October 6, 2022 • 26 mins
Hypnotherapy may sound woo-woo, but it can be an effective tool for many things – including stress, anxiety, and strengthening our inner connection. This week, Eva talks to fellow actor and certified hypnotherapist, Peter Facinelli, about the power of positive self-talk and being present in the moment, and how hypnotherapy can reinforce these ideas to help us better connect with ourselves.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hi, everyone, Welcome back to Connections. I'm Eva Longoria. We've
explored connections with a lot of things, but the most
intimate connection is the one we have with ourselves, and
today I wanted to take this thought a bit further
to learn about a new way to strengthen this interconnection
with yourself through hypnotherapy. I feel like comes when you
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say hypnotherapy could sound woo woo, a new age, and like,
definitely not for me. But I've known people who have
stopped smoking because of it, who have lost weight because
of it, and there's so much science behind it, and
I have always been curious about it. And I was
doubly excited to talk to our guest today because I
had no idea he was in this space. So I'm
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very excited to welcome Peter Factionelli to the show. You
may know I'm as an actor and a writer and
producer from Twilight and can't hardly wait, and I had
a poster of him in my house growing up. But
I invited him here today to hear about the journey
he's gone over in the last couple of years and
how he's improved his interconnection through hypno therapy. So welcome
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to the show, Peter, thank you so much for having
me on. That's so excited. Whenever I got a call
and they're like, hey, Valone, Gloria wants to talk to you,
I'm like, of course, anytime. Why it's always it's been
so many years. It feels like with COVID, like you're like, oh,
is that a year ago? But it's always been. Now
it's like three years because for two years nobody left
their houses. So it's, uh, it's nice that we're all
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getting back into the swing of things. And yeah, talking
about COVID. What happened during COVID For y'all you have
older children, Yeah, yeah, my kids are a bit of
My youngest is fifteen, so she was home like doing
zoom school and stuff like you. I'm so used to
going and doing and not really being just just doing,
you know, and uh, and so it kind of felt
like the hamster wheel broke in a good way though, too,
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because I was so used to just running, running, running,
that I had nowhere to go. So this is like
everything just stopped. And so for me, because I couldn't
go out, I went in and so I ended doing
a lot of meditation and uh, and I was always
interested in hypnotherapy. I've used it before. When I was younger,
I was super, super shy, and so when I wanted
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to be an actor, it was a hindrance, you know,
getting up in front of people feeling like all eyes
are on me. I wasn't like the kid that's like
look at me. I was like the opposite, like, don't
look at me. So when I was like nineteen and
I was an acting class, I don't know how I
stumbled across the hypnotherapist, but I went to go see
him and it really helped me. It helped me with
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performance anxiety, shutting off the people looking at me and
just zoning in on the scenes and giving me that focus.
So throughout my career I would use it for certain
projects or sometimes you have like so much dialogue and
you're like, I don't know how I'm going to memorize
all that. You try to you talk yourself out of it,
and then hypnotherapy was always like a help for me
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in those situations. So it's been a minute, yeah, But
during COVID, I actually thought, well, I have the time,
and why don't I learn it? So I became as
certified as a hypnotherapist. I mean, I'm not that I
hung up a sign and I'm like seeing patients, but
I have used it for friends and I've used it
for family, because look, I'm a firm believer that whether
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you think you can or you think you can't, you're
right right, And a lot of times the negative speak
or the thought pattern of oh I can't do this
or I'm not good enough for that, like it sets
limits on you. So being able to change that through
meditation or hypnotherapy, they're very similar really, because what it
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does is it just puts your brain frequency in a
slower state. And then as a when you're under hypnosis,
there are suggestions that you get from your hypnotherapist or
if I'm doing it for myself, I'll make myself a tape.
And then basically you're talking to your subconscious and your
subconscious runs everything, I mean from your heart beat two.
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A lot of people don't think about that, like most
of your body is run by your subconscious, breathing, breathing, digesting.
You're not sitting there going oh, hold on, I got
to really focus on digesting this lunch that I just had.
Your body is running all of these programs inside of you,
and so whenever you have conscious thoughts, it seeps into
the subconscious. Right. So a lot of times, like if
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you're not confident, it's because something happened where you felt
not confident, and then you've told yourself the story that
you're not confident in these situations or I'm shy. So
then all of a sudden, through repetition of thinking that way,
you subconsciously create those things in your life. And then
you prove to yourself that you're right because you set
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yourself up for it. Right, So in a way to
talk to your subconscious to let those things go, or
to play a new tape, then you're able to change
the programs because you could sit there and say over
and over, but if you're not believing it, then it's
not Yeah. We had Dr Brian Weiss on the show.
Do you know Dr Brian Weiss. He's the leader of
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past life regression. So he does a form of hypnotherapy
to get you to explore past trauma beyond this life.
And he was saying, because I was like, I don't
think you're gonna be able to hypnotize me. He's like,
do you meditate? And I said, yeah, I meditate every
but he goes, it's just taking that one step further. Yeah.
Have you ever done hip noses before? I mean just
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with that with the past life regression with him? Yeah,
because if you do, Hip knows it honestly, it's like
the best nap ever. Like like you you go like
you know, you take a deep nap, take a deep nap,
and you wake up You're like, whoa that was Like
I was out. I was deep. Like you get so relaxed.
It feels like a massage for your soul. It's really
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a beautiful thing when it's done well, it's like you
wake up from it going, oh, I feel because you
feel heavier when you're with like in a deeper state
when you're under. And sometimes you'll remember some things and
sometimes you won't. It doesn't really matter what your conscious
mind remembers because your subconscious picks up everything. That's so
when you say that because I said some ib I
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was talking doing the session, and after session, I said,
but do you think I do you think I said this?
