June 14, 2024 • 32 mins
Ben and Ashley are hanging out with new parents in Bachelor Nation, Blake Horstmann and Giannina Gibelli!
Blake opens up about how their relationship has changed since becoming parents and reveals that he struggled with connecting to the baby right away.
Plus, Blake and Giannina share their reaction to Jason Tartick’s new relationship, and Ashley confronts the new parents about some baby name drama!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast
with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
This is a very special episode of the Almost Famous Podcast.
There's a lot to talk about today. We have love,
we have relationships, we have babies, we have future, we
have so much to cover. We have Blake and g
here obviously new parents. Before we dive into that though,
before we jump into that part, we do have to
talk about a friend of ours who had a big
(00:27):
announcement come out. I'll be honest, I didn't know it
wasn't public, so I'm glad they Jason and Kat team
just came out publicly with a hard launch. I'll be again,
I didn't know they weren't public, so I wasn't saying anymore.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Well, they've been pretty public.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
They've been.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
They've been like on vacation, They've been like just so
many places in public together. But I guess this is
their first time posting like any romantic y way like
on Instagram.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Yeah, I mean, obviously, I think it's not been really
a secret by any meaning.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
Honestly, it's kind of like us. Everybody kind of knew
we were.
Speaker 5 (01:05):
Together, you know, post show, but we can like post
or anything until we finally did and then but but
I mean, yeah, I'm super happy for him, super happy
for her.
Speaker 6 (01:13):
Obviously we've plung out with the two of them a
few times.
Speaker 7 (01:17):
I love Venezuela.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yeah, oh yeah, got that part. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Yeah, they're a great match too.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
She's high energy. She can match his energy for sure.
She's super high energy.
Speaker 7 (01:32):
And she'll keep him on his toes. Yeah, not that
he needs it, but I just think that it'll be
They just like feed off of each other in a
really nice way. But they were just like in their bubble,
you know, they don't want their bubble to be popped.
And now I feel like they feel like I think
they feel like they're in a place now where it's
like you can say whatever you want, people can start,
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you know, shooting off whatever speculations, et cetera, et cetera,
and it's not going to touch us because we've solidified
our relationships. So prosps for them to keep in that
little bubble. And they feel ready.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
So they're gonna they're gonna crush the couple's content.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
They're gonna crush Cat's super creative and Jason is so
be fun.
Speaker 7 (02:12):
Funny, and she'll like take him out of his shell.
A little bit again, not that he needs a shell.
She's listen, it's different when.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
You're tell you what.
Speaker 7 (02:25):
We'll get a little bit of spice in his life.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Okay, So do we time stamp this because you guys
are way closer to him than I.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
I had dinner with him in like December, I think.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Right with not December. Ben loves like no, No, Ben
is like Jared. He has like no sense of time.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I feel like it was December.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
No, it was high. It was like March. Yeah, were
you guys there at the dinner with Ben?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
Yeah, okay, March actually because I played I played a
show in Nashville and it was.
Speaker 6 (03:05):
Right after I found out, and they were like pretty
brand new. Yeah. I want to say maybe maybe.
Speaker 7 (03:11):
It was like Blake's got the receipts.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
No, No, I'm looking at the calendar February, but I
think they're probably obviously talking before them. But I don't
know exactly, which is fun.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
There should be careful saying dates because there's gonna be
like people are gonna be like they were hanging out
in December and there was crossover, and I'm like, no,
I just didn't know February.
Speaker 6 (03:33):
We'll go with February.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Yeah, it's always a big step outside of everything else. Excited,
happy for them, they seem great, that's awesome. I understand
and never have a problem at all with somebody not
coming out publicly, Like it doesn't bother it. I don't
know why it bothers people because you're dating, like what
are you gonna do? Going your first day? And they
make hey, we need we should share that we took
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a date together. But I do feel like when you're
in intentional about waiting, when you do finally announce it,
that is a sign that things are looking good, like
that you feel confident in what will become of your connection.
Speaker 8 (04:14):
I agree, you don't go public unless you want to,
like intertwine a lot of your life, especially when your
life is on social like that, like their businesses aren't social.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
So I just think that this is a very like
what you said, very big green flag that it could be,
could be, endgame.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Could be.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
I always said, I remember because I.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Agree with you, and I remember saying after Paradise, I
was like, I am never going public with a woman
unless I intend to like marrying her.
Speaker 7 (04:45):
I heard that I heard that podcast before yea before
we went public, and I was like, oh shit, oh no,
oh god, oh no.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
So when's the wedding, guys, I knew, I know.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
I was like, this is.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
You know, there's yeah, yeah, there's some Oh no, we
just had a baby, so we're worried.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
About the baby, keeping the baby alive.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
First from there, Okay, so the baby was born two
months ago, yeah, two months ago.
Speaker 6 (05:18):
Ten weeks roughly, I think he's ten weeks.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
His name is Heath.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I said, like, Keith was kind of on our
list for our next baby.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yeah, we won't. We were not we're going to use it,
but because you guys.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Took it from her, I told I told Jared. I
was like, Heath is out because because Blake and g
already named their baby Keith. And he was like, we
could still do it because of them. I was like,
are you I don't know, Like I don't want to
be a name stealer. Plus, don't worry, it's not like
so high on the list that like I felt like
it was a steal.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
It was not a steal.
Speaker 6 (05:54):
Plus, Heath, you have the literation to the age eight Haben.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, we've been thinking.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Okay, I like Hayden and I think Hayden Haven is
too ridiculous.
Speaker 6 (06:03):
Right, A little it's really close that.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You cannot do. It's too bad.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I think it's got some flow.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Yeah, really yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
The middle name would be big middle name would have
to be a big middle name. It'd have to be
in like a really good middle name.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
To not to like break it up.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
Yeah, just to break it up a little, a little
tongue nye.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
All right, all right, keep it on a list.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
How do you feel, I'm I'm like, it's just like
that depends on the hour at this point. You know,
like sometimes it's just like I'm so heavy and I'm
so like defeated and just like it's heaviness. Yeah, and
then there's sometimes where I am am pretty fine. But
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I know that you enjoyed pregnancy, so good for you.
You and I had the absolute opposite pregnancies of all time,
because like you were one of the few people that
I've heard of that like enjoyed it.
Speaker 7 (06:58):
I didn't think I would really terrified.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
I thought for sure she would hate being pregnant and
it would be so rough, and she just hated all
but she loved all of it.
Speaker 7 (07:09):
I was like waiting for the other shoot to drop.
I was just like, all right, like I'm waiting to
hate this ship.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
And I I was so jealous.
Speaker 7 (07:15):
Like it was I don't know then, it just it
is what it is.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
And I just didn't have any symptoms that were overwhelming normal.
Speaker 7 (07:24):
Yeah, tired, I just like a ton. I didn't get
morning sickness. I mean, I like you right like that.
I was waiting like I was waiting for it. I was,
you know, I would get dizzy, I would get like
a little bit of nauseous, but like I never like
fully threw up maybe like five times throughout the whole pregnancy.
And it's because I like a.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Tone traveling, you'll usually get a hit.
Speaker 7 (07:46):
Yeah you got a hit out of it, but it
was you didn't have any like reat. I felt really
like feminine.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Yeah, you looked really feminine and beautiful, and I looked
so good.
Speaker 7 (07:59):
I'm like, shit, I wish I was so pregnant right now.
I'm just like I'm trying to and to just you know,
just try not to take just trying to take the
pressure off of myself. But I'm like ready to just like.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Be back.
