Hola, Hola! It’s Wednesday, and that means we’re back with another episode of Dear Chiquis. Thanks to Ruby, Angela, Brenda and Jenaya for submitting their questions this week. Today, we hear about an aspiring singer who feels like her dream is out of reach, we hear from a mom who had decided to cut ties with her sisters but now worries about how it’ll affect her kids, I give an entrepreneur some tips and remind our last listener about the power of now.
A reminder to all my listeners: These are my thoughts and opinions and I encourage you to seek help from a qualified professional if you’re suffering an issue or hardship that requires immediate attention.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Dear Cheekies, I have one question. My question is how
do you start in the music industry? Because I have
idolized you in your mom for my entire life, and yeah,
I just want to know where to start because I
also love to sing, and I sing in Spanish. I
sing aboumda mariachi. But I've been feeling very trap lately
(01:09):
because I feel like where I live has no opportunity
for me, and I just want to know or want
to see where this goes, because I don't know. I've
had a conversation back and forth with my family, and
I have this feeling with God as well. That's like
maybe if I don't use a talent that He gave me,
maybe I'm wasting it. And that's why I'm asking this question.
(01:29):
So where do you begin in the music industry?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Dear Ruby, thank you for your question. First of all, look,
I feel that now more than ever, with the power
of social media in the Internet, even if you don't
live in a place where you feel you have like
a lot of opportunity, the opportunity is really you putting
yourself out there. You know. I think starting there and
(01:54):
just trying it, even if you're doing covers, even if
you're not writing your own music yet. If you can
learn an instrum, I would highly recommend that the guitar,
the piano. That's something I wish I would have done.
But you can start with just doing covers. I mean,
a really good friend of mine who's super talented. Her
name is Skattoniana Ross. I'm sure you guys have heard
of her. That's how she started her career, just doing
(02:14):
a bunch of covers putting it on YouTube. Now you
have TikTok, you can do little things like that, like
use the hashtags, music or whatever. I mean, there's so
many ways, and I think starting there, just putting yourself
out there, having someone play the guitar, or putting on
a bestat doing karaoke, just anywhere to put your name
and your talent out there. That's like the first step,
(02:36):
and that's what I would recommend starting now. Eventually you'll
grow and people will get to know you. Yes see.
But I do feel like just doing it. I always say,
just do it, just try it, and don't live with
you what if I would have done it, like out
of fear or because you feel that you don't live
in the best place possible to put yourself out there.
But I feel like with the power of YouTube and
(02:57):
TikTok and Instagram and all these social media platforms in
the Internet, you can definitely get out there and have
people hear you. You know. So that is my recommendation
and my advice to you. So just try it, Mama,
do it. I can't wait to hear you. Okay, maybe
next time on Dear Cheeky's so show me a little
piece of your song or something. Okay, guys, So our
(03:22):
next question comes from Ancilla or Angela.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Hi, calling from a little town in Colorado.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I love you. I am obsessed with you, your family,
You guys are beautiful. I just love.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Everything about you guys, your books, everything, like I'm just
super fan. Anyway, I recently just cut out two of
my sisters from my life. I'm just tired of them,
just sick of everything, and I've just finally said it's time.
I do, however, have two boys, and they love my
boys so much, and I have decided to cut their
(03:58):
ties with them too. They don't get to see my
boys anymore, and I just I'm wondering if I should
feel guilty for not letting them see them, or if
what I'm doing is right.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Ooh, Angela, Okay, you know I am the first one
to tell you, even if it's family, even if it's
I mean, I've had someone ask me about their mom. Like,
if someone is not giving you peace and it's bringing
you more pain than happiness, you have all the right
and the choice to say I don't want you in
my life. I don't know what happened. I don't know
(04:30):
what the situation is or how heavy it is. I
don't know how old your boys are. But I can't
say you're wrong because again, I don't know what happened,
but if they love your boys as much as I
hear they do, because I could hear it in your voice,
that's why you're asking because I feel like you don't
have peace in your heart. So if you had peace
in your heart completely, you probably wouldn't be asking me.
(04:52):
So that, for me, is an indication that you're feeling
a little unsettled in your soul about this. Maybe you
don't don't have to have a relationship with your sisters
right now, but if those boys love your sisters and
your sisters love your boys, then maybe you should be
a little open to having them in your kid's life.
