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December 16, 2022 43 mins

Comedians Chico Bean, Luenell, and CNN political commentator, Alice Stewart debate the week’s top stories with Charlamagne Tha God. Plus, we send Chico Bean to talk to football fans!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to Comedy Central. Welcome to hell of a week.
I'll go by the name of Charlottage and God. Hello,
what's happening? Happy Holidays? Now, under the authority of the
Comedy Central Act Clause B sixteen, I am here by
empowered to take a good long look at this weekend.
How b two k single little Fiz. He was trending

(00:29):
on social media after alleged photos of his anus were
leaked from his Only Fans account. Yeah, I'll tell you
three words I never want to see together anus fizz
and leaked this week. President Biden also signed a Respect
for Marriage Act to protect same sex and interracial marriages.
That's tracts, tract are as. Dr Umar calls it an abomination.

(00:54):
But because you know, the Democrats don't want to offend anybody,
next they're gonna sign the Disrespect for Marriage Act for
people who just want to keep it casual. Okay. Singer
Duo Leapa is rumored to be dating Jack Harlow. Now,
this comes after rumors world of a romance between Trevor
Noah and do a Leaper earlier this year. Sorry, Trevor,
but to be fair, you are now an unemployed black man,

(01:15):
so it was only a matter of time. Okay, and
certified lover boy Drake got a new necklace made out
of forty two engagement ring diamonds. Each diamond is said
to represent a woman he thought about proposing to. First
of all, this is maniac behavior. Okay. Second, just when
I started giving Baige Brothers the benefit of the doubt,
all right, this is the most waffle colored negro thing

(01:37):
anyone has ever done in the history of waffle colored negro. Third,
I'm not Fritish. Third, Drake, Drake, Seriously, you have to
let that hurt go. Okay, you got more almost rings
than Lebron James. All right, most of us, unless we're
j LO, find one, maybe two people that we want

(01:58):
to propose to in a lifetime. But you add forty
two different women that you wanted to propose to. Forty
two And why do you buy a new ring every time?
Why not buy one really good ring and wait until
you find one really good woman to give it to. Okay, noo, honestly, Drake,

(02:19):
never mind, We've got more to talk about, like brother
love and social media. Queen Isla, let's get it funny.
There's been a hell of a week and here to
talk about it is the most pleasant panel in late night.
She's a political commentator on CNN and the host of

(02:40):
the Hot Mics from Left to Right podcast. Alice Stewart
is hell. He's a wild and out veteran, one third
of the eighty five South Show crew and My Guy
and he's hell of a weeks Only correspondent. Chico Bean
his hell and she's a comedian of Finty Model and
you can see her in HBO's award winning show Hacks.

(03:02):
Luke nellis here now. Topic one. Puff New Daddy uh.
Earlier this week, Puff a k A Diddy a k a.
Brother Love announced that he is the new father of
a precious baby girl. First, I want to say congratulations, Puff,
do you and your family all right? But not everybody

(03:23):
was holding up gold poppy signs? Okay. Many people have
been commented on the fact that when it comes to
Diddy's love interest, he apparently likes to lay it low
and spread it wide okay and the words of Evelyn Braxton.
Some are questioning why women like Arsia a k. And
Young Miami are choosing to stick by his side. Now.
Last week, Dr Umar was on this show and he
said this. This is not only true amongst human beings.

(03:45):
Even within the animal kingdom, the alphas tend to have
more than one spouse. And if you also look at women,
as much as they may chide for ligety, many women
will date an outfa male with another woman if she's
attracted to him. Oh so here's my question panel with
guys like Diddy and NBA, Young Boy and Elon Muss

(04:07):
and Nick Cannon. You know, having all these kids with
different women? Is dr Umar right? Are we moving towards
the more for ligament society? I know you got you
got thoughts on this, Chico, Yeah, I do. I can't
say whether or not we're moving towards a polygamous society,
but in the event that we, y'all, I think we
need to establish some rules because there's no reason why Millennia,
you should still be competing with Diddy for women. It's unfair,

(04:28):
like slim, No, I'm sad, like think about it. You know,
how can you compete with somebody who can hit your
mama and your girl. That's not fair. Like he's been
famous and grandma, he's fifty three, so he's been famous
as I was in the first grade. You may ain't nothing.
Women on the hypnotized boat still available, and and and
things like slim you gotta chill. You can't if you
want his baby mama twenty eight years old. You think

(04:50):
about a twenty eight year old man trying to compete
with Diddy? How are you gonna compete with somebody have
been famous so long he didn't change his name nine times.
It's be't possible. A millionaire exactly, any a big in there. So,
in the words of the late Great Deal Max, they didn't.
You've been eating long enough. Now stop being greedy, man,
Get out the way, Get out the way. The men
use the animal kingdom in words like polygamy just to

(05:12):
justify playing o cheat. Well most man Catherine spelled polygamy.
First of all, that is true. I always forget to
why they don't use the proper vernacular. And I don't
think that your average every day layman speaks in animal terminology.
You know, that's just Dr Umar's ass talk like that.

