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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:17):
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Speaker 3 (00:20):
You never know. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
guide it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you nephew.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Subject my husband is becoming an old man too soon.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
Dear Stephen Shirley.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
My husband is fifty two, but he acts like he's
eighty years old.

Speaker 2 (00:35):
We used to have sex several times a.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
Week, and now he says stuff like he's just blessed
to have a woman that still puts up with him,
so he's not going to keep worrying me with love making.
I keep telling him that I want to be pursued
twenty four to seven. I'm only forty eight, and I
need him to pounce on me nightly and give me
the option to say I don't want to have sex.
We used to play tennis, and now he says stuff

(00:58):
like he doesn't want us ain't his ankle or break
any bones.

Speaker 2 (01:01):
At his age.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
Our daughter is a teenager and he worries whenever she
leaves the house. He has driven by a day party
where she was so he could check on her. If
I go to brunch, he wants to take me and
pick me up. I know the world is a lot
more scary now, but I'm able to handle myself, and
we have to trust our daughter to make wise decisions,
wise choices.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
When she's out.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
This man cleans out my refrigerator of all the expired
stuff the moment it expires. I wanted my favorite salad
dressing the other day, and he said it expired in July.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
So he threw it away. I wanted to wring his neck.

Speaker 1 (01:38):
He comes home from work and bundles up in his
blanket and asks me to hand him everything he needs.
I set up a TV trade by his recliner so
he has everything he needs within reach. I asked him
if he's depressed, and he says he's fine. He just
realized that he needs to slow down and spend more
time with me and our daughter. But me and our

(01:58):
daughter do not want all of that quality time with him.
We want to go shopping without him sitting down while
we go from store to store. The fact that he's
chosen to slow down so early is bothersome for us.
Can he be old by himself and let us enjoy life?
What am I going to do?

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Wow?

Speaker 1 (02:17):
Well, you have a problem, I mean with your husband
who's only fifty two years old. The thing about getting
older is that there's only one alternative to not getting older,
and we all know what that what that is, we
do so God willing, we'll all get old. But your
husband is taking this way too far, way too far.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Again. He's only fifty two years old. You got to
fight old age.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
You just can't give into it and let it take
you out like this. He said he wasn't depressed when
you asked him. But are you sure there's nothing medically
wrong with your husband? I think you should check into
that because you know it could be something.

Speaker 2 (02:55):
I do like the fact that he's throwing away.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Expired food, but all the other stuff, the no sex,
the snuggling, snuggling up in a blanket after work on
the sofa, not playing tennis anymore, it's all very strange
for a man of fifty two. The even stranger part
is that you and your daughter, you don't even seem
to care a lot about what's going on. You just
want to do you You guys don't want to be

(03:20):
around him anymore. I mean, this is your husband. You
do want to know if he needs help or something, right,
You got to check into this. You got to talk
to him. At this rate he's going, it's gonna only
get worse. It's only gonna get worse than what Steve.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
Ain't nothing wrong with his ass, say, no medical problem.
He done made a conscious I actually know a.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Dude just like this.

Speaker 4 (03:46):
Really, he has made a conscious decision to pack it
in it hopes of conserving energy. What he thinks will
then expect fan his life expecting. I know a dude
that did exactly like this. Yeah, man, I'm gonna shut

(04:08):
all this down. Man, I'm gonna stick around man. You know,
one of the things he said was he quit going
to the gym lifting heavy because at his age, he
don't like being sold no more. So if you sow,
that means you to toe your muscle, and now I
don't want to be doing that at this age. So
now he don't lift weights no more. I mean, he
done talked hisself out of everything that's good for him

(04:30):
now here your man doing the same thing he fifty two. Now,
y'all used to have sex several times a week. Now
he's stuff like he blessed to have a woman to
still put up with him. So he ain't gonna keep
wearing you over loved me?

Speaker 3 (04:44):
Now, what didn't happened a couple of times? Lady?

