April 21, 2023 • 48 mins
In this week's episode the girls return with some life updates before returning to the roots of their friendship playing one of the host's favorite card games: We're Not Really Strangers. The hosts discuss everything from first impressions, to first loves, to the way that differences in personalities can affect friendships.
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Speaker 1 (00:20):
Hello guys, my voice is back.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Yay.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
It was really awkward because I was like, let me
explain on the story on like the Instagram story, why
we're not having the episode last week. So I found
a picture and I typed out like extinistan slidest, so
we're not recording this week. She can't talk. But I
don't know if I like, for like, if I imagine
typing it out, because two hours later, after we had
(00:47):
like seven hundred views in our story, I look at
it and it's like, just the picture. This is really
awkward because like it wasn't like a picture you would
post like on its own. There's no no words or nothing,
just a picture of us.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
And it's like really really normal selfie.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Yeah, it felt very weird to witness, so that I
have to reposted it and be like, oh, this is awkward.
Disregard the last but yeah, but yeah, my voice is
back and back to talking all the time. And it's
warm outside. Woo, it's so warm.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
It's like, what is it today? Sixty four is gonna
get up to I'm gonna go to the Empire State
Building on a date with my new executive guard. Wooo,
so excited. It makes me feel so good because the
Empire State Building is literally the most tourist you thing
you could ever do in your entire life. But I
like doing it because I got They send me this
little exec pass every year that I can just like
kind of swipe and get in for free whenever I want,
(01:33):
so I just and I get to skip the whole line,
and it's really really cool. It makes me feel like
I'm doing Genie Plus and Disney World like as.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
A reference only you can understand. I was even there
once twice when I was like literally two years old
and for graduation and my hat almost flew. Was it
minor hint Camden's? I think Camdens?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
It was Camden's hat that almost flew, literally And you
can get charged for that too. If anybody sees it
was you doing it, they can file a report and
you could get a fine because I can't think about it,
think about how hard that would hit someone's head off the.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Like it's med at that point because oh.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Cam did, He's so funny. But that was really fun.
We did graduation pictures me Sydney and like our just
friend who is engineering school, but he wasn't even in
our school, which is hilarious. He was in the engineering school,
but we all went with our moms to go to
the Empire State Building and to take graduation pics. I
hated my hair. I can't use any of those pictures
because I hate my hair in all of them.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Yeah, I don't like the way that I was looking.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Does that ever happen to you Where you go and
it's a really important shoot and you do your makeup
and you think you look great, and then you go
and then you actually get to the shoot and you're like,
I look so freaking ugly. I can't use any of
these your makeup.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
And you're like, oh, I can't have pictures.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
The host later and you look at them, you're like, ever, Yeah,
like an eyelash is coming off, or like your lipstick
a smiles you or something in your teeth that just
make the pictures completely unusable.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Your hair looks weird.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yes, for me, it's mostly my hair because I have
really thin hair. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Oh yeah, so graduation pictures. It was really funny because,
like I will, I'm gonna apprehends up talking about dating
life on this now because people keep listening to it
in normal business any.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
People keep d wait, you have to talk about the I.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Got a DM. Okay, side story to the side story.
I got a DM this weekend from someone who listened
to the podcast and that she's very sweet. Like they
were like, I know you're going through some very dark
times right now, but there will be light at the
end of the tunnel and things will be okay. You
will make it through it. And I was like, damn,
do I sound not to press on the podcast. I
just tried to be honest. You note, I swear it
(03:28):
was bad for a second there, but we have made
it through the other side. We are happier now, we
are joyful. We are over it. Over There's a Summer
Walker album called over It. And she was right, because
we are over it. Wait, so now was what was
the story? Ilse?
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Yeah, So this guy that I was talking to, we like, no,
you want to see someone's real before you go out
with them, so we're going to FaceTime. That was like,
that's kind of weird. So we'd sent like a pictures
I got showing pictures and I accidentally because we were
talking about graduation, so I was showing him a graduation
and actually sent a picture of that picture of me
(04:03):
shoving the hot dog down my throat. No, you know
when you have like when your pictures are on, say
to the I's like clicking buch of times for them
to load. I guess I accidentally clicked over one instead
of that one, so that's the one that sent. He
probably was like one what and he applied. He's like, ooh,
that's a big bite. I was like, oh yeah, if
you are for context, I love Yankee Stadium hot dogs.
(04:27):
Like if I go to a Yankees game, I'm for
a stare for the hot dogs and then for the game, like,
oh my god, they're so good, and they're like a
foot long. It's like a foot long subway, but it's
a hot dog.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Five long.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Yes, always, So it was like a foot long hot
dog and I was like putting it in my mouth
because I didn't want to get the ketch up on
my makeup. And Stah took a picture, so it's actually
shoving a hot dog down my throat. And I send
him that picture. He's like, oh, big bite, and I
was like.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Oh wow, that's that's a big bite. You know when
you're like, oh, don't get the wrong impression. I would
only do that for the hot dog.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
And I got told like I like to argue, I mean,
they weren't wrong, but in.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Fact, you know, Sydney's dating apps provide me the entertainment
for a lifetime. She just got a text also like
earlier today saying you look like you have a toxic face.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Pretty though what I was like that even mean, I
mean thanks, but what I can't believe I'm here trying
to be healthy and I'm getting dogs before I even
said to the arena, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The only dating app I ever had was Tinder, and
the amount of O like unsolicited pictures I would get
on that app is actually disturbed.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
No, I can't stand Tindering, you'll. I've had it for
like a week freshman year and actually scared me. I
will never ever done with that app again. It actually
freaks me out, honestly, And like I used to love
Bumble because I liked the idea of like girls messaging first.
But I don't know if it's because I met my
et some mumble and I'm now traumatized, but I just
don't I don't like the yellow. I don't know. The
(05:54):
app doesn't do it for me anymore. So we're a
hinge girl and the r app are a a and
allowed to say the word. Apparently that's so weird.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Why not, I wonder, I mean, everybody knows what you're
talking about.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
It like to be exclusive and like, mind you, I
get actually one match on that app every sixteen years.
But it's the it's the journeys. This could lead me
to Chris Evans, this is can leading to Drake, so
we're gonna use it. But yeah, I'm a Hinge Galley
for now. And like, I don't know if you guys
know this, because don't know if I ever said it,
but I was in a celibacy phase celibacy era for
(06:28):
about five months, and at first it's looking a little
spooky because I just I think I'm so used to
being in relationships because I was in one for the
last six years with different people. But six years, and
I don't know, this was probably the most restorative time
of my life. This is the first time that I've
been alone from extended period of time since like my
first boyfriend in high school. When I was telling someone
(06:51):
this earlier, it was like the biggest thing wasn't like
not having similar like not being intimate with somewhere or
being physical like that stuff. Like the desire to do
any of that stuff after like two weeks, like at
that point she didn't really care anymore, Like I know,
desire to do it whatsoever. It's more so now that
like I know I can be on my own, and
I know that I'm whole on my own, Like I
feel like perfect content in life right now, not really,
(07:12):
but like in the stuff that I can give from
a relationship. I know I can give to myself, like
self love, self care, like I can buy myself dinner,
hang out myself, myself praised luck, you know whatever. So
now if I do break that, or I do allow
someone into my life, or I do get in to relationship,
I know it's not because I feel like I need
someone or needs be a relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It's because you actually feel like that person might compliment your.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Own and they add value. Like I'm never gonna be
someone that subtracts in my life anymore because I know
what I can give myself, so I would allow anyone
to come in and like encroach on that. So now
I'm only adding people that add value to my life,
not people that take away. So I know that I'm
whole without them, you know. So I think that's a
good mindset to go into dating with. So now girls
bounce streets, we outside.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
You are the perfect representation of in a literal way,
not like a relationship way or a metaphorical way. You
are the definition of There's a difference between the loan
and lonely. You know, you can be by yourself, like
in your room watching TV, you know, and napping and
doing things for your own and self care. You don't
always constantly need the support and the encouragement and the like.
You don't need to be feeded by people around you.
(08:15):
Whether I just say feeded, I literally.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Just say feed because you were like feeded?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Did I literally just say feeded? That's actually so annoying
that I just said that. Whereas we all scle we
need them. You don't have to constantly be fed by
other people in your life that don't add value. You
find the value in yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And that's a very important period scenario. Feel like going
now that I'm open stating again, like I just feel
like if it doesn't work, galaicate boo, whoever, like, move on?
Speaker 3 (08:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Seven? But what was I gonna say? What were we
talking about?
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Yeah, I think I realized that I thought that I
would be lonely being alone, but like I felt more
lonely in my relationships because I had such high actually
don't et sench were actually health. I had such love
expectations they still weren't being met. Where it was like
I have someone, I'm attracted to them, I want to
give them like love and care and comfort and all
(09:09):
this stuff. Like I'm putting my all into this relationship
and they're giving me nothing. That felt lonely because it
was like why am I putting in all this work?
And like I thought they liked me blah blah blah.
