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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in scrub.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Dub Dum.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
And we have a Dear Bonya episode.
Speaker 5 (00:24):
Yes we do.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Wait before we.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Get into that. The people were asking the food that
you had in Chicago. Oh wow, if there were any standouts?
Speaker 4 (00:33):
And I like a Chicago dog off the street.
Speaker 6 (00:36):
Yeah. Yes, I tried to eat as much Chicago food
as I could when we were there in the Serning
Metropolitan Areas had I had a Chicago dog from Devil
Dogs that I did not like. I did not like it.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Why too much junk on it?
Speaker 6 (00:51):
Too much junk and whatever. There was some kind of
seasoning or relish. It tasted like minnestrone soup.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Nothing like that.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
Was it recommended to you that it was?
Speaker 6 (01:01):
That came. I asked scrubbers for advice, and Devil Dogs
came up a lot and they led me astray.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I think it a celery salt. They put on a
Chicago dog.
Speaker 6 (01:08):
That would do it.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
That's it.
Speaker 6 (01:10):
I was not happy with that Chicago dog. I had
two pizzas. I went to Luma Hotti's and I went
to Pea Quads.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Man, I love Chicago pizza.
Speaker 6 (01:17):
Oh my god, I loved it. I had pea quads.
That's the one they went to in the Bear. Sam
and I went to the same location they went to
in the Bear.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
In the bedroom where they went and got it for
the celebrating anniversary or something.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
Yeah, that was good salmon. I went and got in
order to go, and then we satted a close down
cafe outdoor seating and had some pizza. It was delicious.
Speaker 5 (01:35):
You love pizza.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Let me tell you, I'm gonna have something this weekend
for it.
Speaker 6 (01:42):
Popcorn I did. I did have Garrets popcorn I got
at the airport and it was delicious. I was eating
it yesterday to get the Chicago style I did. I
got Garrett's mix. It's half caramel corn, half cheddar cheese, which.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
You wouldn't think would go together, but man, oh man.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Does something about that makes sense.
Speaker 6 (02:00):
Works it rules. I bought it from the airport and
the total price came out to six dollars and sixty
six cents, and I got superstitious about that, so I
did not open it on the plane. Wow, I thought
that would be summoning the devil to our flight. So
I wait until I got home.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
I'm gonna say I respect that.
Speaker 6 (02:16):
Yeah, but it was delicious. I think if you're going
to Chicago, you gotta go to Peaquad's. That's that was
the standout by far of all those places that I went.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
I am so impressed with Easton's.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Like, I know, I talk about this all this time
all the time, but his lack of sleep slash stamina
to go see and experience things while.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
On those short trips.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
It's like, I admire it so much because I will
never be that person.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
But I'm like, barely what because we drink?
Speaker 4 (02:42):
I don't drink that much? Oh really Yeah, no, I
think I'm just lazy.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I'm like, god, this is sureka moment, I'm like, it's
because he doesn't drink, so he's never hung over.
Speaker 6 (02:53):
This one was rough because I stayed out really late
and then I got up early and I did not
eat like the pickle on my Chicago dog I think
was the only vegetab like the whole time I was there,
So that was I was pushing it. But uh, but
I had a lot of fun and uh and I
did my work. I did a great job of my
work and uh, and I got to see a bunch
of coolteff and hung out with a good friend of mine.
I went to some tiki bars while I was there too.
That was a lot of fun. Yeah, yeah, I made
(03:15):
a good time.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
You saw that. You saw the sites.
Speaker 6 (03:16):
I saw all the sites. I saw the bridge where
the Dave Matthews band had the incident. If you don't
know what I'm talking about, I'm not gonna say it
on the look it up. They had an issue with
the the septic tank on their tour bus. Oh not
familiar with that, Well, look at Dave Matthews band the incident.
I saw the site of that happening. I went to
the rock and roll McDonald's. I saw all the sites
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Chicago had to offer.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
It's like he was there longer than we were, but
he wasn't you know.
Speaker 7 (03:42):
Yeah that the bus had to empty that thing and
they added it in the wrong place and there was
a sight seeing bod underneath where they have did.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
It, and people got then, oh my god, I bridge.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
There are plenty of lawsuits involved.
