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June 27, 2025 17 mins

One of our listeners tried out a dating LIFE HACK and it worked for her first try! Could it work for you too? Find out what it is in your Second Date Update!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Second date up dated.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Meeting a good single guy is like finding an open
parking space at Costco on a second.

Speaker 1 (00:12):
They exist.

Speaker 3 (00:13):
I don't know. I don't believe that you got to
be aggressive.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
Yes, got to be aggressive and get kind of lucky
with it, or you could be like Brook and parking
the rear blocking the fire lane next to the road
of dumpsters and just call.

Speaker 4 (00:24):
It a day.

Speaker 3 (00:25):
I didn't block the handicapped parking spot.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
So that's how thoughtful point is.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Finding good men not easy, and that's why our listener
Laura says she had to find a strategy to help
her find a decent dude, and apparently she came up
with one.

Speaker 1 (00:42):
So Laura, welcome to the show.

Speaker 4 (00:44):
Hi.

Speaker 5 (00:45):
Is it bad that I'm hoping that your strategy also
helps me in the Costco parking lot?

Speaker 4 (00:50):
Not at all.

Speaker 2 (00:52):
Tell us about this guy that you met and the
strategy that you used to find him.

Speaker 6 (00:56):
So first, let me start by saying, and I'm sure
everyone can relate to this, that I have met so
many people that were duds on both both on the
app and in person.

Speaker 4 (01:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Problem is is we think we're catches and all of
us are awful.

Speaker 5 (01:10):
Yeah, exactly true.

Speaker 6 (01:14):
Yeah, okay, okay, So a while back I was listening
to this podcast and this girl was giving some really
fabulous dating advice.

Speaker 5 (01:23):
Oh my god was it a Lexus on our Brook
and Jeffery.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Why what did she say?

Speaker 6 (01:31):
Well, she said that women are in general having a
hard time finding a guy that's well put together. Like
you can meet a guy and he'll be great at first,
and then everything just goes south really really quickly.

Speaker 1 (01:43):
Which is different than women who are perfect.

Speaker 6 (01:45):
Right, No, no, no, no, it's a two way street.
I'll admit it's a two way street.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
Okay, okay, So what was the solution?

Speaker 6 (01:54):
Okay, so you're gonna love this girl to go to
the gym at nine am on a Saturday? Uh okay,
and the reason being because most guys who are let's
just be polite and say not put together would never
be at the gym at nine am on a Saturday
because they were probably out partying the night before.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
Yeah, not just on a Saturday early. Like ever, I'm
not going to the gym. Yeah, I'm done.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
But that's actually a decent strategy.

Speaker 3 (02:20):
But you don't agree, No, I mean I get it, Yeah, sure,
I get it. But I think even earlier than that. Yeah,
it's so busy at nine you have a.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
Body who literally works out to get rid of his
hangover's sweat.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Okay, I.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
Get the idea, though, you want to go at a
time when like all the party guys are supposedly it's
too early for them, or there are people.

Speaker 3 (02:43):
Who party, they can manage it. You know, they still
work out day.

Speaker 1 (02:47):
That's perseverance right there. What's the talent?

Speaker 4 (02:50):
Like?

Speaker 1 (02:50):
At the gym at nine am on a Saturday.

Speaker 6 (02:52):
Shockingly, a lot of really cute, well put together magh.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
Okay, Jack putt okay. So did you have your pick
or what I had my pick?

Speaker 6 (03:03):
I got like all decked out and I put on
my favorite Lululemons and I got like all up in there.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (03:09):
So who did you meet?

Speaker 6 (03:11):
I met a guy named Franklin.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Franklin.

Speaker 6 (03:17):
Yeah, and I'm not gonna I'm not gonna lie. I
legit set myself as bait.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
How Yeah, what did you do?

