Hands On with Red Star

Roby “Red Star” Yadegar is filling in for Becca in the O.R. and secrets get REVEALED! 

He opens up about what it’s like to date as a single father, and we get a definitive answer on where he sees his future going with Tanya.
 
Plus, learn about the different types of “fight styles” and why Tanya NEVER takes her eyes off of Roby.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya ren An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello,
Happy Monday. Becca again is out of town. She actually
left Haley today, So we have my other half, my boyfriend,

(00:21):
Robbie Anagar scrubbing in. Good to be here. Thank you
guys for having me. First of all, it's so cute
how I like into this and excited you are. And
we were driving over here and I was just kind
of like looking at my arms and I was like,
did think I got any color because we just got
back from Cobbo And he was like save it for
the air professional that I was really quiet. The whole

(00:45):
drive over here is like, Okay, I think my parents
would be so proud of me to finally fulfill their
pretend dreams of me becoming a doctor and scrubbing in.
So I think this is a it's a big moment
for us, it's a big moment for everybody involved. I
did talk to I message Becca because I don't know
if you saw. There was video of Haley actually pulling

(01:07):
Becca up and serenading her at one of her shows
last night, and so I asked her and she said, basically,
every night she sings us her song pretty girl to
a fan, and because it was Becca's last night on
the tour, she brought Becca out and sing it, Yeah,
that was really beautiful, beautiful. But Becca will be back
next week, but for now. I message Becca in response

(01:30):
to that post, actually, and she responded right before we
got here, asking me if I'm ready for my debut? So, oh,
are you nervous? A little bit nervous? Yeah, what are
you nervous about? No, just I mean, I'm just a
little bit nervous, never having done this before, but I'm good. Yeah. Yeah.
So basically what we would do now is we talk
about our weekends. And it's very funny because we spent
the whole weekend together, so it's gonna be we had

(01:52):
a great weekend, similar stories. But what's interesting is, um,
I did something. If you're scrubber, you know that I
have vowed about something, vowed I would never do this
in my current relationship, and I broke that vow this weekend. Yeah,

(02:13):
it's kind of a big deal, but it's actually really
really funny. So we were leaving to go to Cabo.
We had like an early flight out on Thursday, and
we had a lot to do from when we woke
up to when we left for the airport, and and
so we woke up and I had to go peace.
So I just you know, we have one toilet like normal,

(02:36):
you know, we're not like Megan Trainer and have like
two toilets in the bathroom. We just have one toilet.
And so he was getting ready, like washing his face,
doing his stuff at the sink, and I was like
on the toilet, which is totally normal. I wasn't expecting
this to happen. And you know that I'm like issues
going to the bathroom, and so when it comes, like
I have to just like let it come. And so

(02:57):
I'm sitting there and I was like, oh my gosh,
I'm going to the bathroom. Wait. So so I'm I'm
like getting ready and I look at her and she
looks very focused, but like also like her eyes were
like a little bit glazed over. And I made a
comment I was saying, said I don't know what was
going on. I said, you look you look like you're

(03:19):
very tired. Because we woke up a little bit earlier
than usual to make the fly. They said, you actually
look a little bit tired, and she just like barely responded.
It was just staring straight ahead with this like deer
in the headlights look in her eyes and didn't find
out what was actually going on until hours later, when
she for some reason confessed. I didn't want to say thing,

(03:40):
so I'm just like literally sitting there praying that he
can't hear me or like know what's going on. And
so then he eventually like leaves and I was like, oh,
like dodge that bullet. I get ready. We go to
the Star go on our way to the airport, and
I ended up saying I have to tell you something. Yeah,
I mean, I don't know that it needed to be confessed.
I think we just would have gone forever not knowing

(04:02):
that that happened. I mean, that's definitely a wall that
we don't want to break. But I know, and I'm
upset that I broke it, but I felt like it
was so interesting. It just goes to show you how
like I literally tell you everything because I felt weird
not telling you that like that you had that you
were holding it holding a lion. Yeah, Like I was like,
I need to tell you something before we get to

(04:23):
the airplant. Just for future reference, feel free to hold
that back, but just in hindsight knowing that look on
your face that that was what was going on. And
I was trying to have a conversation with you and
just weren't responding. Is so I was just like, I
need him to get out of here asap. If I
don't engage in conversation the quicker, he's going to get
out of here. But no sound, no smell, no nothing,

(04:44):
no no no. That was like a very stealth operation. Yeah.
So the vacation started out with a bang, and we
went to Cabo, had the best time, slept a lot,
eight a lot. I put Robbie in charge of putting
sunscreen on my back the first day, and I don't know,

(05:04):
you can't obviously see my back, but my back is fried. No,
in my front. There's like a little patch about my
armpit that I didn't seem to get and right here
a little bit and like a little bit right here.
I did an expert job with the sunscreen, and yet
somehow her back got totally burnt. Yeah, everywhere everywhere. Yeah,
I'm not much of a sun girly, you know, like

(05:26):
I do like the sunshine. It's funny because my book
is called The Sunshine Mine. But I try to stay
out of the sun. But I put like fifty SPF
on and still just fry just your back. They got
fried literally just my birthday. Yea, yeah, interesting, right, that's
what I said. I was like, we had the theory.
She had the theory that she was laying on this

(05:47):
day bed that was like particularly rough and maybe that
came off in the morning, and then when she flipped
over she got burnt. Yeah, but I'm positive that I
apply that expertly to your back. Yeah, but yeah, I'm
what happened there. But two day two on, you did
not get burnt. Yeah, no burns, So maybe I did
do it wrong on the first day. Yeah. Did you

(06:08):
enjoy the trip? I love the trip. Um the hotel
was beautiful. Robai got pooped on by a bird. I
saw that on the internet. That's so lucky. Where do
you guys fall on this being good luck or just
being not good luck? I think it's bad luck. Yes,
It's never happened to me, thankfully, and I don't want

(06:29):
it too. But I just feel like it's a bad sign. Right,
I've been pooped on by a bird a few times
and it's never happened to you. Here is it happened
to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good luck. I mean,
so that's really good reference. Hana does not like to
be on the microphone, so okay, just taking an informal pole. No. Yeah,

(06:51):
there's a lot of people in this room right now,
we're asking everybody. Yeah. Yeah, it's basically fifty No. I
think we have this weird thing where we where anything
that is like just bad and sucks, we say is
good luck. Like rain on your wedding day, being shot
on by a bird. I think it's just you know,
I'm trying to make people feel about word. Oh sorry,
it's okaye, bleep yeah, let it fly. Um yeah, rain

(07:16):
on the wedding day. That's ironic, you know, like like
like the great um Alanis said, uh yeah, I've never
been defecated on by any creature. Um And I'm trying
to keep it that way. But I like the attitude
of looking at it like it's good luck. Like well,
I was going to say, because it happened on Sunday,
I'm gonna give it some time, but if luck comes
your way, we're gonna attribute it to the I can

