November 7, 2022 • 16 mins
When it comes to slang about women masturbating, Samantha and Anney realize they are massively uneducated. From jilling off to flicking the bean, they react to some of this slang. Much laughter and blushing is involved.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Step one.
Never told your production of I Heart Radio, and welcome y'all. Yes,
I'm already giggling, chuckling, I guess you would say, so
(00:25):
before we start, go ahead and put this content warning
in here. We're gonna use some explicit language. And what
I mean explicit, i'man sexually explicit and so of these
you wouldn't think would be explicit, and I say in
high pitch, but they are. And uh, yeah, there you
have that warning. So you may not want to play
this around children, You may not want to play this
(00:47):
out loud while you're working all of those things. It
is in s f W okay, okay, good, all right. Yeah.
So the other day, my partner and I are listening
to an audio book on a road trip, actually a
coworker's audiobook, because I was like, oh, my partner's a
big fan of his, and so we're like, yeah, let's
let's take a listen. And a turn came out that
(01:09):
I have never heard of, and I think I immediately
asked you about it, and you said you hadn't either,
and that term is jilling, correct, So you've never heard this, No,
I have never heard I've never heard it. I've never
heard it in his context, but I've also just never
(01:29):
heard it. So so I've never heard of this jilling
in general. I have never heard this. So I was like,
what's that? What's what is this? And at one point
my partner chuckles and it was like, yeah, of course
they would use this, And I was like, wait, is
that a real term? I thought they were just making
up a word, and he was like, no, that's that's
for real, Like you've never heard that, and I was like, no,
(01:50):
I've never heard the term jilling. Would in the world
does that mean? Um? And why? Which I can't why um?
And so I had to go through my own mind.
I did not look it up because I was a
little bit scared to put it through my phone. Which
whatever it's like, I was assuming, because the male term
(02:12):
is jacking off, that there is a jilling as in
jack and jill. But for me, when it came to
the term jacking off, it was because I'm thinking of
like pumping essentially rather than anything else. I'm like, there's
no implications that jilling is a motion, like an emotion
of sorts, right, right? And in case we didn't say
this is a euphemism for masturbation for women. Yes, yes, yes,
(02:37):
I apologize it is um And I thought it would
be interesting because we had this whole episode about funny
euphemism for sex, yes, and and just word words in
general people use to write specifically six scenes. And so
what I've decided is that we're gonna go and talk
(02:59):
about some of these things that I've never heard of,
and my thing will be I'm just gonna get your
reaction and see what your take is on it, as in, like,
do you know why it would be called this? Because
I don't think it's funny. Also, just to put it
in there, Sminthy has done an episode about masturbation and
the benefits of masturbation and if there is any and
by the way, before we start on a very mature
(03:20):
way for us, we wanted to talk about some of
those benefits, which not to talk too much about Annie's
private life. She I think she's You're like gone beyond
the amateur level in this. I just I just want
that to be said ums like such. I don't know,
(03:41):
back at it, compliment, I don't know. I'm always impressed
because you've already told our audience was before that you
have found a talent I have. I have mastered the
hour plus long orgasm. I actually broke my vibrator everybody, um,
pretty recently, which well you'll know. This is how you
(04:03):
know we were true friends. She texted me out of
nowhere that said, I broke my mibrator. Yeah, and I
was like, I think I want to have a service
for it because if all it's done for me. But yeah,
so because my mind is blown, I was like, man,
mine doesn't last like that. What the hell? That's incredible?
(04:24):
Either that's really really incredible or concerning I'm just kidding,
I'm just jellous. Um. And so from a self dot
com article, Yes, the magazine Self and we know we
know what these types are, but they do have some
great information about some of the benefits of masturbation and orgasm,
which includes uh endorphins released during orgasms can help with
(04:46):
stress relief and put you in a great mood. Any
would you say yes to this? Oh yeah, exactly. There's
a level to that. So it puts you in a
great mood, but also says help you focus and push
that stress out of your mind. So it puts more
focus so that was the reason number two, Like, this
is a really great way to do this is to
(05:09):
masturbate and get it going. That mind uses you. I'm
so sorry I just said that, but it is what
it is. I guess. Can't go back. We can't go back.
