May 27, 2025 • 15 mins
One of our listeners was SHOCKED by the children’s birthday invite her son received… in fact, all the parents were so bothered by the strange instructions, she needs our help with an Awkward Tuesday Phone Call!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Is there anything sweeter than a child's birthday party?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
So?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
They're a blast paw patrol cakes, bouncy castle, dude.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
The goodie bags are like off the hook.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
R oh yeah, the magicians making mommy's blouse disappear. But
behind every balloon arch other parents stand in silent judgment judgments.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You're wondering who.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Cheap out on the decorations, who are svp'd late? And
who thought a glitter slime kit was an acceptable gift
for a carpeted home. A lot of unspoken drama that
happens with these kids birthdays, and that's why one of
our listeners has reached out for help.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
Oh my god, No, you've being serious. There is kid drama.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I'm serious, like a joke. Her name is Ginger and
she is going through it right now. Ginger, Welcome to
the show.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Hi you guys, did you not get invited to a
birthday party you wanted to go to?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Ginger?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I wish?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Okay, okay, what's going on? What made you email us
about something about a kid's birthday party?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yeah? So my seven year old son. He got a
birthday party invitation from one of his classmates.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
That's cute, Okay, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
I mean it seemed on my first a little birthday card,
you know, with balloons and confetti on it. Yeah. Yeah,
But then I read it.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
You read the invitation.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I was so confused because, like, there's no time listed,
no activities, there's no party.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
What do you invite?
Speaker 5 (01:51):
Maybe it's just like a playdate. Then is it just
him and his buddy.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
No, they just want us to send gifts their house.
No party at all.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
Excuse me?
Speaker 3 (02:02):
What?
Speaker 1 (02:03):
No, it's not a party invite.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
It's a gift invite, like they send your gifts this way.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
There's a family asking for gifts for their seven year
old kid's birthday.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
But not a birthday.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
It literally says please mail or drop off presents by
next Saturday.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Et in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Oh there's a deadline.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Is it a joke? You're not getting like, how could
anyone do that?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
No? And then they feel the deal, thank you for
participating in this wonderful celebration.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Oh wow.
Speaker 6 (02:31):
Is it like a setup for something else, like you're
gonna make a collage.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
Maybe it's like they're collecting gifts for like kids that
don't have funds for birthdays, Like is it a charity day?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
There's no mention of charity. It is all for their kids.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Wow, what's boring?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I mean I was thinking maybe it's like a health thing.
You know, maybe somebody's sick and they don't want to
expose other people.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
There's a logical explanation.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
True, Yeah, okay, did you.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Find out No, they're still showing up to all the
school events.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Oh, the kid is okay, the whole family okay, So
probably not a health issue.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
And they're not in a giant like bubble.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
What family of kids wants more crap in their house?
Like that's another.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
Well, kids wants all the toys they.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
No way, dude, my kids, they say no gifts on
the invitation is Brooks stay.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And kids don't like toys and giars saying.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
They don't need it, Like my kids don't need that stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I mean I've heard of that before.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
But this is sounds like you're being invited to a
wedding but you're not allowed to attend the actual You
just here's the wedding registry. Thank you for buying a gift.
Speaker 6 (03:37):
Mind bringing, but like, let's have a party let's barbecue, like.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Or is this only you and your kid?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Do you know if other children are being invited to
a party?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah? So I talked some of the other parents and
they all got the same invitations they did.
Speaker 5 (03:54):
Okay, I cannot imagine your mom group chats right now.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
They're pretty spicy right now.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Okay, here's the question.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
Are they like down on their luck, like the family
doesn't have money to afford the gifts?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I don't know. I just think this is odd. I mean,
who does this? Who throws the kids party and none
of the kids can go?
Speaker 7 (04:14):
Okay, if that was the.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
Case, in a gentle way, they would say that it's
a tough year for us.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
We'd appreciate something or some help.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Yeah, and I guess that's what that's what go fundmes for.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But Ginger, I mean, if you don't agree with this,
if you don't like the idea, why not just boycott
it and don't send a gift.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
And ignore.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
The kid.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Now, if I don't give a gift, then I'm going
to be known in the group chat as the parent
who didn't send a gift to his birthday?
