All Episodes

September 23, 2024 51 mins

Becca and Tanya are back from Chicago (adjacent) and there is SO much to recap! 
Tanya takes us through her unsuccessful method of meeting up with Shantel VanSanten, and she relives an "I thought I was following you" moment with Kate Walsh!
Plus, we find out how to get dinner through analysis paralysis, and Becca tells us how Tanya's selfie light revealed the two kinds of people when it comes to attention in public. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mark as Played
Transcript

Episode Transcript

Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya wrap An iHeartRadio Podiast.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.

Speaker 3 (00:12):
Scrub a dumb, A dumb and a dumb.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Oh, I feel like we have a delirious Tanya today.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
Oh, you don't even know. It's not even Tanya, it's Fanya.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
Oh she's faked Tanya. She's faking it. Yeah, faking it
till she makes it, till you make it? Should we
get right into it? But we here, we're here in
the studio, back from Rosemont.

Speaker 4 (00:38):
Some of our best episodes has had no sleep.

Speaker 5 (00:42):
Great, awesome, rawsome rowsome, so there's there has been a
lot of travel.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
A lot of travel, a lot of so much travel,
so little time.

Speaker 6 (00:55):
Mmm.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
Wow she read that right off run. She liked it.
Where do we begin?

Speaker 4 (01:04):
I have a question.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
Illinois, Illinois and epic.

Speaker 7 (01:09):
Epicn Have you caught up on Grace because you seem
to really know your stuff and that was impressive.

Speaker 2 (01:17):
I studied and I looked up on TikTok, I like
looked up this season to see, like what questions the
fans would want to know. I saw the clips of Adelaide,
Mika and Jewels all over my page because that's a
w L hashtag WLW fan edits and then a lot
of the cast was like og. So it was just
like natural questions. We just came prepared, studied. Sam gave

(01:42):
us good questions.

Speaker 3 (01:43):
Oh my god, let me tell you something, and that.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
She's done with.

Speaker 3 (01:52):
But I'm just saying the whole the loveliness that is
being on a podcast, being on a team, is having
a producer. The loveliness is having a producer like Sam
that you know is giving you information that is super legit.
Like I I've worked on other shows where I've gotten
some questions that may not be factual, and so I've always.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Like had that that uh Like on.

Speaker 3 (02:18):
This show, we.

Speaker 2 (02:22):
Rundowns that we had to fact checked, and.

Speaker 3 (02:24):
There's something very unsettling about that, you know what I mean,
because then you always have to feel like you have
to like reread and fact check every little thing. But
it's like there's so much comfort in knowing that whatever
Sam gives us, we know it's legit.

Speaker 2 (02:38):
But we also had people on that we there were
people that weren't from Gray's the Grey's Anatomy World, yes,
that we were like, oh, we we know of them,
but we don't, you know, necessarily know exactly what's going on,
and we they were all so nice to talk to,
but these were also like rapid fire interviews, you know.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
Yeah, well one of them. So there was one girl
in particular that I felt like we were kindred spirits.
I felt like she sat in the chair and we
could have talked to her for days. Do you not
feel that way?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
I really enjoyed her. I don't know if I could
have talked I couldn't talk to anybody for days. Yes
you could, No, I could not, Okay, could have talked.

Speaker 3 (03:18):
To her for a lot longer. Like we just totally
full podcast with her. We totally hit it off. We
loved her and was it I'm gonna let Becca tell
the story because I feel like, in my head she
asked us for drinks or was it me?

Speaker 2 (03:34):
It was definitely you, but she was very willing in
her response, like it was very much like, oh my gosh, yes,
and then she's like, y'all message me or I'll message you,
but there was no info exchange, so it was very
in my mind, it felt like a Tanya Camilla, let's
watch The Gray's Anatomy together at your home, so oh yeah,

(03:56):
let's do it that situation.

Speaker 3 (03:58):
So we're actually talking about Chantelle van Stanton, no Van
Santon Van Santon.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
She played Quinn and Onetree Hill. Yes, and she was
so lovely.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
So lovely, Like I really did feel like we were
like fast friends and I feel like she felt that too.
I swear she wanted to get drinks with them, and.

Speaker 2 (04:22):
Do you have a memory of this?

Speaker 8 (04:23):
She she enjoyed your company. I don't know if she
wanted to continue it outside.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
Of the really okay, I think she had a really good.

Speaker 3 (04:30):
Time with you guys.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
Sam witnessed this as we were walking by. There was
a conference room and she was on the phone and
she was like, message me when you all get back
to the hotel, like she initiated that. Yes, so Sam
heard it. She can vouch for that because she was like,
oh but did say that, Yeah she did, right, She
did say that.

Speaker 5 (04:48):
Good.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
She said, she like waved you from the room and
said she was like message me.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
So it was very much on her.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Still no numbers exchange or anything, just totally relying on
Instagram DM.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Yeah, which I didn't love. Like I'm like, so I'm
just waiting for her to see this thing to her
request folder.

Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah. Well, we were in the car on the way
to record our podcast with Jessica Capshaw and Camilla, and
Tanya's like, let's DM her so that we can when
we get back.

Speaker 9 (05:18):
Well, I don't have to say it's a miracle that
I'm getting married, because truly, the way that I engage
with other human beings via text message and like via
phones is so awkward.

Speaker 3 (05:31):
Like I don't pick up on social cues. I don't
know how to write like cute text messages or like
cute messages like mine are so awkward and weird. Like
I had one written to her and I was like, Becca,
why don't you just do it? And the one Becker
wrote was so much cooler.

Speaker 7 (05:44):
I was like, dang, this is my Robbie fell for
Sierra originally.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
And then it was you God, bless God, bless dear Markina.

Speaker 2 (05:53):
Really so I Tanya started the group and then I
messaged her and I said, Hi, Chantel, We're going to
the downtown Chicago to record a podcast. We'll be back
around eight or so. We'll just message you if you
still want to get a drink, no pressure. If you're
talked or socialed oubt. Tanya follows up, no pressure, but
it will be so fun, She writes us, like later on,

(06:14):
and she goes, oh, I just came back. I took
a nap and just woke up. So sorry. I just
now got this. It was such a crazy day. Wish
we could have talked for longer. I felt such a
kindred spirit and both of you, and I'm so grateful
I got to meet you. Tanya goes, honestly jealous. We
are just having dinner and heading back. She's still trying
to make it happen.

Speaker 3 (06:30):
I did not pick up on the like it's not happening.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
I just say, so great meeting you. Hope you have
a safe trip back. I just accepted.

Speaker 3 (06:37):
Yeah, I Becka, just let it go. I was like,
it's not over till it's over. We're still out.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
Did we get drinks?

Speaker 3 (06:42):
Nope?

Speaker 2 (06:43):
No, the last we saw over the first and last.

Speaker 3 (06:48):
Yeah, but I still feel like we could be friends.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Okay, I feel about too. She lives in New York, though,
so that's tough.