We're not going back. This is this is the orgasms
can help you sleep, UM, and I think yes I would.
I would agree with that as well. It can also
help with your libido, so not only may start you up,
(05:32):
push you through, can help your sex life, like as
in a relationship, I know that could be a big
turn on for both you and your partner to get
yourself started. They get themselves started and it's like, yeah,
let's go. I guess if you do it for an
hour long plus any uh, it actually can be considered exercise.
Oh yes, this is supposed to be you embarrassing. OK,
(06:04):
you're just enjoying. I had a feeling. Um, but yeah.
Acts In fact, in that article they get a quote
from a doctor that says if you can sustain her
heart rate and work up a sweat, then it's great
for cardiovascular health. So there you go. Great one hour
exercise for you. UM apparently can help specifically with your
butt and your inner thighs. So if you're trying to
tone that out, get the masturbating for an hour, it
(06:30):
could actually help cateract menopause uh effects. So I'm gonna
I'm gonna need these in the future, I think. In
this uh recommendations, Um, it says that you can actually
help with minstrel cramps uh as in release. I always
said when I was going through like p MS or
any of that, that's the last thing I think about.
(06:50):
So well, not true. Sometimes it's the only thing I
think about. And sometimes it's the last thing. It's coored
to how much pain I'm in. And then yeah, you
can actually help with better cognition age again and something.
I'm gonna put it in the bear right here, right here.
And then there's also a scientific talk about helping your
immune system. Um. We're not going to go too deep
into that because I don't know this full research, but
it did say like immediately after like health, heart all
(07:13):
of that stuff. So a few things to benefits of
masturbation for women. So it is normal, it is healthy
as long as you have the time of the day
any uh, to to do this for yourself, which is amazing.
So there's nothing wrong. There's no shame factor here. Uh,
if you are able to do it, if you like
(07:33):
it more than sex, that is also normal. Just a reminder,
and yeah, and this is we're not putting any shame.
What I'm curious about and what I've been trying to
(07:55):
figure out out of everything of this is the naming
of this, because honestly, what are the names that you
know for women masturbating? I only knew, um flicking the theme.
That's the only one. I think that's the one on you.
And if I were to think on it a little harder,
(08:15):
I'm so sorry that I just read one. Um, I
might think of more. But like, of course, we talked
about euphemisms all the time, and you can make things
up as you go, and it makes sense pet taco talk,
you know, conversations about that welcome. But yeah, so here
here are a few. But I'm really excited to talk
(08:38):
about you heard me. Um. The number one is spearing
the bearded clam Oh no, oh no, the imagery imagery.
Oh my gosh, so I am doing Oh my god, y'all. Um,
(08:58):
I think that's self explanatory. But do you think it's
I guess bearing the bearded clam. I've never heard the
term bearded clam for your vagina, so that's a new one. No,
I don't get this one making soup. I don't want
to talk about it, alright, So I'm gonna, I'm gonna.
(09:23):
I'm gonna let you have that one. Dotting the eye,
dotting the eye, trolling the Bermuda triangle, which that seems
not so nice. What do you think? Okay, softening the peach,
Oh yeah, all right, the carrot. Wait, wait, I need
(09:48):
to go back to the soft We need you to
tell me that. Yeah, so again, cuffing the carrot. That
doesn't make sense. What is coffing feel like? Oh? I
(10:08):
think we talked about this. I think when we had
that guests on to talk about words let the book. Yeah,
I think we talked about something in this arena. Okay, yeah,
my brain is trying very hard to retrieve this information.