Speaker 7 (08:13):
And I'm not.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Saying everybody has like their part.
Speaker 6 (08:17):
Do you think I love her so much.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
I mean, it's it's been hard to watch her be
like Okay, the baby's out, like I want to be back,
you know. And then and like there's that fine line
of being like encouraging her but not like being like yeah, and.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
It's also like to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 5 (08:36):
You know. It's like, baby, you're you're breastfeeding like I'm trying.
You know, You're just a fine line to be like
encouraging but not too much being like keep.
Speaker 6 (08:43):
Trusting the gym if you want to, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
There's like that fine line of being like okay, baby,
like do you want to come to the gym with
me today?
Speaker 6 (08:47):
You're more than welcome like that.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
So it's like my body feels good. I'm I'm emotionally healthy,
which I'm super super grateful for. Like again, I thought
I was going to be like PPD, Like I mean,
I could hit you like at any point, you know, yeah,
but I just feel pretty normal. So I want to
look like myself again, so that the two aren't really
clicking right now. So that's the hard part.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
I got it. I got it for me with Dawson.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I thought that I thought that I bounced back super
quickly because the weight fell off really quickly. But then
I look back on pictures and I still wasn't myself
at all until like three or four months was part
of or like yeah, like I still had like serious
acne and stuff, but it was because it was better.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
I was feeling like relieved.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
So you got to take where they where they up.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
Honestly, Yeah, it's been an insane obviously her experience. You know,
I can only speak to my experience, but like it's
been insane watching like what a woman's body can do.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
It's so literally netty like it's.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
The most itself. The birth itself was like the most
magical thing I've ever.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Been a part of.
Speaker 7 (10:01):
I love giving birth.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
It was so emotionally overwhelmed, like and I could see
like it was it's almost like the feeling I got anyway,
then I can only.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
Speak to myself. It's almost like addicting.
Speaker 5 (10:12):
Like I could see maybe why people like have a
big family and like being pregnant and having kids, because
like it is such an incredible feeling and it was.
Speaker 6 (10:20):
It was awesome. I loved it so much.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Let me ask some follow ups here, did you expect
to feel that way or like when did I guess
for both of you, when did it hit you? I mean,
because this was not planned. Your your pregnancy was not planned.
It was a great scenario and how it worked. You
guys made the most most of it. But it wasn't
like you were planning to have a child at this
point in your lives, in this year, and so there's
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a probably a little shock. I went out to dinner
with Blake and I was like, how did you guys respond?
He's like, we were good. It just it's new.
Speaker 6 (11:01):
We didn't know.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
All right, right, let's go.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
So when did it hit you that you were like no,
I could see why, Like this is actually something awesome.
Speaker 7 (11:13):
Something awesome. I had a rough couple of weeks just
again adjusting to like, whoa, my life is not all
mine anymore, you know. So that was August first we
found out, and then I think, like truly when we
told your family, we told his family in six weeks
and they were so happy and like jumping up and
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down and just like it was the best news in
the entire world. And I was just like, wow, this
is because I felt like I was going to get
in trouble. I don't know, like my team helped, just like,
you know, I don't know kicked and I was like,
why do I feel like I'm gonna get in trouble
like that I'm pregnant right now? And my family just
reacted beautifully. But I think it was like when we
told your family that, I was like, Okay, I feel
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pretty good. Everyone's super happy. Like just started embracing it
from there on.
Speaker 6 (12:02):
Yeah, that embraced it pretty quick for me.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Yeah, pretty quickly, you know, and then you'll like figure
this out. But like for me, obviously we're not like
I was pregnant. My body isn't changing. I'm still doing
a lot of the things I was before. Like you know,
I didn't have to cut out alcohol, I didn't have
to cut out certain foods.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
I didn't, you know. It was just like so nothing
changed for me for a really long time.
Speaker 5 (12:23):
So and it's like I've talked about it, but it's
like this weird feeling of like, am I you know,
she's already so attached to the baby, she's already so
in love with the baby she's carrying it. They have
this attachment, this connection, and I didn't feel it. And
then obviously and like there's part of me that's like
what's wrong with me? Like why am I not there yet?
So I get you know, I would get emotional over that,
like I hope I love this baby, like you know,
for some reason, I'm not feeling it yet.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
And jar never puts his hand on my belly like
it doesn't care. He does not care when it's like
no attachment.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
Well, and then it's one of those things.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
So you put my hand on the belly and he
stops kicking, and I was like, oh.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They will never kick for anyone other than the mom
So it's a.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
Lot of weird emotions you're going through, and you know,
together us together. But everybody kept telling me like just
wait till the baby comes out, like just wait to
see him, just wait to make contact, way to touch him.
And I was like, okay, you know, like that's what
everybody says, but for me, it truly was that moment.
It was like the second I saw his little half
of his head, I just broke down. It was like instantly,
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it was I'm getting instantly it was just like oh
my god, like that is my son, you know, and
I'm so craziest feeling. So that was that was like
really it was like a relief for me because I
was like, oh my god, I hope like I'm gonna
feel that way.
Speaker 6 (13:36):
So it was really cool to feel that like right away.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
And I know still there are our parents who don't.
There our dads, even our moms who don't. But for
me personally, that's my story and I was just like
immediately like thank.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
God, I need to get there.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
It's uh, see, I have a lot of but you know,
most of my friends at this point have had children,
and I have, you know, everybody who's on a spectrum.
I have a buddy who six months he's like, I
don't thee anything and he was like going crazy. He's
like I don't and then all of a sudden one day,
I don't know what it was, his son reached out
for him or something. He was like, oh okay, I
love this.
Speaker 6 (14:09):
I don't know what to do.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Yeah, I've heard that even about moms. Sometimes it takes
you know, almost a year sometimes for them to be
fully because they're just so exhausted.
Speaker 6 (14:18):
Yeah, so everybody's different. You know, everybody has a different story.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
So it's, uh, how is your relationship changed?
Speaker 2 (14:23):
I mean, now your parents, you have a third in
your family, how like what has been the ups and
downs of your of your romantic relationships since the birth?
Speaker 3 (14:35):
You go, don't let then pressure you.
Speaker 6 (14:38):
No, no, No, it's a good question.
Speaker 5 (14:41):
I think we weren't sure, like you kind of said then,
like we didn't like this, you know, we didn't plan
to get pregnant.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
He was a surprise.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
Yeah, he was a surprise, the best surprise.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
So I think like we I didn't know what to expect,
like after the the the pregnancy of the birth, because
like you said, everybody has different stories. But I mean
i've I mean I don't if anything. It's almost like
she became this like I don't know the word I'm
looking for sacred thing. It was like, is now she's
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not my girlfriend or my whatever, She's like the mother
of my child. So like I always look I look
at her through a different lens now and that happens
pretty quick too, and especially seeing like what she went through,
whether it be through the pregancy and the birth and an
even post birth.
Speaker 6 (15:24):
It's like all change a diaper, Like I saw how
much you went.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
Through, Like I'll change a diaper all, you know, whatever
it is, so you just look through for me, you
look at her at least I look at her through
like a different lens, and it's no longer just like
you know a girlfriend or even at you know a wife.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
It's like, oh my god, it's like the mother of
my child. It's like very different friends.
Speaker 7 (15:44):
I am not a dirty, dirty girl anymore. You know, I'll
take it.
