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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hi.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm Laura Vanderkamp. I'm a mother of five, an author, journalist,
and speaker.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
And I'm Sarah hart Hunger, a mother of three, practicing physician,
writer and course creator. We are two working parents who
love our careers and our families.
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Welcome to best of both worlds. Here we talk about
how real women manage work, family, and time for fun,
from figuring out childcare to mapping out long.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Term career goals.
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We want you to get the most out of life.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Welcome the best of both worlds. This is Laura.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
This episode is airing in early January of twenty twenty five.
We're recording in twenty twenty four, so it's a little
weird to be saying that.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
But welcome to the new year.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Welcome past Laura and Sarah to the new year, and
welcome everybody as well. Very excited to be starting on
a new year, twenty twenty five of best of both
world content. So today we're going to be discussing winter
fun and then also doing a deep dive into time tracking.
We'll be talking a little bit more about why you
might want to consider time tracking this time of year.
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But in the meantime, Sarah, I hear you are recording
from a different location in your house.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Why is that?
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Yes, So speaking of winter, you know all those winter
viruses that seem to crop up and school and propagate
everywhere just in time for your vacation. Well, we have
some influenza in our house right now. Our family does
all get flu shots. So you know, we tried. But yeah,
so my husband is sick and I tried to go
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into my recording studio, but I could hear his coughing,
and I didn't think that would make a very nice
soundtrack to the episode.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
I'm in Winter fun with a coughing soundtrack Winter not fun.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I mean it is sort of appropriate it as a
program in Yeah, I mean Annabel's room. You can see
the leg slightly purple.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
Nice, I like, I like you did you guys?
Speaker 4 (02:02):
Do that?
Speaker 1 (02:03):
You put the purple in?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Right?
Speaker 1 (02:04):
That wasn't already there?
Speaker 3 (02:05):
She picked it like when we moved in.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
She's already like she already wants something else. Absolutely welcome
to teen tween life exactly. Yeah, we had about of
the stomach bug this week in our house, which was
really lovely.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
You know, Winter not fun for sure. It's been a while.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I was grateful It's been a while since I've been
up most of the night with a sick child, but
I've experienced it again, so now I'm hoping I won't
for a long time.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Because it is most definitely not fun.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
But this episode is about more positive topics, like, uh,
winter fun, Sarah, you live somewhere that winter actually is
fun on its own. I mean, this is like the
time when everyone wants to come visit you in Florida.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
I know, And I feel bad when we record these
episodes because I'm like, I know, the idea of winter
fun was like the cozy and the hunkering down, and like,
I just my experience is not aligned with that, and
I'm sorry. I've experienced winters in the past. I mean,
Williamstown had a real significant winter that made me move
south for the rest of my life, so I get it.
So but here, yeah, it's actually probably my favorite season.
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We have beautiful running temperatures. I don't have to live
in like anticipation of thunderstorms every day. I kind of
like the earlier darkness because the kids go to bed easier.
I really don't love when it's like nine o'clock and
still light and I have, you know, a kid under
the age of eight or so, and it's like it's bedtime. Anyway,
we usually go skiing, which is a fun winter highlight.
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And then yeah, I just feel like the way I
see winter is probably how a lot of other people
see summer. But the way I see summer is how
a lot of people see winter.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
So it's fair and you like winter. I mean, so
you like winter. It's like your favorite time of year
there right.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Yeah, I would say it's my I would say, yeah,
it's my We're in my favorite season.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
You're in your favorite season.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Awesome, Well, it is not my favorite season, not even close.
And I mean it's we do get snow in this
part of the world. We get definitely get all four seasons.
