May 13, 2024 • 47 mins
Becca’s new BFF Daisy Kent is in the O.R. and Tanya is handling it well!
Daisy spills everything about her new relationship with a guy who shares a name with a superhero!
We get into the early spoilers that Joey had proposed to Daisy, and how she reacted when she heard the news.
Plus… we find out if Daisy would have said yes to Joey, and if she would have gone on Paradise!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rep An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, everybody,
we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It's gonna be a big scrub day.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
This is a big day. I have been waiting for
this moment.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Beck.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I have never seen Becca more proactive. I have been
very anything with the podcast than getting this guest today.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Truly, this has been I don't know if that's true,
but I have been very excited and like really pushing
to have our guest today.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Yes, and the day has cometh.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
The day Z has come. Whoa yes.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
So you may have seen her on the show The Bachelor.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So today is Monday's z mondaysy Yes, because we have
Daisy Kent, America's sweetheart from the Bachelor, and she is
scrubbing in. Finally. We have been tirelessly working.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
For this, tirelessly, honestly, and I'm happy for you. This
is a big day. I'm happy for her. I'm happy
if she's here as well. But I'm just I'm very
happy for you.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You know you know what this means.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I know this means.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
And I felt like I posted with her and everyone's
like get her on the podcast, and like we.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Are trying and Becca try she did.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I tried hard tonight. I tried so hard that it happened.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Yes, because she is right here, she's here.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Please welcome, Daisy can Hello, Daisy ken Hi. How are you?
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I'm good? How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I'm good? Are you so tired? I?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
I am? But it's also fun.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
You have been going non stop? Yeah, like anyone who
follows you on Instagram, Like when they said we were
shooting today and then I saw your story, I'm like,
are you sure she's in town?
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I blew in last night, and then I'm here today
and then I leave tomorrow to get to Vegas and
then yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
It's so I remember those days long long ago.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Long long ago.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
You relaxed along, but it was this whirlwind of so
much fun, and it would be like get home, packing
up their bag, pack a new bag, you go.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
My room here is like a disaster.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
There's stuff everywhere, but I'll get to it eventual.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, yeah, no, no need to worry about that right now.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Do I haven't seen people fall in love with a
bachelor contestant like this in years? Like, seriously, I am
so curious what life has been like for you and
if there was any expectation that this would happen from
going on the show.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
No, not really.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I mean I knew, like when I was going on
the show, because I'd watched this show like growing up,
Like I knew like there was a possibility of like
gaining like a following of people being like interested, But
I didn't think it was gonna be on like this
scale that it had it has been for me. I
thought it was gonna be like way way smaller. But
(03:05):
I'm really grateful for it all. But it's been crazy
but so fun. And I don't know, it's cool because
like my life has like changed so much so fast,
but it's all like really good things.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, I just feel like people it was a me.
I mean I felt that watching I messaged you night one,
and I was like, there's you know, you watch people
on TV, especially all these reality shows, Like Tanya is not.
She watches reality TV, but she's not a bachelor loyalist.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Okay, first of all.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Because she's all she cares about survivor and traders in
Love Islander.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I have pivoted from love into my gaming eraka where
I am right now. But I wouldn't say I'm not
a bachelor enthusiast.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Oh right, yeah, I think I think that's accurate. Okay,
But I was, you know, like when you're watching reality TV,
there's people that pop and there's just thing different about them,
and you're like, I'm excited to watch what happens with
this person's story, and you're one of those people. And
I think people just felt it from you and your
story of what you've been through and being so open
(04:11):
and vulnerable. And I know that was probably going into
it very yeah, you know hard, knowing that you were
going to be sharing something so personal in a public platform.
Did you have a plan of like when you were
going to share that with him or how you were
going to share that with him going into it.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
So, going into it, I didn't really know because I
had never talked about it before to somebody that like
didn't know me before, and it was really recent that
it all happened, and I felt like it was something
I was like, maybe I should like sit down and
talk to him about it right away and like have
a conversation with him about it right when, Like I
sit down and talk to him, because especially the first night,
(04:50):
it was really hard for me and I was really
struggling but then when I sat down and started talking
to him, I was like, I don't think it's like
it just like it didn't f feel right in that moment.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
We were like talking about other things.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
So then and then on our one on one day,
I didn't feel it was we were like at a
music festival and a helicopter like doing all this stuff.
I'm like, you know, this really isn't where vibe for
me to tell her this like life changing thing that
happened to me. But I think it happened like in
a really good way, and it I think it was
(05:24):
cool too because people got to see me and got
to see like the side of me and how I
was adjusting with it and how it was difficult for
me and stuff like that before I told him, and
he got to like see that too, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
What was your dating life before?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I just I'm gonna say that Becca has been like
so excited to have you on the podcast, like I
feel like asking her to come on for months. It
feels like this, so it feels like Christmas Day, like honest, like, yeah,
that was like the first person to reach out.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
To me, and I was like, oh my gosh, she
just sent me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I think you.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
I forget you posted like something.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
You and then I put I did post you too. Yeah,
I love it.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
It was something I was like, freaking.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Wait, I need to like ask you about that because, like.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Because it's favorite story ever.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, So like Becca dms you and what goes through
your mind? Like did you remember did you watch her?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You grew up watching her.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
It was so funny because I right before we met
in person and you told me you're like it was
just so surreal that you dmned me because I watched
you growing up or when I was young, and we
was a shot to the heart. We had just talked
on the podcast about embracing our age and like getting older,
(06:46):
and so you said that. I was like, but really
you were like fifteen or something.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Literally we did the I feel like I was like eighteen.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I think you're right, you're like eighteen six. Yeah, regardless.
Tanya loved it.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Actually because I have been embracing my age for a
while now, and so I'm happy that Becca has come
to the other side age.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
It was like the gen Z millennial thing being a millennial.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
But I want to know, like when you, like when
she reached out to you, what, what did you feel
because like did you love her like watching her or
like what was it about her?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, And I felt like, I don't know, like I
remember watching you on this show and I was like,
I feel like she's kind of like me, Like when
I was like watching it and my mom she always
like picks her favorites, and you were one of her
favorites that season, because wasn't it It's either Chris and
then Ben. Okay, yeah, so because we got to see
(07:47):
you twice, but especially that was when I was very
invested in watching The Bachelor with my mom. But yeah,
it was just like exciting, and it's just like I don't know,
because I never thought like people like you'd be dming me.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I'm sure You've got lots of dms from people.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, I'm sure Becca was one of many, right, Sorry
the first Yeah, what were some other ones that slid
into your DMS that you were like, I can't believe
this person is dming me.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
I think I think just like at the beginning, it
was interesting just to see like the support I got,
Like Ben Higgins reached out and I talked to him
on the phone a few times just about like things
that I was struggling and struggling with like being like
with the TV show airing and stuff like that, and
then the Lotners have been like super nice and supportive.
(08:37):
So that was super cool because he actually reached out
to me, I think after the first or second episode two,
and then like since then, they've been like a really
really good people for me to like talk to about
even like kind of just like transitioning into like doing
this new thing and stuff. So it's yeah, and it's
been I've I've talked to like Jojo and Hannah Brown,
(09:01):
Ari and Lauren. I don't know, it's just it's really cool,
especially like in like the Bachelor Nation people that have
been on the show, how supportive they have been to me.
It's yeah, it's I don't know, it's just maybe really happy.
It makes me feel really grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I love the pipeline from Bachelor to Taylor Lotner because
he was It's so true.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It's like everybody you named was on the show. And
then it's like and then the like that makes sense
that track.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
My first like celebrity encounter was at an iHeart event
and it was Taylor came up to me and he
tapped me on the shoulder and I turned around and
I was like, Taylor Lotner, that is Jacob Black like
tapping me on the shoulder. So I love how invested
he is in the show, how he really meets you,
you know, yeah, as a Bachelor fan. So you mentioned
(09:52):
some bachelorettes that you spoke to. Yes, I think everyone
in America who was watching the show had a hope
or an idea that maybe you would be the bachelorette. Yeah,
and you were offered that role, correct, Yeah, and tell
I was explaining this to Tanya that we were talking
(10:13):
about it, and she was like, why would you turn
that down? She's like, I don't understand why anyone would
turn that down.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I still don't get it. So for I was.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
Listening because I I think that was a question that
everyone had. They were kind of like, I don't get it.
Why wouldn't you take this opportunity to date someone and
meet someone and be the star of the show.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I think like growing up, if you would have told me, oh,
you're going to be offered the bachelorette, would have been like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Like I'm doing it.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Like it wouldn't have been a question in my mind.
But I think it's it's different when you're sitting in
that position. And then I think being on the show,
I kind of saw the weight of it too, and
it wasn't all the whole spotlight wasn't on me. And
I think I also took my health into like a
big consideration, and I knew it was gonna be going
(11:05):
NonStop and NonStop because you're up really late sometimes even
when you're a contestant on the show, but when you're
the lead, it's like over and over and over again.
And I have like no doubt like they would have
taken care of me completely. But I also just saw
the emotional part that it had on me, and it's
so fast and you like you go through it, and
(11:27):
then there's a break between the show for two months
and then the show starts airing, so really it's like
six months of your life and then even like longer.