So like it's like having a cookie and not being
able to eat it, or like being constantly fed but
still being hungry. It's like something wasn't giving, it wasn't fulfilling,
it wasn't substantiating, and I felt like I was going
(09:29):
crazy and I was always upset and like having to
wake up and like look for a text, or like
going to bed upset and crying because they didn't text
me back, or they're out in the blah blah, not
having to deal with any of that. It doesn't even
feel lonely. I feel like at peace and like that
piece is something I do not ever want to give
up again. Hints better come correct or you're getting kicked out. Yeah,
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Sanity and peace are so important with just with yourself
in general. That's why Sendy and I always say that
you know, you have to be okay being alone before
you can be with some body else. And that's not
to say because also a couple of episodes ago, Sidney
and I had a conversation where we concluded that the
theory you have to love yourself before loving someone else
isn't exactly true because you have to keep in mind
(10:11):
people with like depression, anxiety, and just like people who
are going through a hard time in general where they
don't have the utmost of love for themselves, like of
course they're so worthy of love and come love other people.
So we kind of debunked out a couple episodes ago.
But I think where Sidney and I kind of we
don't don't We didn't really debunk it. I think we
just made a correction. We were like, you have to
be okay being independent and alone before you can fully
be in a healthy relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I think that's what we decided at the end, and
like no one never has one hundred percent and self love.
We all have self doubt, yeah, right, moments of like
insecurity or just like sadness. I feel like that whole
And that Also, it's like that's saying like you have
to love yourself for others love you implies that you're
not worthy of love unless you're X kind of way. Yeah,
you're worthy of love no matter where you are in
your life at what point you know?
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So ill to that statement.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Also, that counteracts a lot of really like healthy habits
that you having your life, like therapy, for one, you
know what I mean, You shouldn't go to therapy with
the intention of, like, Okay, you know, in three weeks,
I'm not going to need therapy. You know. You should
go to therapy with the like ideal that I'm gonna
you know, better myself and grow. And you really shouldn't
(11:14):
put a deadline on it because that's not healthy, you know.
So when you say stuff like you can only love
somebody else if you love yourself, that puts a lot
of pressure on you to like fully be mentally like
healthy and love yourself, you know, and that it never
works out like that because that's not real life.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Period.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
So today's episode, We're going to get into the topic
a little bit early because it might take a little bit,
but I'm really excited about this one. Sidney's a genius
and she came up with this.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Saraly barked, no, I tell you, she physically barked when
I told I was like, we should do that. Literally,
I was like, Okay, she's very exciting.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I'm really excited. What we're gonna do this episode is
Sydney and I for the first time, because we've never
played this together outside of this podcast, is we're going
to play We're Not Really Strangers, which is the game,
and if you're not familiar, I'm going to tell you
a little bit what it is about because I play
this with like other people, and also I play this
in a relationship and I play this at parties, which
(12:14):
is certainly interesting. But I've never played this with Sydney
because we're so close and we're not strangers. So this
game is kind of a mood point with us. So
it's going to be really really fun, and we're also
going to do it a little differently for the sake
of time, Like this episode is not going to be
three hours long. Please don't go away. It's still going
to be an hour, and we are gonna just do
it a little bit differently. So this game is purpose driven,
(12:36):
like you can't really win, there's no winner, and you
just basically ask each other very insightful questions. But there
are three levels that allow you to deepen your existing
relationships and create new ones. So you play there is
three levels. Sydney and I we changed it. You have
to do like minimum of fifteen cards per level. We're
not doing that. We're doing two cars person level.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
It takes when you play this normally, it takes about
an hour and a half if you do the whole thing,
or like two hours, and that's if you do it fast.
And Sydy and I we love to go on rants
and we love to so you know, it's gonna definitely
take an hour. We're doing two cards per person per level,
so four cards in total per level. And then so
(13:19):
there has to be like a player A and a
player B. So for this game, I'll designate myself as
player A and sneylway player B. You alternate back and
forth until the minimum of each level is done, and
then you can advance to the next level. You can
also what the cards that you ask you can ought
to answer them as well. So after I ask you
the question and you answer them, that I can be like, oh,
(13:41):
I would like to put my input into. And then
there's a final card. So after we're done all the
three levels, there's one final card and I'm going to
keep it a secret, but it involves the written word,
which is very exciting.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
The written word. It does involve the poetry. No, you
have to write down stad that written word. No.
Speaker 5 (14:00):
Nothing.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
There's no religion in this game, I promise. So the
first level is perception, So how others see you? So
how Sydney and I are going to be playing? Level
one is some of the questions are phrase like, oh,
what do you think I do for a living? You
look like an athlete? Sidney and I obviously know what
each other do for a living, so we're not We're
going to be like when you first met me, what
did you think I did for a living? Like? What
did you think of me? Then it's going to be
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all about first impressions. Level two is about connections. Who
are you really asking the rarely asked questions? Connecting on
a deeper level? And level three is about reflection and
reflecting on the actual game. Do you have any questions
before we begin? No, so he just asked your other
questions basically, yeah, But then we can choose to answer
the questions that we ask as well. You can go
(14:42):
for so sin Now, Sidney's player A and I am
player B.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Officially, what is red? One is white?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Don't look at them?
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Aren't you supposed to look? I have to ask you.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Yeah, but.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
That's kind of easy. Rate your dancing skills on scale
of one to ten, on the kind of three answers
out loud, one, two, three, six. I can shake it,
actually no, I could shake it harder.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
You can professionally shake it too.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I can shave. I can shake it in the studio.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Oh my god, Sindy is not a stripper.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Sorry, Oh yeah, no, no, no, I know. I dance my
whole life. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
When I when I said professionally, I mean that she
literally took professional.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Like I dance like jazz, like ballet. I'm classically trained. Yes, okay, yes,
I'm super clear. Yeah. But I think it's because one
thing is like because I'm so used to like dancing choreography,
like I guess improv. Improv is mostly skilled, So like
when I go to like parties and stuff, I'm like
five six, you know, like I wish I could be
(15:43):
more spontaneous and more like.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Now you explain your number, so my number is about.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Sorry, no, I wish you could see how her dances
at the club. She wasn't be looking at herself putting
her hair.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Sorry, if you hear me coughing in the background, it
is because I'm going to try to take out as
much as my coughing as I possibly can. But I
developed a cough this weekend. I thought I had COVID,
but luckily I do not, and it is just a
very wet cough. So I'm very sorry, Superhero you describe
it as because it's very flemmy. I'm so sorry. I
would describe my dance skiels as a six because professionally
(16:24):
I only did dance in relation to musical theaters, so
I was also working on like singing and acting, and
those always to a priority for me over dancing, So
I was never an actual dancer. I never like was
the student choreographer. I took dance lessons for I'm pretty
sure like eight or nine years, but again that was
all like musical theater dancing basically, and I just didn't
really care that much about it. I was like that
(16:45):
girl in the back of the class. It was like,
and when it comes to clubs and stuff, I just
feel very confident. But I think that's less about my dancing,
and I just think I'm really hot.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
No, if you ever look at Sarah dance, Sarah is
the only person in the room. And Sarah's rad She's
the lily petting her hair and she's like, yes.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
I'm main character syndrome, and I very much have that.
Oh got scener? Are you ready for your Yeah? Okay,
do you think voy crack? Do you think I fall
in love easily?
Speaker 4 (17:13):
Why?
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Or why not?
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Oh? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Why because I know you two. I think you know
if you like or don't like someone very quickly, like
with actually within four minutes. So when you do like someone,
I think you do like them a lot. Yeah. I
get the so easily.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I like this guy. I found out he was bow legged.
I also I also am buugged gluten free. You get
the room, we don't stop. No, okay, well that okay,
there was this guy. I actually did like him because
he had the crosser puzzles together, and that was really
cute to me. But he was gluten free and not
you know, he wasn't gluten free. He had celiacs, which
like sels disease. I'm not saying I didn't like him
because he had, but like, it's just so hard to
(17:56):
go out with someone and not.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Eat bread, especially in New York, you know, they serve
be bread ever since.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And it was like not even like he like would
get like a little stomach ache, like he would like
violently throw up if you like, like if I had
bread and kissed him, he'd throw up. And that's not
it actually wasn't the issue, the issue in the situation ship.
It was just like that that was the indicator of
so many other things, like flittering his I don't know
(18:21):
if you guys knew, if I could tell the story,
I would.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
It's just a little bit inappropriate.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
It's just a little just like a little super personal
for him. So I'm not going to but yeah, I
want to eat bread. I love bread. That's like cheesecake
factory and just got to drink your appetizer and drink
your drink. I want to eat the bread.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Yeah, Oh my god, you get the bread of butter.
You're like, I will be. Can you actually take that back?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I actually missed a lot overprized too many calories and.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I loved it.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
Love that for them.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Yes, okay, she did.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
The next one you should. It's a little deeper. Do
you think I intimidate others? Why or why not?