We probably have three to four major snow falls a
year that are then there for a couple days to
a week. I know, we have had winters with long
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term snow cover. It tends not to be the whole
winter we have snowcover. So a couple of years ago,
February through to March there was snow on the ground
every single day. So it has happened even in this
modern era. But that said, it's not usual. It's more
that it snows and then it melts, and then it
snows again, and then it melts.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
We get a lot of yuck rain. We're often in.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
The high is for the day, are very frequently in
the thirty two to thirty seven degree range, which is
not really nature's most beautiful place to put a high
for the day if it's going to precipitate. So yeah,
a lot of that, but I've been trying to convince
myself to enjoy it. Many years ago I wrote a
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post for Fast Company called the Norwegian Secret to Enjoying
a law Winter, which was based on some research that
someone had done about people living in Trumsa and such
places in Norway that they are not just chronically depressed
from November to January even though they don't see the sun,
they actually really get into it. And you know, maybe
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it's that those are the people who have selected to
live there, or even genetically if they're more traditional Norwegian
folk who have just never left, but it's that, you know,
they come up with ways to enjoy it, like as humans,
where social creatures, we come up with ways to have
community celebrations in the winter. I mean, the whole idea
of Christmas, of course, is in the darkest part of
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the year, right after the solstice, you have this festival
of light, and you can do other things to stretch
that out for the two months where you don't see
the sun, and you can do a lot of outdoor
things like skiing and sledding and snowshoeing, and they get
into that. So I don't know, I've been trying to
It's work in progress.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Yeah, well, you always have a winter fun list. I
guess that's part of your efforts of like finding bright
spots and looking for things that are positives about the season.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Perhaps, Yeah, I mean it's sort of.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
I mean, so I think the winter fun list is
more like it is seasonal specific. But then some of
them are things that are getting me out of the cold,
so you have to kind of realize that it's also
just fun things that I'm planning to do in winter.
So I'd be curious, Sarah, you're making a winter fun
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list list this year?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
What's on yours?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Well, I only made it because you told me too
for this episode.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Fine, but I like it.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
You can still share it, I know, I definitely will. No,
I mean, I do seasonal planning, you know that, Like
I do my seasonal goal setting. I don't always think
about as much about like the weather and like that
type of season, but I kind of I liked it,
so I mean, this will probably make be my inspiration
when I do sit down and do my like Q
one planning. But then I also thought about, like the
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end of December also counts this winter, even though this
episode does air Anyuary. So my winter fun list has
things that kind of remind me that it is winter
because sometimes I kind of feel like I want that reminder.
And then also that take advantage of our nicer weather.
So I have on there my neighborhood hang which I
mentioned in my yearly episode, so I want to do
that during the winter. I want to ski. I want
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to ski every winter, so this is just going to
be a perennial winter fun list item. Unfortunately, living in Florida,
it's not like I can like go a few times
or a few weekends or something, but.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
At least come up here.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yes, I could do like two trips if I was
really ambitious, but yeah, right now, we're just gonna aim
for one and then you know, ski a few days
on said trip. I would like to make some fun
hot chocolate, So that's an item, like, do we need
hot chocolate when it's high of seventy two? Probably not,
but I want to remember that it's winter, so let's
make some like really dark, delicious, French style hot chocolate.
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I'm copying you that I think I might like to
go to a Dolphins game because Josh has put that
on our family's list for a while and we just
haven't made it happen. I don't know if every family
member is going to be as excited about it, but
you know, maybe a subset of us could go. I
looked ahead to the media coming out in this season,
and I'm very much looking forward to watching White Lotus,
so that'll be a fun, cozy activity to do. Comes
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out in February. I would like to make some good
soups or stews, which also aligns with like having better
lunches for work, so this is great also fits in seasonally.
And then two more, I want to resurrect the book
club this season because I feel like everyone will just
have the January energy and to be completely transparent, like
it's already scheduled so I know I'll be able to
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check this off. And then finally, I think it would
be really fun to do a massage with some kind
of heat element, so yeah, hot stones, tubs. I've moved
away from the idea that I can fit or afford
like responsibly monthly massages, but like seasonally I could do well.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
If you're buying all those super shoes, right, I mean,
it's you would have to give it to the super choice.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
In order to have the massage every month.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Yeah, have to give up something to have something. So
I think seasonal is a happy medium.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Seasonal is a happy meeting. Excellent.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Let's see on mine, We're gonna go hopefully outdoor ice
skating again.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
We actually did this in December.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I took three of the kids to the rink that
is downtown, that is on the Delaware waterfront.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
And I actually really like this.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
I mean, provided it as the weather is cooperating, Like
I would not want to be doing this if it
were freezing rain and thirty two to seven thirty seven degrees.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
As sometimes happens.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
But we went on a day where it was about
thirty three degrees and sunny, which was absolutely perfect because
I mean, obviously if it gets up to like forty
five then the ice is terrible and it's no fun
at all. But if it's right around freezing, then the
ice is frozen, but you are also not freezing because
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it's not terribly overwhelmingly cold, so that's really perfect.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
It was sunny. It was great.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
We watched the sun sort of set as we were
ice skating. I really enjoyed that. So hopefully we will
go back and have that as a seasonal fun. We
are likely going to go ski as a family, not
me because I don't ski, but I will tag along
this time and provide some Henry's support. He's gone with
Michael on a trip the past few years, and I
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know that's been kind of challenging because Michael likes to
ski as well, so he's managing either having him like
right next to him or else. He's in the ski daycare.
