March 30, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 57 year old married woman and I have been married for 25 years. It’s been an agonizing marriage because my husband has cheated on me several times with many different women. He got caught most of the time and I would act a fool and threaten the females, then he’d apologize and promise to stop cheating and I’d believe him...........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Just a quick reminder that today is National Doctor's Day, guys,
and having said that, we salute and recognize the contribution
of all our physicians and their dedication, especially during this
time right now. Thank you for your commitment to saving
lives in our community. We know it's hard on you,
your family, your staffs, everyone, but you're there every day
(00:22):
in the trenches. Thank you so much. We appreciate it.
And as we switch gears, time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
If you do need advice and relationships on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter just hap Just like that, we could
(00:48):
be reading your letter just like Buckle up, hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry
Letter subject. My mind is on the other side of town.
And you were right when you said it earlier. Jay,
that's an j song. Your body's here with me, but
your mind is on the other side of town. Here
we go, Steve. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a fifty
(01:09):
seven year old married woman and I've been married for
twenty five years. It's been an agonizing marriage because my
husband has cheated on me several times with many different women.
He got caught most of the time, and I would
act a fool and threaten the females, and then he'd
apologize and promised to stop cheating, and I'd believe him.
(01:30):
But the last time I found out he was cheating,
I found the woman at her job and beat the
brakes off her in the parking lot because she had
known me for years, and this betrayal hurt worse than
the others. After the fight, I told my husband that
it was that was it, and I was done with
his foolishness. He's terrified that I will leave him, so
(01:53):
if he's cheating now, he is being very discreet. We're
still married and living together, but mentally I have moved
on from him and I reconnect it with the true
love of my life. It's an old boyfriend of mine
that has been divorced for two years, and he has
nothing but time and lots of good loving just for me.
(02:13):
For the past year, we've been inseparable, but my husband
knows nothing about us. We were going on our first
vacation this spring, but now our plans are on hold,
and I haven't seen him and felt his touch in
two weeks because I'm quarantine with my sorry, cheating husband.
My boyfriend has been facetiming me every day and keeps
(02:35):
begging me to pack up my things and come to
his house. All right, I'm worried about what our friends
will think if I leave home during the quarantine. Am
I crazy for caring about his feelings? Should I pack
up and go be with my soul mate? My body
is here with my husband, but my mind is on
the other side of town with my boyfriend. How should
(02:58):
I handle this situation? And please advise? Well, I have
to tell you that I'm sure you're not alone during
this quarantine. A lot of people are feeling the same
way you are. Uh you know, they're they're stuck in
the house with someone, but their mind is with you know,
their other significant other, be that a boyfriend, a girlfriend,
(03:19):
someone they're cheating with, whatever. But that's the situation. You're
not alone. I also have to tell you that you know,
two wrongs don't make it right. You know this, Okay?
This started out as a revenge move on your part
that blossomed into this full blown affair with this boo
that you're calling your soulmate, the guy that you really love.
(03:41):
You've been married to your husband for twenty five years,
you've been for fifty something years. You've been taking his
crap for half your life because you're you're you're fifty
seven years old, and I got to ask you, why
why are you allowing him to treat you this way?
When you kept taking him back and you gave him
(04:03):
no reason whatsoever to stop cheating. I mean, that did
it right there. He had the best of both worlds.
He disrespected you, your marriage numerous time, and he still
thinks all he has to do is say something like baby,
I'm sorry, and here he is back in again. The
lesson for you to learn here is you got to
stand up for yourself. I mean, no man should be
(04:24):
should be allowed to treat you that way. What happens
if you get with this new guy, your boo, your
soul mate, and he starts cheating down the line. You
can't take it from him either. But you know you
don't have to worry about that right now, because we're
all quarantine and your boyfriend only asked you to pack
your bags and come be with him at his house.
