You CAN Start Over!

Gandhi's friend quit her job, broke off her relationship, and is starting a new life! Are you stuck in a rut? What do you do to get out of it?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the morning show.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
You know what, I don't know if you want to
use your friend's name, Gandhi, Okay, but can I just
say I don't want to use the word jealous, envious.
I don't know. Your friend recently just upended everything. Oh yeah,
she quit her job, she moved, broke up with her boyfriend.
I mean, what brought all this on? What made her

(00:26):
push the reset button?

Speaker 1 (00:27):
Man? It was I think it was a long time coming.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
She sort of fell into this rut and she wasn't
happy with any aspect of her life. She wasn't happy
with the relationship, she didn't like what was going on
with work, she didn't like where she was living.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
She just one day up and decided.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
I'm done and got rid of all of it at
the same time, and she has started a completely new
life all over again. And I am so proud of her.
I know it takes so much to do any one
of those things. Yeah, let alone all three at the
same time. So to you, my friend, I love you.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
We'll call her by.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Her job. She moved to a new town, new city.

Speaker 1 (01:03):
Yep.

Speaker 2 (01:04):
Wow, did I mean does she have a job before
she went there.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
I mean, she still doesn't have a job. She's like,
I'm figuring it out right now. She negotiated a little
package with the company that she was with, so she
has a few months to figure out what's going on,
and she's working on some things. She said, she has
some ideas, but she's just super excited and I love
that for her.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
She's not scared at all.

Speaker 3 (01:27):
She said she was more fearful of actually taking the plunge,
and now that she's done it, she's like, it's the
best thing that's ever happened. Weights lifted, I feel like
a new person.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Wow.

Speaker 4 (01:35):
She didn't have a different name, a different identity, die your.

Speaker 1 (01:39):
Hair, Yep, you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (01:41):
Like everything could be different.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
The only thing that has carried through was the dog.
She took the dog.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Okay, you can't leave the dogs. Dogs are good. You
can't leave the dog.

Speaker 4 (01:48):
Uh Man's cow old she is she's thirty six.

Speaker 2 (01:52):
Okay, yeah wow, and just said screw it all, I'm
moving on. So you're saying she was a little scared
about take the leap. M I guess it's easier for
me to say because I'm not in her position. You
should be more scared not taking the leap totally.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
And that's when we were talking about it. I said
the same thing.

Speaker 3 (02:13):
I was like, you know, the most terrifying thing would
be to be stuck in a life that you hate
every aspect of as opposed to just taking the leap
and figuring it out for yourself, because you'll fall into
something that you appreciate and you like, and you're making
your own rules now and you're not, you know, sacrificing
your happiness for other people and other things.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
Wow, okay, so cool.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
When she told me this, I almost I screamed. It
was amazing. I was so happy for her.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
So was this a long time in the works or
does she just one day woke up and said, no, no,
everything has to be reset everything.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
See, you had been toiling it with it for a while,
like she would send some of us a breakup text
like hey do you think this one works?

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Hey?

Speaker 3 (02:50):
How should I word it differently? And then I don't
know what happened, But one day she was just like,
that's it and she did all of it.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
Wow, No, I know, just ripped, just ripped it. It's
gotta be of of course, it is a lot different
if you have kids involved, or there's you know, other
things that you've got to be paying attention to which
are of paramount importance. I get that, But if you're
but thirty six years old, a lot of people would say,
Oh no, I'm already thirty six. It's I waited too

(03:17):
long in my life to push a reset button. No,
not at all.

Speaker 1 (03:20):
She said. She's even happier with you know how.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
Old I am? I turned the big old, I turned
the big six. Oh, I'm ready to turn it all
off and run like hell by everybody. Wait, wait, wait, wait, nope,
there's no waiting. I'm taking my dogs and I'm leaving.
I'm leaving town. But uh yeah, you find yourself in

(03:43):
life in a rut, and you're in that ditch like, well,
how do I get out of this ditch? Well, you
know what. You got to get out of the ditch.
But only you can do it. You have to make
the decisions. You have to make the hard decisions, the
decisions that are challenging and frightening. But no one else
can do it. No one else has got to do it.
You have to do it. What are you waiting for?