So if I'm there, I can kind of supervise him
on the bunny slope and we can put him in
for a half day or something like that.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I was gonna say he is ski school age, like
that's true.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
He will be Yeah, he's gonna be five, so that'll work.
That's true. Okay, never mind, Well I'll just sit in
the lodge and enjoy my I don't know. Non dairy
hot chocolate have to be something else. I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
I'll be enjoying coffee, just coffee all day long, but
maybe I'll go tubing or something on the same mountain.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
That would be fun. I've hoped to go to.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Longwood Gardens again because they have elected to keep up
their Christmas decorations until January twelfth. I think this is
an excellent idea and everyone should consider doing this. I mean,
if you've bothered to put your decorations up as a
institution somewhere people can be festive into mid January, and
I think they wanted an extra weekend of visitors and
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revenue from it. So that was great and that means
we'll go again. I'm going to a Sixers game, so
basketball is a winter sport.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
My husband and I have tickets to that for some night.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
I set a goal, as people know from the Goal episode,
to go to three professional sports events in Philadelphia in
the course of the year, so this will cross off
the Sixers. If the Eagles make the playoffs and the
games are here, we might consider trying to get tickets
for that, and then we would have knocked two of
the three off. In the first month, so that's exciting,
but that, of course is hard to predict exactly what
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those games will be, or what the tickets will cost
or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
So that's a maybe.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I am traveling to Boston to see Beethoven's eighth and ninth.
This is not a winter specific thing, except that the
Boston Symphony Orchestra is doing a series of Beethoven performances
of all his symphonies over the course of January, so
you know it's happening in winter. It's not winter specific fun.
There's a few parties, including two of my children's birthday parties.
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I'll see Sarah in early March. You're right, that is
still winter.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Winter's over, but it's not.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
And then yeah, I'm.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Tagging along to one of my husband's conferences which is
also in mid March, which really technically is still winter here.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
So you know, lots of good stuff.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
So we're going to take a quick ad break and
we'll be back with a tiny bit more on winter
fun before getting into the meat of time tracking. Well,
we are back first talking winter fun and then moving
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on to time tracking. So one thing I keep putting
on my list but doesn't happen due to the life
of constant snowcover sleigh riding.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Now, Sarah, you have gone sleigh riding even though you
are the Florida resident among us, so discuss this.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Well, it was in Montana, not in Florida. I'd be like,
on sand yeah, And actually they even said so we
went in late March of twenty twenty four, and they
were like, you guys are lucky because it's like about
to not have enough snow to even do this in
Montana because it was approaching April and spring does come
and start to melt. You need like a solid amount
of snow because there's like horses and yeah, you can't
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be having them dragon along dirt. But it was amazing.
We did it for this like dinner, like if you
shook the sleigh ride to the dinner. It was an
absolute splurge and to the point where my kids are like,
are we doing that again? And I'm like, no, it's
not like in every trip to kind of situation. But
I think someday we'll do it again, because they loved
it and they still talk about it. So I do
recommend you could probably find something in conjunction with a
ski trip, although maybe not in the Poconos.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Yeah, and that in the Pocono I well, if we
travel somewhere else though, just ski, then we could you know,
do definitely presumably be a place we're choosing with more
consistent snow cover.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah, the problem is here, So there's I found.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
A company that did it, like when I was first
looking into this, but you have to call like when
there's snow. It's like because they only open up then
if there is you know, six inches of snow. So
the idea, like you would have to have the space
to do it, Like, it's just so many things don't
work with like my family situation and schedule to just
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magically be able to fit in a sleigh ride should
it happen to snow. So that's not happened yet, but yeah,
maybe on a ski trip we will figure that out.