(07:37):
attribute it to the word for sure. It was out
of nowhere too. It wasn't like I was near a
tree or anything out of nowhere. Yeah, I also do
want to say so I for reference, I've told Robbie
not to listen to the podcast. I was like, this
is like girl talk and it's not really for you
to hear or like listening on. So he kind of
made that pack when we first started dating. But he

(07:57):
does see the clips that go up on on Instagram,
and so the other day he's like straight faced in
the shower and he's like, hey, babe, and I was like, yeah,
he goes, can you please start washing your feet for me?
I was like, that's how we found out, That's how

(08:18):
I found out. Well, that's good, right, that like you
couldn't tell from an odor or anything like crust or
anything like that. That's the thing the thing that I
think I was like more shocked than anything because Tanya
is otherwise one of the most hygienic people I know,
like ultra hygienic, super clean with everything she does. So

(08:40):
to find that out, I was just baffled. But thankfully
she's come around and now she's uh she's on the
foot washing. Yeah, make you curious what other parts of
her she's not washing. I thought, I've been watching. I've
been watching like intently. Not. Yeah, normally I don't. I

(09:02):
don't pay attention to what you're watching. It to be
watching everything. But since then I have been paying attention,
and you're doing a really good job. Yeah, you did
a great job. But she did all the other thing
that she did recently that I thought was a little
bit on the hygienic. Potentially, I was out of deodorant,

(09:23):
and she offered for me to use hers, which I
thought was very kind of I've done that before. I
don't know if that's a deeply intimate thing. Oh maybe
it is. I don't know. It's more dangerous for you, Tanya,
because like you, they're gonna get hair on it, right.
I just think it's like, it's just it's kind of gross.

(09:44):
We swap spit every day. Okay, what do you think
is what do you think is grosser? Sharing deodor and
or sharing a toothbrush? I would share both of them
with you, okay, but you have to pick so they're
both totally fine. Yeah, Okay, the tooth pressures were I
draw the line. Really I'm weird about I don't know why,
but like I agree, like you're swapping DNA in other places,

(10:06):
but the toothbrushes, I don't. I don't do that. It's
funny because I would be more into using the chairing
the toothbrush. I feel like the toothbrush is very clean.
You know, it has toothpaste on it. Then you rinse
it off like there's nothing, and it's like a plastic bristle,
you know, it's like there's nothing going on there. It's
like soap. Okay, soap soap, we agree, is self cleaning,
Like if you use a bar of soap, right, yeah,

(10:27):
I mean maybe you wipe off like a little layer
on top, but it's self cleaning, right, Okay, So I
would use someone else as soap. The deodorant though, there's
not a high chance of food getting in the in
the armpit though, That's where I'm at, Like, there's like
not gonna be a chewed up piece of steak in
my armpit. Really, I don't want to share toothbrushes on
the regular, but I just feel like it's not the

(10:48):
grossest thing. Are there chewed up pieces of steak on
your toothbrush? I mean when you're done brushing, well, I mean,
if it did its job, you know, it's not my
mouth anymore, you know, God willing, it's on the toothbrush.
So you shared her deodorant. I did not share, just
went with that. But I also like, I'm not I

(11:08):
don't always wear to you. I like, not a smelly
I don't have. Yeah, I don't have that. It's probably good, right.
It is interesting, like if I went no deodorant for
the amount of time that you do, I would be
so smelly. I don't. I don't. I don't have smell.
It's very annoying, kind of perfect and yeah, very bad.
It's something I'm proud of you, not that I haven't

(11:32):
had bo And it's terrible that if every day, if
I didn't use deodor and I would be a little bit. Yeah,
you can't get something. I was watching your Guys weekend
on Instagram. Was really fine. I'm impressed with how hard
you go on the workouts on vacation. Oh not every vacation,
but this is vacation. This was like a reset. Okay, yeah,
this is like a take care of ourselves, be healthy vacations.

(11:56):
We're not really like drinking right now, so it was
like we weren't hungover. We were like getting up with
a little pep in our step and we want to
have a couple of drinks. Yeah. We had like yeah, yeah,
not like how we normally go. Yeah yeah, yeah, no
drinks at dinner. No drinks at dinner. We had like
a beer, Like I had like a beer the first day.
At lunch, I had a wine for me mescal margarite

(12:20):
the second and then I had a Mexican meal the
next day. You know, you got to do that. Yeah. Yeah.
We were like, so there's two pools at the hotel.
They have like a they having a I guess a
quiet pool, and then they have a party pool. So
we were hanging out at the quiet pool most of
the time. It's like very chill, beautiful. But then this
last day we want to mix it up, so we

(12:40):
went to the party pool. We got some alcohol, and
we made it a party. Yeah. It is pretty crazy
because I like look at like some other vacations that
we've gone on and like we raged so hard. We
would like down like bottles of wine and then like
drink at dinner, and this was like very much the opposite.
We were just like, you know, recharging, that's good, yeah,

(13:02):
but also I can't I can't day, drink and drink
drink anymore. Also, we like working out together. We like
I honestly like like doing everything with you. I do.
I do too, like genuinely like I if I could
have you with me all the time, I would. No,
we're very much on the same WAYM length about so

(13:23):
many things. Yeah, um, but let's get back to your
tan real quick. Oh okay, So do you guys think
that she got color? Yeah? I see it? Do you
really yeah? I mean forgetting the red red spots of color? Yeah,
my face looked tan. Well I don't think you got that.
I thought that much. Call. I mean while I'm like,

(13:43):
I feel like I look like, yeah, you got tan
straight out of a Ricky Martin video or something. Very
I did. Also just want to say, oh there, Okay.
So there's a couple of things. There was a lot
of questions from scrubbers that I want to get into,
but we can get into those because we'll get into
this a little bit later. Um, I do want to
talk about just because this is super out of your

(14:04):
comfort zone to be doing this. I feel like when
we first started dating, I said that you were a businessman.
I just like kept it very page like could anybody
ask me he has a briefcase. Yeah, Harry's a briefcase.
He's just like a businessman. And you're so you're doing
a great job. By the way, thank you, You're welcome.

(14:25):
But I wanted you to talk about what you actually
do for a living, because I like, I know what
you do, like I know, I know what you do,
and I know what it's all. I know exactly what
you do. Um. But for people listening that may not know,
how would you describe it? Well? So the funny thing
about that is that for a period of time, the
picture that Tanya had of me on our phone was

(14:47):
a briefcase, which is like a little bit of an
inside joke. But uh, no, I'm not a businessman. I'm well,
I mean, I guess I am a businessman on some level,
but no, I'm a I'm a lawyer. I'm a corporate lawyer,
transactional court attorney, corporate transactional attorney, which means that we
don't litigate, don't go to court, don't argue or deal attorneys. Um.