(04:45):
I mean, if it's true love, you know, is he
gonna wait for you and all of that until after
the quarantine, after you get a divorce from your serial
cheater of a husband. Those are the things you need
to know before you actually make a move to get
with this guy, if that's what you want, since you're
so finished with your husband, you know, then you can
really walk into this new relationship and the baggage free.
(05:05):
So those are the things you have to think about
while you're quarantine with your cheating husband. Okay, Steve Well,
fifty seven year old married woman, been married twenty five years,
like Shirley said, half year old. Life been an agonizing marriage.
Your husband had cheated on you several times, many different women.
(05:28):
He got caught most of the time. You ain't caught
all of them because it's been many And then what
was your reaction though, You'd act a fool, and then
you threatened the female. Then he'd apologize, tell you we
aren't gonna do it no more. You believed him. But
then the last time I found out he was cheating,
(05:50):
I found a woman at his job and I beat
the brakes off of her in the parking lot because
she has known me for years, and this brutal betrayal
hurt worse than the others. Hold on, you didn't ran
the risk of going to jail. You went in the
parking a lot, jumped on a woman for cheating with
your heather. How you keep confronting all these women's that
(06:12):
ain't depth there, all these women that haven't taken a
vow to you. The only person in this in this
letter that took a vow to you is your husband.
The rest of these people don't know you. The rest
of these people what you're just jumping on women? Your
marriage sound like it's been a mess. So now when
I come back, I'm gonna answer the question for you.
(06:35):
Your question is how should I have this situation? Please
advise That's what I'm gonna do. All right, Steve, We'll
have part two of your response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's subject my mind is
on the other side of town. We'll get back into
it right after this you're listening show, Come on, Steve,
(06:56):
Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. My mind is on the
other side of town. My body's hill knew, but my
mind is all the other side of time. Joe boy
boy junior junior, shut up, hey man, listen to your
(07:20):
disrespectful You know sometimes junior and junior Junior junior after
the quarantine is overhim was slacking. I'm a slack fifty
seven year old married woman, been married twenty five years,
the worst marriage you could be in. Husband cheated on
a bunch of times. Different women. Always catch him in
(07:41):
the sheet after the food, called threatening all the females.
They need to apologize, promise to stop cheating. You believe it,
but then you find out he was cheating with this
woman at her job and went down there and jumped
on the woman, beat the brakes off of in the
parking lot because she has known you for years, and
this one hurt you more than others. So after the fight,
you told your husband that was it and I was
(08:02):
done with his foolishness. Here's where the letter gets stupid.
He's terrified that I will leave him. When did he
start getting scared of you? See you're trumping up stuff.
Now he's terrified that I will leave him. When has
this man ever been scared of you? You jumped on women,
(08:23):
you've called women, you threatened with him, and he keep
doing what he want to do this. Man ain't scared
of you. He's terrified that I will leave him. So
if he is cheating now, he's being very discreet. He is.
We still married and living together, but mentally I moved
on from him and I've reconnected with the true love
(08:45):
of my life. It's an old board friend of man.
He'd been divorced two years and he ain't got number
of time and lots of good loving just for me. Now.
For the past year, y'all been in supper, but your
husband knows nothing about us. Really, I think he do.
See if you've been inseparable for a year, that means
(09:07):
you've been off with this guy on a bunch of occasions.
You ain't been coming home as normal. Your husband ain't
said nothing to you about it, and he don't know.
That's because you didn't clear the close coad stuff for
him to do more cheating. That's all. This is when
a man ain't asking you where you're being, where you're
at this because he don't care. He might if you
(09:31):
are doing something. He don't care because it's giving him
more time to do something. Now, we were going on
our first vacation this spring. Women, excuse me, you and
the boyfriend was going on a vacation together, and I
guess he wasn't gonna know about that either. Okay, right,
But now our plans are on the whole and I
haven't seen him or felt his touch in two weeks
(09:51):
because I'm quarantined with my sorry, cheating hubs. My boyfriend
has been facetiming me every day and keeps begging me
to pack him things that come to his house. I'm
worried about what our friends would think if I leave
home doing the quarantine. What your friends would think? What
about the Center for Disease Control? You haven't thought about
(10:12):
what they might think? You have thought about just something
like that? Your friends? What do your friends have to
do about this? Do your friends know what's going on? Probably?