Speaker 2 (18:57):
I had to think about this for a second. I
think I think it did, because I hear from a
lot of when I first met you did not intimidate
me at all. But I think I hear from a
lot of people who met you run the same time
I met you that you were very scary. So I
get a little bit of mixed feelings. So maybe I
can answer for myself and in general, for myself, I
was not intimidated by you when I first met you
(19:19):
because you came off very nice. And also I met
you in a non threatening environment. Yeah, exactly, so we
kind of bonded the moment we met. It wasn't like
a hi, my name is. It was like this man
is hitting on us both at the same time literally
saved me.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
And then but for other people, I think people have
a problem with like very confident women, Like a lot
of people I'm first of all, the least intimidating person
you will literally ever meet in your life. I feel like,
but I scare people when I first meet them. I
hear from everybody that I scared the shit out of
them when I first met them.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I think it's hand blown the RB yeah, and I
also have an RB.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Yeah, yeah, and yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Because like you're very very nice, Like you're very nice,
but if I didn't know you, I would think it
was like a fake very nice, you know, like know
when you meet us, like you're so cute, like I
would think that that's you, but you're genuine about it.
But if I didn't know you, I would be you
think that that's what you were doing.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
The thing that I get is intimidating but also fake,
you know. So that's this yeah, like first impression wise.
So in conclusion, for Sydney, I think that, yes, people
find you intimidating, and I.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Have an RBF and my thoughts are so entertaining that
I just be laughing to myself times.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Mean, and then also when you and me are together,
there's another layer to this question.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yes people find yes together, Yes, we communicate without words.
It's like I just look at her home just burst
out laughing, and it comes off as mean, but it
doesn't mean to be, just because like we usually have
the same exact thoughts and also it's usually.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
And we're so close so we know how to make
each other laugh, and like.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
It's also usually like actually just about food. So do
you agree with that? Do you agree with my answer? Yes?
Yes I do. Yeah, I haven't believe bad rbfs think
that makes sense?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Ooh this is good. What reality show do you think
I'm most likely to binge watch?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Explain reality show? Okay, well, like no reality shows you watch?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Well, just if you first met me? Like, what do
you think I would be mosted too?
Speaker 1 (21:13):
You screamed The Bachelor, and like.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
I actually don't watch the Bachelor, but I agree with
that person you screamed that you would watch it?
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Yeah, what about me?
Speaker 2 (21:23):
I feel like, oh, I just really want to say
Love Island, but I already know that I cheating. I
would say Real Housewives.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah no, because I've never seen Real Housewives. But Real
Housewives with Atlanta Niani, I've actually never seen the show.
But Meanie's so funny, like she was I know, I was,
like what, I respect her so much for the creativity
of her insults. She will like I never I'll never forget.
(21:54):
She said that this girl had a very tight bob.
I've never heard someone say that word. I won't even
know what that means, but the look on her face
and the emotions she did, I could just tell that
was the meanest thing sounds ever said that type up,
or like when what's her name didn't know, or she
kept saying different months when she was pregnant, like she'd
(22:15):
be like six months pregnant or on four months, and
she was like, at this point, you're thirteen and we've
come out of them like a bus. And I was like, oh, like,
I just think that she's so funny and I want
to watch it. It was just two me seasons that
I just don't have, Like the time.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
I can't even explain to you how the pairing of
Jane Lynch and Meanie in Glee. I cannot explain you
how great that bears.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
So I feel like they add some of their lines
because there's like no way that Ryan Murphy wrote that
if he did. It's also slightly problematic.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
If you haven't watched Glee, I beg of you to
go on YouTube and look up Meenie and Jane Lynch scenes.
It's literally I've never seen it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
You know they both kill me?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Oh my god? Should we move on to level two
in connection? Let's connect ill?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
I'm like, with this is a man, I'd be like,
I don't want to know information about you? Right, mystery?
Not knowing anything about you?
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Ignorance is bliss.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Are you going here? Am I?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
God? Good?
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Okay? I'm like, God, thank you. Oh you're not saying
my two daughter's heart.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I love her?
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Did you just put something on the crying of public.
I'm a the daughter everyone's concerned about from.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Her problem daughter. I can call the PHL be like
where are you?
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I'm like, literally at home.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
I keep getting calls from your mom being like hel
up where.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
She always says that because I don't answer anyone, I'm
playing this one back. So I don't like it. Okay,
it's make a handshake.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
On my no. And also that's not good podcast content, so.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
That is not good content. The next question, what title
would you give this chapter in your life?
Speaker 2 (23:39):
The reckoning? I'm good, I actually stick with that answer
her reckoning.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
I feel like it's really okay. So you know, when
you're in like season three of a show you know
has like actually fifteen seasons, and you're like, this like
the season that veryone hates the main character because you're
like her life is so boring that you like the
other characters in the show better, and you're like, I
want better for her next season.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
You know.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
That's where I'm at. That's so funny, awkward, the awkward season,
awkward episode of the season where you're like, it's like
the season like we're about to get to like the
good party.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Hopefully, this is a bunch of like characters.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Yeah, episode like three out of like fifteen, hopefully. I
think that we are at the first episode of a
new season, first few episodes because like last season was
a little crazy. They're don't go too much of it.
They're like make the career go through everything, like they
need to calm down in that screen writing room, rioting
to calm down.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
They're all on like shrewds.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yes, because why I know, Tony character plot development's going on.
But now the season finale was really bad and we're
now we're on the next season. Character development. That's where
we're at.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
And the reviews of the last season was that everybody
hated the.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Season finale, yes, because they were like, come on, yeah,
she went through all of that to not get what
she wanted.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Wow. Yeah. So, by definition, a reckoning is the action
or process of calculating or estimating something. It's also a
person's view, opinion, or judgment. And I just feel like
my season is called the reckoning because just like a
lot of things happened, like my really exciting fourth season
happened last summer or like last early fall, and now
I'm just kind of in that point where everybody is
(25:13):
just like like super alert making sure the exciting bad
parts don't happen again. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Yea, it's the reckoning.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, my villain, it's my villain era is kind of
coming out a little bit. It's just like the calculating
portion of my villain era.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm watching Valhalla right now, like the Viking show, Like dang,
their life was so crazy. Theybe like eating deer one day,
then like their whole village got killed. Then they're going
to Greenland. Then the really what are you talking about America?
And then he one of the girl. I don't know,
I've no idea what's going on the show at all
times because it's like a show about war between like
(25:48):
all the original white people. So usually like you can
tell who's on what side because like they're Roman, they're Egyptian,
they're Black, civil War, they're like whatever. When they all
exactly the Sames, I got no idea who's fighting who.
I don't know who the Danes are. And then the
show be like, Okay, look it's such a Dane and
like you took exactly that's exactly alike, thank you. But
it's really entertaining because all the guys in they're cute, yummy.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You love period shows where the guys are here, like Outlander.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I love Outlander, I love Bridgeted. I will watch a
period drama a million times because it's like whether to
be like, oh, this was like the sixteen forties.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
What was that show that you liked? Were Professor McGonagall,
wasn't it Professor McGonagall?
Speaker 1 (26:28):
From here? Is it not?
Speaker 2 (26:32):
No?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I've actually seen like every period.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Something mans something manner where there was like a house,
whether whether heights no, it's like the TV show.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I love the period drama though, yes, exactly every time.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Are you ready for a question? Here we got what's
been your happiest memory this past year. So are you
doing calendar year?
Speaker 3 (26:56):
Yeah, our trip to ants.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Every time I would get the upset, I'm like, oh,
you had those memories. If only you had a flat iron,
maybe it'd be a better time.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
And the bees weren't there. Yeah, yeah, and we actually
got with people.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
I was so chibby.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Oh my god, Sydney the pictures, I'm like, oh, oh
my god. No.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
If I had find me some humidity spray and a
flat iron would ate the Frenchman up.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But you know, if I didn't wear that big honkin
yellow flower shirt that one day and got attacked by
bees literally all day, it would have made the trip
so much.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I would bring bees spray next time. And if I
didn't almost light our at AIRBN, I was gonna say,
next time you're single, I'm not gonna wish that upon you.
If you're single again and I'm single at the same time. Sorry,
that liquid noise is very uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
We should go back and get perfect or should just
go back anyway. Yeah, Okay, your turn.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
What is the most unexplainable thing that's ever happened to you?
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Unexplainable like super like it's very explainable, supernatural or just weird.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Just unexplainable. But everything happens to us very explainable. Like
I could be like, yeah, it definitely happens to.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Their Okay, I would say this is the first thing
that comes to mind. I would say the decision that
I made could so it's not like it happened to me.
I did it to myself, and it's still very unexplainable
the day that I made the decision, because it literally
happened in an hour span where I decided the entire
trajectory of my life would change. This was senior year
(28:18):
of high school. I was on a college road trip
with my parents, auditioning for different schools, and one day
I literally woke up and was like, I don't want
to do this anymore. I hate auditioning. I don't want
this to be the rest of my life. This is allowed,
you know, I'm allowed to just have passions and not
have it be my profession. I don't want to rely
on this for my you know, money, rent food. I
(28:40):
just want this to be its own, separate thing. That
was probably a very unexplainable thing because it came out
of nowhere. When I told everybody, they were like, okay,
so for the past literally eighteen years, all you wanted
to do is musical theater, and now it suddenly not happened.
Nobody thought it would stick either. People were like, this
is just you're getting cold feet. In a week later,
you're gonna chang your mind. You're going to keep auditioning,
and Nope, for you, yars later, five years later, still
(29:02):
going strong. That's foundation for Broadway next week. But yeah, literally,
cold called cats, what about you?