(15:12):
I'll get into kind of that a little bit more.
But so I have a small firm of Beverly Hills
UM and we represent um, early to middle stage companies, entrepreneurs,
wealthy individuals, professionals, got it doing all kinds of transactions.
So this is what I would say too, right, Well, yeah,

(15:33):
somebody who asked me what you did, this is what
you'd say. All right. So we do everything from like
two people starting a company to raising money for their company, um,
all the way through you know M and A, which
is mergers and acquisitions, which is buying or selling their company. Yes,
everyone's nodding here. This is really boring and jobs. So yeah,

(16:03):
and then we do kind of every day every kind
of type of commercial contract, day to day commercial contractor between.
So basically anything contract related I do. Yeah, he's your guy.
I'm your guy. You have a contract, hit up Robbie Outagar. No,
actually did my entire book deal. Wow. Yeah. I didn't
want to get anybody like, we didn't want to involve

(16:24):
any other person besides like Raquel and myself, and so
we needed somebody to kind of hash out the legalness
of it all. And I'm the guy. He was the guy.
How aggressive of a negotiator are you when it comes
to that kind of stuff? Uh? It depends, I mean,
it just depends on the deal. I can be super
aggressive and I can be very kind of laid back,

(16:46):
just depends on the deal. Why No, It's just like
that's such a hard thing for most people to do,
I think, especially like on their own behalf. And I'm
always so curious about that part of it because it's like,
you know, don't want to blow the whole thing. We
also want to get the most money for your client. Yeah, yeah, yeah, no,
I mean lawyers, breaking deals is definitely a thing, and

(17:09):
sometimes it has to happen if the other side is
being unreasonable. I don't break many deals. I really try
to get the deal done. But but yeah, I always
in the best interest of my clients. So you're right,
it's a tricky thing, but you know, we get it done.
We close deals. Try dating an attorney. It's so funny
because whenever we get into fights, which isn't often, but

(17:32):
like we have disagreements and stuff. But it's so funny
because I can see like everything is through your attorney lens,
and I feel like I will like bring that up.
I'll say, like, this is an attorney, Robbie, this is
relationship heart dealing Robbie. Because he can get so argue

(17:52):
all the sides, and I'm like, we're not doing this
right now, but very logical, Like I'm I think I
became a lawyer because I'm a very logical person and
that's the way I think, Like I always you know,
any very emotional person, right, I'm emotional too, Yeah, but
I'm I'm like logic driven and like on the l side,
like logic portion was my best score. So I'm a

(18:14):
very logical person. But I'm not a litigator, Like I
don't I don't argue every day. I'm not trying to argue.
I try to make deals. So we're to fight. I
try to bring us together trying to do it's Actually
we went to the J. Shetty Show and he did
this whole segment. He does this whole segment about like
fight styles, and it was kind of this like Eureka

(18:35):
moment because he described the three different fight styles and
I was like very much. I can't remember the names now,
but I was very much in one category and Robbie
was like very much in the other category. And it
made me kind of like go, like, oh, this actually
makes a lot of sense because Robbie is the kind
of guy. If we're getting an argument he needs time

(18:55):
away to like process and everything, And because I am
the way that I am, always felt like that would
give me so much anxiety if he wanted to like
step away, take a day or take a night, like
you know, to discuss it the next day. I was
always just like, no, we got to do it now.
It would do it now, would do now, and it's
we have to figure out, well, I think we have
figured out a way how to like compromise. Yeah. I

(19:18):
For me, it's really more I just need time to
digest what is going on between us and kind of
what we're really arguing about and how I feel about
that thing I don't necessarily know right away. And also
I feel when you say I need to take time,
like if he says I need to get back to
this tomorrow, I get so anxious. Yeah, I get anxious

(19:39):
because I'm an anxious, attached person. And so I'm like, oh,
he's just like got one foot out the door, you
know what I mean. Like that's where my head goes.
And it's like, actually, not the case at all. But
I found it to be very interesting. So Hannah is
handed me a thing. It's venting, hiding and exploding or
the three different types, right, I'm the venting, you're the hiding.
I don't love yeah, because I don't. I'm really not

(20:00):
trying to hide. I think. I also think that you
need time to process. But I also think generally across
any relationship, it must be beneficial to not discuss things
when emotions are high. I just think you're better off
waiting for emotions to cool down a little bit, even
if the feelings are still there. There's kind of you know,
when you're in the middle of that fight or argument,

(20:24):
you're emotionally wound up, and I just think that you're
better off waiting forgetting like my need to digest the issue.
I just think everyone is better off waiting until emotions
kind of calmed down a little bit. It's a really
fun dating lawyer. Do you not agree with that? No,
I'm joking, I do. I do. I do. It is bad.
I think you are very good for me in that

(20:45):
sense because I am very emotional and you are really logical,
and I know that about you, So I know always
when you're like saying like we need we need to
be when to come back to this, Like, I'm always like, Okay,
he's right. Usually come back to what's just as much
fire and emotion but like still but also you tend
to bring things up at like nine fifty pm, you know,

(21:07):
we're like trying to wind down and go to straight up,
and I'm just like all I want to do is
go to sleep. That's usually the time I either I
fight most right before a bed, or I stare at him.
Oh the staring. I'll be like watching TV, so like
the TV's like to the right of the bed, and
I'm just like staring straight at him. So awkward. I mean,

(21:29):
I can just imagine, just picture that We're like we're
cuddled watching I'm watching TV, but she's staring at me
and I'm staring over her head at the TV. It's
so I used to not know how to react to it.
Now I just ignored and like give her like a
weird side glance like you're doing it, you know, like

(21:50):
hopefully like he'll point at the TV. Are you looking
for something in return, like if you want him to
stare back at you or do you want to turn
the TV off? Or what's the end goal with the
tape of behavior? You know, it depends on the day.
Sometimes my staring means like seduce, me. Sometimes I'm just
like admiring him and just like having these like thoughts

(22:12):
of you know, happiness. At other times, I just don't
care what's on the TV. It sounds really nice, the
thoughts of happiness thing, but it doesn't make it any
less freaky. Sometimes I'll like, honest like, sometimes I'll like
actually like turn my head to the TV. Um, Okay,

(22:34):
we have to take a quick break. We're gonna come back,
and I do want us to go through. We're really
big into Love is Blind season four, so I want
us to give our predictions because I saw a lot
of scuttle in the Facebook group about people that are
watching that show. Excellent season of Love Is Blind. Yeah,
and then we're gonna get into some questions from the
scrubbers and just a quick little blip in the hot

(22:54):
topics when we come back. You know, some people would
say that they were blessed to be adored by somebody

(23:15):
as much as I thought. You definitely blast, but it
is insane one of the many funny things that you
do that I love about you. Okay, So Love is
Blind season four, We're just so I don't know how
they did it this year, but they basically like frontloaded
all their episodes except for the final episode and then