Because I was just doing that today and it's like
fresh in my mind. He goes. Your conscious mind will
always try to explain away what you remember to what
you didn't and he's like, don't worry, you don't think
about that. Yeah, it's like when you walk into a room,
your subconscious scans the room and it sees everything, right,
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every detail. Think of it as a computer. Your processor
of your conscious mind can't process all of that information,
so it narrows it down into what information you actually need,
and then everything else that kind of just throws out,
But your subconscious is recording it, you know, And so
you actually were put under, you can remember things that
your conscious mind can't remember because it's all there, it's
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all stored. So just think of it as like a
computer that like the main processor you can only have
so many windows open, but then like the background processors
kind of like way more gigabytes, way more memory, way
more ram and it's tapping into that, you know. And listen,
people tap into that through prayer, through meditation. So hypnosis
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is just another way in I liken it to like
your conscious mind is like a bouncer at a club,
right and it's sitting there trying to go You can't
get in. This isn't real and there's stupid. Yeah, hypnosis
isn't not gonna work on me and this is silly,
and so it sits there. And there's two things. There's
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two ways to get into the club. It's you either
put that bouncer to sleep. So when you're working with somebody,
you can put them in a very relaxed state and
then they kind of drift off and then you can
get sneaking around them and talk to the subconscious mind
because you got around the conscious mind. Or sometimes people
are very stubborn and they're just too rash for relaxation
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that way, so you give it a task, sometimes an hypnosis.
If I'm reading the person, I'll go, okay, I think
that they'll respond more to this type. And so you'll
give that person a task to do, like counting down,
or sometimes an activity of like okay, I want you
to visualize a board and you're just gonna write the
alphabet like the letter A and then erase it and
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then the letter B. And you give them that thing
to focus on, and then that puts them into a drifty,
kind of sleepier state. After a while, they get bored,
so then they relaxed. That would be my husband. My
husband wand fall asleep. Do you have a lot of
people who fall us just fall asleep. Yeah, that's okay too,
because if your conscious mind falls asleep, your subconscious mind,
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like I said, is already listening. Is that you know.
Have you ever had its own say how did you
sleep last night? And you're like, I don't know I
was sleeping, But if you had a bad night's sleep,
you would know because your subconscious mind would tell you
while I was tossing, I was turning. So it's like
it's just like you're subconscious knows so much more than
your conscious mind. I feel like that's an American thing
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when they how did you sleep last night? In Mexico,
there's a saying that's the saying is go mo money
ceased there? How did you wake? How? How how did
you wake this morning? And it such a makes way
more sense, yes, because I'm always like I don't know
I was sleeping. And in Mexico there're songs that say,
you know, the morning has come and it's about waking,
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not sleeping, and and so when you run into somebody
in the morning, they go, you know, how did how
did you wake this this morning? And you're like, oh, yeah,
actually yeah I will. I woke up rather nicely. I
think most live of our lives. There's all stem from
the subconscious because even when we're growing up, like we
learned things subconsciously and then when you have an outlook
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on life. So I feel like him knows his hope
a lot and and changing those deep seated beliefs. But
also I mean, I mean I studied it for months
and months, and it's not like a course you do
in a in a weekend. Like the course that I
did was like, you know, six months long, very intense.
And I've seen hYP Knows his help people with so much,
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from like acne to anxiety, smoking. A lot of times
your body if it's sick or you have active or something,
it's coming from stress or it's coming from something inside
of you that's coming out on your skin. Or anxiety
or depression or smoking is also subconscious. So like being
able to dive into that and then work within the
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computer program of the subconscious and shut things off and
give it suggestions helps. Like I remember is doing one
movie once and there's so much dialogue and I was like,
we're starting so soon, there's no way I'm gonna be
able to do this. And then after a few hYP
Knows sessions, like I believe that could, you know. And
I was actually suggested to actually look at that dialogue
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and get excited that I had so much diale. So
the more dialogue I had, then I felt even more excited,
you know, sort of like scared of it, and then
it became easier to learn because I was excited by it.
So it's just reframing your your mind. And the people
are like, well, I can't be hypnotized, and everybody can
be hypnotized. Yeah, a lot of people think it is
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the movie version of like the swinging pendulum and you're
laying on a couch, and that's not it's not, it's not. Actually,
there's nothing if I if I do hypnosis with somebody,
there's nothing that I can force them to do. It's
like a two way street. That person has to show
up and want these suggestions and they have to want
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to have those changes implemented, and then they work with them,
so they're actually doing the work. I'm just kind of
like helping them, you know, with those beliefs. But I
could never be like, what's your favorite sports team and
get them to like cheer person sports team that they hate,
you know, because if there's a fight there and they're
not a willing participant, then they'll reject it. Yeah, like
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the ruin was it was it the eighties when they
would do those like I'm act like a chicken on
a stage. But even those people they were conscious, but
they were also kind of not faking it but a
willing participant and like, oh, okay, I'll play this. It's
almost like playing a game. If I said, even, I
want to play this game with you, you know, and
I want you to just walk around and act like
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a chicken, right, and okay, it's just a fun game.