Speaker 4 (04:47):
When a man saying, I ain't gonna keep worrying you
about love making this he done ask you for it
a few times and.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
The answer being no.

Speaker 4 (04:55):
Now, I'm just gonna tell you, ladies, once you keep
telling the man that after a while, you know, men
don't do well re rejected in that area a lot
of times because it just disheartened because the no be
happening way molde in the yes. So what didn't happen?
Is you done shot him down a couple of times?
And I know you have because you said in your

(05:17):
letter you said, I keep telling him I want to
be pursued twenty four seven. I need him to pounce
on me nightly and give me the option to say
I don't want to have sex. Ladies, Why y'all think
that's cute? Can I tell y'all that ain't cute? You
want to be pursued twenty four seven. You want your

(05:38):
man to pounce on you nightly, so you can have
the option of saying yes or no. You do not
know what the no does to him? Uh oh, i'd
have touched on the subject. We've never hit on on
this radio show since we've been on it.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
We really haven't, Steve, And you.

Speaker 4 (05:57):
Know, Sureley, as I said that, I really we've never
touched on this Sunde we have it.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
I was what you're wanting.

Speaker 4 (06:05):
To be pursued, to feel needed and loved the attention,
and you want this nightly, But then you want the
option to say yes or no.

Speaker 3 (06:15):
We'll hold up now.

Speaker 4 (06:16):
See on the night where he really needs that, and
your answer is no.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
Now he got to roll over and look at the ceiling.
Uh oh, uh oh. See that ain't what I intended
for this letter to be. Uh nah.

Speaker 4 (06:30):
We may be on this subject. So what I'm gonna
do is I'm gonna come back, go through the letter,
give you my answer, and then we're gonna go back
to this subject.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
Right all right, twenty three minutes after the hour, we're
gonna recap this Strawberry letter Today.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
Get part two of.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
Steve's response, the subject is my husband is becoming an
old man too soon. We'll get back into it right
after this.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
You're listening hard Morning show.

Speaker 1 (06:56):
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject my husband is becoming an old man too soon.

Speaker 3 (07:04):
Now.

Speaker 4 (07:04):
The subject we're gonna cover in just a second about
this whole letter is she feels that he's becoming old.
And one of the big reasons is they used to
make love a couple times a week.

Speaker 3 (07:15):
Now he don't hardly pursue her.

Speaker 4 (07:17):
And she says she wants to be pursued twenty four
seven and then have the option of telling him.

Speaker 3 (07:24):
Yes or no, whether she won't say, have sex or not.

Speaker 4 (07:27):
And I don't know why women think that's cute, but
there's a lot of damage being done in relationships with
the no but your constant need to be pursued and
made to feel wanted and then but you have the
option to tell him whether you want him or not.

Speaker 3 (07:43):
That's been some damage and we'll talk about that later,
but we'll come back to that. Let me just quickly
go to this letter.

Speaker 4 (07:49):
He's becoming old right in front of your eyes, Like
you say, y'all used to play tennis. Now he says
stuff like he don't want to explain his ankle or
break any bones in his age. Now you didn't put
in the letter, but big boy And picked up a
little weight.

Speaker 3 (08:02):
Now, yeah, see that ain't what the hatter. Ain't that
in the letter.

Speaker 4 (08:06):
But when a man started telling you he don't want
a sprain ankle or break any bones right now, at wait,
at waight, ain't neverna wait.

Speaker 3 (08:15):
I'm telling you right now, big boy.

Speaker 4 (08:16):
And picked up a couple of pounds, and it's starting
to weigh on his ass a little bit. He know,
when he pull up in front of the house and
go up to the little eight steps in front of
the house, when you get up at the top, see
right there, that's weight. Now that's going on our teenage daughter.
Whenever he leave the house, he's driving by a day party.