Speaker 6 (04:00):
Oh yeah, yeah it was it was a tour bus
driver that made the mistake.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
I have like chills.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
We were getting on our flight back from uh Chicago,
and Tanya opted out of getting snacks because she was anticipating,
you know, having something on the plane. And so I
had all my snacks, guardettos, nerd clusters, cheese and cracker,
little tarcutery situation.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Snack pack.
Speaker 5 (04:27):
Creases, peanut butter cups, cookie dough bites.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Yeah, cookie dough bites. I just had a collection.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
You know, guess who had her paws and everything the
whole flight home.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
In my defense, I got really nauseous when I got
on the flight for some reason, Like I was feeling
really nauseous, so I was like, I really do need
one of those crackers.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yeah, So I was giving her crackers and cheese, trying
to settle her stomach, and then she just kept going.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah, I didn't need to go for the nerds clusters,
but I but I did.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
I did go for the nerds clusters.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
That was fun.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Though.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I enjoy when you eat my like I enjoy when
you eat the food with me, because I love that
you enjoy it, even though you try to pretend that
you don't.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
It's so satisfied.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
Kale chip, Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
But you sure finished the bag. When I was going
to try and throw them away, I was like are
you done? And you're like, are there more in there?
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
A nerds clustered let me tell you, but let me
I forgot to mention the other day because I was
in my bubble about Chris Martin.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
I am so obsessed with Chris Martin. It does not.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Every experience have had with that man has been life altering.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Tell me about it.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
He's so kind, he looks you in the eye, he
remembers your name. He's so humble, he has no ego.
And I saw him at the festival. I didn't like
to see him in person. I saw him perform, but
like it was so otherworldly, Like he makes you feel
like you're the only person in the audience. And he's
so calm and cool and collected, and I just love
him like I love him.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
It's like, oh, my bucket, let's just see a cold
Play concert.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
I've never been.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I saw them perform at the halftime in the super
Bowl when and went with Amy.
Speaker 8 (06:08):
Okay, oh my gosh, I'll never Okay, Like a cold
Play concert is a different It is like singing sky
full of Stars with like all.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Yeah, but yeah, let's want to come to New York
this weekend. I think he's going to be a global citizen.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I'm okay, thank you, Okay, we do have Dear Bonya.
So I think they're all they're not all anonymous today.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
No they're not. But here's the thing, and this is,
by the way, if you are a more praise for
our producer, Sam, if you're a young aspiring podcast producer
out there, write this down. So last time we did
Dear Bonia, we're trying to figure out which ones to do,
you know, we're looking ahead. Look, that's interesting. That's the thing.
We're like, Oh, which one do you want to they're
all anonymous? Do you want to the one this anonymous?
You wanted the other one? The anonymous? On page six, Sam,
(07:00):
without being asked, thanks to herself. Oh, they're having trouble
describing which ones they're talking about. I'm going to give
each one a title, and now they'll be able to
refer to them. And specifically, let's give it up for Sam.
Who did you ask her to do that? She said
that on her own. She saw a need and she
filled it. Yeah, that's what a good producer does.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
Yeah, honestly, thank you guys, love you.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
Ah. You want to start with the one title new
husband's life.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Yeah, it feels like a new book.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Yeah. I married my husband in April after three years
of dating, and everything seemed to be going well. Recently,
I found out that a friend of ours, who I
thought didn't like me, has a history with my husband.
My husband confessed that, yes, he and the friend they
hooked up a few months before we met, and he
told our friends not to tell me about it. I
feel betrayed because he let me be belittled and withheld
(07:49):
this information despite our openness about past flings. This is
the second time he's hitting something from his past with
another girl, and I'm struggling with how to trust him
now as a twenty six year old newly what I
feel hurt, confused, and unsure about what to do next.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
Here's the thing. I don't like.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Something like this not being shared or disclosed up front,
and I understand that if he's immature and doesn't have
the emotional maturity to come forth about that, then he's thinking,
I'm going to this doesn't matter to me because it's
in the past, and I don't think it's a big deal,
so I don't want to tell her. I think he
just thinks that I don't want her to get so
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angry at me that.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
It causes a huge fight.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
But what he's done is now he's betrayed your trust,
and it does feel it is going to turn into
a big fight because he omitted the truth out of
potentially trying to save himself from having to get into
an argument with you about it.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I'm gonna be honest, None of this bothers me, aside
from the fact that he told his friends not to
tell you about it. That to me is the problem.