(05:36):
But we have been referring to men as dogs for
a long time. No, I haven't. What do you what
do you think about the uh? I guess I don't know.
If I guess we call it polygamy. What do you
think about all of you guys having all these multiple women. Well,
just because you have multiple women, and just because you
have babies with said women, does not mean that you're

(05:58):
in a polygamous relationship with you just had a baby.
I don't mean nothing. And it's very hard and very
difficult unless you're from the culture to balance the position
of these women, because the women will always be vying
for position. And I think the sister wife thing, when

(06:19):
it works, it works. You know, I'm not opposed to listen,
bit I'm tired of his ask go fuck him and
feed him. I'm gonna deal with the kids. Have you
ever been in a situation like that? You know? Um,
you old not so you ever been in a situation
like that? Well, I certainly shared a manner too, yes, okay, alright, alright, yeah,

(06:40):
I mean it makes sense, like and I think that
polygamy is you know, you gotta be responsible if you
look at the round the world with this is legal,
you have to be able to provide each woman with
the same level of lifestyle. So if you can't take
care of yourself, there's no way you can take care
of one woman, let alone multiple women, sister wives. He
got like seven live and they all vine fortention, they

(07:03):
all got baby, a big yeah. Yeah. Look, I think
to um to the point of one of the things
that Chicot black people can't here, Well, now you're sitting
in between two very different firms. We have Charlemagne happily
married father and he loves to show that ring. And

(07:25):
then of course we have Chico, who's happily um not
a monogamous person. He is he is, I'm in the game, baby.
So we have two coins, two different coins of the
same feather. But here's the thing. I agree with one
thing Chico has said that that really hits to the

(07:46):
point of this. He is not, you know, afraid to
say he's happy to date many women. But he says,
I don't have any victims. I have volunteers, and I'm
sure he's willing to recruit men volunteers say that. But
here's the point. Here is that if we have consenting adults,

(08:06):
both people understand what time it is, and they understand
the assignment, and they know what they're getting into if
they are as long as long as they understand what
the agreement is and and I'm not paying for it,
it's none of my business. So I think you know,
p didd he has he has a lot of names,
he has a lot of talents. Now he has a
lot of babies, and and he has a lot of

(08:28):
money and he can pay for it. It seems like
the women will get involved in these entanglements. They received
most of the criticism. Why you think that. I think
over years we've had men have been the hunters, women
have been the gatherers, and unfortunately, society has gotten to
the point to where if a woman is out there
gathering too much, uh, she's looked down upon. And that's
just the way society is. I don't see that that

(08:50):
changing anytime soon. That's just the way society looks at it.
The only way it might change is if commercialism gets involved,
and let's say Hallmark looks at these women that have
all of these fathers of all their children. Let Homework
get in and start selling Father's Day cards by the dozen,
and maybe that might help out a little bit. Happy
baby Mama, Yeah, fathers. They might get a little better
if they did that, because this is horrible. Now, Like

(09:12):
Christmas is Mother's Day, Mother's Day is Christmas number two,
Father's Day is Columbus Day number four? Don't nobody nobody
care about Father's Day? So well? I just wonder if
pull me works in reverse. You know, if a woman
were to have many husbands, many men's doing, many tads,
thinking how many things? East infections? If I gotta be

(09:32):
a EUSt infection when a woman got many men, I
don't know why you got if you got thirteen I've
never had a ust infection for venarial disease in my life.
Let me just say that right now, but never. But
I'm just saying, if you know what, what if you
don't double standard? What if a woman is a boss
and has many men under her to rank is anybody?

(09:57):
Everybody has a different feeling when that happens. If she
had as much money as video, I'll do with it
if you can afford it. You can afford it? Wynot?
And I asked my goal, I'll let you know how
I go. You might be able to pull it off.
You know what's getting lost in all of this though, man?
The family structure. Like you can have all these different women,
but how the hell are you gonna be a father
to all these kids when they all over the place?

(10:18):
Absolute you have to lay the blueprint that you want
to live. But I think everybody is going by a
standard that that they didn't set. We're living by rules
that were made by somebody else. So if you're able
to create rules in your life that you're able to
follow and find people who are okay with following those rules,
and you be able to stand on them and be
responsible enough as a man to be held to whatever
it is you say you're gonna do, you will be
able to do it. I just think that sounds good.