Another thing with winter fun is just trying to figure
out how to keep the festivities going. Like I mentioned
the Longwood Gardens thing. You can certainly keep your own
white lights up as long as you might wish. Obviously
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Santa decorations and red and green and colored lights might
start to feel a little bit dated by mid January,
but there's nothing inherently Christmasy about little white lights. I mean,
we have these cafe lights up outside year round, so
you could certainly keep some white lights up until February March.
I don't know till the sun is up more frequently. Yeah,
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and I'm going to be wearing a lot of winter white,
how about you, Sarah.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
You know I don't have a lot of winter white,
but now that you've said that, it's like a that's
a new goal. I love. I love the idea of
winter white, especially like pants. That's just so elegant, very elegant. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
I have a white coat which I'm now looking at
and thinking maybe I should take this white coat to
the cleaners, because that is, of course the downside of
the white coat. But it is fun to wear a
white coat, so as long as it stays white, which
is easier said than done some years. So another thing
that is coming in January, which may be fun for
some people, is my annual time tracking challenge. So longtime
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listeners know I've done this the past few years. Some
years we've had thousands of people tracking along and during
a week in January. This year, we are doing the
week of January thirteenth through twentieth, So Monday, January thirteenth
through the twentieth, we'll have lots of people doing it together.
You know, you can sign up for that on my website. So, Sarah,
have you ever done the time tracking challenge in January before?
Speaker 3 (16:15):
I've definitely done time tracking, like while we've been doing it,
like with the Patreon or like aligned with you, and
somehow I don't know if I like, I feel like
I signed up for the emails. I don't know if
I did it exactly when I was supposed to do it.
But I have like completed the challenge of tracking all
of my time for seven days, and I actually like
to do it about every season. So I love this
exercise and I love that you lead it.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Yeah, I first tracked my time for a week in
like two thousand and nine. I was writing one hundred
and sixteen hours, so obviously I needed to track my
time if I was having other people doing it too.
But I started tracking my time continuously in April of
twenty fifteen, which means that we are coming up on
the ten year anniversary of that, which is kind of
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a long time to have done that with no real interruptions.
That's the longest streak I've ever had. Well, I mean,
I'll probably brush my teeth daily since twenty fifteen too,
but streaks of that sort of nature.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
You know, it's a that's a lot of data.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
It is a lot of data, Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Well it's not easily organized though, because at some point
I gave up the idea of doing like the mutually exclusive,
comprehensively exhaustive categories or putting it in to excel in
a form where I was like actually tracking you know,
what cells say, sleep, what sells they work, what sell
say you know, so I would have to go in
and do that now, like make it more coding friendly
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or something.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
But you know, it's more about memory keeping at this point.
I'm not sitting there.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
When I track my time and post it publicly January
thirteen through twenty, I will add up how much I
sleep and how much I work and how much I
do different things. But I don't tend to do that
every week now. It's more just as a record of life,
making sure things are looking more or less as I
want them to do it. But I think everyone should
try this at least once in their life. I mean,
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you know, your time very well, Sarah, and I think
you still found it somewhat useful totally.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
It's not even just like the data, it's like the
act of doing it makes your aware of what you're
doing when you're doing it, Like it can elucidate little
things even with habits, like why certain things are a struggle.
I don't know. I always learn something new, and I
really do feel like I benefit from doing it every
few months because as the seasons of life change, as
our schedules change, it just feels kind of right to
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take stock again and figure out what's working and what's not.