So it was just taking into consideration kind of all
aspects of it, and ultimately I just didn't think it
was the best thing for me.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
So, like they call you and they're like, we want
to offer you the role of bachelorette. Do you say,
like I gotta call you guys back or let me
like how long is that? Like? Thought process, like from
when you got it the offer, and when you were
ultimately like, I can't do it.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
I would say it was in conversation, and I was
always very transparent with them about I was really excited
at first when they brought it to me, and then
I was very transparent about the fact that I didn't
know if I wanted to do it, And as soon
as I started feeling that way, that called them and
let them know right away. And I had a lot
of conversations with them, and ultimately they were all really
(12:23):
supportive of me deciding not to do it, and they
all understood why.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
But it was a really.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Difficult decision for me too, because it is a huge
thing and it is something that can like also you
can meet the love of your life, but all so
it can completely change your life too.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
But I think, but.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
Looking back at it, I'm like really happy that I
didn't do it, and I think this was the best
thing for me. And now I'm working on things that
I want to do and doing a bunch of other stuff.
So I think overall it has been It's.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
So interesting because I feel like there's been this like
shift where like I think it's an I mean I
don't think I've ever heard of like two because Maria
said she turned it down to yeah, two different people
turning down the lead. Like I'm like, I feel like
five years I think people now are more concerned about
like their mental physical, like emotional health and well being
versus like five ten years ago, it was just like
(13:19):
you know what I mean, like people just would just
say yes to things and then not really think it through.
Whereas I feel like now it's so different because we're
all focused on like making sure that we're like in
a good place mentally and like emotionally.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Yeah, I do think that. And also there's a lot
more opportunity. I think when you can do you're saying,
like doing your own things that you've been wanting to do,
you have the freedom to do that right now. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
And I think that's the thing too.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I had like all these things that I wanted to do,
and now I was like, I have this opportunity to
do them. But I know if I would have done
the bachelortt like that probably would have came like a yeah,
But it was like but it was just I don't know,
I just felt like everything happened the way it was
supposed to be. And I also I remember being on
the phone of my older sister and we we were
(14:03):
talking about it, and she was like, you know, you're
leaving this on a high note.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Yeah, the lead, you have a lot of ways you
can mess.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
It's so true.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
But yeah, that's kind of funny, dude, But.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Well the bat, I feel like the lead, no matter
how beloved you are, if people if you choose someone
or don't choose someone that people are rooting for, they
are against you. Yeah, So like it's this automatic you're
signing up for automatic criticism. Yeah, because just because you
might not choose the person that someone's rooting for. So
(14:39):
it's true, you kind of have this advantage of being
so loved and you're like, that's not something that's.
Speaker 4 (14:46):
Up right now.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Yeah, it's so true. But I wanted to ask. So
Maria did say that she was offered, and she said,
basically the role was hers to lose. Yeah, when do
you know when the offers were to both of you?
I don't you don't know, Yeah, I don't know, but
I thought that I just I'm like so fascinated that
both of y'all were like the ones that everyone and
(15:08):
everyone was like, let's go it's Maria or Daisy.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I think it was interesting too, because like, me and
Maria are very like different people.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Yeah, but I think that's also why.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
People gravitated towards both of us so much watching the show,
because we are so different, but we both kind of
brought something different to both brought something to the show.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah. So did you feel ready? Like, because what happened
with me is after I did Bend Season. Yeah, I
kind of had this moment where I was like, am
I ready to get married?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Like?
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Is that what I really want right now? Because my
whole life growing up in the South, I was like, Oh,
I'll be married with two kids by twenty.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
Five, That's what I thought.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Yeah, until you have this expectation of how your life's
going to go, But then you go on a show
like this and you have you come out of the show,
and then you have all these experiences and you kind
of go, wait, do I want? Am I ready for that?
Am I ready to sell? Was that part of your
decision at all of saying no, Like, did you feel like, oh,
maybe I'm not actually wanting a husband right now?
Speaker 3 (16:06):
I think if it was the right person, I would,
but I never wanted to feel like rushed and feel
like pressured like I had to do something. And I
mean I could have done it, got to the end
and not picked anyone, but.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
But it's just that I'm like, what if you don't
like any of the guys for you and you're like, oh, this.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
Is not it.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Y'all got it all wrong?
Speaker 5 (16:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Really, do you know me?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:40):
But I think, like I think with that timeline, like
if it was the right person, like I would be
ready to get married. I don't think you can put
a timeline on it really, but I think doing the show,
I also realized that my life had changed so much
in the last year, even with all my house stuff
being better, and it's I'm like, I'm finally living and
(17:02):
like doing things that I want to do and I'm healthy,
and so I wanted to really.
Speaker 4 (17:07):
Focus on that.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Yeah, yeah, what do you want to do?
Speaker 4 (17:11):
What do I want to do?
Speaker 3 (17:12):
So I want to run my nonprofit, which I've been
working on that a lot, which is fun. I want
my goals to be a best selling author, so I
have like a memoir I wrote and just kind of
working on figuring out how.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
To go about all of that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I would love to get more involved in public speaking.
I have like a few things set up for this
year that we're working on, so I would love to
do that. I just want to find a way to
take what I've been through and need to inspire other people,
especially like younger girls and younger kids. I think is
really important because I remember feeling like so insecure about
(17:50):
myself at times because of something that was out of
my control, and so I just want to be able
to put light on all of that.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yeah, when you were going through all your health issues,
did you I know so many people go through autoimmune
and they struggle with, you know, their health, and they
go to doctors and they can't figure it out what
it is. They tell them like it's nothing, you know,
like you're fine. Did you feel a sense of really
having to advocate for yourself because I know Tanya went
(18:19):
through some autoimmune disease stuff and it was like you
really have to fight for yourself. And I know you
had a lot of symptoms that were like blatantly obviously
something's going on.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Yeah, but did you feel that heavily? Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
And I think I'm lucky that I have the parents
that I do that kept like pushing trying to find answers.
But I also would have some doctors that would say
there's nothing else we can do for you. But then
my parents were always like, let's kind a different doctor.
And then it wasn't until I think two years ago
I met my surgeon. And this was after I had
(18:55):
done the treatment in Germany for lime disease. But I
met my surgeon and they still come figure out like
why am I hearing was declining? And I remember her looking,
I mean, she said, I'm not going to give up,
and she's like, if I can't figure out why, I'm
going to find the people who can figure out why
for you. And that was just like it was the
first time I was like someone's like really really like
dedicated to figuring this out, like someone cares about me.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
Yeah, and she's awesome. I have such a good relationship
with her.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
I have my number, so like if I remember worried
about you, text her like, yeah, it's a really cool.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Yeah, she's a really really special doctor.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
I think, Yeah, what a gift to have that in somebody,
to feel like taken care of and seen and yeah,
I know have that. I want to talk about dating now,
but we take a break. Are going to take a break?
Why do you always try to beat me to it?
(20:00):
All right, we're back, so I will be scrolling TikTok.
This was especially when I was on when when the
season was airing. Yeah, and then I think it was
kind of after. It was after because you had obviously
you weren't with Joey. So I would see guys like
shooting their shot and it's not TikTok, yes, and it
would be like crazy, and one of the guys was
(20:22):
so cute and I was like, oh, I could be
invested in this, Like I know nothing about him, but
he looks cute and sweet. Did you see any of these?
Speaker 3 (20:29):
I did, and I saw more of the ones though,
where it would be like a guy and they'd be like,
can finally announce my relationship? And then it'd be like
me on the next one, and I'd be like my
little sister and all our friends would be sending it
to me and they'd be like, do you know this person?
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I was like no.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
And sometimes I would comment on them and I would
be like, ah, funny, this is not true or something,
and the people would always delete that comment because I'm
sure they were like getting some engagement.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
But I did see a lot of those.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
That one guy is really cute, you know, the one
because he kept posting stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:01):
There was like I also a lot of a lot
of high school boys.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
We're doing like this prom thing for like they want
of asking Daisy to go to prom and.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
Twenty five's illegal.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Actually you don't go to prom though that could be
really cute, it's illegal.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I think I don't have the water.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, not like it romantically, but just.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Like it's like there's some things you just don't need
to protect yourself. She's learning. It's yeah, yeah, it's really
sweet and yeah you and but to be left in
that in that category is you yeah, are you dating?
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Yes? I am.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You have a boyfriend. Yes, his name's Thor Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I know. I was leaning up the.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
I remember I saw the headline. I was like, what
a great name.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Yeah, very strong. Wrong man, y'all dated before the show?
Is that correct?
Speaker 4 (21:57):
We dated four years ago?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Oh? Four years ago?
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Yeah, so a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
How did ya is he from your hometown? How'd y'all
meet he in college?
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Okay, so he was like even after we didn't date
for very long, but we were always really good friends
after and our whole college friend group is super close.
And then yeah, and then it just happened the way
it happened.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Who broke up with who?
Speaker 4 (22:24):
He broke up with me?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Interesting?
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Yeah, but it was it was like supposed to. We
just weren't out of place to have a relationship, and
I think at the time we were both just very
like college college, yeah, and just wanted to have fun.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
And so it was the best thing like for both
of us.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
But so how did the rekindling happen? Like how did
he reach out after the show or like while it
was airing?
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Yeah, he reached out and then we It wasn't until
like after the show that we decided to like try
to give it a go.
Speaker 4 (23:01):
Yeah, and we're giving it a go and it's going good.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Was it like after you came back or after the
show aired? After the show aired, okay, because I was
gonna say, it's probably awkward to like, yeah, dating somebody
and then like watch.
Speaker 4 (23:13):
It st going through like so much. So I think, yeah, how.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Is so you're dating someone in your life is just
like crazy fun and you're all over the place. How
is that going for the relationship? Because you're gone a lot.