(10:40):
But you go ahead on and say what you gotta say.
I got something to say about that. I think, in
my view, ideally you have a two parent household because
the kids have two parents at which to speak with,
and if one parents says no, you go to the
other one. You work around it. But but truthfully, at
the end of the day, I think, um, society has changed.
Things are different. But the more people have more kids,

(11:03):
it makes it more difficult. Certainly for take your kid
to work day. You gotta have to to two cars,
and too taking the two different ice cream stores. But
I just think the traditional family is is the best
way to bring up children. But again, but but but again,
society has changed and people's outlook on this. Won't have
a problem bringing his kids to work. He's gonna bring
him and replace us. That's right, be his kids. And

(11:27):
we had to step back and watch, so you know
what you want to say. Well, Chico was talking about
the rules. You know, rules are made to be broken,
and you can go into women. Know this. You can
make an agreement to be such a way in the beginning,
and then things changed. I've already told Nick this. I've
said this to him on National TV on issue. It's

(11:50):
really not the kids. It's them baby mamas. They're not
gonna all get along at the same time. You are
fantasizing if you think that's true. Plus what you gotta
do the three of them a graduating at the same time.
What's you're gonna do in five of them half bile recitals?
What you're gonna do? Who are you gonna pick? That's right,
it's gonna be. I can't wait to watch this. Listen,

(12:16):
we get it. Did he got more girlfriends than names? Okay,
But as the panel said, no matter what, who you're into,
as long as you're opening on is what your partner
partners didn't have at it. I choose monogamy. My panels
are sticking around after the break got me right back.

(12:41):
Welcome back to Hell of a week. I'm here with
my panel, Alice Stewart Chicko being in loun Now, we
have a lot of important things to think about in
this country. Football isn't one of them. But it is
football season, so that's what's on our minds, whether it's
the transfer, portal concussion protocols, Jerry Jones, are Skipp and
Shannon about the right? Okay, on National TV, it's all news,

(13:03):
But is this interest healthy? I sent my favorite human being,
Chico be tailgating one recent Sunday to take a good
hard look at some typical fans. Oh boy, oh what's
your takeaway? Chico was throwing the video, but I do, uh,
you know, I'm used to the HBCU experienced tailgating with
my people, but I went to, you know, get the

(13:24):
perspective of my Caucasian counterparts at a Buffalo Bills, New
York jazz game. Let's take a look. Okay, so you know,
you know, y'all good, you know good? Shut then up
a little bit, but not my bad. We're back y'all

(13:46):
like a white gang. What makes football so great, the fans.
We make football great, brings America together. They're giving it.
The old man being able to be a prayer to something,
man being able to be a part of something. Black enough,
just we week. What's your ritual? I gotta skip breakfasts,
go right to my drinks that early morning, doogie. We

(14:12):
got a table. You want to go through it. A
lot of people are saying, you know that Rihanna is
selling out by doing the super Bowl? Do you guys
agree with that sentiment? Why not? Because that's Rihanna wrong? Exactly.
You can't go protests while you're working. You can't go
to walling On complain about Nick. Yes I can. But anyway,

(14:35):
what sacrifices do you think the NFL should make to
help keep the players safe? Doctors? And I think we
should do is provide more alternatives medicine for it. So
let's allow cannabis listens outside athelics. So let's just make
them all legally, let them, just let them for the game.

(14:57):
Exactly right after do some month rolls before he won't
even feel the tackle, you know what I mean. Josh
Shallon goes into concussion protocol and it's fourth quarter. You
guys are one drive away from getting the game one.
Would you not want him to go back out on
the field? I do you got a minute seconds? Like
he wants she wants to skip. We've been we've been

(15:20):
fans longer and he's been alivee So we wanted back
in again, wanting back in again. See that's why we
need more women in the nfield. Let man, never mind.
Would you let your children play football? Yes? Child, I
can help you develo up like I feel like it's
just athletically. I knock somebody to know. So you would

(15:44):
skip breakfast to drink liquor to come watch some other
people play, But you wouldn't let your child play? Why not?
Because because of the health hazards. So basically you can't
about the health hazards for your kids. But I don't
care about the kids. No, no, no, I care about
them too. But that's what they choose is going to
people to do as a profession. What do you do
for a living regular job? You're the police? I thank y'all. Man,

(16:06):
this is a hell of a week. Appreciate you people.
You're out there asking the important question should kids be
allowed to play football? Well, you know, for me as
a mom. It really depends on how bad the kid

(16:27):
want to play. Personally, I don't give a ship about football.
It's cold and I can't see the guys look good.
I'm a basketball girl, and hopefully you know if your
kid chooses that, they're not just out there like brown
and they can go out and maybe play and they'll
get closed every time they go out there, hopefully, Alice,