The fact that he's hooked up with people before he
met you, Like, to me, it's.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
Like, don't like I don't want someone they both know.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Right, But like, I'm just like, that's in his past
is before he met you. Don't go in the past.
You're his present and his future. It's like, what's in
the past is in the past. But what I don't
like is that he intentionally told his friends not to
tell you about it, which to me means he's hiding it,
which I don't like.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Right, And I think that's just I think it's just
emotional immaturity of being like, I'm scared. I don't want
to own up to it. I told him I don't
want to it to turn into something. And so now
he's coming across as untrustful and omitting the truth.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Well, I think you can communicate that and say, look,
I know you did nothing wrong. There's nothing wrong with
you hooking up with Sarah. But what really bothers me
is that you were telling people not to tell me,
and it's just making me question. I don't like that,
and so that's the feeling that's coming up for me.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
And leave it at that.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Yeah, and he wouldn't want you don't don't about this.
You know that is a weird thing. But Becca's exactly right.
Guys are dumb. You can add this to the many
many questions we've answered on the show that I answer
with guys are dumb. Guy, he's just trying to avoid conflict.
And I've been this guy before and stupid. But he'll
figure it out. Don't worry about it, No nothing, don't
(10:19):
worry about it. Don't feel like your marriage is in trouble.
You guys can get through this. You're gonna be honest
with him. He's going to figure out that this was
not worth it. He made a mistake here, and you're
going to get through this together. And he will mature.
If you're twenty seven, I'm going to guess he's similar.
I maintain guy who do not grow up until they
are at least thirty three, so it's gonna be okay.
But yes, he just wanted to avoid conflict because that's
(10:40):
a huge goal for guys. We want quiet, we want
no conflict, and that's all he was trying to do.
Did he handle it, well, no, but he'll figure that out.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
Yeah, you live and you learn.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
It's also like him needing to trust you that you
can handle that information. Yeah, Like it's like proving to
each other that you can trust each other and get
through things. If he had just it's like he didn't
trust that she could handle the fact that he dated
someone that they both.
Speaker 5 (11:06):
Know, right, Like maybe your reaction would be like yeah,
because it blowed.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
So there's been things where like Haley was like, oh,
I didn't think it was important. I didn't want you
to get upset, and I'm like, well, I feel more
upset because you didn't tell me. But she was like,
I didn't trust that you would be able to hand
handle it. So that that's a little something we've worked
on in therapy.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
So can we take a break next, Yeah, let's take
a break.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Did you catch that.
Speaker 4 (11:53):
From losing to us?
Speaker 2 (11:56):
All right?
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It takes you like multiple days to recoup? Clearly, no,
Like this is like scientific.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Yeah yeah, my body biological.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
It's the deficit you're running correct.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Yeah, well, you're gonna be asleep. I have a good
feeling about like eight eight pm tonight.
Speaker 5 (12:11):
It's gonna be decadent.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
All right.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
We have an email from Cassidy and the title is
newly Single.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
I started listening to scrubbing in after the second People's
choice whin that's funny, she shared about the first one.
She's like, I don't know, yeah, that she was in
and I've never looked back. I absolutely love all four
of you, and I personally identifires more of a mark.
Oh well, thank you very much, thank you for keeping
me company while I get ready. I'm newly single, twenty
seven year old female after a ten year relationship and
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a one and a half year relationship that I thought
was it. I am ready to be on the dating
scene and have been on two so far. I just
downloaded Hinge and have no idea what the expectations are.
I get mixed reviews about whether people truly use it
to go on dates and find people. Also, safety feels
like a big concern meeting in public. Being sure, I
get friends my location, but at what point is it
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expected that we're going to end up watching a movie
at someone's place? Looking for dating tips here. I've got
the similar mindset as Tanya. This is a numbers game,
and I love getting to know people, But what are
the expectations out there? Help? Tanya? You met your fiance
on Hinge?
Speaker 6 (13:18):
I did, so what do you.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Have to say to young?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
But I didn't.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
I never felt any sort of expectation to go back
to someone's house early on, Like I never even if
it was maybe expected or but like I never felt
I never took on that expectation because I just did
it when I was comfortable. So I want to say
for the first uh with Robbie, it was different because
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I felt very like my vagina told me early on,
like something's different here. But I don't think like we
went to We didn't. He didn't come over until like
maybe the third or fourth date. So I feel like
if it's a first or second date, I feel like
there's zero expectation there to go back to someone's house.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
No, Yeah, I mean no, I think that's just the
comfort level that you have to feel with your intuition.