Am I crazy for caring about his feelings? Whose feelings?
You're talking about? Your husbands that they never cared about
your feelings? Should I pack up and go be with
(10:35):
my soul mate? Technically you should have been packed up.
I ain't saying with your soul mate, but it seemed
to me like you should have been out of here
twenty five years agonizing marriage. Why are you still that now?
Should you pack up? To go with your soul mate.
I don't know, but you should have been out of there.
And why is your quarantine keeping you at home? You
(10:57):
go somewhere and be by yourself. My body is here
with my husband. My body is here, but my mind
on the other side of time. You missing me around.
You're messing me around? Whoa one more time? Your bobe
(11:19):
is here with me. Stand to me, but your mind
is on the other side of time. Get you yeah,
you're messing me around. Get you up? Yeah yeah, but
your mind is all the other side of time. You're right,
(11:47):
don't you do it? That's what you're doing. Now? How
should I handle this situation? Please advibe? Why are you
staying with the man that you can't stand and improve?
He don't really care nothing about you, y'all. Ain't even
you ain't mentioning this letter. Y'all working on your marigin
though you just got a phone call from an old
boy friend and boom you gone. He ain't asking you
(12:10):
where you've been you, he don't even care where you're
being somebody you've been playing the spring vacation and he
ain't gonna ask you where you going in He don't care.
Two people that don't care about each other should not
be together. Why would you stay now? I ain't saying
(12:32):
doing this social distancing that you ought to break it
Aran teeny Gold, but then just act like you're going
to the stove and get oh my god, all right, Steve,
you can thank you for that. You can post your
comments on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey f M
on instagramental and check out the Strawberry Letters coming out
(12:59):
of the side. Junior is here with Sports News at
forty six minutes after the hours. Right after this, you're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
Just a quick reminder that today is National Doctor's Day, guys,
and having said that, we salute and recognize the contribution
of all our physicians and their dedication, especially during this
time right now. Thank you for your commitment to saving
lives in our community. We know it's hard on you,
your family, your staffs, everyone, but you're there every day
(00:22):
in the trenches. Thank you so much. We appreciate it.
And as we switch gears, time now for today's Strawberry Letter.
If you do need advice and relationships on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be
reading your letter just hap Just like that, we could
(00:48):
be reading your letter just like Buckle up, hold on tight.
We got it for you. Here it is the Strawberry
Letter subject. My mind is on the other side of town.
And you were right when you said it earlier. Jay,
that's an j song. Your body's here with me, but
your mind is on the other side of town. Here
we go, Steve. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a fifty
(01:09):
seven year old married woman and I've been married for
twenty five years. It's been an agonizing marriage because my
husband has cheated on me several times with many different women.
He got caught most of the time, and I would
act a fool and threaten the females, and then he'd
apologize and promised to stop cheating, and I'd believe him.
(01:30):
But the last time I found out he was cheating,
I found the woman at her job and beat the
brakes off her in the parking lot because she had
known me for years, and this betrayal hurt worse than
the others. After the fight, I told my husband that
it was that was it, and I was done with
his foolishness. He's terrified that I will leave him, so
(01:53):
if he's cheating now, he is being very discreet. We're
still married and living together, but mentally I have moved
on from him and I reconnect it with the true
love of my life. It's an old boyfriend of mine
that has been divorced for two years, and he has
nothing but time and lots of good loving just for me.
(02:13):
For the past year, we've been inseparable, but my husband
knows nothing about us. We were going on our first
vacation this spring, but now our plans are on hold,
and I haven't seen him and felt his touch in
two weeks because I'm quarantine with my sorry, cheating husband.