So I'll play it, and then you'll do it. And
then people are like, oh, she was hypnotized, but through
the hypnosis, I'm not making you do anything that you
really don't want to do or participate in. And then
they also have had times where like someone will bite
into an onion and and it's like an apple, but
that person like if I said to you right now,
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I want you to think of like close your eyes
for a second and just think of a lemon, right,
and then think of like cutting that lemon in half,
and then think of smelling that lemon, and then take
that lemon and open your mouth and just squeeze it
down your into your mouth and let that just go
down your throat right and after a while you just
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if you really concentrate on that, like you'll start your
saliva glands will start to swallow like water. Yeah, it waters.
So your brain doesn't know the difference between imagining something
and actually physically having something. That's why you can watch
a movie and you can get sucked into the movie
because you're sitting there going, oh my god, don't you know,
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don't go down that street, or you get scared, and
you're having all these emotions that you know aren't real
that there actors, but you're imagining it so and you're
feeling and you're allowing yourself to participate. Because at any
moment you could be like, okay, this is just a movie.
I have to take a minute, and I know it's
not real, so I gotta gather myself, you know, and
you can break out of it. But the fun is
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of watching a movie is participating in it. So like
through it Noses, you're using your imagination. You're participated in
your being able to experience things that your mind thinks
are actually happening, and then when you come out it's
kind of like when people play sports and they're imagining
that game in their mind over and over so that
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by the time they play the game, it's not a
scary thing anymore, you know what I mean, because they've
played out that scenario so many times in their mind
that they've rehearsed it. So the mind is a great office. Well,
you've said before, like conscious living is that is that
where you're like, you don't have to be hypnotized all
the time or in hypno therapy for life to have
you know, conscious living? Right? No, I think conscious living
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to me just means like being aware, being able to
be in the present moment. It's difficult because your mind
always wants to be in the past or the future.
It's always going in past, future, past, future. Oh I've
seen this before, so that it'll probably end up like
this because of what I've seen before, or I'm living
in the future of if I do X, Y and Z,
I'll get to this. But the present moment then becomes
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diluted and you're And it's that's why I love acting
so much, because I feel like with acting you're forced
to be present. It's one of the few things where
you're just kind of like living on the razor's edge
of being present every moment when you're doing it. Well,
you know, so you have you ever heard of Dr
Joe to spends a h I love Dr Joe to Spencer. Yeah,
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look at the job to Joe to spends a where
because he's pretty fascinating and fantastic, but he talks about
that all the time. Just kind of living in the
being aware of of yourself throughout the day. So it's
almost like when you wake up, Uh, pretend like you're
a person that's studying Eva Longoria or studying Peter Fashi
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and just kind of like, oh, what's he going to
eat for breakfast today? And what are his thoughts today?
Because his whole thing was Look, if I'm giving a
speech and I'm always picking my nose and I don't
know it, then you know I'm doing the subconscious behavior
that I'm not aware of. But if I sit back
and I'm able to watch videos of myself doing the
speech and I go, oh, I was pick my nose.
I gotta be more conscious of that. So then when
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he does it next time, he is aware of it.
Then you can start to make the changes. Right, So
like in order to make it change, you have to
first observe. So the first step is observe your thoughts.
So if you were a person that wasn't half full,
and it's half empty all the time, and you start
to realize, well, every time I got a call, I
think this isn't gonna work out, or this isn't gonna
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work out this, and then it doesn't work out because
it wants to prove me right, so that I can
hold on to that belief. But what if I change
my perspective? What if I can observe that next time
I think, well, this isn't gonna work out to go
that was the past. Now in my future anything is possible.
So I'm not going to base it on anything in
the past. Thing more, I'm gonna start to observe, and
any time that thought comes up, you change it. You
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start to think a different way, and then you start
thinking what if it could And then all of a
sudden something does. You're like, oh wow, that happened and
it actually did work out. Now I can start to
form new beliefs. The saying is if you look in
the mirror and you want the person in the in
the mirror to smile. What do you have to do?
You have to smile, and then the mirror will reflect that.
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And we're taught to go out into the world and
if something happens, then you form a belief on it, right,
But it's actually backwards because because of that belief, the
mirror responds, which is the universe and your life and
all of those things show up to prove you right, right,
and then you have you reinforce that belief. That sounds
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a little because I believe it, but that also when
I tell people that, so people were like, that's I mean,
I try to think. I mean I think positively, and
positive things aren't happening to me. And well that's because
well two things. One, it's like you could sit there
and go, everything's gonna work out for me, Everything's gonna
work out me. But you're just consciously saying something that
you don't subconsciously believe, right. So in order for you
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to actually have those things to show up, you have
to believe it even when the mirror is showing you
something different, you know, because it's very easy to go,
oh see that happening. I keep saying this, but it
keeps showing up. This way, think of it as like
your reality having a lag time. So if you start
to shift your belief, it's gonna take time for you
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to actually start to really believe it, to really see
the result. And so the universal be like testing you, like, well,
how are you gonna respond to it? It's not there yet.
And when you start to default and go, see, I
knew it things don't work out for me, then you're
just reinforcing that again, and then you're back into that loop.
I mean, there is a you know, the saying fake
it till you make it, but it's like it's really
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about seeing things in a different perspective. Right, So like
maybe you think things don't work out for me, well
what does work out for you? Because there's nothing in
your life that never works out for you, right, So
then you start to go, okay, well this is my
life worked out. That my life worked out, and then
you start to focus on those things. If you think
of like the universe is like uh Netflix, right or TikTok.
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Think of it as TikTok, and TikTok gives you an algorithm.