(23:37):
the reunions. So there's two episodes left, and there's four episodes.
We don't really know. We don't know. It looked like
last night there were four episodes left. Basically they left,
They showed everything except for the I do so like
the very last episode, and I don't know how long
it's been out, but basically the new episode comes out
April thirteenth, So we're all kind of stuck in this

(23:59):
like eating period. So I just want to go through
the couples and Robbie and I are going to make
our predictions and then we'll see who wins. Okay, So
we're basically gonna say whether they say yes or no,
and what we think for each couple. Um, okay, kwam
So Kwami for me is a no. I think he's
gonna say no. I think that he you can just

(24:19):
say yes or no. We gonn't have to go in. Oh,
we don't want to get into it. Okay, No, I'm
gonna say yes. Kwami's gonna say yes. What about Chelsea?
Chelsea we already we already know said yes and she
said she was gonna say yes. I think there's no
mystery there. Yeah, so I'm saying yes too, all right, Brett,
So Brett and Tiffany for me or yes is not

(24:41):
to get ahead, but I think they're like the most
solid couple. I would be shocked if there was a
no there. I put yes for Brett and Tiffany as well. Okay,
Mica hard no, Mica is a hard no on Paul? Okay,
I said yes for Mica. And what about Paul. Paul's yes, Yeah,
I said yes for Paul too. Okay, what about Zach

(25:04):
Zach is for sure yes? I said Zach is for
sure yes as well. And then what about Bliss? Bliss
is a no? I said yes for Bliss as well.
So I basically said yes for every single person. Yeah,
you said yes for everybody, which is not going to happen,
So you're gonna be wrong. It's a hopeful. I'm just
hoping for the best for all of them. I just

(25:25):
can't see. I mean, we don't want to talk about
it at all, you just want to just yes. I
just can't see Mica and Paul ending up together at all.
I think that that doesn't it's not a couple that works.
And then Bliss has got to come to her senses
on this Zach guy, because that's just he's just too
weird for me. He is there's something so off putting
about him, and I like to give people the benefit

(25:46):
of the doubt, but he is so if I was
in a room with him, like I would be nervous. Yeah,
no's a he has like this weird energy. He seems
like a genuinely nice guy, which is why I feel
conflicted saying, but he's he's such creep vibes that it's
hard to Yeah, so I'm excited. What are we gonna bet? Well,

(26:08):
I just I'm so. I just don't like that we
can't binge it. It's I don't even understand the format.
If we're gonna be able to watch all of them
next week or are they gonna be one every week?
I think it's I think the final episode of is
like all their weddings and one. We're gonna be able
to binge the ending. Well, but we've already seen half
of Kwamie and Chelsea's wedding. We're waiting for Kwamie to

(26:28):
say something. Then they're going to go to a new wedding. Yeah,
so I think so you said not that, you said
that they're gonna I don't know, Okay, I don't really know.
But what are we betting on? I like, what's the bet?
If I win? I don't think our bets are appropriate.
I will make that bet. Tell anyone a bet when

(26:51):
we were on vacation, which but what did I know
one the air? Oh yeah, I didn't win a bet
on vacation. I love winning beat, especially when they're on
vacation and they are not appropriate. I thought I had
that in the bag. We can say with the bet,
not the stakes of the bet, but what was the Yeah,

(27:12):
we had a friend. We have a friend who posted
on her story that the movie Air, which is the
NEWE Yef movie. She posted, Air is the best movie ever,
and we had just seen it. We had just seen it,
and we and I have I know friends whom you

(27:34):
know are kind of the influencer types of guests who
who have all been promoting this movie and I've seen it,
Air is the best movie ever. Yea, So I really like,
genuinely like loved the movie, Like I came out feeling
very much a certain type of way. So continue on. Yeah,
so we saw this friend post it and I was like,

(27:55):
oh my god, I think I think So and SO
is is promoting. She said, no, I think it's genuine.
And we made the bet and turned out it was
a genuine wow, genuine post, which I was shocked at
because it's certainly not the best movie ever. Um soundtrack
was great, but socially won the bet and I was
that was dated. Yeah, just a little food for thought.

(28:16):
When it is promotional, they have to put ads somewhere
on the Oh, so you kind of cheated, not not cheated,
I just knew. Okay, air partner hashtag air partner info,
we will, we will. Mean that's already been paid off,
so there's not really about that. It was a win win.

(28:37):
Let's just say that. Oh man, okay, Um, we're gonna
go into some question. Oh actually, let's discuss some of
the biggest stories over the weekend, because it was a
very pop and weekend. While we were on vacation, I
was bombarded with the news at Taylor Swift and Joe
all Win, after six years of dating, have called it quits.
Very sad. You did not even know they were dating,

(28:59):
but it's still sad. I know. Actually I was reading
some of the stories and I'm like, why did we
not see this coming? She? You know, she she replaced
invisible String in her set with um the one. Invisible
string is about the love that yes, yes, fun fact,
Hey babe, she replaced invisible string with the one, and

(29:20):
the one is about kind of like it could have
been you, Like, you know, so we were anything, so
it could have been you. So you're saying that that
was reference to them breaking up? Yeah, I think so
you replace the song that's about this chismic connection with

(29:41):
somebody and you replace it with like, oh, it could
have been you. Feels significant if you ask me for it. Yeah. Um,
I don't know. How do you feel about the news?
Are you? Like? I was shocked? I was. I was too. Um.
I really thought they were going to be together forever.

(30:02):
I don't know too much about him, you know, but
I like the idea they'd been together for so long
and dating her must be the craziest thing in the world.
So that's what I was reading. I was reading on
people basically like they had insider you know, sources or whatever,
saying that it was their personal differences in their personalities
and that he never could really he was never on

(30:24):
board or on board, but her level of fame was
never something that he was comfortable. Those were two very
different things. It's either, I mean, is it her personality
or is it personality if him wanting to be away
from the limelight and hers liking to be in the limelight. Okay,
but what about all the other stuff like her like

(30:45):
I mean, from what I barely know about her, very
you know, very emotional person. Is it about that stuff
or is it just about the fame stuff? Do you think? Um? Look,
I mean these articles don't share much, so that's all
they said. But I do find it interesting because they've
written songs together. They wrote he worked on I think

(31:09):
it was nine songs. And I think Becca's take on
this didn't she like, didn't she recently have a whole
thing about how she could tell if people were going
to stay together? And yeah she did. We didn't detail
they were not on the list. I mean, they weren't
even in consideration they did seem so strong. There's no
way she could have predicted this. No, I know. But
you know what, if he can't handle her fame, then

(31:30):
he can take a hike because she will always be jewels. Okay.
Is insane though yeah, her fame is pretty big. He
co wrote Um Sweet Nothing just on Midnights, but then
he did some on Folklore and on Evermore too. That's
right under the pen name William Bowery. Yeah. Yeah, but

