July 16, 2024 • 8 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Doran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show. I saw the story
in the New York Post, and as I was reading
the story, it got so complicated my eyes were crossing.
Okay and okay, I'm gonna read the story to you.
And Garrett just brought it to me and reminded me.
He said, you know, this is an interesting story. I went, okay.
I didn't't even talk about it in the year because
it's so confusing, but I'm gonna quit do it anyway.
(00:29):
I'm warning you, okay, okay. If I get the name
pronunciations wrong, just my apologies. So Zach Wilson, as you know,
former Jets quarterback, here's the story, proposals. I'm gonna read
it from the Post. Let them, let them write it
for me. Proposals seem to be all the rage and
in a peculiar turn of events, former Jets quarterback Zach
(00:50):
Wilson's ex best friend and ex girlfriend got engaged days
after Zach Wilson popped the question his girlfriend. Okay, okay,
which is fine, okay, but there's some cross pollination there.
Dax Milne is his best friend, a Wide receiver for
the Commanders, and Abby gill Or. Gile announced their engagement
(01:14):
Monday in a post on the receiver's Instagram account after
he popped the question on the beach. The news comes
just over a week after Wilson and model girlfriend Nicolette
Delano revealed that they had gotten engaged during a vacation
in Italy. Okay, are you keeping up with this? Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (01:29):
So?
Speaker 2 (01:30):
The post article goes on to say the timing didn't
seem to escape some people's thoughts, considering the controversy surrounding Wilson, Milne,
and Gile. Wilson and Gile had been high school sweethearts
but split in twenty twenty two, before he came out
in July that Gile had moved on to Milne, who
had been a longtime friend of Wilson and was roommates
and teammates with him at Byukay. Some social media users
(01:54):
called Gile a homie hopper when it was revealed that
she was dating Milne, and in response, she wrote on
Instagram that Wilson was sleeping with his mom's best friend.
I think that's the real homie hopper right there. She
deleted her Instagram account shortly. So, Okay, so we're talking
about ex best friends who are now marrying exes, but
(02:19):
there's also a mom's best friend involved.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Okay, now it's giving me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Okay, here's my point. There's so many, thousands, of millions,
of billions of people on earth. They contained all of
their drama down to four people, basically not including the
mom's best friend.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
I know, I get that. People say all the time,
there are millions of fish in the sea, why are
you right here? But I actually I kind of understand how.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
That stuff happens.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, talk about it because it's comfortable. You know these people,
You've grown up with them, They know where you come from.
You probably know their family and have similar upbringing in general,
and it's just easy and comfortable to be with people,
you know, they say all the time. After someone passes away,
a lot of times that person's widow or widower will
get with their best friend or.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Sibling or sibling.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah, because it's a comfort thing.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I guess you could also say that, look, you and
I are best friends. I introduce you to scary my
good friend, and then you guys become good friends, and
you totally just I'm out of the picture. So, in
other words, you you, you didn't use me. I was
basically brought to you in the universe to introduce you
to Scary your new best friend. Maybe, so that's how
it works. Okay, I'm okay, all right. But there is
(03:28):
a mom's best friend that someone slept with.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
That's that's the most fascinating part of all of it.
I need pictures. I wont to know what mom has
to say about it. Okay, are they still friends?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Oh my god? What's scary.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
The problem, though, is when you start getting into the romantics,
when you start dating one another, it gets really muddy
really quickly. Why would you go why why can't you
go fishing in the ocean? Why do you want to
just you just told I'm saying is but yeah, But
then it gets murky because at some point, as the
years go by, everyone will have been with everyone in
(03:59):
that circle. So it's not a good idea.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
But you and you and Nate slept with the same person.
Oh yeah, that was weird. I was I was first
man in gone. Oh wait a minute, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I was sitting at a table with the two of
them and somebody else and all three of them. It
turned out slept with this one person. I was the
only one that hadn't.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Okay, but scary. Let's say that you and I were
dating and we and you met my circle of friends.
I met your circle of friends, and you know we dated,
and you know, we gave it a shot and it
just didn't work out. But you do have a connection
with my friend Gandhi, and so can you say, you
know what, I really like Kandhi. She really likes me.
(04:43):
But I have to eliminate that from the possibilities because
she's friends with Elvis. What if a great connection has
been has been totally eliminated from possibility because you have
this too many fish in the pond rule or whatever.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I see where you're coming from. And that's why there's
a lot of workplace, you know, engagements that happen and things.
People get involved with each other at work because they
develop these relationships and these connections. However, I feel like
you need to take yourself out of it for a
second and say I need to make a concerted effort
to go outside this circle and do something somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
What makes you happy.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Then you might wind up with this situation that we
have here. The fine Okay, but there's drama that gets involved.
There's drama involved.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
No, there's drama in everything you do in life. Make
yourself happy.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Because look, you know, I'm not saying it should happen
like this all the time. But if there is a
connection with someone and you feel like I can't, I cannot.