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Are you sing? I don't think that's bad. I think
it's worse for your kid. Who's the one kid who didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Give going to get invited to the other party?
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Oh, I would be boycotting to There's no way, are
you kidding me?
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Bad mouthed me all you want? That is absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Hook would pick it outside of the home.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
I think she has those signs made even a joke.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Don't cross this line and put a gift on the front.
Poor bring her kids to help her protest.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, so obviously this is unusual. What made you email
us for advice? What are you looking to do with
your call here?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I want to know how to be the bigger person here.
You know, I don't want to just complain about it.
I mean I would like to speak to the mom
and tail her what the other parents are saying about this?
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Okay, so what I mean, what's the message though? You're
gonna say, Hey, not cool?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Personally, I'm bothered by it. The more I'm talking about
it is you can see I get amped up. So
I just kind of more so need some advice about
how to have the conversation.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Okay, Okay, I love that.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I mean I think a lot of people would just
ignore it and hope it goes away. But that doesn't
help in society that it just makes it uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (05:52):
I mean, I can't give that as my advice.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Ignore it and its more conversations are good.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
This is really interesting because I've definitely heard of parents
like Brooks said, say please have your kid come to
the party, no presence needed. But this is the total
opposite where it's like, bring your presence, no children away. Yeah, children,
we're gonna get you some advice here, Ginger, and let
you make your awkward Tuesday phone call to figure out
what's going on with this kid's birthday party.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We'll do it right after this. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
It's a genius idea. I can't believe I haven't thought
of before. Throw a birthday party without people.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah, you don't like people very much. Jeff's this Actually
I could see you.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
It's nobody's allowed. You just ask for the presence to
be delivered right to you. Wow, and stay the heck away.
Speaker 6 (06:49):
You should make up like twelve children, one for each month, Jeff,
an imaginary birthday.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Party every month.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So smart, joseing the doll.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
And I can't even say it was my idea.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
It's what one mom apparently did because one of our listeners,
Ginger got an invite for her seven year old son
to celebrate another kid's birthday. But there's no actual party,
no activities at all, just an address for them to
drop off presents. Yeah, and Ginger wants to call this
other mom and tell her, hey, this might not be
the best look because other parents have been talking about
(07:23):
it and not.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
I mean, I mean she's honestly, you're doing the mom
of a solid, but you're helping the mom out by
giving her a headzige.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
We just need to give her advice on how to
do it politely. So, Brooke, what do you have for her?
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Well, I mean you want to remain calm, right, that's
like your goal. And for me, whenever I have an
awkward mom interaction, I just played dumb.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Oh I thought she was gonna say xanax. No, that's good.
Speaker 5 (07:47):
So you just want to say, hey, I got this invite,
but I don't really understand it, you know what I mean, Like,
make her explain.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
It to you.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Maybe when she says it out loud she realizes this
sounds bad, right, or or.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Be open maybe there's something that we're missing. Maybe there's
a logical answer we don't see yet.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, I mean I feel like you've got to say
this out loud to make it make sense, and it
doesn't make sense on paper.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Totally, totally Okay, Well, Jose, what do you think? What's
your advice?
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Well, I have the exact same advice what you need
to do when I do best and play dumb. Oh
my god, you call back aloof and just be like,
oh my god, I am so excited. I'm calling for
details at the big birthday party even though you know
there's no party.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
You're getting even dumber than I suggest.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Yeah, no, you gotta dumb here.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I feel like you didn't even read the advice.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, I mean that one.
Speaker 6 (08:38):
She literally has to tell you and correct you on
what's really happening. She's have to tell you not to come,
but you'll be listening and you won't get mad.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Okay, I like it.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
So you think you're not dumb enough, go dumber?
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Also playing dumb? So three for three here, ja, you.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Might go full dumb today. Yeah, let's dial this other
mom here and don't dial.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
It wrong dumbing.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
I am so excited to hear this explanation, and honestly,
I know.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Like what's the real truth.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Let's see if she even picks up. I'm dialing her
number right now and we'll step away. Let you make
your awkward Tuesday phone call, and we'll be ready to
jump in if we feel like you need a little help.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
All right, Okay, thank you, God you're an idiot.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Okay, yeah, yes, here we go, good luck.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Hello? Hi is this Sammy?