(31:51):
if he is also a songwriter, maybe there was some
jealousy there. He's not by treason actor. I think he
just did it so they could like like, how you're
doing this with me? You know? Okay, but then still
he wants he's an actor. Maybe he like was jealous
of the fame as opposed to that. Yeah, it's interesting
because I'm like, how are you an actor but you
don't want to be in the limelight, Like, and didn't

(32:11):
you start dating her when she was a peak? She
was already like yeah, you know the supernova she is now?
I don't know. I don't trust right, so you can't
get into it ign for this. Yeah, yeah, you're right,
I don't trust this guy. Moving on, good riddance, good
goodbye Joe, Goodbye Joe, onto our next era. And then

(32:32):
the other news this weekend, Well, this isn't like anything
to discuss, but we want to say congratulations to Olivia
Colpo and Christian McCaffrey who got engaged over the weekend.
We love Olivia Colbo, so happy, We love Christian McCaffrey
and fantasy football. Yes, so hopefully this kind of energizes
him in the upcoming season. Oh that's yes, Yes, it
is funny. I will d m Olivia being like, my

(32:53):
boyfriend has your boyfriend on his team? I did, I
did this every year we redraft. But yeah, yeah right,
I'm so exciting news for them. And then Kylie Jenner
and Timothey Chalome are dating. This shook me to my core.
Didn't see it coming. I'm not sure what it is.

(33:17):
Happy for her, happy for him. I know very little
about either of them, but I will say it just
seems like to me, these things are very pr to me,
I don't know, yeah, like the Kardashians are always going
after Like like Timothy Chalomi is kind of like the
sex symbol right now, you know what I mean, Like
he's like the guy you know, Like I know nothing

(33:38):
and I know that, yeah you know that. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I couldn't pick him out of a lineup, but I
hear he's very sexy. But also like I don't know,
I don't know who she normally dates, but like I'm saying. So,

(33:59):
I mean, it's interesting question. People have types. Clearly she doesn't.
But clearly she doesn't Travis Scott. She's with Tiger. Is
that right? Am I missing someone to be honest? Right? Yes? Okay, yes, okay,
uh yeah, I mean that's a pattern that she's breaking
with Timota. It's exciting, Timid, It is exciting, you know.

(34:20):
And you know what, if there's anything that Calling in
the One taught me, it's that your dating patterns are
if they're leading you down to not the right path,
you should break those patterns. And maybe she read Calling
in the One and she realized that her dating pattern
was not great and she's like, I'm going to switch
it up, and she met Timoda and here we are.

(34:41):
So we'll definitely be keeping you posted on all things.
We'll be watching with great interest. Yes, watching with great,
great interest. Okay. So I wanted to ask some of
the questions that Scrubber has had for you in particular, babe, Okay,
and then we're gonna get into We have a couple
extra emails because I wanted, you know, um, if people
wanted your male perspective, which I think is unique because

(35:04):
again we were saying how you're very a very logical person. Um,
I do think that you would give really good insight
because it is funny, like he Robbie goes into the
Facebook group and he'll be like, did you see you
what they were asking? Facebook group is my favorite thing
on the internet and give your opinions. Easton is incredible
in there because he'll get in there and start mixing

(35:25):
it up in the comments. But it's really no can
I just say it's really let's just take a second here,
because that Facebook group is amazing forgetting we'll get to
the entertainment value. It's so cool that you and Becca
and all of you who are part of this podcast,
and I've said it before, have created this unbelievable community
of girls and women, UM. And I guess some men,

(35:48):
but primarily girls and women across the country and the
world who um have come together like this where they
trust each other, they support each other, they give advice,
they literally help each other, um financially in certain situations. Um. Uh,

(36:13):
It's it's just a really beautiful thing. Um. But then
this Facebook group is just I go. I look at
it multiple times a day. I haven't used Facebook in
years other than you're like wishing, what happy birthday? But
I go to multipimes a day and you'll have, you know,
you'll have one post that is a deeply heartfelt emotional

(36:35):
life crisis, you know, post for of somebody who really
needs kind of help and advice. Um, And then the
next one will be about you know, what to do
with your butt crack hair. And then the next one
will be you know this in you know, someone's going
for promotion and and you know, give whatever advice I
need for this you know, life accomplishment, whatever it is.

(36:56):
And the next one will be advice about you know,
how to have a threesome with you know, my husband,
and this you know, such a such a person. It's
just the best of all worlds. You laugh, you cry, Um,
but you guys creat you guys are creating community. Yeah.
So we went to the Facebook group, and so I
wanted to do some more like um, those man only

(37:18):
type questions. So we have a couple extra emails on
Hunna pulled um that we're gonna get to, but I
wanted to fire off some of these kind of more
rapid fire questions for you if you don't mind, no shoot, Okay, uh,
what qualities do you think Becca brings out of Tanya. Yeah,
it's a good question. So I actually think you guys
are way more similar than people, uh think. So obviously

(37:43):
the food stuff. You know, your diets are very different,
and you're sleeping patterns are very different. Um, you're funny.
She's not really that funny, Okay. Um, uh, she's very
You're very funny back, I really mean it. Um uh No.
But the quality, I mean, I don't if it's a quality,

(38:06):
but you definitely like hold on to me less hard
in pictures now, um, which is nice, less grasping the
claw like. Yeah. I think Becca is able to point
that out in me correct. Yeah. Okay, so that's probably
the big one. Okay. Um, what song does Robbie think
describes your relationship? Well, I think we have we have

(38:29):
one song that is really meaningful to both of us,
the Bones song, which I think just goes to kind of, um,
the foundation, the strength of the foundation of our relationship
and the fact that it's built on um, a really
strong foundation of trust and and loyalty and respect and admiration. Um.