Speaker 1 (04:04):
She said?

Speaker 3 (04:06):
She thought about what we talk about all the time.
You cannot control other people or other circumstances in your life.
You can only control yourself. And she said she was
the common denominator and all of the things that she
didn't like. So she did what she could in her
control and she changed it.

Speaker 5 (04:20):
And I love it.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
I'm so happy for her.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
What scary?

Speaker 6 (04:25):
So what if you're in a ditch you want to
flip the switch and start over like your friend did,
but you're financially strapped and you're like, find But what
if the financial thing is the only thing that is
holding you back from doing that? Because I know some
people that want to hit the reset button on a
lot of things in life, but but they're being held
back by economics.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
You got to find a way.

Speaker 1 (04:45):
OnlyFans, Hell, I take your shoes off, do what you
gotta do.

Speaker 6 (04:51):
But like, no, I know a lot of people who
really are Yeah, they want to start over, but they can't.
Like easier said.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Than done, Well, no, you can. You know, it's easy
for us to say you can, but you can't. There
is a way. It may be it may break your back,
you may have to work two jobs, you may have
to work around the clock and to save the money.
I mean no, but if you have that goal in mind,
you will find a way. And if anyone says, well yeah, yeah, yeah,
dare you say that, and well, no, I'm saying it you.
Gary Vee was in Once a long time ago talking

(05:18):
about this. He's said, people come to have all the time.
Gary v I want to be successful, but I'm stuck
in doing this. He said, You're not stuck in anything.
You continue your work, you continue your job, but you
do the side hustle. You figure it out. It's going
to take time, it's gonna take amountain of sacrifice. You
can do it. Don't let don't talk yourself out of it.

Speaker 7 (05:37):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:38):
So if I sit here and say, well it's a
financial thing, well, y all know that that's a major thing.
That is a problem. But you know what, what problem
cannot be solved, You got to figure out how to
solve that problem. It takes time. Everyone expects everything to
be fixed overnight. You can't. You can't look at life
like that. Sometimes problems, challenges, it takes it could take

(05:58):
a year. But the thing is is during that year
or two years, you always keep your eye on the
end result. You always do. You never let it go.

Speaker 4 (06:06):
And sometimes it's not that easy either, Like, sometimes you
think you've fixed it, but you run the complications along
the way and you have to deal with those. So
everything is not gonna be said and done just like that.
You just gotta work at it.

Speaker 3 (06:18):
I also think too, like the regret of making a
mistake seems a little lighter than the regret of always
wondering what would have happened if, like, at least you
have an answer and you can start over with knowledge
of something, whereas if you never take a chance, you're
never gonna know.

Speaker 4 (06:32):
You're always gonna wonder what off.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, it is drastic, though you know what these things are. Drastic.
You're like and you may have a lot of friends
and family members saying, are you crazy? What are you doing?
I remember when I started in radio. My dad is like,
what are you doing? I said, dad, And this is
I had like a part time job, no insurance, so
you gotta you need a job with insurance before No,
I don't want a job with insurance. I want a

(06:55):
job that makes me happy and satisfied. The insurance will come.

Speaker 7 (07:00):
You know that.

Speaker 4 (07:00):
Happened with me too with this job. Right, So I
got the job I was making four to twenty five
an hour out right out of college. And my mother
kept saying, you need to quit. She was like, you
need to find something else, blah blah blah, and I
kept saying, no, I want to stick it out. If
something good's gonna happen, I know it, I know it,
I know it. And she was just like, okay, And
so you know if I had listened, then we wouldn't

(07:21):
be where we are.

Speaker 2 (07:24):
You gotta quit that job.

Speaker 6 (07:25):
It costs you more to go to work than you
are making it a picture.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
There were days.

Speaker 4 (07:31):
Where I'd pay to go to work and I would
pay for parking and whatever. They weren't paying for it.

Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah, I wasn't making anything they were. I was paying
them to work here.

Speaker 5 (07:40):
And look at you, now, Yeah, what's that prob I've
learned this as a parent. And when you want somebody
to do something, they might do it, but they won't
do it to the extent that when they want it,
And when you want something bad enough for yourself, you
won't be able to be stopped no matter what anybody
else says, no matter what obstacle comes up, no matter

(08:02):
what it takes, you will find a way to do it.
If it's what you want. And so that's truely what
it comes down to.

Speaker 2 (08:07):
You know, you can easily say, well, this is what
I do professionally, this is all I know, and I
have to do this, but unfortunately the job sector I'm
working in is deteriorating. It's just evaporating. And well then
you got to go do something you don't know, you know,
that's the whole point of this Loretta line twenty She said,
enough is enough. I'm moving to Costa Rica. I'm taking

(08:27):
the family. Yeah, congratulations on taking a family, Loretta. What
made you decide? Okay, Costa Rica because a lot of
Americans do this, they love going down there.

Speaker 7 (08:37):
Well, I'm not American. I'm British. You guys know me.
I'm the ginger tea lady. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
Oh hello, So you're moving, you're picking up, You're moving
to Costa Rica. Now what made you decide to make
the change.

Speaker 7 (08:49):
Well, the terrifying events of twenty twenty in America really
opened up the eyes of a lot of US Brits.
And the violence, the gun violence, crazy politics, really I
mean scary nose Costa Rica. There's no gun violence, there's
no military, they have no army.

Speaker 2 (09:11):
They spend the money they would spend on an army
on education. Yeah. No, I've been there several times. I
love Costa Rica. It is fascinating. And every time here
you visit, you're like, let's look at real estate an apartment.
So when are you moving?

Speaker 7 (09:26):
We're moving middle of August.

Speaker 2 (09:29):
That's tomorrow.

Speaker 5 (09:30):
Years ago.

Speaker 2 (09:31):
Congratulations, we just sold our house.

Speaker 7 (09:33):
Our house went on the market. It's sold within a week.
So yeah, we've got no choice. We're going.

Speaker 2 (09:38):
Yeah. Are you a little like well, like a scary
type of excitement going on and stirring in your stomach?
Are you what are you thinking? What are you feeling?

Speaker 7 (09:48):
I'm terrified, but I think I might at some point
when I've met you guys, show you one of my tattoos.
It says face the fear and do it anyway. I
you know, being from England, born in London, but I
come from a culture of people that immigrate my family
and Nigeria. Obviously I moved from London to here nearly
twenty years ago. It's you know, it's not the most

(10:09):
abnormal thing to do. It's terrifying, absolutely, And with children
you have to be very very confisent about what their
needs are. So we're choosing a specific place in Costa
Rica that will sort of take care of their extra
curricular needs, take care of their school, make sure they're
going to have friends. My husband and I we can
you know, we can go to the coast every weekend
and make sure we get beach time. But really the

(10:31):
most important thing is making sure that our children's mental
health is taken care of.

Speaker 2 (10:36):
Wow, I got it. Adopt me please, I'm on the way. Well, Loretta,
it's bittersweet and saying congratulations, but you know, knowing that
you're not here anymore, but you can listen to us
Costa Rica. I think we're number three rated morning show
in Costa Rica. You know, well listen, I have a

(10:56):
wonderful time in Congratulations and yeah again, and be more
afraid of not making a change than making the change.
Congratulations you and that tattoo. It means a lot to
read that tattoo.

Speaker 7 (11:07):
Show me one more time, face the fear and do
it anyway.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
There you go, all right, all right, thank you, Loretta,
and god speed much love to do your family, you.

Speaker 7 (11:18):
Know, all of you. Take test. Thank you, Danielle, thank
you guys.

Speaker 2 (11:24):
Thank you Loretta. Have a wonderful life.

Speaker 4 (11:26):
My heart, ginger Tea is amazing.