It isn't not working. But this, yeah, okay, because I
(10:32):
I honestly have no clue what this is. Okay, I
wanna look it up. Oh god, she's doing it. No,
it's essentially cuffing your partner. Yeah, okay, okay, okay, see
that's not who did this, who did that? You're fired?
Manageomi is one of them women explaining yourself finger paint
(11:00):
I think I've heard that term, the finger painting one.
I have not heard that one. Nope, again, jilling has
come up again, obviously, because that's that's I did not know.
But there was so many to that one. Mm hmmm.
Visiting the bat Cave, there seems to be a lot
(11:22):
of references to bats and beards, and I get it.
I get it, but still oddly like, uh, fanning the fur, okay,
buttering your muffin, paddling the pink canoe, dialing the rotary phone,
(11:43):
which I'm like, I don't think that plays anymore. Is
that your biggest concern? Yeah, I don't think that plays.
That's not relevant anymore. It's not anymore. Elbows checking the undercarriage, okay,
getting lost in the deep end I want to getting
lost in the deep. I feel like I should have
just left it there. Knitting straight nitting, don't get it,
(12:05):
just let this sounds painful to me. Auditioning the finger puppets, sure,
and then they're having a doing a Meg Ryan. So
I hope Meg Ryan enjoys the fact that her name
is now synonymous with women masturbating. But that's just a
fake orgasms, right, I'm assuming that's what they're referencing. But
(12:29):
there's something else. I don't feel like that really like
plays here. I like your your breakdown of things. You're like,
wait a minute, this is the gusset typing. No, I
don't know what that is. Grizzle rub oh my goodness,
Jocelyn elder ring. Nope, okay, so I need people to
(12:51):
explain these to me. Now, send them specifically to Samantha please.
Polishing the nugget okay, playing couch hockey for one, okay,
Rubbing the red pussy cat. That is very specific. It
is two finger taco tango. That looks fun. That's some
(13:20):
alliteration in there. Clitters, buff the weasel, beat the beaver.
I like these alliterations here. I think the literations are
the ones that suck truly sticking. Yeah, polishing the peanut, yeah,
(13:43):
lety break limbo. Okay, that that one goes. Yeah, I
required some thought. Yeah he hall with wrinkled me. Mall no,
that's a no from me. Okay, all right, there's this
heat that. Of course, there's several several lists that we
(14:05):
could get into. But y'all, I honestly did. Y'all. I
need to know do people actually use these terms? Yes,
Spancy needs to know. No, I don't know, although you
were answering my question. Okay, okay, I know. In that
word Slid episode, we talked about how there's so much
more kind of slang terms for men to use that aren't.
(14:27):
I haven't historically been offensive women, and I think that
it's pretty telling that neither you or I we really
had that's only one thing that we could think of
when it comes to women masturbating. And as I said before,
I didn't even know women could masturbate until I was
in college. So people are like, we're laughing and it's funny,
(14:47):
but people are ashamed to talk about it, and they
have been. So I'm excited. I want to know from
your listeners, if you feel open to sharing, yeah, let
us know. Do you actually use these terms? Have you
used these terms? Have you heard these terms? Are these
terms more offensive than not? Like? I do have these
questions of like who is who is creating these terms? Right?
(15:09):
Is it the benefit of those who have vaginas or
those or or is it just kind of making fun
of those vaginas. I'm trying to figure this out. Yeah,
and I do think a lot of them are kind
of telling in what we think masturbation for women is,
because it doesn't all look one way, as we talked
about in my when I talked about my orgusting skill.
(15:30):
That's a whole episode you can find about it. We
get real personal here, oh we do. We do well.
If you've got answers to our very important questions, you
can email us. Our email is Stuffiteia mom Stuff at
I heart media dot com. You can find us on
Twitter at mom Stuff podcast or Instagram at stuff I've
Never Told You. Thanks as always to our super producer Christine,
(15:52):
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to you for listening Stuff I Never Told You protection
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Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Step one.