Speaker 6 (03:24):
Well? Like I said, I got all decked out, and
you know, I kind of like alluded to the fact
that I didn't know what I was doing, and so yeah,
I'm ashamed to say it, but I did. And he
came over and kind of helped me figure out how
to use the machine that I was working on. Yeah,
it worked out. We had a nice little conversation and

(03:44):
eventually he asked me out, Oh it works.

Speaker 2 (03:48):
Yeah, I'm still picturing you guys at the machine, Like
did he come up behind you and like help you
push the levers?

Speaker 6 (03:55):
This is not porn, hob take it easy over there.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
That picture more like hoos, like with the pot of
the go ahead.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (04:03):
No.

Speaker 6 (04:03):
I just kind of was like, I can't lift these
giant plates.

Speaker 4 (04:05):
Can you help mecha?

Speaker 3 (04:07):
I need a big strong man to help me rescue me.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
So was the gym your date or did you guys
like go out for real?

Speaker 6 (04:14):
No, we went out. He took me to dinner at Nobu.

Speaker 1 (04:17):
Whoa, I know, I know, and.

Speaker 6 (04:20):
I had never been there, so I was really excited.
He suggested it and I was like, wow, you know
that's a little expensive. But did you say that like yeah,
I was like, whoa Nobo? Okay, first date, that's like
setting your bar really high.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Yeah, totally.

Speaker 1 (04:33):
So how was it?

Speaker 6 (04:35):
It was amazing.

Speaker 4 (04:36):
We had a really good time.

Speaker 6 (04:38):
We really connected. We tried some new sushi together, which
is always an interesting conversation piece at least.

Speaker 2 (04:46):
Before Yeah, did you play the damsel in distress again
and be like, Oh, I don't know how to use
these chopsticks.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
I wish a big strong man could come over here
and show me that.

Speaker 6 (04:56):
I actually had a friend that was Japanese who told
me that they don't use chopsticks, that they use their fingers.
So when I eat sushi, I eat my hands.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
That's a look.

Speaker 5 (05:04):
I don't know if that's true or not. And I
think it's really funny if your friend was trolling new.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
An idiot just double fisted and sushi on the table,
all right, you had some hands sushi. That's nice hand sushi.

Speaker 4 (05:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (05:17):
And then I mean they call them hand rolls.

Speaker 4 (05:18):
Right, yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
What about the connection with Franklin, No.

Speaker 6 (05:23):
We really did connect and we were talking like future,
which was was kind of like I was kind of like, yeah,
like we were talking about like traveling together and like
going skydiving, and you're on the.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
Phone with us. There has to be something bad that
happened in the night.

Speaker 2 (05:39):
Already sounds though someone that's this put together, that's it's
getting weird now.

Speaker 1 (05:44):
It's like nobody's this charming and put I know.

Speaker 4 (05:49):
I know.

Speaker 1 (05:52):
Wow, all right, So how did you end it?

Speaker 6 (05:56):
We ended the night with a hug, and I assumed
that we'd go out again, of course, because we had
such a great time. And I haven't heard from him
in like two weeks. He just disappeared.

Speaker 3 (06:06):
Have you reached out to him or have you gone.

Speaker 6 (06:08):
To the gym? Okay? So I reached out to him
just one time. I didn't want to see meaty and no,
I never went back to the gym on the Saturday morning.
So I'm actually thinking it could be that because maybe
he thinks that I just went to the gym, like
I set my own trap, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
I don't think that guys put that much thought into
where they made me. They care, I don't know if
they care.

Speaker 2 (06:27):
No, I'm not even gonna put very much thought into
leaving this break.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
So let's come back and call this guy and do
your second date update right after this happening. Next second
date update.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
Who knew nine am on Saturday was prime time for
available hobbies at the gym?

Speaker 3 (06:48):
Everybody knows now it's going to be slimmed.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Our listener Laura knew because she heard about it on
a podcast, so she went to check it out, and
that's where she met hunky and responsible friends. He showed
her how to lift a five pound dumbbell. She showed
him how to eat sushi with your hands at nobuo.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
This is the traditional way.