Whatever you're watching tip top will give you more of
whatever you're focused on in life. The universe I believe
will give you more of So you have to shift
the focus and you have to work on the subconscious beliefs,
not just conscious. Yeah, stop taking emotional inventory of why
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why do I believe that? Why? The question is, yeah,
what what does that believe from? Why am I thinking
that way? And uh? And then once you observe it,
then you have the power to change it. But if
you're not observing it, then you're just living the same
program you did yesterday, in the same program you did
the day before. And then you're going, why is my
life never changes? And why is it always the same?
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Because because your programs are just running, you know, all
day long, and it's hard, Like I'll snap in and
out of it. I remember reading The Power Now, and
it freaked me out because I'd be like, Okay, I'm
in that, I'm now, this is now, and then like
I would close back, and then at three hours later,
I'll be like, oh no, it's now again. But I
missed the last three hours of now, so like like
I would jump ahead three hours and be present again.
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And and but it's about short in the distance between
observing the present moment until you're just kind of living
in the present moment and observing all the time. You know,
if somebody wants to get a session, how where do
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they go or how do they begin or how does
that journey start? There's hymn a therapist soul over. But
you don't have to even go in person anymore. Like
you could do a zoom session with people. I've done
them on on like zoom or on a on a phone.
They just kind of propped the phone up while I
put them under uh for family and friends, like while
they're in New York. But they found it very helpful.
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My sister, you know, I helped because she was getting
up in the middle of the night and she was like,
I can't stop getting up the middle of night and snacking.
So I hoped her with that because it's a subconscious thing,
right you wake up and your body wants to go,
you know, and instead, you know, I would give her
suggestions that when your feet hit the floor, you know,
it made you really tired and you'd got to bed,
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Or when you get downstairs, when you open the refrigerator,
you you uh for a healthier snack, and just give
her You're basically putting conscious thoughts in the subconscious. So
then when you get to the refrigerator, all of a sudden,
this conscious thought I'll be like, oh, I don't really
want that, I'm gonna have that, you know, Whereas before
the subconscious pattern would be like grab the cake or
grab the you know, peanut butter snacks. And now it's
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just the planting that conscious thought of like now she
has a choice which she didn't have before, you know. Um,
So little things like that. I could give you a
little trick which helps in the morning when I wake up,
you're in a hynagogic state as soon as you wake up,
like you're not fully awake yet. Your mind is just
your mind through the night goes it goes from beta
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to alpha, then it goes down to delta. Then sometimes
it dips and data, which is deep sleep, and you're
going in and out in your r A M. Sleep
between like alpha and data and uh, and when you
come out, it's kind of like your conscious levels coming
out of sleep. And so before you hit full beta,
you're still in a like that hypnogogic state of sleepiness
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when you first wake up. Instead of grabbing your phone,
which is like everybody does. I'm guilty of it too,
Say what time is it and oh my god, I
got fifteen texts already. You wake up and the first
thing you do is just count from fifty down to one.
And it's hard because you'll want to fall back asleep,
you know what I mean, A lot of times you
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will fall back asleep. And if you if you fall
back asleep, start again fifty. Try to get from fifty
down to one. It's and then when you got that,
then you can go from twenty five to one, and
then you can go eventually you can go from ten
to one. So it takes about like three weeks. Every
three weeks, just narrow the number. So start a fifty
down to get to one. Why don't you start lower
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and go higher because you want to train the brain
into staying in that alpha state that you want to
stay in that alpha state, So counting backwards keeps you
in that alpha a state. And that alpha state is
where your subconscious kind of lives, right, So now you
are consciously in the alpha state. So then when you
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get down to one, you could say, give yourself the suggestion,
and this is a very powerful suggestion. You say every day,
in every way, my life gets better and better, and
just say that to yourself every day and every way,
get yeah, and and when you hit one, say that
and then imagine. Use your imagination to envision how your
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day is going to go in a positive way. So
you envision yourself getting up, going to the shower, brushing
your teeth as if you're living your day, you know,
and it takes like five ten minutes. You can speed
through it. But see good things happening in your day.
And it's just some powerful visualization. But in a way
that's in a hypnotic kind of state because you're in
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this alpha state. So if you're starting your day feeling good,
it's the TikTok effect. Those algorithms are gonna give you
things to feel good. Right If you start your day
stressed and frustrated and like I got fifteen calls and
what am I gonna do today? Then you're just like
I wanted to ask you the last question, which is
what's a book you recommend people to read? Doesn't have
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to be with hypno therapy, just like one of your
favorite books that you're like, everybody should read this, I'm
really enjoying. Doctor Joe dispends his work right now, He's
got a ton of books out becoming Supernatural as one
of my faves. Yeah, because it all makes sense, it
really does. And he himself used it because he used
to be this chiropractor and he got it to a
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really bad accident and uh, and they told him he
never walk again, and then they told him he'd have
to do the surgery if he ever thought he was
gonna walk again, but he would probably never walk like properly.
And I mean, the guy was very brave because he said,
I'm not doing the surgeries, which they were like, you're crazy.
And he started meditating and because he was a chiropractor
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and he also studied him noses, he was able to
go inside his mind and rebuild his spine in his mind,
and anytime he had a thought that took him out
of it, he would go start again from the beginning
and he would rebuild his spine again. And then if
something came at and like you know, he thought of
something to focus his mind all of his energy onto
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healing and and recreating the perfect spine. And I think
within six months maybe less, he was up walking, never
had to get a surgery, and since then, I you know,
he's he's had people with stage four cancer who has
done done some of this work and they healed themselves,
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so it's it's super powerful. Look, the body is an
extraordinary machine like it wants to be in balance. It
wants to heal itself if you allow it. You know
what I mean. Thank you so much, Peter for being
on my podcast. Thank you, thank you for sharing your
energy with me. Oh my god, I love you to pieces.
