October 4, 2023 • 13 mins
Hola, Hola! It’s Wednesday, and that means we’re back with another episode of Dear Chiquis. Thanks to Dilan, Gabby, Angelica and Adan for submitting their questions this week. Today, we talk about what made Jenni, Jenni on stage; how to deal with a whole family of toxic in-laws; what kind of surgery have I had done on the lower half of my body; and we hear from a fan dealing with insecurities.
Submit your questions at speakpipe.com/chiquisandchillpodcast! And don’t forget to listen to “Chiquis and Chill” every Monday. They’re longer podcast episodes filled with personal stories and interviews with special guests.
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Speaker 1 (00:19):
Hello everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beep.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Hello cheekiesses. My name is Gellen, and first of all,
I want to say I love you so much. I
love you so so much, and I sent you this
message because I want your blessing, because this weekend I'm
going to be impersonating your mom my cousins kin Saniana,
forever of my family. I'm nervous, but I feel ready because,
(01:11):
oh my god, I love your mom. I've been a
huge fans, just like before she passed, and I wanted
to ask you quells Chrism, Susianisms, come on quist sesto,
you're not doing gender veera right, you know what I mean.
(01:32):
I hope you can help me, and I love you
so much.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Oh Dylan, I love you too, Papa. Thank you so much.
Thank you for first of all wanting to impersonate my mom.
I think that is awesome. I love when people do
that because you know, I think we all miss her,
the world misses her. So thank you everyone and anyone
who impersonates Jenny Rivera. We are very grateful, so thank you.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
So.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
In my opinion, it's very important how she would stand,
especially when she was singing. Her knees would do this
thing where they would kind of go like inward. Other
Jenny river fans know what I'm talking about. And then
of course her hand gestures and her little things that
she would say, I'm assuming that you're going to sing
with her tracks. So it's just important because in certain
parts of the songs, depending on what song it is,
(02:19):
she had certain hand movements and that's very Jenny. Her fingers,
the way her hands would move, those for me are
our key. And then also her little faces she would
do this little like you know, little mok is the
so little things like that. As a fan as a daughter.
I love to see those things, those little little details
that you think people don't pay attention to, those are
(02:40):
super important. So I don't know if you already did
or impersonated her Dylan, but regardless, thank you. I hope
it went well. I want to see videos and if
you didn't, those are my suggestions. Okay, and thank you
so much. Thank you, thank you for your time and
for sending me your question papas. Okay, so our next
(03:02):
question is from Gabby.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Hi Teeky's. My name is Gabby from Boston, and I
hope that you come to Boston someday. My question for
you is how would you deal with toxic in laws?
In laws in general. It's not even just my father
in law. It's not just like stepmother in law. It's
like siblings, my husband's siblings as well. They don't have boundaries,
(03:24):
and I kind of like set the boundaries in some
sense because I try not to be around them. I've
distanced myself from them. I don't even socialize with them
or talk to them. But it gets hard sometimes because
my husband, you know, it's all about his family, and
I've tried to explain to him like hey, like I
love them, but I'd rather be distant from them.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
What is your thoughts?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
What are your thoughts about like the toxicness?
Speaker 4 (03:50):
What would you do?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Hello Gabby from Boston. I love Boston, you guys, I
love it there, but I do need to go and
sing out there, so I'll let you guys know hopefully
next year. Okay, Gabby, So this is ah, this is
tough because obviously you love your husband, he loves his family.
I hope that your husband puts you and if you
guys have children first, you know, he needs to understand
(04:12):
that his wife and his family are first. You, his
immediate family, his extended family, they have to come secondary.
That's just how it works. It's biblical if you guys
believe in the Bible, or I think just in general,
to make life work, like they say, happy life, happy wife.