(16:49):
what do you think to kids? I think they should.
I think there are great equipment programs out there, great
equipment out there for the students that makes it safe
for them, the helmets and the gear to make it
safe for them to get out there and play like
they want. But sports is more than just getting out
in the field. The dedication, the drive, the determination, the teamwork,

(17:09):
the sportsmanship that you learn on the field carries out
in life, and I think that is the most important
aspect we can get out of football or any of
these sports. So I highly encourage it for kids. You know,
you're not something man. They're telling me we weren't gonna
get along to Nobody tell you that I was starting
stuff on the damp panels. They ain't. Nobody tell you that.

(17:32):
I think kids should play all sports. But what I
don't think is they should get awards for not winning.
I think that's something that needs to I think the
participation awards has weakened the generation. So it don't matter
if you're playing football, basketball, any type of contact sport,
any type of sport. If you don't win, you don't
get a trophy. I think that's something that that's something
I don't the Green hid know, you know, I think

(17:54):
that uh you know, I'm all four kids playing football
because injury is a part of life. You don't have
to play football to get hurt. It's just you know,
and they have fun doing it. But I think that
you make them softer by giving them awards for not
when it come on that and with football, even though
they do say the game is getting softer, they're making
it safer for people. I mean, damn, I'm already been
playing for seven years. Damnit. Yeah, you know, put your

(18:15):
glasses back on. That was messed up with skipping to Shannon. Man.
I'm sorry, man, that was disrespect. Don't know what they're
talking about because that was Shandon fall though, because Shannon
could have just buke back and skim quick. All you
have to do is say, you ain't never played sports, period?
But did you telling me that? I can't say nothing
about Tom because I'm not as good as him. But
so what did that make you mean? Yeah, he was
about to, but he called itself because he might have

(18:36):
swung on him after that. I'll say this, I love
seeing Chico at the tailgate. I think you might need
some mind blake chapter sing that butt shot a little.
That was disrespectful. I think they set that up. That's
that's that's all the main type of stuff. Yeah, that
was a man. But what you can't tell them? I
ain't paid no attention. I wasn't looking to you. Hey,
neither was I until I got hirt by you. Now

(18:58):
let's get into the next topic, antisocial media. There's been
a lot of articles written about Elon Musk this week.
The n y Time said, critics say Musk has revealed
himself as a conservative. In the Atlantic stated, he's a
far right activist. But it's not that simple. Is he
a liberal? Is he a conservative? Is he a blood?
Is he crimp? Is he? That? Is he? This? What
political side of the out does demand fall on? But

(19:19):
I got a question for you, who gives a fuck? Okay?
We spend so much time talking about individuals that we
don't discuss the issues. And the issue is Elon and
all the other big tech gurus are hurting us as
a society. Okay, And the Internet needs to be regulated.
More than twelve hundred families have sued metaph pointing children
and teens toward material that encouraged dangerous body issues, self harm,

(19:40):
and even suicide. Meanwhile, Twitter has disbanded his Trust and
Safety Council. Leading studies show that misogynistic slurs are up
thirty three percent, homophobic slurs of fifty eight percent, transphobic
slurs of sixty two percent, and proving there's just something
about hate for black people, use of the N word
is up a whopping two hundred and two percent. Okay,

(20:01):
that's only two per cent more than the l A
City Council conference call panel. I'll turn to you. You know,
is this freedom? And if it is, what's more important
the freedom for Americans to live a good life, for
the freedom for corporations to do whatever, regardless of the concerts.
I don't know what the funk you just said, but
what I what I UM, what I what I know
is this and that UM there should be some regulation.

(20:27):
And what I just said, yeah, okay, well okay, yeah,
there should be some regulation in social media only because
of the hate. You know, I think you still have
the freedom to say certain things, but just blatant, in
your face hate needs to be regulated, and it needs

(20:49):
to be some UH minorities on the panel of regulation.
You knowing myself African, now, Alice, you got a unique perspective.
Is there any world in which this kind of unfettered
freedom is a good thing? Are you a big fan
of regulation? I think we certainly need to regulate the
content on a lot of these social media sites. We

(21:10):
all have free speech right, we can all say whatever
we want, but we can't make threatening statements on social media.
We can't make racist or anti Semitic or homophobic statements
on social media, and that does need to be regulated.
The point is, if we are going to regulate some
of these social media platforms, it needs to be across
the oilet needs to be all types of hateful speech.
Here's my big problem, and I don't know if anyone

