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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letters see that here that live on the air like
this from right here. We could do it every day.
(00:22):
It could be yours. You never know, You just never
never know. So let's buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Subject It's a player's ball every weekend. There's Stephen Shirley.
I'm fifty five years old and my husband is your age, Steve.
We met online and hit it off quickly because we
(00:42):
loved to Dan's cook and collect antiques. I lived in
Detroit and he lived in Florida when we met, and
after we talked on the phone for a couple of months,
he flew me to Florida for a visit. When I
got to was a little dusty house. My allergies wouldn't
allow me to stay there, so I had to get
a hotel room. His house is stuck in a time
warp and I'm still trying to fix it up. Now.
(01:04):
What shocked me the most about his place was the
very old furniture that he's had since his early thirties.
I'm into antiques, but he took it to a new level.
The same goes for his wardrobe. He's proud that he's
not gained much weight since he was twenty five, and
he can still wear his old suits. I'm talking old,
(01:25):
and she put old in all caps. He said. The
new clothes style don't fit him right, and they're not
good quality material like the old fabrics. He shocks me
with his belted suit jackets, leg pants and all the
turtlenecks he owned. We're compatible in other areas, so I
tried to overlook his style. At first, I thought I
(01:46):
could buy him new things after we got married, but
he's not going to let that happen. Every night that
we go out, he looks like he's going to a
player's ball, and I'm his daughter that tagged along with him.
People love taking pictures with him and often call him
old school. He seems to love the attention he gets
(02:07):
from the others, but from the others when we're out,
but I feel like the people are making fun of him,
and it's embarrassing. How do I get him to lose
his seventies don Cornelius vibe and switch up his wardrobe
a little bit? Or is it wrong to try and
change him now that we're married? Please help? Wow? How
do you answer this letter? Your husband is stuck, like
(02:30):
you say, he's stuck in the seventies at the Players
ball with Superfly and the Mac. It was obviously a
great time for him, and he has fond memories of
his heyday. The issue is life is about change and
moving on, moving forward to make new memories. That's what
life's all about. Can you change him? You ask? It
(02:51):
doesn't sound like it. You know, we can only change ourselves.
The problem with him is the attention that he gets.
He gets a lot of attention. He loves it. It's
hard to tear him away from all of that. He
should want to make you happy too, though, and he
should be open to your suggestions. If you want him
to try something new and different, try to nicely persuade
(03:12):
him to wear a new piece. And when he does,
you know you gotta do the old baby. You look
so good, you look sexy in that. You gotta fawn
all over him and make him feel good. Maybe you
can influence him that way. Otherwise you're gonna have to
take the good with the bad, you know, meaning, keep dancing,
keep you know, keep going out, you guys having fun,
keep antique shopping with him, and keep cooking together. Those
(03:34):
things are good. Those things are in place, and you're
happy with that. But his wardrobe sounds like it's gonna
be what it is, the blaired pants and the belted jackets.
I don't know. He's sixty six. Hard to change him, Tommy,
And you're not the rules, pretty baby. Come on, Cozie,
and you know how are gonna do this thing? Right now?
I'm gonna wear what I want to wear when we
(03:56):
go out, You understand me? All right, I'm gonna put
on my meant coat and my window pane pants, baby,
and that's how we're gonna do this thing. You understand now.
I want you to get over there to that bar, baby,
and bring me a whiskey sour. You understand what I mean.
I mean I'm saying because when daddy wants something, that's
what daddy wanting. Look at me, tell you someone. When
(04:17):
I get back in this house, I don't want to
hear nothing about this couch that I bought it money
gonna be warded in nineteen seventy one game because this
is the baddest thing that they was making at the time.
You understand me, right across from my high five stere Yo,
you did it. I mean that right this. These speakers
are from Jensen. You understand what I'm saying. And in
(04:37):
the bedroom, I got some ken woods in there that's
gonna be bouncing the baby. Okay. So Diget, when I
talk to you, I want you to make sure that
Daddy always got what Daddy need. Now you get in
there and you polish up my platform, my platform shoes,
and you make this look right for me. Okay. And
before we go out tomorrow night, I'm gonna need you
(04:59):
to straighten my hair and get Daddy the way daddy
want to look. You feel me, And that's what I'm
digging with right here. You get that straighten income and
put it on that stove. Yeah. I'm gonna sit in
the kitchen with you and we're gonna get this as
straight like daddy wanting you understand me. Okay. Now, I
don't want to I don't want to hear nothing about
no Louis batons and no Gucci's up in here, all right,
(05:19):
because I ain't happens doing it up in here, baby,
all right? So when you dig it, dig it when
I'm talking to you, you know the rules. You chose me.