You know what I mean is in my opinion anyways,
I am a firm believer and I say this all
the time. You guys that if there is someone in
(04:34):
your life that is toxic, that brings you more sorrow,
more pain than good, and only brings out the worst
in you, then it's okay. It doesn't matter who the
person is. It's okay for you to excuse yourself from
the situation and create space. And boundaries are important. Boundaries
are very important. If you go to therapy, your therapist
is going to tell you it is okay for you
(04:55):
to have boundaries. It is healthy to have boundaries. So
if your husband family isn't respecting the boundaries, then it's
okay for you to not see them all the time.
Do I suggest that once in a while you go, yes,
because that'll make your husband happy and it'll make it
easier on his heart. But you don't have to all
the time, and don't sit there and argue with them.
(05:16):
I wouldn't want you to argue or anything, because that's
going to cause more stress and tension on your relationship.
But if they start saying things that you don't like,
just say, you know what, I love you, guys. I'm
just I'm gonna go ahead and head home, just to
not make the situation worse and also make yourself feel better.
That's my honest, honest advice and opinion, because I know
what that's like and it's very uncomfortable, especially because I
(05:38):
know you love your husband and it's tough. But I
think trying a little bit is okay. But also just
respecting yourself and if in your heart you don't feel
like going to that family party that day because you're
just not in the mood or something's going to take
you off, it's okay for you to say, husband, you
go ahead have fun. I love you. Tell everyone I
said hello, I'll wait for you here. That is totally fine.
So that is my opinion, and that's my suggestion. And
(05:59):
I hope everything it's better. I really do, because I
know how uncomfortable that is. Uh So, Gabby sending you
good vibes girl. Okay, So our third question comes from Angelica.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Hello, baby, So I was listening to one of your podcasts,
the one that you speak on snow the Product, and
then you talked about surgery. Mama. You had said that
you got bottom surgery. So I'm curious to know if
you got ass surgery to lift the ass or you
got you're a pretty kiddy lifted. Like tell me, I
(06:33):
am so fucking curious. I don't know if you got
to bleep this out, but bleep it out if you
need to. Mama. Also, I do want to say congratulations,
and I know what you went through from your first book.
I have not read your second book. I need to
get my ass on it. But I've always follows you
and your family and your mom. And again, congratulations, and
(06:55):
I do love you and Snow's chemistry. You guys are kolas.
But I love a new song. I love the whole video.
Sexy all right, kisses, and you take care of yourself. Okay,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I love your vibe. I love your vibe Anjelica, I
love it. Thank you so much, thank you. I love
my chemistry with Snow, Honestly, her and I we vibe out.
She's awesome. And I'm glad you're loving the new song. Okay,
So you guys know I'm very transparent. No, it had
nothing to do with my booty bottom surgery. My booty
has been my booty since I can remember. Of course,
(07:31):
it fluctuates, and that's what happened with my front part,
you guys, so my whole life yo yo, dieting, you know, yoyo,
weight up and down, fluctuating. So it caused not my kitty,
not my pretty kitty, because my pretty kitty is very pretty,
very nice, she's cute. What happened was on the sides
of my pretty kitty, like where the leg creases, it
(07:53):
got a little like loose, and I didn't like how
it was looking. So he did like what you call
a mini tuck, so he just lifted that part and
I love how it looks because before it was just
like it looked very weird, especially when I was naked.
So I was like, you know, what, can you just
remove that excess skin. So that's what it was, and
it was very very little. And eventually, if I have kids,
or even if I don't have kids, now that I've
(08:13):
lost even more weight, I want to do like maybe
like a reverse tummy tuck, which is kind of goes
under your boobies. So I don't know things that I'm
thinking about. I'm not sure because going under obviously like
you got to think about it. Anyways, that's what happens.
But I was in my booty. I haven't touched that,
just my little hiptops that I did. But other than that, yeah,
so that's what That's what it was. But for all
(08:35):
of those that are curious, my pretty kitty is still
very nice and cute. Okay, just you know, just want
to put that out there and Emelia can attest to that. Okay.