(21:33):
else is the same. The most frustrating thing with me
is these UH accounts that are not verified, and you
have these cowards sitting in their parents basement, hiding behind
a cat profile, attack with people and denigrating people. If
you want to step into the public square and you
want to trash me and call me names, step into
the public square with your face, with your name and

(21:55):
say it like a man. That's why they got a
cat want father. Yeah, exactly the profile, because they pussy
social media be regulated. Um, Just to pick it back
off what she said, I think the only regulation is
really necessary as troll control. If you have if your
troll troll control, you should have to put your address

(22:16):
out whenever you say something disrespectful to somebody, that should
come with your address where you live. And if you're
a hateful person, you should have to you should have
to stand on what you said in front of the
people that you're disrespecting. But as far as social media,
I'm one of the people that realize that it's not
as bad as it could be because I think back
to my generation. I grew up in the nineties. If
we had social media, we would have been horrible. Come on,

(22:39):
think about the social media in the nineties. If I
had socia, high speed internet, I would have off my body.
If I had the ability to be able to just
pull pawing up instantly, so you can't be mad at
the kids for the way that they're utilizing something that
you have. You subscribe to my only Family, No, I

(23:02):
have not. I didn't even know you had one. I
didn't busting it open, not bust Well, I'm gonna busting off,
but I ain't busting off. And hey, if you ain't
busted over, I ain't subscribing. You gotta subscribe, and then
you get to say, Okay, I bet I got the

(23:24):
only fans for over. Absolutely, Chicko. You bring up a
good point. I think one of the reasons we get
mad is because we know free speech isn't free, and
we know that there is consequence to the words that
come out of your mouth, and people that hide behind
profiles they can they never have to deal with the consequences. Yeah,
where you get to give your opinion publicly and privately
at the same time. So if you just take us,

(23:47):
I mean, no, we don't. But that's the thing. That's
why I think troll control is the biggest thing that
social media needs. If you had an ability to be
able to not just see the face of the person
who's saying it, but know where they are, know their location,
and I think that will slow down a lot of
the disrespect because people feel safe behind people not knowing
what they are, not knowing that I p address and
being able to I wish I knew some of their

(24:08):
addresses because I keep a goon on speed dial my thing.
I've had plenty of people say a lot of awful
things about me, but the ones that put their name
to it, oftentimes I'll engage with them and we'll have
a civil, respectful conversation and hash out the issues. But
when you're hiding and you're not willing to truly engage,
that's cowardly and that's really not frief speech. I need

(24:34):
your police. The white woman you may now. I know
people are gonna say, just stay off social media if
you think it's so bad, But is that even viable
in this modern world? Is that even a possibility, just
to stay on social media? It's not. And well, my
daughter's tony gonna But in her whole entire life, I never, once, ever,

(25:00):
ever bought her a video game, and she didn't. She didn't.
You know, it wasn't the phone era. And I know
that it's very inconvenient to have a kid without a
phone these day, becau isn't like having the track and
device something they add. But sometimes they get them too soon,
like people be like, uh, don't let the television, maybe

(25:21):
sit your child. That's people who ain't got kids right
and say that you can't wait washing pretty colors around,
you know, the I pass save your life, especially when
you're doing him. I don't do him, my wife does.
But but the the fact that these kids are learning
how to squeeze a gun before they properly know how

(25:43):
to uh interact socially or or or or conflict resolve
or or anything like that. They're learning how the games
they're playing in the attic involve a gun. So now
their brainwashing thing that the fox flow this person at school,
they're gonna snap back together and and and it's just
not like that, you know, I don't know about that.

(26:05):
I think it's I think that's where a parent comes
into play, because I think as per as parents in
this generation, we have to I think we get amnesia
and forget. Like I know, my daughter at fourteen is
a much better human being a fourteen than I would say. Hallelujah.
I'm not afraid to let her. I'm not afraid to
let her lead in regard to the things that I

(26:26):
don't understand. When it comes to social media. I engage
with her. I let her show me how the things work,
so I can engage with her understand what she's a
part of. And I'm learning just one and one thing.
A lot of kids, a lot of grown ups are
talking a lot on social media and engaging and tweeting
and texting and Facebook and Twitter, um, but they're really
not engaging. They're not communicating with people. And I think

(26:48):
people need to get more back to the social aspect
of her life and less of the media, because I
think I think that's sorely lacking. I'm speaking to the kids.
There's an article that came out that said students are
turning the tick talked to Phil Gaps in school lessons
for topics like justice in black history. So is that good? Well,
I I feel like during you know, all the George

(27:09):
Floyd ere you know it came out, you know about
all the statues and everything, and that the curriculum was
wrong and being wrong. It was written by wrong people
and fed twards for years and years and years, and
now we've open school back up and they have. I
changed the curriculum, So I do think that a lot
of our stuff you can deep dive into better in
social media and find out more about the history and