(05:13):
That's what I personally think. Now, I would set a
boundary and say, please don't speak negatively about me to
my boys. I will let you see them, you can
pick them up or what have you. But I just
feel like it's not the children's fault, you know what
I mean. And that's where it's like it's very thin line.
I mean, you know, I'm very close to my siblings,
(05:34):
so it's like I can't even imagine not speaking to
my siblings. But again, I don't know the situation. I
don't know what happened, and you seem pretty firm about
that that you just cut them out, So I respect that,
but I am hoping that you guys can possibly talk
about it. I feel like talking and just coming to
an agreement. Like talking about it people understand each other.
So that's my only thing. But other than that, I
(05:56):
just I don't know if your boys want to see them,
and if your boys miss your sisters, that I just
wouldn't take that from them. You know, that's just my
personal opinion. So yeah, Angela, thank you, and I'm praying
me you make the best decision. Looking forward to hearing
from you again. Okay, okay, So now our next question
(06:17):
comes from Brenda.
Speaker 5 (06:20):
Hi Cheeky's how Are You Love? My question for you
is how do you start or continue a successful business?
Obviously with this economy right now, it's so bad, and
you know, we all want money of course to provide
and not and such, but it's just something that would
be very interesting to see and learn how in fact
(06:43):
you start from the bottom, you know, and then you
start working your way up with patients and motivation, especially
now that like me and myself, I've tried applying so
many places and because I had my children and I
waited until a long time to raise them, and so
people wouldn't hurt my children because you never know who
you can leave them with. I can't even find a
(07:04):
job right now, and so I wanted to go a
different route and I do have a small business, but
it stuck. So it's frustrating and such, but it's just
something that would be very helpful if you would help
us with giving us some ideas and feedback.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Thank you so much, having a wonderful day.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I love you.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I love you too, Brenda.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Thank you well.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I think it's well, first of all, a very beautiful
and self listing that you did for your children by
staying home and raising them. I think that that in
itself is a huge job and that's amazing. And now
that you're trying to, you know, focus a little bit
more on Brenda, I get it. It can be frustrating, absolutely,
I've been there, you know. I had a salon for
four years and I made absolutely no money. I was
(07:47):
actually losing money. And that was my very first business
by myself. So it really did hurt until I just
knew I can't if this is not giving me what
I need, then I have to cut the bleeding and
just stop here. And as much as it hurt my
ego even as well, of course I did it and
I felt better. I'm not saying for you to do
that with your business. I don't know how long your
(08:08):
business has been in business. It usually takes about two
years to get a business going, and it goes from
literally crawling to walking to running. It takes time. So
you have to be patient. And if you feel after
a while it's not working out, it's okay for you
to say, okay, let me try something else, but it
is going to be frustrating. You have to be patient.
(08:31):
I wish I had a little bit more information to
give you better advice. But don't give up. I mean,
I know that sounds so cliche, but try putting it
out there, like you know, you can boost Instagram posts,
you know, like you can boost them and puts a
little bit of money behind them on Facebook as well,
and just keep going, you know, little by little. The
person that quits is the one that, like, you know
what I mean, Like I'm not saying like sometimes you
(08:52):
have to, Like I quit on my you know, on
my salon. I was like, I can't do this, anymore.
But it opened the door to something else. So don't
be closed to that feel like, oh if I close
this down, I'm anna be a failure. No, you can
start again. You can start something else. Look around your
neighborhood or where you live, or like, what are people
like really into? What are they wanting? Do your research
(09:12):
all that stuff so that maybe you can start another
little business. You know, still keeping this one and just
start another little hust So it could be even cooking, girl, cooking,
like freaking food and meal prepping. I don't know, because
you can still take care of the kids and do
that at home. Just little things. I don't know, think
outside of the box. But be patient. Okay, it takes
a little bit of time, all right. So the next
(09:33):
question comes from Jenea.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Dear cheekies, you might not end up getting my question,
but it's worth the shot. What kind of advice would
you give to somebody that test depression and doesn't find
a motivation in anything, and it's just been so dark lately.
I love you so good to see you doing amazing
(09:57):
and always been a fan. Oh yes, will be a fan,
And thank you for being you, thank you for staying humble,
Thank you for not forgetting where you came from. You know,
love you. Bye.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Oh you're gonna make me cry, Thank you so much.
Oh see, like you're making my day, you know what
I mean? Like that should give you hope, Like you're
making someone else smile. So you are important. So know
that you are valuable. You are here for a reason.