(38:53):
So that's a you know that I would say is
number one. But then there was also I don't even
know the name of it. But when we were at
jingle Ball and Lewis Capality saying that one song, oh yeah,
I think it's called Pointless. Yeah, yeah, that sounds right.
That sounds right, that song. Like I was like, I
was just you weren't with me at the time because
you were doing stuff for the show and I'm sitting

(39:13):
there and that words were on the screen, you know,
and it was kind of karaoke style going through the words,
and I was just definitely like, thought about you a
lot doing that song. It's really cute because that song
just came out that day, so I hadn't even heard it,
and he was watching it and he told me that
night he was like, that Louis Capaldi song, it's like
our song made me think of you. And I'm like,
I have no idea. I didn't even know. And then
I listened to Yeah, I like sounds dark, but okay

(39:37):
that I listened to it later on and I was like,
really really beautiful, and so I thought that was really
really sweet that you just like because he's not much
of a lyrics guy, you know. He ye, I'm not
a lyrics guy. I much prefer the music. Yeah, yeah.
I remember when we were like newly dating. There was
Leon Bridge's song and it's called Beyond, and it basically
talks about like she might just be my everything and

(39:57):
via it's all about like making her his wife and
like all this stuff. And I remember, so this is
so good. So like he made like a I swear
you said something about the song. Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure.
In the moment, I said something about how oh that
you know that's like, uh so that reminds me of you.
So I stuck with it for years. I was like,
oh my god, this song makes him think of me,
like he wants to be he wants me to be

(40:19):
his wife, like all this stuff. Yes, this one, Yeah,
this doesn't have any of the lyrics, but I don't
get ahead feeling things on there. But it's kind of
hard for me to explain her personal So now years

(40:39):
later I made a passing comment for a split second.
Years later, every time the song comes on, she said,
do you remember when you said that? He's like, no idea,
I said that, but yeah, song's been so meaningful to
me for like two years. Now. What is the most

(41:09):
difficult part of dating with kids? Oh? So that's a
that's a that's a really an important question, I think, UM,
one that I can not just how difficult it is.
I mean, there's so many aspects of it, the difficult,
the great um uh and something I can probably talk
about at depth maybe at a different time in different place, UM.

(41:35):
But I mean, I do you know when I first
got separated and then divorced, UM, I found that a
lot of guys in particular, but also some some some
girls women who were getting divorced kind of shortly after me,

(41:55):
around the same time as me, UM, for whatever reason,
would come to me for advice and to kind of
get my thoughts on all aspects of kind of that
process because it's it is so challenging in so many ways,
and certainly the kids are the most important part of that.
And it's something that I you know, I probably you

(42:17):
know should I mean I thought about it afterwards, kind
of spending time and maybe creating something to address that,
UM or help help people or give my advice to people.
So I'd be happy to like talk about that more
in depth, UM maybe somewhere else. But as far as
kind of the framework around the kids, you know that
they're the number one most important priority for me when

(42:42):
I was going through everything and it continues. It doesn't
end right that the process continues, it just changes over time.
So the most difficult part is the fact that, uh,
oh my god, there's a lot of difficult parts. The
most difficult part, I mean, really they really are. But

(43:02):
I think the most difficult part is is the fact
that they despite you know, how wonderful I mean, I can,
I can talk about our situation specifically, despite how wonderful
you are and how great you are to them and
with them, UM, you know, they're going through their own

(43:23):
process too that is really entirely separate from you, the
person UM and this you know that the other, the
step person coming in UM, and you know you have
to give them space to deal with that, while at
the same time making sure that you're building and fostering
the relationship with that you're significant other and the person

(43:46):
that you bring into that. So that dichotomy of what
they're going through personally and the challenges that they're going through,
and then also kind of bridging that with transitioning to
kind of a new future or to a new person,
a different person out of mean to saying new, but
a different person is really challenging and it's interesting for me.

(44:12):
I could talk about it for days too, because it's
it is so complex, there's so much to it. Because
I remember when we first started dating, like I wanted
to meet them a month in and I couldn't wrap
my head around you not wanting to introduce me to them,
because I was like, how are you supposed to know?
You know? But it is this like fine line of
like you don't want and you were so adamant. You

(44:33):
were like, I don't want them to just meet women
in my life. I don't want it to be this
open door policy where they're just like meeting whoever I'm dating.
I wanted to really really mean something and in a
weird way, like it was really hard for me. But
looking back on that year where we did, like I
hadn't met them, it kind of was because you know me,

(44:55):
when I go in and a relationship, like I'm like
all in, and I feel like it gave us that
built in space that I don't think I would have
accepted otherwise, and it was like, Okay, he's with his kids,
do you know what I mean? Whereas like when I'm
like all and I go in on a relationship I
want to be with you twenty four to seven, and
I feel like I'd dive in, and so it was
like a nice thing for me to be able to

(45:17):
kind of have that separation. Yeah, I know, the built
in separation. Yeah, I get it now, you're I think
you're right. So I look back on that and I'm like,
I'm I'm grateful that we that we had that time.
And I also think two now on the flip side,
I think the kids knowing how much care and thought

(45:38):
and intention you put into introducing me to them, you know,
like you didn't just introduce me, because then you never
lied to them about who I was or you know
what I mean, like our relationship or when we started dating,
any of that stuff. You know, you said like I
didn't want to introduce you, guys, I didn't. I wanted
it to be somebody that I knew was important enough
to meet you. I feel like now they have a

(45:58):
different level of respect um for you and for me
and for how you viewed them in this whole process. Yeah,
you hit on a couple of things that maybe I'd
like to talk about it a little bit more. But first,
just kind of the last thing. First, it's that you're right,
and I appreciate you saying that I and I and
I hope that that's true, and I agree. Um, but

(46:20):
I think kids have a um the younger. The younger
they are certainly the more so. But they have a weird,
um warped sense of time. So that's a challenge. Right.
They think about time very differently than we do. They
don't understand what a year ago means, right, you know
when they're younger, certainly now you know when if you know,
if you're eleven, you get that, but you know, when

(46:40):
you're six seven, a year ago is harder to really grasp.
So that's a that's a weird that's a that's a
weird challenge. But um uh to your other point, and
this is maybe some advice for anybody who's out there
who is going through this or might be going through
this in the future. Um, every situation is so different

(47:02):
and so unique. And you know, by the time you
know you're in that situation, if you ever are, you're older, right,
so you know you're probably in your thirties or your forties,
could be earlier, but you're you're later on in your life.
And we all, we all have had many experiences, relationship
experiences leading up to who we decide to marry. And

(47:27):
you know, or many of us do have a lot
of experiences. But everyone when you get divorced, you're getting
divorced for the first time, and so you're learning that
and figuring that out all on your own. And every
situation is so unique, so everybody's advice is so specific
to their situation, and no one knows exactly kind of
your situation and how best to do with your situation.