Speaker 4 (14:08):
Like I don't think there. I would probably.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
You know, if you're on a date, if you're feeling
a little if that's something that makes you feel anxious,
I would like really make sure you get to experience
being out with them and seeing how they treat the waiters,
like just paying attention to certain little details, you know,
and make sure that if you have them back at
your house, someone knows that someone's coming over, just like
be cautious.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
That's the other thing too, because I feel like when
you met Haley, like you you guys had mutual friends,
so it's like you knew that she wasn't like a psycho,
do you know what I mean? Right, when you meet
someone on the dating app and you don't have mutual friends, like,
that's the scary thing because it's.
Speaker 5 (14:43):
Like there's nobody to vouch for them.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
You have no idea, like you don't know, right, So
that's where it's like, Yeah, tell your friends where you're going,
tell them if they're coming over, Like I always put
everybody on alert.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
And I do think if you're in a tell there's
got to be someone that knows that person. Like, I
just feel like if you're if you live in this
same city as someone. I mean, obviously there's big cities,
but even in.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
LA there's people who know each other.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
If you, you know, go on Facebook or Instagram and
see who's fat, if there's any mutuals.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Yeah, cast out of why men ask everybody that you
know if they know this.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Not everyone, but if you see, like, oh, someone that
I feel comfortable asking information about follows this person, like
what do they know about them? You know, that's always
a good way. But also just trust your gut and
I think that's valid. And I think you're very being
very smart in how you're handling this because you're right,
you don't know what people's intentions are. I think some
people use the app for like hookups. I think some
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people use it to find their future partner. I think
it just depends on you know who you connect with.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
I would share my location with everybody that would accept it,
and tell everybody when you're going out on a date
and where you're going personally.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
No, I think that's just being smart about it, like
letting people know where you are and who you're with
and if they come over to your house or you
go to their house, send send them.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
So I'm not gonna go down this dark path. But
I just heard a very scary story, so.
Speaker 5 (16:07):
I'll leave it there. Wow dexter vibes.
Speaker 3 (16:11):
Oh yeah, well, I'm not helping Cassidy at all.
Speaker 5 (16:14):
No, That's what I'm saying. You had to be very
the girl.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
The girl was fine because she had a gut feeling
about this guy, so she made him sleep on the couch.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Oh my gosh, that's so scary.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
And he was banging on her door in the middle
of the night, like saying something that was like loud,
Can I sleep in your room?
Speaker 5 (16:30):
And she was like, no, she didn't. She didn't open it.
She called the cops. The cops came and he had
the history.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
Wow, ladies, please be careful there.
Speaker 5 (16:40):
Be careful and follow your gut and your intuition.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
Yeah, all right, Where were going next? Becca? What strikes
your fancy?
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (16:48):
What strikes my fans?
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah? We talked about the drinking one. Do you want to
do that one?
Speaker 5 (16:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Uh, I know, Anonymous, I know that you both enjoyed
drinking every now and again. But I find myself struggling
to drink and moderate. It seems that I either don't
drink at all and I'm happy, or I get drunk.
How do you learn to drink in moderation. I've graduated
from college, but I think I'm still in the college mindset.
Any advice is helpful.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
I could do some help myself. So I just really
wanted advice from you.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
So you've been trying to drink less. Moderation is the
not less often, but less each time and less often.
Speaker 5 (17:24):
Okay, yeah, just moderation in general.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
And you're struggling with that struggle because once you have one,
you have to have five.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Yeah, not really ten, But you know, I just kind
of go by the like if I'm like having fun,
I'll have another.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
But I'm very happy to either not drink or stop
after one, you know, So I'm very I would I
would say this question is more for you. I also
think there's something about the ritual of having a drink
in your hand. So I think if you have a
mocktail or something like Ali was stopped. Ali stopped drinking
because realized it was like really causing anxiety and she
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was like, why am I doing something that's adding on
to something that's already debilitating sometimes and so she just
did it to see if she could and how she
would feel. And I think she's at like one hundred
days now of like no drinking.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
And it's like helped so much with her getting on
a plane, because she used to feel like she had
to have a glass of champagne and then that would
add to the plane anxiety. And so now she is
so much better on planes, way calmer. And I think
that if you can look at it as like it's
just helping your mental health a lot and like how
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you feel physically. But I think that sometimes it's just
the ritual. So she does a lot of mocktail. She'll
you know, have like a soda water with lime and
just to it's like the ritual of having a drink
while you're socializing.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
Yeah, there's definitely that.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
But it's so funny because like I think, come every Monday,
Robby and I are like, yeah, we're gonna cut down
the drinking.