I can't see this through because we're all friends, I
don't know you're eliminating you could be eliminating friends in
the process. I get that ill of this text talk
about actual football. No one cares about football players and
they're off the field drama. Well, obviously they do. And
(05:54):
we don't talk about football on our show. Go listen
to ESPN. Give I really, ESPN is still a thing.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yes, it is.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
It is something. Yeah, you know you want to hear
Elvis Duran talking about football. Get out of here. It's
like asking me to talk about gynecological things. I mean,
I don't know anything about it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'd be interested in listening.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
No, I don't know. I'm not to talk about football.
I don't know anything about football. Hello, Lisa, how are
you good? How are you doing great? So Gandhi said
something that totally totally vibed with you.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Gandhi said something that really hit home. My husband died
a few years ago and I ended up being romantically
involved with his best friend, his childhood best friend that
he was best friends with for years, forty years. So
I understand where, you know, with the comfort. At the time,
it was it was kind of an appendage of my husband.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, it's almost like there's a piece of them that
you can still hold on to because they were so close.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You also agree that your relationship with his best friend
was also independent, disconnected from your husband as well. There
had to be something about him that was all totally
different person exactly.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
Yeah, it's a totally different person. But you know, it
does get a little murky. It gets very murky when you,
you know, try to, you know, kind of incorporate the
relationship into friend groups and families. It just got you sticky.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Well that's right. Well, you know, you know, the people
that surround you and radiate around you, they don't really
truly understand what your feelings are and what your your
your deceased husband's best friends thinking, you know, I get that,
but then again it turns into a well, I guess
we should just cancel all of them as friends and
just go live our lives together in quiet.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
You know, I don't know right which we didn't do well.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
I'm really sorry about your husband.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
That's terrible.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Thank you on like something similar to that. You know,
you guys know that I had a boyfriend who passed
away tragically while we were dating, and his best friend,
who a few of you have met. I feel so
close to him in a completely different way than I
feel close to everyone. I'm not attracted him, I don't
want to date him, but when he's around, there's this
weird feeling like Chad is right there. They have the
(08:04):
same accent, they laugh at the same things, they tell
the same jokes, and it's like, oh, there's a piece
of him that's still living right here and his best friend,
and I love him so much.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
So you see how it could be possible. Absolutely, Maybe
not in this case, but in some cases. Yeah, Tonally,
I got it. Lisa, how are you today?
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I'm good, I'm I'm feeling it. It was a very
sudden tragedy and taken about seven years to continue to
heel and grieve and take care of myself.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
So I'm good.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Wow. Well, listen, thank you for adding to the show
and adding your perspective. We appreciate you very much and
I hope you have a great day.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Appreciate you guys, take care of there you go.
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Doran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Elvis Duran in the Morning Show. I saw the story
in the New York Post, and as I was reading
the story, it got so complicated my eyes were crossing.
Okay and okay, I'm gonna read the story to you.
And Garrett just brought it to me and reminded me.
He said, you know, this is an interesting story. I went, okay.
I didn't't even talk about it in the year because
it's so confusing, but I'm gonna quit do it anyway.
(00:29):
I'm warning you, okay, okay. If I get the name
pronunciations wrong, just my apologies. So Zach Wilson, as you know,
former Jets quarterback, here's the story, proposals. I'm gonna read
it from the Post. Let them, let them write it
for me. Proposals seem to be all the rage and
in a peculiar turn of events, former Jets quarterback Zach
(00:50):
Wilson's ex best friend and ex girlfriend got engaged days
after Zach Wilson popped the question his girlfriend. Okay, okay,
which is fine, okay, but there's some cross pollination there.
Dax Milne is his best friend, a Wide receiver for
the Commanders, and Abby gill Or. Gile announced their engagement
(01:14):
Monday in a post on the receiver's Instagram account after
he popped the question on the beach. The news comes
just over a week after Wilson and model girlfriend Nicolette
Delano revealed that they had gotten engaged during a vacation
in Italy. Okay, are you keeping up with this? Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (01:29):
So?
Speaker 2 (01:30):
The post article goes on to say the timing didn't
seem to escape some people's thoughts, considering the controversy surrounding Wilson, Milne,
and Gile. Wilson and Gile had been high school sweethearts
but split in twenty twenty two, before he came out
in July that Gile had moved on to Milne, who
had been a longtime friend of Wilson and was roommates
and teammates with him at Byukay. Some social media users
(01:54):
called Gile a homie hopper when it was revealed that
she was dating Milne, and in response, she wrote on
Instagram that Wilson was sleeping with his mom's best friend.
I think that's the real homie hopper right there. She
deleted her Instagram account shortly. So, Okay, so we're talking
about ex best friends who are now marrying exes, but
(02:19):
there's also a mom's best friend involved.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Okay, now it's giving me.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Okay, here's my point. There's so many, thousands, of millions,
of billions of people on earth. They contained all of
their drama down to four people, basically not including the
mom's best friend.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
I know, I get that. People say all the time,
there are millions of fish in the sea, why are
you right here? But I actually I kind of understand how.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
That stuff happens.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Okay, talk about it because it's comfortable. You know these people,
You've grown up with them, They know where you come from.
