September 13, 2024 • 7 mins
We go over ways that you might be getting manipulated without even realizing.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
You know what, we've become such creatures of habit, not
only the way we brush our teeth and the way
we put on our clothes every morning. And we also
become creatures of habit in the way we perceive things
and think of things. For instance, if you see a
fire or smell of fire, you automatically think, well, it's this,
it is that, And you think the same thing every
(00:26):
time you drive the same way to work every day.
But GANI and I of course were members of we're
members of Medium. It's incredible subscription you get. By the way,
they're not sponsors of ours. We pay for it. We
pay full thrice. Yeah, they send you incredible short stories
and I don't know how would you describe it.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I mean, there are all kinds of categories and people
can contribute to each category, you know, whether it's an
article or a list or science. And they're constantly updating it,
and I just I don't know, I really like it.
It's really digestible nuggets of news exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
They tell you. The following is a three minute read.
As a matter of fact, This one from Alberto Garcia
three minute read. It's entitled three quick Quotes from Louise Hay.
We'll have to dig in and see who she is
that will instantly rewire your brain. Are you curious? Yes,
they're gone to say some phrases can heal the wounds
(01:22):
of the soul. I've searched for these phrases and self
help and spirituality books for the last seven years. These
three from Louise Hay are the ones that have done
me the most good. Number one about your subconscious. Don't
make jokes or derogatory remarks about yourself, as they will
not create good experiences for you. Don't do it about
others either. The subconscious does not distinguish between you and others.
(01:46):
You do know that, right, I.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Didn't know that. That's a tough one. I feel like
we all make fun of ourselves all the time.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yep, so it's tough.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
You know, you don't want to take yourself too seriously.
But at the same time, I totally get how making
fun of other people are talking badly other people would
rewire your brain to just be negative about everything exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
So if you're overly critical about yourself or other overly
critical about other people, that stuff registers in your subconscious yep, mind,
and it doesn't know the difference between what's real and
what's not. They go on to say, being too critical
of others made people reject me, closed doors for me,
and my subconscious could reaffirm that I'm not enough. Narrative.
That narrative was bigger than ever. All right, let me
(02:27):
give you another one about manipulators. Does anyone here have
a manipulator in their lives? Anyone? I think? So? Why
was youone looking at me? I didn't do anything. She
goes on to say, many times others send us negative
messages because that's the easiest way to manipulate us.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
This is true, yes, yeah, But isn't that like in
a lot of relationships, like abusive relationships, even mentally abusive,
that's what they do. They mentally, they get in your
head and they tell you you're not good enough without me,
or you're not good enough in general, and then that's yeah,
it's manipulation absolutely, Or.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Also just saying, you know, making fun of you and
bullying you because you bought something a shirt that they
don't like. Oh god, you're don'naware of that, you know, Really,
that's manipulating. The romantic partners, they say, who are constantly
criticized criticizing me, were not criticizing me because I was
as bad as they wanted me to think. They were
making me believe I was not up to their standards
(03:24):
to keep me as long as possible. The boss my
bosses told me that I was doing badly when I
was the best seller in the law firm, to squeeze
as much out of me as possible. My father constantly
criticized me for everything I did, so I would seek
his approval. Oh yeah, how familiar is this? Seeking our
parents' approval? So I would seek his approval and make
(03:47):
up for lost time after years of neglect. The lesson
is we've been educated in guilt, and guilt works as
a repressor of our will. If someone's constantly criticizing you,
ask yourself why they're doing it. It's not that you're bad,
but it's because that person has hidden agendas that you
don't know about.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Without a doubt, I think criticizing people and being really
mean and you know, saying all those hateful things, it's
the easiest way to keep somebody in a box. But
as soon as you get out of a box, that's
when you can fly.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Very true and very will put a very nice visual there.
If your childhood this is the last one. If in
your childhood you felt a lot of fear and anguish
and now you sort of sort of mentally punish yourself,
you continue to treat your inner child the same way.
They say that children can become very cruel. And we
know that this person grew up in the eighties and
kids were diabolical as they were when I was a kid.
(04:40):
They are and a lot of times teachers look the
other way because they didn't want to have to deal
with it, which is not good. I was bullied myself.
My inner child was bullied as well. So when you
feel hurt, you bully that kid that's still in you.