But yeah, learn little things every time.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Yeah, little things.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I mean just like, oh, yeah, this is what my
mornings look like now, or oh it's possible that I
could do this in the evenings now. I couldn't before,
but you know, my life looks different now. Or you know,
I used to think that Saturdays were just a lost
day with kid activities, but maybe then your kids are
older and they're getting themselves to things, and it opens
up time again. Life changes and our time changes and
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should change and how we approach it. But you know,
just to let make sure people know it's not about
any sort of like gotcha thing. Like, you know, people
are sometimes like, well, I don't really want to do it,
because you know, I'm just gonna be like forced to
confront how much Netflix I'm watching or forced to see
that I'm on Instagram for two hours a day, and
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I'm like, if it brings you joy to be on
Instagram two hours a day, I am one hundred percent
in favor of that. Maybe it doesn't bring you joy,
in which case it might be good to know, right,
And then you can say, oh, well, you know, maybe
there's some other website that's less, doesn't make me feel
bad but would still be pretty eye candy. So let
me go find this website that would be pretty eye
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candy but wouldn't make me feel terrible about my life
in the course of looking at it. So it's always
about looking for solutions and instead of just judging yourself
or feeling some sort of shame about where your time goes,
because everybody wastes time like I waste tons of time.
I may try to waste less time during the week
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of January thirteen to twenty because I am posting it,
but trust me, there is plenty of scrolling puttering around
the house starting something and getting distracted, coming back to it,
not remembering what I was doing, getting distracted again, and
so on, hours disappearing.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Maybe you should make a concerted effort not to waste
less time.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Not to wasteless so people can see it in all
its glory. Yeah, yeah, but it's not that hard. So
what you'll do is you'll download a spreadsheet from my
website if you wish. You can also use a notebook,
or you could use a time tracking app, whatever would be.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
I mean, you've used do you use a spreadsheet when
you do it? Sarah? What have you usually done?
Speaker 3 (20:46):
I just use a notebook and I just I either
just write everything like Hopunichi has a little timeline or
my favorite notebook to use is Nostology because it has
all twenty four hours in a column along the left,
so it's very easy to just write, like what you're doing.
But I I feel like most people probably prefer digital.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Is that right? Well?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
I use the spreadsheet online and I'm not a very
digital person, but that's just how I started doing it.
I like to see what the week looks like all
in one picture, true, which if you're tracking on a notebook,
sometimes it's harder to get that all in one grid,
and because you could also sort of see like the
space in the morning before you wake up the space
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and you kind of get a sense of where it is.
I love the first time I did this on a
spreadsheet that is Monday through Sunday, and I saw that
Thursday was the middle of the week, and it's like,
you know, that insight in and of itself was just
eye opening that if my timelog starts Monday at five
am and goes to the next Monday at four thirty am,
the middle of the week is five pm Thursday. Oh.
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I know.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Every single time I'm on call and I look at
my watch and it's like the end of day Thursday.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
I like curse you a little.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
Bit because they're like, sorry, Sarah, you are only halfway through.
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
Not I'm only halfway through this.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Oh my god. I know it.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I can't pretend like other people can, like, oh well,
Thursday is like the end of the week.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
To be fair, the weekend's easier, so it's a little
bit downhill from there. But no, I think of you
every single time. I can't help it. I'm gonna vow
right now that I'm going to try this digitally this year, Like,
I may write it down, but I want to see
it all laid out in a grid, like yeah, I
want to see what it looks like well.
Speaker 2 (22:21):
And obviously if you are trying to add up categories,
it's a lot harder to do that if it's written
down in a notebook. You know, if you have it
on regular Excel, you could just total up the number
of cells that said something like sleep, and that would
be a fairly simple thing to do. Or even if
you're just adding it up by visually looking at it,
it's easier when it's all in one grid and you
can see it like that, but no requirement to add
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things up.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
It's just if you want to.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I don't do anything fancy art wise with it. We've
had some people put in photos if they want to
use it as a memory keeping kind of thing, or
do some expanded thing where they put like just you know,
visited with cousin in the cell itself, but then put
some way that you can link that to a longer
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entry where they talk more about, you know, what they
did with their cousin.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
And that would be a fun way to do this too.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
If you are focused more on the memory keeping aspect
of it.