My boyfriend has been facetiming me every day and keeps
(02:35):
begging me to pack up my things and come to
his house. All right, I'm worried about what our friends
will think if I leave home during the quarantine. Am
I crazy for caring about his feelings? Should I pack
up and go be with my soul mate? My body
is here with my husband, but my mind is on
the other side of town with my boyfriend. How should
(02:58):
I handle this situation? And please advise? Well, I have
to tell you that I'm sure you're not alone during
this quarantine. A lot of people are feeling the same
way you are. Uh you know, they're they're stuck in
the house with someone, but their mind is with you know,
their other significant other, be that a boyfriend, a girlfriend,
(03:19):
someone they're cheating with, whatever. But that's the situation. You're
not alone. I also have to tell you that you know,
two wrongs don't make it right. You know this, Okay?
This started out as a revenge move on your part
that blossomed into this full blown affair with this boo
that you're calling your soulmate, the guy that you really love.
(03:41):
You've been married to your husband for twenty five years,
you've been for fifty something years. You've been taking his
crap for half your life because you're you're you're fifty
seven years old, and I got to ask you, why
why are you allowing him to treat you this way?
When you kept taking him back and you gave him
(04:03):
no reason whatsoever to stop cheating. I mean, that did
it right there. He had the best of both worlds.
He disrespected you, your marriage numerous time, and he still
thinks all he has to do is say something like baby,
I'm sorry, and here he is back in again. The
lesson for you to learn here is you got to
stand up for yourself. I mean, no man should be
(04:24):
should be allowed to treat you that way. What happens
if you get with this new guy, your boo, your
soul mate, and he starts cheating down the line. You
can't take it from him either. But you know you
don't have to worry about that right now, because we're
all quarantine and your boyfriend only asked you to pack
your bags and come be with him at his house.
(04:45):
I mean, if it's true love, you know, is he
gonna wait for you and all of that until after
the quarantine, after you get a divorce from your serial
cheater of a husband. Those are the things you need
to know before you actually make a move to get
with this guy, if that's what you want, since you're
so finished with your husband, you know, then you can
really walk into this new relationship and the baggage free.
(05:05):
So those are the things you have to think about
while you're quarantine with your cheating husband. Okay, Steve Well,
fifty seven year old married woman, been married twenty five years,
like Shirley said, half year old. Life been an agonizing marriage.
Your husband had cheated on you several times, many different women.
(05:28):
He got caught most of the time. You ain't caught
all of them because it's been many And then what
was your reaction though, You'd act a fool, and then
you threatened the female. Then he'd apologize, tell you we
aren't gonna do it no more. You believed him. But
then the last time I found out he was cheating,
(05:50):
I found a woman at his job and I beat
the brakes off of her in the parking lot because
she has known me for years, and this brutal betrayal
hurt worse than the others. Hold on, you didn't ran
the risk of going to jail. You went in the
parking a lot, jumped on a woman for cheating with
your heather. How you keep confronting all these women's that
(06:12):
ain't depth there, all these women that haven't taken a
vow to you. The only person in this in this
letter that took a vow to you is your husband.
The rest of these people don't know you. The rest
of these people what you're just jumping on women? Your
marriage sound like it's been a mess. So now when
I come back, I'm gonna answer the question for you.
(06:35):
Your question is how should I have this situation? Please
advise That's what I'm gonna do. All right, Steve, We'll
have part two of your response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's subject my mind is
on the other side of town. We'll get back into
it right after this you're listening show, Come on, Steve,
(06:56):
Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. My mind is on the
other side of town. My body's hill knew, but my
mind is all the other side of time. Joe boy
boy junior junior, shut up, hey man, listen to your
(07:20):
disrespectful You know sometimes junior and junior Junior junior after
the quarantine is overhim was slacking. I'm a slack fifty
seven year old married woman, been married twenty five years,
the worst marriage you could be in. Husband cheated on
a bunch of times. Different women. Always catch him in
(07:41):
the sheet after the food, called threatening all the females.