Speaker 2 (07:10):
Jem apparently seemed like a match made in heaven. But
Franklin has now gone two weeks without setting up another date.

Speaker 1 (07:18):
So either that.

Speaker 2 (07:19):
Finger sushi hit real wrong or something else is going on,
so do not call.

Speaker 5 (07:25):
It finger sushi sushi hit good.

Speaker 4 (07:30):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
I just see the tip of a thumb or something.
It's hitting on a.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
Brook.

Speaker 1 (07:35):
What do you think is going on?

Speaker 3 (07:36):
I know.

Speaker 5 (07:37):
I mean dating's just so hard, and people have so
many options, and life is so busy.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
It's just it could not be you at.

Speaker 1 (07:44):
All, could be literally anything.

Speaker 3 (07:46):
Yes, I mean everything you describe sounded perfect. Okay, beside
the hand sushi.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Did you explain why you were eating with your hands?

Speaker 1 (07:54):
You know, just do it?

Speaker 6 (07:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (07:56):
Of course, all right.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
Alexis thinks that the issue is the hand sushi thing
is kind of gross. If someone.

Speaker 3 (08:02):
Doesn't know how to eat sushi.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
You weren't feeding each other sushi with your hands, right,
it was your own hands.

Speaker 3 (08:11):
I think that sounds fun.

Speaker 1 (08:14):
That's how you.

Speaker 2 (08:15):
Get banned from Nobo forever. But let's call Franklin here.
Let's call Franklin and see if he has some answers
for us. Hopefully he picks up and I'm.

Speaker 4 (08:25):
Downing it right now, thank you? All right? Hold on, hello?

Speaker 1 (08:38):
Hey, is this Franklin?

Speaker 4 (08:40):
Uh? Yeah, who's speaking?

Speaker 3 (08:42):
Man? I knew he didn't answer and be put together
right now?

Speaker 1 (08:45):
It does sound put together.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
My name is jeff and you're actually on a radio
show right now called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

Speaker 1 (08:54):
Morning.

Speaker 4 (08:56):
Why am I on a radio show right now? What's
going on? Well?

Speaker 2 (08:59):
One of our listeners asked us to reach out to
you because she had a great time getting sushi the
other day.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
Her name is Laura.

Speaker 4 (09:08):
Oh god, Laura.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
She is such a fun show.

Speaker 1 (09:14):
So you liked her? It sounds I like it.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
I like let's let's sake that.

Speaker 4 (09:20):
God.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, Laura?

Speaker 3 (09:23):
Is that how you meant it? Franklin?

Speaker 2 (09:25):
No, no, no, I normally don't misread people.

Speaker 5 (09:29):
Okay, that is so crazy, Like what a disconnect between
how she described you and your reaction?

Speaker 1 (09:38):
She loved the date?

Speaker 4 (09:39):
All right? Yeah, So is that is that all you
need to ask? Me about Well, no.

Speaker 1 (09:42):
We uh so there's more to this.

Speaker 2 (09:46):
We're doing a segment called the second Date Update because
Laura really wants to hang out again with you, and
she's a little bit confused about why that hasn't happened
in the two weeks since you went to Nobu together.

Speaker 3 (09:59):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (10:00):
Uh yeah, I don't I don't know, man, I'm I'm
not sure if I'm really capable of dating her.

Speaker 3 (10:06):
Why.

Speaker 1 (10:06):
Okay, what does that mean? What do you mean?

Speaker 4 (10:10):
Yeah, I don't know. I don't know if I can
keep up with her lifestyle because she seems, uh high maintenance,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 5 (10:19):
I thought you were kind of a high maintenance one
taking trying to get on your roster.

Speaker 4 (10:24):
Even so, hold on, slow, slow down, guys. We're that
was her idea, not mine.

Speaker 5 (10:30):
What she told us, it was your idea, and she
was like, no, let's not do that.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
It's too expensive.