Speaker 7 (09:31):
Yes? This is is this?
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I'm cuss mom?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (09:35):
How are you? I'm good? We got your birthday invite? Oh,
I do have a couple of questions for you.
Speaker 7 (09:43):
There really shouldn't be any questions because everything's laid out
on the invite there.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Yeah, yeah, I got it. But I just need to
ask you is this correct? Like there's no actual party,
it's just you kind of just want us to send
a gift. And that's it.
Speaker 7 (09:58):
Yep, that's what it is. I mean says it on
the invitation. WHOA, You're welcome to drop it off. I mean,
feel free, but you don't even need to ring the door.
But you can just leave it on the doorstep and
I can grab it.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Oh, okay, is there anything else I think that covers? It, yep.
I mean, well, I kind of feel like it's important
to talk to you about this because, like some of
the other parents have mentioned, they've never heard of a
party like this before.
Speaker 7 (10:27):
Right, well, this is not a party, this is a celebration.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh got it.
Speaker 7 (10:32):
But I mean, and we decided to do a little
bit of a more gift forward celebration this year, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
I mean, what does that even mean?
Speaker 7 (10:41):
It's really simple, more gifts, less people. It's kind of
more fun that way. I'm sorry, Ginger, Is it because
you can't afford a gift?
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Because if that's the case.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
It's honestly, it's okay. Just have on make something or
like an IOU for a gift card.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Yes, they produce me. That's no, that's rude. We have
plenty of money. I just think that if there's a
bad message to the kids that it's all about gifts
and not about the experience of celebrating with your friends.
Speaker 7 (11:13):
I mean, honestly, at this age, kids.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Don't even remember the party. They just remember the gifts.
Speaker 7 (11:18):
So let's just skip the middle man, right.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I mean, I just feel like it's really weird to
ask for a gift and there's no event, no piece,
good party. No nothing, You just want me to send
a gift to your house.
Speaker 7 (11:30):
Okay, I kind of see what you're saying. So your
child doesn't believe in gift giving unless there's something in
it for him. I mean, that's kind of sad.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
No, it's not about my kid at all. It's the
perception about this is not right. You're just asking people
for gifts. Okay.
Speaker 7 (11:46):
I don't really have a lot of time right now,
but I'm a little surprised that the reaction you're giving
me because none of the other parents have said anything
like this. Most of them are very supportive.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Oh it's not that they support you. They're scared of you.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
They don't their kids to.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Be blackballed from other parties, so they talked to me.
Speaker 7 (12:04):
Okay, I don't really like how this is going, so listen.
If you don't feel like I needs to drop.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Off a gift, just then Mooles send.
Speaker 7 (12:12):
Us cashin.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Hello, what's going on?
Speaker 7 (12:24):
Yes, am I on speaker phone or something.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Well, you're on a lot of speakers all over the
country right now, because this is a radio show called
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Yeah, you are so classless ginger to put me, Luke,
you couldn't.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Call me directly, so you called a radio station.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Hey, he's ittiful.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
Oh the only classless person is the mother who's begging
for gifts and not even throwing a party.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
That's honey.
Speaker 7 (12:52):
I don't know your name, but no one's begging for gifts.
If she didn't want to send one, she didn't have to.
She just called me. I'm telling her her options have
to she doesn't want.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
I thought she was going to come with some explanation
as to why the birthday party was just gifts, like
maybe this kid was sick.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Or maybe like maybe there was something right, maybe.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
There was a guy. It's a celebration, not a party.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Yeah, not a party was the difference.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
She made it very clear. It's a gift forward celebration.
The focus is on the gifts.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
Why do you want that to be your kid's focus.
Shouldn't your kids focus be relationships? Like that's what's going
to sustain them in life, not stuck.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'm Tammy.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
The reason that Ginger has reached out to us is
because she's not alone. Apparently a bunch of the other
parents and kids at your school are a little bit
alarmed by this idea.
