November 7, 2019 • 8 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Family Secrets is a production of I Heart Radio. I'm
Danny Shapiro, and this is family Secrets, the secrets that
are kept from us, the secrets we keep from others,
and the secrets we keep from ourselves. I've heard from
(00:23):
so many about your own family secrets and realize that
what we are creating for each other on this podcast
is a community, a community for those who are looking
for a safe and supportive space to unburden themselves. To
that end, we've created a number for listeners to call
in to record stories to share here in this space.
(00:44):
This week, I'd like to share a few of those
stories from our community. Thanks for listening. My secret is
that I am withholding information from two of my grandchildren
and about how their father died, and that from one
(01:06):
of them, from the youngest one, that his father is
even dead. Um. The youngest one is emotionally not stable,
and according to their separate psychologists and psychiatrists, they say
(01:28):
that they are not ready to hear the details of
how their father died, and the youngest one is under
the belief that his father just left him. I tried
to reassure him, but the secret is my son was
actually murdered by their mother. He was murdered by his wife,
(01:54):
buried by their uncle, and it was all months before
she was dug up and given back to us. They
do not know that their uncle was convicted of this
murder and that their mother still walks free and it's
(02:15):
actually the murderer of their father. So that's my secret.
I love the podcast, been listening since the beginning and
never thought I would ever have anything that fell into this.
But today I was informed by one of my siblings
(02:36):
that they had been a d n A test and
our father, his family does not show up as we
thought it would. Her mother is there. We have separate
mothers with mothers there um, but she isn't. So now
I've chosen to take this bat as it's called, and
(02:59):
to find out, if to confirm her what her speculations are.
So that's my family secrets. Talked to my wife's and
my kids to make sure that they understand it why
I am doing this, and but we've always been open
about board about it u from the beginning. So it
was quite white a spectacular tale to find out from
(03:23):
her um, to not find out that the name I
carry does not actually maybe belong to me, but we
were raised by them, so um, I guess it shouldn't
change anything in the long run, but it just is
an odd skeleton defined in the closet. Thank you for
your time. When I'm was eighteen and I smoked pot
(03:45):
for the first time, the smell was new to me,
but then again, it wasn't. The smell was that of
my father. I remember the smell very well, and it
smelled like his house, his car, and his clothes. And
I realized at that point that my father smoked pot.
Not really a big deal. Um that Christmas when I
(04:09):
was a p and I told him that I smoked pot,
and I know that he did because of the smell.
And at that moment, he had lifted up a paper
plate from underneath of his coffee table. He had always
told me, well, one time he had to All he
had to do was tell me one time. I always
listened to my father. He had always kept this paper
plate underneath the coffee table. And when I asked him
(04:33):
one time when I was a kid, what is this
and I went to grab it, he's in his rat poison.
Don't touch it. And never touched it or thought of
it again. So that Christmas. When I told him that
I knew he smoked pots. I could smell it. He
reached down unto the coffee table, wrapped it, grabbed that plate,
put it up on the coffee people and there were
whirling papers. Pot grinder proceeded to roll up joints and
(04:58):
we smoke together again. And UM, I wasn't totally shocked.
I was a little bit of a rebel. But after
we got stoned, my father took me outside when he
wanted to show me something, and he took me into
his workshop. He was very proud of the workshop he built.
It was a tiny ship that he built on top
(05:19):
of the septic tank. He went into the shed. It
was nighttime and as I walked inside, the floorboards were
glowing when I opened the floorboards. When I walked in,
I could see their light coming from under the floorboards,
and I said, I thought there was a septic tank.
He lived up the floorboards and underneath it was a
giant row house. I found out that night that my
(05:43):
father was a drug dealer. Hi. I um halfway through
Danny's book and find it very touchy. I knew that
my moment had me and UH wasn't with my bio
dat um classic one night stand, I suppose, and I
(06:09):
had really built up a picture in my kid as
a kid, but we never ever talked about it. Um.
And in her last year of life, when she was
signing of cancer, when I was going four, Uh, I
just never was able to talk to her about it.
So it took me a couple of years to um
bring up the record, the adoption record. And when I
(06:32):
reached out to my birth father, uh, he really wasn't
interested in a relationship. So I found that really interesting
and really poignant. UM when Danny said, you know, the
secret was me So it's Facebook, Um, you know on
LinkedIn with his person last name, it was really Uh
(06:53):
it's a matter of googling. But it's just so strange
that I have this entire biological out of my family
out there and none of them know I except my
bio dad and constantly his wife. So I've really struggled
with kind of reconciling myself that we'll never have a relationship,
and he's calling the shocks, and I'm just not sure
(07:16):
whether to reach out to any of the other members
of my biological family. I was raised by my mom,
she was married, she had kissed with my adoptive father.
I'm really close to the family that raised me. However,
it feels like there's this missing hole because personality wise,
(07:38):
even from one message, I could just tell I'm just
so much more like my bio dad. I have nothing
in common with my adoptive father. He's a great guy,
but that connection of like how our brains work, is
there for sure. Yeah, if you'd like to share your story,
(08:08):
call one eight eight eight secret zero and record your story.
We won't be able to run all the stories, but
we do want to shine a light on as many
as we can. The number again is one eight eight
eight secret and then the numeral zero. For more podcasts
(08:37):
for my heart Radio, visit the I Heart Radio app,
Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.