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Hi, everyone, Welcome back to Connections. I'm Eva Longoria. We've
explored connections with a lot of things, but the most
intimate connection is the one we have with ourselves, and
today I wanted to take this thought a bit further
to learn about a new way to strengthen this interconnection
with yourself through hypnotherapy. I feel like comes when you
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say hypnotherapy could sound woo woo, a new age, and like,
definitely not for me. But I've known people who have
stopped smoking because of it, who have lost weight because
of it, and there's so much science behind it, and
I have always been curious about it. And I was
doubly excited to talk to our guest today because I
had no idea he was in this space. So I'm
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very excited to welcome Peter Factionelli to the show. You
may know I'm as an actor and a writer and
producer from Twilight and can't hardly wait, and I had
a poster of him in my house growing up. But
I invited him here today to hear about the journey
he's gone over in the last couple of years and
how he's improved his interconnection through hypno therapy. So welcome
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to the show, Peter, thank you so much for having
me on. That's so excited. Whenever I got a call
and they're like, hey, Valone, Gloria wants to talk to you,
I'm like, of course, anytime. Why it's always it's been
so many years. It feels like with COVID, like you're like, oh,
is that a year ago? But it's always been. Now
it's like three years because for two years nobody left
their houses. So it's, uh, it's nice that we're all
(01:28):
getting back into the swing of things. And yeah, talking
about COVID. What happened during COVID For y'all you have
older children, Yeah, yeah, my kids are a bit of
My youngest is fifteen, so she was home like doing
zoom school and stuff like you. I'm so used to
going and doing and not really being just just doing,
you know, and uh, and so it kind of felt
like the hamster wheel broke in a good way though, too,
(01:52):
because I was so used to just running, running, running,
that I had nowhere to go. So this is like
everything just stopped. And so for me, because I couldn't
go out, I went in and so I ended doing
a lot of meditation and uh, and I was always
interested in hypnotherapy. I've used it before. When I was younger,
I was super, super shy, and so when I wanted
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to be an actor, it was a hindrance, you know,
getting up in front of people feeling like all eyes
are on me. I wasn't like the kid that's like
look at me. I was like the opposite, like, don't
look at me. So when I was like nineteen and
I was an acting class, I don't know how I
stumbled across the hypnotherapist, but I went to go see
him and it really helped me. It helped me with
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performance anxiety, shutting off the people looking at me and
just zoning in on the scenes and giving me that focus.
So throughout my career I would use it for certain
projects or sometimes you have like so much dialogue and
you're like, I don't know how I'm going to memorize
all that. You try to you talk yourself out of it,
and then hypnotherapy was always like a help for me
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in those situations. So it's been a minute, yeah, But
during COVID, I actually thought, well, I have the time,
and why don't I learn it? So I became as
certified as a hypnotherapist. I mean, I'm not that I
hung up a sign and I'm like seeing patients, but
I have used it for friends and I've used it
for family, because look, I'm a firm believer that whether
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you think you can or you think you can't, you're
right right, And a lot of times the negative speak
or the thought pattern of oh I can't do this
or I'm not good enough for that, like it sets
limits on you. So being able to change that through
meditation or hypnotherapy, they're very similar really, because what it
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does is it just puts your brain frequency in a
slower state. And then as a when you're under hypnosis,
there are suggestions that you get from your hypnotherapist or
if I'm doing it for myself, I'll make myself a tape.
And then basically you're talking to your subconscious and your
subconscious runs everything, I mean from your heart beat two.
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A lot of people don't think about that, like most
of your body is run by your subconscious, breathing, breathing, digesting.
You're not sitting there going oh, hold on, I got
to really focus on digesting this lunch that I just had.
Your body is running all of these programs inside of you,
and so whenever you have conscious thoughts, it seeps into
the subconscious. Right. So a lot of times, like if
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you're not confident, it's because something happened where you felt
not confident, and then you've told yourself the story that
you're not confident in these situations or I'm shy. So
then all of a sudden, through repetition of thinking that way,
you subconsciously create those things in your life. And then
you prove to yourself that you're right because you set
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yourself up for it. Right, So in a way to
talk to your subconscious to let those things go, or
to play a new tape, then you're able to change
the programs because you could sit there and say over
and over, but if you're not believing it, then it's
not Yeah. We had Dr Brian Weiss on the show.
Do you know Dr Brian Weiss. He's the leader of
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past life regression. So he does a form of hypnotherapy
to get you to explore past trauma beyond this life.
And he was saying, because I was like, I don't
think you're gonna be able to hypnotize me. He's like,
do you meditate? And I said, yeah, I meditate every
but he goes, it's just taking that one step further. Yeah.
Have you ever done hip noses before? I mean just
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with that with the past life regression with him? Yeah,
because if you do, Hip knows it honestly, it's like
the best nap ever. Like like you you go like
you know, you take a deep nap, take a deep nap,
and you wake up You're like, whoa that was Like
I was out. I was deep. Like you get so relaxed.
It feels like a massage for your soul. It's really
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a beautiful thing when it's done well, it's like you
wake up from it going, oh, I feel because you
feel heavier when you're with like in a deeper state
when you're under. And sometimes you'll remember some things and
sometimes you won't. It doesn't really matter what your conscious
mind remembers because your subconscious picks up everything. That's so
when you say that because I said some ib I
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was talking doing the session, and after session, I said,
but do you think I do you think I said this?