Speaker 6 (15:54):
I guess I like that.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I mean it makes sense because you do like there
is a new lens of like connection too. I think,
I mean, the sacredness also would lead to you being
feeling closer because there is you know, the two of
you ran. You know, you have a unique dating history
where you ran two very separate lives for a bit
as you were dating and loving each other. But you're
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running two separate lives now, like maybe the dependency is
a little bit more because you're both raising this child together,
which I think is beautiful when it happens naturally like that.
And I've really enjoyed watching the two of you through
the social media lens as parents. It has been really beautiful.
But I will say, gee, you are one of the
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only people I've ever seen through social media that's made
pregnancy look so easy. I talk to Ashley every couple, couple.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Days usually social media. They do usually on social media.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
It looks nice, sure, but not you know, I make
sure that I don't make it look.
Speaker 7 (16:55):
It wasn't nice. I would have and you know all
the days that didn't feel nice, everything, I ye like, yeah,
you're transparent through it, even when I was in the
beginning where I was like listen, like I wasn't really
expecting this and it took me a while, and I've
been very transparent about it. It's just I happened to
have a pregnancy that treated me like and and.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
I do not really never know what you're gonna get save.
Speaker 6 (17:22):
It's not even per woman.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
It's like per pregnancy, but maybe it is because like.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
Ixt baby should be like no more, like.
Speaker 7 (17:31):
It's that's so great.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
You know, my first what like wrecked me, like you
guys in every single way.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
It was so awful.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
And now in this one, I'm like, yeah, it's pregnancy
and it's not the.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Best, but like I'm not destroyed.
Speaker 4 (17:47):
And I was terrified of doing it again because I
thought it would be the exact same. But it's definitely
dependent on the pregnancy.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
It's so weird and and it's been hard for me
because like g has been. I mean watching g go
through all of this on social media, Like sometimes she'll
get hate for having a good pregnancy, and it's like
it's bizarre. It's like people are so made that I
like we're talking like something angry, Like.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
People get bad because of your true life experiences. That's
always weird.
Speaker 6 (18:20):
It's like I'm sorry that she had a different experience
than you. So that's been hard for me.
Speaker 7 (18:25):
But also I've encouraged people because, like I was scared
of having a baby because of all the horrible, crazy
stories that people just immediately tell you as soon as
you got pregnant. They're like, well my cousin's friends had
you know this happened in this And you're like Jesus,
like is everything like that? And then like TV shows
you like every single traumatic experience a woman can go
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through while having birth because it's like a good storyline,
et cetera, et cetera. So I had all this conditioning
that like my pregnancy is going to be rough, my
birth is going to be rough, and I'm going to
have a really rough time. But because I didn't, I
also wanted to show that it is possible to have
a beautiful experience even though you're not feeling a perfect
one hundred percent of the time, it can still be
a really great experience that you want all over again,
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and I do. I just didn't think that would happen
to me. So people are pissed and some people are encouraged.
You can't you can't please.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
You'll never win.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Oh definitely not.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Because when you hate it, then people are like, you're
not appreciating it.
Speaker 7 (19:22):
And you're lucky, you know, some people can't have pits huge,
you know, conversation around it. So I just try to
be as honest as possible. And if you don't think
I'm being honest, I don't know what to tell you.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I actually didn't realize that there is different types of
pregnancies because I've really learned this through Ashley, who's a champion,
because I do. I get talked to her multiplying this week.
During her first pregnancy with Dawson. We'd be doing this
show and she'd be like, sorry, I got to go
through it real quick, and she just like lean over,
do whatever she and then be back recording.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
I'd be like, my.
Speaker 6 (19:56):
Goodness, women are super Yeah.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
I was like, this is insane, it's crazy and just
how tired you guys, which I get it that you're
growing a human being, but the amount that she just
couldn't like function.
Speaker 7 (20:11):
No, And I still traveled the world with you, and
I still want to take your shows, and I still worked,
and I still renovated a house and I still did
a great dangle thing. It was it was creaty, like
women are lead.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
I.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Really you know, I know we say it all the time,
but it's like I really wondering what would have happened if,
like guys had you know, they carried the child.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
It's definitely designed.
Speaker 7 (20:36):
And then like you're bleeding out of every single work,
you have to like literally put yourself back together again.
It's why you, guys, the most interesting thing I've ever
seen ever. And then the baby is depending on you
and only you, and it's just for food and you know,
and you're it's like the only thing it knows and
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you're like I want to cry for thirty minutes.
Speaker 9 (20:59):
But it's just like it's really rough, but it was great.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Okay, Well, let's talk about him now, like in the present,
because he's here, so like, tell us this funny story
about how like like getting used to parenthead like do
you have any funny stories about just you know, sleep
or eating or anything like that, like not knowing what
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to do when you take a shower and you're alone.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Yeah, I mean all that. I especially in the beginning
my mom stayed with us for like two ish weeks.
My dad also, he had no idea what he was doing.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
He was just like my dad.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My dad literally he held Dawson for the first time like
a week later, he was like, I'm gonna break him,
and now he's obsessed exactly.
Speaker 7 (22:00):
He was like shaking, like and I'm like, I'm going
to take a shower for us. I'm like, great, I
get clean. I don't know, but that was really funny.
Speaker 6 (22:09):
I think I'll say one.
Speaker 5 (22:10):
I think having a boy, which you knows, the pee,
the pee.
Speaker 6 (22:14):
Is just everywhere.
Speaker 7 (22:16):
It's so cute. Yeah, I find everything he does.
Speaker 6 (22:20):
Yes, I was just gonna say, like cries.
Speaker 5 (22:23):
I wasn't huge, Like I didn't hate babies, but like
I wasn't like, oh like can I help baby, Like
I wasn't that guy.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
Yeah, I never held you born with my Everything.
Speaker 5 (22:32):
He does is cute, like everything he cries, and I'm like,
this is accusing of nursing, you know, She's like everything
he does is cute.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
It's such a weird feeling.
Speaker 7 (22:38):
And we get like so excited when he's like holding
his head up, We're like, did you see that?
Speaker 6 (22:41):
I'm like, look at him.
Speaker 7 (22:42):
Go he just like he just laughed, like he's learning
how to laugh right now. And I'm like, I'm so
proud of that. My baby is like using his voice.
Like then, It's just like little things like that, and
I mean funny stuff. He's my mom has this joke.
She's just like, where's the baby on Jeanina's boot? Where's
Janina like eating the baby? Like, my tits are constantly out.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
So if you live in Denver, you've probably seen.
Speaker 7 (23:10):
My breath, that is for sure.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
So can you believe that?
Speaker 7 (23:16):
Huh?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Can you believe how big we get?
Speaker 6 (23:19):
Massive?
Speaker 7 (23:21):
My titties are massive. Everything is big.
Speaker 6 (23:24):
I got a good one. I gotta go to one.
Some funny.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
The other day, we were at the gym and she
was like running on the treadmill and all. So she's
like and I was like, what, Like my milk came in?
And she starts like yeah, She's like, my milk's coming
in as I'm running.
Speaker 6 (23:38):
This is just crazy.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
What the body does wait, explain elaborated a little bit.
What happens, Like all of a sudden you can feel milk.
Speaker 7 (23:45):
So you feel like it's called the letdown. I think
this is what the letdown is for me. It's like
I just feel I don't know, imagine like the feeling
you get right like right after your foot falls asleep.
But it doesn't hurt. It's just like a little tingling
like it's just kind of something's moving. I don't know.
I don't know how to it. Yeah, it's like a flow.
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You feel like a flow.
Speaker 6 (24:08):
Whoa just get bigger and then just wild hurting her?
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Where's that coming from?