Never told your production of I Heart Radio, and welcome y'all. Yes,
I'm already giggling, chuckling, I guess you would say, so
(00:25):
before we start, go ahead and put this content warning
in here. We're gonna use some explicit language. And what
I mean explicit, i'man sexually explicit and so of these
you wouldn't think would be explicit, and I say in
high pitch, but they are. And uh, yeah, there you
have that warning. So you may not want to play
this around children, You may not want to play this
(00:47):
out loud while you're working all of those things. It
is in s f W okay, okay, good, all right. Yeah.
So the other day, my partner and I are listening
to an audio book on a road trip, actually a
coworker's audiobook, because I was like, oh, my partner's a
big fan of his, and so we're like, yeah, let's
let's take a listen. And a turn came out that
(01:09):
I have never heard of, and I think I immediately
asked you about it, and you said you hadn't either,
and that term is jilling, correct, So you've never heard this, No,
I have never heard I've never heard it. I've never
heard it in his context, but I've also just never
(01:29):
heard it. So so I've never heard of this jilling
in general. I have never heard this. So I was like,
what's that? What's what is this? And at one point
my partner chuckles and it was like, yeah, of course
they would use this, And I was like, wait, is
that a real term? I thought they were just making
up a word, and he was like, no, that's that's
for real, Like you've never heard that, and I was like, no,
(01:50):
I've never heard the term jilling. Would in the world
does that mean? Um? And why? Which I can't why um?
And so I had to go through my own mind.
I did not look it up because I was a
little bit scared to put it through my phone. Which
whatever it's like, I was assuming, because the male term
(02:12):
is jacking off, that there is a jilling as in
jack and jill. But for me, when it came to
the term jacking off, it was because I'm thinking of
like pumping essentially rather than anything else. I'm like, there's
no implications that jilling is a motion, like an emotion
of sorts, right, right? And in case we didn't say
this is a euphemism for masturbation for women. Yes, yes, yes,
(02:37):
I apologize it is um And I thought it would
be interesting because we had this whole episode about funny
euphemism for sex, yes, and and just word words in
general people use to write specifically six scenes. And so
what I've decided is that we're gonna go and talk
(02:59):
about some of these things that I've never heard of,
and my thing will be I'm just gonna get your
reaction and see what your take is on it, as in, like,
do you know why it would be called this? Because
I don't think it's funny. Also, just to put it
in there, Sminthy has done an episode about masturbation and
the benefits of masturbation and if there is any and
by the way, before we start on a very mature
(03:20):
way for us, we wanted to talk about some of
those benefits, which not to talk too much about Annie's
private life. She I think she's You're like gone beyond
the amateur level in this. I just I just want
that to be said ums like such. I don't know,
(03:41):
back at it, compliment, I don't know. I'm always impressed
because you've already told our audience was before that you
have found a talent I have. I have mastered the
hour plus long orgasm. I actually broke my vibrator everybody, um,
pretty recently, which well you'll know. This is how you
(04:03):
know we were true friends. She texted me out of
nowhere that said, I broke my mibrator. Yeah, and I
was like, I think I want to have a service
for it because if all it's done for me. But yeah,
so because my mind is blown, I was like, man,
mine doesn't last like that. What the hell? That's incredible?
(04:24):
Either that's really really incredible or concerning I'm just kidding,
I'm just jellous. Um. And so from a self dot
com article, Yes, the magazine Self and we know we
know what these types are, but they do have some
great information about some of the benefits of masturbation and orgasm,
which includes uh endorphins released during orgasms can help with
(04:46):
stress relief and put you in a great mood. Any
would you say yes to this? Oh yeah, exactly. There's
a level to that. So it puts you in a
great mood, but also says help you focus and push
that stress out of your mind. So it puts more
focus so that was the reason number two, Like, this
is a really great way to do this is to
(05:09):
masturbate and get it going. That mind uses you. I'm
so sorry I just said that, but it is what
it is. I guess. Can't go back. We can't go back.