So our last question comes from Alan.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Well, I get that check kiss what you see my glasses.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
And get the esperance.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I can contested.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Pati is an algu momento as pasado brinceadeses como los
pasas and get them focus and get the affair race
parts not the parava and control came in contro muso
(09:26):
the maven dirande muco exito the man ferte raso espero agut.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Adan gible stands and suan man ganta was that tis
was de loco. Tortu is the buenount contest and spianl
borespanol is the lo where is you're doing roueno your
rocketto those tots. The nemos and seguridades is part romano
(10:06):
jocrocus important siempre the Fennel processor then oper there the
esperanza the conferen processor mus been its more importante. Poor
k astaaa ustan pot Nadia is perfecto. Nadia is perfecta
(10:27):
e I k sawa commos I know magusta esto perosusami
suel ustami format express armes so one persona equal to
the cosas buenas the timismo, the bueno logusta or loupatan
(10:48):
important and as nos ustan, the las will do the
nemos pertets the nemos, the vectos in question. The turo
is mare.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Is the.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Whos les persona's correctino fe blind faith, and you, guys,
(11:35):
what I'm telling Alan is basically he's asking about Insecurity's
like what do I do when I feel insecure? And
I think it's very important. Like I said, trusting the
process is very very important, and also having blind faith,
blind faith that tomorrow will be fine. I'm in God's hands,
my futures in God's hands. He will put the correct
people in my path, the correct job, and I Am
(11:56):
going to be okay no matter what. The more you
say that and recite that in your mind and you
truly truly believe it, You're going to be fine and
it's good. And it's best to just focus on the now,
what I'm living now, be grateful for what we have now.
It's a lot easier ser than Dane. You guys, I
know this, trust me. I have my days as well,
but it is absolutely possible. So thank you so much,
(12:16):
ados it en espanolo AnyWho. Okay, So I loved everyone's
questions today. Thank you to Dylan Gaby Angelica I Ran
for contributing to this week's episode of Dear Cheeky's. I
(12:39):
appreciate you guys so much and I hope you found
my advice helpful and encouraging. You guys are seriously the
best part of my week. If you'd like to leave
your question, head over to speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's
and Chill podcast as. This is a production of iHeartRadio
(13:02):
and the Micudura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at
Micauldura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h i
q U i s. For more podcasts from iHeart, visit
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to
your favorite podcast, and check us out on YouTube.
Hello everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you
advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe
you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with
your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how
to balance your checkbook or how to start a business.
Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember
these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're suffering
(00:40):
from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from
a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave
your question at the sound of the beep.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Hello cheekiesses. My name is Gellen, and first of all,
I want to say I love you so much. I
love you so so much, and I sent you this
message because I want your blessing, because this weekend I'm
going to be impersonating your mom my cousins kin Saniana,
forever of my family. I'm nervous, but I feel ready because,
(01:11):
oh my god, I love your mom. I've been a
huge fans, just like before she passed, and I wanted
to ask you quells Chrism, Susianisms, come on quist sesto,
you're not doing gender veera right, you know what I mean.
(01:32):
I hope you can help me, and I love you
so much.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Oh Dylan, I love you too, Papa. Thank you so much.
Thank you for first of all wanting to impersonate my mom.
I think that is awesome. I love when people do
that because you know, I think we all miss her,
the world misses her. So thank you everyone and anyone
who impersonates Jenny Rivera. We are very grateful, so thank you.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
So.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
In my opinion, it's very important how she would stand,
especially when she was singing. Her knees would do this
thing where they would kind of go like inward. Other
Jenny river fans know what I'm talking about. And then
of course her hand gestures and her little things that
she would say, I'm assuming that you're going to sing
with her tracks. So it's just important because in certain
parts of the songs, depending on what song it is,
(02:19):
she had certain hand movements and that's very Jenny. Her fingers,
the way her hands would move, those for me are
our key. And then also her little faces she would
do this little like you know, little mok is the
so little things like that. As a fan as a daughter.