Speaker 4 (10:39):
No, no, no. We were kind of tossing ideas back
and forth about where to go, and I think she
was the one that actually suggested no, but not me, but.

Speaker 3 (10:48):
Right, but you agreed to it, I mean a different place.

Speaker 4 (10:52):
Yeah. I didn't want to seem too difficult, so I
just kind of went with it, and I honestly didn't
realize what I was getting it to.

Speaker 1 (10:59):
No, Oh god.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
You didn't know. You didn't know, You didn't know.

Speaker 5 (11:02):
Nobody's like this high end, super expensive restaurant.

Speaker 4 (11:06):
No, no, no, I'm a Chick fil a kind of guy.

Speaker 1 (11:08):
Like I, well, I mean, what one tier below? It's
pretty close.

Speaker 3 (11:16):
The only time I've been is with my agent.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
Okay, yeah, so did you pay the bit? Like how much?
Can we ask? How much?

Speaker 4 (11:28):
Was? Yeah? Yeah, instead of a nice little Chick fil
a forty dollars day being like four hundred dollars.

Speaker 7 (11:32):
Oh no, I feel bad for you, dude, I knew, Okay,
but honestly, like she thought that you were up for it,
like she thought she played it as your choice.

Speaker 1 (11:47):
She was because you were in it together.

Speaker 4 (11:49):
Yeah, not quite. It was definitely her suggestion, and that
gives me that whole idea that she's expecting this pretty frequently.
And then she started talking about spence of things like
skydiving and hang gliding and had my head spinning. There's
no way I can afford this girl.

Speaker 7 (12:08):
Okay, people talk about fun things that are expensively.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
Yeah, I feel like this has been a little bit
of a miscommunication, a misunderstanding because we didn't get that
impression from her. And you can actually ask her yourself, Franklin,
because Laura has been waiting on the other line wanting
to talk to you.

Speaker 4 (12:25):
Oh gosh, you got to set up. Thank you.

Speaker 3 (12:28):
It's international phone calls charging.

Speaker 5 (12:30):
The good news is usually really wealthy people don't call
our show.

Speaker 3 (12:34):
Yeah, you know, standards.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
Anyway, Laura talked to Franklin.

Speaker 4 (12:39):
Hey, Franklin, Laura, what are you? What are you doing
put me on this radio show? Like, what's going on?
You putting on blast?

Speaker 6 (12:47):
What are you doing being a typical jerk and disappearing
and not texting me back and letting me know what's
going on?

Speaker 3 (12:53):
What the heck?

Speaker 1 (12:54):
Where did that come from?

Speaker 3 (12:56):
She's mad?

Speaker 6 (12:57):
Well two weeks, dude, two weeks. I thought we had
really good time. And by the way, guys, nobu was
not my suggestion.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
It was his, It was yours. He didn't even know
what it was. How could he suggest it?

Speaker 6 (13:11):
Like, yeah, maybe maybe I brought it up, but he
agreed to it.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
It was well, Franklin, you did mess up there, So
y'all admit that.

Speaker 4 (13:21):
Or I didn't want to be difficult or anything, all right.
I just kind of went with the idea and I
thought sure, And I'd never been to Nobu, so I
had I had no idea what was going on.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
He didn't know he was signing up. I mean, do
you feel like some empathy towards him?

Speaker 4 (13:34):
Now?

Speaker 6 (13:36):
He probably he probably googled a coupon for Nobu before
we went out, now that I'm.

Speaker 4 (13:41):
Hearing all this, Listen, I looked for a coupon, But
doesn't mean you didn't.

Speaker 3 (13:48):
That's okay.

Speaker 6 (13:49):
Yeah, well, there's nothing wrong with going to nob on
a first date.

Speaker 2 (13:52):
Sorry, no, but you hear what he's saying, right, Like
he thinks that you are like probably wanting too much
money out of him, and like.

Speaker 6 (14:02):
I'm not looking to take his money. I make money too.

Speaker 4 (14:04):
It's not about that.