Speaker 3 (06:54):
Well that's where I'm going this weekend.

Speaker 2 (06:55):
Oh my gosh, yep, you.

Speaker 3 (06:57):
Should hit her on will I will?

Speaker 2 (07:01):
That was manic, yes, but I will say we did
the podcast at the crossovers call it what it is
with Camilla Ludington and Jessica Capshaw, and that was, honestly,
I have to say, one of my favorite episodes we've
ever done.

Speaker 3 (07:16):
Yeah, it was very I don't know what the word is,
but it was like cerebral. What cerebral mean? Not probably
not what I'm going for, Very intelligent, very definitely not
that no, no, no kismet along that lines of like the
fact that there was like the seventh anniversary of the
podcast and that we had Camilla and Jessica Capshaw, Like
what's the word I'm looking for? It was very serendipitous

(07:40):
and it just felt very really cool.

Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, cerebral if you will.

Speaker 3 (07:45):
Cerebral, No, not cerebral, but you know I'm trying to say,
but I thought it was.

Speaker 7 (07:49):
Cool that they Yeah, Jessica and Camilla, we're going to
you guys for like advice on making podcasts because and
you guys kind of rolled your eyes about that, but
you shouldn't, because you guys are ros of this. You
have a highly successful podcast that's been running for seven years.

Speaker 4 (08:04):
That's not nothing you right agree?

Speaker 2 (08:06):
I agree? And by no means do I feel like Roma,
I do feel like we have been in the game
for a long time and are we can give advice
on podcasting.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
We should start a class, Yes, I'm serious.

Speaker 2 (08:22):
What's the class?

Speaker 3 (08:23):
I don't know, but let me see. The wheels are turning,
so give me.

Speaker 2 (08:27):
You always have some great ideas and you just need
some time to troubleshoot it. But we never crossed the.

Speaker 3 (08:32):
Bridge, true, but I think we could do like a course.
I'm just saying.

Speaker 7 (08:37):
I mean, how many young people are looking to get
into podcasts, podcasting plenty.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (08:42):
They need some guidance.

Speaker 3 (08:43):
Hence the guidance. The guiders, great guiders, the guides.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yeah, but yeah, they were just so fun and warm
and it didn't feel like we were interviewing like celebrities.
It felt like we were all friends just having a
chit chat, enter back and forth. There was never like
an awkward moment of what do we talk about next?

Speaker 3 (09:05):
No, never, And I almost wish like people were saying
that they wish that we would have done like a
truth or Drink episode.

Speaker 2 (09:11):
Yeah, maybe next time.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
Next time for sure, because we were all like sipping
on a little like drink. But we weren't like getting drunk,
and I think it'd be really fun if we all
got drunk.

Speaker 2 (09:21):
Yeah, yes, yeah, we we did all have a few drinks,
and then Tanya wanted you know, I was like dead
after one time, especially if I have wine. I'm I'm
like ready to turn in. Toni's like, let's go get
a cute dinner. It's Saturday night, no, right, Saturday night night.
And I'm like, okay, fine, if you find a place

(09:43):
we can go eat.

Speaker 3 (09:45):
She's just scrolling, well, yeah, place, I'm looking at, yell,
but I'm looking at.

Speaker 2 (09:50):
I'm talking thirty minutes, We're sitting on an outside empty
cafe area on a bench. I'm like terrified. Then it's
just like not not a great vibe. And finally I'm like,
let me find a place. Let me ask the Instagram
followers and see what everyone says. So they recommend this
place Maple and ash or something.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
Yeah, but let me tell you, it took everything in me.
So Camilla and Jessica left to go to a dinner.
They were going to a dinner with other Grays people,
and I was like, yeah, I'm like, why don't we
just go to that? We know all these people Jakebrelly,
Sarah Drew like, yeah, they know us. I was waiting
for the invite, didn't get it is there that we

(10:32):
were not invited, so I did not What.

Speaker 2 (10:34):
Were you gonna say?

Speaker 3 (10:36):
Can we come along? We'll set at the bar myself.

Speaker 2 (10:42):
Under the bed if you had asked we come, So
thank you for not doing that.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
You're welcome.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
But we go to this place everyone recommended and it
is probably the busiest restaurant in Chicago, I think. And
Tanya and I are in our business suits, our panel
seasoned suits, and these girls like people are in like
these new outfits going out where And the girl I
go up because I had seen that there was a
reservation and she's like, there's no reservation, and she's like,
you can check upstairs and see it's open seating at

(11:10):
the bar. So we go up there. A few people
come over and introduce themselves. Tanya brings out it's pit.
It's dark like it is like a viby restaurant. It
is pitch black minus some dim lights here and there.
Tanya pulls out this light that in darkness, it's jarring
broad daylight. It's jarring in studio light right now, and

(11:35):
starts these old, older couples, like what is that she
starts taking selfies with them, showing them the tutorial, and
I'm like.

Speaker 3 (11:43):
Let me tell you something. If you're a scrubber and
you come up to Becca and I and you want
a photo that those photos would have been horrendous in
there in that dark lighting, and you know what, I
got our scrubbers some amazing photos with this bad boy.
And I would do it again. I know you would,
and again and again. Scrubber.

Speaker 2 (11:59):
There are two different personalities, and I'm there's one that
doesn't mind attention, not saying like you are craving attention,
is that you don't mind eyes on you because you're
just doing your thing. And then there's people who like
hate any that like direct attention. And we are both
of those people, Okay, in their opposite.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
I'm gonna show you I still have the photos.

Speaker 2 (12:19):
So you wanted to crawl into a hole, I just
was like, I'm hungry, I'm tired. I found this place.
She's done nothing, and now she's giving a tutorial on
the lighting. We still don't have a table. I'm like
irritable at this point and I'm being blinded, and she's like.

Speaker 3 (12:32):
Shit, I'm gonna hold up. So I'm going to hold
up these photos. These are two random people. But this
isn't the point that we don't even know.

Speaker 7 (12:42):
You're arguing, the point that she's not arguing. At this photo, Wow,
that is quite a look for you.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
And then look at the photo with my light.

Speaker 4 (12:52):
Yeah, gorgeous, it's better.

Speaker 3 (12:54):
Yeah, so just let this be a lesson.

Speaker 10 (12:56):
Everybody said, I'm saying the lights the photos aren't better
with it, But don't say time and a place and
when your best friend starving and you encourage her to
go out and you're sitting there doing a light tutorial.

Speaker 3 (13:07):
Wat grubbers. This was for the scrubbers.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
People were not scrubbers or whatever.

Speaker 3 (13:12):
The civilians. These civilians came up and wanted to ask
me what this was, and I sent them the link
and showed it to them.

Speaker 2 (13:20):
Anyways, I walked up because I didn't see her. I
didn't know where she went. I was downstairs looking for
her place.