Because I was just doing that today and it's like
fresh in my mind. He goes. Your conscious mind will
always try to explain away what you remember to what
you didn't and he's like, don't worry, you don't think
about that. Yeah, it's like when you walk into a room,
your subconscious scans the room and it sees everything, right,
(06:35):
every detail. Think of it as a computer. Your processor
of your conscious mind can't process all of that information,
so it narrows it down into what information you actually need,
and then everything else that kind of just throws out,
But your subconscious is recording it, you know, And so
you actually were put under, you can remember things that
your conscious mind can't remember because it's all there, it's
(06:57):
all stored. So just think of it as like a
computer that like the main processor you can only have
so many windows open, but then like the background processors
kind of like way more gigabytes, way more memory, way
more ram and it's tapping into that, you know. And listen,
people tap into that through prayer, through meditation. So hypnosis
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is just another way in I liken it to like
your conscious mind is like a bouncer at a club,
right and it's sitting there trying to go You can't
get in. This isn't real and there's stupid. Yeah, hypnosis
isn't not gonna work on me and this is silly,
and so it sits there. And there's two things. There's
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two ways to get into the club. It's you either
put that bouncer to sleep. So when you're working with somebody,
you can put them in a very relaxed state and
then they kind of drift off and then you can
get sneaking around them and talk to the subconscious mind
because you got around the conscious mind. Or sometimes people
are very stubborn and they're just too rash for relaxation
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that way, so you give it a task, sometimes an hypnosis.
If I'm reading the person, I'll go, okay, I think
that they'll respond more to this type. And so you'll
give that person a task to do, like counting down,
or sometimes an activity of like okay, I want you
to visualize a board and you're just gonna write the
alphabet like the letter A and then erase it and
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then the letter B. And you give them that thing
to focus on, and then that puts them into a drifty,
kind of sleepier state. After a while, they get bored,
so then they relaxed. That would be my husband. My
husband wand fall asleep. Do you have a lot of
people who fall us just fall asleep. Yeah, that's okay too,
because if your conscious mind falls asleep, your subconscious mind,
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like I said, is already listening. Is that you know.
Have you ever had its own say how did you
sleep last night? And you're like, I don't know I
was sleeping, But if you had a bad night's sleep,
you would know because your subconscious mind would tell you
while I was tossing, I was turning. So it's like
it's just like you're subconscious knows so much more than
your conscious mind. I feel like that's an American thing
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when they how did you sleep last night? In Mexico,
there's a saying that's the saying is go mo money
ceased there? How did you wake? How? How how did
you wake this morning? And it such a makes way
more sense, yes, because I'm always like I don't know
I was sleeping. And in Mexico there're songs that say,
you know, the morning has come and it's about waking,
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not sleeping, and and so when you run into somebody
in the morning, they go, you know, how did how
did you wake this this morning? And you're like, oh, yeah,
actually yeah I will. I woke up rather nicely. I
think most live of our lives. There's all stem from
the subconscious because even when we're growing up, like we
learned things subconsciously and then when you have an outlook
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on life. So I feel like him knows his hope
a lot and and changing those deep seated beliefs. But
also I mean, I mean I studied it for months
and months, and it's not like a course you do
in a in a weekend. Like the course that I
did was like, you know, six months long, very intense.
And I've seen hYP Knows his help people with so much,
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from like acne to anxiety, smoking. A lot of times
your body if it's sick or you have active or something,
it's coming from stress or it's coming from something inside
of you that's coming out on your skin. Or anxiety
or depression or smoking is also subconscious. So like being
able to dive into that and then work within the
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computer program of the subconscious and shut things off and
give it suggestions helps. Like I remember is doing one
movie once and there's so much dialogue and I was like,
we're starting so soon, there's no way I'm gonna be
able to do this. And then after a few hYP
Knows sessions, like I believe that could, you know. And
I was actually suggested to actually look at that dialogue
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and get excited that I had so much diale. So
the more dialogue I had, then I felt even more excited,
you know, sort of like scared of it, and then
it became easier to learn because I was excited by it.
So it's just reframing your your mind. And the people
are like, well, I can't be hypnotized, and everybody can
be hypnotized. Yeah, a lot of people think it is
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the movie version of like the swinging pendulum and you're
laying on a couch, and that's not it's not, it's not. Actually,
there's nothing if I if I do hypnosis with somebody,
there's nothing that I can force them to do. It's
like a two way street. That person has to show
up and want these suggestions and they have to want
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to have those changes implemented, and then they work with them,
so they're actually doing the work. I'm just kind of
like helping them, you know, with those beliefs. But I
could never be like, what's your favorite sports team and
get them to like cheer person sports team that they hate,
you know, because if there's a fight there and they're
not a willing participant, then they'll reject it. Yeah, like
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the ruin was it was it the eighties when they
would do those like I'm act like a chicken on
a stage. But even those people they were conscious, but
they were also kind of not faking it but a
willing participant and like, oh, okay, I'll play this. It's
almost like playing a game. If I said, even, I
want to play this game with you, you know, and
I want you to just walk around and act like
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a chicken, right, and okay, it's just a fun game.
So I'll play it, and then you'll do it. And
then people are like, oh, she was hypnotized, but through
the hypnosis, I'm not making you do anything that you
really don't want to do or participate in. And then
they also have had times where like someone will bite
into an onion and and it's like an apple, but
that person like if I said to you right now,
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I want you to think of like close your eyes
for a second and just think of a lemon, right,
and then think of like cutting that lemon in half,
and then think of smelling that lemon, and then take
that lemon and open your mouth and just squeeze it
down your into your mouth and let that just go
down your throat right and after a while you just
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if you really concentrate on that, like you'll start your
saliva glands will start to swallow like water. Yeah, it waters.