Now we can settle this like we got some class,
or we can get into some gangster business. You understand that,
and I mean that. Now, bring me my belt to
my meat coat and let me tie it in a
(05:40):
knock because I'm feeling sexy. You feel me. They wanted
me to be sweet Daddy on good times, and I
tear that down because I already knew I's been too much.
I'd have been too much for the Evans family. You
feel me, baby, Yeah, all right? But because I am
the original sweet Daddy. Yeah. So all I can say
(06:01):
is what you gotta do is you gotta blend into
what sweet Daddy want baby, all right? What was sweet
Daddy asking for? That's what you do. But you don't
come up in here with no Calvin Klein, a little
bit town and up Gucci and definitely not none of
that that that that that are money stuff. Man. No,
We're sticking of what we've been wearing. Baby, silk shirt,
open up to the second button. With chains hanging in
(06:23):
the middle. You're gonna allow me the way I am. Baby,
let my passing on to my man, junior boy, and
he gonna handle it on the next break man, because
that's how we do it, all right, That's how players play.
You feel me? Yeah? All right, listen, we'll have part
two of the response to the Strawberry Letters. Got to
say coming up. Subject today is it's a player's ball
(06:47):
every weekend. We'll get into it right after this. Stick yourself,
Stick yourself. You're listening all right. Time now to recap
the Strawberry letter, the se is it's a player's ball
every weekend. A fifty five year old woman wrote in
about her husband, who is sixty six. She said, he's
(07:07):
Steve's age. They met online. They hit it off because
they I missed that the first time. I'm fifty five
and my husband is your age, Steve, So he's sixty six.
That's the first line, right, They met online. They hit
it off because they had so many things in common.
They both loved shopping for antiques, they both loved dancing,
(07:31):
and they both loved to cook. So she lived in Detroit,
he lived in Florida. She moved to Florida. When she
went down to his house, she couldn't believe it because
his house was stuck in the when he was in
his early thirties. The furniture was the same, she said.
She had to move out and get a hotel because
it was really, I mean literally dusty in there. He
(07:53):
wore the same clothes. His wardrobe was terrible, she said,
because he still dressed like he was thirty. He hadn't
gained much weight, so he could still wear all of
those old clothes. He said. The fabrics that they make
these days don't compare with the fabrics of back in
the day. He still wears He still wears belt and jackets.
(08:15):
He still wears bell bottoms or flared leg pants. And
you know, he walks proudly. When they go out into
the club, he gets a lot of attention. She's afraid
that the people are really making fun of him and
not you know, loving him like he thinks they are.
So what she wants to know is how does she
get him to lose his seventies don Cornelius vibe and
(08:37):
switch up his wardrobe a little bit. She wants to
know is it wrong to change him since they're married?
She needs help. She says she can't tell us how
many turtlenecks he owns because she doesn't know. She's never
seen so many turtlenecks. On again, I got eight turtles. Yeah,
all right, Junior, we need to hear from you now
(08:59):
what you got with that boy? I don't even know
what to tell you, because yeah, I didn't get here
till seventy eight. What the hello? I know? Yeah, I
can't even understand. I mean I remember seeing some of
this stuff. Now, you know what I mean? If he
ended these black lights, he just end the black lights.
I don't know, lava now, I mean, he gonna have
nuggets on every hand. I mean, this is whats gonna
(09:21):
be there, Cadillac. You're finna get in it. You're getting
out of it the same one seventy four? Come on,
what do you want us to do? He is him?
This is him. You should have asked what he looked like.
I got a picture before you went down the Florida.
You would have known this already. Yeah, you know what
I mean. Same, he probably told you to bring you
some of them what you call them for, darls? The
(09:42):
hats timing from Detroit to down down to see things
and bring me one of the hats back down here. Yes,
I'm old school. That's him. That's who he is. Old school.
That's his dress, that's his style. That's him. And they
may be making fun of but he saw player. He
wouldn't even care. Every day, this is what I bring him. Yeah, yeah,
(10:02):
what his name is? Tommy? Probably got what his name is,
tom Just give me a name, baby. That's him. Sick
and slim. That's sick slam all day long. Man, I
don't know what you want to do, Okay, Tommy. Everywhere
you go, what's your theme music? I know you got
theme music. Every time you take a staff it's theme
music playing in the back. That's him, him all day, baby,
(10:32):
that's him. They call him old school Junior. They called
old school O old school oh ge, that's him all day.