Speaker 7 (13:46):
Yeah, yes, and guys, I could care less.
Speaker 5 (13:48):
Okay, well, okay, okay, I get your on the defense.
We came in hot, but like, honestly, like you got
to think of your kid right now.
Speaker 7 (13:57):
This is none of your business. I'm not sure what
I'm even doing on this call because she could have
had a private conversation.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
But now all the mothers will know.
Speaker 4 (14:05):
They are you send out a mass invite for gifts?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Can I ask a weird question?
Speaker 6 (14:10):
Is your kid get along with the other children? Is
that the problem?
Speaker 7 (14:13):
Again, it's none of your business because I have no
idea who you are.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Okay, well, we would like as a show, we would
like to send your child the gifts.
Speaker 5 (14:21):
To We'll send over some stuff, oh ginger Brook Delivery, right.
Speaker 7 (14:31):
Broke, I'm not talking anyone goodbye.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Around I'm playing around.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
My god, she's the worst. Why do you even care
about upsetting that family? Like you don't want to be
you don't want to have that family in your life.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
I just cannot believe she said I like you said.
I thought she was going to give us an excuse.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
I thought it was going to be like egg on
our face. What jerks are for? Like even jumping to
the concressions, donating everything to this something.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh darn so, do you feel like you're still going
to send a gift for the birthday?
Speaker 6 (15:08):
You don't want to be rude, You're not really asking that.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Well I got that before. I'm not sending her.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Really brought out the fire in her. Yeah, okay, Well
keep us updated on what happens with this party. If
that kid actually does.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
A party, is a celebration, a huge forward celebration of
this child's birthday.
Speaker 6 (15:28):
Tell us that we show up, We'll discipline there.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
Freaking Jeffrey in the morning,
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Is there anything sweeter than a child's birthday party?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
So?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
They're a blast paw patrol cakes, bouncy castle, dude.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
The goodie bags are like off the hook.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
R oh yeah, the magicians making mommy's blouse disappear. But
behind every balloon arch other parents stand in silent judgment judgments.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You're wondering who.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Cheap out on the decorations, who are svp'd late? And
who thought a glitter slime kit was an acceptable gift
for a carpeted home. A lot of unspoken drama that
happens with these kids birthdays, and that's why one of
our listeners has reached out for help.
Speaker 4 (00:57):
Oh my god, No, you've being serious. There is kid drama.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
I'm serious, like a joke. Her name is Ginger and
she is going through it right now. Ginger, Welcome to
the show.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Hi you guys, did you not get invited to a
birthday party you wanted to go to?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Ginger?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I wish?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Okay, okay, what's going on? What made you email us
about something about a kid's birthday party?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
Yeah? So my seven year old son. He got a
birthday party invitation from one of his classmates.
Speaker 4 (01:28):
That's cute, Okay, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
I mean it seemed on my first a little birthday card,
you know, with balloons and confetti on it. Yeah. Yeah,
But then I read it.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
You read the invitation.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I was so confused because, like, there's no time listed,
no activities, there's no party.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
What do you invite?
Speaker 5 (01:51):
Maybe it's just like a playdate. Then is it just
him and his buddy.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
No, they just want us to send gifts their house.
No party at all.
Speaker 4 (02:01):
Excuse me?
Speaker 3 (02:02):
What?
Speaker 1 (02:03):
No, it's not a party invite.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
It's a gift invite, like they send your gifts this way.
Speaker 5 (02:08):
There's a family asking for gifts for their seven year
old kid's birthday.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
But not a birthday.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
It literally says please mail or drop off presents by
next Saturday.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Et in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Oh there's a deadline.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Is it a joke? You're not getting like, how could
anyone do that?
Speaker 3 (02:24):
No? And then they feel the deal, thank you for
participating in this wonderful celebration.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Oh wow.
Speaker 6 (02:31):
Is it like a setup for something else, like you're
gonna make a collage.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
Maybe it's like they're collecting gifts for like kids that
don't have funds for birthdays, Like is it a charity day?