It's going really good.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
I actually see him like really often.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Really Yeah, Okay, and y'all just went to on a
trip together and you posted it was like you could
just see it was like a man's arm holding you. Yeah,
that was like a launch, right.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
The thing is like to me, I know it feels
like a big deal to like everybody else, but like
to me, it doesn't feel like a really big because
him for so long. Yeah, Like I've known him for
so long. He's always been like a good friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
And then.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Like also I hadn't I had dated other people in
between two and then get it like like before the
show and then went on the show. And the show
has been done for a while. But I don't think
people always understand like, like, the show's over. It didn't
work out for me, So why should I not live
my life and date people and experience this is the
(24:26):
last time?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Yeah? Yeah, I I felt like people were really aggressively
rooting for you and Tyler Cameron, And.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
That was funny.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
When you posted the photos of the two of you
at his event for his show, all the comments were
like it has happened. Connection has been made. But I'm
assuming you were date, had a boyfriend it by that
point or y'all were like talking talking like dang, it's
a tough one to but I guess when your name
(25:01):
is Thor, when your name's Thor, you are good. Let
me tell you.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I don't know him, but I feel like he's probably
very secure man. Yeah, he's awesome. Yeah, But honestly.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
It doesn't have to be really weird though, to be
like in your mind, you're like, I'm just dating and
seeing what happens. And then the rest like of us, Yeah,
all of us were like, that's a man's arm in
her photo hard launch. Thor's arm tattooed, tattooed.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Uh no, not tattoo. He has like a little tattoo
right here. But I don't think like there was oh interesting,
he had like a ring on his finger.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Oh something, there was something, but it was a manly arm.
Speaker 4 (25:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
But I think it's because like you you know, you're
you're I don't know, I'm trying to like.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Well, I think like I was on a reality TV
dating showy, people are gonna actually be more invested in
my dating life, which is okay, totally.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I mean, I Haley and I have been dating for
six years, and for four years we weren't public, and
so yeah, everyone was so like people knew that I
was in a relationship, and they were like, why isn't
she sharing her relationship? Like, yeah, we started following her
because we were trying to watch her fall in love
on TV. Yeah, And all of a sudden, I was like,
(26:24):
why do people care so much? This is my life?
And then I was like, oh, yeah, that's why they
It's why they're here. Yeah, And you just kind of
have to accept that, like people care and there's something
really fun and endearing about it, and it's flattering that
they care about your life. Yeah, but also know like
you you literally get to share or not share whatever
(26:44):
you want.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Yeah. Yeah, And I think that's something that like talking
to you and talking to like other people who have
been on the show and done other things like them
saying that it is completely up to me what I
want to share and what I don't. So I think
I'm still trying to like navigate all of that because
in ways I feel like I do, Like I'm like, oh,
I feel like I feel like I owe it to
(27:06):
people to like share like everything about my life. Yeah,
but I don't, but there is like something so fun
about that and like what you said, like endearing that
people like want to know about me, and like I
always want to be like open and honest with people.
But I think it's just me trying to figure out
(27:26):
how to navigate like exactly like if I completely want
to share my relationship or if I completely want to share.
I've always been very open about my health stuff, and
I think that's a reason people related to me so
well too. But yeah, I think it is like an
interesting thing because I've never had to be.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Like, oh, like you do I think about that? Yeah, yeah, but.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
It Also is like right now in my life, like
I'm so happy and I'm having so much fun and
so I want to share like all of that with people.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Is that like a conversation that you have with thor
I love a conversation? Is that a conversation that you
have with him? Like how like what are you comfortable with?
Like is he comfortable being in the public eye?
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Yeah, definitely, and like I or I don't know if
he's comfortable with it, but he's very Like I called
him before I was coming here, I was just like
I might get asked about it, like do you want
me to not like say anything or what. He's like,
whatever you want to share, but like, if you ever
feel uncomfortable, just say, like that's between me and him.
(28:28):
So he's very supportive of what like I want to
do and like, yeah, all of this too, but he
never ever thought this would have been so I'm sure
when articles started coming out it was shocking.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
He's like, my mom about us weekly I do about this,
which I wanted to ask, how has your family felt
about all of this, because yeah, I know it's it's
weird I imagine for your siblings and your parents to watch. Yeah,
and also they feel probably feel so protective over you,
making sure that no one ever says anything mean and
(29:04):
you don't have control over how people react to you.
So how have they handled it?
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Really well? Yeah, they're all just very excited for me, and.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
Yeah, it's just I think it's really cool because it's
something that like I'm going through and how like my
life is changing and all these cool things are happening
to me. But it's also something that they're involved into
and like they get to see it happening, and it's
really special for them to see how like sad I
was and how low I was so now and now
it feels like everything's happening for a reason. Yeah, so
(29:37):
I think it's really special for like all of us
to look at. But like, definitely, I think especially when
the show was airing and there were times that I
was struggling, I think it was kind of hard on
everyone because like your family, they never want to see
you sad and they want to see you hurting, and
so I think for everyone it was And also they
(29:58):
all knew like what had happened and stuff, but everyone
else thought I was engaged and so like my mom,
I don't think her phone has ever blew up so much.
And like even when I would go home, people were
coming up and hugging me and like congratulating me, and
I think everyone was just kind of like, you know,
it's like that that wasn't it, you.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
Know, but you can't say anything.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
So I think at times it was weird, But right
now it's all happy and all.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Wait, you just reminded me I was going to ask you.
So at the beginning of the season, there was a
spoiler release that you won. Yeah, so for majority of
the season, people were watching through the lens that who
read the spoilers that you were the winner. Yeah, And
then there was a shift I can't remember, like I
want to say around hometowns or something like. It was
towards the end where they announced that Kelsey had won. Yeah,
(30:48):
and spoiler alert that's over. Was that so strange? Like
knowing what you knew and seeing the spoilers and being like,
I mean, I guess I'm just gonna ride this way,
like I can't do anything else about it.
Speaker 5 (31:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
I remember my friend Brindley was I was back in
Minnesota and my friend Brindley was bringing me because I
had After the show, I went back to Minnesota, then
Thanksgiving and then I was fine back to San Diego.
My friend Brinley brought me to the airport and I
was like about to get out of her car and
one of my friends texted me and like the screenshot
of it, and I was like, oh my gosh, Brinley,
(31:29):
and she was like what and I like showed her
and she was like, wait then you had won?
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Yeah, that I had.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Won, and we were both like what, like what what
do we do? And then my flight was leaving, so
I had to out of her car and then my
phone was just like blowing up, and like all of
my guy friends were texting me like congratulations, and I was.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
One a lot of my girl.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
The door text ground I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (31:52):
Hear the group chats. But yeah, like everyone was like
happy for me.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, oh my gosh, you must have been so relieved
find out that you were.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
But I had like.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
We both like I had no idea that he was
still interested, but it was like, but yeah, I remember
like getting that and I was like, okay, like now.
Speaker 4 (32:13):
What do I do?
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Because it was just and then I was in the
airport and I was just like my mind was just
going a million different ways, and it was like fairly
like recent after I got back, so I was still
like I was still going through a lot of the
emotions and I was still getting over it and like
over the whole process. It was still difficult for me
in ways, and so now I was like, Okay, everybody
(32:38):
thinks it's me and it's not.
Speaker 4 (32:39):
Yeah, so that was it was difficult.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
But then I was like, Okay, I can either be
really like upset about this and have it like still
make me upset, or I can have fun with it
and go with my friends and they can all buy
me shots.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
So you're like texting Kelsey like are you and Joey together?
Speaker 3 (33:02):
Or I was like, did I imagine everything?
Speaker 1 (33:08):
I have a vague memory of how this wind and
I'm confused now, which I did want to ask, do
you feel like, in hindsight, would you have said yes
to a proposal?
Speaker 4 (33:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
It's hard to put myself in that position because it
was so like it was so I.
Speaker 4 (33:26):
Knew it wasn't me, and I knew it wasn't like right.
Speaker 3 (33:29):
For me and him to be together. So I don't know,
it's hard for me to put myself in that position.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
I've heard you say the moment you knew was after
the when it was just the final two, and it
was the row ceremony where it got down to final
two and you saw them look at each other.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Yeah, yeah, and I could yeah, Like I was like, oh, honestly, like,
so props on being so self aware, because you're like,
not the friend.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
He's not looking at me because he doesn't want to
give it to get it away.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
The interesting thing though, about because people like and they
were like a bunch of like tweets and they're not
tweet sounds what are they called, I don't know, but
a bunch of yeah threads and some social media stuff
about me being like, oh, she's like so self aware
and one of the producers that was with me for
majority of the time that I'm so super super close
(34:35):
with she told me she was like, I've never met
somebody that's like can like read other people so well
and be like so in touch with how other people
are feeling.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
It's a gift. And I think it's I think.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
And then we started talking about my like hearing, and
I think it's because I had to rely so much
on body language and facial expressions and lip reading for
a good portion of my life because my hearing slowly
dec and then it was basically almost all gone. And
so I'm like, and so it was interesting when she
pointed that out to me.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
That's so interesting, Yeah, because like, did you ever know
that about yourself? Like, did you ever feel like you
were intuitive about people? And there I always.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
Kind of did, because people open up to me, I
feel like in a way that they don't always open
up to other people, And even people I'm not very
close with will like tell me their like deepest darkest secrets.
Speaker 4 (35:26):
Like I'm like a secret keeper.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Heavy stuff. It's a lot of weight to hear.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
But but yeah, so I think from people always being
so open with me, I kind of got that, but
I'm also very open with people back, like in return.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
So do you still keep in touch with them Joey
and Kelsey?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (35:47):
Uh huh yeah. I just saw Kelsey. Uh couple weeks ago,
say church, but stay sho, We're just on a little
trip fun. Yeah did you that's nice?