And you have to know that. You have to believe that.
I've had those dark moments where I just want to
(10:34):
give up. I get it. I have been there. It's
been tough. But you also have to remind yourself this
is just a moment. It's just a bad day. It's
not a bad life, you know, and this too shall pass.
Like you have to repeat that, and I know it
sounds a lot easier said than done, but you have
to look in the mirror, be like, this is just
a moment. This isn't who I am. There are times
when I'm feeling sad and just like a lot of
(10:56):
worries and stresses, and I literally rub my hands all
over my body and I throw out like outside the window.
I'm like, I release any feelings, emotions that do not
belong to me, any stresses or worries. I release them
to heaven. I am protected. And sometimes even focusing on
like what you do have that helps a lot. Like
(11:16):
I have a roof over my head, I have clothes
on my back, I have food in my refrigerator. All
that stuff helps you live in the moment. There is
so much power in the Now, which is a book
that I recommend that helps so much. Just living like
this moment right now is so valuable and we're never
going to have it again, and just really cherishing that.
It really allows us to step out of whatever it
(11:38):
is that we think, you know, because sometimes it could
be something that's hurting us. Absolutely. When I was going
through my divorce and it was a very dark moment
in my life for like three months, I was trying
to pull myself out of that black hole. So I
get it. So I don't know necessarily what is making
you feel sad, but most of the time it has
to do with things that already happened the past. And
what you have to do is just focus on the
(11:59):
future and focus in the moment and say okay, I'm
okay right now. Focus every day and then tomorrow will
be another day, and take it day by day and
just know that you are here for a reason, and
you just made me smile. You really did so, so
thank you and I hope that you feel better. And
I'm praying for you and pray. That's another thing. Not
don't let go of God's hand, of your faith, whatever
(12:19):
that may be. Just have faith in something much higher
than you. It exists, it really does. And that also helps,
like knowing there's something bigger than me out there. So
I'm sending you a big ass hug, a big ass hug.
Thank you so much for for tuning in and for
you know, just making me smile. Honestly, you made me
really happy. Okay, so that's all the time we have
for today's episode. I always look forward to hearing from
(12:41):
you guys.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
I really do.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You guys make me so happy and I'm glad that
I'm able to help you guys as well. AnyWho leave
me your questions at speakpipe dot com. Slash cheek is
in Chill podcast. Okay, I'll see you guys next Wednesday.
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Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now, go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beat.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Dear Cheekies, I have one question. My question is how
do you start in the music industry? Because I have
idolized you in your mom for my entire life, and yeah,
I just want to know where to start because I
also love to sing, and I sing in Spanish. I
sing aboumda mariachi. But I've been feeling very trap lately
(01:09):
because I feel like where I live has no opportunity
for me, and I just want to know or want
to see where this goes, because I don't know. I've
had a conversation back and forth with my family, and
I have this feeling with God as well. That's like
maybe if I don't use a talent that He gave me,
maybe I'm wasting it. And that's why I'm asking this question.
(01:29):
So where do you begin in the music industry?
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Dear Ruby, thank you for your question. First of all, look,
I feel that now more than ever, with the power
of social media in the Internet, even if you don't
live in a place where you feel you have like
a lot of opportunity, the opportunity is really you putting
yourself out there. You know. I think starting there and
(01:54):
just trying it, even if you're doing covers, even if
you're not writing your own music yet. If you can
learn an instrum, I would highly recommend that the guitar,
the piano. That's something I wish I would have done.
But you can start with just doing covers. I mean,
a really good friend of mine who's super talented. Her
name is Skattoniana Ross. I'm sure you guys have heard
of her. That's how she started her career, just doing
(02:14):
a bunch of covers putting it on YouTube. Now you
have TikTok, you can do little things like that, like
use the hashtags, music or whatever. I mean, there's so
many ways, and I think starting there, just putting yourself
out there, having someone play the guitar, or putting on
a bestat doing karaoke, just anywhere to put your name
and your talent out there. That's like the first step,
(02:36):
and that's what I would recommend starting now. Eventually you'll
grow and people will get to know you. Yes see.
But I do feel like just doing it. I always say,
just do it, just try it, and don't live with
you what if I would have done it, like out
of fear or because you feel that you don't live
in the best place possible to put yourself out there.