They need to apologize, promise to stop cheating. You believe it,
but then you find out he was cheating with this
woman at her job and went down there and jumped
on the woman, beat the brakes off of in the
parking lot because she has known you for years, and
this one hurt you more than others. So after the fight,
you told your husband that was it and I was
(08:02):
done with his foolishness. Here's where the letter gets stupid.
He's terrified that I will leave him. When did he
start getting scared of you? See you're trumping up stuff.
Now he's terrified that I will leave him. When has
this man ever been scared of you? You jumped on women,
(08:23):
you've called women, you threatened with him, and he keep
doing what he want to do this. Man ain't scared
of you. He's terrified that I will leave him. So
if he is cheating now, he's being very discreet. He is.
We still married and living together, but mentally I moved
on from him and I've reconnected with the true love
(08:45):
of my life. It's an old board friend of man.
He'd been divorced two years and he ain't got number
of time and lots of good loving just for me. Now.
For the past year, y'all been in supper, but your
husband knows nothing about us. Really, I think he do.
See if you've been inseparable for a year, that means
(09:07):
you've been off with this guy on a bunch of occasions.
You ain't been coming home as normal. Your husband ain't
said nothing to you about it, and he don't know.
That's because you didn't clear the close coad stuff for
him to do more cheating. That's all. This is when
a man ain't asking you where you're being, where you're
at this because he don't care. He might if you
(09:31):
are doing something. He don't care because it's giving him
more time to do something. Now, we were going on
our first vacation this spring. Women, excuse me, you and
the boyfriend was going on a vacation together, and I
guess he wasn't gonna know about that either. Okay, right,
But now our plans are on the whole and I
haven't seen him or felt his touch in two weeks
(09:51):
because I'm quarantined with my sorry, cheating hubs. My boyfriend
has been facetiming me every day and keeps begging me
to pack him things that come to his house. I'm
worried about what our friends would think if I leave
home doing the quarantine. What your friends would think? What
about the Center for Disease Control? You haven't thought about
(10:12):
what they might think? You have thought about just something
like that? Your friends? What do your friends have to
do about this? Do your friends know what's going on? Probably?
Am I crazy for caring about his feelings? Whose feelings?
You're talking about? Your husbands that they never cared about
your feelings? Should I pack up and go be with
(10:35):
my soul mate? Technically you should have been packed up.
I ain't saying with your soul mate, but it seemed
to me like you should have been out of here
twenty five years agonizing marriage. Why are you still that now?
Should you pack up? To go with your soul mate.
I don't know, but you should have been out of there.
And why is your quarantine keeping you at home? You
(10:57):
go somewhere and be by yourself. My body is here
with my husband. My body is here, but my mind
on the other side of time. You missing me around.
You're messing me around? Whoa one more time? Your bobe
(11:19):
is here with me. Stand to me, but your mind
is on the other side of time. Get you yeah,
you're messing me around. Get you up? Yeah yeah, but
your mind is all the other side of time. You're right,
(11:47):
don't you do it? That's what you're doing. Now? How
should I handle this situation? Please advibe? Why are you
staying with the man that you can't stand and improve?
He don't really care nothing about you, y'all. Ain't even
you ain't mentioning this letter. Y'all working on your marigin
though you just got a phone call from an old
boy friend and boom you gone. He ain't asking you
(12:10):
where you've been you, he don't even care where you're
being somebody you've been playing the spring vacation and he
ain't gonna ask you where you going in He don't care.
Two people that don't care about each other should not
be together. Why would you stay now? I ain't saying
(12:32):
doing this social distancing that you ought to break it
Aran teeny Gold, but then just act like you're going
to the stove and get oh my god, all right, Steve,
you can thank you for that. You can post your
comments on today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey f M
on instagramental and check out the Strawberry Letters coming out
(12:59):
of the side. Junior is here with Sports News at
forty six minutes after the hours. Right after this, you're
listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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