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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business,
whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
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from an issue or hardship, you should seek help.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
From a qualified professional.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
All right, Now go ahead and leave your question at
the sound of the beat.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Hi, I want to first and foremost say how much
I love you and support you from the bottom of
my heart. You are a very important person that I
look up to and I wish you all the blessed
needs to come your way. Also, I can't wait to
see your perform again soon. Well, my issue is actually
with money. I get paid and the first thing I
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do is pay whatever I need to pay it. So
like as far as like my cell phone.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Bill, the inn of the bill, and the gas bill,
and whatever I have left over, I do turn to
go shop or go up with my friends, but I
do end up wasting all my money. So my question
for you is I wanted to know if he could
help me out on giving me tips or advice on
how to manage and save money correctly.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Oh, papash, I love you, Thank you so much. I
can't wait for you to see me in concert again too. Okay.
So regarding your question, this is something I struggled with
as well. So I get you. I get it. We
have extra money, we want to spend it. It gives
us like a little like high, you know, So I understand.
I'm glad to hear that you're very responsible and you
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pay your bills and all your responsibilities. First, good good job.
It's amazing because you have to take care of your credit.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Credit is very important in this world. Doesn't matter how
much money you have. If you don't have credit, you
have nothing, Okay, So take care of your credit, all right.
So with that being said, after finishing with paying your
bills and your responsibilities, I would say, before you think
of even going out and buying yourself something, you have
to do. This you have to put even if it's
twenty dollars, Papa, fifty dollars, to the side and say
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this is money I cannot touch.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Ever.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
This is for a rainy day, This is for a
trip I want to take, This is for whatever. Take
it as one of your bills. It's one of your
bills every month that you have fifty dollars to my
savings account, and don't touch it. And make yourself that
promise because that is for your future. Make yourself that
promise that I'm not going to touch that because that
is for my future self. Okay, try that. That'll help
you a lot. And sometimes what I do, even now
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to this day, I ask myself, is this a necessity
or is this a luxury. If it's a luxury, then
I can live without it. I ask myself, can is
this a live without or live with? And most of
the time I'm going to tell you it's like, okay,
I can live without this. Come on, and I talk
to myself literally out loud. I'm like, no, you don't
need this, Janet, you don't need this Chiky. Stop you're
being ridiculous, like and I have to I have to
tell myself that because you know, I'm like and then
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at the end, I'm just like, damn, I spent money
on just ridiculous things. So ask yourself those questions, like, yes,
sometimes we want things, but is it necessarily the best
thing for us? So this is gonna take time. It's
gonna take time. It's still something that I do every day.
But put that money to the side. You owe it
to yourself because you work so hard that God forbid
we go into another quarantine. I don't know. You just
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never know, because that happened and came and shocked us all.
Just never know what can happen for you to have
that cushion. Okay, so you're not like blindsided. So that
is my advice. Okay, I can't wait to hear how
much you save. All right, So our second question comes
from Nelly.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
Hi Cheeky's I'm such a huge fan. I've followed your career.
Tell me Mida, yes the gases, I'm it's AnyWho. My
question for you today is how did you separate your
mom the superhero from your mom the flawed human. I'm
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twenty four and I've grown so much this past year
and have come to the realization that my mom is
a real life human. And I think you can fully
grasp this perception only when you truly grow up, if
that makes sense. I've always had my mom on this
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pedestal and you know that she's the all knowing, invincible superhuman.
But unfortunately, no, it's that's not the case. She's a
real person with real struggles, anxieties, hopes and dreams, and
I love her to death, but I'm having a hard
time seeing eye to eye with choices that she's made,
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or choices that she she makes.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Nelly, well, first of all, you sound like a very
intelligent young lady. I love that, and thank you for
your question. I'm gonna tell you why because as I
was hearing it, I was thinking of my mom, and ah,
it made my heart. I don't know, it made me
want to cry because I was very hard on my
mom growing up, because I felt like she had to
be perfect. You're a mom and you can't go party,
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and I was just I was hard on her. She
always said it, I was her worst critic and I was.
And like you said, understanding and compassion doesn't come until
you get older and until you realize, well, she's a
human just like me, and she is living her life
and trying to figure things out. And now that I'm
living certain things that she lived then I'm like, damn,
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I say sorry out loud. I'm like, Mom, I'm so sorry.
I remember criticizing you for this, and little did I know.
Now I'm living it, and I have so much compassion.
I think the word here is compassion, babe. It's compassion
and just knowing it's okay. If she's making decisions that
you don't necessarily agree with, it's really none of our business.
Not it's her life, and she's the mother, and she
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has all the right to make mistakes, just as you will.
You're gonna make mistakes, and you're gonna do things that
she isn't necessarily going to agree with, and that's gonna
be hard for her. It's gonna be a hard pill
for her to swallow. But I think it's just understanding
that we're here on earth trying to figure shit out,
you know, in our own way. And one thing that
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I live by is living and let live live and
let live live and let live. And that also applies
to our parents, and we shouldn't be so hard on them.
So I love your question because I know that you're
trying to grow as a daughter and trying to you know,
you're looking for answers and I love that. That just
shows the maturity in you. So that's what I could
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tell you. Come passion, babe, Come passion now more than
ever I feel it as I get older. I'm like, damn,
Mom was right. So it'll just come little by little.