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
I know that's a hard one.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I feel like most things happen to like actually on
a daily basis, anytime anything happens to me, and I
tell someone that, like that's the most citty thing to Like, yo,
I went to Chipotle. This is not like the most
unexplainable thing. Like went to Chipotle like two days ago
to get chicken, cheese, caesada, you know the deal. And
I got the kid's meal because you can't order crazy
dias in the store. Just actually it's so annoying the
(29:33):
same materials. Just make me a casia please anyway, So
I have to get kids quesadilla, and so first they
forgot to put chicken in it. Like it's the like time,
like you order it, like you know how chipoly works.
I was in store and I was watching it making
I was like, oh, that's funny. Where's the chicken? And
he's never put it in there? And I was like okay.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
And you don't want to be rude and be like
are you gonna put in chicken because you don't want
them to get mad. You would assume yeah, and you
don't want to be a Karen, but you just really
just kind of have a question.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Yeah, So cheese filled tortilla. And at the end, the
guy was like he's kind of cute. He was like,
do you want to drink? And I was like, no,
I'm okay, side of water and he's like, no, you
should get a drink. And I could tell everyone mind's
getting annoyed. Pause. He's likely twirling his hair and I'm
curling my hair and I'm like, no, I don't want
to drink, and he's like, looks at milk ill. He
looks at me as he re just behind himself, opens
(30:20):
the fridge like while still looking at it.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Not making eye contact in the fridge.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Like looking at me like like this, and then grabs
the kid's low fat one percent dairy like cow milk,
pulls it out and like slices it like soultially over
the counter and like kind of winks at me. He
give me dairy cow milk. You know.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
He went up to his manager and goes, just take that.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Annoyed picture, like, yeah, then thirty cent milk. If he
gives me like chocolate milk would be a little bit cuter.
He gives me like apple juice, a little bit cuter.
But like handing me a glass of cow's milk for
like a threat. I was like, excuse me. So then
I told someone They're like that only happened me, and
I was like, yeah, someone was here.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
I told that to my boyfriend and that's exactly his reaction.
He told me to text you and go that would
only happen to Sydney.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Yeah, I at least give me some oat milk.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Literally, that would only happen. That is so funny. Okay,
next card, what is your first love's name and the
reason you fell in love with him? M I don't
want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
His name, he did have a name, Okay, well I
thought he was my first love. Well, looking back, was
definitely given trauma ban his name.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
You could also give him a fake name for the
sake of the podcast.
Speaker 5 (31:32):
I mean, I I don't really care your nms with
man fan tan Brand cants with can you guys have
probably figured out there's literally only one name that has
those letters in it.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Anyway, what was.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
The question, what was your first love's name? And why
did you fall in love with him in the first place?
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I think it was like much ill, I hate reminiscing
on this in a positive manner. I think it was
unemotional and non emotional intellectual connection because like he was
a lot older than me, so it was nice to, like,
for the first time ever have someone where I could
like talk to him about like intellectual stuff and talk
about music and talk about movies, and just like he's
(32:13):
that kind of person where I could spend fifty million
hours straight with him and never get bored. Like ill, Ugh,
I don't want to think about this positively part.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Of feeling though, I mean, this is needed.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Yeah, look at me talking about him and not insulting him.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
That's so nice.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
I will say that was a good part of relationship
is that like I could talk to him about anything
and everything and we would never get bored, Like we
would just sit we could just sit on his couch
and just like kie ky like and laugh for hours.
So I think that was like an emotional intellectual connection.
I'd never have someone else before, and it was like
I was with him for a very long time. Because
I think it's just having someone that you know was
like your person. It was like a nice feeling. So
(32:48):
I think just like having that kind of connection was
nice for the first like you know, like something like
being young and in love, you know, like in your
early twenties, like it's the best laugh.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Also, he was older, so I think it made you
feel a little bit more mature, if that makes sense,
that you are more mature than your age, as I
would like to believe I am. So I'm sure that
felt nice as well.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Yeah, like being able to like in bition future when
someone was definitely nice.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Yeah, it felt adult and real.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, it's like first like adult relationship, you know, and
it like like for me, I was obsessed with romance
novels growing up, so like reading romance novels and like
watching romantic movies and like all the like rom comms
and like they always describe that certain feeling and like
growing up, I was faired I'd never had it because
like I was what eighteen when I met him, and
I never felt like I had that feeling before. But
(33:31):
he like made those feelings personable, like he was an
abodyment of those feelings. So I think, ill that's sound acute.
I did not mean for it to be, because I
mean traumatized me anyway. That's why I feel like he
was like my first love.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
You Mine is a little bit more complex than that,
because I feel like I had three first loves.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I actually have four.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
No, I actually had fifteen no the first one, and
I feel like we all can relate to this. I
feel like you can relate to this as well. My
first love was in high school, and that was more
of a highest school puppy love. It felt very immature,
but it also felt very you know, summer we would
sneak out. It was very you know what I mean.
It felt very like young and in love, but very
(34:10):
immature at the same time. My second one was in college.
That was the most toxic relationship I've ever been in,
but it was fueled by lust and that was still
a kind of love that I had never felt before.
So it felt like I was in love again, just
in a very very different way. A lot of it
was passionate, a lot of it was physical, and that's
where that ended up. And then my third one felt
(34:32):
like we're going to be together forever. That kind of
embodiment of everything that is good to me was in
this person. And that was my most recent ex.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Yeah, I had the last one. I had the first two. Yeah, well,
my Papa love was Harry Styles and then the other
one was also Harry Style. Also.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
But you had a boyfriend in high school. Iugh that
you were in love with him.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
But no, someone was like probably the hole in my
brain hostage that was like stock on them in the
worst way. No, oh no, no, no, no, don't count
that anymore.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Cool boyfriend is so funny.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Sorry, it was certainly a situation that happened. We don't
speak about it.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
She doesn't like to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
We don't speak about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
All right, we are progressing to level three.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
This feels like a date. What about me is hardest
for you to understand.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Hardest for me to understand? Oh, easy, easy, easy answer.
It's your because you're not an introvert, but it's your
introverted habits that you have, so like not going out
on the week nights or staying in your room for
like long periods of time, or when you're like, it's
not that I have anything going on, it's I need
an to myself on a weekend.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
You know.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
It's stuff like that that I feel like hard to understand.
But it's one of the many things that makes us
different and one of the things that I love about
you because I feel like that's very healthy for you.
I feel like you need it. And the longer I
was friends with you, the more I came to understand it.
So I don't really get it and I would never
do it, but I understand that you have to and
why it's important for you.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
I like to call it dark room time.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Yeah, that is what you call it.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Yeah, sometimes you need to sit in the dark room
and ponder about your life and cry a little bit.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Yeah. Whatever city says she needs her dark room time.
I know, not to like no communication.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
Yeah, like people living, I go back because I turned
my location off and everything, and it like freaks people out.
I don't know why I do that. It makes me
feel like less.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Pressure and you've gotten way better about this, But sometimes,
I mean, this was like last year at one point,
you had dark room time for like three days and
your mom called me and was like, where's my daughter?
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Yeah, it happened. Sometimes I just go on walks and
that kind of where I'm going. That's a bad habit
which I'm gonna stop doing. Speaking of a dark room time,
my current dark room album is Never Enough by Daniel Caesar,
and I hate that. I love it because he's problematic
and I don't like him, but the album does hit.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Are you gonna opt to answer this question yourself?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Yeah, it's like the same thing about opposite. You're always positive.
I really don't understand how, like you like wake up singing,
and I'm actually like, I wake up you and I
have to actually like drag myself out of the house
and she accept libally jumps the door woo, and I'm like,
I don't know how you're actually that positive.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
It's also hard because my mom is more energetic than
I am in the mornings, if you can believe it,
and so for me, it's like it's hard to talk
to her sometimes in the morning because she's always asking
me questions and trying to engage, and I'm still trying
to wake up, so I can't even imagine how to
your people.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Well, like if you talk to me before at eight am,
I actually have to apologize sometimes, But I know it's
not personal.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I think we're just different people. And that's the beauty
about friendship is that the more you understand that you
are like a different person than the person that doesn't,
just go for friendships with those for family relationships, et cetera.
As long as you understand that, like you're allowed to
be different people, and as long as you respect that
about each other, that's not friendships grow. It's really fun.
Like the Martin, I'm a long term friendship. Okay, my
(37:40):
turn level three? What about me? Most surprised you during
this game? So like it was there an answer that I.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
Had or probably the first love answer for what why?
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Because I thought it would have been Bob or here it.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
That we should keep that? Yeah, Jericho Jericho is is
that a song?
Speaker 1 (38:08):
Jericho?
Speaker 2 (38:09):
I don't know, but there was a Jericho in the Bible.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Yeah, yeah, that's how I found it from.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
Yeah, and there was also a Jericho in veggietails, which
is from the Bible.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Who thought, let's let's explain the Bible through veggies talking vegetables.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
You like to talk to tomatoes.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Bad memories of veggietails because I went to this one
Bibles like at my church. It was like the kid's
part and we'ld always watch veggietails and this one girl
cut my braids off, and I remember my mom losing
her mind. But I remember, like we were watching veggie
Tails as it happened. I remember the tomatoes on the screen.