We're not going back. This is this is the orgasms
can help you sleep, UM, and I think yes I would.
I would agree with that as well. It can also
help with your libido, so not only may start you up,
(05:32):
push you through, can help your sex life, like as
in a relationship, I know that could be a big
turn on for both you and your partner to get
yourself started. They get themselves started and it's like, yeah,
let's go. I guess if you do it for an
hour long plus any uh, it actually can be considered exercise.
Oh yes, this is supposed to be you embarrassing. OK,
(06:04):
you're just enjoying. I had a feeling. Um, but yeah.
Acts In fact, in that article they get a quote
from a doctor that says if you can sustain her
heart rate and work up a sweat, then it's great
for cardiovascular health. So there you go. Great one hour
exercise for you. UM apparently can help specifically with your
butt and your inner thighs. So if you're trying to
tone that out, get the masturbating for an hour, it
(06:30):
could actually help cateract menopause uh effects. So I'm gonna
I'm gonna need these in the future, I think. In
this uh recommendations, Um, it says that you can actually
help with minstrel cramps uh as in release. I always
said when I was going through like p MS or
any of that, that's the last thing I think about.
(06:50):
So well, not true. Sometimes it's the only thing I
think about. And sometimes it's the last thing. It's coored
to how much pain I'm in. And then yeah, you
can actually help with better cognition age again and something.
I'm gonna put it in the bear right here, right here.
And then there's also a scientific talk about helping your
immune system. Um. We're not going to go too deep
into that because I don't know this full research, but
it did say like immediately after like health, heart all
(07:13):
of that stuff. So a few things to benefits of
masturbation for women. So it is normal, it is healthy
as long as you have the time of the day
any uh, to to do this for yourself, which is amazing.
So there's nothing wrong. There's no shame factor here. Uh,
if you are able to do it, if you like
(07:33):
it more than sex, that is also normal. Just a reminder,
and yeah, and this is we're not putting any shame.
What I'm curious about and what I've been trying to
(07:55):
figure out out of everything of this is the naming
of this, because honestly, what are the names that you
know for women masturbating? I only knew, um flicking the theme.
That's the only one. I think that's the one on you.
And if I were to think on it a little harder,
(08:15):
I'm so sorry that I just read one. Um, I
might think of more. But like, of course, we talked
about euphemisms all the time, and you can make things
up as you go, and it makes sense pet taco talk,
you know, conversations about that welcome. But yeah, so here
here are a few. But I'm really excited to talk
(08:38):
about you heard me. Um. The number one is spearing
the bearded clam Oh no, oh no, the imagery imagery.
Oh my gosh, so I am doing Oh my god, y'all. Um,
(08:58):
I think that's self explanatory. But do you think it's
I guess bearing the bearded clam. I've never heard the
term bearded clam for your vagina, so that's a new one. No,
I don't get this one making soup. I don't want
to talk about it, alright, So I'm gonna, I'm gonna.
(09:23):
I'm gonna let you have that one. Dotting the eye,
dotting the eye, trolling the Bermuda triangle, which that seems
not so nice. What do you think? Okay, softening the peach,
Oh yeah, all right, the carrot. Wait, wait, I need
(09:48):
to go back to the soft We need you to
tell me that. Yeah, so again, cuffing the carrot. That
doesn't make sense. What is coffing feel like? Oh? I
(10:08):
think we talked about this. I think when we had
that guests on to talk about words let the book. Yeah,
I think we talked about something in this arena. Okay, yeah,
my brain is trying very hard to retrieve this information.
It isn't not working. But this, yeah, okay, because I
(10:32):
I honestly have no clue what this is. Okay, I
wanna look it up. Oh god, she's doing it. No,
it's essentially cuffing your partner. Yeah, okay, okay, okay, see
that's not who did this, who did that? You're fired?