She says. My inner child needed two things. Number one
(05:01):
to know that I love it and to trust the
adult I've become. So, whether you start a self destructive habit,
visualize your inner child. So that's it. If you're doing
something in your life, now that's a habit that's bad
for you. It could be drinking, smoking, drugs, whatever, or
not taking care of yourself physically or emotionally. Whenever you
(05:21):
start this self destructive habit. Visualize your inner child and
look at it as if you were its parent, and
act accordingly. This little exercise can seriously change your life completely.
It's like a little virtual hug. Does that make sense
what I just said? Yes? Yeah, if you're doing something
that's bad, it may be because you need a quick fix,
(05:42):
you may be sad. But if you do this or that,
it'll make you happy, like eating an entire pizza whatever.
Well that what would you as a parent of your
inner child is a parent of yourself? What would you say? Hey, yeah,
you don't want to do that, and here's why, even
though it tastes good, you shouldn't do it. I don't know.
I think this is pretty strong. I don't know if
(06:03):
I gave it to you in as strong as manner
as it needed. I don't know any thoughts about any
of this.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
I love that kind of stuff. I don't know. I
just like to think about what am I doing and
why am I doing it this way? It is interesting
what you just said about picture your inner child doing it.
It is really weird to think about a little me,
the child version of me, like taking a shot of whiskey.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
That's crazy. Yeah, what do you doing child? Yeah, what
are you doing here? Why are you doing it? That's
another thing, like if you're out with friends and like,
come on, let's drink, let's get really messed up. Well, okay,
but why am I doing it?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
You know, it'll be interesting to see what each person
would say, because obviously it would be totally different for
everyone exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
So sometimes you need to be your own parent, which
is something I'd never really thought about until I read this.
And I want to know more about Louise Hey.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
She was a motivational speaker and an author. She liked
to encourage people to enjoy joy and find joy, positive affirmations,
and feel good about themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And if you want to know more about a lot
of these essays and short stories, you can read. It's medium,
it's the name of the organization. You can join and
they will send you stories and essays that are curated
to the things that you are interested in. Right, is
that what we did? We filled out a little survey
at the beginning.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Yeah, it asks you what are your top you know,
like ten interests, and you can pike science or relationships
or sex or medicine, whatever it is. There's all kinds
of stuff in there.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So it's medium. Go do a search again. There are
not sponsors of ours. We did it. We signed up
because we like it. It Really if you have time
to do a medium read at least one a day,
three minutes a day, something like that. Wow, pretty powerful
stuff
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
You know what, we've become such creatures of habit, not
only the way we brush our teeth and the way
we put on our clothes every morning. And we also
become creatures of habit in the way we perceive things
and think of things. For instance, if you see a
fire or smell of fire, you automatically think, well, it's this,
it is that, And you think the same thing every
(00:26):
time you drive the same way to work every day.
But GANI and I of course were members of we're
members of Medium. It's incredible subscription you get. By the way,
they're not sponsors of ours. We pay for it. We
pay full thrice. Yeah, they send you incredible short stories
and I don't know how would you describe it.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
I mean, there are all kinds of categories and people
can contribute to each category, you know, whether it's an
article or a list or science. And they're constantly updating it,
and I just I don't know, I really like it.
It's really digestible nuggets of news exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
They tell you. The following is a three minute read.
As a matter of fact, This one from Alberto Garcia
three minute read. It's entitled three quick Quotes from Louise Hay.
We'll have to dig in and see who she is
that will instantly rewire your brain. Are you curious? Yes,
they're gone to say some phrases can heal the wounds
(01:22):
of the soul. I've searched for these phrases and self
help and spirituality books for the last seven years. These
three from Louise Hay are the ones that have done
me the most good. Number one about your subconscious. Don't
make jokes or derogatory remarks about yourself, as they will
not create good experiences for you. Don't do it about
others either. The subconscious does not distinguish between you and others.
(01:46):
You do know that, right, I.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Didn't know that. That's a tough one. I feel like
we all make fun of ourselves all the time.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Yep, so it's tough.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
You know, you don't want to take yourself too seriously.
But at the same time, I totally get how making
fun of other people are talking badly other people would
rewire your brain to just be negative about everything exactly.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
So if you're overly critical about yourself or other overly
critical about other people, that stuff registers in your subconscious yep, mind,
and it doesn't know the difference between what's real and
what's not. They go on to say, being too critical
of others made people reject me, closed doors for me,
and my subconscious could reaffirm that I'm not enough. Narrative.