Speaker 7 (24:15):
I you know, I haven't really looked into it. I
don't know how I'm making milk, like from.
Speaker 6 (24:19):
The brain ducks something.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
And somebody who knows is listening to this, like you
guys are idiots.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
So hormone release, Okay, I don't.
Speaker 7 (24:30):
No idea how makeing milk? I know that I have
milk ducks, but that's it. I don't know how they
turned on, how they turn off.
Speaker 5 (24:37):
Well, that's the other thing is like when you as
soon as she hears him crying, whatever, Yeah, you know
they'll fill up or another baby crying will.
Speaker 6 (24:42):
Even do it.
Speaker 5 (24:43):
It's like, yeah, yeah, it's just so cool. Human nature,
you know, like the nature of everything is just so.
Speaker 7 (24:48):
And now he's like doubled in weight and I'm like,
good boy, like my booby.
Speaker 6 (24:53):
It's all chunky. He's got chunky legs.
Speaker 7 (24:55):
And he looks just like Blake.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
That's what we hear.
Speaker 7 (24:59):
He looks just like but with like little little like
dashes of me. But I wanted him to like I
wanted to give birth to Blake.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
That's so cute.
Speaker 7 (25:11):
Well that's how I knew I wanted to be with you.
Speaker 6 (25:14):
Yeah, I was.
Speaker 7 (25:15):
Actually Brittany Cartwright asked me on her podcast last year
before I got pregnant, and she was like, how do
She's like, how do you know? Like Blake was the
one or whatever? And I was like, when I realized
that I wanted my babies to look like him? And
then my baby looks like you.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Guys, he's going to be a stud.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Like there's no question in my mind, he's going to
be very handsome.
Speaker 7 (25:39):
CUTI I'm ecstatic.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
Just I mean, it's fun. It's super fun.
Speaker 5 (25:44):
I love doing like I know I'd like being a dad,
but like it's just so fun. Like every morning she
wakes up before me and he's like, roll over my.
Speaker 7 (25:55):
Conversation.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
That's so good.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
I got one more last question for you guys personally,
how what advice do you give to parents that find
themselves in the similar situation that you guys did where
it was unplanned but you're like, all right, unplanned life change,
biggest life change, one of them.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Here we go.
Speaker 6 (26:18):
Okay, okay, I got I got I got one.
Speaker 5 (26:22):
I think obviously like this is without you know, doesn't
need to be said, like make it a priority. I
think you know, read all the books, do all the classes.
We did the hypno birthing classes. We read books, and
don't don't put myself on more on your plate.
Speaker 6 (26:39):
So I mean for us personally, that meant not like
running out and you.
Speaker 7 (26:44):
Know, go to the courthouse and getting married.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
No, no more of a planning a wedding.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
It was like, let's not like put another thing on
our like, let's just do that on our own time
instead of all the millions of d ms calling me
a pos because I'm not married to her, you know,
like it was like whatever, like we're gonna do this
on our time. Because we felt like we want to
make heath a priority, not that they are aren't. People aren't,
but like, yeah, I was just like for us personally,
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it was like we weren't gonna rush, like no, I'm
gonna run.
Speaker 6 (27:12):
Out and get a ring and we're gonna plan a
wedding in the next five months.
Speaker 7 (27:14):
Like it was like, well, no, that's like yeah, we
needed to like take one step at a time.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (27:19):
Yeah, for me personally, I mean, I think you said
it really well, Like we got educated pretty quickly, and
it just felt I felt more in control even though
the situation was out of my control. I understood what
was going on with my body more. I understood like
how I could, you know, bring a baby into this
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world and do it on my own terms at least,
Like there was a lot of education that happened. But
for me, I went out with a couple of my
girlfriends and she no one knew yet. It was like
still my little secret, and I chose to tell this
one mom and she told me like the simplest advice,
but for whatever reason, I just clicked like beautifully at
that moment. She was like, I did whatever made me happy,
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and it's so simple. But when I was in it,
I felt so overwhelmed and I felt like I had
to do all these things and I had to buy
all this stuff and I had to get ready, and
so I was just like, wait, that's actually brilliant. So
I slowed down and I just focused on my happiness,
like I kept doing the things that I wanted to,
and we were just it was just like this really
(28:27):
beautiful cycle of like I knew my baby was happy
because I was so happy too. And yeah, like I
still traveled like I didn't really restrict what I was eating,
like I'm sorry, I ate sushi like I cold, like cold,
Like I'm.
Speaker 4 (28:40):
Eating Delly sandwiches like crazy, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (28:43):
We want to you know, so on so many trips,
like I just kept doing what made me happy, and
that made it such a great experience because I didn't
feel like I put myself lost, like it was me
and my baby. And then in turn, I didn't make
Blake's life help so.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Very important, yeah, very valuable.
Speaker 6 (29:05):
Yeah it was.
Speaker 7 (29:08):
It was hard, like you had to click to click
into it.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
I like the one of the things Just and I
say right now often is take the next best step,
because we get very overwhelmed and we try to do
it all and we're trying to fit so much in.
And I think to hear you two say, in the
midst of what will be will be the biggest moment
of your life and probably could have been one of
the most difficult moments of your relationship, you guys decided
(29:36):
to take the next next best step and it led
you to today where you have a baby. You guys can
do it like I think it's very obvious where it's
all good.
Speaker 5 (29:44):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. That's the piece of advice. Everything will
be okay, everything will work out.
Speaker 7 (29:51):
And also one more, there were times where we were
like tested, The universe was testing us in certain different
points of this pregnancy. And I always said, the universe
is testing me right now, because why are we gonna
cry too?
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Like you cry for everything?
Speaker 7 (30:09):
Yeah, I know, every single time without feeling because I'm
gonna have like the biggest reward, thanks reward. It's true. Okay,
I'm done by.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
That's a great way to wrap.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
No, I'm proud, I mean not proud of That makes
me sound like, uh, inspired by you guys, encouraged, excited
all the good stuff you're doing great. Cannot wait to
continue to see Heath grow, uh and your family grow
and all the good things in front of the two
of you.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Thanks for coming on. It means a lot. I know
it's a.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Busy time, and I know that there's a lot going.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
On that totally fail you on the tears like and
now and the few weeks afterward. It's crazy a few
weeks afterward for me, or even crazy.
Speaker 8 (30:58):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
She was way like I would cry because everything was
too good. I was like, my life can't get better.
So I'm really worried that everything is gonna be downhill
from here.
Speaker 5 (31:13):
Then I'm we're running to go pick up my new
full bag p XGS right now.
Speaker 6 (31:18):
Oh my goodness, of course, man, full bag. Like it's
all fucking everything is new and stuff.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
How many days a week do you get to golf,
because let's go golf.
Speaker 6 (31:28):
None now, so I mean, now now on, we're gonna
go more. We're gonna go more.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Now I gotta get like and r yeah no, I
was like, but you can, We'll get out in golf.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
That's what a deal. Well, hey, it's been great to
have Blake and g here on the Almost Fess podcast.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Again.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Congratulations to the two of you. We're very appreciative for
your time. We know your time is very valuable always,
but especially right now. So until next time, I've been
Ben guys.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
Thank you, actually yeah,
This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast
with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
This is a very special episode of the Almost Famous Podcast.