I love to see those things, those little little details
that you think people don't pay attention to, those are
(02:40):
super important. So I don't know if you already did
or impersonated her Dylan, but regardless, thank you. I hope
it went well. I want to see videos and if
you didn't, those are my suggestions. Okay, and thank you
so much. Thank you, thank you for your time and
for sending me your question papas. Okay, so our next
(03:02):
question is from Gabby.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Hi Teeky's. My name is Gabby from Boston, and I
hope that you come to Boston someday. My question for
you is how would you deal with toxic in laws?
In laws in general. It's not even just my father
in law. It's not just like stepmother in law. It's
like siblings, my husband's siblings as well. They don't have boundaries,
(03:24):
and I kind of like set the boundaries in some
sense because I try not to be around them. I've
distanced myself from them. I don't even socialize with them
or talk to them. But it gets hard sometimes because
my husband, you know, it's all about his family, and
I've tried to explain to him like hey, like I
love them, but I'd rather be distant from them.
Speaker 4 (03:46):
What is your thoughts?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
What are your thoughts about like the toxicness?
Speaker 4 (03:50):
What would you do?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Hello Gabby from Boston. I love Boston, you guys, I
love it there, but I do need to go and
sing out there, so I'll let you guys know hopefully
next year. Okay, Gabby, So this is ah, this is
tough because obviously you love your husband, he loves his family.
I hope that your husband puts you and if you
guys have children first, you know, he needs to understand
(04:12):
that his wife and his family are first. You, his
immediate family, his extended family, they have to come secondary.
That's just how it works. It's biblical if you guys
believe in the Bible, or I think just in general,
to make life work, like they say, happy life, happy wife.
You know what I mean is in my opinion anyways,
I am a firm believer and I say this all
the time. You guys that if there is someone in
(04:34):
your life that is toxic, that brings you more sorrow,
more pain than good, and only brings out the worst
in you, then it's okay. It doesn't matter who the
person is. It's okay for you to excuse yourself from
the situation and create space. And boundaries are important. Boundaries
are very important. If you go to therapy, your therapist
is going to tell you it is okay for you
(04:55):
to have boundaries. It is healthy to have boundaries. So
if your husband family isn't respecting the boundaries, then it's
okay for you to not see them all the time.
Do I suggest that once in a while you go, yes,
because that'll make your husband happy and it'll make it
easier on his heart. But you don't have to all
the time, and don't sit there and argue with them.
(05:16):
I wouldn't want you to argue or anything, because that's
going to cause more stress and tension on your relationship.
But if they start saying things that you don't like,
just say, you know what, I love you, guys. I'm
just I'm gonna go ahead and head home, just to
not make the situation worse and also make yourself feel better.
That's my honest, honest advice and opinion, because I know
what that's like and it's very uncomfortable, especially because I
(05:38):
know you love your husband and it's tough. But I
think trying a little bit is okay. But also just
respecting yourself and if in your heart you don't feel
like going to that family party that day because you're
just not in the mood or something's going to take
you off, it's okay for you to say, husband, you
go ahead have fun. I love you. Tell everyone I
said hello, I'll wait for you here. That is totally fine.
So that is my opinion, and that's my suggestion. And
(05:59):
I hope everything it's better. I really do, because I
know how uncomfortable that is. Uh So, Gabby sending you
good vibes girl. Okay, So our third question comes from Angelica.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
Hello, baby, So I was listening to one of your podcasts,
the one that you speak on snow the Product, and
then you talked about surgery. Mama. You had said that
you got bottom surgery. So I'm curious to know if
you got ass surgery to lift the ass or you
got you're a pretty kiddy lifted. Like tell me, I
(06:33):
am so fucking curious. I don't know if you got
to bleep this out, but bleep it out if you
need to. Mama. Also, I do want to say congratulations,
and I know what you went through from your first book.
I have not read your second book. I need to
get my ass on it. But I've always follows you
and your family and your mom. And again, congratulations, and
(06:55):
I do love you and Snow's chemistry. You guys are kolas.
But I love a new song. I love the whole video.
Sexy all right, kisses, and you take care of yourself. Okay,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I love your vibe. I love your vibe Anjelica, I
love it. Thank you so much, thank you. I love
my chemistry with Snow, Honestly, her and I we vibe out.
