live now, how did your husband just
out of everybody? And then when you accuse him of
this woman? Ask him, he says he knows of her.
Damn dog, you'd have been better off just saying I
don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Who you're talking.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, he lies.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Well, when you said you know you know of her,
that kind of opened the door.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Dog doubt Well, we ain't even got to that part.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah anyway, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Okay, we'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour, subject he came home with
bed bugs. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. Come on, Steve, let's
(06:57):
recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject he came home with bed bugs?
Well you'renot.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
This woman has a messy friend. They live in a
cozy knit neighborhood. Your man that you met, who's older
y'all before y'all got married four months ago you moved in.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
One of your neighbors.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Recognized him and said your husband was messing around with
her aunt a few months before he met you, and
she thinks he's been seeing her again since we got married.
Who is this woman? Man that just comes up you
damn and I think he's still seeing her. She said
(07:46):
her aunt tried to sleep with her daddy, so nobody
in her fan sills.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
With her anymore. That line right there.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
I couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman.
He says he knows of her, but he's was slept
with her, been to her house dog. Of all the
women in the world, how did you get accused? Of this,
and then you say I know of her. But that's
how stupid he is. He's gonna said, I have no
(08:16):
idea what you're talking about. I don't know the woman
like that. Where you getting me from? So then I
couldn't wait to tell my neighbor that my husband never
fooled around with her. My neighbor jokingly said, well, if
your husband never come home with fleas lights of bed bulls,
definitely still messing with her?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What is in her damn house?
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Who is famous for fleas lice and bed bugs? So
I ain't pay any mind until three weeks out. I'm
laying in bed, my calfs and feet started you. I
threw back my sheets and saw tiny black dots on
(08:57):
the sheet. Didn't look like all of them was moving. Well,
now them is fleas, Them is fleas bed bugs. I've
never seen one, but I heard they're a little bit different.
I checked his khakis and they had a few bugs too.
He said, the bed bugs bad bus could have come
(09:17):
from anywhere. That's a true statement. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Please about see now? We got a little problem because
your husband's stupid. I know I know of her, but
I ain't never been over her house. He's lying, bro,
How do.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
You know of a random woman that some random other
woman accused you be?
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Why didn't you just say I don't know this woman?
Because not? But now what they got to do with
what you're supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (09:58):
That's why you're mad though, I'm mad about the bed bugs.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
That's what you're supposed to say.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Standard a dumb ass man. I know.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
You're gonna turn yourself in with ignorant information. Do I
think it's him? Possibly it's them bugs in the pockets
because you got to take them pants off somewhere. If
you laid down at the foot of the bed, you
that already said they was down there by your uh
(10:41):
calves and and and and and ankles feet, so they
have the foot of the bed.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's what the khakas was laid.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Gosh, well, it's a bunch of them though.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
They're everywhere because she's itching. She just started itching. How
is she this damn house?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
The woman with the catch dogs, the light, the fleas,
the ticks.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
The big bugs. How is she living in this nasty house?
And who go over there? I was.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
I dated a girl one time, long time ago. They
had a nasty house. That date was so short. I
felt she had a baby too. I felt bad for
the baby. Where can he eat in him? Oh? God, no, man,
(11:40):
I went, damn fine cheek, nice looking lord her Mercy.
Why is all this? And I'm sitting on the couch
man after work one day? You know, I worked at
Ford Motor Company. You know I ain't married, So I'm
looking around this house going I got on work clothes
and I'm trying to get up. I ain't got no
(12:01):
where to sit with you. And you know how stuff
be happening. You just be looking around like is there
something over that movie?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
You can't ever be comfortable, You can't ever just she said, who.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I just don't be having time to clean this house up.
It's so big.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
This is the last house ain't And that's the one
thing I cannot then. A woman who's not clean, A
dude not being clean, okay, a woman not clean. That's
scary because I'm already not the neatest guy.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
And and nasty and like messy or junkie or two
entirely different things.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Yeah, I can't deal with a junkie woman either, because,
like I say, I'm not the neatest guy in the way.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, yeah, I can't. With the bed bugs. I'm done.