Speaker 2 (36:00):
Mm hmm like that they're friends, Yeah, going after the
same guy, you know, yeah, uh huh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
I mean I think the way Daisy handled it made
it very easy for them to be but.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Keep it cordial and like not be friends, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 4 (36:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:17):
Do you was it hard watching? Because I know when
I talked to you said it was just one of
the best experiences of your life, Like you look back
on it with so many positive things, And I had
the same experience. But there were people in my season
that it was really challenging and they look back and
we're like, I wish I wouldn't have done that, which
I couldn't even fathom because I was, like, I had
(36:38):
the greatest time and life is so fun. Now I
know your best friends with Sydney who had such a
different experience than you in terms of, you know, how
she's perceived and how the show went. Was that hard
for you because you were literally America's sweetheart and then
one of your best friends was probably having a really
(37:00):
hard time while the show is airing.
Speaker 3 (37:03):
Yeah, it was hard for me because I saw, like
I had like such a great experience like you did,
and then I saw girls too that it was really
really hard to And I think you never know how
people are going to react to you when it like
starts airing, and you never know exactly how it's going
to go. But it was it was really hard to
(37:25):
see them go through that, especially like Sydney and Leia
what they had to deal with and go through. And
I think all of the girls on the cast like
saw and realize like all the stuff online, like everything
that was being said like wasn't okay, Like they're human
and like it was it was like a it was
(37:46):
a really sad thing. And it still makes me like
really sad that that happened, yeah to her and Leah.
But that's why I like, like now I feel like
like I always want to be somebody that like uplifts
them and like people don't, like when I told the
girls about my cochlear implant, and I stayed up a
(38:08):
little later talking with one of the producers about like
my date the next day because I had the one
on one, so he came down and sat with me
and stayed up for like an extra like thirty forty
five minutes, like, and this was when I had just
met her and just told them all and was just
talking to me about like different ways I could talk
about it and different things. So it's just it makes
me sad that people didn't get to see that side
(38:30):
of Sydney.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Yeah, yeah, well that's what I think is cool, is
like now since the show, it's like they're y'all are
hanging out and people, you know, you kind of gravitate
towards people who are like you. So I think it's
it's really beautiful and healthy to see that someone that
they love so much like you, is also best friends
(38:52):
with someone that they had a totally off perception of.
And that's saying that Sydney didn't say or do things
that maybe was like yeah, but I think that people don't.
But you don't realize the bubble you're in like it is.
It is a crazy experience when you're in it and
you have no outside perspective or you don't know what's
going on. You know, you don't have your phone, you
(39:13):
don't have your family or friends, and yeah, it's so
different than people even can even conceptualize in their head.
So I think it's I'm happy that they have someone
like you, you know, and also that you have been
able to be a good friend to them.
Speaker 4 (39:30):
Yeah definitely.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:32):
Yeah, and they both too have helped me in like
so many ways too, Lay also, so that's really cool. Yeah,
and I'm friends with a lot of the girls too.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
So what's your sign?
Speaker 4 (39:42):
My sign? Virgo?
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Oh what are you? I'm a Scorpio Okay. I just
feel like the way that you're very intuitive. I feel
like I have a lot of Scorpio friends and I
can be a little intuitive. So I was like, oh,
she has any Yeah, not what Tanya is? Okay, I
don't know if you've talked about this, okay, but I
(40:05):
want to ask about it. Okay. Some scrolling TikTok and
this music video pops up. I'm like, that's Daisy in
this video?
Speaker 5 (40:17):
What video you'll share it, what music video you'll have
to So it was like four years ago when I
was like one of my like really good friends, Brandon.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
He does a bunch of like music stuff, He's very creative.
But yeah, you made this song music do you want
to sing on it? And I was like sure, so
I did it and then it started going viral.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Did you die?
Speaker 3 (40:45):
When it was I was like, I was laughing about
the whole thing. It Actually it didn't make me like
upset at all, because I don't know, we just thought
it was like funny and we were laughing about it,
and like most people were just like laughing about it
and like making fun of me, but not being like
me and me now.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
They're just like I can't believe this is Daisy because
the lyrics and that's why dirty.
Speaker 4 (41:08):
It was also yeah dirty.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
Like dirty, like like dirty.
Speaker 4 (41:14):
It's very like it's very out of fucket.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
You can listen to do it later.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
But because I didn't like realize and then I think
it was one of my when was the first time,
I think it was one of my friends from home
texted in like our group chat with like my like
middle school high school friends, like we're all very close
to texted and they were like, guys, so this is.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
Happening and I was like oh, and then it was
like all over TikTok. But honestly, it was kind.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
Of not a good point in the show because it
was when like I wasn't getting a lot of airtime
and I was just kind of fall behind, and then
that came up and I was like, oh, there's Dasy again.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
She's back a very unexpected way. Yeah. So do you sing?
Speaker 4 (42:03):
I do? Yeah, I haven't.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
You didn't talk about that on the show.
Speaker 2 (42:07):
Do you want to be a singer?
Speaker 3 (42:09):
No? I don't, but I used to do all growing up.
I did theater and I did piano. I taught myself
how to play guitar, so I was always very like
music musical. Yeah, and I really like did love it.
But then when I started losing my hearing, it got
really frustrating for me, so I stopped doing it. But
(42:31):
it's something that I really want to get back into
just to kind of prove to myself that I can.
Speaker 4 (42:35):
Still do it.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
And I do really love it, so I would like
to do something with it, like eventually, mainly just for myself.
Speaker 2 (42:44):
Do you feel work two to that?
Speaker 1 (42:45):
Yeah, do you feel like playing instruments now that you
feel like you're in a good place with your health.
Do you feel like it'd be like riding a bike,
you know, like picking it up or do you feel
like you're are you starting from scratch learning something like that.
Speaker 3 (43:00):
It would definitely be like riding a bike. I mean,
I still have a piano in my room and I'll
still like dink around on it every once in a while.
Speaker 4 (43:08):
My guitar I haven't played in a while, but yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
Definitely like i'd something that I want to start doing
because I'll be like playing guitar or piano and like singing,
and I'll think I'll be doing it for like ten minutes,
and I'll be doing it for like two hours.
Speaker 4 (43:21):
I just get like lost in it.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
So I know, I've always wanted to learn to play
so not and like we could.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
It's just the ukulele and covid Tanya like having YouTube
videos that I watched and learned nothing. So it's a gift.
Utilize that gift.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
Yeah, it really is, like and especially I mean the
fact that you can play for that long and it
feels like ten minutes, that means that it's something you're
supposed to do.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Yeah, yeah, so yeah, I do want to get like
back into it and start doing it, mainly just for myself.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
But what are your I know we talked about about
what you want to do, but what do you see
yourself like goals for this next year?
Speaker 4 (44:07):
For this next year, I would love to get like
my memoir published and be a bestseller. Yeah, be a bestseller. Yeah,
I want toish that for you too, what I wish
that for you too? Thank you?
Speaker 3 (44:23):
And it's interesting because what I wrote, it's about my
it's my whole life like before the Bachelor, Like I
had it like completely written like.
Speaker 4 (44:31):
A while before I went on the show.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
So crazy because I just like I've always loved writing,
and so it's like interesting because it goes through like
my health and when it was like really dark and
like getting my cochlear implant and making those decisions. So
I think it'll it would show people a lot more
of me, which I think is cool. So I definitely
want to do that.
Speaker 4 (44:55):
I really want to like do more public speaking.
Speaker 3 (44:57):
I would love to public speaking schools, take care and
just keep working on my nonprofit.
Speaker 1 (45:04):
So did you if there had been a paradise, would
you have gone on Paradise, I.
Speaker 3 (45:11):
Don't think so, yeah, but I don't know it Probably
it probably would have been like different if they would
have had it, because but I don't know well, and
I also.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Think it would have been different if it's my favorite.
Speaker 4 (45:26):
I think it would have been a good year to
have paradise.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
Though, because y'all had the best past in such.
Speaker 4 (45:31):
A long time and it was so interestingly they could
have gotten like so much more, so much good stuff. Yeah,
but I also.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I don't I'm interested to see what gens guys are like, yeah, that's.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
The right, they're like making this shift and like right,
I hope.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
I hope for her saying they're good, we love you
so much, thank you for scrubbing.
Speaker 4 (45:54):
Out, thank you.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
I was a little bit jealous of you.
Speaker 1 (45:57):
For like, oh yeah, she got so up. She thought
we had like a whole day together that day we
went to two events. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:03):
I was like, so you spend twenty four hours with
this new days a friend and I have.
Speaker 4 (46:08):
To go do something sometimes.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Yeah, yeah, we'll go together, well twenty four hours yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Oh a day event, oh and a night event.
Speaker 1 (46:17):
Yeah. I have to deal with a lot of territorial
issues with her. I thought it would change what she
got engaged, but it hasn't. It's actually probably worse. It's
weird territorially.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Friends and fiance.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
Yeah, so us. We love you so much. I hope
that everything that you want to do comes true, and
I have a really good feeling that it will.
Speaker 4 (46:40):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
I really appreciate it, and come back whenever.
Speaker 1 (46:43):
Yeah, our doors open will with his hammer, I mean,
that's that could be bad. All right, We're going to
end it right there.
Speaker 5 (46:53):
We love it.