Speaker 6 (14:05):
There's nothing wrong with living extravagantly.

Speaker 3 (14:08):
Totally. I think Jeffrey explained it wrong. He just thinks
that maybe.

Speaker 5 (14:11):
Your lifestyle and his lifestyle don't meet up in the
budget world.

Speaker 6 (14:15):
Yeah, you know, I mean I didn't. I didn't realize
he was just cheap. I mean, what.

Speaker 4 (14:23):
Did you say? I said, I realized he was this cheap.

Speaker 6 (14:26):
He probably brings his own popcorn to the dollar theater.

Speaker 3 (14:29):
Oh, dollar theater.

Speaker 1 (14:32):
Okay, all right.

Speaker 4 (14:34):
Well, now we're getting I didn't know you were this
rude the theory turn off every time you start talking.

Speaker 3 (14:39):
Oh, I don't get it.

Speaker 4 (14:44):
It's not about rude.

Speaker 6 (14:45):
If we were just talking about the future and I
thought you were on board, it seems like you were
agreeing with everything with me, so obviously you're not being
your authentic stelf on dates. Wow, okay, you probably asked
Charity if they have a happy hour special or something.

Speaker 3 (14:58):
Did you write these downs?

Speaker 4 (15:03):
God? No, wonder you were single.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
Franklin, he's gone.

Speaker 4 (15:10):
He's gone.

Speaker 6 (15:11):
He growed you too.

Speaker 2 (15:13):
All right, all right, well Franklin decided he didn't want
to be a part of this anymore.

Speaker 3 (15:18):
Poor guy.

Speaker 1 (15:22):
Literally.

Speaker 5 (15:22):
Oh man, Just for the record, it's not bad to
bring your own popcorn into a movie theater.

Speaker 6 (15:27):
I've definitely been there.

Speaker 1 (15:29):
I think we all agree with that.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
But the fact that it's a dollar theater, I mean,
how expensive could the popcorn be.

Speaker 6 (15:36):
Honestly, it's not that it's expensive. It's usually just stale.
But that's beside the point.

Speaker 5 (15:40):
Okay, all right, popcorn, I guess no more gym at
nine am.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
Huh yeah, no, all right, Well, don't get a chance
to ask for another day.

Speaker 1 (15:52):
But yeah, you scared him off pretty quickly.

Speaker 6 (15:54):
You should find a more exclusive Jim Richard. Maybe I
can grin a date with one of you.

Speaker 3 (16:00):
I'm always I thought you wanted somebody who was rich.

Speaker 2 (16:03):
Yeah, oh yeah, Jeffrey. In the morning, there's a lot
of texts coming in at seventy five nine two from
our listeners asking what is Nobu? Oh yeah, misspelled multiple ways.

Speaker 3 (16:16):
That does that hurt your little privileged heart?

Speaker 2 (16:18):
Yeah, those are listeners, but that's why we love them.
By the way, if you don't know, google Nobu n
O b U sushi restaurant, very very high end.

Speaker 5 (16:27):
It's actually a chain though, which is I am funny
to me, but it is like so expensive.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
Sushi for people that want to pay triple.

Speaker 3 (16:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:35):
I've never been there, but I know.

Speaker 2 (16:36):
Brooks sends pictures of herself dining there to her sponsored
children in third world's countries, saying, Hi and Dari.

Speaker 1 (16:43):
I met Nobu again third time this week. Sorry to
hear your dad lost his fishing job and has to
go back to the cannery. I'll text you next week,
all right, Brooke.

Speaker 3 (16:53):
Starting to believe that this stuff is actually real.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
Josh, Yeah, Hey, maybe you sho have some class a
little bit, Brooke. You even the most evil woman in
the world.

Speaker 2 (17:01):
So an unsuccessful second date, we are going to try
again tomorrow, though with a new couple. Make sure you
email the show if you want some help with your
love life. We'll call that person who's not calling you
back and go check out all of our second dates
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