I heard snip. I said, I know, the little girl
(38:45):
just cut my braid off. That was that was wow.
I hope she's like, I hope she's happy in life, you.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Know, yeah, exactly. I hope she's doing well.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Well, blass, do.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
You want to hear my answer to the question, because
I haven't. I was surprised that you were able to
talk about your first love in a way, not in
such a positive way, but in a way where you
didn't deflect with humor basically.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
The whole time. That is true, you know, because.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
That's how you that's one of your coping mechanisms that
you know. It's funny to me because I love to laugh,
but also it was really nice and healthy hearing you
go on that kind of tangent about your ex in
such a mature way. And I remember when I was
gonna say, maybe I'll take this out. But I remember
when you were dating him, you were like, I already
have our vows room basically, and like it just felt
(39:32):
like that was the moment that you kind of knew
you would never get with him and you could kind
of just get some closure mentally there, and I like that.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
It it surprised me, weird. I think that's actually the
first time I've talked about him in a positive light
since about two years.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
That's a prob because you know, no sarcasm, no nothing, nothing.
It was really it was really good, So.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
I can appreciate that I thought it was one thing
and it wasn't. But it's just nice because like you know,
when you're going through something hard and it's like you'll
you'll never see the other side of things. I finally
have and that it feels nice. That's good, you know.
I ill you know, I hate fluffiness, Like for our
board meetings at school, we have to do like a
(40:15):
rosebud and a thorn, and I'm like, I, actually, you
don't want to do this, okay. In Seria's ways, like
what's your favorite part of the day, what's your part?
You guys do that in France and actually be like,
I don't know when.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Sinny I go to dinner too in New York. I'm
always like, what was your favorite part about that? It
was yours?
Speaker 1 (40:29):
Like, shut it, I can't do fluffy stuff. Okay, so fluffy.
Both players share something why god it be me too?
Both players share something you're most grateful for in this
current moment. I'm grateful for my peace. Yeah, And I'm
grateful for peace and stillness because i feel like my
(40:50):
life has been so chaotic the past like actually four years,
and I feel like it's been a very emotionally chaotic
as well, and it feels not for the first time.
I'm just like not have to a lot on anyone
else for like comfort or peace or happiness. Like I'm
very much comfortable just being on my own.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
That was so nice. I'm so happy this era, this
is Sydney era is very like nice to hear as
your friend. I'm very thankful right now in this current
moment for my family because my mom and I I
think this is record the longest we've ever gone without
getting in a fight. She's just really really been there
for me.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Lately.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
If you are a longtime listener of the podcast, you
know my mom and I are like best friends. So
recently it's been really cool. I've been able to call
her and just kind of rant, and I've been able
to kind of express what I need from her, like
I need you to listen, I need advice, I need
your comfort. I just need you to agree with everything
I say because I'm not in a place where I
can literally take anything else right now until I throw
myself out of this car window. So it was really
(41:49):
nice these past few months, and especially post breakup and
going into the current relationship I'm in, it was really
really great to just have my mom there putting me
first in kind of a mental way. And also we've
been more best friends recently than like we have been
like the you know, during college. Even it just feels
(42:10):
very adult and it feels like she respects me now
is kind of like an independent, which is great, not
that she didn't respect me before. But that's one thing
I feel really grateful for right now is the relationship
I have with my mom and my family overall.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
Oh that's so cute.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, I was like, Oh, the last one is do
you have another one or is this it? Ooh, what
do you think this is such a good one? What
do you think our most important similarity is such a
good one?
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I don't know. It's like part of why our friendship
works so well because we're.
Speaker 2 (42:44):
So different, we're also the same in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Yeah, I'm trying to think both the baddies. I think
we both don't take things too seriously when it needs
to not be taken seriously. And that made no sense
kennecation style or values.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
I was gonna say our moral compass is very aligned, Yeah,
because we don't really Sydney and I have this thing
where we don't really take ourselves or life during conversation.
During communication not actually, me and Sydney both make very smart,
calculated choices about our lives for our futures, but when
we're talking and we're just like giggling and stuff, we
don't really take life or each other too seriously. So
(43:22):
it kind of is an easier way to communicate without
being like so intense about everything. And it's a really
good break because during work you always have to be
like in school, you always have to be really thinking,
and so when you get together with your friends, you
kind of want to just let loose and be able
to say whatever you want and not have everything been
taken so heavily. So I think that's a really important
quality too.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
I agree, just to like reflect what you said.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
I don't like this one, okay, what is it?
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Just a different one? Each player write a message to
me the other and fold in exchange open open only once,
need to have party, we'll we live together?
Speaker 2 (43:59):
So well, all, so yeah, we're doing this for the podcast,
So I have an alternate idea.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
I'm gonna be like, I just have an alternate idea.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
For the final card, Let's pick another level three card
and then both answer it.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Oh, this one's like, I guess, acute like in there,
I don't like the way it's worded. Makes one up,
but whatever, Okay, final question, when in this game did
you feel most connected to me? Oh? You think that
was cute? And machine?
Speaker 2 (44:26):
Do you want me to go first?
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (44:28):
I was gonna say when you were talking about your
ex because I really struggled to do that and I
just felt really good about that and it made me happy.
But I felt most connected to you during this game
when the card read what's one thing that you don't
understand about me because it allowed us to kind of
explain one thing that we have that's different, but also
(44:48):
how we understand it and respected about each other. It
just made me feel seen.
Speaker 1 (44:51):
He took my answer yeah, sorry to another one we did.
Speaker 4 (44:55):
Okay, I don't remember most No, that's what they send
you and I blackout when we were actually not actually
just like funny, not without because we just worked.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
I'm getting great at these disclaimers. By the way, I'm
catching things before you catch you welcome no me.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Yes, let's say stripper. Yeah, there's a guy in love
is blind. He's a lawyer and he's talking when he's
a stripper, like just because I was like, hello, don't
do that.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
It's so weird. Those are the two most contrasting professions ever.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
Yeah, I'm gonna differ like shock value, but I'm like,
that's not funny joke. M I have the same answer
the whole game because we got to talk about stuff.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
That was cute. You could have the same answer, just
explain why in your own words.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I think on the podcast, obviously we're vulnerable a lot,
but I think it's different in the sense that when
we talk about things in the podcast, we talk about
it in the way that we know. The audience doesn't know,
like the full context of things, so it's like as
describing they like generally how I felt about something. But
I think after experiencing each other go through like really
(46:09):
traumatic breakups, it's nice or it's like feels vulnerable to
you alfull to hear like that. We're both on the
other side of things now, so it's nice to like
we also know there's been progress from each other every day,
but like hearing the progress, like even like in like
tone voice, like being able to confidently talk about something
about getting emotional about it, it's supercute or whatever because
it's talk about growth.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
You know. And you'll never better really, Yeah, you'll never
be like healed or anything really because when you do
break up with somebody, you're always gonna have a piece
of them in your heart or your mind or both.
But I think the progress that we've made is so impressive,
and I think it's more than what a lot of
people can say about their own I feel really proud
of it, and I feel better in a lot of ways,
(46:53):
and I know you do too, which is so great
to see manifest I'll agreed, Oh who that is about it.
I loved that game. Did you like this episode?
Speaker 1 (47:03):
All right?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
That is a wrap. Everyone. Make sure to follow our
socials at Crying a public podcast on Instagram and TikTok,
but probably just Instagram because we have I say this
every episode.
Speaker 1 (47:15):
We're actually going to start once everything calms down.
Speaker 2 (47:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
Sorry, we.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Have very busy lives, guys, we have both have four jobs.
And then you can also listen to us on Spotify,
Apple Podcasts and iHeart or wherever you get your podcasts.
We love you, guys, thank you for coming on this
vulnerable trip with us. We hope you like this episode.
Let us know if you want us to do more games,
because I have these card games out of the actual wantsuit.
(47:42):
I'm a big game girl, so I have like I
have like Girls' Night first person to laugh. That would
be good podcast content. But if also if you want
us to like get a game that is similar to
this or goes along the same line, send us a
link on our Instagram and son you'll check it out
and we'll probably get it. Yeah out, let us know
if you have any more content ideas.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
We love you.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
Goodbye,
Hello guys, my voice is back.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Yay.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
It was really awkward because I was like, let me
explain on the story on like the Instagram story, why
we're not having the episode last week. So I found
a picture and I typed out like extinistan slidest, so
we're not recording this week. She can't talk. But I
don't know if I like, for like, if I imagine
typing it out, because two hours later, after we had
(00:47):
like seven hundred views in our story, I look at
it and it's like, just the picture. This is really
awkward because like it wasn't like a picture you would
post like on its own. There's no no words or nothing,
just a picture of us.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
And it's like really really normal selfie.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Yeah, it felt very weird to witness, so that I
have to reposted it and be like, oh, this is awkward.