You probably know their family and have similar upbringing in general,
and it's just easy and comfortable to be with people,
you know, they say all the time. After someone passes away,
a lot of times that person's widow or widower will
get with their best friend or.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Sibling or sibling.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Yeah, because it's a comfort thing.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I guess you could also say that, look, you and
I are best friends. I introduce you to scary my
good friend, and then you guys become good friends, and
you totally just I'm out of the picture. So, in
other words, you you, you didn't use me. I was
basically brought to you in the universe to introduce you
to Scary your new best friend. Maybe, so that's how
it works. Okay, I'm okay, all right. But there is
(03:28):
a mom's best friend that someone slept with.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
That's that's the most fascinating part of all of it.
I need pictures. I wont to know what mom has
to say about it. Okay, are they still friends?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Oh my god? What's scary.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
The problem, though, is when you start getting into the romantics,
when you start dating one another, it gets really muddy
really quickly. Why would you go why why can't you
go fishing in the ocean? Why do you want to
just you just told I'm saying is but yeah, But
then it gets murky because at some point, as the
years go by, everyone will have been with everyone in
(03:59):
that circle. So it's not a good idea.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
But you and you and Nate slept with the same person.
Oh yeah, that was weird. I was I was first
man in gone. Oh wait a minute, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I was sitting at a table with the two of
them and somebody else and all three of them. It
turned out slept with this one person. I was the
only one that hadn't.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Okay, but scary. Let's say that you and I were
dating and we and you met my circle of friends.
I met your circle of friends, and you know we dated,
and you know, we gave it a shot and it
just didn't work out. But you do have a connection
with my friend Gandhi, and so can you say, you
know what, I really like Kandhi. She really likes me.
(04:43):
But I have to eliminate that from the possibilities because
she's friends with Elvis. What if a great connection has
been has been totally eliminated from possibility because you have
this too many fish in the pond rule or whatever.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I see where you're coming from. And that's why there's
a lot of workplace, you know, engagements that happen and things.
People get involved with each other at work because they
develop these relationships and these connections. However, I feel like
you need to take yourself out of it for a
second and say I need to make a concerted effort
to go outside this circle and do something somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
What makes you happy.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Then you might wind up with this situation that we
have here. The fine Okay, but there's drama that gets involved.
There's drama involved.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
No, there's drama in everything you do in life. Make
yourself happy.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Because look, you know, I'm not saying it should happen
like this all the time. But if there is a
connection with someone and you feel like I can't, I cannot.
I can't see this through because we're all friends, I
don't know you're eliminating you could be eliminating friends in
the process. I get that ill of this text talk
about actual football. No one cares about football players and
they're off the field drama. Well, obviously they do. And
(05:54):
we don't talk about football on our show. Go listen
to ESPN. Give I really, ESPN is still a thing.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Yes, it is.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
It is something. Yeah, you know you want to hear
Elvis Duran talking about football. Get out of here. It's
like asking me to talk about gynecological things. I mean,
I don't know anything about it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'd be interested in listening.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
No, I don't know. I'm not to talk about football.
I don't know anything about football. Hello, Lisa, how are
you good? How are you doing great? So Gandhi said
something that totally totally vibed with you.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Gandhi said something that really hit home. My husband died
a few years ago and I ended up being romantically
involved with his best friend, his childhood best friend that
he was best friends with for years, forty years. So
I understand where, you know, with the comfort. At the time,
it was it was kind of an appendage of my husband.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Yeah, it's almost like there's a piece of them that
you can still hold on to because they were so close.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You also agree that your relationship with his best friend
was also independent, disconnected from your husband as well. There
had to be something about him that was all totally
different person exactly.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
Yeah, it's a totally different person. But you know, it
does get a little murky. It gets very murky when you,
you know, try to, you know, kind of incorporate the
relationship into friend groups and families. It just got you sticky.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Well that's right. Well, you know, you know, the people
that surround you and radiate around you, they don't really
truly understand what your feelings are and what your your
your deceased husband's best friends thinking, you know, I get that,
but then again it turns into a well, I guess
we should just cancel all of them as friends and
just go live our lives together in quiet.
Speaker 4 (07:37):
You know, I don't know right which we didn't do well.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
I'm really sorry about your husband.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
That's terrible.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Thank you on like something similar to that. You know,
you guys know that I had a boyfriend who passed
away tragically while we were dating, and his best friend,
who a few of you have met. I feel so
close to him in a completely different way than I
feel close to everyone. I'm not attracted him, I don't
want to date him, but when he's around, there's this
weird feeling like Chad is right there. They have the
(08:04):
same accent, they laugh at the same things, they tell
the same jokes, and it's like, oh, there's a piece
of him that's still living right here and his best friend,
and I love him so much.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
So you see how it could be possible. Absolutely, Maybe
not in this case, but in some cases. Yeah, Tonally,
I got it. Lisa, how are you today?
Speaker 4 (08:20):
I'm good, I'm I'm feeling it. It was a very
sudden tragedy and taken about seven years to continue to
heel and grieve and take care of myself.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
So I'm good.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Wow. Well, listen, thank you for adding to the show
and adding your perspective. We appreciate you very much and
I hope you have a great day.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Appreciate you guys, take care of there you go.
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