There's a lot to talk about today. We have love,
we have relationships, we have babies, we have future, we
have so much to cover. We have Blake and g
here obviously new parents. Before we dive into that though,
before we jump into that part, we do have to
talk about a friend of ours who had a big
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announcement come out. I'll be honest, I didn't know it
wasn't public, so I'm glad they Jason and Kat team
just came out publicly with a hard launch. I'll be again,
I didn't know they weren't public, so I wasn't saying anymore.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Well, they've been pretty public.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
They've been.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
They've been like on vacation, They've been like just so
many places in public together. But I guess this is
their first time posting like any romantic y way like
on Instagram.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Yeah, I mean, obviously, I think it's not been really
a secret by any meaning.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
Honestly, it's kind of like us. Everybody kind of knew
we were.
Speaker 5 (01:05):
Together, you know, post show, but we can like post
or anything until we finally did and then but but
I mean, yeah, I'm super happy for him, super happy
for her.
Speaker 6 (01:13):
Obviously we've plung out with the two of them a
few times.
Speaker 7 (01:17):
I love Venezuela.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yeah, oh yeah, got that part. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Yeah, they're a great match too.
Speaker 6 (01:28):
She's high energy. She can match his energy for sure.
She's super high energy.
Speaker 7 (01:32):
And she'll keep him on his toes. Yeah, not that
he needs it, but I just think that it'll be
They just like feed off of each other in a
really nice way. But they were just like in their bubble,
you know, they don't want their bubble to be popped.
And now I feel like they feel like I think
they feel like they're in a place now where it's
like you can say whatever you want, people can start,
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you know, shooting off whatever speculations, et cetera, et cetera,
and it's not going to touch us because we've solidified
our relationships. So prosps for them to keep in that
little bubble. And they feel ready.
Speaker 6 (02:04):
So they're gonna they're gonna crush the couple's content.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
They're gonna crush Cat's super creative and Jason is so
be fun.
Speaker 7 (02:12):
Funny, and she'll like take him out of his shell.
A little bit again, not that he needs a shell.
She's listen, it's different when.
Speaker 6 (02:23):
You're tell you what.
Speaker 7 (02:25):
We'll get a little bit of spice in his life.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Okay, So do we time stamp this because you guys
are way closer to him than I.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
I had dinner with him in like December, I think.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Right with not December. Ben loves like no, No, Ben
is like Jared. He has like no sense of time.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
I feel like it was December.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
No, it was high. It was like March. Yeah, were
you guys there at the dinner with Ben?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
Yeah, okay, March actually because I played I played a
show in Nashville and it was.
Speaker 6 (03:05):
Right after I found out, and they were like pretty
brand new. Yeah. I want to say maybe maybe.
Speaker 7 (03:11):
It was like Blake's got the receipts.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
No, No, I'm looking at the calendar February, but I
think they're probably obviously talking before them. But I don't
know exactly, which is fun.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
There should be careful saying dates because there's gonna be
like people are gonna be like they were hanging out
in December and there was crossover, and I'm like, no,
I just didn't know February.
Speaker 6 (03:33):
We'll go with February.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Yeah, it's always a big step outside of everything else. Excited,
happy for them, they seem great, that's awesome. I understand
and never have a problem at all with somebody not
coming out publicly, Like it doesn't bother it. I don't
know why it bothers people because you're dating, like what
are you gonna do? Going your first day? And they
make hey, we need we should share that we took
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a date together. But I do feel like when you're
in intentional about waiting, when you do finally announce it,
that is a sign that things are looking good, like
that you feel confident in what will become of your connection.
Speaker 8 (04:14):
I agree, you don't go public unless you want to,
like intertwine a lot of your life, especially when your
life is on social like that, like their businesses aren't social.
Speaker 7 (04:24):
So I just think that this is a very like
what you said, very big green flag that it could be,
could be, endgame.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Could be.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
I always said, I remember because I.
Speaker 5 (04:35):
Agree with you, and I remember saying after Paradise, I
was like, I am never going public with a woman
unless I intend to like marrying her.
Speaker 7 (04:45):
I heard that I heard that podcast before yea before
we went public, and I was like, oh shit, oh no,
oh god, oh no.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
So when's the wedding, guys, I knew, I know.
Speaker 6 (04:59):
I was like, this is.
Speaker 7 (05:03):
You know, there's yeah, yeah, there's some Oh no, we
just had a baby, so we're worried.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
About the baby, keeping the baby alive.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
First from there, Okay, so the baby was born two
months ago, yeah, two months ago.
Speaker 6 (05:18):
Ten weeks roughly, I think he's ten weeks.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
His name is Heath.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I said, like, Keith was kind of on our
list for our next baby.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Yeah, we won't. We were not we're going to use it,
but because you guys.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Took it from her, I told I told Jared. I
was like, Heath is out because because Blake and g
already named their baby Keith. And he was like, we
could still do it because of them. I was like,
are you I don't know, Like I don't want to
be a name stealer. Plus, don't worry, it's not like
so high on the list that like I felt like
it was a steal.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
It was not a steal.
Speaker 6 (05:54):
Plus, Heath, you have the literation to the age eight Haben.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
Yeah, we've been thinking.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Okay, I like Hayden and I think Hayden Haven is
too ridiculous.
Speaker 6 (06:03):
Right, A little it's really close that.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You cannot do. It's too bad.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I think it's got some flow.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
Yeah, really yeah.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
The middle name would be big middle name would have
to be a big middle name. It'd have to be
in like a really good middle name.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
To not to like break it up.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
Yeah, just to break it up a little, a little
tongue nye.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
All right, all right, keep it on a list.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
How do you feel, I'm I'm like, it's just like
that depends on the hour at this point. You know,
like sometimes it's just like I'm so heavy and I'm
so like defeated and just like it's heaviness. Yeah, and
then there's sometimes where I am am pretty fine. But
(06:48):
I know that you enjoyed pregnancy, so good for you.
You and I had the absolute opposite pregnancies of all time,
because like you were one of the few people that
I've heard of that like enjoyed it.
Speaker 7 (06:58):
I didn't think I would really terrified.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
I thought for sure she would hate being pregnant and
it would be so rough, and she just hated all
but she loved all of it.
Speaker 7 (07:09):
I was like waiting for the other shoot to drop.
I was just like, all right, like I'm waiting to
hate this ship.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
And I I was so jealous.
Speaker 7 (07:15):
Like it was I don't know then, it just it
is what it is.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
And I just didn't have any symptoms that were overwhelming normal.
Speaker 7 (07:24):
Yeah, tired, I just like a ton. I didn't get
morning sickness. I mean, I like you right like that.
I was waiting like I was waiting for it. I was,
you know, I would get dizzy, I would get like
a little bit of nauseous, but like I never like
fully threw up maybe like five times throughout the whole pregnancy.
And it's because I like a.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Tone traveling, you'll usually get a hit.
Speaker 7 (07:46):
Yeah you got a hit out of it, but it
was you didn't have any like reat. I felt really
like feminine.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Yeah, you looked really feminine and beautiful, and I looked
so good.
Speaker 7 (07:59):
I'm like, shit, I wish I was so pregnant right now.
I'm just like I'm trying to and to just you know,
just try not to take just trying to take the
pressure off of myself. But I'm like ready to just like.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Be back.
Speaker 7 (08:13):
And I'm not.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Saying everybody has like their part.
Speaker 6 (08:17):
Do you think I love her so much.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
I mean, it's it's been hard to watch her be
like Okay, the baby's out, like I want to be back,
you know. And then and like there's that fine line
of being like encouraging her but not like being like yeah, and.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
It's also like to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 5 (08:36):
You know. It's like, baby, you're you're breastfeeding like I'm trying.
You know, You're just a fine line to be like
encouraging but not too much being like keep.