Speaker 3 (23:18):
Totally pasting pictures looks cool too, Yeah, imagine. Well let's
take a quick break and then I'm interested in what
you tend to find people discover.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
All right, let's do it.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
All right, we are back. You have looked at many,
many time logs over the years, so I'm curious what
do you tend What are like.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
The most common findings, Well, one very common one from
a past. Especially people who listen to this podcast might
be interested to hear. A lot of women who have
big jobs have been telling themselves the story or have
heard the story from various people over the years, that
they are just not spending enough time with their kids,
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right like, oh, you know, I'm working all the time.
Speaker 1 (24:13):
I don't see my kids all that much. It's really
too bad. I do what I can.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
I've had people track their time and say, well, I
used to feel guilt. I don't feel guilt anymore. We
are talking people in very, very demanding jobs still spending
thirty forty hours a week with their children. Because it
turns out that even if you work a lot, you
also don't work many of the hours of the week.
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There are one hundred and sixty eight hours in the week.
So if you are sleeping fifty six of them and
sleep and working fifty of them, you have sixty two
hours that are spent on other things.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
And if you have.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
Small children, a lot of those hours are going to
be with those small children. And you know, even if
they're not so small, like you're still in the same house, like,
you wind up spending a ton of time with the
people who are in your household, just by virtue of proximity.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
So a lot of times people.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Don't necessarily think that in their lives, but then when
they track their time and they see the volume of
time spent with family members, it just gives you a
very different picture of what life truly looks like. You know,
if people say, like, wow, you know, I know I'm
a full time lawyer, I didn't know I was actually
a full time parent too, but it's very possible.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
That you are. Wow. Well, that's probably makes people feel
good and reassuring. I like it. Yeah, anything else.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Well, one of the reasons people are around their kids
so much is that they work less than they think
this is. I mean, it's human nature to sort of
overestimate things we may not always want to do. And
I'm sure people like their jobs, but there are parts
that are tedious, and so it's very easy to see
our longest weeks as typical. So it's not so much
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that you know, people are saying, oh, I work eighty
hours a week and they've like never worked an eighty
hour week. What it is is that they've worked an
eighty hour week like four times over the course of
the year, and those four times are just like burned
into their brain because they were so terrible, and so
they're like, oh, that's what my life looks like, but
it probably isn't. Like there are probably a lot of
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weeks that are way less intense. So if you choose
to track an eighty hour week, that's fine. But my
guess is just through the nature of the luck of
the draw, January thirteen to twenty may not be that week. Like,
if it only happens four times a year, it's probably
not going to be that week, and so you might
get a different picture of how many hours you are working.
Sometimes it's because we have a picture of a typical
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week that involves us being at work five days a week,
But there are many reasons people aren't at work five
days a week. Sometimes it's holidays or paid time off.
Sometimes it's that you had something personal during one of
the days, or day got taken away from you for
some other reason, like you're working at home and you
have the flu, Yes, you have the flu, or like
there's a huge leak in your basement you have to
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deal with there, right, I mean, these are things that happen,
and you know you might make up some of the
work at some point, but you may not make it
up hour for hour, right, and so you wind up
with fewer hours than you would have thought. The good news,
people often do sleep a little bit more than they
think they do. We have a tendency to again view
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our works nights as typical, and so if you had
a really bad night, like Sunday night, you were up
late because you were sleeping in late Sunday morning because
you can't fall asleep Sunday night, and then you have
to be up at the crack of dawn on Monday,
like that is what you see as your typical night,
as opposed to maybe, like Thursday, you actually crash on
the couch at nine thirty and sleep till like seven
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thirty in the morning. Well, you're not viewing ten hour
you know, no one would be like, well, yeah, yeah,
I sleep ten.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Hours a night, but you did, like you did.