She's awesome. And I'm glad you're loving the new song. Okay,
So you guys know I'm very transparent. No, it had
nothing to do with my booty bottom surgery. My booty
has been my booty since I can remember. Of course,
(07:31):
it fluctuates, and that's what happened with my front part,
you guys, so my whole life yo yo, dieting, you know, yoyo,
weight up and down, fluctuating. So it caused not my kitty,
not my pretty kitty, because my pretty kitty is very pretty,
very nice, she's cute. What happened was on the sides
of my pretty kitty, like where the leg creases, it
(07:53):
got a little like loose, and I didn't like how
it was looking. So he did like what you call
a mini tuck, so he just lifted that part and
I love how it looks because before it was just
like it looked very weird, especially when I was naked.
So I was like, you know, what, can you just
remove that excess skin. So that's what it was, and
it was very very little. And eventually, if I have kids,
or even if I don't have kids, now that I've
(08:13):
lost even more weight, I want to do like maybe
like a reverse tummy tuck, which is kind of goes
under your boobies. So I don't know things that I'm
thinking about. I'm not sure because going under obviously like
you got to think about it. Anyways, that's what happens.
But I was in my booty. I haven't touched that,
just my little hiptops that I did. But other than that, yeah,
so that's what That's what it was. But for all
(08:35):
of those that are curious, my pretty kitty is still
very nice and cute. Okay, just you know, just want
to put that out there and Emelia can attest to that. Okay.
So our last question comes from Alan.
Speaker 5 (08:52):
Well, I get that check kiss what you see my glasses.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
And get the esperance.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I can contested.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Pati is an algu momento as pasado brinceadeses como los
pasas and get them focus and get the affair race
parts not the parava and control came in contro muso
(09:26):
the maven dirande muco exito the man ferte raso espero agut.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Adan gible stands and suan man ganta was that tis
was de loco. Tortu is the buenount contest and spianl
borespanol is the lo where is you're doing roueno your
rocketto those tots. The nemos and seguridades is part romano
(10:06):
jocrocus important siempre the Fennel processor then oper there the
esperanza the conferen processor mus been its more importante. Poor
k astaaa ustan pot Nadia is perfecto. Nadia is perfecta
(10:27):
e I k sawa commos I know magusta esto perosusami
suel ustami format express armes so one persona equal to
the cosas buenas the timismo, the bueno logusta or loupatan
(10:48):
important and as nos ustan, the las will do the
nemos pertets the nemos, the vectos in question. The turo
is mare.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Is the.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Whos les persona's correctino fe blind faith, and you, guys,
(11:35):
what I'm telling Alan is basically he's asking about Insecurity's
like what do I do when I feel insecure? And
I think it's very important. Like I said, trusting the
process is very very important, and also having blind faith,
blind faith that tomorrow will be fine. I'm in God's hands,
my futures in God's hands. He will put the correct
people in my path, the correct job, and I Am
(11:56):
going to be okay no matter what. The more you
say that and recite that in your mind and you
truly truly believe it, You're going to be fine and
it's good. And it's best to just focus on the now,
what I'm living now, be grateful for what we have now.
It's a lot easier ser than Dane. You guys, I
know this, trust me. I have my days as well,
but it is absolutely possible. So thank you so much,
(12:16):
ados it en espanolo AnyWho. Okay, So I loved everyone's
questions today. Thank you to Dylan Gaby Angelica I Ran
for contributing to this week's episode of Dear Cheeky's. I
(12:39):
appreciate you guys so much and I hope you found
my advice helpful and encouraging. You guys are seriously the
best part of my week. If you'd like to leave
your question, head over to speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's
and Chill podcast as. This is a production of iHeartRadio
(13:02):
and the Micudura podcast Network. Follow us on Instagram at
Micauldura Podcasts and follow me Cheeky's That's c h i
q U i s. For more podcasts from iHeart, visit
the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to
your favorite podcast, and check us out on YouTube.
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