(27:32):
things like that. I do if you're listening to the
right people. I mean, it just depends on, like you said,
if you're listening to the right people. But that's one
of the things about social media that I enjoy and
appreciated that information travel so fast. I mean, it could
be a curse, but it's really a gift because when
I was young, I had to get up and go
to the library and check the card out of all.
I'm actually still like you get the abundance of information

(27:55):
and you get to you know, you get the narrated
different it's the rapidness, and but these kids are used
to that. That's how they consume information. The attention span
is fifteen and sixty seconds, so you gotta understand that
these kids don't consume information we do. I think there's
a lot to learn on TikTok, but there's a lot
of reasons to stay away from that. Based on China.
I think what I encourage students all the time is

(28:18):
use different sources. A lot of people are not sitting
there watching the five, six, and ten o'clock news anymore.
They're going online other ways to get resources and information
and all that. But they need to go to different sources.
That's what they're doing. I can't be mad at the
kid that's on the internet looking at stuff that I
used to have to sneak and watch on the VHS tape.

(28:38):
Like sneak is the is the fun part. I don't
mind if that's just misinformation. But but I mean truth
and subjective, which true to you and me is a
lied to somebody else. So somethings are just lies. I mean,
it depends on who you ask. Like, you know, I
sometimes like I just go and watch Fox News just
to see what the other side is talking. I know
there's lines about me on social media. They said six

(29:02):
and clearly that do we want to regulate social media?
Not yes and no no Chico troll control. That's all
I think regulations. That wasn't the choice. Do they want
to do you want to regulate motherfucking social media? This

(29:25):
is a black mama right here. That's what we're missing
right here, We're missing that. That's what we need to
regulate hate speech across the board without a doubt. All Right,
I say regulate because at this point, the Internet is
the biggest broadcast platform on the planet, is bigger than TV,
bigger than media. And with all these folks acting like
reporters and journalists and lawyers and private investigators regulated, Okay,

(29:48):
they should have to abide by the same FCC rules
as TV and radio. I agree. I know what I noticed.
What you don't have nothing to do with nothing, But
I didn't notice that you had the Gucci Snake Maine
in your forehead. And that's what never saying that. That's
why I gotta have a scress test next week. I'd

(30:10):
like to thank lou Now, Alice Stewart and the one
and only chick on Me but sitting down with me
tonight when we come back, I got Dr Alfred bru
Lando and j Barnetta joining us to talk about mental health. Hey,

(30:32):
welcome back to hell of a week. Now. We all
know the holidays bring joy, family and festivities, but for
many they can also bring a feeling of dread and
even depression. Studies excited that as many as one in
five adults suffered from depression, and this time of year
can be especially scressful, particularly within our community. Okay with
me to day to talk about this further. Two of
my friends more like family Okay, Marriage and family therapist

(30:54):
Jay Barnett is hell hey and she's the founder of
her COMA project. In chief mental health officer at the
Mental Health Alliance. Please welcome psychologists and author Dr Alpha
Breland Noble. What's happening to my people? You know, this
week we got the tragic news that we lost Stephen
twitch Boss. Rest in peace to that brother. And I

(31:15):
noticed hit home for you, J because you've openly talked about,
you know, your attempts at suicide, talk about the scruggle
that many black men faced with mental health, and you
know why it's still not something we talked about enough. Um,
I think it's still a stigma. We are doing better,
we are making strides. But I think the unfortunate thing, man,
is that so many brothers are struggling silently out of

(31:36):
the fear of how will I be viewed if I
tell the world or tell my circle, my family, my spouse,
my partner that I'm struggling. And I think for me
it was difficult. I know when I was going through
it out the football um to talk about. I didn't
feel as if I had purpose. And many times, for
most men, we identify ourselves by what we do, and

(31:57):
we identify ourselves by our abilities, and when we can
no longer do that, and we feel useful. And I know,
after surviving to suicide attempts, I think what was important
for me was to discover purpose. And that's not easy,
right We talk about fine purpose, fine purpose, but it's
not easy. And the unfortunate in all of this is
that sometimes our silent pain takes a hold of our

(32:21):
actual thoughts. And as I say, the worst place a
man could be man, it's left alone with his thoughts.
And and I just think, you know it's this is
caused a real paradigm shift for us to really begin
to consider how we interact with black men. We were
so accustomed to seeing brothers to be strong, but I

(32:42):
think it's time for us to really humanize brothers. That
we all feel that we're superman, and as I believe,
we have superman moments, but the reality of it is
that we're Clark Kents. Is that we live in a
reality where we have failures, we have disappointment, that shame
is killed. But I think it's important for us to
begin to humanize black men, because you know, the human