Speaker 5 (18:56):
And then I remember on our anniversary day, we.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Like went to and the minute we sat down, we
had champagne and then we got a martini and then
we had brought us over a little shot of something
and I'm like and then there's an espresso martini coming out,
and I'm like, here we are for drinks and on
a Tuesday or whatever.
Speaker 5 (19:11):
Yeah, it just happens. Life comes at you fast.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
And I also think it's different when you have a
part if you have like Haley does not drink. Like
she'll have a drink if we're on vacation, but she
very rarely is drinking. She will take an edible or something,
but she is not a drinker. So it's very easy
for me to not drink because I don't have my
partner and the person that I'm doing, you know, right.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
But my partner is like on the same page as me,
Like we're both like, let's stop drinking as much.
Speaker 5 (19:38):
And then we go to sit down to have dinner
and then.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
We're like, hmmm, or it's a taco Tuesday, We're like,
should we open a bottle of wine?
Speaker 5 (19:45):
I'm good with this red meat?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I think the maybe you just if you want to
have one drink, then switch over to a mockdale or
water or something and see if you can do the
balance and if you can't. I don't think not drinking
is a negative thing at all. It's poison.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
It really is.
Speaker 5 (20:09):
Literally drinking is bad either. I let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
I'm saying, if you don't feel like you can do
it in moderation and like you feel bad and like
don't feel good when you're doing it, then I think
I don't think it's a bad thing to not do it.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
I think if you can balance it.
Speaker 6 (20:22):
Of the two options, I think it's probably better to
air on the set, right.
Speaker 5 (20:26):
That's so fun when you're drunk, Yeah, it is.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Life comes at you fast, and then that next morning
comes and you're like, never again.
Speaker 5 (20:35):
Never again, have you been drunk.
Speaker 6 (20:38):
I've never ever had a sip of alcohol?
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (20:40):
I tried. I well, I did. I felt that fear pressure,
fear pressured. I didn't. It wasn't that though I wanted.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
We did the shot game where we had five pores
of yeah, and I was like I just wanted him
to be a part of it. But he was like,
I'm not doing it. I'm not taking the risk. And
I was like, how do I involve themselves? Like okay,
you pour them and you know that's the way perfect.
And then I felt guilty because I didn't know he
had literally never had him a little bit.
Speaker 6 (21:10):
How about this is the time everyone think you're so
cool if you do it.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
But I do think I may have said something like
this is why not now you get that.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
I get that from a lot of people like oh,
I'm going to do it, I'm going to get you drunk, or.
Speaker 5 (21:24):
Have annoying that.
Speaker 6 (21:27):
I've had a lot of people be like, when you
decided to do it, I want to be there.
Speaker 3 (21:30):
I forget that too.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Yes, I'm sorry if I did that.
Speaker 6 (21:38):
I did not feel believe me. I'm almost forty years
old adult to be.
Speaker 4 (21:42):
Involved in the game.
Speaker 6 (21:43):
I did, and I appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
I was hoping you were going to get water is
what I was hoping. But I thought what's meant to
be will always be.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
Said Alison got it who also rarely.
Speaker 6 (21:56):
Yeah, my family is very very into why And every
time I go to like Christmas or something, still they
offer like you said, can't wear your glass. I'm like
I'm good and like okay, they still offer it to me,
and I appreciate that. I appreciate being included in like
the ritual of it, but also straightage for life.
Speaker 8 (22:10):
Baby.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:12):
The people that are like I'm gonna get you drunk, Yeah,
it's so weird. We all just like, as a society,
we all do these things where we like pushy push
other people to do things that they don't want to do.
Speaker 5 (22:24):
It's so weird. I'm sure I do it all the time.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Too, So I'm including myself in this annoyingness.
Speaker 5 (22:31):
But it's very annoying. Like I will never ask another
bride when her wedding date is ever.