That narrative was bigger than ever. All right, let me
(02:27):
give you another one about manipulators. Does anyone here have
a manipulator in their lives? Anyone? I think? So? Why
was youone looking at me? I didn't do anything. She
goes on to say, many times others send us negative
messages because that's the easiest way to manipulate us.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
This is true, yes, yeah, But isn't that like in
a lot of relationships, like abusive relationships, even mentally abusive,
that's what they do. They mentally, they get in your
head and they tell you you're not good enough without me,
or you're not good enough in general, and then that's yeah,
it's manipulation absolutely, Or.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Also just saying, you know, making fun of you and
bullying you because you bought something a shirt that they
don't like. Oh god, you're don'naware of that, you know, Really,
that's manipulating. The romantic partners, they say, who are constantly
criticized criticizing me, were not criticizing me because I was
as bad as they wanted me to think. They were
making me believe I was not up to their standards
(03:24):
to keep me as long as possible. The boss my
bosses told me that I was doing badly when I
was the best seller in the law firm, to squeeze
as much out of me as possible. My father constantly
criticized me for everything I did, so I would seek
his approval. Oh yeah, how familiar is this? Seeking our
parents' approval? So I would seek his approval and make
(03:47):
up for lost time after years of neglect. The lesson
is we've been educated in guilt, and guilt works as
a repressor of our will. If someone's constantly criticizing you,
ask yourself why they're doing it. It's not that you're bad,
but it's because that person has hidden agendas that you
don't know about.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Without a doubt, I think criticizing people and being really
mean and you know, saying all those hateful things, it's
the easiest way to keep somebody in a box. But
as soon as you get out of a box, that's
when you can fly.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Very true and very will put a very nice visual there.
If your childhood this is the last one. If in
your childhood you felt a lot of fear and anguish
and now you sort of sort of mentally punish yourself,
you continue to treat your inner child the same way.
They say that children can become very cruel. And we
know that this person grew up in the eighties and
kids were diabolical as they were when I was a kid.
(04:40):
They are and a lot of times teachers look the
other way because they didn't want to have to deal
with it, which is not good. I was bullied myself.
My inner child was bullied as well. So when you
feel hurt, you bully that kid that's still in you.
She says. My inner child needed two things. Number one
(05:01):
to know that I love it and to trust the
adult I've become. So, whether you start a self destructive habit,
visualize your inner child. So that's it. If you're doing
something in your life, now that's a habit that's bad
for you. It could be drinking, smoking, drugs, whatever, or
not taking care of yourself physically or emotionally. Whenever you
(05:21):
start this self destructive habit. Visualize your inner child and
look at it as if you were its parent, and
act accordingly. This little exercise can seriously change your life completely.
It's like a little virtual hug. Does that make sense
what I just said? Yes? Yeah, if you're doing something
that's bad, it may be because you need a quick fix,
(05:42):
you may be sad. But if you do this or that,
it'll make you happy, like eating an entire pizza whatever.
Well that what would you as a parent of your
inner child is a parent of yourself? What would you say? Hey, yeah,
you don't want to do that, and here's why, even
though it tastes good, you shouldn't do it. I don't know.
I think this is pretty strong. I don't know if
(06:03):
I gave it to you in as strong as manner
as it needed. I don't know any thoughts about any
of this.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
I love that kind of stuff. I don't know. I
just like to think about what am I doing and
why am I doing it this way? It is interesting
what you just said about picture your inner child doing it.
It is really weird to think about a little me,
the child version of me, like taking a shot of whiskey.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
That's crazy. Yeah, what do you doing child? Yeah, what
are you doing here? Why are you doing it? That's
another thing, like if you're out with friends and like,
come on, let's drink, let's get really messed up. Well, okay,
but why am I doing it?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
You know, it'll be interesting to see what each person
would say, because obviously it would be totally different for
everyone exactly exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
So sometimes you need to be your own parent, which
is something I'd never really thought about until I read this.
And I want to know more about Louise Hey.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
She was a motivational speaker and an author. She liked
to encourage people to enjoy joy and find joy, positive affirmations,
and feel good about themselves.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
And if you want to know more about a lot
of these essays and short stories, you can read. It's medium,
it's the name of the organization. You can join and
they will send you stories and essays that are curated
to the things that you are interested in. Right, is
that what we did? We filled out a little survey
at the beginning.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Yeah, it asks you what are your top you know,
like ten interests, and you can pike science or relationships
or sex or medicine, whatever it is. There's all kinds
of stuff in there.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
So it's medium. Go do a search again. There are
not sponsors of ours. We did it. We signed up
because we like it. It Really if you have time
to do a medium read at least one a day,
three minutes a day, something like that. Wow, pretty powerful
stuff
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