(47:49):
So I had a lot of preconceived ideas as to
what was the right way to do things, specifically in
connection with you know, how to introduce you or for you,
how to introduce anybody to them, and when that that,
when that happens. And I said to myself, you know,
I'm not going to duce anybody until I'm ready to,

(48:11):
you know, marry that person. Turns out that's not possible, right,
You can't. You can't have a really meaningful relationship and
get to the point where you're ready to marry somebody
without them having already built a relationship with your kids
or seeing how that relationship looks like. So um So,
these preconceived ideas you have, you know you. I think

(48:33):
you have to be flexible and realize that, um, every
situation is different and you have to kind of uh
be able to adapt and figure things out as you go. Yeah,
we really could talk about it for days, because it's
like a different stages, you know what I mean, like
when we first started dating, and then in the middle
and then then you don't know. It just it's always

(48:54):
evolving and it's a very uh it's something that I've
never experienced before either, so we're like both doing it
for the first time. Yeah. So yeah, it's definitely something
that is worth talking about more. I think yeah, um, okay,
I think we should go into emails. I had one
quick question. Do the constant proposal questions bother you before

(49:18):
we take our next questions? You mean, like everybody on
social media say or like DM ing me? Yeah, people
d I get d ms all the time. Uh, they
don't bother me at all. I'm I mean, I know
that I'm not a public person, but I think I
you know, that stuff doesn't phase me at all. I
don't you know. Um, I actually you know, I look

(49:40):
at it more from kind of your perspective. So my
reaction to those things is one. On the one hand,
it's really nice that you have again this amazing community
of people who love you so much and care about
your happiness so much and are so invested in, you know,
in you and your happiness and your love and our
story actually beautiful to me. But on the other hand,

(50:01):
I actually do sometimes worry if it's putting pressure on you.
You know that. I think it's I just think you
can tell you something. Pressure makes diamonds, so you're already
a diamond. But you know, it's kind of like it's
like anything, like you know, okay, so so so you
you get engaged, you get married, then everyone's asking, okay,

(50:22):
when you're gonna have kids, when you gonna have that's
what everybody everybody's natural way. Yeah, it's a natural it's
a natural way. And I think also too for me,
it's like it's nothing that I mean, you knew knew
from day one. Early on in our relationship, I was like, okay,
like this is what I want and this is you know,
I've just been wearing a lot of white lately, so
you know whatever, Okay, We're gonna come back with some emails,

(51:04):
all right, Mark is not oh East, and you can
read the emails. Do you have him? I do, so
let's do this. This first one's from Ashley. My boyfriend
and I recently began discussing moving in together. I would
be moving into his house, and I'm struggling to think
of it as my home because I don't want him
to feel like I'm taking over the space he built
on his own. For context, I'm thirty, he's thirty five.

(51:26):
I plan to share these feelings with him as well,
but I'm curious if Tiny has experienced this while moving
in with Robbie, and he advised on how to make
his place feel more like ours rather than just his
house that I'm staying in. Is that a question for me,
your question for you both of us? But please no,
I mean totally get it. It's a it's a real thing.

(51:50):
I mean, I think, in an ideal world, the best
move is to start a new in a new place
that you guys both make your own. But I understand that,
or you know, the realities of the world sometimes make
that not possible for any number of reasons. So I
think it's just a matter of like you said, I
don't know. I don't know that it's so complicated. I

(52:10):
think it's a matter of figuring out a way to
add elements of yourself to his place in a way
that makes you feel like that is more your home
as well. And it's all a matter of just communicating
and having those conversations. Tany and I are having those
conversations right now, and again, our situation is, you know,

(52:34):
complicated in terms of immediately getting a new place, but um,
you know, we're constantly communicating about it, maybe more than
I would need to or like to, but yeah, I
just think you you you have to talk about it.
If you can't kind of start a new in a
new place, just figure out what what makes you comfortable,

(52:55):
and then you guys have to compromise and figure out
what makes sense. Yeah, it's interesting because it's like I
totally get where she's Ashley's coming from, because I did.
I felt I felt that way for a very long time.
I was like, I just feel like I'm again like, yes,
I think in our ideally we want to get our
own place together, that's kind of like our goal, but

(53:16):
temporarily like I'm going to move into your home, and
so it's like, how do you make a home that
your own? Because when I had my apartment. I got
to do whatever I wanted, Like I made it exactly
I wanted to have a little pink accent chair and
like did everything that I wanted. And it's so interesting
because it's just like that is what a relationship is,
you know what I mean. That's like a ying and

(53:38):
the yang. But like get given a take and so
it's not going to be exactly what I want, um,
but I can make it feel more me And like
you've actually done a really good job. You know, you
were not like a big dishes like he could leave
dishes for days and for the evening and I can't

(53:59):
go to bed with dishes in the sink, Like I
just I need dishes to be clean, and like so
I'll just take that responsibility on my own and I'll
just do them. But like you actually are so great
and I feel like you have done a better job
of like doing the dishes or like cleaning up just
being a little bit more on the kneater side than
you used to be, which I like see and I
really appreciate because it's like I see that you're making

(54:20):
those changes for me. You have a smile on your face.
Was that really not in that meat. No, No, not
in like a gross way, like I don't think you
were ever like gross. I don't think you're gross like dirty.
But I'm just like I. I like to live in

(54:40):
a museum like I like it to look like nothing's
been touched, you know. So it's we're definitely just like
having to meet in the middle. Okay, so yeah, communication,
but clearly I like to do that too much. We
will have talked about it for days, and then the
next day, should we do you want to finish the conversation?

(55:05):
All right? This ex cooks from anonymous. I've been with
my boyfriend for two and a half years. I'm thirty,
he's twenty eight. Clock is ticking. He has everything I
could hope for, his thoughtful carrying, loves, his family, adventures, etc.
I find him attractive, but I don't get the vagina
tingles that Tanya has talked about scientific term when we
kiss or when we're being intimate, not even early in

(55:27):
our relationship. Should I be worried about this? Tanya always
talks about connection over chemistry, which makes me feel like
this shouldn't be a big deal. I'm curious about your thoughts.
Would you like me to go first? Sure, yes, I
think it's character over chemistry, and that is imperative. Obviously,

(55:48):
the vagina tingles are nice, and in an ideal world
you can have both of those things. But to me,
if he's like a really great guy, I don't think.
To me, the clock is ticking is not should not
be a factor because you're only thirty years old, like,
there are plenty of fish out there. Your time is
not ticking. But you said he is everything I could

(56:09):
hope for, and so that to me says that his
character is really good. So I don't think it's a
big deal. Yeah. But also I mean I'm not a
vagina tingles expert, certainly not getting them. But if you're
attracted to somebody, I mean you can there's a you
can be attracted to somebody and not get vagina tangles, right,

(56:32):
I mean, there's a there's a room between those two.
So I don't know that you necessarily need vagina tangles.
And I think that that wears off. I mean I
don't think you, you know, in any relationship, the you know,
the attractiveness should not wear off. But this kind of
vagina tingle level of kind of honeymooney phase feeling wears off,

(56:56):
and if you're talking about a long term marriage or
lifetime marriage, um, that's going to go away no matter what.
So ultimately you're left with character and connection. So if
he's everything you hope for, you are attracted to him
sexually physically, then yeah, I'm not sure that you have
any issues. Good. Yeah, you can't build a relationship just

(57:16):
on vagina tingles. No you can't. You can't just you
also don't need vagina tingles for a relationship. But they
are nice, They are nice, They are nice. All right.
This next one's from Emily. I'm already reacting to this.
I'm sorry, what are your thoughts about me making my
boyfriend unfollowed girls he has hooked up within the past.