You're not changing that. He's not giving it up. You're
not getting him in twenty twenty three. He's not coming. No.
That's why I said, you know, be happy with the
things that you do have together. You have the shopping
for antiques, you have the cooking, you have the dance thing,
(10:54):
the wardrobe. You may have to let that go it is,
but look at the bright side, though, If you need stockings,
he got stocking socks. He got there. You see, y'all
can share some of this stuff. He got them pens
striped socks. Now, I'm telling you he got them. You
can wear them socks. All he is is this his
to his hard is in there. It's in there. It's
not coming out. It's not coming out, and he's not changing.
(11:16):
That's nothing she could do. This is your man, watch it,
suckerime turkey. That's him. Maybe if she called ain't margin,
ain't margin is the only one I've seen poor lists off.
He actually pulled uncor Steve out of them eighteen buttons shoots,
(11:39):
he actually poured them out of them. Transformed she transformed it.
I mean he un Steve had buttons on his drawers
back in there he I mean he had buttons airwere
airwere and ain't margin got him? What's all these buttons?
What's your buttoning up on this? Stop fun? You can't
get in no pockets? Lem got buttons? Stopped Quit doing this.
(12:03):
Why you gotta cup in your pants with a button
on it? What is you are? You're gonna uncover it later?
What is that fall? You're gonna uncomf it. Nobody got
no pull over T shirt with no buttons on why
you have all these buttons? Like? Yeah, let me tell
(12:25):
you about my hands, Baby, I got some when you
come in, I got some beads in the front room.
And when you come through there, and you're gonna come
through the beads, you understand me. And over here to
the right, there's a big wooden spoon and fog hanging
on the wall. It just lets you know that we're
gonna be eating up in here. You feel me. Come
on in the back, there's a lava lamp over there.
(12:47):
On Yeah, on that console, you understanding that. Now that
console got a it's a long console. There's a TV
in the bottom, but it don't work no more. You
feel me? All right? Old school? Post your comments on
Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook.
(13:09):
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on Demando coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, Junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if
you need advice on relationships, work, dating, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letters see that here that live on the air like
this from right here. We could do it every day.
(00:22):
It could be yours. You never know, You just never
never know. So let's buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Subject It's a player's ball every weekend. There's Stephen Shirley.
I'm fifty five years old and my husband is your age, Steve.
We met online and hit it off quickly because we
(00:42):
loved to Dan's cook and collect antiques. I lived in
Detroit and he lived in Florida when we met, and
after we talked on the phone for a couple of months,
he flew me to Florida for a visit. When I
got to was a little dusty house. My allergies wouldn't
allow me to stay there, so I had to get
a hotel room. His house is stuck in a time
warp and I'm still trying to fix it up. Now.
(01:04):
What shocked me the most about his place was the
very old furniture that he's had since his early thirties.
I'm into antiques, but he took it to a new level.
The same goes for his wardrobe. He's proud that he's
not gained much weight since he was twenty five, and
he can still wear his old suits. I'm talking old,
(01:25):
and she put old in all caps. He said. The
new clothes style don't fit him right, and they're not
good quality material like the old fabrics. He shocks me
with his belted suit jackets, leg pants and all the
turtlenecks he owned. We're compatible in other areas, so I
tried to overlook his style. At first, I thought I
(01:46):
could buy him new things after we got married, but
he's not going to let that happen. Every night that
we go out, he looks like he's going to a
player's ball, and I'm his daughter that tagged along with him.
People love taking pictures with him and often call him
old school. He seems to love the attention he gets
(02:07):
from the others, but from the others when we're out,
but I feel like the people are making fun of him,
and it's embarrassing. How do I get him to lose
his seventies don Cornelius vibe and switch up his wardrobe
a little bit? Or is it wrong to try and
change him now that we're married? Please help? Wow? How
do you answer this letter? Your husband is stuck, like
(02:30):
you say, he's stuck in the seventies at the Players
ball with Superfly and the Mac. It was obviously a
great time for him, and he has fond memories of
his heyday. The issue is life is about change and
moving on, moving forward to make new memories. That's what
life's all about. Can you change him? You ask? It
(02:51):
doesn't sound like it. You know, we can only change ourselves.
The problem with him is the attention that he gets.