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rep An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, everybody,
we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It's gonna be a big scrub day.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
This is a big day. I have been waiting for
this moment.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
Beck.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I have never seen Becca more proactive. I have been
very anything with the podcast than getting this guest today.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Truly, this has been I don't know if that's true,
but I have been very excited and like really pushing
to have our guest today.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Yes, and the day has cometh.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
The day Z has come. Whoa yes.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
So you may have seen her on the show The Bachelor.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So today is Monday's z mondaysy Yes, because we have
Daisy Kent, America's sweetheart from the Bachelor, and she is
scrubbing in. Finally. We have been tirelessly working.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
For this, tirelessly, honestly, and I'm happy for you. This
is a big day. I'm happy for her. I'm happy
if she's here as well. But I'm just I'm very
happy for you.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
You know you know what this means.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
I know this means.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
And I felt like I posted with her and everyone's
like get her on the podcast, and like we.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Are trying and Becca try she did.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I tried hard tonight. I tried so hard that it happened.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Yes, because she is right here, she's here.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Please welcome, Daisy can Hello, Daisy ken Hi. How are you?
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I'm good? How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I'm good? Are you so tired? I?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
I am? But it's also fun.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
You have been going non stop? Yeah, like anyone who
follows you on Instagram, Like when they said we were
shooting today and then I saw your story, I'm like,
are you sure she's in town?
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I blew in last night, and then I'm here today
and then I leave tomorrow to get to Vegas and
then yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
It's so I remember those days long long ago.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Long long ago.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
You relaxed along, but it was this whirlwind of so
much fun, and it would be like get home, packing
up their bag, pack a new bag, you go.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
My room here is like a disaster.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
There's stuff everywhere, but I'll get to it eventual.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, yeah, no, no need to worry about that right now.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Do I haven't seen people fall in love with a
bachelor contestant like this in years? Like, seriously, I am
so curious what life has been like for you and
if there was any expectation that this would happen from
going on the show.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
No, not really.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
I mean I knew, like when I was going on
the show, because I'd watched this show like growing up,
Like I knew like there was a possibility of like
gaining like a following of people being like interested, But
I didn't think it was gonna be on like this
scale that it had it has been for me. I
thought it was gonna be like way way smaller. But
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I'm really grateful for it all. But it's been crazy
but so fun. And I don't know, it's cool because
like my life has like changed so much so fast,
but it's all like really good things.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yeah, I just feel like people it was a me.
I mean I felt that watching I messaged you night one,
and I was like, there's you know, you watch people
on TV, especially all these reality shows, Like Tanya is not.
She watches reality TV, but she's not a bachelor loyalist.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Okay, first of all.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Because she's all she cares about survivor and traders in
Love Islander.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I have pivoted from love into my gaming eraka where
I am right now. But I wouldn't say I'm not
a bachelor enthusiast.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Oh right, yeah, I think I think that's accurate. Okay,
But I was, you know, like when you're watching reality TV,
there's people that pop and there's just thing different about them,
and you're like, I'm excited to watch what happens with
this person's story, and you're one of those people. And
I think people just felt it from you and your
story of what you've been through and being so open
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and vulnerable. And I know that was probably going into
it very yeah, you know hard, knowing that you were
going to be sharing something so personal in a public platform.
Did you have a plan of like when you were
going to share that with him or how you were
going to share that with him going into it.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
So, going into it, I didn't really know because I
had never talked about it before to somebody that like
didn't know me before, and it was really recent that
it all happened, and I felt like it was something
I was like, maybe I should like sit down and
talk to him about it right away and like have
a conversation with him about it right when, Like I
sit down and talk to him, because especially the first night,
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it was really hard for me and I was really
struggling but then when I sat down and started talking
to him, I was like, I don't think it's like
it just like it didn't f feel right in that moment.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
We were like talking about other things.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
So then and then on our one on one day,
I didn't feel it was we were like at a
music festival and a helicopter like doing all this stuff.
I'm like, you know, this really isn't where vibe for
me to tell her this like life changing thing that
happened to me. But I think it happened like in
a really good way, and it I think it was
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cool too because people got to see me and got
to see like the side of me and how I
was adjusting with it and how it was difficult for
me and stuff like that before I told him, and
he got to like see that too, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
What was your dating life before?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I just I'm gonna say that Becca has been like
so excited to have you on the podcast, like I
feel like asking her to come on for months. It
feels like this, so it feels like Christmas Day, like honest, like, yeah,
that was like the first person to reach out.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
To me, and I was like, oh my gosh, she
just sent me.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
I think you.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
I forget you posted like something.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
You and then I put I did post you too. Yeah,
I love it.
Speaker 4 (06:05):
It was something I was like, freaking.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Wait, I need to like ask you about that because, like.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Because it's favorite story ever.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, So like Becca dms you and what goes through
your mind? Like did you remember did you watch her?
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
You grew up watching her.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
It was so funny because I right before we met
in person and you told me you're like it was
just so surreal that you dmned me because I watched
you growing up or when I was young, and we
was a shot to the heart. We had just talked
on the podcast about embracing our age and like getting older,
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and so you said that. I was like, but really
you were like fifteen or something.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Literally we did the I feel like I was like eighteen.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I think you're right, you're like eighteen six. Yeah, regardless.
Tanya loved it.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Actually because I have been embracing my age for a
while now, and so I'm happy that Becca has come
to the other side age.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
It was like the gen Z millennial thing being a millennial.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
But I want to know, like when you, like when
she reached out to you, what, what did you feel
because like did you love her like watching her or
like what was it about her?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
Yeah, And I felt like, I don't know, like I
remember watching you on this show and I was like,
I feel like she's kind of like me, Like when
I was like watching it and my mom she always
like picks her favorites, and you were one of her
favorites that season, because wasn't it It's either Chris and
then Ben. Okay, yeah, so because we got to see
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you twice, but especially that was when I was very
invested in watching The Bachelor with my mom. But yeah,
it was just like exciting, and it's just like I don't know,
because I never thought like people like you'd be dming me.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I'm sure You've got lots of dms from people.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, I'm sure Becca was one of many, right, Sorry
the first Yeah, what were some other ones that slid
into your DMS that you were like, I can't believe
this person is dming me.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
I think I think just like at the beginning, it
was interesting just to see like the support I got,
Like Ben Higgins reached out and I talked to him
on the phone a few times just about like things
that I was struggling and struggling with like being like
with the TV show airing and stuff like that, and
then the Lotners have been like super nice and supportive.
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So that was super cool because he actually reached out
to me, I think after the first or second episode two,
and then like since then, they've been like a really
really good people for me to like talk to about
even like kind of just like transitioning into like doing
this new thing and stuff. So it's yeah, and it's
been I've I've talked to like Jojo and Hannah Brown,
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Ari and Lauren. I don't know, it's just it's really cool,
especially like in like the Bachelor Nation people that have
been on the show, how supportive they have been to me.
It's yeah, it's I don't know, it's just maybe really happy.
It makes me feel really grateful.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I love the pipeline from Bachelor to Taylor Lotner because
he was It's so true.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It's like everybody you named was on the show. And
then it's like and then the like that makes sense
that track.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
My first like celebrity encounter was at an iHeart event
and it was Taylor came up to me and he
tapped me on the shoulder and I turned around and
I was like, Taylor Lotner, that is Jacob Black like
tapping me on the shoulder. So I love how invested
he is in the show, how he really meets you,
you know, yeah, as a Bachelor fan. So you mentioned
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some bachelorettes that you spoke to. Yes, I think everyone
in America who was watching the show had a hope
or an idea that maybe you would be the bachelorette. Yeah,
and you were offered that role, correct, Yeah, and tell
I was explaining this to Tanya that we were talking
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about it, and she was like, why would you turn
that down? She's like, I don't understand why anyone would
turn that down.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I still don't get it. So for I was.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
Listening because I I think that was a question that
everyone had. They were kind of like, I don't get it.
Why wouldn't you take this opportunity to date someone and
meet someone and be the star of the show.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I think like growing up, if you would have told me, oh,
you're going to be offered the bachelorette, would have been like, yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Like I'm doing it.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Like it wouldn't have been a question in my mind.
But I think it's it's different when you're sitting in
that position. And then I think being on the show,
I kind of saw the weight of it too, and
it wasn't all the whole spotlight wasn't on me. And
I think I also took my health into like a
big consideration, and I knew it was gonna be going
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NonStop and NonStop because you're up really late sometimes even
when you're a contestant on the show, but when you're
the lead, it's like over and over and over again.
And I have like no doubt like they would have
taken care of me completely. But I also just saw
the emotional part that it had on me, and it's
so fast and you like you go through it, and
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then there's a break between the show for two months
and then the show starts airing, so really it's like
six months of your life and then even like longer.
So it was just taking into consideration kind of all
aspects of it, and ultimately I just didn't think it
was the best thing for me.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
So, like they call you and they're like, we want
to offer you the role of bachelorette. Do you say,
like I gotta call you guys back or let me
like how long is that? Like? Thought process, like from
when you got it the offer, and when you were
ultimately like, I can't do it.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
I would say it was in conversation, and I was
always very transparent with them about I was really excited
at first when they brought it to me, and then
I was very transparent about the fact that I didn't
know if I wanted to do it, And as soon
as I started feeling that way, that called them and
let them know right away. And I had a lot
of conversations with them, and ultimately they were all really
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supportive of me deciding not to do it, and they
all understood why.
Speaker 4 (12:28):
But it was a really.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Difficult decision for me too, because it is a huge
thing and it is something that can like also you
can meet the love of your life, but all so
it can completely change your life too.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
But I think, but.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
Looking back at it, I'm like really happy that I
didn't do it, and I think this was the best
thing for me. And now I'm working on things that
I want to do and doing a bunch of other stuff.