Manageomi is one of them women explaining yourself finger paint
(11:00):
I think I've heard that term, the finger painting one.
I have not heard that one. Nope, again, jilling has
come up again, obviously, because that's that's I did not know.
But there was so many to that one. Mm hmmm.
Visiting the bat Cave, there seems to be a lot
(11:22):
of references to bats and beards, and I get it.
I get it, but still oddly like, uh, fanning the fur, okay,
buttering your muffin, paddling the pink canoe, dialing the rotary phone,
(11:43):
which I'm like, I don't think that plays anymore. Is
that your biggest concern? Yeah, I don't think that plays.
That's not relevant anymore. It's not anymore. Elbows checking the undercarriage, okay,
getting lost in the deep end I want to getting
lost in the deep. I feel like I should have
just left it there. Knitting straight nitting, don't get it,
(12:05):
just let this sounds painful to me. Auditioning the finger puppets, sure,
and then they're having a doing a Meg Ryan. So
I hope Meg Ryan enjoys the fact that her name
is now synonymous with women masturbating. But that's just a
fake orgasms, right, I'm assuming that's what they're referencing. But
(12:29):
there's something else. I don't feel like that really like
plays here. I like your your breakdown of things. You're like,
wait a minute, this is the gusset typing. No, I
don't know what that is. Grizzle rub oh my goodness,
Jocelyn elder ring. Nope, okay, so I need people to
(12:51):
explain these to me. Now, send them specifically to Samantha please.
Polishing the nugget okay, playing couch hockey for one, okay,
Rubbing the red pussy cat. That is very specific. It
is two finger taco tango. That looks fun. That's some
(13:20):
alliteration in there. Clitters, buff the weasel, beat the beaver.
I like these alliterations here. I think the literations are
the ones that suck truly sticking. Yeah, polishing the peanut, yeah,
(13:43):
lety break limbo. Okay, that that one goes. Yeah, I
required some thought. Yeah he hall with wrinkled me. Mall no,
that's a no from me. Okay, all right, there's this
heat that. Of course, there's several several lists that we
(14:05):
could get into. But y'all, I honestly did. Y'all. I
need to know do people actually use these terms? Yes,
Spancy needs to know. No, I don't know, although you
were answering my question. Okay, okay, I know. In that
word Slid episode, we talked about how there's so much
more kind of slang terms for men to use that aren't.
(14:27):
I haven't historically been offensive women, and I think that
it's pretty telling that neither you or I we really
had that's only one thing that we could think of
when it comes to women masturbating. And as I said before,
I didn't even know women could masturbate until I was
in college. So people are like, we're laughing and it's funny,
(14:47):
but people are ashamed to talk about it, and they
have been. So I'm excited. I want to know from
your listeners, if you feel open to sharing, yeah, let
us know. Do you actually use these terms? Have you
used these terms? Have you heard these terms? Are these
terms more offensive than not? Like? I do have these
questions of like who is who is creating these terms? Right?
(15:09):
Is it the benefit of those who have vaginas or
those or or is it just kind of making fun
of those vaginas. I'm trying to figure this out. Yeah,
and I do think a lot of them are kind
of telling in what we think masturbation for women is,
because it doesn't all look one way, as we talked
about in my when I talked about my orgusting skill.
(15:30):
That's a whole episode you can find about it. We
get real personal here, oh we do. We do well.
If you've got answers to our very important questions, you
can email us. Our email is Stuffiteia mom Stuff at
I heart media dot com. You can find us on
Twitter at mom Stuff podcast or Instagram at stuff I've
Never Told You. Thanks as always to our super producer Christine,
(15:52):
Thank you, and again we're sorry. We're sorry, and thanks
to you for listening Stuff I Never Told You protection
I Heart Radio. For more podcasts from Heart Radio, you
can check out the radio app Apple podcast Lady listen
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