I'm out, all right, man.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Listen thanks Steve.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand. You're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And
if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter live on the air, just like we're
going to read this one right here, right now. It
could be yours. You never know.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
All right, ladies, during this time for the Strawberry Little
My good friend ever.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you junior subject he came home with bedbugs. Dear
Stephen Shirley. I'm in my late thirties and I'm married
to an older man. We dated for a short period
of time and he moved in with me before we
got married four months ago. My husband is in mean.
My home is in a cozy, close knit community, and
(00:47):
one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn't wait
to come give me some gossip on him. She said,
my husband was messing around with her aunt a few
months before he met me, and she thinks he's been
seeing her again since we got married. She described her
aunt as a slut that sleeps around and keeps a
nasty house with cats and dogs all over the place.
(01:10):
She said her aunt tried to sleep with her daddy,
so nobody in the family deals with her anymore. I
couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman. He
says he knows of her, but that he's never slept
with her or been to her house. I was sure
to tell my neighbor that my husband never fooled around
with her aunt. My neighbor jokingly said, if my husband
ever comes home with fleas, lice or bedbugs, he is
(01:34):
definitely still messing with her aunt. I didn't pay her
any mind until three weeks later, when I was lying
in the bed and my cabs and feet started itching.
I threw back my sheet and saw tiny black dots
on the sheets, and it looks like all of them
were moving. I woke my husband up and accused him
(01:55):
of bringing bed bugs home. I checked his khakis and
they had a few bugs too. He said the bed
bugs could have come from anywhere. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Please advise, really you want advice from us, because you
(02:16):
already know the deal. Your husband is sleeping with the
nasty woman with the cats and dogs and all of that.
You're I mean, what now he's brought bed bugs home?
This is so disgusting. So let me ask you something.
Are you gonna just wait for him to bring something
even worse home while he's sleeping with her, like a
(02:39):
rash or an infection or a disease or something, And
he's lying about it, saying he knows of her, but
he never slept with her here. Right, So it looks
like your neighbor was correct about everything. I mean, she's
nosy and a gossip and all of that, but it
looks like she's got her fact straight because she's the
one who told you first hand about the bed bugs,
(03:01):
and three weeks later he brought them home. So I mean,
you know, you can believe what you want to think
in your head, or you can believe what's what was
right before you and on you bed bugs on your
Oh god, all right, So believe her, all right, that's all.
She's not lying about this bed bugs. Come on, just
(03:24):
thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yes, Steve, I'm a little toring on this left.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You don't believe it?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Not really, It's a lot going on, but it's so
many different conflicting statements in this letter.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You in your late thirties, You married to this old dude.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Now he moved in before y'all got married four months ago.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Your home is in a cozy, close knit community.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
And one of my neighbors recognized my husband and couldn't
work to give me some gospel on it.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
If she said, your.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Husband was messing around with her aunt a few months
before we met, and she thinks he's still seeing her
since we got married. How does she know this? She
clearly said that your husband was messing around with this
(04:16):
her aunt a few months before he met me, and
she thinks he's still seeing her again since we got married.
She thinks that why she described her aunt as a
slut that sleeps all over town, keep a nasty house,
(04:37):
catch dogs all over She said her aunt tried to
sleep with her daddy, so nobody in her family deals
with her aneymore. Okay, couldn't wait to ask my husband
about the woman. Here's where the letter took a turn.
He said, he knows of her, but he's never slept
with her or been.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
To her house.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
What's the chances of your husband knowing of this woman
who just happens to be a slug. Who your messy
neighbor says she recognizes your hook?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
What's the chance of that? I mean, don't it.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Don't make no sense in this whole world we live in,
it doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
So right, what shary?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Why do you say it doesn't make sense?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Though?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Explain that part? Why not?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I'm trying to figure out. Know what I'm saying is
what doesn't make sense is how.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
He says to you that he knows of this woman.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Right, he says he knows of her, but he's never
slept with her or been to her house. Of all
the women in the world, how does your husband even
know of this woman? See, your house is in a cozy,
close knit commun and one.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Of your neighbors recognized my husband.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Your husband don't live now, how did your husband just
out of everybody? And then when you accuse him of
this woman? Ask him, he says he knows of her.