So your brain doesn't know the difference between imagining something
and actually physically having something. That's why you can watch
a movie and you can get sucked into the movie
because you're sitting there going, oh my god, don't you know,
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don't go down that street, or you get scared, and
you're having all these emotions that you know aren't real
that there actors, but you're imagining it so and you're
feeling and you're allowing yourself to participate. Because at any
moment you could be like, okay, this is just a movie.
I have to take a minute, and I know it's
not real, so I gotta gather myself, you know, and
you can break out of it. But the fun is
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of watching a movie is participating in it. So like
through it Noses, you're using your imagination. You're participated in
your being able to experience things that your mind thinks
are actually happening, and then when you come out it's
kind of like when people play sports and they're imagining
that game in their mind over and over so that
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by the time they play the game, it's not a
scary thing anymore, you know what I mean, because they've
played out that scenario so many times in their mind
that they've rehearsed it. So the mind is a great office. Well,
you've said before, like conscious living is that is that
where you're like, you don't have to be hypnotized all
the time or in hypno therapy for life to have
you know, conscious living? Right? No, I think conscious living
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to me just means like being aware, being able to
be in the present moment. It's difficult because your mind
always wants to be in the past or the future.
It's always going in past, future, past, future. Oh I've
seen this before, so that it'll probably end up like
this because of what I've seen before, or I'm living
in the future of if I do X, Y and Z,
I'll get to this. But the present moment then becomes
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diluted and you're And it's that's why I love acting
so much, because I feel like with acting you're forced
to be present. It's one of the few things where
you're just kind of like living on the razor's edge
of being present every moment when you're doing it. Well,
you know, so you have you ever heard of Dr
Joe to spends a h I love Dr Joe to Spencer. Yeah,
(15:20):
look at the job to Joe to spends a where
because he's pretty fascinating and fantastic, but he talks about
that all the time. Just kind of living in the
being aware of of yourself throughout the day. So it's
almost like when you wake up, Uh, pretend like you're
a person that's studying Eva Longoria or studying Peter Fashi
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and just kind of like, oh, what's he going to
eat for breakfast today? And what are his thoughts today?
Because his whole thing was Look, if I'm giving a
speech and I'm always picking my nose and I don't
know it, then you know I'm doing the subconscious behavior
that I'm not aware of. But if I sit back
and I'm able to watch videos of myself doing the
speech and I go, oh, I was pick my nose.
I gotta be more conscious of that. So then when
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he does it next time, he is aware of it.
Then you can start to make the changes. Right, So
like in order to make it change, you have to
first observe. So the first step is observe your thoughts.
So if you were a person that wasn't half full,
and it's half empty all the time, and you start
to realize, well, every time I got a call, I
think this isn't gonna work out, or this isn't gonna
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work out this, and then it doesn't work out because
it wants to prove me right, so that I can
hold on to that belief. But what if I change
my perspective? What if I can observe that next time
I think, well, this isn't gonna work out to go
that was the past. Now in my future anything is possible.
So I'm not going to base it on anything in
the past. Thing more, I'm gonna start to observe, and
any time that thought comes up, you change it. You
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start to think a different way, and then you start
thinking what if it could And then all of a
sudden something does. You're like, oh wow, that happened and
it actually did work out. Now I can start to
form new beliefs. The saying is if you look in
the mirror and you want the person in the in
the mirror to smile. What do you have to do?
You have to smile, and then the mirror will reflect that.
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And we're taught to go out into the world and
if something happens, then you form a belief on it, right,
But it's actually backwards because because of that belief, the
mirror responds, which is the universe and your life and
all of those things show up to prove you right, right,
and then you have you reinforce that belief. That sounds
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a little because I believe it, but that also when
I tell people that, so people were like, that's I mean,
I try to think. I mean I think positively, and
positive things aren't happening to me. And well that's because
well two things. One, it's like you could sit there
and go, everything's gonna work out for me, Everything's gonna
work out me. But you're just consciously saying something that
you don't subconsciously believe, right. So in order for you
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to actually have those things to show up, you have
to believe it even when the mirror is showing you
something different, you know, because it's very easy to go,
oh see that happening. I keep saying this, but it
keeps showing up. This way, think of it as like
your reality having a lag time. So if you start
to shift your belief, it's gonna take time for you
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to actually start to really believe it, to really see
the result. And so the universal be like testing you, like, well,
how are you gonna respond to it? It's not there yet.
And when you start to default and go, see, I
knew it things don't work out for me, then you're
just reinforcing that again, and then you're back into that loop.
I mean, there is a you know, the saying fake
it till you make it, but it's like it's really
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about seeing things in a different perspective. Right, So like
maybe you think things don't work out for me, well
what does work out for you? Because there's nothing in
your life that never works out for you, right, So
then you start to go, okay, well this is my
life worked out. That my life worked out, and then
you start to focus on those things. If you think
of like the universe is like uh Netflix, right or TikTok.
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Think of it as TikTok, and TikTok gives you an algorithm.
Whatever you're watching tip top will give you more of
whatever you're focused on in life. The universe I believe
will give you more of So you have to shift
the focus and you have to work on the subconscious beliefs,
not just conscious. Yeah, stop taking emotional inventory of why
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why do I believe that? Why? The question is, yeah,
what what does that believe from? Why am I thinking
that way? And uh? And then once you observe it,
then you have the power to change it. But if
you're not observing it, then you're just living the same
program you did yesterday, in the same program you did
the day before. And then you're going, why is my
life never changes? And why is it always the same?