Speaker 3 (02:43):
There's no mention of charity. It is all for their kids.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Wow, what's boring?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I mean I was thinking maybe it's like a health thing.
You know, maybe somebody's sick and they don't want to
expose other people.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
There's a logical explanation.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
True, Yeah, okay, did you.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Find out No, they're still showing up to all the
school events.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Oh, the kid is okay, the whole family okay, So
probably not a health issue.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
And they're not in a giant like bubble.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
What family of kids wants more crap in their house?
Like that's another.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
Well, kids wants all the toys they.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
No way, dude, my kids, they say no gifts on
the invitation is Brooks stay.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And kids don't like toys and giars saying.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
They don't need it, Like my kids don't need that stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I mean I've heard of that before.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
But this is sounds like you're being invited to a
wedding but you're not allowed to attend the actual You
just here's the wedding registry. Thank you for buying a gift.
Speaker 6 (03:37):
Mind bringing, but like, let's have a party let's barbecue, like.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Or is this only you and your kid?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Do you know if other children are being invited to
a party?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah? So I talked some of the other parents and
they all got the same invitations they did.
Speaker 5 (03:54):
Okay, I cannot imagine your mom group chats right now.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
They're pretty spicy right now.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Okay, here's the question.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
Are they like down on their luck, like the family
doesn't have money to afford the gifts?
Speaker 3 (04:08):
I don't know. I just think this is odd. I mean,
who does this? Who throws the kids party and none
of the kids can go?
Speaker 7 (04:14):
Okay, if that was the.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
Case, in a gentle way, they would say that it's
a tough year for us.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
We'd appreciate something or some help.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Yeah, and I guess that's what that's what go fundmes for.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But Ginger, I mean, if you don't agree with this,
if you don't like the idea, why not just boycott
it and don't send a gift.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
And ignore.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
The kid.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Now, if I don't give a gift, then I'm going
to be known in the group chat as the parent
who didn't send a gift to his birthday?
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Are you sing? I don't think that's bad. I think
it's worse for your kid. Who's the one kid who didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Give going to get invited to the other party?
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Oh, I would be boycotting to There's no way, are
you kidding me?
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Bad mouthed me all you want? That is absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
Hook would pick it outside of the home.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
I think she has those signs made even a joke.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Don't cross this line and put a gift on the front.
Poor bring her kids to help her protest.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Yeah, so obviously this is unusual. What made you email
us for advice? What are you looking to do with
your call here?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
I want to know how to be the bigger person here.
You know, I don't want to just complain about it.
I mean I would like to speak to the mom
and tail her what the other parents are saying about this?
Speaker 4 (05:29):
Okay, so what I mean, what's the message though? You're
gonna say, Hey, not cool?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Personally, I'm bothered by it. The more I'm talking about
it is you can see I get amped up. So
I just kind of more so need some advice about
how to have the conversation.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Okay, Okay, I love that.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I mean I think a lot of people would just
ignore it and hope it goes away. But that doesn't
help in society that it just makes it uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (05:52):
I mean, I can't give that as my advice.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Ignore it and its more conversations are good.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
This is really interesting because I've definitely heard of parents
like Brooks said, say please have your kid come to
the party, no presence needed. But this is the total
opposite where it's like, bring your presence, no children away. Yeah, children,
we're gonna get you some advice here, Ginger, and let
you make your awkward Tuesday phone call to figure out
what's going on with this kid's birthday party.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We'll do it right after this. Hold on, it's awkward.
Speaker 4 (06:24):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
It's a genius idea. I can't believe I haven't thought
of before. Throw a birthday party without people.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yeah, you don't like people very much. Jeff's this Actually
I could see you.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
It's nobody's allowed. You just ask for the presence to
be delivered right to you. Wow, and stay the heck away.
Speaker 6 (06:49):
You should make up like twelve children, one for each month, Jeff,
an imaginary birthday.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Party every month.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So smart, joseing the doll.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
And I can't even say it was my idea.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
It's what one mom apparently did because one of our listeners,
Ginger got an invite for her seven year old son
to celebrate another kid's birthday. But there's no actual party,
no activities at all, just an address for them to
drop off presents. Yeah, and Ginger wants to call this
other mom and tell her, hey, this might not be
the best look because other parents have been talking about
(07:23):
it and not.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
I mean, I mean she's honestly, you're doing the mom
of a solid, but you're helping the mom out by
giving her a headzige.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
We just need to give her advice on how to
do it politely. So, Brooke, what do you have for her?