Disregard the last but yeah, but yeah, my voice is
back and back to talking all the time. And it's
warm outside. Woo, it's so warm.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
It's like, what is it today? Sixty four is gonna
get up to I'm gonna go to the Empire State
Building on a date with my new executive guard. Wooo,
so excited. It makes me feel so good because the
Empire State Building is literally the most tourist you thing
you could ever do in your entire life. But I
like doing it because I got They send me this
little exec pass every year that I can just like
kind of swipe and get in for free whenever I want,
(01:33):
so I just and I get to skip the whole line,
and it's really really cool. It makes me feel like
I'm doing Genie Plus and Disney World like as.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
A reference only you can understand. I was even there
once twice when I was like literally two years old
and for graduation and my hat almost flew. Was it
minor hint Camden's? I think Camdens?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
It was Camden's hat that almost flew, literally And you
can get charged for that too. If anybody sees it
was you doing it, they can file a report and
you could get a fine because I can't think about it,
think about how hard that would hit someone's head off the.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Like it's med at that point because oh.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Cam did, He's so funny. But that was really fun.
We did graduation pictures me Sydney and like our just
friend who is engineering school, but he wasn't even in
our school, which is hilarious. He was in the engineering school,
but we all went with our moms to go to
the Empire State Building and to take graduation pics. I
hated my hair. I can't use any of those pictures
because I hate my hair in all of them.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Yeah, I don't like the way that I was looking.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Does that ever happen to you Where you go and
it's a really important shoot and you do your makeup
and you think you look great, and then you go
and then you actually get to the shoot and you're like,
I look so freaking ugly. I can't use any of
these your makeup.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
And you're like, oh, I can't have pictures.
Speaker 3 (02:41):
The host later and you look at them, you're like, ever, Yeah,
like an eyelash is coming off, or like your lipstick
a smiles you or something in your teeth that just
make the pictures completely unusable.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Your hair looks weird.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yes, for me, it's mostly my hair because I have
really thin hair. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Oh yeah, so graduation pictures. It was really funny because,
like I will, I'm gonna apprehends up talking about dating
life on this now because people keep listening to it
in normal business any.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
People keep d wait, you have to talk about the I.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Got a DM. Okay, side story to the side story.
I got a DM this weekend from someone who listened
to the podcast and that she's very sweet. Like they
were like, I know you're going through some very dark
times right now, but there will be light at the
end of the tunnel and things will be okay. You
will make it through it. And I was like, damn,
do I sound not to press on the podcast. I
just tried to be honest. You note, I swear it
(03:28):
was bad for a second there, but we have made
it through the other side. We are happier now, we
are joyful. We are over it. Over There's a Summer
Walker album called over It. And she was right, because
we are over it. Wait, so now was what was
the story? Ilse?
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Yeah, So this guy that I was talking to, we like, no,
you want to see someone's real before you go out
with them, so we're going to FaceTime. That was like,
that's kind of weird. So we'd sent like a pictures
I got showing pictures and I accidentally because we were
talking about graduation, so I was showing him a graduation
and actually sent a picture of that picture of me
(04:03):
shoving the hot dog down my throat. No, you know
when you have like when your pictures are on, say
to the I's like clicking buch of times for them
to load. I guess I accidentally clicked over one instead
of that one, so that's the one that sent. He
probably was like one what and he applied. He's like, ooh,
that's a big bite. I was like, oh yeah, if
you are for context, I love Yankee Stadium hot dogs.
(04:27):
Like if I go to a Yankees game, I'm for
a stare for the hot dogs and then for the game, like,
oh my god, they're so good, and they're like a
foot long. It's like a foot long subway, but it's
a hot dog.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Five long.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Yes, always, So it was like a foot long hot
dog and I was like putting it in my mouth
because I didn't want to get the ketch up on
my makeup. And Stah took a picture, so it's actually
shoving a hot dog down my throat. And I send
him that picture. He's like, oh, big bite, and I
was like.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Oh wow, that's that's a big bite. You know when
you're like, oh, don't get the wrong impression. I would
only do that for the hot dog.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
And I got told like I like to argue, I mean,
they weren't wrong, but in.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Fact, you know, Sydney's dating apps provide me the entertainment
for a lifetime. She just got a text also like
earlier today saying you look like you have a toxic face.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Pretty though what I was like that even mean, I
mean thanks, but what I can't believe I'm here trying
to be healthy and I'm getting dogs before I even
said to the arena, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
The only dating app I ever had was Tinder, and
the amount of O like unsolicited pictures I would get
on that app is actually disturbed.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
No, I can't stand Tindering, you'll. I've had it for
like a week freshman year and actually scared me. I
will never ever done with that app again. It actually
freaks me out, honestly, And like I used to love
Bumble because I liked the idea of like girls messaging first.
But I don't know if it's because I met my
et some mumble and I'm now traumatized, but I just
don't I don't like the yellow. I don't know. The
(05:54):
app doesn't do it for me anymore. So we're a
hinge girl and the r app are a a and
allowed to say the word. Apparently that's so weird.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Why not, I wonder, I mean, everybody knows what you're
talking about.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
It like to be exclusive and like, mind you, I
get actually one match on that app every sixteen years.
But it's the it's the journeys. This could lead me
to Chris Evans, this is can leading to Drake, so
we're gonna use it. But yeah, I'm a Hinge Galley
for now. And like, I don't know if you guys
know this, because don't know if I ever said it,
but I was in a celibacy phase celibacy era for
(06:28):
about five months, and at first it's looking a little
spooky because I just I think I'm so used to
being in relationships because I was in one for the
last six years with different people. But six years, and
I don't know, this was probably the most restorative time
of my life. This is the first time that I've
been alone from extended period of time since like my
first boyfriend in high school. When I was telling someone
(06:51):
this earlier, it was like the biggest thing wasn't like
not having similar like not being intimate with somewhere or
being physical like that stuff. Like the desire to do
any of that stuff after like two weeks, like at
that point she didn't really care anymore, Like I know,
desire to do it whatsoever. It's more so now that
like I know I can be on my own, and
I know that I'm whole on my own, Like I
feel like perfect content in life right now, not really,
(07:12):
but like in the stuff that I can give from
a relationship. I know I can give to myself, like
self love, self care, like I can buy myself dinner,
hang out myself, myself praised luck, you know whatever. So
now if I do break that, or I do allow
someone into my life, or I do get in to relationship,
I know it's not because I feel like I need
someone or needs be a relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It's because you actually feel like that person might compliment your.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Own and they add value. Like I'm never gonna be
someone that subtracts in my life anymore because I know
what I can give myself, so I would allow anyone
to come in and like encroach on that. So now
I'm only adding people that add value to my life,
not people that take away. So I know that I'm
whole without them, you know. So I think that's a
good mindset to go into dating with. So now girls
bounce streets, we outside.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
You are the perfect representation of in a literal way,
not like a relationship way or a metaphorical way. You
are the definition of There's a difference between the loan
and lonely. You know, you can be by yourself, like
in your room watching TV, you know, and napping and
doing things for your own and self care. You don't
always constantly need the support and the encouragement and the like.
You don't need to be feeded by people around you.
(08:15):
Whether I just say feeded, I literally.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Just say feed because you were like feeded?
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Did I literally just say feeded? That's actually so annoying
that I just said that. Whereas we all scle we
need them. You don't have to constantly be fed by
other people in your life that don't add value. You
find the value in yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
And that's a very important period scenario. Feel like going
now that I'm open stating again, like I just feel
like if it doesn't work, galaicate boo, whoever, like, move on?
Speaker 3 (08:41):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Seven? But what was I gonna say? What were we
talking about?
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Yeah, I think I realized that I thought that I
would be lonely being alone, but like I felt more
lonely in my relationships because I had such high actually
don't et sench were actually health. I had such love
expectations they still weren't being met. Where it was like
I have someone, I'm attracted to them, I want to
give them like love and care and comfort and all
(09:09):
this stuff. Like I'm putting my all into this relationship
and they're giving me nothing. That felt lonely because it
was like why am I putting in all this work?
And like I thought they liked me blah blah blah.
So like it's like having a cookie and not being
able to eat it, or like being constantly fed but
still being hungry. It's like something wasn't giving, it wasn't fulfilling,
it wasn't substantiating, and I felt like I was going
(09:29):
crazy and I was always upset and like having to
wake up and like look for a text, or like
going to bed upset and crying because they didn't text
me back, or they're out in the blah blah, not
having to deal with any of that. It doesn't even
feel lonely. I feel like at peace and like that
piece is something I do not ever want to give
up again. Hints better come correct or you're getting kicked out. Yeah,
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Sanity and peace are so important with just with yourself
in general. That's why Sendy and I always say that
you know, you have to be okay being alone before
you can be with some body else. And that's not
to say because also a couple of episodes ago, Sidney
and I had a conversation where we concluded that the
theory you have to love yourself before loving someone else
isn't exactly true because you have to keep in mind
(10:11):
people with like depression, anxiety, and just like people who
are going through a hard time in general where they
don't have the utmost of love for themselves, like of
course they're so worthy of love and come love other people.
So we kind of debunked out a couple episodes ago.
But I think where Sidney and I kind of we
don't don't We didn't really debunk it. I think we
just made a correction. We were like, you have to
be okay being independent and alone before you can fully
be in a healthy relationship.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
I think that's what we decided at the end, and
like no one never has one hundred percent and self love.