Speaker 6 (08:43):
Trusting the gym if you want to, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
There's like that fine line of being like okay, baby,
like do you want to come to the gym with
me today?
Speaker 6 (08:47):
You're more than welcome like that.
Speaker 7 (08:49):
So it's like my body feels good. I'm I'm emotionally healthy,
which I'm super super grateful for. Like again, I thought
I was going to be like PPD, Like I mean,
I could hit you like at any point, you know, yeah,
but I just feel pretty normal. So I want to
look like myself again, so that the two aren't really
clicking right now. So that's the hard part.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
I got it. I got it for me with Dawson.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
I thought that I thought that I bounced back super
quickly because the weight fell off really quickly. But then
I look back on pictures and I still wasn't myself
at all until like three or four months was part
of or like yeah, like I still had like serious
acne and stuff, but it was because it was better.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
I was feeling like relieved.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
So you got to take where they where they up.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
Honestly, Yeah, it's been an insane obviously her experience. You know,
I can only speak to my experience, but like it's
been insane watching like what a woman's body can do.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
It's so literally netty like it's.
Speaker 5 (09:53):
The most itself. The birth itself was like the most
magical thing I've ever.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Been a part of.
Speaker 7 (10:01):
I love giving birth.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
It was so emotionally overwhelmed, like and I could see
like it was it's almost like the feeling I got anyway,
then I can only.
Speaker 6 (10:10):
Speak to myself. It's almost like addicting.
Speaker 5 (10:12):
Like I could see maybe why people like have a
big family and like being pregnant and having kids, because
like it is such an incredible feeling and it was.
Speaker 6 (10:20):
It was awesome. I loved it so much.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Let me ask some follow ups here, did you expect
to feel that way or like when did I guess
for both of you, when did it hit you? I mean,
because this was not planned. Your your pregnancy was not planned.
It was a great scenario and how it worked. You
guys made the most most of it. But it wasn't
like you were planning to have a child at this
point in your lives, in this year, and so there's
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a probably a little shock. I went out to dinner
with Blake and I was like, how did you guys respond?
He's like, we were good. It just it's new.
Speaker 6 (11:01):
We didn't know.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
All right, right, let's go.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
So when did it hit you that you were like no,
I could see why, Like this is actually something awesome.
Speaker 7 (11:13):
Something awesome. I had a rough couple of weeks just
again adjusting to like, whoa, my life is not all
mine anymore, you know. So that was August first we
found out, and then I think, like truly when we
told your family, we told his family in six weeks
and they were so happy and like jumping up and
(11:35):
down and just like it was the best news in
the entire world. And I was just like, wow, this
is because I felt like I was going to get
in trouble. I don't know, like my team helped, just like,
you know, I don't know kicked and I was like,
why do I feel like I'm gonna get in trouble
like that I'm pregnant right now? And my family just
reacted beautifully. But I think it was like when we
told your family that, I was like, Okay, I feel
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pretty good. Everyone's super happy. Like just started embracing it
from there on.
Speaker 6 (12:02):
Yeah, that embraced it pretty quick for me.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
Yeah, pretty quickly, you know, and then you'll like figure
this out. But like for me, obviously we're not like
I was pregnant. My body isn't changing. I'm still doing
a lot of the things I was before. Like you know,
I didn't have to cut out alcohol, I didn't have
to cut out certain foods.
Speaker 6 (12:18):
I didn't, you know. It was just like so nothing
changed for me for a really long time.
Speaker 5 (12:23):
So and it's like I've talked about it, but it's
like this weird feeling of like, am I you know,
she's already so attached to the baby, she's already so
in love with the baby she's carrying it. They have
this attachment, this connection, and I didn't feel it. And
then obviously and like there's part of me that's like
what's wrong with me? Like why am I not there yet?
So I get you know, I would get emotional over that,
like I hope I love this baby, like you know,
for some reason, I'm not feeling it yet.
Speaker 4 (12:44):
And jar never puts his hand on my belly like
it doesn't care. He does not care when it's like
no attachment.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
Well, and then it's one of those things.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
So you put my hand on the belly and he
stops kicking, and I was like, oh.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
They will never kick for anyone other than the mom
So it's a.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
Lot of weird emotions you're going through, and you know,
together us together. But everybody kept telling me like just
wait till the baby comes out, like just wait to
see him, just wait to make contact, way to touch him.
And I was like, okay, you know, like that's what
everybody says, but for me, it truly was that moment.
It was like the second I saw his little half
of his head, I just broke down. It was like instantly,
(13:22):
it was I'm getting instantly it was just like oh
my god, like that is my son, you know, and
I'm so craziest feeling. So that was that was like
really it was like a relief for me because I
was like, oh my god, I hope like I'm gonna
feel that way.
Speaker 6 (13:36):
So it was really cool to feel that like right away.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
And I know still there are our parents who don't.
There our dads, even our moms who don't. But for
me personally, that's my story and I was just like
immediately like thank.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
God, I need to get there.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
It's uh, see, I have a lot of but you know,
most of my friends at this point have had children,
and I have, you know, everybody who's on a spectrum.
I have a buddy who six months he's like, I
don't thee anything and he was like going crazy. He's
like I don't and then all of a sudden one day,
I don't know what it was, his son reached out
for him or something. He was like, oh okay, I
love this.
Speaker 6 (14:09):
I don't know what to do.
Speaker 5 (14:12):
Yeah, I've heard that even about moms. Sometimes it takes
you know, almost a year sometimes for them to be
fully because they're just so exhausted.
Speaker 6 (14:18):
Yeah, so everybody's different. You know, everybody has a different story.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
So it's, uh, how is your relationship changed?
Speaker 2 (14:23):
I mean, now your parents, you have a third in
your family, how like what has been the ups and
downs of your of your romantic relationships since the birth?
Speaker 3 (14:35):
You go, don't let then pressure you.
Speaker 6 (14:38):
No, no, No, it's a good question.
Speaker 5 (14:41):
I think we weren't sure, like you kind of said then,
like we didn't like this, you know, we didn't plan
to get pregnant.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
He was a surprise.
Speaker 6 (14:48):
Yeah, he was a surprise, the best surprise.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
So I think like we I didn't know what to expect,
like after the the the pregnancy of the birth, because
like you said, everybody has different stories. But I mean
i've I mean I don't if anything. It's almost like
she became this like I don't know the word I'm
looking for sacred thing. It was like, is now she's
(15:10):
not my girlfriend or my whatever, She's like the mother
of my child. So like I always look I look
at her through a different lens now and that happens
pretty quick too, and especially seeing like what she went through,
whether it be through the pregancy and the birth and an
even post birth.
Speaker 6 (15:24):
It's like all change a diaper, Like I saw how
much you went.
Speaker 5 (15:28):
Through, Like I'll change a diaper all, you know, whatever
it is, so you just look through for me, you
look at her at least I look at her through
like a different lens, and it's no longer just like
you know a girlfriend or even at you know a wife.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
It's like, oh my god, it's like the mother of
my child. It's like very different friends.
Speaker 7 (15:44):
I am not a dirty, dirty girl anymore. You know, I'll
take it.
Speaker 6 (15:54):
I guess I like that.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I mean it makes sense because you do like there
is a new lens of like connection too. I think,
I mean, the sacredness also would lead to you being
feeling closer because there is you know, the two of
you ran. You know, you have a unique dating history
where you ran two very separate lives for a bit
as you were dating and loving each other. But you're
(16:16):
running two separate lives now, like maybe the dependency is
a little bit more because you're both raising this child together,
which I think is beautiful when it happens naturally like that.