Speaker 4 (22:37):
Speaking of, I'll never do that. I'm on our lot
of episode.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
I'll never do it.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
We're narrowing it down. I know that, Yeah, we may
have a.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Month when I know I'll let every everybody in my circle,
everybody in my circle, everybody that's invited will know.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
That's interesting. It's interesting that that bugs you. And yet
I'm asked on a regular basis when I'm getting married
by you, Well, so, or do I ever think about
my wedding? Or what would it look like? Am I
going to get engaged? Say what kind of ring do
I want? Interesting, I've made it clear where I stand
on that.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
Well, so.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
That was just because you said that you're not going
to tell anybody. So I feel like I need to
ask because you said you weren't going to tell me
do you get what I'm saying? Where it's different where
I will you will be the first person to.
Speaker 5 (23:31):
Know when I walk in a date. Why are you
laughing at that?
Speaker 6 (23:34):
Watch your mind like clicking. It's I love it.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
The rationalization is so difficult here, but you're finding a
way to do it.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
So if you are, if you're telling me you're not
going to tell me, then I need to ask no.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
But she's telling you she's not going to tell you
because she wants it to be a surprise, So you
asking doesn't help.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
Wellading she's loading. But then she's like, oh, we should
look at wedding bands, and I'm like, oh, yeah, are
we thinking about wedding bands?
Speaker 2 (24:05):
So I was going to a jewelry opening event for
Ring Concierge and I Tanya will eventually be looking for
wedding bands, and I was like, would you want to
be my plus one if you want to look at
wedding man's while we're there. I didn't say anything about
me looking at wedding man's talking about you as the
bride to be.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Then you posted the photo saying I do be browsing
Hailey Kyoko, which got a lot of traction in the Facebook.
Speaker 5 (24:29):
So you know what you're doing, is Rebecca Tilly.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I didn't say I'm dumb and didn't sam dumb content.
I am a content creator.
Speaker 5 (24:39):
She do be browsing.
Speaker 2 (24:40):
So that was a big old rock dude, Haley goes,
are you sure you like it that big? That up?
Speaker 4 (24:46):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 5 (24:47):
I like the round on you though.
Speaker 4 (24:48):
It was pretty hard.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
It was very pretty.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Yeah that I only don't tried on two though.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
I know, but the round is like hard. I tried
it on a round and it did not look pretty
on me.
Speaker 2 (24:57):
Well, Ali has a round and I've I've tried that
on and I've always been like, oh, I like how
that looks.
Speaker 5 (25:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
So yeah, but anyways, shall we get back to Bonnia questions?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
I think we should take a break and then get
back to Oh my gosh.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
One thing we do is we take breaks. Let's go.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
All right, we are back and we have time for
one more dear Bonnia question.
Speaker 3 (25:36):
I like it when they send in this cute stuff
like this. This is Caitlin who came up with this.
Hi friends Legit feels like we're best friends, so just
go with it. Okay, So it's a fun one. Can
you guys categorize the original Gray's interns, that being Magic Meredith, Alex, George, Izzy,
and Christina. But whether you feel like each one is
a Becca or a Tanya? My best friend and I
(25:57):
love the pod. It is the one thing we always
share everyone and Thursday morning, even if we can't see
each other often ps between the two of us, I'm
Tanya you all right? So should we go one at
a time? Meredith Gray? Is she a Becca or a Tanya?
Speaker 4 (26:14):
Alex Becca?
Speaker 3 (26:16):
Correct?
Speaker 4 (26:17):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (26:19):
How so?
Speaker 2 (26:21):
I feel like he's just very to himself and is
just like quiet and does this thing and doesn't need.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
Or want attention.
Speaker 5 (26:30):
Interesting?
Speaker 4 (26:31):
What about him makes him a Tanya?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I feel like he was very much like in the
dating game, like dated a lot. I was like out
and about dating. That's really it. Yeah, no, all right, fine,
we'll give you him.
Speaker 3 (26:43):
Yeah. I think he's a Becca George.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
Tanya oh soo, just very willing to please and very
you know, wanting to be a part teacher's pet.
Speaker 5 (26:54):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, all right?
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Is heya? Okay? And Christina Becka?
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Oh how is Christina Tanya?
Speaker 5 (27:08):
How is she a Becca? She's like emotionally shut off.