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Because because your programs are just running, you know, all
day long, and it's hard, Like I'll snap in and
out of it. I remember reading The Power Now, and
it freaked me out because I'd be like, Okay, I'm
in that, I'm now, this is now, and then like
I would close back, and then at three hours later,
I'll be like, oh no, it's now again. But I
missed the last three hours of now, so like like
I would jump ahead three hours and be present again.
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And and but it's about short in the distance between
observing the present moment until you're just kind of living
in the present moment and observing all the time. You know,
if somebody wants to get a session, how where do
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they go or how do they begin or how does
that journey start? There's hymn a therapist soul over. But
you don't have to even go in person anymore. Like
you could do a zoom session with people. I've done
them on on like zoom or on a on a phone.
They just kind of propped the phone up while I
put them under uh for family and friends, like while
they're in New York. But they found it very helpful.
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My sister, you know, I helped because she was getting
up in the middle of the night and she was like,
I can't stop getting up the middle of night and snacking.
So I hoped her with that because it's a subconscious thing,
right you wake up and your body wants to go,
you know, and instead, you know, I would give her
suggestions that when your feet hit the floor, you know,
it made you really tired and you'd got to bed,
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Or when you get downstairs, when you open the refrigerator,
you you uh for a healthier snack, and just give
her You're basically putting conscious thoughts in the subconscious. So
then when you get to the refrigerator, all of a sudden,
this conscious thought I'll be like, oh, I don't really
want that, I'm gonna have that, you know, Whereas before
the subconscious pattern would be like grab the cake or
grab the you know, peanut butter snacks. And now it's
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just the planting that conscious thought of like now she
has a choice which she didn't have before, you know. Um,
So little things like that. I could give you a
little trick which helps in the morning when I wake up,
you're in a hynagogic state as soon as you wake up,
like you're not fully awake yet. Your mind is just
your mind through the night goes it goes from beta
(21:46):
to alpha, then it goes down to delta. Then sometimes
it dips and data, which is deep sleep, and you're
going in and out in your r A M. Sleep
between like alpha and data and uh, and when you
come out, it's kind of like your conscious levels coming
out of sleep. And so before you hit full beta,
you're still in a like that hypnogogic state of sleepiness
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when you first wake up. Instead of grabbing your phone,
which is like everybody does. I'm guilty of it too,
Say what time is it and oh my god, I
got fifteen texts already. You wake up and the first
thing you do is just count from fifty down to one.
And it's hard because you'll want to fall back asleep,
you know what I mean, A lot of times you
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will fall back asleep. And if you if you fall
back asleep, start again fifty. Try to get from fifty
down to one. It's and then when you got that,
then you can go from twenty five to one, and
then you can go eventually you can go from ten
to one. So it takes about like three weeks. Every
three weeks, just narrow the number. So start a fifty
down to get to one. Why don't you start lower
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and go higher because you want to train the brain
into staying in that alpha state that you want to
stay in that alpha state, So counting backwards keeps you
in that alpha a state. And that alpha state is
where your subconscious kind of lives, right, So now you
are consciously in the alpha state. So then when you
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get down to one, you could say, give yourself the suggestion,
and this is a very powerful suggestion. You say every day,
in every way, my life gets better and better, and
just say that to yourself every day and every way,
get yeah, and and when you hit one, say that
and then imagine. Use your imagination to envision how your
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day is going to go in a positive way. So
you envision yourself getting up, going to the shower, brushing
your teeth as if you're living your day, you know,
and it takes like five ten minutes. You can speed
through it. But see good things happening in your day.
And it's just some powerful visualization. But in a way
that's in a hypnotic kind of state because you're in
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this alpha state. So if you're starting your day feeling good,
it's the TikTok effect. Those algorithms are gonna give you
things to feel good. Right If you start your day
stressed and frustrated and like I got fifteen calls and
what am I gonna do today? Then you're just like
I wanted to ask you the last question, which is
what's a book you recommend people to read? Doesn't have
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to be with hypno therapy, just like one of your
favorite books that you're like, everybody should read this, I'm
really enjoying. Doctor Joe dispends his work right now, He's
got a ton of books out becoming Supernatural as one
of my faves. Yeah, because it all makes sense, it
really does. And he himself used it because he used
to be this chiropractor and he got it to a
(24:35):
really bad accident and uh, and they told him he
never walk again, and then they told him he'd have
to do the surgery if he ever thought he was
gonna walk again, but he would probably never walk like properly.
And I mean, the guy was very brave because he said,
I'm not doing the surgeries, which they were like, you're crazy.
And he started meditating and because he was a chiropractor
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and he also studied him noses, he was able to
go inside his mind and rebuild his spine in his mind,
and anytime he had a thought that took him out
of it, he would go start again from the beginning
and he would rebuild his spine again. And then if
something came at and like you know, he thought of
something to focus his mind all of his energy onto
(25:20):
healing and and recreating the perfect spine. And I think
within six months maybe less, he was up walking, never
had to get a surgery, and since then, I you know,
he's he's had people with stage four cancer who has
done done some of this work and they healed themselves,
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so it's it's super powerful. Look, the body is an
extraordinary machine like it wants to be in balance. It
wants to heal itself if you allow it. You know
what I mean. Thank you so much, Peter for being
on my podcast. Thank you, thank you for sharing your
energy with me. Oh my god, I love you to pieces.
(26:04):
Thank you so much for listening. I'm happy to be
connected with you. Connections with Evil and Gloria is a
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