Speaker 2 (27:46):
It happened once the six hour night, also happened once
in the ten hour night, but maybe it averages out
to more like seven to eight, which is where the
vast majority of adults land.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
This is totally in aside. But when I do this,
I'm gonna then see if my phone sleep record is accurate,
because I never really know. I don't find enough attention,
but I think this will help me.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
Well, this is an interesting thing that has come up
with now that there are so many sleep trackers that
people are wearables that people have, and the variance between
that and recorded sleep, Like if you were tracking it
on a log, if I was up in the middle
of the night, I would record that. If it took
me more than ten minutes to fall asleep, I would
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probably record that on my log too, because I would
have remembered that I was lying awake in my bed
for a while.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
I don't know if.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Everyone does that when they're recording how much they sleep,
but I think you could, and then I think they
would be fairly similar. Now, obviously there's some like where
we go into very light stages of sleep. I mean,
would you be recording that as sort of wakefulness? I
don't know how those apps are always recording them. I mean,
if you're just tossing and turning, I'm not sure that
I would record that as being awake.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
It's yeah, I don't wear my watch to bed or
anything like that, and so it's just relying on my phone,
and my phone just happens to be like sitting, like
or if I'm reading in bed, how does my phone
no phone?
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Your phone? I'll think? I mean, is it tracking your pulls?
So I knows?
Speaker 3 (29:06):
I mean it might be, but like I don't know,
we'll see, I'll let you know, all right.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
So well, but people might want to do that as
an experiment too, like how does it differ if you
have one of those aura rings or something between that
and your time track?
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Or I'd love to love to hear.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
I think there's also a lot of people realize that
sometime it's hard to account for or categorize. We all
have this sort of nebulous downtime in our lives, and
the good news is that you can either acknowledge it,
like oh, yes, this is downtime, Like this is time
I don't have to do anything else. I could just
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chill if I want, Or you could say, well, I
don't have to keep getting up and moving something from
the kitchen counter one item at a time and then
getting distracted like half hearted housework that isn't really accomplishing anything.
You could repurpose this for something more fun. Say I, actually,
I do have nothing on the schedule this afternoon. For
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a Saturday afternoon, I could trade off with my partner
and go to gym for an hour, like we're not
doing anything. That would be fine. So people can repurpose
some of that, And.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
I can imagine there's a good amount of time that's
just like transitions like getting out the door and then
also driving.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Yeah, well, driving definitely takes a reasonable amount of time.
That was something I was surprised by when I first
started doing this, because I don't commute to an office,
so in my mind I can't be driving that much.
But I can tell you I am, in fact driving
a fair amount. Between driving all my kids around, driving
myself places, it adds up.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
It definitely definitely adds up.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
So you'll come up with lots of different insights into
your life.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
You know, you can then ask.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Yourself what you like about your schedule, what you want
to change, what you want to spend more time doing,
what you want to spend less time doing, figuring out
some strategies for switching it up we're necessary, or maybe
just leaning into the things that are wonderful about your life.
And there's many great outcomes from tracking your time, so
I encourage everyone to do it. If you are listening
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to this, you should go to my website, Laura vandercam
dot com. By the time this airs, there will be
a big box on the front of it that says
sign up for the time tracking Challenge, and you could
just do that. But if for some reason you're listening
to this at an entirely different time, just check my blog.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
I will have posted the links several times.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
If you get my newsletters, they will have been in
there lots of ways you will be able to sign up.
Strongly encourage people to do it because you get daily
motivational emails from me.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
I'm excited.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Yay, it'll be fun. It'll be fun, all right. So
this week's question a timely one. Our listener writes, really
do I need to start planning for summer camp. Now,
what if I am exhausted from the holidays, Like, are
they looking for I don't know, Sarah.
Speaker 1 (31:57):
Maybe this person is looking for permission to not do it.
I don't know. What do you think?
Speaker 3 (32:01):
I mean, that's what I'm seeing. Well, I mean I
can give you my answer, which is that it certainly
depends on your area. If you will live worse somewhere
that everything gets snapped up, then like kind of yeah,
unless you want to just be okay with having fewer choices,
because there's gonna be something open later on, but it
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may not be what your kids want. And I know
that my kids, well they're going to that Monday through
Friday sleep away camp again. That's three weeks. And one
of them was like, I want this specific like you
know they have different like specialties because my friends are
in it, and like if you don't put me in
that one, it's gonna sell out and I won't be
with my friends and it won't be me fun. So
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you can bet. Like I was December fifth or whatever
the day that it was, it was open. Okay, done,
signed up, check, We're done. Like you know, it's one
less thing to worry about later. A lot of the
camps don't require all the payment in advance. If that's,
you know, a concern, you can like spread that part out.