Speaker 3 (13:25):
She just had to fall the light and I walk up.

Speaker 2 (13:29):
I wish I could show you. I'm gonna do a tutorial,
and what I've witnessed Tanya trying to find a spot
at the barky.

Speaker 4 (13:36):
I love it when you act things out.

Speaker 2 (13:39):
I'm like, I'm like far away. I walk up where
there's like you get off an elevator and then there's
a bar and you're just you know, I'm just I'm
trying to see if I can see her to be like,
get downstairs. We got to find another place. I walk
up and.

Speaker 3 (13:51):
She's what, what would you like it to look like?

Speaker 5 (14:00):
Just some speed.

Speaker 7 (14:02):
She's strolling very slowly and just looking around.

Speaker 2 (14:05):
I did not know this about Tanya until this trip.
She is a slow mover in everything she does. And
I think that if I encourage quickness, like if I'm like,
come on, let's go, she goes slower. Oh boy, So
I have to like take deep breaths and just be like,
it's okay, She'll get there when she gets there.

Speaker 3 (14:26):
You know what's interesting when I've learned about myself in
the past couple months is that I have analysis paralysis.
So I actually, I don't know if you know this.
I actually don't enjoy making decisions. I really I'm like,
I liked, it's gonna sound weird, but I just like
to be told what to do, Like this is when
we start the show, show up, be there, great done,
be prepared, great done, Like if you throw, if you

(14:48):
lob me at, let's where do you want to go?
And I have to analysis paralysis on my phone and
look at Yelp reviews and like look at places to go.
I'll be doing that for now. Whenever we're traveling and
Rob and I are trying to find a coffee place,
I could spend an hour and a half trying to
find a coffee place.

Speaker 10 (15:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:02):
I didn't know this about you until recently traveling with you.

Speaker 3 (15:05):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
Yeah, so it's been it's been eye opening as I
am not the one to plan, but I'm also very
low key, Like I would have been totally fine to
go home and order in, but you have an opinion
on what you want to do. Yet there's no.

Speaker 3 (15:20):
Downtown. It's our only night here. We're like, you know,
let's live it at that.

Speaker 2 (15:24):
I get that, but it's like to make the plan.

Speaker 3 (15:26):
I know, And what I should have done is I
should have anticipated that that we were going to be
down there, and I should have done my research a
couple of days high or not in the moment. Uh huh,
that's my bad.

Speaker 2 (15:35):
And then another what I've realized is that you know
everyone has an opinion about me being late whatever, I overpack.
But you know what, I am always prepared.

Speaker 3 (15:46):
I'm always prepared, and I'm always not prepared.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
And you're fast in turn, well not fast, but you're
you pack lightly yeah, and you're easy going in the
sense of that. Yeah, but you're never you don't have
everything ever correct.

Speaker 3 (16:00):
I'm always using like one thing here and there, like
slip flops or hairspray or toothpaste.

Speaker 2 (16:07):
You brought it. I'm like, what a hair tool?

Speaker 4 (16:10):
Like?

Speaker 3 (16:10):
I never travel with a hair tool like re Becca.
For sure, she has a giant suitcase. She'll for sure
have a hair tool for me. You did, just not
the one you not the one I needed. Yeah, So
it's a it's a it's a fine line.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Is that rude?

Speaker 4 (16:21):
Is it rude?

Speaker 7 (16:22):
Do not pack certain things knowing that somebody will have
your will have it and you can borrow it.

Speaker 3 (16:27):
When Becca packs like a suitcase the size of Manhattan
to go to Palm Springs for two days, I thought
for sure it was going to be jam packed for
a Chicago trip. Like, I was like, there's gonna be
stuff in there, And I was wrong.

Speaker 2 (16:44):
It was there was for me.

Speaker 4 (16:47):
Yeah, I guess that's the risk you take.

Speaker 3 (16:48):
Yeah, but you know what's interesting when I realized is like, what.

Speaker 2 (16:52):
Do you realize? Oh wait, wait, wait, let's take a break.

Speaker 11 (16:55):
If you watch Dancing with the Stars.

Speaker 3 (17:12):
I can say this and Karna will probably say the
same thing.

Speaker 12 (17:14):
I don't think that we had great dancing chemistry.

Speaker 11 (17:17):
Then you need to be listening to sex lives and
spray tend My partner.

Speaker 13 (17:22):
Ardam, he was so intense that made me really nervous.

Speaker 3 (17:27):
With Cheryl Beck, Canada didn't wear a lot of clothes, No,
she was She did super ankles warm.

Speaker 11 (17:33):
Get the behind the scenes of what goes down on
and off the dance floor.

Speaker 14 (17:38):
Dancing with the Stars breaths body image issues for women.

Speaker 3 (17:42):
The thinner you are, the more attention you end up
getting on that show.

Speaker 15 (17:45):
Injuries, my phone rings, Hey Christian, Hey, yeah, I saw
you'm Dancing with the Stars. I saw what happened to
your arm, and I have the perfect guy to fix it.

Speaker 2 (17:56):
Honestly, got to the clara, I'm I'm just trying to survive.

Speaker 3 (17:58):
I'm just trying to make it out of out of
the season ego.

Speaker 4 (18:01):
She wanted to kill me.

Speaker 3 (18:03):
It was real bad insecurity on the show. It was
like everyone was talking about my weight and it really
affected my confidence so much for like years to come
and betrayals.

Speaker 7 (18:13):
Because of that one betrayal, I knew this is probably
my last season.

Speaker 11 (18:18):
Listen to Sex Lies and Spray Tans with Cheryl Burke,
new episodes every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

Speaker 16 (18:24):
My name is Cheryl Burke, and I approved this message
We're back.

Speaker 3 (18:34):
We're back, and you know what, I realized, let's get
right into it. So I packed a carry on because
I feel like I've always thought that the luggage garage
carousel takes a long time to get your luggage. Oh sure,
Like that was always my belief. So it's like, I
don't want to wait for my luggage and it's going
to take five hours to spit it out and wait

(18:55):
for you know, I'm just gonna cap my bag and
go into my uber. Becca was not so far behind
me waiting for her bag than I was having my bag.
So now I'm kind of like rethinking my whole life mentality.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
I my mentality is if it's a direct flight, and
especially if it's free. They flew his first class, why
would I not bring a full bag with everything? I
want and make sure I have it right. If it's
a if it's a short trip and it's like a
one to stop, I would attempt a t I rarely

(19:30):
do it, but I would. I would be more willing
to attempt to carry on.

Speaker 3 (19:33):
Yeah, And I'm sitting here, dum dummy me carry on
everywhere I go, everywhere I go, long trip, short.

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Fully prepared, never, never fully prepared.

Speaker 3 (19:43):
But also prepared. That should be my memoir.

Speaker 2 (19:45):
But I also was on the plane before Tanya, and
we got to the airport, sitting with snacks in hand.
She comes stressed walking on.