Speaker 4 (27:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
I don't think I'm emotionally shut off. But I do
feel like I keep my cards a little closer than you.
Speaker 5 (27:20):
Yeah, I guess I could see that.
Speaker 4 (27:21):
I think she.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
Would craft a text way more like me than she
would not be sending dms of trying to continue the
drink conversation.
Speaker 5 (27:29):
That's true, that's fair, that's fair.
Speaker 4 (27:31):
What about her makes her a Tania Tea.
Speaker 5 (27:33):
Pipe very Type A?
Speaker 4 (27:34):
You are not type.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
What I've realized traveling with you is you are not
Type SO. I don't think you're as organized and prepared
as you. I think being prepared and stuff is Type A.
How I see Type A.
Speaker 4 (27:49):
I don't think.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
I'm not saying this is a negative thing too. I'm
I'm pleased to see the cracks in the the cracks
in the floor.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
Yah, it's good. I feel like Robbie's like relaxed you
what not emotionally.
Speaker 5 (28:06):
But I'm so Type A doesn't get more Type A
than me.
Speaker 4 (28:09):
Really, I think you.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
Envision yourself as Type A, and I think at one
point in your life you were more Type A. But
I don't think you are as much Type A anymore.
I'm not I again, this is not a negative thing
saying this as a complimented.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
What traits do you have that are Type A.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
I like to go to bed at the same time.
I like to eat the same things. I like to
have my routine. I like to be clean.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
I like type is defined by ambition, drive, and competitiveness.
Speaker 5 (28:42):
Oh interesting, Wow, you like routine. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, oh, and I'm not that I've had that wrong
my whole life.
Speaker 5 (28:54):
Read me it again.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
A Type A personality is defined by ambition, drive, and competitiveness,
which can lead to a high level of success. They
can also be impatient, hostile, and have trouble relaxing.
Speaker 5 (29:04):
Yeah, all those things. I'm all those things, except not
super competitive.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
Yes, one of the main thing. I think aggressive, ambitious, controlling.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
All those things.
Speaker 6 (29:16):
Type B is easy going, relaxed, and highly flexible.
Speaker 4 (29:19):
No me, I think you're an in between. I think
you're like a B B plus A minus.
Speaker 5 (29:25):
Thank you Type A minus you thinking.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
No, I'm saying I don't think you. I don't think
you hit B. I think you're A minus whatever. The
lowest grade of A is ninety three your B Type B.
Speaker 4 (29:39):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
In relationships, type as take the lead. They want to
be dominant. They take the lead, planning days, deciding on activities,
that sort of thing.
Speaker 5 (29:48):
You're not that, No, I'm not that, although they're.
Speaker 3 (29:50):
Calling the family meetings every month. Seems kind of a
type a personality.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
Yeah, c c, No, you have traits.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
I just I said, at one point you were way
more type, and I feel like you've.
Speaker 5 (30:01):
Relaxed a lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Pre Robbie was a time she was meticulous, meticulous.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
Yeah, but I think a lot more people think they're
type than actually are type. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (30:14):
I agree. Yeah, my apartment used to look like a museum.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
But Christina, her whole thing was dirty.
Speaker 5 (30:22):
It was my gosh, you're right, even worse than me. Yeah,
she's such a Becca, you're right.
Speaker 3 (30:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (30:27):
Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
And that's all for now.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
If you want to submit a Dear Bonnier question, dms
on Instagram at scrubbing and pod or email us at
scrubbing into iHeartMedia dot com.
Speaker 1 (30:39):
You know, it was a fun little fact that I
realized after the crossover episode, because I always thought that
Camilla Luddington was more of a Becca and Jessica Capshaw
was more of a ton Yet, but it's actually opposite. Yes,
Jessica Capshaw's the Becca and Camilla is the tone.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
I can see that now that I've listened to call
it what it is.
Speaker 5 (30:55):
Yeah, so that's a little fun fact. I'm going to
put that in my bike.
Speaker 4 (31:01):
Just what that Camilla is a Tania, just her first name,
You're just c L.
Speaker 5 (31:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
All right, Well that's all for now, but we will
be back next week with more riveting content for you all,
and we can't wait.
Speaker 5 (31:18):
Can't wait.
Speaker 4 (31:20):
Love you so much.
Speaker 6 (31:21):
Bite