But I kind of think that you're gonna have to
do eventually, and it is easier to do when there's
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lots of options open versus when you're now like playing
patchwork with what's actually available. And when do I want
my kids? I guess with the only risk that like
in case you have kids that changed their mind a lot.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
Well, but even with that, if you are willing to
lose a tiny bit of money, like I said, some
of the camps will allow you to just put a
fifty or one hundred dollars deposit down, and you know,
if your kid is prone to changing their mind, you
might just decide, well, you know, so I have the coverage,
I'm going to put that in. I might lose my
fifty dollars, but that wouldn't be the end of the
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world in order to have that guarantee. So that is
a mindset that one can take on that I signed
Henry up for a particular day camp during a week
that I know we don't have other childcare coverage, and
he was whining that he didn't want to do it,
but he was whining about everything that morning, so I
have no idea if he wants to do it or not.
He probably will think something entirely different by July. So
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I'm like, I'm just going to put in the deposit
and have it because I know this is a camp
that does sell out, and I didn't have to fill
out any of the forms, and because kids have gone
to this camp or done programs to this organization in
the past, they actually had all my information anyway. So
this is one of the brilliant ones where I just
could use the platform and it was like already recognized
me and had my phone number and had like our
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backup contacts names and phone numbers.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
So I was like, whoo, well, all I had to
do is like basically say take my fifty dollars.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Yes, yeah, so we're sorry, we think you should consider
getting on that.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
But again, if you're in a place where there is
stuff available in April or May, then.
Speaker 1 (34:39):
Fine, then fine.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
You know you then don't have to or you could
decide that most of the time this summer you're going
to if this is an option for you, have like
a summer babysitter. Like if you think you'd be able
to hire a summer nanny for twelve weeks or something,
somebody who's maybe home from college and looking for a job,
then no, you don't have to worry about it too much.
I mean, mostly that person would do stuff, and then
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you could sign up for like half day camps here
and there that was something related to your kid's interest.
But if you didn't have it on any given day,
it wouldn't be the end of the world. It's more
how much are you going to absolutely need coverage? And
if you absolutely need coverage, then you, as the parent
of school age children, you need to recognize that school
is not childcare. So this is just about figuring out
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your childcare same as you would like you did when
your kid was one. Yes, for better or for worse,
For better or for worse. Yeah, no, Well I'm sorry
because I know I'm annoyed about it too. Like I
don't want to do my summer spreadsheet, but that is
on the list for the month.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
Yeah I don't either. It doesn't feel I'm more doing them,
like as the upper you may have just taken. Like
if you're on enough lists, you can have the attitude
of like, as the opportunities arrive, I can take them
one by one rather than I'm going to figure out
the entire summer right now, because even I I'm not
in the mood to do that.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
No, no, And I'm definitely not planning my older children's summers.
That's like absolutely not. They're on it theirselves. Like can
apply for a job if you want to go to
camp some nerd, that's great, but you're the one figuring
that out, not me.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
That that makes sense. I put in my time.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
For all of you, all right. So, Sarah, love of
the week. What do you have this week?
Speaker 3 (36:13):
I have a clean car, so yay. This doesn't happen
very often, but we try to do it once a
year and Josh actually took both cars. He took charge,
did one after the other, and it is just, oh
my gosh, like it's amazing, Like the seats are clean,
the outside is clean. I should probably maybe think about
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upgrading to two times next year because of how happy
it makes me. But yeah, clean cars.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
Clean cars, excellent, excellent.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Well, my love of the week is hot hands, those
little things you put in your pocket and keep you hot.
I've mentioned this before, but you know, it's really nice
to have a portable heat source if you are out
and about with winter. So if you're looking to make
winter a little more fun, not being freezing is one
way to do that. All right, Well, this has been
of both worlds. We've been talking winter fun and then
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the time tracking challenge.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Go sign up for that. We will be back next
week with more on making work and life fit together.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
Thanks for listening. You can find me Sarah at the
shoebox dot com or at the Underscore Shoebox on Instagram,
and you.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
Can find me Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. This
has been the best of both worlds podcasts. Please join
us next time for more on making work and life
work together.