And I've really enjoyed watching the two of you through
the social media lens as parents. It has been really beautiful.
But I will say, gee, you are one of the
(16:36):
only people I've ever seen through social media that's made
pregnancy look so easy. I talk to Ashley every couple, couple.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Days usually social media. They do usually on social media.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
It looks nice, sure, but not you know, I make
sure that I don't make it look.
Speaker 7 (16:55):
It wasn't nice. I would have and you know all
the days that didn't feel nice, everything, I ye like, yeah,
you're transparent through it, even when I was in the
beginning where I was like listen, like I wasn't really
expecting this and it took me a while, and I've
been very transparent about it. It's just I happened to
have a pregnancy that treated me like and and.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
I do not really never know what you're gonna get save.
Speaker 6 (17:22):
It's not even per woman.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
It's like per pregnancy, but maybe it is because like.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
Ixt baby should be like no more, like.
Speaker 7 (17:31):
It's that's so great.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
You know, my first what like wrecked me, like you
guys in every single way.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
It was so awful.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
And now in this one, I'm like, yeah, it's pregnancy
and it's not the.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Best, but like I'm not destroyed.
Speaker 4 (17:47):
And I was terrified of doing it again because I
thought it would be the exact same. But it's definitely
dependent on the pregnancy.
Speaker 5 (17:53):
It's so weird and and it's been hard for me
because like g has been. I mean watching g go
through all of this on social media, Like sometimes she'll
get hate for having a good pregnancy, and it's like
it's bizarre. It's like people are so made that I
like we're talking like something angry, Like.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
People get bad because of your true life experiences. That's
always weird.
Speaker 6 (18:20):
It's like I'm sorry that she had a different experience
than you. So that's been hard for me.
Speaker 7 (18:25):
But also I've encouraged people because, like I was scared
of having a baby because of all the horrible, crazy
stories that people just immediately tell you as soon as
you got pregnant. They're like, well my cousin's friends had
you know this happened in this And you're like Jesus,
like is everything like that? And then like TV shows
you like every single traumatic experience a woman can go
(18:45):
through while having birth because it's like a good storyline,
et cetera, et cetera. So I had all this conditioning
that like my pregnancy is going to be rough, my
birth is going to be rough, and I'm going to
have a really rough time. But because I didn't, I
also wanted to show that it is possible to have
a beautiful experience even though you're not feeling a perfect
one hundred percent of the time, it can still be
a really great experience that you want all over again,
(19:07):
and I do. I just didn't think that would happen
to me. So people are pissed and some people are encouraged.
You can't you can't please.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
You'll never win.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Oh definitely not.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Because when you hate it, then people are like, you're
not appreciating it.
Speaker 7 (19:22):
And you're lucky, you know, some people can't have pits huge,
you know, conversation around it. So I just try to
be as honest as possible. And if you don't think
I'm being honest, I don't know what to tell you.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
I actually didn't realize that there is different types of
pregnancies because I've really learned this through Ashley, who's a champion,
because I do. I get talked to her multiplying this week.
During her first pregnancy with Dawson. We'd be doing this
show and she'd be like, sorry, I got to go
through it real quick, and she just like lean over,
do whatever she and then be back recording.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
I'd be like, my.
Speaker 6 (19:56):
Goodness, women are super Yeah.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
I was like, this is insane, it's crazy and just
how tired you guys, which I get it that you're
growing a human being, but the amount that she just
couldn't like function.
Speaker 7 (20:11):
No, And I still traveled the world with you, and
I still want to take your shows, and I still worked,
and I still renovated a house and I still did
a great dangle thing. It was it was creaty, like
women are lead.
Speaker 5 (20:23):
I.
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Really you know, I know we say it all the time,
but it's like I really wondering what would have happened if,
like guys had you know, they carried the child.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
It's definitely designed.
Speaker 7 (20:36):
And then like you're bleeding out of every single work,
you have to like literally put yourself back together again.
It's why you, guys, the most interesting thing I've ever
seen ever. And then the baby is depending on you
and only you, and it's just for food and you know,
and you're it's like the only thing it knows and
(20:56):
you're like I want to cry for thirty minutes.
Speaker 9 (20:59):
But it's just like it's really rough, but it was great.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Okay, Well, let's talk about him now, like in the present,
because he's here, so like, tell us this funny story
about how like like getting used to parenthead like do
you have any funny stories about just you know, sleep
or eating or anything like that, like not knowing what
(21:34):
to do when you take a shower and you're alone.
Speaker 7 (21:39):
Yeah, I mean all that. I especially in the beginning
my mom stayed with us for like two ish weeks.
My dad also, he had no idea what he was doing.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
He was just like my dad.
Speaker 4 (21:52):
My dad literally he held Dawson for the first time like
a week later, he was like, I'm gonna break him,
and now he's obsessed exactly.
Speaker 7 (22:00):
He was like shaking, like and I'm like, I'm going
to take a shower for us. I'm like, great, I
get clean. I don't know, but that was really funny.
Speaker 6 (22:09):
I think I'll say one.
Speaker 5 (22:10):
I think having a boy, which you knows, the pee,
the pee.
Speaker 6 (22:14):
Is just everywhere.
Speaker 7 (22:16):
It's so cute. Yeah, I find everything he does.
Speaker 6 (22:20):
Yes, I was just gonna say, like cries.
Speaker 5 (22:23):
I wasn't huge, Like I didn't hate babies, but like
I wasn't like, oh like can I help baby, Like
I wasn't that guy.
Speaker 6 (22:28):
Yeah, I never held you born with my Everything.
Speaker 5 (22:32):
He does is cute, like everything he cries, and I'm like,
this is accusing of nursing, you know, She's like everything
he does is cute.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
It's such a weird feeling.
Speaker 7 (22:38):
And we get like so excited when he's like holding
his head up, We're like, did you see that?
Speaker 6 (22:41):
I'm like, look at him.
Speaker 7 (22:42):
Go he just like he just laughed, like he's learning
how to laugh right now. And I'm like, I'm so
proud of that. My baby is like using his voice.
Like then, It's just like little things like that, and
I mean funny stuff. He's my mom has this joke.
She's just like, where's the baby on Jeanina's boot? Where's
Janina like eating the baby? Like, my tits are constantly out.
Speaker 6 (23:04):
So if you live in Denver, you've probably seen.
Speaker 7 (23:10):
My breath, that is for sure.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
So can you believe that?
Speaker 7 (23:16):
Huh?
Speaker 3 (23:17):
Can you believe how big we get?
Speaker 6 (23:19):
Massive?
Speaker 7 (23:21):
My titties are massive. Everything is big.
Speaker 6 (23:24):
I got a good one. I gotta go to one.
Some funny.
Speaker 5 (23:26):
The other day, we were at the gym and she
was like running on the treadmill and all. So she's
like and I was like, what, Like my milk came in?
And she starts like yeah, She's like, my milk's coming
in as I'm running.
Speaker 6 (23:38):
This is just crazy.
Speaker 2 (23:38):
What the body does wait, explain elaborated a little bit.
What happens, Like all of a sudden you can feel milk.
Speaker 7 (23:45):
So you feel like it's called the letdown. I think
this is what the letdown is for me. It's like
I just feel I don't know, imagine like the feeling
you get right like right after your foot falls asleep.
But it doesn't hurt. It's just like a little tingling
like it's just kind of something's moving. I don't know.
I don't know how to it. Yeah, it's like a flow.