Thanks for your question, and thank you for all the
beautiful things you said too. The minutes from go and
I can tell okay, so are there? Question comes from
Karen Hi Teeky's.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
First off, I want to tell you how much I
love you and admire you and everything that you're doing
to represent our culture in such a positive light. I
recently had the pleasure of meeting you at the Night
of the Jack and it was such a pleasure just
to see how amazing you are in person and in
real life than you are, you know, as a celebrity
that you are. But anyways, my question to you is
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how to get out of your own way. Have recently
decided to leave my very toxic job about a month
and a half ago, but I'm really struggling with what
to do next. I'm very lucky enough to still live
at home with my parents, who are just so supportive
and more than I could ask for. But I know
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that I'm meant for something great. I just don't know
how to get out of my own way and do it.
Part of me is scared of failing, but I know
that it's inevitable. I just want to be able to
have the courage to be scared but do it. Anyways,
And you know, I know that you've gone through so
much in your life You've still been able to overcome
and do amazing things. So just help me find how
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do I find that within me?
Speaker 4 (08:19):
Help?
Speaker 2 (08:19):
And I love you so much. Yeah, oh my god,
I met you.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
That was such a fun night.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Anyways.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Okay, so Karen, hear me out. First of all, I
think it's great that you left your very toxic job,
because that's not easy. You just said you took a
leap of faith and you said this is what's best
for me, and that's great. A lot of people stay
in those situations because they're like, Okay, I got to
pay my bills, and like you said, you have the
blessing of living with your parents and they're supportive and
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they're understanding. So that ooh, that's great. Now. I don't
know exactly what it is that you want to get into,
but I understand that it's scary because stepping into the
unknown is always scary because you don't know what's going
to happen. But imagine living with never knowing because you
were too scared to take that step, Like looking back
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two years from now and saying, damn, if I would
have done it, where could I have been? I understand
that feeling scared and worried about failing. I mean, it's scary,
but that's what helps you grow. You grow as a
person when you do things that are scary, that are uncomfortable,
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that maybe you try it and it just didn't work out,
but that's how you grow wisdom and you grow strength,
and it makes you and molds you into the person
that you're meant to be. So I would say, just
try it, whatever it is that you're thinking of doing,
and grow knowledge. I'm telling you as knowledge, I always say,
this knowledge is power. So whatever it is that you're
trying to get into, just fill your mind and your
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body and your spirit with all of this knowledge of
this particular subject because we don't know what it is,
and just inform yourself, inform yourself, dive int to it completely.
So I said, as loyas Lovian, do it and go
all the way. And I mean, look, you have your parents.
Thank god, you have your parents that you can you
don't have to worry about I think, like paying the
bills or anything. So that's great. You already took the
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first step and you left that job that wasn't making
you happy. Now you're on this pursuit of happiness. Actually,
watch that movie, The Pursuit of Happiness. It'll inspire you.
You will see how much he struggled and he made
it happen. Dude, So watch that movie. Oh I'm gonna
watch this tonight too, girl, I'm gonna watch it. Let's
watch it together. Okay, all right, I'm sending you a
big hug.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
All right.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
So this is our last question. It comes from Jessica.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Hey, Chi, gis, how is your experience talking to Carol.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
G Ooh Jessica, Oh my gosh, this is such a
good question. Okay, Well, Carol is such a beautiful human being,
like such a beautiful human being. Like I love her music.
Obviously we see her. She's sexy as what. But when
we spoke, and we've spoken a couple times, like I
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feel her soul and I even told her mom this,
and I told her sister. I understand now why she
is so successful, why she is where she is, because
she's truly humble. Like when I went to her concert
and we were backstage, she took the time to say
hi to everyone and hug them and looked at them
in their eyes and was really focused and present in
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that moment and saying thank you for being here. She's
so grateful, she's so graceful. It was just beautiful, honestly.
And then the second time I saw her again, she
made me feel like I was the only person in
the room. She went and said hi to everybody. Her
parents are amazing. It helps that she was raised by
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two amazing parents because you could tell they look they're
all very humble. Her sisters, everyone's just so nice. And
she's Carol g You know, she is a mega superstar,
but she's still Carolina, And I think that is the
most important thing. Is like, it doesn't matter how big
you are and how big you get. And I see
artists trust me right before my eyes. I've lived it
in my family. I've seen it with friends people even
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right now, and I will never say their name where
they have changed right before my eyes, where I'm like,
what they are completely different people. But she I think
her success came a little not later. But she's a
little bit older, she's more mature, So I feel like
she has struggled so much to get her that she
really appreciates it. Like she is like so excited to
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be on Saturday Night Live. Like she's just so grateful.
And I think that that's like the best thing you
could do is have an attitude of gratitude. And it
was just beautiful. And I'm so grateful that you asked
me this question because I've been wanting to tell people
like I tell people that like around me, but like
I need you guys to hear it, like she is
a beautiful human being. A beautiful human being la so Jessica. Yeah,
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So if you listen to Carol g listen to it
with like I don't know, different ears, because what you
hear is really what you get. So all right, guys,
So this concludes this episode. I look forward to hearing
your questions and feel free to leave me any questions,
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