Speaker 3 (19:58):
I've never been stressed like that, and I'll so I
was driving, I was on my way to the airport,
and I checked back as location, which I'm so grateful
to still have, thank you for not ending that. And
so I checked back his location and she's ahead of
me on the freeway. And that's when I started a panic.
I'm like, Becca Tilley is ahead of me on the freeway.
I'm in trouble. That's not a good sign. So I'm

(20:18):
like stressing. And then I like see her park and
she's at the airport and I'm sill on the freeway
and I was like I am like profusely sweating, and
I'm not the person that like people start boarding and
I walk up to the line like I am in
line ready to go, and I walked on the line
past when I was supposed to. I was in like whatever.

Speaker 2 (20:43):
Correct.

Speaker 3 (20:43):
That was very stressful, and I didn't have time to
eat my hard boiled eggs.

Speaker 2 (20:48):
Thank god, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (20:50):
I didn't.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
I said, if you want to eat those, go into
the bathroom, eat those in.

Speaker 3 (20:58):
The bathroom and growth they But you don't.

Speaker 7 (21:00):
The people sitting next to you don't want to smell
your head boiled as a person who has sat next
to you while you eat them for about fourteen years.

Speaker 3 (21:08):
Do you know how many stinky salami eaters I've sat
next to you on airplanes? And they're being rude too,
don't it's not rude.

Speaker 4 (21:14):
Don't answer rude with rude.

Speaker 3 (21:15):
Oh my, a hardballed egg is a very luxurious protein.

Speaker 4 (21:20):
Packs eat it in the car.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
I was. I didn't need it in the car on
the flight.

Speaker 7 (21:26):
So you have a four hour flight, do you bring
entertainment because I'm a guy who brings entertainment, because I
can't imagine just sitting there with nothing. You like to
talk to the people around you.

Speaker 3 (21:34):
Well, I'm glad you asked that. Thank you, because Beck
and I prepped the whole flight over.

Speaker 4 (21:40):
Oh, studied your Yeah, we.

Speaker 2 (21:43):
Had a lay down seat, could have just checked out,
watch TV, laid down.

Speaker 3 (21:48):
Becca really wanted to watch a movie.

Speaker 2 (21:49):
She wanted to stop. We went over the prep and
I was like, I feel good, Like these are questions,
I know what to ask and I feel this is
gonna be We're good. I think we should go over
one more time. I'm like I want to do and
She's like, no, I had a separator. I kept trying
to raise it. She kept putting it back down. Oh yeah, yeah,
we should have recorded on the plane, but yeah, no,

(22:13):
no rest or sleep.

Speaker 3 (22:15):
And because we had a lot going on, so I
was like, I really want to go through every day, Like,
go through our schedule, every interview that we have read,
through the prep, go look at their instagram.

Speaker 2 (22:23):
See it took like an hour though it was a
four hour fight.

Speaker 3 (22:27):
So then I wanted to do it one more time.

Speaker 2 (22:30):
We basically did, and then we talked to uh Jana Ortiz,
who's the lead of Station nineteen. She was on her flight.

Speaker 17 (22:37):
Yea.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
We sat and talked with her for a while. Tanya
basically said she does not watch the show and feels
like it was forced upon her and she did not
give in, and she's like she wanted.

Speaker 3 (22:47):
She was really cool, she was really cool about it,
and she was like, I get it.

Speaker 2 (22:50):
Meeting the cast of Station nineteen made me want to
watch Station.

Speaker 3 (22:53):
Nighty Toning too. That's the funny thing is like meeting her.
She was so cool. I loved her and everybody that
we met from staventeen. I was like, maybe I was wrong,
Maybe I should watch the show.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
Humbling moments.

Speaker 3 (23:07):
It was a humbling moment. Yeah, it was.

Speaker 2 (23:09):
Can you talk about when Kate Walsh she wanted you
to follow her hi or you wanted you to follow
yourself from her phone?

Speaker 3 (23:17):
I have never ever ever, And because I don't really
get embarrassed because I am who I am, right, I
wanted to crawl out of my body because I was
so embarrassed that this happened, especially in front of Kate Walsh,
my hero, my hero.

Speaker 2 (23:36):
Yes, she was like, I'm obsessed with you. You're like Tanya
was just going after her and she was so cool.

Speaker 3 (23:46):
So cool. But I think I'm not have to tell
the story when we come back, right.

Speaker 2 (23:54):
It's like six minutes since her last bird.

Speaker 3 (23:57):
Well, okay, I guess I'll just tell he that. So
I like, I love Kate Walsh because I just I
loved her character on Grays Out of Me, like she
was between her and Arizona Robins, like they were my
top two favorite of all time, like just and also
the thing that I love so much about Kate Walsh

(24:19):
is that I hated her character when she came into
Grays out of Me, and then she made me love her.
It was like I've never had a Arizona Robins I
just love from day one, whereas like Addison, I hated
and then ended up loving. So I was like, correct
and continue to hate, continue always hated until I met
the real person. So that was yeah, okay. So we're

(24:44):
doing the panel like, oh my gosh, Kate Walsh. Then
we were doing this this TikTok trend that's like what
are your toxic traits? And so we asked Kate Walsh
if we could take a video of her and ask
her what her toxic trade is. She told us and
so she leans over and she was like, hey, will
you guys tag me and whatever you post and I

(25:06):
was like, girl, no problem, you got it, of course,
and she hands me her phone, hands me her phone
and says, can you follow follow the two of you
on my on my phone? What's my Instagram?

Speaker 2 (25:19):
What's my name?

Speaker 6 (25:20):
I like my name.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
I'm like, ah, like shaking, and they're all everybody's watching me.
So I'm stressed and I go to my page and
it doesn't say.

Speaker 2 (25:30):
Follow back, no it yeah yeah, because I don't I
don't follow her.

Speaker 3 (25:38):
I didn't even realize that I don't follow her, and
I was like, oh my gosh. I was mortified. So
I did it. I'd like try to like turn the
phone my way just to hit it, and then like
I had to get on my phone right after and
follow back, which is mortifying. And I was just praying,
like we pray, we pray that she didn't see it.
And then I go to Becca's Becca Tilly. Of course

(26:00):
Becca's following her, and it says.

Speaker 2 (26:02):
But it wasn't.

Speaker 15 (26:03):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (26:03):
Well, and now I'm thinking maybe I was delusional, like
maybe I was so like worked up over mine that
maybe I saw things. But I swear to follow back
ours and I wanted to show her it, like I
was like, look, look, follow back click, you know, yeah, but.

Speaker 2 (26:18):
Then she cared. I don't think she cared at all.

Speaker 3 (26:21):
I don't think she cared or noticed, you know, at all.

Speaker 2 (26:25):
No, truly.

Speaker 3 (26:26):
But then we get home and Becca says she wasn't
following her.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Yeah, I'm like, why am I not seeing any of
her stuff? So I go to her profile and this
has followed back and I'm like, Donia lied.