Speaker 5 (07:35):
Well, I mean you want to remain calm, right, that's
like your goal. And for me, whenever I have an
awkward mom interaction, I just played dumb.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Oh I thought she was gonna say xanax. No, that's good.
Speaker 5 (07:47):
So you just want to say, hey, I got this invite,
but I don't really understand it, you know what I mean, Like,
make her explain.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
It to you.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Maybe when she says it out loud she realizes this
sounds bad, right, or or.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Be open maybe there's something that we're missing. Maybe there's
a logical answer we don't see yet.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Yeah, I mean I feel like you've got to say
this out loud to make it make sense, and it
doesn't make sense on paper.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Totally, totally Okay, Well, Jose, what do you think? What's
your advice?
Speaker 6 (08:16):
Well, I have the exact same advice what you need
to do when I do best and play dumb. Oh
my god, you call back aloof and just be like,
oh my god, I am so excited. I'm calling for
details at the big birthday party even though you know
there's no party.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
You're getting even dumber than I suggest.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Yeah, no, you gotta dumb here.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I feel like you didn't even read the advice.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Yeah, I mean that one.
Speaker 6 (08:38):
She literally has to tell you and correct you on
what's really happening. She's have to tell you not to come,
but you'll be listening and you won't get mad.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Okay, I like it.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
So you think you're not dumb enough, go dumber?
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Also playing dumb? So three for three here, ja, you.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Might go full dumb today. Yeah, let's dial this other
mom here and don't dial.
Speaker 6 (08:57):
It wrong dumbing.
Speaker 5 (08:57):
I am so excited to hear this explanation, and honestly,
I know.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Like what's the real truth.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Let's see if she even picks up. I'm dialing her
number right now and we'll step away. Let you make
your awkward Tuesday phone call, and we'll be ready to
jump in if we feel like you need a little help.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
All right, Okay, thank you, God you're an idiot.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
Okay, yeah, yes, here we go, good luck.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
Hello? Hi is this Sammy?
Speaker 7 (09:31):
Yes? This is is this?
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I'm cuss mom?
Speaker 7 (09:35):
Hi?
Speaker 3 (09:35):
How are you? I'm good? We got your birthday invite? Oh,
I do have a couple of questions for you.
Speaker 7 (09:43):
There really shouldn't be any questions because everything's laid out
on the invite there.
Speaker 3 (09:48):
Yeah, yeah, I got it. But I just need to
ask you is this correct? Like there's no actual party,
it's just you kind of just want us to send
a gift. And that's it.
Speaker 7 (09:58):
Yep, that's what it is. I mean says it on
the invitation. WHOA, You're welcome to drop it off. I mean,
feel free, but you don't even need to ring the door.
But you can just leave it on the doorstep and
I can grab it.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
Oh, okay, is there anything else I think that covers? It, yep.
I mean, well, I kind of feel like it's important
to talk to you about this because, like some of
the other parents have mentioned, they've never heard of a
party like this before.
Speaker 7 (10:27):
Right, well, this is not a party, this is a celebration.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
Oh got it.
Speaker 7 (10:32):
But I mean, and we decided to do a little
bit of a more gift forward celebration this year, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
I mean, what does that even mean?
Speaker 7 (10:41):
It's really simple, more gifts, less people. It's kind of
more fun that way. I'm sorry, Ginger, Is it because
you can't afford a gift?
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Because if that's the case.
Speaker 7 (10:54):
It's honestly, it's okay. Just have on make something or
like an IOU for a gift card.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
Yes, they produce me. That's no, that's rude. We have
plenty of money. I just think that if there's a
bad message to the kids that it's all about gifts
and not about the experience of celebrating with your friends.
Speaker 7 (11:13):
I mean, honestly, at this age, kids.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Don't even remember the party. They just remember the gifts.