(08:37):
Check on him. Well, fathers do that. I can't get mad?
Ain't about that? If I go to brunch, he want
to take me and pick me up because he know
the world is a lot scarier and I'm able to
handle myself. Well, that ain't the reason. Once again, I
keep telling you it's that weight. Big boy and picked
up weight. Now he's scared. He taking he taking your

(08:57):
ass to brunch. So you're gonna be up there floutsing
in the car by yourself, because see you kind of
kept yourself together, big boy gain and weight. Now he
want to drive you to the brunch and pick you up.
You see what I'm saying one more time. That's wait,
that's wait, big boy, fat ass sitting up in here,
you know, just trying to hold on what he got.

(09:18):
And then you say, you gotta trust your daughter to
make wise decision.

Speaker 3 (09:22):
I wish we could. I wish we could, but that
ain't hot.

Speaker 4 (09:27):
The decisions they always make, remember when you was young.
So he a little concerned. All right, let's just move
on with this help.

Speaker 3 (09:36):
Anyway.

Speaker 4 (09:37):
I wanted my favorite salad dressing another day, and he
goes through the refrigerator and he throws out all the
expired stuff the moment that expired. I wanted my favorite
salad dressing another day, and he said it expired in July,
so he threw it away.

Speaker 3 (09:52):
I wanted to.

Speaker 4 (09:52):
Ring his neck. Oh okay, I got you now, So
now he saved your life. Now you want to kill.

Speaker 2 (09:57):
Him right from expired?

Speaker 3 (10:00):
Are you crazy?

Speaker 4 (10:01):
Lady, do you know that they put preservatives in our
food over here? When they give you an expiration date,
they're telling you, even with the stuff we put in here,
don't drink this, don't eat this, don't swallow this. Guess
what your cheap ass want to do? Put your life
at risk, use you can save it on a six

(10:22):
dollars bottle of salad dressing, lady.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Please.

Speaker 4 (10:26):
He comes home for work and he bubbles up in
his blanket. He asks me to hand him everything he need.
That's weight. I told you, fat asked and got big.
Now once he sit down, he can't dig hisself out
of that couch. You'd have seen people sit in the
couch and can't get out because it just suckle me
in like a damn bean bag. I just set up
a TV tray by his recliner. See now you're treating

(10:48):
him mold. See once you get a TV tray? First
of all, who maybe, okay, let me not say that,
because I'm gonna sound a out of touch. Who the
hell is setting up TV? I ain't even know they
made them no more? But so I'm bad I might
be out of touch. So let me apologize to everybody
out there. To steal got TV trades out of people

(11:12):
because I did like TV trading, and now that you
brought it up, I didn't know they made him anymore.

Speaker 3 (11:17):
And I want one next to my chair. Getting my
damn off.

Speaker 4 (11:22):
Now that you brought up okay, I asked him if
he's depressed. He said he fine. He realized he needs
to slow down and spend more time with the daughter.
For me and my daughter, we want to do all that.
We don't want all this quality time, but we want
to go shopping without him while he sit down and we.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Go stow the store. The fact that he shows us slow.

Speaker 4 (11:38):
Down so early is bothersome to us. Can he be
all by himself and let us enjoy life?

Speaker 3 (11:43):
What am I going to do? Let's just tell the truth.

Speaker 4 (11:45):
You and your daughter don't like his ass.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
That's all it is, y'all.

Speaker 4 (11:51):
Don't even like his ass no more. It ain't nothing
I can do about it. Now, let's get back to
this part in the letter. The ladies who want to
be put food so you can feel wanted, and then
when you're you want to be pounced on nightly. And
then you have the option to decide whether you want

(12:11):
to have sex or not sex or not. Let me
ask you something, ladies, what do you think the man
feels when he wants to have it and he's told
no several times a week? What do you think that
does to his psyche? It's not very good and it
could be one of the nights where he really need

(12:32):
to be recharged so he can get back out here
in this world tomorrow. But you done totally know again
what you think happens.

Speaker 2 (12:39):
Well, he doesn't ask her anymore, that's for sure. No,
I wanted to. He don't want sex, oh, just with her.

Speaker 3 (12:48):
He don't want to get rejected. He don't want to reject.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
Yes, yes, all right, we have to move on to
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