So I think overall it has been It's.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
So interesting because I feel like there's been this like
shift where like I think it's an I mean I
don't think I've ever heard of like two because Maria
said she turned it down to yeah, two different people
turning down the lead. Like I'm like, I feel like
five years I think people now are more concerned about
like their mental physical, like emotional health and well being
versus like five ten years ago, it was just like
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you know what I mean, like people just would just
say yes to things and then not really think it through.
Whereas I feel like now it's so different because we're
all focused on like making sure that we're like in
a good place mentally and like emotionally.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
Yeah, I do think that. And also there's a lot
more opportunity. I think when you can do you're saying,
like doing your own things that you've been wanting to do,
you have the freedom to do that right now. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
And I think that's the thing too.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
I had like all these things that I wanted to do,
and now I was like, I have this opportunity to
do them. But I know if I would have done
the bachelortt like that probably would have came like a yeah,
But it was like but it was just I don't know,
I just felt like everything happened the way it was
supposed to be. And I also I remember being on
the phone of my older sister and we we were
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talking about it, and she was like, you know, you're
leaving this on a high note.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Yeah, the lead, you have a lot of ways you
can mess.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
It's so true.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
But yeah, that's kind of funny, dude, But.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Well the bat, I feel like the lead, no matter
how beloved you are, if people if you choose someone
or don't choose someone that people are rooting for, they
are against you. Yeah, So like it's this automatic you're
signing up for automatic criticism. Yeah, because just because you
might not choose the person that someone's rooting for. So
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it's true, you kind of have this advantage of being
so loved and you're like, that's not something that's.
Speaker 4 (14:46):
Up right now.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Yeah, it's so true. But I wanted to ask. So
Maria did say that she was offered, and she said,
basically the role was hers to lose. Yeah, when do
you know when the offers were to both of you?
I don't you don't know, Yeah, I don't know, but
I thought that I just I'm like so fascinated that
both of y'all were like the ones that everyone and
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everyone was like, let's go it's Maria or Daisy.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I think it was interesting too, because like, me and
Maria are very like different people.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Yeah, but I think that's also why.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
People gravitated towards both of us so much watching the show,
because we are so different, but we both kind of
brought something different to both brought something to the show.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
Yeah. So did you feel ready? Like, because what happened
with me is after I did Bend Season. Yeah, I
kind of had this moment where I was like, am
I ready to get married?
Speaker 3 (15:38):
Like?
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Is that what I really want right now? Because my
whole life growing up in the South, I was like, Oh,
I'll be married with two kids by twenty.
Speaker 4 (15:45):
Five, That's what I thought.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Yeah, until you have this expectation of how your life's
going to go, But then you go on a show
like this and you have you come out of the show,
and then you have all these experiences and you kind
of go, wait, do I want? Am I ready for that?
Am I ready to sell? Was that part of your
decision at all of saying no, Like, did you feel like, oh,
maybe I'm not actually wanting a husband right now?
Speaker 3 (16:06):
I think if it was the right person, I would,
but I never wanted to feel like rushed and feel
like pressured like I had to do something. And I
mean I could have done it, got to the end
and not picked anyone, but.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
But it's just that I'm like, what if you don't
like any of the guys for you and you're like, oh, this.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
Is not it.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Y'all got it all wrong?
Speaker 5 (16:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (16:38):
Really, do you know me?
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:40):
But I think, like I think with that timeline, like
if it was the right person, like I would be
ready to get married. I don't think you can put
a timeline on it really, but I think doing the show,
I also realized that my life had changed so much
in the last year, even with all my house stuff
being better, and it's I'm like, I'm finally living and
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like doing things that I want to do and I'm healthy,
and so I wanted to really.
Speaker 4 (17:07):
Focus on that.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
Yeah, yeah, what do you want to do?
Speaker 4 (17:11):
What do I want to do?
Speaker 3 (17:12):
So I want to run my nonprofit, which I've been
working on that a lot, which is fun. I want
my goals to be a best selling author, so I
have like a memoir I wrote and just kind of
working on figuring out how.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
To go about all of that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I would love to get more involved in public speaking.
I have like a few things set up for this
year that we're working on, so I would love to
do that. I just want to find a way to
take what I've been through and need to inspire other people,
especially like younger girls and younger kids. I think is
really important because I remember feeling like so insecure about
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myself at times because of something that was out of
my control, and so I just want to be able
to put light on all of that.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yeah, when you were going through all your health issues,
did you I know so many people go through autoimmune
and they struggle with, you know, their health, and they
go to doctors and they can't figure it out what
it is. They tell them like it's nothing, you know,
like you're fine. Did you feel a sense of really
having to advocate for yourself because I know Tanya went
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through some autoimmune disease stuff and it was like you
really have to fight for yourself. And I know you
had a lot of symptoms that were like blatantly obviously
something's going on.
Speaker 4 (18:29):
Yeah, but did you feel that heavily? Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
And I think I'm lucky that I have the parents
that I do that kept like pushing trying to find answers.
But I also would have some doctors that would say
there's nothing else we can do for you. But then
my parents were always like, let's kind a different doctor.
And then it wasn't until I think two years ago
I met my surgeon. And this was after I had
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done the treatment in Germany for lime disease. But I
met my surgeon and they still come figure out like
why am I hearing was declining? And I remember her looking,
I mean, she said, I'm not going to give up,
and she's like, if I can't figure out why, I'm
going to find the people who can figure out why
for you. And that was just like it was the
first time I was like someone's like really really like
dedicated to figuring this out, like someone cares about me.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
Yeah, and she's awesome. I have such a good relationship
with her.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
I have my number, so like if I remember worried
about you, text her like, yeah, it's a really cool.
Speaker 4 (19:28):
Yeah, she's a really really special doctor.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
I think, Yeah, what a gift to have that in somebody,
to feel like taken care of and seen and yeah,
I know have that. I want to talk about dating now,
but we take a break. Are going to take a break?
Why do you always try to beat me to it?
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All right, we're back, so I will be scrolling TikTok.
This was especially when I was on when when the
season was airing. Yeah, and then I think it was
kind of after. It was after because you had obviously
you weren't with Joey. So I would see guys like
shooting their shot and it's not TikTok, yes, and it
would be like crazy, and one of the guys was
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so cute and I was like, oh, I could be
invested in this, Like I know nothing about him, but
he looks cute and sweet. Did you see any of these?
Speaker 3 (20:29):
I did, and I saw more of the ones though,
where it would be like a guy and they'd be like,
can finally announce my relationship? And then it'd be like
me on the next one, and I'd be like my
little sister and all our friends would be sending it
to me and they'd be like, do you know this person?
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I was like no.
Speaker 3 (20:43):
And sometimes I would comment on them and I would
be like, ah, funny, this is not true or something,
and the people would always delete that comment because I'm
sure they were like getting some engagement.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
But I did see a lot of those.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
That one guy is really cute, you know, the one
because he kept posting stuff.
Speaker 4 (21:01):
There was like I also a lot of a lot
of high school boys.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
We're doing like this prom thing for like they want
of asking Daisy to go to prom and.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
Twenty five's illegal.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Actually you don't go to prom though that could be
really cute, it's illegal.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
I think I don't have the water.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, not like it romantically, but just.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Like it's like there's some things you just don't need
to protect yourself. She's learning. It's yeah, yeah, it's really
sweet and yeah you and but to be left in
that in that category is you yeah, are you dating?
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Yes? I am.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You have a boyfriend. Yes, his name's Thor Yes.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I know. I was leaning up the.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
I remember I saw the headline. I was like, what
a great name.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Yeah, very strong. Wrong man, y'all dated before the show?
Is that correct?
Speaker 4 (21:57):
We dated four years ago?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Oh? Four years ago?
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Yeah, so a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
How did ya is he from your hometown? How'd y'all
meet he in college?
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Okay, so he was like even after we didn't date
for very long, but we were always really good friends
after and our whole college friend group is super close.
And then yeah, and then it just happened the way
it happened.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Who broke up with who?
Speaker 4 (22:24):
He broke up with me?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Interesting?
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Yeah, but it was it was like supposed to. We
just weren't out of place to have a relationship, and
I think at the time we were both just very
like college college, yeah, and just wanted to have fun.
Speaker 4 (22:41):
And so it was the best thing like for both
of us.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
But so how did the rekindling happen? Like how did
he reach out after the show or like while it
was airing?
Speaker 3 (22:51):
Yeah, he reached out and then we It wasn't until
like after the show that we decided to like try
to give it a go.
Speaker 4 (23:01):
Yeah, and we're giving it a go and it's going good.
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Was it like after you came back or after the
show aired? After the show aired, okay, because I was
gonna say, it's probably awkward to like, yeah, dating somebody
and then like watch.
Speaker 4 (23:13):
It st going through like so much. So I think, yeah, how.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Is so you're dating someone in your life is just
like crazy fun and you're all over the place. How
is that going for the relationship? Because you're gone a lot.
It's going really good.
Speaker 4 (23:32):
I actually see him like really often.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Really Yeah, Okay, and y'all just went to on a
trip together and you posted it was like you could
just see it was like a man's arm holding you. Yeah,
that was like a launch, right.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
The thing is like to me, I know it feels
like a big deal to like everybody else, but like
to me, it doesn't feel like a really big because
him for so long. Yeah, Like I've known him for
so long. He's always been like a good friend of mine.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
And then.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
Like also I hadn't I had dated other people in
between two and then get it like like before the
show and then went on the show. And the show
has been done for a while. But I don't think
people always understand like, like, the show's over. It didn't
work out for me, So why should I not live
my life and date people and experience this is the
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last time?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Yeah? Yeah, I I felt like people were really aggressively
rooting for you and Tyler Cameron, And.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
That was funny.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
When you posted the photos of the two of you
at his event for his show, all the comments were
like it has happened. Connection has been made. But I'm
assuming you were date, had a boyfriend it by that
point or y'all were like talking talking like dang, it's
a tough one to but I guess when your name
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is Thor, when your name's Thor, you are good. Let
me tell you.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
I don't know him, but I feel like he's probably
very secure man. Yeah, he's awesome. Yeah, But honestly.