We all have self doubt, yeah, right, moments of like
insecurity or just like sadness. I feel like that whole
And that Also, it's like that's saying like you have
to love yourself for others love you implies that you're
not worthy of love unless you're X kind of way. Yeah,
you're worthy of love no matter where you are in
your life at what point you know?
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So ill to that statement.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Also, that counteracts a lot of really like healthy habits
that you having your life, like therapy, for one, you
know what I mean, You shouldn't go to therapy with
the intention of, like, Okay, you know, in three weeks,
I'm not going to need therapy. You know. You should
go to therapy with the like ideal that I'm gonna
you know, better myself and grow. And you really shouldn't
(11:14):
put a deadline on it because that's not healthy, you know.
So when you say stuff like you can only love
somebody else if you love yourself, that puts a lot
of pressure on you to like fully be mentally like
healthy and love yourself, you know, and that it never
works out like that because that's not real life.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Period.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
So today's episode, We're going to get into the topic
a little bit early because it might take a little bit,
but I'm really excited about this one. Sidney's a genius
and she came up with this.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Saraly barked, no, I tell you, she physically barked when
I told I was like, we should do that. Literally,
I was like, Okay, she's very exciting.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
I'm really excited. What we're gonna do this episode is
Sydney and I for the first time, because we've never
played this together outside of this podcast, is we're going
to play We're Not Really Strangers, which is the game,
and if you're not familiar, I'm going to tell you
a little bit what it is about because I play
this with like other people, and also I play this
in a relationship and I play this at parties, which
(12:14):
is certainly interesting. But I've never played this with Sydney
because we're so close and we're not strangers. So this
game is kind of a mood point with us. So
it's going to be really really fun, and we're also
going to do it a little differently for the sake
of time, Like this episode is not going to be
three hours long. Please don't go away. It's still going
to be an hour, and we are gonna just do
it a little bit differently. So this game is purpose driven,
(12:36):
like you can't really win, there's no winner, and you
just basically ask each other very insightful questions. But there
are three levels that allow you to deepen your existing
relationships and create new ones. So you play there is
three levels. Sydney and I we changed it. You have
to do like minimum of fifteen cards per level. We're
not doing that. We're doing two cars person level.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
Right.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
It takes when you play this normally, it takes about
an hour and a half if you do the whole thing,
or like two hours, and that's if you do it fast.
And Sydy and I we love to go on rants
and we love to so you know, it's gonna definitely
take an hour. We're doing two cards per person per level,
so four cards in total per level. And then so
(13:19):
there has to be like a player A and a
player B. So for this game, I'll designate myself as
player A and sneylway player B. You alternate back and
forth until the minimum of each level is done, and
then you can advance to the next level. You can
also what the cards that you ask you can ought
to answer them as well. So after I ask you
the question and you answer them, that I can be like, oh,
(13:41):
I would like to put my input into. And then
there's a final card. So after we're done all the
three levels, there's one final card and I'm going to
keep it a secret, but it involves the written word,
which is very exciting.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
The written word. It does involve the poetry. No, you
have to write down stad that written word. No.
Speaker 5 (14:00):
Nothing.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
There's no religion in this game, I promise. So the
first level is perception, So how others see you? So
how Sydney and I are going to be playing? Level
one is some of the questions are phrase like, oh,
what do you think I do for a living? You
look like an athlete? Sidney and I obviously know what
each other do for a living, so we're not We're
going to be like when you first met me, what
did you think I did for a living? Like? What
did you think of me? Then it's going to be
(14:21):
all about first impressions. Level two is about connections. Who
are you really asking the rarely asked questions? Connecting on
a deeper level? And level three is about reflection and
reflecting on the actual game. Do you have any questions
before we begin? No, so he just asked your other
questions basically, yeah, But then we can choose to answer
the questions that we ask as well. You can go
(14:42):
for so sin Now, Sidney's player A and I am
player B.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
Officially, what is red? One is white?
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Don't look at them?
Speaker 1 (14:48):
Aren't you supposed to look? I have to ask you.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Yeah, but.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
That's kind of easy. Rate your dancing skills on scale
of one to ten, on the kind of three answers
out loud, one, two, three, six. I can shake it,
actually no, I could shake it harder.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
You can professionally shake it too.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I can shave. I can shake it in the studio.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
Oh my god, Sindy is not a stripper.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Sorry, Oh yeah, no, no, no, I know. I dance my
whole life. Yes. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
When I when I said professionally, I mean that she
literally took professional.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Like I dance like jazz, like ballet. I'm classically trained. Yes, okay, yes,
I'm super clear. Yeah. But I think it's because one
thing is like because I'm so used to like dancing choreography,
like I guess improv. Improv is mostly skilled, So like
when I go to like parties and stuff, I'm like
five six, you know, like I wish I could be
(15:43):
more spontaneous and more like.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Now you explain your number, so my number is about.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Sorry, no, I wish you could see how her dances
at the club. She wasn't be looking at herself putting
her hair.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Sorry, if you hear me coughing in the background, it
is because I'm going to try to take out as
much as my coughing as I possibly can. But I
developed a cough this weekend. I thought I had COVID,
but luckily I do not, and it is just a
very wet cough. So I'm very sorry, Superhero you describe
it as because it's very flemmy. I'm so sorry. I
would describe my dance skiels as a six because professionally
(16:24):
I only did dance in relation to musical theaters, so
I was also working on like singing and acting, and
those always to a priority for me over dancing, So
I was never an actual dancer. I never like was
the student choreographer. I took dance lessons for I'm pretty
sure like eight or nine years, but again that was
all like musical theater dancing basically, and I just didn't
really care that much about it. I was like that
(16:45):
girl in the back of the class. It was like,
and when it comes to clubs and stuff, I just
feel very confident. But I think that's less about my dancing,
and I just think I'm really hot.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
No, if you ever look at Sarah dance, Sarah is
the only person in the room. And Sarah's rad She's
the lily petting her hair and she's like, yes.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
I'm main character syndrome, and I very much have that.
Oh got scener? Are you ready for your Yeah? Okay,
do you think voy crack? Do you think I fall
in love easily?
Speaker 4 (17:13):
Why?
Speaker 2 (17:13):
Or why not?
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Oh? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Why because I know you two. I think you know
if you like or don't like someone very quickly, like
with actually within four minutes. So when you do like someone,
I think you do like them a lot. Yeah. I
get the so easily.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:34):
I like this guy. I found out he was bow legged.
I also I also am buugged gluten free. You get
the room, we don't stop. No, okay, well that okay,
there was this guy. I actually did like him because
he had the crosser puzzles together, and that was really
cute to me. But he was gluten free and not
you know, he wasn't gluten free. He had celiacs, which
like sels disease. I'm not saying I didn't like him
because he had, but like, it's just so hard to
(17:56):
go out with someone and not.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Eat bread, especially in New York, you know, they serve
be bread ever since.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And it was like not even like he like would
get like a little stomach ache, like he would like
violently throw up if you like, like if I had
bread and kissed him, he'd throw up. And that's not
it actually wasn't the issue, the issue in the situation ship.
It was just like that that was the indicator of
so many other things, like flittering his I don't know
(18:21):
if you guys knew, if I could tell the story,
I would.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
It's just a little bit inappropriate.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
It's just a little just like a little super personal
for him. So I'm not going to but yeah, I
want to eat bread. I love bread. That's like cheesecake
factory and just got to drink your appetizer and drink
your drink. I want to eat the bread.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
Yeah, Oh my god, you get the bread of butter.
You're like, I will be. Can you actually take that back?
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I actually missed a lot overprized too many calories and.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
I loved it.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
Love that for them.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Yes, okay, she did.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
The next one you should. It's a little deeper. Do
you think I intimidate others? Why or why not?
Speaker 2 (18:57):
I had to think about this for a second. I
think I think it did, because I hear from a
lot of when I first met you did not intimidate
me at all. But I think I hear from a
lot of people who met you run the same time
I met you that you were very scary. So I
get a little bit of mixed feelings. So maybe I
can answer for myself and in general, for myself, I
was not intimidated by you when I first met you
(19:19):
because you came off very nice. And also I met
you in a non threatening environment. Yeah, exactly, so we
kind of bonded the moment we met. It wasn't like
a hi, my name is. It was like this man
is hitting on us both at the same time literally
saved me.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
And then but for other people, I think people have
a problem with like very confident women, Like a lot
of people I'm first of all, the least intimidating person
you will literally ever meet in your life. I feel like,
but I scare people when I first meet them. I
hear from everybody that I scared the shit out of
them when I first met them.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
I think it's hand blown the RB yeah, and I
also have an RB.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
Yeah, yeah, and yeah for sure.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Because like you're very very nice, Like you're very nice,
but if I didn't know you, I would think it
was like a fake very nice, you know, like know
when you meet us, like you're so cute, like I
would think that that's you, but you're genuine about it.
But if I didn't know you, I would be you
think that that's what you were doing.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
The thing that I get is intimidating but also fake,
you know. So that's this yeah, like first impression wise.