Speaker 12 (26:38):
It's like she blocked out and was like I've never
been so mortified, like truly, And again, I'm sure she
didn't care or would care.

Speaker 4 (26:50):
Are still saying she's your shiro and you don't even
following right.

Speaker 17 (26:55):
Like.

Speaker 3 (26:58):
My gosh, that was I'm wanted to crawl out of
my body. But now she's following me, which really And
and I guess who will started following me?

Speaker 2 (27:09):
And I guess it's Jessica Capsule.

Speaker 4 (27:10):
Yes, wow, nice.

Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah that was a big one.

Speaker 4 (27:14):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (27:15):
I screenshoted it.

Speaker 2 (27:17):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (27:22):
Oh, put it on my bio. Jessica Capsual follows me.

Speaker 8 (27:26):
Jessica remembered my name from like I helped her out
with her podcast like two weeks ago, and at the
convention she's like, oh, hi Euston, and I'm like, oh
my God, wow.

Speaker 2 (27:34):
Is crazy, how I guess I've always thought she would
be nice, but she was so normal and normal and
just like overly kind.

Speaker 3 (27:44):
Yeah. She was awesome, awesome, awesome and so normal. I
always feel like celebrities like that, like you put them
on a pedestal, you know, and she deserves that pedestal
forever made she rain, But like there's she's just so normal.
She's just like you and I, you know, like chit chat, yeah,

(28:05):
just like us, just like us stars.

Speaker 2 (28:08):
So we returned home, yes, and then there's travel, more
travel to be had. I went to Denver the next day,
got home from Chicago at like nine pm or something,
and then got on a flight the next morning to
Denver to go to a concert at Red Rocks with
Hayley to see her a band that she loves with

(28:29):
band Arcade Fires. Oh wow, I personally don't know many
songs by them, And I went as I was like,
are you sure you don't want to take someone.

Speaker 3 (28:38):
Who loves the band?

Speaker 2 (28:39):
He loves the band and can sing along. She's like, no,
I really want to experience it with you. So we
off we went to but off you got to see
my youngest sister, Henk and her girlfriend. So it was
really it was really fun. Yeah, got back literally disassociated
for two days. Nice binged two TV shows which which
presumed innocent.

Speaker 4 (29:00):
Oh that Jake jilln Holk, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (29:01):
Really good. I tried Mormon Wives.

Speaker 3 (29:05):
I'm cheetering with that. I watched like the first ten
minutes of the episode. I just fell asleep. But I
like it.

Speaker 2 (29:11):
See, I just don't like when I can feel a
reality show is overly produced. Like I don't like when
I feel like the producers are telling them what to
ask and say. And a lot of people are like, yeah,
but you were on the Bachelor, and I'm like, but
I never felt that they did that in our in
our conversations, like if we were I remember Crystals and
I one time we're talking about TV shows or something

(29:32):
like friends, and they were like, hey, can we talk
about uh, something more about you know, meeting her family
or something, you know, and then we would have a conversation.
But it wasn't like direct questions that they told us
to ask, right, And I really felt that on the
first episode of Mormon Wives, and I can I can't
handle it. And then we watched the movie Uglies. Excuse

(29:53):
me what I.

Speaker 3 (29:55):
Just had to tickle my nose. She I just had
a noseedge. It was something like this. It was unsanitary,
No better than my finger.

Speaker 7 (30:07):
Right, hold on, just so people know what is that
you're holding and you just put it inside your noscri.

Speaker 3 (30:12):
I had like an itch inside my nose, inside.

Speaker 4 (30:14):
Your nose a little bit. I wouldn't want to use that.

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Now, Well, good here, I'm not offering this to you.
You cannot use my chapstick.

Speaker 4 (30:21):
Ever, did break through the perimeter.

Speaker 3 (30:25):
Better than my finger? I would say.

Speaker 2 (30:27):
Definitely went to the innards. Yeah, it was very casually done. Sweating.
Looking at your your fleece sweater over. I just noticed
that that could be worse than the pupper.

Speaker 3 (30:43):
I'm telling you my body is off kilter.

Speaker 2 (30:47):
That's okay. Anyways, I got back from Denver and then
watch TV. Oh the Uglies was brutal. But I didn't
read the book, so I knew nothing going into it.
So I was very much like what am I watching?

Speaker 3 (31:00):
I did not either, Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
You didn't read the books or did you watch the movie?

Speaker 3 (31:04):
No, give a shot.

Speaker 2 (31:06):
Everyone in here should read watch it. Let me know
what you're saying. Yeah, please, King, I and I think
she's a really great actress. So I just the one
with Chased Oaks.

Speaker 3 (31:16):
So yeah, I do you want to see this? It's bad?

Speaker 2 (31:18):
Please watch it good or bad. It's I thought it
was terriflo.

Speaker 3 (31:23):
But is it like a rom com?

Speaker 2 (31:24):
No, not at all. It's very futuristic. It's basically about
like when you turn sixteen, you get like basically the
bold filter put on your face. You get to choose
like how you want to look, and everyone else's uglies
the uglies, and then there's the pretties. So that's the concept.

Speaker 3 (31:41):
Sounds bad.

Speaker 2 (31:43):
Check it out, you might like it. But then you
headed to Vegas for iHeart Festival.

Speaker 3 (31:49):
Yeah, I've been doing not a lot of watching television.
I've just been like on planes and trains and things
as such, and prepping and packing and unpacking and then
packing again. Yeah, but uh, what did I do? It
was such a blur. It's so funny because there's so
much going on, like at the iHeart Radio Music Festival

(32:09):
that like it's hard to think back because it's it's
so jam packed in a matter of two days. But
my Friday night was actually very chill, so I got
to really enjoy a lot of the show du A
LiPo was like amazing, and then Saturday was like a
little chaotic. But what's interesting is like I went out
Friday night did this after party. I had ended up

(32:29):
getting home in like one forty five, and Ryan had
wanted to do like a staff more like a staff
run on Saturday morning, and I was like, you know me,
I'm like count oh. I was like count me in,
and so I did, in fact set my alarm to
meet him. And I set my alarm for eight thirty
because I thought were going to go at nine thirty.

(32:50):
He ends up wanting to go earlier, at like nine
p fifteen. So I'm like rushing to get ready, and
I was like I need a coffee, Like I cannot
go on a run without a cup of coffee. And
the line was like wrapped around the casino. So I
was like, there's no way I'm making it through this
line in a matter of minutes. So I had to
do this run outside in Vegas Sons coffee, and Ryan

(33:13):
was so much faster than I thought, Like I thought
it would be kind of like on the same level
that was a mistake.

Speaker 2 (33:20):
He was very fast, So did you have to keep
pace with him?

Speaker 3 (33:23):
Yes, Well I was a little bit behind, like I
was maybe like, was it just you and him and
one other friend of ours?