But I feel like with the power of YouTube and
(02:57):
TikTok and Instagram and all these social media platforms in
the Internet, you can definitely get out there and have
people hear you. You know. So that is my recommendation
and my advice to you. So just try it, Mama,
do it. I can't wait to hear you. Okay, maybe
next time on Dear Cheeky's so show me a little
piece of your song or something. Okay, guys, So our
(03:22):
next question comes from Ancilla or Angela.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Hi, calling from a little town in Colorado.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I love you. I am obsessed with you, your family,
You guys are beautiful. I just love.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Everything about you guys, your books, everything, like I'm just
super fan. Anyway, I recently just cut out two of
my sisters from my life. I'm just tired of them,
just sick of everything, and I've just finally said it's time.
I do, however, have two boys, and they love my
boys so much, and I have decided to cut their
(03:58):
ties with them too. They don't get to see my
boys anymore, and I just I'm wondering if I should
feel guilty for not letting them see them, or if
what I'm doing is right.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Ooh, Angela, Okay, you know I am the first one
to tell you, even if it's family, even if it's
I mean, I've had someone ask me about their mom. Like,
if someone is not giving you peace and it's bringing
you more pain than happiness, you have all the right
and the choice to say I don't want you in
my life. I don't know what happened. I don't know
(04:30):
what the situation is or how heavy it is. I
don't know how old your boys are. But I can't
say you're wrong because again, I don't know what happened,
but if they love your boys as much as I
hear they do, because I could hear it in your voice,
that's why you're asking because I feel like you don't
have peace in your heart. So if you had peace
in your heart completely, you probably wouldn't be asking me.
(04:52):
So that, for me, is an indication that you're feeling
a little unsettled in your soul about this. Maybe you
don't don't have to have a relationship with your sisters
right now, but if those boys love your sisters and
your sisters love your boys, then maybe you should be
a little open to having them in your kid's life.
(05:13):
That's what I personally think. Now, I would set a
boundary and say, please don't speak negatively about me to
my boys. I will let you see them, you can
pick them up or what have you. But I just
feel like it's not the children's fault, you know what
I mean. And that's where it's like it's very thin line.
I mean, you know, I'm very close to my siblings,
(05:34):
so it's like I can't even imagine not speaking to
my siblings. But again, I don't know the situation. I
don't know what happened, and you seem pretty firm about
that that you just cut them out, So I respect that,
but I am hoping that you guys can possibly talk
about it. I feel like talking and just coming to
an agreement. Like talking about it people understand each other.
So that's my only thing. But other than that, I
(05:56):
just I don't know if your boys want to see them,
and if your boys miss your sisters, that I just
wouldn't take that from them. You know, that's just my
personal opinion. So yeah, Angela, thank you, and I'm praying
me you make the best decision. Looking forward to hearing
from you again. Okay, okay, So now our next question
(06:17):
comes from Brenda.
Speaker 5 (06:20):
Hi Cheeky's how Are You Love? My question for you
is how do you start or continue a successful business?
Obviously with this economy right now, it's so bad, and
you know, we all want money of course to provide
and not and such, but it's just something that would
be very interesting to see and learn how in fact
(06:43):
you start from the bottom, you know, and then you
start working your way up with patients and motivation, especially
now that like me and myself, I've tried applying so
many places and because I had my children and I
waited until a long time to raise them, and so
people wouldn't hurt my children because you never know who
you can leave them with. I can't even find a
(07:04):
job right now, and so I wanted to go a
different route and I do have a small business, but
it stuck. So it's frustrating and such, but it's just
something that would be very helpful if you would help
us with giving us some ideas and feedback.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Thank you so much, having a wonderful day.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I love you.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I love you too, Brenda.
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Thank you well.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I think it's well, first of all, a very beautiful
and self listing that you did for your children by
staying home and raising them. I think that that in
itself is a huge job and that's amazing. And now
that you're trying to, you know, focus a little bit
more on Brenda, I get it. It can be frustrating, absolutely,
I've been there, you know. I had a salon for
four years and I made absolutely no money. I was
(07:47):
actually losing money. And that was my very first business
by myself. So it really did hurt until I just
knew I can't if this is not giving me what
I need, then I have to cut the bleeding and
just stop here. And as much as it hurt my
ego even as well, of course I did it and
I felt better. I'm not saying for you to do
that with your business. I don't know how long your
(08:08):
business has been in business. It usually takes about two
years to get a business going, and it goes from
literally crawling to walking to running. It takes time. So
you have to be patient. And if you feel after
a while it's not working out, it's okay for you
to say, okay, let me try something else, but it
is going to be frustrating. You have to be patient.
