He's Had A Busy Year And It's Only March

Dear Steve and Shirley, my fiancé and I have been together for 10 months and I just had a baby girl two months ago. My man’s phone is a constant source of arguments for us. He gets so many late-night calls and texts that I’ve started snooping. I never could see anything because he deletes all of his texts and that makes me think he has something to hide. One night recently, he got a text while he was in the shower and it said, “Can you talk?” I got his phone and responded, “No, but I can text. What’s up?” The woman texted that she’s been blowing his phone up for the past 2 days because it was an emergency...............

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you needed
vice on a relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more.
You can submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Shirley's out today, so
Steve Harvey will read the letter. Here we go. Buckle

(00:22):
up and hold on tight. We got it for you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Yeah, I don't want you
introducing me do what. I don't want that doing what
the intro? I don't rebuke. Here's the subject. Yeah, that's

(00:48):
just yeah, here we go. Here's a subject. Everybody. He's
had a busy year and it's only March. Did Stephen Shirley.
My fiance and I have been together for ten months
and I just had a baby girl two months ago.

(01:09):
My man's phone is a constant source of arguments for us.
He gets so many late night calls and texts that
I started snooping. I never could see anything because he
deletes all of his texts, and that makes me think
that he has something to hide. Well, one night recently,

(01:31):
he got a text while he was in the shower
and it said can you talk. I got to his
phone and responded, no, but I can text what's up.
The woman texts that she's been blowing his phone up

(01:51):
for the past two days because it was an emergency.
I asked, what emergency? Get to the nearest balcony and
jump off. I asked what emergency? Fuck? She texts back

(02:11):
that she had just had his son and the baby
looked just like him. She said a picture of the baby.
I couldn't believe my eyes. Oh my god, how long
it is your bath? I patiently waited until he got

(02:33):
out the shower and I let him know that he
had a newborn son. He didn't flinch. He told me
I was crazy and our daughter is his only child.
I had deleted to text, so he didn't know what
I was up to. He's so stupid. He fell asleep,

(03:00):
so I text a woman back, still pretending to be him,
and I asked her if she needed anything. She sent
a video or the two of them having sex, and
then she texts that some good loving from him was
all she needed. I got your stuff and moved out

(03:25):
of his house at to a m while he was
still sleep. My daughter and I are staying with my
dad and my man keeps begging me to come back
home and give him another chance. My dad told me
that I should be with the father of my child
no matter what. He told me that a man will

(03:45):
be a man and we can get past this. To me,
cheating is one thing, but this is too much for me.
Should I still marry this man? Please help? Yes? Go ahead,
let her go? All right? So you say your man's

(04:09):
phone is a constant source of an argument, late night calls,
test text messages. Your fiance. You just don't trust him.
You check his phone while he's in the shower. You
reply to the text message from another woman pretending to
be him, his side chick. She told him she misses
him and that he is the father of her son.

(04:30):
You ask your fiance about the situation. He denied it. Girl.
You know he's lying anyway. Then you said later after
his stupid behind fell asleep, that's your words, you call
them stupid. You texted the side check back, pretending to
be him and asking her if she needed anything. She
text back a video of them having sex. Now, after

(04:51):
all of that, I know you were hurt, you were
fed up, you were angry. You moved your daughter out
of the house at two am. He must really sleep hard.
You moved out at two am. But anyway, let me
just say this, A lot of women listening to this
right now are really proud of you on that og move,
moving out when he was sleep. I just got to

(05:11):
give you a high five on that. Anyway, you move
back in with your dad. You know, your dad says,
you know, advise you to forgive this man. Your man
wants his family back. So my advice to you, you ask,
should you forgive this man and marry him? No? I
say no, don't marry him because unless you don't mind,

(05:32):
now this is on you, unless you don't mind dealing
with the baby mama battles checking his cell phone all
the time. Who wants to marry a man you don't
even trust this man. You and baby mama too, y'all
gonna be fighting for a position with this man all
the time. Get your child support paperwork in order, and
it's up to you. You have to decide what your
level of tolerance is going to be. I'm not gonna

(05:54):
judge you either way, but you have to do what's
best for you and your child. My advice would be
not to marry this guy. I said it before. Too
much going on, girl, you ain't got time for this.
We got coronavirus. This is too much that that lily

(06:20):
got about thirty seconds. So let me say this right here.
I will reserve everything that I have to say when
I come back, but I'm gonna have advice for both
of you, for the young lady that wrote the letter primarily,
and then I'll have some advice for the dude and
some advice for the father. Oh, Steve, come back, all right,