Speaker 2 (33:30):
Those the only people that said yes to the morning run? Correct?

Speaker 3 (33:33):
Yeah, yeah, just running the strip, just running top to bottom.
We went all the way to the last casino and
back a little over two miles.

Speaker 2 (33:40):
Do people stop when you're with him?

Speaker 3 (33:43):
Not at all, Actually quite the opposite. So he would
say hi, he would say hi to somebody. I would
hear him say hi to like a person, a runner,
passer buyer. They would not say hi to Ryan, and
then I would be like, hey, good morning, and they
would say hi to me.

Speaker 2 (33:57):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (33:58):
It was actually quite hilarious. I'm convinced it was because
he had his headphones in.

Speaker 4 (34:03):
Were they there air pods?

Speaker 3 (34:05):
Air pods? Yeah, But I'm like, why would you show
up to a run with your friend wearing air pods
like we're supposed to like to chat Like this is
not you know, you're not running by yourself.

Speaker 8 (34:12):
It's hard to talk and run at the same time.

Speaker 4 (34:14):
I get it.

Speaker 3 (34:16):
Yeah, I would never do that.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
I will probably, I think it would be very rare
for us to be on a run together. But I
will have air pods in if it ever happens. He
kept them in.

Speaker 3 (34:26):
He kept them in, but he did not put music on,
which I thought was a very nice compromise. You know,
like he had them in, but he wasn't like listening
to music. Have them in because he had them. We
met at the bottom of the casino, so he already
had them. So he's like, I'm not going to go
back up to my room and leave them.

Speaker 8 (34:44):
All, just im store them in my ears.

Speaker 3 (34:45):
Yeah yeah, the pocket right right right?

Speaker 2 (34:50):
Did you you interviewed people right over? Who was who
did you interview?

Speaker 3 (34:54):
I interviewed Hallsey, whom I love, and I inter viewed
Flavor Flavor in Tiffany Hattish. Oh wow, yeah, and I
think there was just three of them.

Speaker 2 (35:06):
Oh wow?

Speaker 3 (35:07):
Yeah?

Speaker 15 (35:08):
Was it?

Speaker 3 (35:08):
Was it like our usual was no Crue Oh wow,
no Crew, No no Ben Higgy, no Higgy Well nope,
no Wells whoa interesting? Yeah? It was like chiller in
a way. Yeah, I bet yeah. In the backstage.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
So how are you feeling today? On a Monday?

Speaker 3 (35:28):
So I'm feeling pretty bad. I had this great idea
to go home first thing in the morning on Sunday,
so I was like, I'm on a seven thirty flight,
I'll get home and I'll just like be in bed
all day. And I had slept about two and a
half hours, so I was pretty miserable. And then I
tried to like get home and just sleep, Like I unpacked,

(35:50):
showered and tried to like take a nap. I had
a nail on my tire, so Robbie took me to
pep Boys to get it fixed, and then I came
back home, took another nap. He had to wake me
up to go pick up the car. Then I came
back home, did more work for Monday, and then I
went back to bed.

Speaker 2 (36:05):
Wow, yeah, you had a much betterer day than I did,
and he deserved to have the day that I did.

Speaker 3 (36:12):
Yeah, I really when we finished today, I'm just going
to go vertical.

Speaker 2 (36:17):
All he's not vertical.

Speaker 3 (36:19):
Yes, yeah, I'm gonna must not have a weird set
up in your home or that's but like, you know
what's so interesting that I realize is I'm getting very
needy because like we've been traveling so much, and I've
been away from Robbie, and I'll come home and I'll
just like want to be with him and spend time
with him. And he's just like woah, you know, and
I love that for him, Like I love it because

(36:40):
he loves it so much and it's like something that
brings him joy. And I never want to take his
joy away. But I'm like, I need a little attention.

Speaker 2 (36:48):
What do you need from him? Like what is it
that you're looking for? Just like eye contact?

Speaker 3 (36:53):
Eye contact, sitting with me, engaging in conversation.

Speaker 2 (36:56):
But could you sit with him while he watches football
and not be like if he if you were like, hey,
like will you rub my feet while you watch football?
Like would that be something?

Speaker 3 (37:04):
I didn't even need my feet rubbed. Oh, don't need it.

Speaker 2 (37:07):
So you don't want to just sit with him?

Speaker 3 (37:09):
I just want to talk.

Speaker 7 (37:10):
This is the theme though, of this entire episode. Right
you're on the plane, you won't let Becka relax, sit back, sleep,
watch TV. It's constantly she needs to be constantly entertaining you,
or at least socializing with you. You're running with Ryan.
He can't listen to anything in his earbuds. He needs
to be constantly talking to you and entertaining you. And
then you go back home to Rabie and he's not
allowed to watch football because you need constant attention. Now,

(37:32):
I feel like there's something here we could delve deeper into.

Speaker 2 (37:35):
This brings me back to our first night in Rosemont, Illinois,
and we're at the hotel restaurant. Tanya's having a dead
serious conversation. Like we're having a conversation. She goes, I
realized that I'm needy, and she says it so seriously
that I'm like looking around, like, am I being friend?

(37:57):
I'm sorry? What he just hit you?

Speaker 3 (38:00):
It just hit me. Yeah, at least I'm self aware
at this point, and I'm this and I say, it's
a Robbie too, Like I'm like, look, I know that,
Like I don't want you to stop watching your football
and playing with your friends on your phone, Like I
know that that brings you joy, but like I'm tired,
I'm exhausted, I'm depleted, and like I just want I'm needy.
I just need you to just like look at me.

Speaker 2 (38:20):
I know. So that's what I'm saying. What do you commute?
Like do you know exactly what you want from him?
Or is it more like you can't figure it out
and it's a lose lose no matter what he does.

Speaker 3 (38:30):
Right now, it's a lose lose. I think it's just about.

Speaker 2 (38:34):
From the airport twice. That's a love language.

Speaker 3 (38:36):
Yeah, Sonny, I know, I know he brought Sonny like
videotaped hers so cute. Help me fix the nail and
my tire. Yeah, I know, he's a I love.

Speaker 2 (38:45):
Him, I know, but I'm saying, like sometimes when Haley
is like I can't feel I said, okay.

Speaker 3 (38:51):
I said, I said, Monday, when you're done with work,
do you have plans? And he like laughed, I never
have plans, but okay.

Speaker 6 (38:59):
What do you what?

Speaker 3 (38:59):
And I go, can we get in bed early and
watch the Americans? That's all I want, of course.

Speaker 2 (39:08):
And now he gets to have time with you. You get
to have time with him. You'll get to do something
you love to do together because you just exactly what
you needed.

Speaker 3 (39:16):
But let's see, because there is football on tonight, so
let's let's just see how it turns out.

Speaker 2 (39:20):
Its phone here and there.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
But that's okay, fine, fine, that's fine, Fine, we have
to rap.