Family Secrets is a production of I Heart Radio. I'm
Danny Shapiro, and this is family Secrets, the secrets that
are kept from us, the secrets we keep from others,
and the secrets we keep from ourselves. I've heard from
(00:23):
so many about your own family secrets and realize that
what we are creating for each other on this podcast
is a community, a community for those who are looking
for a safe and supportive space to unburden themselves. To
that end, we've created a number for listeners to call
in to record stories to share here in this space.
(00:44):
This week, I'd like to share a few of those
stories from our community. Thanks for listening. My secret is
that I am withholding information from two of my grandchildren
and about how their father died, and that from one
(01:06):
of them, from the youngest one, that his father is
even dead. Um. The youngest one is emotionally not stable,
and according to their separate psychologists and psychiatrists, they say
(01:28):
that they are not ready to hear the details of
how their father died, and the youngest one is under
the belief that his father just left him. I tried
to reassure him, but the secret is my son was
actually murdered by their mother. He was murdered by his wife,
(01:54):
buried by their uncle, and it was all months before
she was dug up and given back to us. They
do not know that their uncle was convicted of this
murder and that their mother still walks free and it's
(02:15):
actually the murderer of their father. So that's my secret.
I love the podcast, been listening since the beginning and
never thought I would ever have anything that fell into this.
But today I was informed by one of my siblings
(02:36):
that they had been a d n A test and
our father, his family does not show up as we
thought it would. Her mother is there. We have separate
mothers with mothers there um, but she isn't. So now
I've chosen to take this bat as it's called, and
(02:59):
to find out, if to confirm her what her speculations are.
So that's my family secrets. Talked to my wife's and
my kids to make sure that they understand it why
I am doing this, and but we've always been open
about board about it u from the beginning. So it
was quite white a spectacular tale to find out from
(03:23):
her um, to not find out that the name I
carry does not actually maybe belong to me, but we
were raised by them, so um, I guess it shouldn't
change anything in the long run, but it just is
an odd skeleton defined in the closet. Thank you for
your time. When I'm was eighteen and I smoked pot
(03:45):
for the first time, the smell was new to me,
but then again, it wasn't. The smell was that of
my father. I remember the smell very well, and it
smelled like his house, his car, and his clothes. And
I realized at that point that my father smoked pot.
Not really a big deal. Um that Christmas when I
(04:09):
was a p and I told him that I smoked pot,
and I know that he did because of the smell.
And at that moment, he had lifted up a paper
plate from underneath of his coffee table. He had always
told me, well, one time he had to All he
had to do was tell me one time. I always
listened to my father. He had always kept this paper
plate underneath the coffee table. And when I asked him
(04:33):
one time when I was a kid, what is this
and I went to grab it, he's in his rat poison.
Don't touch it. And never touched it or thought of
it again. So that Christmas. When I told him that
I knew he smoked pots. I could smell it. He
reached down unto the coffee table, wrapped it, grabbed that plate,
put it up on the coffee people and there were
whirling papers. Pot grinder proceeded to roll up joints and
(04:58):
we smoke together again. And UM, I wasn't totally shocked.
I was a little bit of a rebel. But after
we got stoned, my father took me outside when he
wanted to show me something, and he took me into
his workshop. He was very proud of the workshop he built.
It was a tiny ship that he built on top
(05:19):
of the septic tank. He went into the shed. It
was nighttime and as I walked inside, the floorboards were
glowing when I opened the floorboards. When I walked in,
I could see their light coming from under the floorboards,
and I said, I thought there was a septic tank.
He lived up the floorboards and underneath it was a
giant row house. I found out that night that my
(05:43):
father was a drug dealer. Hi. I um halfway through
Danny's book and find it very touchy. I knew that
my moment had me and UH wasn't with my bio
dat um classic one night stand, I suppose, and I
(06:09):
had really built up a picture in my kid as
a kid, but we never ever talked about it. Um.
And in her last year of life, when she was
signing of cancer, when I was going four, Uh, I
just never was able to talk to her about it.
So it took me a couple of years to um
bring up the record, the adoption record. And when I
(06:32):
reached out to my birth father, uh, he really wasn't
interested in a relationship. So I found that really interesting
and really poignant. UM when Danny said, you know, the
secret was me So it's Facebook, Um, you know on
LinkedIn with his person last name, it was really Uh
(06:53):
it's a matter of googling. But it's just so strange
that I have this entire biological out of my family
out there and none of them know I except my
bio dad and constantly his wife. So I've really struggled
with kind of reconciling myself that we'll never have a relationship,
and he's calling the shocks, and I'm just not sure
(07:16):
whether to reach out to any of the other members
of my biological family. I was raised by my mom,
she was married, she had kissed with my adoptive father.
I'm really close to the family that raised me. However,
it feels like there's this missing hole because personality wise,
(07:38):
even from one message, I could just tell I'm just
so much more like my bio dad. I have nothing
in common with my adoptive father. He's a great guy,
but that connection of like how our brains work, is
there for sure. Yeah, if you'd like to share your story,
(08:08):
call one eight eight eight secret zero and record your story.
We won't be able to run all the stories, but
we do want to shine a light on as many
as we can. The number again is one eight eight
eight secret and then the numeral zero. For more podcasts
(08:37):
for my heart Radio, visit the I Heart Radio app,
Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.
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