(33:03):
experience is tough, right man, What do you hear when
you what do you feel when you hear that? Doctor?
I think some of it is the one thing that
we don't talk about is what the system does to brothers, right,
black men, other men of color, effort, letting no men um.
When we think about things like mass incarceration, when we
think about things like parents have to have the talk.
I have a sixteen year old, my son is miles

(33:23):
and having to have to talk with my son worrying
about you know, when he leaves the house, hoping and
praying he's gonna come back safe. Right, that's a reality.
And so many years ago, we did a study at
the Acoma Project and something that resonated with me that
I feel like it's applicable to what you shared is
it was a sister who had just come out of
homelessness or being in housed. She was just reunited with
her kids. And one of the things she said in

(33:44):
the study with I'm already black, I'm already a woman.
I don't also need to be crazy. And I think
what she was trying to hint at was the more
marginalized identities you add on a person. I think about
black men and all the you know venom that goes
at black men all the time, and like all the
ways in which brothers are torn down and not lifted
up societally, and you know, in media and all those places.

(34:06):
I think brothers struggle with this idea that if I'm
also dealing with a mental illness or I'm also perceived
this crazy. But we don't say in our house about
people say it about situations. Um, it's very detrimental to them, right,
and it tears them down even more so when I
hear that, I always want to think about what does
the system do that fails brothers. There are things that

(34:27):
brothers do, but there's stuff that the system does that
hurts and harms are black men as well? I want
to say, Jay, like, you know, when you hear about
these situations where people actually do complete suicide, how did
that make you feel being that you've survived it twice? Oh? Transparently, um.
I think sometimes there's a bit of survivor's guilt and
if I'm being transparent, um, but then there's appreciation for

(34:52):
my survival because I went to therapy, and then I
began to go through this healing process and I went
by at the school and became a therapist, and I
begin sharing with brothers and begin sharing with the world
because as Dr Alphie said, Uh, the system and even
when you study mental health, it wasn't for black people.
Mental health was for rich white man uh. And so

(35:14):
for a system perspective, I feel that it's my purpose
and I feel that it is it is a God
given gift that He's given me on how to communicate
that language because the reality of it, man is, brothers
don't have the language. And people always tell me how
you feel, tell me how you feel, but I don't know.
You know, when I've seen brothers in practice, it's you

(35:34):
have to give them the the emotional chart to identify
what their emotions are. And most of us we only
know how to identify with anger. And the reality of
it is, anger is a very low hanging fruit, and
so it's hard for brothers to even say what is joy.
I was in my late thirties before I was able
to say I knew what happiness was because most of

(35:56):
us have had to bear the burden of our family,
had to bear the bird of expectations that we live
in a world where there's a lot expected of us,
and then if you feel that you can't perform, you
feel like, what what? What is my reason for here?
And performing is is exhausting? When performing? What do you mean?
So when you think about femininity, femininity is based off

(36:18):
of being. But we look at masculinity as doing doing,
and so I think it's really time for us to
really look at masculinity as both right being and doing.
And you think about it, right, let's let's just say
a brother's dating. You are now having to be conscious
that I have to be able to financially not just provide,

(36:41):
but I need to be able to ful feel financially secure.
And what I do? Do I really want to be
open that I make sixty dollars because they said high
value man makes a hundred dollars, So you think that's
performance you think about from so you think about it
from the perspective of that, the performance of do I

(37:02):
have the space to tell my spouse that I'm not
doing well? Because if I tell them that I'm not
doing well, are you still going to seem as a man?
Will you weaponize the fact that I'm having a low
moment and then you take my low moment and almost
emotionally break me down and says, well, are you really

(37:23):
a man? Because real men don't cry? Right. But but
but don't forget the part that's on your shirt. When
do we teach young man that they are enough just
because of who they are? So part of our work
and mental auth lines and at the Calent project is
starting with kids and saying you don't have to do,
have be anything, that your value is in your existence.
And while it sounds little corny and hokey, I think

(37:45):
the more you can put that in kids heads when
they're little, both for both partners in the relationship. Right,
so I won't even gender the partners. But if one
of the partners is a man and he's with a
partner who's tearing him down because he doesn't make enough money,
what's wrong with the partner? Right? That's the partner has
some warp thinking to thinking that this man and this

(38:06):
relationship is responsible for all the finances for all of
these things. And we were talking about backstage, A relationship
should never be two halves that make a whole. A
relationship is two holes that come together, right, two full beings.
And so we've got to teach young people from a
very early age your value isn't just who you are,