Speaker 4 (39:27):
Bak.

Speaker 2 (39:29):
I think we got to go.

Speaker 3 (39:30):
We've gotta be done.

Speaker 2 (39:31):
We gotta know. I think we do break and then
come back. I saw the sound of music for the
first time this weekend.

Speaker 17 (39:50):
Hey everyone, Amy Roboch here along with t J Holmes,
and we have a very exciting announcement to make to
all of you.

Speaker 6 (39:56):
We are expanding. We are now going to be coming
to you Monday through Friday for a new part of
our Amy and TJ franchise, if you will, the Morning Run.
We're going to help listeners navigate the busy news cycle
and the historic political season that the country is facing.
And we're going to do this now each and every day.

Speaker 17 (40:17):
Wow, we have a news franchise now, I like the
way you put that. We're going to be covering all
the latest news headlines for all of you. We'll have
entertainment updates, and we'll even give some perspective on the
current events that are happening right now. And this, by
the way, is in addition to our already established bi
weekly podcasts that we hope you guys are tuning into
as well, with more in depth conversations and interviews. So

(40:40):
we're going to be with you Monday through Friday with
Morning Run. Listen to Morning Run on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Speaker 13 (40:50):
Jenny Garth, Jana Kramer, Amy Roboch and TJ. Holmes bring
you I Do Part two, one of a kind experiment
in podcasting to help you find love again. If you
didn't get it right the first time, it's time to
try try again, as they guide you through this podcast
experiment in dating.

Speaker 14 (41:05):
Hey, I'm Jana Kramer. As they say, those that cannot
do teach. Actually, I think I finally got it right.
So take the failures I've had the second or even
third whatever, maybe the fourth time around.

Speaker 1 (41:18):
I'm Jenny Garth. Twenty nine years ago, Kelly Taylor said
these words, I choose me. She made her choice. She
chose herself when it comes to love, choose you first.

Speaker 3 (41:30):
Hi, everyone, I'm Amy Robot.

Speaker 4 (41:31):
And I'm TJ.

Speaker 6 (41:32):
Holmes, and we are well not necessarily relationship experts, if
you're ready to dive back into the dating pool and
find lasting love. Finally, we want.

Speaker 14 (41:42):
To help listen to I Do Part two starting September
nineteenth on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you
get your podcasts.

Speaker 3 (41:54):
You can talk about Sean Ashmore changing his instagramio. What
a win that was.

Speaker 2 (42:00):
The fans are out for Sean Ashmore. They love him,
and I guess he has a twin. Wow, people are like,
I never know if it's his. Is this a joke
or something like in the fandom that I don't know about,
Or does Sewan Ashmore have a twin because he does,

(42:20):
I don't know. I never know which one is which.
So anyways, Yeah, people love Sean and he changed his bio.

Speaker 3 (42:29):
To the original Internet boyfriend. Honestly, Sam, you should feel
really good about that.

Speaker 2 (42:35):
Like Sam and Crystal had an absolute win. Yeah, truly
from the Seawan recognition. So yeah, I've never seen Sound
of Music. It's one of those things that like, it's
like a fun fact about me that shocks everyone, stops
the conversation where.

Speaker 4 (42:52):
Everybody has those movies that just fell through the cracks them.

Speaker 14 (42:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (42:55):
I could just see my mom trying to show me
that when I was younger, me being like, Noah, bored,
what is this? You know? But we went with Haley's
family for her mom's birthday. We did. They had a
sing along at the Hollywood Bowl, So I said, let
me just see it in the most epic way possible.
But man, you know, when you're surrounded by that many

(43:16):
fans of a movie and it's a singlong and you
don't know a single word to anything. I felt I
felt imposter syndrome, like I shouldn't be there, you know.
I'm like, man, I took a ticket.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
For any of those songs A music so long farewell.

Speaker 2 (43:37):
Yeah, yeah, that's a few of my favorite things. Like
I know things here and there, but I didn't know
like the storyline or anything, you know, so they were
like cheering when she would like tell him off. But
what a legend. Honestly, I was also so impressed by
the talent that people had to have back in that
time to be actresses and actors and do like one

(43:58):
takes is incredible.

Speaker 3 (44:00):
I don't have to do one takes well because.

Speaker 2 (44:02):
They were shooting on film and so it'd be like
one take without having edits or cuts for certain scenes.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
Direct the datsa datesa entertainment uh aficionado, and now she
knows all all the things.

Speaker 2 (44:16):
It's just paying attention. Yeah yeah, yeah, you don't know
anything about being a lawyer.

Speaker 3 (44:21):
No.

Speaker 8 (44:24):
I saw some clips from the Hollywood Bull Showed. It
was so fun seeing like like Julie Andrews walks on
screen and everyone freaks out, like getting avengers. You know.
It's like I wish I was there so bad.

Speaker 3 (44:33):
I will say, watching movies at the Hollywood Bowl when
they have like the full live band, it's so I
think I watched like Beating the Beast or something did something.

Speaker 2 (44:41):
Yeah. The first photo I have of me, you and
Haley is from.

Speaker 3 (44:45):
That night Beating the Beast. Yeah, and it's like you're
seeing this movie that you've seen a hundred times, but
having a live orchestra just like makes it so much better.

Speaker 2 (44:53):
There wasn't a live orchestra. It was basically karaoke like
the song the was like the words were on the
screen and everyone was singing along. Everyone lights it was.
It was cool, but we left early, so I still
haven't seen the whole thing.

Speaker 8 (45:12):
Damn.

Speaker 4 (45:13):
It's a lot of traffic. Yeah.

Speaker 8 (45:16):
Yeah, we'll catch us on DVD.

Speaker 3 (45:17):
You need to go home and get vertical and watch
not vertical music.

Speaker 2 (45:23):
Yeah, yeah, I will, because I quite enjoyed it. But yeah,
that was a little bit about me and Mark. Something
significant happened in your life.

Speaker 8 (45:32):
Man.

Speaker 4 (45:32):
Everybody goes through it, and I get it. But my
daughter went off to college and it's the worst. It
is brutal.

Speaker 2 (45:39):
Where'd she go? Where's she going?

Speaker 4 (45:40):
You see San Diego.

Speaker 2 (45:42):
Yeah, I didn't know. I thought for some reason it
was a little bit closer.

Speaker 7 (45:46):
But some of her friends are on the East coast
for sure. My wife went down there last week.

Speaker 4 (45:53):
To set up the dorm. That's amazing and that stuff.

Speaker 7 (45:56):
You should see the use of space that she came
up with and how you know there. They had to
get maintenance for one thing, but everything else that you
would normally go to maintenance, my wife went to Target
and bought a screwdriver because you can bring one, and
just hammered it and just fixed everything that needed to
be fixed.

Speaker 4 (46:09):
For one thing that's driving her crazy.