(06:46):
you're taking us to school and we'll have part two
of Steve's response to twenty three after the hour you're
listening to show. Let's recap today Strawberry letters. Steve, what
you got? Well? Normally I started at the top of
the letter, but let me just start at the bottom
because I want to make sure I get this out.
This girl who went through this, all of this with

(07:08):
her man cheating on her having a baby. While they
had a baby, she goes to a father in the
middle of the night. Her dad told me that I
should be with the father of my child, no matter
what he told me. A man will be a man
if we can get past this. To me, cheating is
one thing, but this is too much for me. Should
I still marry this man. Please help No father, let

(07:29):
me just say this in all seriousness, No father should
train his daughter to accept abuse. No father, no father
should train your daughter to accept abuse of any kind
for any man. Our number one job as fathers and

(07:51):
dad's is to protect our daughters. That's our number one job.
To show them what a real man looked like. That's
our job. You don't stop doing that. I don't give
a damn how much you like the boy. So that's
what started. Now let's get back to the left. This
Stephen Shelley. Y'all been together ten months. Y'all had a

(08:12):
baby girl two months ago. Your man is a constout
soucial problems with y'all because of his phone. He gets
a lot of late night calls and text so you started, snooper,
you ain't never see nothing because he deletes all of
his text and it makes me think he got something
to have. One night he got a text while he
was in the shower and it said, can you talk
break number one? If you are a cheetah, why is

(08:36):
your phone separate from you at any giving time? Come on, say,
first of all, no, I'm just saying you can't be
a cheater. And be stupid, damn dumb in the shower

(08:57):
and left your phone and you're deleting texts you all
this you bought on yourself. You got everything coming to
you in this letter. So the text says, can you talk?
I got his phone and responded no, but I can
text what up? This is a straight gangster move, girl,
Uncle Steve applaud you. I take my hat off. That

(09:22):
is as gangster as you can get. No, I can't talk,
but I can text. What's up? Sound jet like it?
The woman texts that she'd been blowing his phone off
for two days because it's the emergency gangster move number two?
What emergency? She texts back and says she just had

(09:42):
his son and the baby looked just like him. She
sent a picture of her baby. I be damned nor sister.
I know you're her boy. I know you crushed. I
know you. You can't believe it. So you patiently waited
until he got out the shower. That's gangster too. Most
women would have ran through the shower dough and didn't.

(10:06):
Now we handbody down at the hospital. But it was
straight gangster that you waited, Like I said, most women
would have run straight through that damn shower glass damaged
your phone, got the phone where to see him? Card ruined.
But now you played a gangster. You waited till he
came out the shower, and then you calmly let him

(10:29):
know he had a newborn son. Here where he got gangster.
He didn't flinch. Hail this composure told you you was
crazy and your daughter's his only child. You went back
straight gangster on gangster, deleted all the texts so he
wouldn't know what you was up to. Oh girl, I

(10:51):
got to get to your baby. You doing the dog
one thing. Now he's so stupid. He felt all asleep again,
separated from his phone. This boy you ain't stabbed his
stupid ass and told him he fell on a toothpick. No, really,

(11:13):
he's so damn So I texted saying he's so superid.
So I texted woman back, still pretending to be him.
I asked if she needed anything. She sent a video
other two of them have his sex, and she texts
that some good loving from him was all she needed. Now,

(11:37):
how you maintain your poise at this point, I don't know,
But again I applaud you young sisters. You're a cold
girl right here so you did the other gangs to move.
You got up and you moved out of his house
at two of him while he was sleep. My daughter
and I are staying with my dad and my man
keeps begging me to come back home and give him

(11:59):
another chance. Now, let me talk to your sister, because
that's a lot to be asked forgiving for because you
already have to deal with the fact that forget that
he cheated, forget that he had a baby, forget that
his children are two months apart, and forget the fact
that you saw the video. That's that's a lot. That's

(12:23):
a lot. Should I take him back and marry this man?
You can't marry a man who has not number one,
done anything to show you that he has changed, done
anything to show you that he has any remorse, and
has done anything to do to rectify it. He's a nothing.

(12:44):
You can't marry a guy you're just jumping back into
the flames to get married and help you cope with
one girl. Don't do this. Yeah, my daddy was all,
but he was never that though. We're gonna talk about
last night's Democratic National debate right after this. You're listening

(13:07):
to the Dame Harvey Morning Show,