(08:31):
I wish I had a little bit more information to
give you better advice. But don't give up. I mean,
I know that sounds so cliche, but try putting it
out there, like you know, you can boost Instagram posts,
you know, like you can boost them and puts a
little bit of money behind them on Facebook as well,
and just keep going, you know, little by little. The
person that quits is the one that, like, you know
what I mean, Like I'm not saying like sometimes you
(08:52):
have to, Like I quit on my you know, on
my salon. I was like, I can't do this, anymore.
But it opened the door to something else. So don't
be closed to that feel like, oh if I close
this down, I'm anna be a failure. No, you can
start again. You can start something else. Look around your
neighborhood or where you live, or like, what are people
like really into? What are they wanting? Do your research
(09:12):
all that stuff so that maybe you can start another
little business. You know, still keeping this one and just
start another little hust So it could be even cooking, girl, cooking,
like freaking food and meal prepping. I don't know, because
you can still take care of the kids and do
that at home. Just little things. I don't know, think
outside of the box. But be patient. Okay, it takes
a little bit of time, all right. So the next
(09:33):
question comes from Jenea.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Dear cheekies, you might not end up getting my question,
but it's worth the shot. What kind of advice would
you give to somebody that test depression and doesn't find
a motivation in anything, and it's just been so dark lately.
I love you so good to see you doing amazing
(09:57):
and always been a fan. Oh yes, will be a fan,
And thank you for being you, thank you for staying humble,
Thank you for not forgetting where you came from. You know,
love you. Bye.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
Oh you're gonna make me cry, Thank you so much.
Oh see, like you're making my day, you know what
I mean? Like that should give you hope, Like you're
making someone else smile. So you are important. So know
that you are valuable. You are here for a reason.
And you have to know that. You have to believe that.
I've had those dark moments where I just want to
(10:34):
give up. I get it. I have been there. It's
been tough. But you also have to remind yourself this
is just a moment. It's just a bad day. It's
not a bad life, you know, and this too shall pass.
Like you have to repeat that, and I know it
sounds a lot easier said than done, but you have
to look in the mirror, be like, this is just
a moment. This isn't who I am. There are times
when I'm feeling sad and just like a lot of
(10:56):
worries and stresses, and I literally rub my hands all
over my body and I throw out like outside the window.
I'm like, I release any feelings, emotions that do not
belong to me, any stresses or worries. I release them
to heaven. I am protected. And sometimes even focusing on
like what you do have that helps a lot. Like
(11:16):
I have a roof over my head, I have clothes
on my back, I have food in my refrigerator. All
that stuff helps you live in the moment. There is
so much power in the Now, which is a book
that I recommend that helps so much. Just living like
this moment right now is so valuable and we're never
going to have it again, and just really cherishing that.
It really allows us to step out of whatever it
(11:38):
is that we think, you know, because sometimes it could
be something that's hurting us. Absolutely. When I was going
through my divorce and it was a very dark moment
in my life for like three months, I was trying
to pull myself out of that black hole. So I
get it. So I don't know necessarily what is making
you feel sad, but most of the time it has
to do with things that already happened the past. And
what you have to do is just focus on the
(11:59):
future and focus in the moment and say okay, I'm
okay right now. Focus every day and then tomorrow will
be another day, and take it day by day and
just know that you are here for a reason, and
you just made me smile. You really did so, so
thank you and I hope that you feel better. And
I'm praying for you and pray. That's another thing. Not
don't let go of God's hand, of your faith, whatever
(12:19):
that may be. Just have faith in something much higher
than you. It exists, it really does. And that also helps,
like knowing there's something bigger than me out there. So
I'm sending you a big ass hug, a big ass hug.
Thank you so much for for tuning in and for
you know, just making me smile. Honestly, you made me
really happy. Okay, so that's all the time we have
for today's episode. I always look forward to hearing from
(12:41):
you guys.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
I really do.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You guys make me so happy and I'm glad that
I'm able to help you guys as well. AnyWho leave
me your questions at speakpipe dot com. Slash cheek is
in Chill podcast. Okay, I'll see you guys next Wednesday.
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