Speaker 7 (46:11):
But it's beautiful. It's a great dorm and everything is
really cute. And then I went down there on Saturdays,
but the day with her because Amy had to take
my other daughter would do a dance convention. It was
a crazy weekend, but man, I thought I was going
to get through it. I thought I was gonna be okay.
But then I said goodbye to her, and I just
started losing it. And she was like, oh, go get
out of here, get out of and go because she
doesn't want to lose it. She wanted me to lose it.
We're in the quad, like there's people around, I can't

(46:31):
be breaking down in front. It was so it was
just it's really really difficult.

Speaker 4 (46:37):
We're going through it right now.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
Does she have a roommate or two roommates.

Speaker 7 (46:42):
They seem nice, but they've not been around much. Classes
don't start till Thursday, so they've been kind of in
and out. But she's she's feeling a little homesick and
that's hard.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
That's hard. Don't want to just be like come back.

Speaker 4 (46:52):
Yeah, just come back, Okay, yeah, come home.

Speaker 7 (46:54):
We tried, okay, yeah, but I don't know.

Speaker 4 (46:58):
Well, we'll get through it somehow. But yeah, it's been
it's been rough.

Speaker 3 (47:01):
So I remember my parents. I wanted to come home
like within the first like month of being away. My
parents didn't let me.

Speaker 7 (47:07):
Wow, they were like no, I mean I think there's
something to that. Yeah, you need to create your independence.

Speaker 4 (47:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (47:13):
I drove home in the middle of the night my
first weekend, and I scared my mom to death because
I came into the garage. I was like, I just
want to sleep in my bed. I have to go
back up tomorrow, and she was like, okay, I was
only an hour away, but I drove like late. I
was like, I can't do this.

Speaker 3 (47:28):
Yeah, I needed a plane ticket, so therefore I need
I needed funds.

Speaker 2 (47:33):
We got her just where we want her.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
Yeah, yeah, a little too far to drive. I could
and I have done the drive. It's like eight hours.

Speaker 2 (47:39):
So are you are you like feeling constantly wanting to
check in but having to.

Speaker 7 (47:43):
Risk my wife is more of the we need to
fix this, We need to cure her homesickness or whatever.

Speaker 4 (47:50):
When you know she's not she hasn't.

Speaker 7 (47:51):
She only been there a couple of days, and she
felt like she hasn't found her people yet, you know,
like she's met some people, she's met, but she hasn't
made like her core group of friends. Well it's only
been a couple of days. You don't even start of
classes yet.

Speaker 2 (48:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (48:01):
So Moife's like, we got to fix this, we got
to figure this out. And i'mre like, we need to
let her figure this out. And I think that the
solution is probably somewhere in between. But I don't know
what the answer is.

Speaker 3 (48:10):
You can't help her, that's the answer.

Speaker 2 (48:12):
Wait, so she she didn't she didn't have any friends
that also went there.

Speaker 7 (48:16):
Her boyfriend is there, Oh and that's great, but that's
also kind of a crush. Yeah, you don't want that
to She can just hang out with him all day
every day, and then you're not going to make any friends.
So that's nice that he's there, and we feel very
that's he's protecting her. We feel like we trust him
very much. He's a great, great guy. But I just, yeah,
I worry about her making friends because she's so social.
She really relies on what she gets from her friends.

Speaker 2 (48:38):
Is she going to do sorority stuff?

Speaker 4 (48:39):
I don't think so.

Speaker 3 (48:40):
Not the first year anywhere.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
I mean, yeah, that's true, but like inner mural stuff
like just yeah.

Speaker 7 (48:47):
Clubs, the club's thing today or tomorrow. We can sign
up for different clubs. She's gonna be some of that. Yeah,
that's where you find your people.

Speaker 2 (48:54):
Yeah, I know, because you have similar interests. So there's
this like natural.

Speaker 7 (48:57):
She's studying theater and tomorrow is the big theater. More orientation,
like those are your people.

Speaker 4 (49:02):
Together in one room. Yeah, but day to day has
been has been a struggle.

Speaker 2 (49:06):
Yeah, that's hard, and I imagine it's hard being like
there's no fix, but we want to fix it.

Speaker 4 (49:12):
Yeah for y'all.

Speaker 7 (49:13):
Yeah, I look on life through sixty and there's your
little dot down there all by itself.

Speaker 14 (49:16):
Do Yeah.

Speaker 3 (49:19):
Yeah, phones charged.

Speaker 4 (49:23):
That's true.

Speaker 2 (49:26):
Oh yeah, that's tough. So it's so weird when like
it's so weird that your whole life you're kind of
like aching for that independence and then it finally happens,
and then you're like, but I just want to be
at home, you know.

Speaker 13 (49:41):
I know.

Speaker 3 (49:42):
So it's crazy that your kids like leaving your home
and I'm like getting super excited about like having a baby.

Speaker 4 (49:49):
Yeah, you know, the complete opposite sides.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
Of that, opposite sides. You're crying right now.

Speaker 7 (49:54):
Yeah, it's not it's always right there, it's always right
at the surface.

Speaker 2 (49:58):
Yeah, Tanya, if she sees a water her watery look
in your eyes, she will point it out. Yeah, and
then she'll try to spark the tear to flow from
the eye.

Speaker 15 (50:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (50:06):
Well, the worst is when my youngest daughter gets sad
because that's her sister.

Speaker 4 (50:12):
That's tough.

Speaker 7 (50:15):
Because they've got a great bond and now they're separated
by three hours.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
She all just moved to San Diego.

Speaker 7 (50:21):
Would everyone's doing it?

Speaker 2 (50:25):
It was a great place. We just it felt like
the time to relocate. And what a coincidence that this
is the college you chose. What a beautiful.

Speaker 3 (50:35):
She'll go down there to Brooklyn, sure, yeah, she'll end
up just in San Diego.

Speaker 7 (50:41):
Yeah maybe, Yeah, for sure they could see a five
minute walk to the beach from her dorm.

Speaker 2 (50:46):
Oh my gosh. Wow, I probably would have stayed in
school longer than a year if I had had that.
That was not my experience.

Speaker 3 (50:53):
That was not my experience. I was in the desert.

Speaker 2 (50:56):
You were like in the ditching and Taco bell somewhere.

Speaker 3 (51:00):
For sure, on bathroom for you.

Speaker 2 (51:04):
Yeah, I think that's a wrap.

Speaker 3 (51:07):
It's a wrap. We gotta go.

Speaker 2 (51:09):
But we do have a Thursday episode, A Dear Buy,
Yes we do, so get ready for that.

Speaker 3 (51:16):
Advice galore, without further ado, Goodbye, goodbye, love you so much,
love you bye,
Advertise With Us

Hosts And Creators

Tanya Rad

Tanya Rad

Rebecca Tilley

Rebecca Tilley

Music, radio and podcasts, all free. Listen online or download the iHeart App.

Connect

© 2024 iHeartMedia, Inc.