(38:26):
the miracles that it took for you to get here
and all the people who didn't make it here, right like,
just born into this earth. We gotta value life, and
so we start with I do that with my kids. Baby,
you enough, just because you're here. I don't need you
to do anything. And if you do that, I think
that can go a little bit of the way. And
that's a great message. Look, let's let's give people some

(38:47):
more solutions, man, because you know, my therapist says that
the cure for trauma is joy. So how do we
how do we instill some joy and people this holiday season?
That's a good question. I don't know if we can
instill Joe. I think you can discover joy. And I
think you discovered joy U in some of the most
simplest of places. And I think some of the most

(39:07):
simplest things in life are the most profound. We're often
looking for these uh, these these big you know, things,
and and looking for things to be so massive. But
I think sometimes joy is just in the space of
people that you actually enjoy being around. You know, we
talked about the holiday season, and we all know the
song it's the most wonderful time of the year, but

(39:28):
it's not that for everyone, especially when certa so so
I think really identifying spaces and moments and and even
environments where just sitting here and doing nothing it's joy.
You know, joy is not in doing sometimes, joy just
in being in the presence of I don't have to cook,

(39:51):
I don't have to put on I don't have to
offer no advice. I can just be and just sit here.
And so I think you discover joy and just of
those moments that we often overlook because we're so busy.
I think it's also in teaching people. You talked about
this earlier, what our emotions and what do they feel like? Right,
so so many of us, I bet everybody in here

(40:12):
can think of a person in their life where when
they come around, they just bring like a cloud with them,
Like I have a cloud hanging over them. Energy. That's it,
the energy vampire. Thank you for that. And I think
we know what that feels like to be in the
presence of an energy vampire. We know it doesn't feel good,
So we can kind of identify those kinds of feelings.
I think it's harder for us because we never take

(40:34):
the time to be still. You never take the time
to give ourselves an opportunity to think about what are
all the emotions. So when we were all little, right
my kids went through y'all probably went through it. They
would give you this emotions charts, and they would show
you happy, sad, whatever you get, little stickers and stuff.
I think we forget a lot of that, and we
get so caught up in going through the emotions hustling, hustling.
You know, it's as hustle culture. And if you're not hustling,

(40:55):
then you know you ain't about nothing. And so because
we don't ever take the time to sit down and
really think about what it means to feel different feelings.
As corny as that, south, it's important. The one thing
I always say in terms of fighting this idea of
you know, with black people, I think in the mental
health field, we always want to label all black people

(41:17):
as being traumatized. Yes, a lot of us have trauma,
but that is not the only part of our experience.
And so we give ourselves room to understand what it
means to feel something other than trauma. This is one
thing that I love is like people are afraid of
being called the angry black woman or angry black man. Again,
that society putting stuff on us. And what I always
say is angry is an emotion. Yes I am black,

(41:39):
Yes I am a woman. All of those things can
be okay, right, So not allowing other people to dictate
to us what kind of emotions are safe, what kind
of emotions are normal, what kind of a emotion ship
most often be associated with us as black people, and
just allowing yourself to feel. So get a chart, start
looking at all them emotions. Think about times in your
life when you have felt those different and more shots

(42:00):
on that chart, and use that as a guy to
allow yourself to feel the full range of feelings. Thing
that that's why you got them. You're supposed to use
that full range of emotions. Feel your feelings. Right. I
want to thank my guests Dr Alfre, bree Land Noble,
and j Barnett. Well, Hell of a Week when we
come back. Welcome back to Hell of a Week. Now.

(42:28):
This is our last show before the new year, and
it makes me think about all that's past. Okay, it's
been one hell of a year, hasn't it, hasn't it right?
Bitcoin bit to dust. That's right, people lost real money
betting on imaginary money. Okay, Russia has been extra Russian,
just starting ship and locking everybody up, not to mention
the number of new viruses that keep dropping in Bolt

(42:48):
like they're working with Costco. Inflation was so bad that
for the first time, guys with gas for as stickers
on their cars actually just wanted gas. Will Smith slapped
his wife's name out of Chris Rock's mouth and with
a third herd shipped the bed. Okay, pollution got so bad.
Microplastics have been found in human blood. We're walking around

(43:10):
half human, half tupperware of hell. Even Queen Elizabeth finally
decided to clock out. But before you start thinking God
that this year is over, just remember one thing. This
year is just like the last one, and next year
it may not be any different. But don't you Fred nothing,
Because as long as we're checking in with each other,
prioritizing our health both physically and mentally, and you know

(43:31):
ass is eating from time to time. Okay, just just
once a year like a physical will be just fine. Okay,
they called me Charlemagne, the God. I'll be back next
year for more Hell of a Week. If guy had
called me since all the time to be sure to
listen to Hell of a Week with Charlemagne to God

(43:51):
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