Speaker 7 (11:18):
So let's just skip the middle man, right.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
I mean, I just feel like it's really weird to
ask for a gift and there's no event, no piece,
good party. No nothing, You just want me to send
a gift to your house.
Speaker 7 (11:30):
Okay, I kind of see what you're saying. So your
child doesn't believe in gift giving unless there's something in
it for him. I mean, that's kind of sad.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
No, it's not about my kid at all. It's the
perception about this is not right. You're just asking people
for gifts. Okay.
Speaker 7 (11:46):
I don't really have a lot of time right now,
but I'm a little surprised that the reaction you're giving
me because none of the other parents have said anything
like this. Most of them are very supportive.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Oh it's not that they support you. They're scared of you.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
They don't their kids to.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Be blackballed from other parties, so they talked to me.
Speaker 7 (12:04):
Okay, I don't really like how this is going, so listen.
If you don't feel like I needs to drop.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
Off a gift, just then Mooles send.
Speaker 7 (12:12):
Us cashin.
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Hello, what's going on?
Speaker 7 (12:24):
Yes, am I on speaker phone or something.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Well, you're on a lot of speakers all over the
country right now, because this is a radio show called
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 7 (12:34):
Yeah, you are so classless ginger to put me, Luke,
you couldn't.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Call me directly, so you called a radio station.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Hey, he's ittiful.
Speaker 5 (12:46):
Oh the only classless person is the mother who's begging
for gifts and not even throwing a party.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
That's honey.
Speaker 7 (12:52):
I don't know your name, but no one's begging for gifts.
If she didn't want to send one, she didn't have to.
She just called me. I'm telling her her options have
to she doesn't want.
Speaker 5 (13:05):
I thought she was going to come with some explanation
as to why the birthday party was just gifts, like
maybe this kid was sick.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Or maybe like maybe there was something right, maybe.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
There was a guy. It's a celebration, not a party.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Yeah, not a party was the difference.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
She made it very clear. It's a gift forward celebration.
The focus is on the gifts.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
Why do you want that to be your kid's focus.
Shouldn't your kids focus be relationships? Like that's what's going
to sustain them in life, not stuck.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
I'm Tammy.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
The reason that Ginger has reached out to us is
because she's not alone. Apparently a bunch of the other
parents and kids at your school are a little bit
alarmed by this idea.
Speaker 7 (13:46):
Yeah, yes, and guys, I could care less.
Speaker 5 (13:48):
Okay, well, okay, okay, I get your on the defense.
We came in hot, but like, honestly, like you got
to think of your kid right now.
Speaker 7 (13:57):
This is none of your business. I'm not sure what
I'm even doing on this call because she could have
had a private conversation.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
But now all the mothers will know.
Speaker 4 (14:05):
They are you send out a mass invite for gifts?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Can I ask a weird question?
Speaker 6 (14:10):
Is your kid get along with the other children? Is
that the problem?
Speaker 7 (14:13):
Again, it's none of your business because I have no
idea who you are.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Okay, well, we would like as a show, we would
like to send your child the gifts.
Speaker 5 (14:21):
To We'll send over some stuff, oh ginger Brook Delivery, right.
Speaker 7 (14:31):
Broke, I'm not talking anyone goodbye.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Around I'm playing around.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
My god, she's the worst. Why do you even care
about upsetting that family? Like you don't want to be
you don't want to have that family in your life.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
I just cannot believe she said I like you said.
I thought she was going to give us an excuse.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
I thought it was going to be like egg on
our face. What jerks are for? Like even jumping to
the concressions, donating everything to this something.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh darn so, do you feel like you're still going
to send a gift for the birthday?
Speaker 6 (15:08):
You don't want to be rude, You're not really asking that.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Well I got that before. I'm not sending her.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Really brought out the fire in her. Yeah, okay, Well
keep us updated on what happens with this party. If
that kid actually does.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
A party, is a celebration, a huge forward celebration of
this child's birthday.
Speaker 6 (15:28):
Tell us that we show up, We'll discipline there.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
Freaking Jeffrey in the morning,
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Jeffrey "Young Jeffrey" Dubow
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