(24:06):
You feel like a flow.
Speaker 6 (24:08):
Whoa just get bigger and then just wild hurting her?
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Where's that coming from?
Speaker 7 (24:15):
I you know, I haven't really looked into it. I
don't know how I'm making milk, like from.
Speaker 6 (24:19):
The brain ducks something.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
And somebody who knows is listening to this, like you
guys are idiots.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
So hormone release, Okay, I don't.
Speaker 7 (24:30):
No idea how makeing milk? I know that I have
milk ducks, but that's it. I don't know how they
turned on, how they turn off.
Speaker 5 (24:37):
Well, that's the other thing is like when you as
soon as she hears him crying, whatever, Yeah, you know
they'll fill up or another baby crying will.
Speaker 6 (24:42):
Even do it.
Speaker 5 (24:43):
It's like, yeah, yeah, it's just so cool. Human nature,
you know, like the nature of everything is just so.
Speaker 7 (24:48):
And now he's like doubled in weight and I'm like,
good boy, like my booby.
Speaker 6 (24:53):
It's all chunky. He's got chunky legs.
Speaker 7 (24:55):
And he looks just like Blake.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
That's what we hear.
Speaker 7 (24:59):
He looks just like but with like little little like
dashes of me. But I wanted him to like I
wanted to give birth to Blake.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
That's so cute.
Speaker 7 (25:11):
Well that's how I knew I wanted to be with you.
Speaker 6 (25:14):
Yeah, I was.
Speaker 7 (25:15):
Actually Brittany Cartwright asked me on her podcast last year
before I got pregnant, and she was like, how do
She's like, how do you know? Like Blake was the
one or whatever? And I was like, when I realized
that I wanted my babies to look like him? And
then my baby looks like you.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Guys, he's going to be a stud.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Like there's no question in my mind, he's going to
be very handsome.
Speaker 7 (25:39):
CUTI I'm ecstatic.
Speaker 6 (25:42):
Just I mean, it's fun. It's super fun.
Speaker 5 (25:44):
I love doing like I know I'd like being a dad,
but like it's just so fun. Like every morning she
wakes up before me and he's like, roll over my.
Speaker 7 (25:55):
Conversation.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
That's so good.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
I got one more last question for you guys personally,
how what advice do you give to parents that find
themselves in the similar situation that you guys did where
it was unplanned but you're like, all right, unplanned life change,
biggest life change, one of them.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Here we go.
Speaker 6 (26:18):
Okay, okay, I got I got I got one.
Speaker 5 (26:22):
I think obviously like this is without you know, doesn't
need to be said, like make it a priority. I
think you know, read all the books, do all the classes.
We did the hypno birthing classes. We read books, and
don't don't put myself on more on your plate.
Speaker 6 (26:39):
So I mean for us personally, that meant not like
running out and you.
Speaker 7 (26:44):
Know, go to the courthouse and getting married.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
No, no more of a planning a wedding.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
It was like, let's not like put another thing on
our like, let's just do that on our own time
instead of all the millions of d ms calling me
a pos because I'm not married to her, you know,
like it was like whatever, like we're gonna do this
on our time. Because we felt like we want to
make heath a priority, not that they are aren't. People aren't,
but like, yeah, I was just like for us personally,
(27:09):
it was like we weren't gonna rush, like no, I'm
gonna run.
Speaker 6 (27:12):
Out and get a ring and we're gonna plan a
wedding in the next five months.
Speaker 7 (27:14):
Like it was like, well, no, that's like yeah, we
needed to like take one step at a time.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (27:19):
Yeah, for me personally, I mean, I think you said
it really well, Like we got educated pretty quickly, and
it just felt I felt more in control even though
the situation was out of my control. I understood what
was going on with my body more. I understood like
how I could, you know, bring a baby into this
(27:41):
world and do it on my own terms at least,
Like there was a lot of education that happened. But
for me, I went out with a couple of my
girlfriends and she no one knew yet. It was like
still my little secret, and I chose to tell this
one mom and she told me like the simplest advice,
but for whatever reason, I just clicked like beautifully at
that moment. She was like, I did whatever made me happy,
(28:06):
and it's so simple. But when I was in it,
I felt so overwhelmed and I felt like I had
to do all these things and I had to buy
all this stuff and I had to get ready, and
so I was just like, wait, that's actually brilliant. So
I slowed down and I just focused on my happiness,
like I kept doing the things that I wanted to,
and we were just it was just like this really
(28:27):
beautiful cycle of like I knew my baby was happy
because I was so happy too. And yeah, like I
still traveled like I didn't really restrict what I was eating,
like I'm sorry, I ate sushi like I cold, like cold,
Like I'm.
Speaker 4 (28:40):
Eating Delly sandwiches like crazy, Yeah.
Speaker 7 (28:43):
We want to you know, so on so many trips,
like I just kept doing what made me happy, and
that made it such a great experience because I didn't
feel like I put myself lost, like it was me
and my baby. And then in turn, I didn't make
Blake's life help so.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Very important, yeah, very valuable.
Speaker 6 (29:05):
Yeah it was.
Speaker 7 (29:08):
It was hard, like you had to click to click
into it.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
I like the one of the things Just and I
say right now often is take the next best step,
because we get very overwhelmed and we try to do
it all and we're trying to fit so much in.
And I think to hear you two say, in the
midst of what will be will be the biggest moment
of your life and probably could have been one of
the most difficult moments of your relationship, you guys decided
(29:36):
to take the next next best step and it led
you to today where you have a baby. You guys can
do it like I think it's very obvious where it's
all good.
Speaker 5 (29:44):
Yeah, yeah, exactly. That's the piece of advice. Everything will
be okay, everything will work out.
Speaker 7 (29:51):
And also one more, there were times where we were
like tested, The universe was testing us in certain different
points of this pregnancy. And I always said, the universe
is testing me right now, because why are we gonna
cry too?
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Like you cry for everything?
Speaker 7 (30:09):
Yeah, I know, every single time without feeling because I'm
gonna have like the biggest reward, thanks reward. It's true. Okay,
I'm done by.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
That's a great way to wrap.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
No, I'm proud, I mean not proud of That makes
me sound like, uh, inspired by you guys, encouraged, excited
all the good stuff you're doing great. Cannot wait to
continue to see Heath grow, uh and your family grow
and all the good things in front of the two
of you.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
Thanks for coming on. It means a lot. I know
it's a.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Busy time, and I know that there's a lot going.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
On that totally fail you on the tears like and
now and the few weeks afterward. It's crazy a few
weeks afterward for me, or even crazy.
Speaker 8 (30:58):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
She was way like I would cry because everything was
too good. I was like, my life can't get better.
So I'm really worried that everything is gonna be downhill
from here.
Speaker 5 (31:13):
Then I'm we're running to go pick up my new
full bag p XGS right now.
Speaker 6 (31:18):
Oh my goodness, of course, man, full bag. Like it's
all fucking everything is new and stuff.
Speaker 1 (31:25):
How many days a week do you get to golf,
because let's go golf.
Speaker 6 (31:28):
None now, so I mean, now now on, we're gonna
go more. We're gonna go more.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Now I gotta get like and r yeah no, I
was like, but you can, We'll get out in golf.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
That's what a deal. Well, hey, it's been great to
have Blake and g here on the Almost Fess podcast.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Again.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Congratulations to the two of you. We're very appreciative for
your time. We know your time is very valuable always,
but especially right now. So until next time, I've been
Ben guys.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
Thank you, actually yeah,
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