Speaker 1 (25:17):
It doesn't have to be really weird though, to be
like in your mind, you're like, I'm just dating and
seeing what happens. And then the rest like of us, Yeah,
all of us were like, that's a man's arm in
her photo hard launch. Thor's arm tattooed, tattooed.
Speaker 4 (25:35):
Uh no, not tattoo. He has like a little tattoo
right here. But I don't think like there was oh interesting,
he had like a ring on his finger.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
Oh something, there was something, but it was a manly arm.
Speaker 4 (25:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
But I think it's because like you you know, you're
you're I don't know, I'm trying to like.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Well, I think like I was on a reality TV
dating showy, people are gonna actually be more invested in
my dating life, which is okay, totally.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I mean, I Haley and I have been dating for
six years, and for four years we weren't public, and
so yeah, everyone was so like people knew that I
was in a relationship, and they were like, why isn't
she sharing her relationship? Like, yeah, we started following her
because we were trying to watch her fall in love
on TV. Yeah, And all of a sudden, I was like,
(26:24):
why do people care so much? This is my life?
And then I was like, oh, yeah, that's why they
It's why they're here. Yeah, And you just kind of
have to accept that, like people care and there's something
really fun and endearing about it, and it's flattering that
they care about your life. Yeah, but also know like
you you literally get to share or not share whatever
(26:44):
you want.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Yeah. Yeah, And I think that's something that like talking
to you and talking to like other people who have
been on the show and done other things like them
saying that it is completely up to me what I
want to share and what I don't. So I think
I'm still trying to like navigate all of that because
in ways I feel like I do, Like I'm like, oh,
I feel like I feel like I owe it to
(27:06):
people to like share like everything about my life. Yeah,
but I don't, but there is like something so fun
about that and like what you said, like endearing that
people like want to know about me, and like I
always want to be like open and honest with people.
But I think it's just me trying to figure out
(27:26):
how to navigate like exactly like if I completely want
to share my relationship or if I completely want to share.
I've always been very open about my health stuff, and
I think that's a reason people related to me so
well too. But yeah, I think it is like an
interesting thing because I've never had to be.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Like, oh, like you do I think about that? Yeah, yeah, but.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
It Also is like right now in my life, like
I'm so happy and I'm having so much fun and
so I want to share like all of that with people.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Is that like a conversation that you have with thor
I love a conversation? Is that a conversation that you
have with him? Like how like what are you comfortable with?
Like is he comfortable being in the public eye?
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Yeah, definitely, and like I or I don't know if
he's comfortable with it, but he's very Like I called
him before I was coming here, I was just like
I might get asked about it, like do you want
me to not like say anything or what. He's like,
whatever you want to share, but like, if you ever
feel uncomfortable, just say, like that's between me and him.
(28:28):
So he's very supportive of what like I want to
do and like, yeah, all of this too, but he
never ever thought this would have been so I'm sure
when articles started coming out it was shocking.
Speaker 1 (28:42):
He's like, my mom about us weekly I do about this,
which I wanted to ask, how has your family felt
about all of this, because yeah, I know it's it's
weird I imagine for your siblings and your parents to watch. Yeah,
and also they feel probably feel so protective over you,
making sure that no one ever says anything mean and
(29:04):
you don't have control over how people react to you.
So how have they handled it?
Speaker 4 (29:08):
Really well? Yeah, they're all just very excited for me, and.
Speaker 3 (29:14):
Yeah, it's just I think it's really cool because it's
something that like I'm going through and how like my
life is changing and all these cool things are happening
to me. But it's also something that they're involved into
and like they get to see it happening, and it's
really special for them to see how like sad I
was and how low I was so now and now
it feels like everything's happening for a reason. Yeah, so
(29:37):
I think it's really special for like all of us
to look at. But like, definitely, I think especially when
the show was airing and there were times that I
was struggling, I think it was kind of hard on
everyone because like your family, they never want to see
you sad and they want to see you hurting, and
so I think for everyone it was And also they
(29:58):
all knew like what had happened and stuff, but everyone
else thought I was engaged and so like my mom,
I don't think her phone has ever blew up so much.
And like even when I would go home, people were
coming up and hugging me and like congratulating me, and
I think everyone was just kind of like, you know,
it's like that that wasn't it, you.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
Know, but you can't say anything.
Speaker 3 (30:21):
So I think at times it was weird, But right
now it's all happy and all.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Wait, you just reminded me I was going to ask you.
So at the beginning of the season, there was a
spoiler release that you won. Yeah, so for majority of
the season, people were watching through the lens that who
read the spoilers that you were the winner. Yeah, And
then there was a shift I can't remember, like I
want to say around hometowns or something like. It was
towards the end where they announced that Kelsey had won. Yeah,
(30:48):
and spoiler alert that's over. Was that so strange? Like
knowing what you knew and seeing the spoilers and being like,
I mean, I guess I'm just gonna ride this way,
like I can't do anything else about it.
Speaker 5 (31:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:05):
I remember my friend Brindley was I was back in
Minnesota and my friend Brindley was bringing me because I
had After the show, I went back to Minnesota, then
Thanksgiving and then I was fine back to San Diego.
My friend Brinley brought me to the airport and I
was like about to get out of her car and
one of my friends texted me and like the screenshot
of it, and I was like, oh my gosh, Brinley,
(31:29):
and she was like what and I like showed her
and she was like, wait then you had won?
Speaker 2 (31:33):
Yeah, that I had.
Speaker 3 (31:34):
Won, and we were both like what, like what what
do we do? And then my flight was leaving, so
I had to out of her car and then my
phone was just like blowing up, and like all of
my guy friends were texting me like congratulations, and I was.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
One a lot of my girl.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
The door text ground I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (31:52):
Hear the group chats. But yeah, like everyone was like
happy for me.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
Yeah, oh my gosh, you must have been so relieved
find out that you were.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
But I had like.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
We both like I had no idea that he was
still interested, but it was like, but yeah, I remember
like getting that and I was like, okay, like now.
Speaker 4 (32:13):
What do I do?
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Because it was just and then I was in the
airport and I was just like my mind was just
going a million different ways, and it was like fairly
like recent after I got back, so I was still
like I was still going through a lot of the
emotions and I was still getting over it and like
over the whole process. It was still difficult for me
in ways, and so now I was like, Okay, everybody
(32:38):
thinks it's me and it's not.
Speaker 4 (32:39):
Yeah, so that was it was difficult.
Speaker 3 (32:41):
But then I was like, Okay, I can either be
really like upset about this and have it like still
make me upset, or I can have fun with it
and go with my friends and they can all buy
me shots.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
So you're like texting Kelsey like are you and Joey together?
Speaker 3 (33:02):
Or I was like, did I imagine everything?
Speaker 1 (33:08):
I have a vague memory of how this wind and
I'm confused now, which I did want to ask, do
you feel like, in hindsight, would you have said yes
to a proposal?
Speaker 4 (33:22):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
It's hard to put myself in that position because it
was so like it was so I.
Speaker 4 (33:26):
Knew it wasn't me, and I knew it wasn't like right.
Speaker 3 (33:29):
For me and him to be together. So I don't know,
it's hard for me to put myself in that position.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
I've heard you say the moment you knew was after
the when it was just the final two, and it
was the row ceremony where it got down to final
two and you saw them look at each other.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
Yeah, yeah, and I could yeah, Like I was like, oh, honestly, like,
so props on being so self aware, because you're like,
not the friend.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
He's not looking at me because he doesn't want to
give it to get it away.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
The interesting thing though, about because people like and they
were like a bunch of like tweets and they're not
tweet sounds what are they called, I don't know, but
a bunch of yeah threads and some social media stuff
about me being like, oh, she's like so self aware
and one of the producers that was with me for
majority of the time that I'm so super super close
(34:35):
with she told me she was like, I've never met
somebody that's like can like read other people so well
and be like so in touch with how other people
are feeling.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
It's a gift. And I think it's I think.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
And then we started talking about my like hearing, and
I think it's because I had to rely so much
on body language and facial expressions and lip reading for
a good portion of my life because my hearing slowly
dec and then it was basically almost all gone. And
so I'm like, and so it was interesting when she
pointed that out to me.
Speaker 1 (35:07):
That's so interesting, Yeah, because like, did you ever know
that about yourself? Like, did you ever feel like you
were intuitive about people? And there I always.
Speaker 3 (35:16):
Kind of did, because people open up to me, I
feel like in a way that they don't always open
up to other people, And even people I'm not very
close with will like tell me their like deepest darkest secrets.
Speaker 4 (35:26):
Like I'm like a secret keeper.
Speaker 1 (35:29):
Heavy stuff. It's a lot of weight to hear.
Speaker 3 (35:32):
But but yeah, so I think from people always being
so open with me, I kind of got that, but
I'm also very open with people back, like in return.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
So do you still keep in touch with them Joey
and Kelsey?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (35:47):
Uh huh yeah. I just saw Kelsey. Uh couple weeks ago,
say church, but stay sho, We're just on a little
trip fun. Yeah did you that's nice?