Damn dog, you'd have been better off just saying I
don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Who you're talking.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, he lies.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Well, when you said you know you know of her,
that kind of opened the door.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Dog doubt Well, we ain't even got to that part.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah anyway, all right, hold that thought, Steve. Okay, we'll
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour, subject he came home with
bed bugs. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. Come on, Steve, let's
(06:57):
recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject he came home with bed bugs?
Well you'renot.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
This woman has a messy friend. They live in a
cozy knit neighborhood. Your man that you met, who's older
y'all before y'all got married four months ago you moved in.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
One of your neighbors.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Recognized him and said your husband was messing around with
her aunt a few months before he met you, and
she thinks he's been seeing her again since we got married.
Who is this woman? Man that just comes up you
damn and I think he's still seeing her. She said
(07:46):
her aunt tried to sleep with her daddy, so nobody
in her fan sills.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
With her anymore. That line right there.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
I couldn't wait to ask my husband about the woman.
He says he knows of her, but he's was slept
with her, been to her house dog. Of all the
women in the world, how did you get accused? Of this,
and then you say I know of her. But that's
how stupid he is. He's gonna said, I have no
(08:16):
idea what you're talking about. I don't know the woman
like that. Where you getting me from? So then I
couldn't wait to tell my neighbor that my husband never
fooled around with her. My neighbor jokingly said, well, if
your husband never come home with fleas lights of bed bulls,
definitely still messing with her?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
What is in her damn house?
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Who is famous for fleas lice and bed bugs? So
I ain't pay any mind until three weeks out. I'm
laying in bed, my calfs and feet started you. I
threw back my sheets and saw tiny black dots on
(08:57):
the sheet. Didn't look like all of them was moving. Well,
now them is fleas, Them is fleas bed bugs. I've
never seen one, but I heard they're a little bit different.
I checked his khakis and they had a few bugs too.
He said, the bed bugs bad bus could have come
(09:17):
from anywhere. That's a true statement. We got rid of
the bugs, but should I get rid of my husband too?
Do you think my messy neighbor was right about this?
Speaker 2 (09:25):
Please about see now? We got a little problem because
your husband's stupid. I know I know of her, but
I ain't never been over her house. He's lying, bro,
How do.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
You know of a random woman that some random other
woman accused you be?
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Why didn't you just say I don't know this woman?
Because not? But now what they got to do with
what you're supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (09:58):
That's why you're mad though, I'm mad about the bed bugs.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
That's what you're supposed to say.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Standard a dumb ass man. I know.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
You're gonna turn yourself in with ignorant information. Do I
think it's him? Possibly it's them bugs in the pockets
because you got to take them pants off somewhere. If
you laid down at the foot of the bed, you
that already said they was down there by your uh
(10:41):
calves and and and and and ankles feet, so they
have the foot of the bed.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
That's what the khakas was laid.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Gosh, well, it's a bunch of them though.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
They're everywhere because she's itching. She just started itching. How
is she this damn house?
Speaker 3 (11:04):
The woman with the catch dogs, the light, the fleas,
the ticks.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
The big bugs. How is she living in this nasty house?
And who go over there? I was.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
I dated a girl one time, long time ago. They
had a nasty house. That date was so short. I
felt she had a baby too. I felt bad for
the baby. Where can he eat in him? Oh? God, no, man,
(11:40):
I went, damn fine cheek, nice looking lord her Mercy.
Why is all this? And I'm sitting on the couch
man after work one day? You know, I worked at
Ford Motor Company. You know I ain't married, So I'm
looking around this house going I got on work clothes
and I'm trying to get up. I ain't got no
(12:01):
where to sit with you. And you know how stuff
be happening. You just be looking around like is there
something over that movie?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
You can't ever be comfortable, You can't ever just she said, who.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I just don't be having time to clean this house up.
It's so big.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
This is the last house ain't And that's the one
thing I cannot then. A woman who's not clean, A
dude not being clean, okay, a woman not clean. That's
scary because I'm already not the neatest guy.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
And and nasty and like messy or junkie or two
entirely different things.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
Yeah, I can't deal with a junkie woman either, because,
like I say, I'm not the neatest guy in the way.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, yeah, I can't. With the bed bugs. I'm done.
I'm out, all right, man.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Listen thanks Steve.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey
FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand. You're listening to Harvey Morning Show.
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