He gets a lot of attention. He loves it. It's
hard to tear him away from all of that. He
should want to make you happy too, though, and he
should be open to your suggestions. If you want him
to try something new and different, try to nicely persuade
(03:12):
him to wear a new piece. And when he does,
you know you gotta do the old baby. You look
so good, you look sexy in that. You gotta fawn
all over him and make him feel good. Maybe you
can influence him that way. Otherwise you're gonna have to
take the good with the bad, you know, meaning, keep dancing,
keep you know, keep going out, you guys having fun,
keep antique shopping with him, and keep cooking together. Those
(03:34):
things are good. Those things are in place, and you're
happy with that. But his wardrobe sounds like it's gonna
be what it is, the blaired pants and the belted jackets.
I don't know. He's sixty six. Hard to change him, Tommy,
And you're not the rules, pretty baby. Come on, Cozie,
and you know how are gonna do this thing? Right now?
I'm gonna wear what I want to wear when we
(03:56):
go out, You understand me? All right, I'm gonna put
on my meant coat and my window pane pants, baby,
and that's how we're gonna do this thing. You understand now.
I want you to get over there to that bar, baby,
and bring me a whiskey sour. You understand what I mean.
I mean I'm saying because when daddy wants something, that's
what daddy wanting. Look at me, tell you someone. When
(04:17):
I get back in this house, I don't want to
hear nothing about this couch that I bought it money
gonna be warded in nineteen seventy one game because this
is the baddest thing that they was making at the time.
You understand me, right across from my high five stere Yo,
you did it. I mean that right this. These speakers
are from Jensen. You understand what I'm saying. And in
(04:37):
the bedroom, I got some ken woods in there that's
gonna be bouncing the baby. Okay. So Diget, when I
talk to you, I want you to make sure that
Daddy always got what Daddy need. Now you get in
there and you polish up my platform, my platform shoes,
and you make this look right for me. Okay. And
before we go out tomorrow night, I'm gonna need you
(04:59):
to straighten my hair and get Daddy the way daddy
want to look. You feel me, And that's what I'm
digging with right here. You get that straighten income and
put it on that stove. Yeah. I'm gonna sit in
the kitchen with you and we're gonna get this as
straight like daddy wanting you understand me. Okay. Now, I
don't want to I don't want to hear nothing about
no Louis batons and no Gucci's up in here, all right,
(05:19):
because I ain't happens doing it up in here, baby,
all right? So when you dig it, dig it when
I'm talking to you, you know the rules. You chose me.
Now we can settle this like we got some class,
or we can get into some gangster business. You understand that,
and I mean that. Now, bring me my belt to
my meat coat and let me tie it in a
(05:40):
knock because I'm feeling sexy. You feel me. They wanted
me to be sweet Daddy on good times, and I
tear that down because I already knew I's been too much.
I'd have been too much for the Evans family. You
feel me, baby, Yeah, all right? But because I am
the original sweet Daddy. Yeah. So all I can say
(06:01):
is what you gotta do is you gotta blend into
what sweet Daddy want baby, all right? What was sweet
Daddy asking for? That's what you do. But you don't
come up in here with no Calvin Klein, a little
bit town and up Gucci and definitely not none of
that that that that that are money stuff. Man. No,
We're sticking of what we've been wearing. Baby, silk shirt,
open up to the second button. With chains hanging in
(06:23):
the middle. You're gonna allow me the way I am. Baby,
let my passing on to my man, junior boy, and
he gonna handle it on the next break man, because
that's how we do it, all right, That's how players play.
You feel me? Yeah? All right, listen, we'll have part
two of the response to the Strawberry Letters. Got to
say coming up. Subject today is it's a player's ball
(06:47):
every weekend. We'll get into it right after this. Stick yourself,
Stick yourself. You're listening all right. Time now to recap
the Strawberry letter, the se is it's a player's ball
every weekend. A fifty five year old woman wrote in
about her husband, who is sixty six. She said, he's
(07:07):
Steve's age. They met online. They hit it off because
they I missed that the first time. I'm fifty five
and my husband is your age, Steve, So he's sixty six.
That's the first line, right, They met online. They hit
it off because they had so many things in common.
They both loved shopping for antiques, they both loved dancing,
(07:31):
and they both loved to cook. So she lived in Detroit,
he lived in Florida. She moved to Florida. When she
went down to his house, she couldn't believe it because
his house was stuck in the when he was in
his early thirties. The furniture was the same, she said.