Speaker 2 (36:00):
Mm hmm like that they're friends, Yeah, going after the
same guy, you know, yeah, uh huh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
I mean I think the way Daisy handled it made
it very easy for them to be but.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Keep it cordial and like not be friends, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 4 (36:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (36:17):
Do you was it hard watching? Because I know when
I talked to you said it was just one of
the best experiences of your life, Like you look back
on it with so many positive things, And I had
the same experience. But there were people in my season
that it was really challenging and they look back and
we're like, I wish I wouldn't have done that, which
I couldn't even fathom because I was, like, I had
(36:38):
the greatest time and life is so fun. Now I
know your best friends with Sydney who had such a
different experience than you in terms of, you know, how
she's perceived and how the show went. Was that hard
for you because you were literally America's sweetheart and then
one of your best friends was probably having a really
(37:00):
hard time while the show is airing.
Speaker 3 (37:03):
Yeah, it was hard for me because I saw, like
I had like such a great experience like you did,
and then I saw girls too that it was really
really hard to And I think you never know how
people are going to react to you when it like
starts airing, and you never know exactly how it's going
to go. But it was it was really hard to
(37:25):
see them go through that, especially like Sydney and Leia
what they had to deal with and go through. And
I think all of the girls on the cast like
saw and realize like all the stuff online, like everything
that was being said like wasn't okay, Like they're human
and like it was it was like a it was
(37:46):
a really sad thing. And it still makes me like
really sad that that happened, yeah to her and Leah.
But that's why I like, like now I feel like
like I always want to be somebody that like uplifts
them and like people don't, like when I told the
girls about my cochlear implant, and I stayed up a
(38:08):
little later talking with one of the producers about like
my date the next day because I had the one
on one, so he came down and sat with me
and stayed up for like an extra like thirty forty
five minutes, like, and this was when I had just
met her and just told them all and was just
talking to me about like different ways I could talk
about it and different things. So it's just it makes
me sad that people didn't get to see that side
(38:30):
of Sydney.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
Yeah, yeah, well that's what I think is cool, is
like now since the show, it's like they're y'all are
hanging out and people, you know, you kind of gravitate
towards people who are like you. So I think it's
it's really beautiful and healthy to see that someone that
they love so much like you, is also best friends
(38:52):
with someone that they had a totally off perception of.
And that's saying that Sydney didn't say or do things
that maybe was like yeah, but I think that people don't.
But you don't realize the bubble you're in like it is.
It is a crazy experience when you're in it and
you have no outside perspective or you don't know what's
going on. You know, you don't have your phone, you
(39:13):
don't have your family or friends, and yeah, it's so
different than people even can even conceptualize in their head.
So I think it's I'm happy that they have someone
like you, you know, and also that you have been
able to be a good friend to them.
Speaker 4 (39:30):
Yeah definitely.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:32):
Yeah, and they both too have helped me in like
so many ways too, Lay also, so that's really cool. Yeah,
and I'm friends with a lot of the girls too.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
So what's your sign?
Speaker 4 (39:42):
My sign? Virgo?
Speaker 1 (39:44):
Oh what are you? I'm a Scorpio Okay. I just
feel like the way that you're very intuitive. I feel
like I have a lot of Scorpio friends and I
can be a little intuitive. So I was like, oh,
she has any Yeah, not what Tanya is? Okay, I
don't know if you've talked about this, okay, but I
(40:05):
want to ask about it. Okay. Some scrolling TikTok and
this music video pops up. I'm like, that's Daisy in
this video?
Speaker 5 (40:17):
What video you'll share it, what music video you'll have
to So it was like four years ago when I
was like one of my like really good friends, Brandon.
Speaker 3 (40:31):
He does a bunch of like music stuff, He's very creative.
But yeah, you made this song music do you want
to sing on it? And I was like sure, so
I did it and then it started going viral.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Did you die?
Speaker 3 (40:45):
When it was I was like, I was laughing about
the whole thing. It Actually it didn't make me like
upset at all, because I don't know, we just thought
it was like funny and we were laughing about it,
and like most people were just like laughing about it
and like making fun of me, but not being like
me and me now.
Speaker 1 (41:03):
They're just like I can't believe this is Daisy because
the lyrics and that's why dirty.
Speaker 4 (41:08):
It was also yeah dirty.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
Like dirty, like like dirty.
Speaker 4 (41:14):
It's very like it's very out of fucket.
Speaker 1 (41:17):
You can listen to do it later.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
But because I didn't like realize and then I think
it was one of my when was the first time,
I think it was one of my friends from home
texted in like our group chat with like my like
middle school high school friends, like we're all very close
to texted and they were like, guys, so this is.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
Happening and I was like oh, and then it was
like all over TikTok. But honestly, it was kind.
Speaker 3 (41:49):
Of not a good point in the show because it
was when like I wasn't getting a lot of airtime
and I was just kind of fall behind, and then
that came up and I was like, oh, there's Dasy again.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
She's back a very unexpected way. Yeah. So do you sing?
Speaker 4 (42:03):
I do? Yeah, I haven't.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
You didn't talk about that on the show.
Speaker 2 (42:07):
Do you want to be a singer?
Speaker 3 (42:09):
No? I don't, but I used to do all growing up.
I did theater and I did piano. I taught myself
how to play guitar, so I was always very like
music musical. Yeah, and I really like did love it.
But then when I started losing my hearing, it got
really frustrating for me, so I stopped doing it. But
(42:31):
it's something that I really want to get back into
just to kind of prove to myself that I can.
Speaker 4 (42:35):
Still do it.
Speaker 3 (42:36):
And I do really love it, so I would like
to do something with it, like eventually, mainly just for myself.
Speaker 2 (42:44):
Do you feel work two to that?
Speaker 1 (42:45):
Yeah, do you feel like playing instruments now that you
feel like you're in a good place with your health.
Do you feel like it'd be like riding a bike,
you know, like picking it up or do you feel
like you're are you starting from scratch learning something like that.
Speaker 3 (43:00):
It would definitely be like riding a bike. I mean,
I still have a piano in my room and I'll
still like dink around on it every once in a while.
Speaker 4 (43:08):
My guitar I haven't played in a while, but yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (43:12):
Definitely like i'd something that I want to start doing
because I'll be like playing guitar or piano and like singing,
and I'll think I'll be doing it for like ten minutes,
and I'll be doing it for like two hours.
Speaker 4 (43:21):
I just get like lost in it.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
So I know, I've always wanted to learn to play
so not and like we could.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
It's just the ukulele and covid Tanya like having YouTube
videos that I watched and learned nothing. So it's a gift.
Utilize that gift.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
Yeah, it really is, like and especially I mean the
fact that you can play for that long and it
feels like ten minutes, that means that it's something you're
supposed to do.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
Yeah, yeah, so yeah, I do want to get like
back into it and start doing it, mainly just for myself.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
But what are your I know we talked about about
what you want to do, but what do you see
yourself like goals for this next year?
Speaker 4 (44:07):
For this next year, I would love to get like
my memoir published and be a bestseller. Yeah, be a bestseller. Yeah,
I want toish that for you too, what I wish
that for you too? Thank you?
Speaker 3 (44:23):
And it's interesting because what I wrote, it's about my
it's my whole life like before the Bachelor, Like I
had it like completely written like.
Speaker 4 (44:31):
A while before I went on the show.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
So crazy because I just like I've always loved writing,
and so it's like interesting because it goes through like
my health and when it was like really dark and
like getting my cochlear implant and making those decisions. So
I think it'll it would show people a lot more
of me, which I think is cool. So I definitely
want to do that.
Speaker 4 (44:55):
I really want to like do more public speaking.
Speaker 3 (44:57):
I would love to public speaking schools, take care and
just keep working on my nonprofit.
Speaker 1 (45:04):
So did you if there had been a paradise, would
you have gone on Paradise, I.
Speaker 3 (45:11):
Don't think so, yeah, but I don't know it Probably
it probably would have been like different if they would
have had it, because but I don't know well, and
I also.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
Think it would have been different if it's my favorite.
Speaker 4 (45:26):
I think it would have been a good year to
have paradise.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
Though, because y'all had the best past in such.
Speaker 4 (45:31):
A long time and it was so interestingly they could
have gotten like so much more, so much good stuff. Yeah,
but I also.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I don't I'm interested to see what gens guys are like, yeah, that's.
Speaker 2 (45:42):
The right, they're like making this shift and like right,
I hope.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
I hope for her saying they're good, we love you
so much, thank you for scrubbing.
Speaker 4 (45:54):
Out, thank you.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
I was a little bit jealous of you.
Speaker 1 (45:57):
For like, oh yeah, she got so up. She thought
we had like a whole day together that day we
went to two events. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:03):
I was like, so you spend twenty four hours with
this new days a friend and I have.
Speaker 4 (46:08):
To go do something sometimes.
Speaker 1 (46:09):
Yeah, yeah, we'll go together, well twenty four hours yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
Oh a day event, oh and a night event.
Speaker 1 (46:17):
Yeah. I have to deal with a lot of territorial
issues with her. I thought it would change what she
got engaged, but it hasn't. It's actually probably worse. It's
weird territorially.
Speaker 2 (46:28):
Friends and fiance.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
Yeah, so us. We love you so much. I hope
that everything that you want to do comes true, and
I have a really good feeling that it will.
Speaker 4 (46:40):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
I really appreciate it, and come back whenever.
Speaker 1 (46:43):
Yeah, our doors open will with his hammer, I mean,
that's that could be bad. All right, We're going to
end it right there.
Speaker 5 (46:53):
We love it.
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