(57:39):
I asked him to do so and he said this
was toxic and uncalled for this. Dude sucks. I'm sorry. Toxic?
What the wait? I saw? I have the thing here,
So I think it's so I do. I mean not
to throw any guys under the bus here. I think
it's so weird when guys just follow follow random hot

(57:59):
chicks on Instagram. I think is weird. I mean, if
you're in a relationship, if you're single, follow whoever you want, UM,
But I find that to be a little bit weird.
But this question is a little bit different. So this
question is about people you specifically hooked up with, and
I think that maybe those people fall into two kind
of categories. One is, you know, there's there's people that

(58:20):
I've hooked up with in my past who I'm you know,
it was friends with first, friends with now we don't
have anything, it wasn't anything serious. We're friends who happen
to have hooked up. And then there's people who still
follow these people. Yeah, yeah, these are like these are
like lifelong friends. Then there are we can oh. Then
there are people who you like, have just hooked up,

(58:42):
who are just people that you hooked up with, who
you just had a relationship with, UM, and you know
that's coming gone. I think it's very weird to continue
to follow someone that you've just hooked up with on Instagram.
Didn't you just I feel like we were laying and
then one day and your Instagram feed is like not,
it's very not, um worrisome, Like when I look at you,

(59:08):
like it's so funny. So the funniest like the sexiest
pictures that I have on Instagram feed or like people
that I'm only friends with, because yeah, like Nickles, he
follows Natalie and so like she should post like pictures
in her Bikinian stuff. And I was like oh, and
then I'm like okay, yeah, I'll be like looking and
it's just you know, it's someone in a bathing suit
or this who is that? Oh it's my friend. Yeah,

(59:28):
I'm like okay, cool. But there was somebody like this
is maybe a year ago, but I remember we were
looking at your Instagram and there was like this girl
we like looked at her story and she was like
doing like weird kissy face to the like thing. And
I was like, and I've never seen her before, I
never heard her name, Like who is this person? And
You're like, oh, someone I hooked up with a long
time ago. And I was like you should follow her
two things, and then he did a quickly just unfeelollowed

(59:51):
her right then and there He's like, I didn't even
realize that I still was correct. There there is like
a tail period where you don't realize you're still following them.
Then if their thing pops up, you got it. You
got it of them. But also that was it a
period of time that I think we're out of now where. Basically,
any picture of any female on my Instagram, you would
ask me if I hooked up with them. So that's true. Yeah,

(01:00:13):
we are past that. But yeah I hate this guy. No,
that's my cousin. No, that's my cousin who just had twins.
As you can see, I'm looking at a picture of
her with her twins. I don't like how he reacts,
this guy, Emily's boyfriend. I don't like him reacting saying
it's toxic, Like if it makes her uncomfortable, then let
you know, do it or have a conversation about it.
Don't be like you're being toxic. That's not that unreasonable request. Yeah,

(01:00:36):
I agree that he should say it is toxic, but
let's say that it was you know, I don't know,
again one of these people who I'm friends with, but
I also just happened to have looked up with at
some period of time. I do think it's it is
it's unfair for someone to take it to the extremes
that you have to unfollow that person just because you

(01:00:56):
happen to have picked up with them, you know what
I mean. So I do a lot of people that
I've hooked up with I do right exactly. Yeah, yeah,
so it is. I do think it is a little
bit over the line to ask to unfollow those people.
But you know, the just hookups, I think it makes
this totally reasonable. And also if it makes you, if
it bothers you, it bothers you. That's all I'm saying. Yeah,

(01:01:21):
we have another anonymous email. I recently got my dream
job offer in London. I'm currently US based. I'm super excited,
but currently seeing someone pretty seriously in the US and
we're living together. He's deep in his career as well,
but could find a similar role in London. How do
I go about proposing the idea of a move this huge?
I know it will be a long discussion, but I'm

(01:01:43):
nervous about starting the conversation right rather than just proposing
an ultimatum move with me or separate. So the question,
I mean, I'm not even sure I understand the question.
The question is how do I start the conversation? Yeah,
I mean, I think you should answered herself. You definitely
do not give an ultimatum this point. I mean, I
don't know how long these people have been dating. I
don't know how you know she says, they're pretty serious.

(01:02:05):
I don't know how old they are. I don't know
if they're on the brink of marriage, but they're living together,
so that's significant. Okay, So yeah, I mean there's so
many life decisions that have to be made when you're
thinking about spending the rest of your life with somebody,
this is one of them. You start the conversation. I
think you just start the conversation by saying, hey, this

(01:02:26):
is happening. You know, what are your thoughts? How would
you feel about potentially moving to London and starting our
lives there? Boom? And then it goes from there. I
also think too, it doesn't have to be so permanent,
you know, Like I do think there's a world in which,
again we don't know your ages, but if you're on
the younger side, there is a world where you can

(01:02:47):
take this job, move to London, do long distance for
a little bit, and then maybe see maybe you don't
even maybe you think it's your dream job and you
freaking hate it and then you move back. You know,
like there is a world where that could be the reality.
Or you take this job. You guys realize like you
can't be a partner. He just decides that he wants
to move there to be with you. So I feel
like maybe even leaving it open end and just saying,

(01:03:07):
this is my dream job. If I don't take it,
I'm gonna regret it. I don't want to lose you.
So let's just give it six months and see what
this is like and then make a decision in six months. Yeah.
I have a cousin who just went through this, who
just got married. He's from New York married a girl
who lived in la but also had in New York

(01:03:30):
in the past, and her family was from Miami. Anyways,
this is a major topic of discussion for them, and
they you know, they just started the conversation. They had it.
It was, you know, this was kind of a I think,
a really important point for him and maybe less so
for her, and so they were able to come to
an agreement and compromise and they're married and happily ever after. Yeah.

(01:03:54):
I think this is good, good, good all, good good guy,
good job. London's awesome. Yeah. Yeah, I vote yes for London.
I vote yes for London too, just to see because
you might hate it. That's the end of our show.
That's it. We're done. Yeah, and we're done. Else nothing

(01:04:17):
else unless there's something you'd like to share. Maybe ask No,
I think that's I can't think of anything that I
don't want to ask. No nothing, yeah, nothing, yeah, no
questions come to mind. Oh weird. Yeah that's it. So
thanks for scrubbing in Dave. This was so fine. Yeah,
I hope I did. Okay, thank you guys. That was

(01:04:40):
really a lot of fun. And um, where can everybody
find you need any help? But they're wantin your service
transactional matters? Yeah, there you go. You out a guard
law PC. His instagram is private, so but I do.
I'm private, but I have been ex accepting all scrubbers,

(01:05:01):
so yes, he does, so I'm part of the community now.
Yeah that's right. Well, thank you, I love you, and
we'll see back in next week. She'll be back with
a lot of stories from her tour and we will
not have an episode on Thursday, but so we back
on Monday and love you bye, Love you two.