She had to move out and get a hotel because
it was really, I mean literally dusty in there. He
(07:53):
wore the same clothes. His wardrobe was terrible, she said,
because he still dressed like he was thirty. He hadn't
gained much weight, so he could still wear all of
those old clothes. He said. The fabrics that they make
these days don't compare with the fabrics of back in
the day. He still wears He still wears belt and jackets.
(08:15):
He still wears bell bottoms or flared leg pants. And
you know, he walks proudly. When they go out into
the club, he gets a lot of attention. She's afraid
that the people are really making fun of him and
not you know, loving him like he thinks they are.
So what she wants to know is how does she
get him to lose his seventies don Cornelius vibe and
(08:37):
switch up his wardrobe a little bit. She wants to
know is it wrong to change him since they're married?
She needs help. She says she can't tell us how
many turtlenecks he owns because she doesn't know. She's never
seen so many turtlenecks. On again, I got eight turtles. Yeah,
all right, Junior, we need to hear from you now
(08:59):
what you got with that boy? I don't even know
what to tell you, because yeah, I didn't get here
till seventy eight. What the hello? I know? Yeah, I
can't even understand. I mean I remember seeing some of
this stuff. Now, you know what I mean? If he
ended these black lights, he just end the black lights.
I don't know, lava now, I mean, he gonna have
nuggets on every hand. I mean, this is whats gonna
(09:21):
be there, Cadillac. You're finna get in it. You're getting
out of it the same one seventy four? Come on,
what do you want us to do? He is him?
This is him. You should have asked what he looked like.
I got a picture before you went down the Florida.
You would have known this already. Yeah, you know what
I mean. Same, he probably told you to bring you
some of them what you call them for, darls? The
(09:42):
hats timing from Detroit to down down to see things
and bring me one of the hats back down here. Yes,
I'm old school. That's him. That's who he is. Old school.
That's his dress, that's his style. That's him. And they
may be making fun of but he saw player. He
wouldn't even care. Every day, this is what I bring him. Yeah, yeah,
(10:02):
what his name is? Tommy? Probably got what his name is,
tom Just give me a name, baby. That's him. Sick
and slim. That's sick slam all day long. Man, I
don't know what you want to do, Okay, Tommy. Everywhere
you go, what's your theme music? I know you got
theme music. Every time you take a staff it's theme
music playing in the back. That's him, him all day, baby,
(10:32):
that's him. They call him old school Junior. They called
old school O old school oh ge, that's him all day.
You're not changing that. He's not giving it up. You're
not getting him in twenty twenty three. He's not coming. No.
That's why I said, you know, be happy with the
things that you do have together. You have the shopping
for antiques, you have the cooking, you have the dance thing,
(10:54):
the wardrobe. You may have to let that go it is,
but look at the bright side, though, If you need stockings,
he got stocking socks. He got there. You see, y'all
can share some of this stuff. He got them pens
striped socks. Now, I'm telling you he got them. You
can wear them socks. All he is is this his
to his hard is in there. It's in there. It's
not coming out. It's not coming out, and he's not changing.
(11:16):
That's nothing she could do. This is your man, watch it,
suckerime turkey. That's him. Maybe if she called ain't margin,
ain't margin is the only one I've seen poor lists off.
He actually pulled uncor Steve out of them eighteen buttons shoots,
(11:39):
he actually poured them out of them. Transformed she transformed it.
I mean he un Steve had buttons on his drawers
back in there he I mean he had buttons airwere
airwere and ain't margin got him? What's all these buttons?
What's your buttoning up on this? Stop fun? You can't
get in no pockets? Lem got buttons? Stopped Quit doing this.
(12:03):
Why you gotta cup in your pants with a button
on it? What is you are? You're gonna uncover it later?
What is that fall? You're gonna uncomf it. Nobody got
no pull over T shirt with no buttons on why
you have all these buttons? Like? Yeah, let me tell
(12:25):
you about my hands, Baby, I got some when you
come in, I got some beads in the front room.
And when you come through there, and you're gonna come
through the beads, you understand me. And over here to
the right, there's a big wooden spoon and fog hanging
on the wall. It just lets you know that we're
gonna be eating up in here. You feel me. Come
on in the back, there's a lava lamp over there.
(12:47):
On Yeah, on that console, you understanding that. Now that
console got a it's a long console. There's a TV
in the bottom, but it don't work no more. You
feel me? All right? Old school? Post your comments on
Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook.
(13:09):
Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on Demando coming up
at forty six minutes after the hour, Junior with Sports Talk.
Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.
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