So in conclusion, for Sydney, I think that, yes, people
find you intimidating, and I.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Have an RBF and my thoughts are so entertaining that
I just be laughing to myself times.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Mean, and then also when you and me are together,
there's another layer to this question.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yes people find yes together, Yes, we communicate without words.
It's like I just look at her home just burst
out laughing, and it comes off as mean, but it
doesn't mean to be, just because like we usually have
the same exact thoughts and also it's usually.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
And we're so close so we know how to make
each other laugh, and like.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
It's also usually like actually just about food. So do
you agree with that? Do you agree with my answer? Yes?
Yes I do. Yeah, I haven't believe bad rbfs think
that makes sense?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Ooh this is good. What reality show do you think
I'm most likely to binge watch?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Explain reality show? Okay, well, like no reality shows you watch?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Well, just if you first met me? Like, what do
you think I would be mosted too?
Speaker 1 (21:13):
You screamed The Bachelor, and like.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
I actually don't watch the Bachelor, but I agree with
that person you screamed that you would watch it?
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Yeah, what about me?
Speaker 2 (21:23):
I feel like, oh, I just really want to say
Love Island, but I already know that I cheating. I
would say Real Housewives.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Yeah no, because I've never seen Real Housewives. But Real
Housewives with Atlanta Niani, I've actually never seen the show.
But Meanie's so funny, like she was I know, I was,
like what, I respect her so much for the creativity
of her insults. She will like I never I'll never forget.
(21:54):
She said that this girl had a very tight bob.
I've never heard someone say that word. I won't even
know what that means, but the look on her face
and the emotions she did, I could just tell that
was the meanest thing sounds ever said that type up,
or like when what's her name didn't know, or she
kept saying different months when she was pregnant, like she'd
(22:15):
be like six months pregnant or on four months, and
she was like, at this point, you're thirteen and we've
come out of them like a bus. And I was like, oh, like,
I just think that she's so funny and I want
to watch it. It was just two me seasons that
I just don't have, Like the time.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
I can't even explain to you how the pairing of
Jane Lynch and Meanie in Glee. I cannot explain you
how great that bears.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
So I feel like they add some of their lines
because there's like no way that Ryan Murphy wrote that
if he did. It's also slightly problematic.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
If you haven't watched Glee, I beg of you to
go on YouTube and look up Meenie and Jane Lynch scenes.
It's literally I've never seen it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
You know they both kill me?
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Oh my god? Should we move on to level two
in connection? Let's connect ill?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
I'm like, with this is a man, I'd be like,
I don't want to know information about you? Right, mystery?
Not knowing anything about you?
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Ignorance is bliss.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Are you going here? Am I?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
God? Good?
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Okay? I'm like, God, thank you. Oh you're not saying
my two daughter's heart.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I love her?
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Did you just put something on the crying of public.
I'm a the daughter everyone's concerned about from.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Her problem daughter. I can call the PHL be like
where are you?
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I'm like, literally at home.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
I keep getting calls from your mom being like hel
up where.
Speaker 1 (23:23):
She always says that because I don't answer anyone, I'm
playing this one back. So I don't like it. Okay,
it's make a handshake.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
On my no. And also that's not good podcast content, so.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
That is not good content. The next question, what title
would you give this chapter in your life?
Speaker 2 (23:39):
The reckoning? I'm good, I actually stick with that answer
her reckoning.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
I feel like it's really okay. So you know, when
you're in like season three of a show you know
has like actually fifteen seasons, and you're like, this like
the season that veryone hates the main character because you're
like her life is so boring that you like the
other characters in the show better, and you're like, I
want better for her next season.
Speaker 4 (24:01):
You know.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
That's where I'm at. That's so funny, awkward, the awkward season,
awkward episode of the season where you're like, it's like
the season like we're about to get to like the
good party.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Hopefully, this is a bunch of like characters.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Yeah, episode like three out of like fifteen, hopefully. I
think that we are at the first episode of a
new season, first few episodes because like last season was
a little crazy. They're don't go too much of it.
They're like make the career go through everything, like they
need to calm down in that screen writing room, rioting
to calm down.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
They're all on like shrewds.
Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yes, because why I know, Tony character plot development's going on.
But now the season finale was really bad and we're
now we're on the next season. Character development. That's where
we're at.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
And the reviews of the last season was that everybody
hated the.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Season finale, yes, because they were like, come on, yeah,
she went through all of that to not get what
she wanted.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Wow. Yeah. So, by definition, a reckoning is the action
or process of calculating or estimating something. It's also a
person's view, opinion, or judgment. And I just feel like
my season is called the reckoning because just like a
lot of things happened, like my really exciting fourth season
happened last summer or like last early fall, and now
I'm just kind of in that point where everybody is
(25:13):
just like like super alert making sure the exciting bad
parts don't happen again. Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Yea, it's the reckoning.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, my villain, it's my villain era is kind of
coming out a little bit. It's just like the calculating
portion of my villain era.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm watching Valhalla right now, like the Viking show, Like dang,
their life was so crazy. Theybe like eating deer one day,
then like their whole village got killed. Then they're going
to Greenland. Then the really what are you talking about America?
And then he one of the girl. I don't know,
I've no idea what's going on the show at all
times because it's like a show about war between like
(25:48):
all the original white people. So usually like you can
tell who's on what side because like they're Roman, they're Egyptian,
they're Black, civil War, they're like whatever. When they all
exactly the Sames, I got no idea who's fighting who.
I don't know who the Danes are. And then the
show be like, Okay, look it's such a Dane and
like you took exactly that's exactly alike, thank you. But
it's really entertaining because all the guys in they're cute, yummy.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
You love period shows where the guys are here, like Outlander.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I love Outlander, I love Bridgeted. I will watch a
period drama a million times because it's like whether to
be like, oh, this was like the sixteen forties.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
What was that show that you liked? Were Professor McGonagall,
wasn't it Professor McGonagall?
Speaker 1 (26:28):
From here? Is it not?
Speaker 2 (26:32):
No?
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I've actually seen like every period.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Something mans something manner where there was like a house,
whether whether heights no, it's like the TV show.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I love the period drama though, yes, exactly every time.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Are you ready for a question? Here we got what's
been your happiest memory this past year. So are you
doing calendar year?
Speaker 3 (26:56):
Yeah, our trip to ants.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Every time I would get the upset, I'm like, oh,
you had those memories. If only you had a flat iron,
maybe it'd be a better time.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
And the bees weren't there. Yeah, yeah, and we actually
got with people.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
I was so chibby.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Oh my god, Sydney the pictures, I'm like, oh, oh
my god. No.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
If I had find me some humidity spray and a
flat iron would ate the Frenchman up.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But you know, if I didn't wear that big honkin
yellow flower shirt that one day and got attacked by
bees literally all day, it would have made the trip
so much.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I would bring bees spray next time. And if I
didn't almost light our at AIRBN, I was gonna say,
next time you're single, I'm not gonna wish that upon you.
If you're single again and I'm single at the same time. Sorry,
that liquid noise is very uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
We should go back and get perfect or should just
go back anyway. Yeah, Okay, your turn.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
What is the most unexplainable thing that's ever happened to you?
Speaker 3 (27:47):
Unexplainable like super like it's very explainable, supernatural or just weird.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
Just unexplainable. But everything happens to us very explainable. Like
I could be like, yeah, it definitely happens to.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Their Okay, I would say this is the first thing
that comes to mind. I would say the decision that
I made could so it's not like it happened to me.
I did it to myself, and it's still very unexplainable
the day that I made the decision, because it literally
happened in an hour span where I decided the entire
trajectory of my life would change. This was senior year
(28:18):
of high school. I was on a college road trip
with my parents, auditioning for different schools, and one day
I literally woke up and was like, I don't want
to do this anymore. I hate auditioning. I don't want
this to be the rest of my life. This is allowed,
you know, I'm allowed to just have passions and not
have it be my profession. I don't want to rely
on this for my you know, money, rent food. I
(28:40):
just want this to be its own, separate thing. That
was probably a very unexplainable thing because it came out
of nowhere. When I told everybody, they were like, okay,
so for the past literally eighteen years, all you wanted
to do is musical theater, and now it suddenly not happened.
Nobody thought it would stick either. People were like, this
is just you're getting cold feet. In a week later,
you're gonna chang your mind. You're going to keep auditioning,
and Nope, for you, yars later, five years later, still
(29:02):
going strong. That's foundation for Broadway next week. But yeah, literally,
cold called cats, what about you?
Speaker 1 (29:10):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
I know that's a hard one.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I feel like most things happen to like actually on
a daily basis, anytime anything happens to me, and I
tell someone that, like that's the most citty thing to Like, yo,
I went to Chipotle. This is not like the most
unexplainable thing. Like went to Chipotle like two days ago
to get chicken, cheese, caesada, you know the deal. And
I got the kid's meal because you can't order crazy
dias in the store. Just actually it's so annoying the
(29:33):
same materials. Just make me a casia please anyway, So
I have to get kids quesadilla, and so first they
forgot to put chicken in it. Like it's the like time,
like you order it, like you know how chipoly works.
I was in store and I was watching it making
I was like, oh, that's funny. Where's the chicken? And
he's never put it in there? And I was like okay.
Speaker 2 (29:50):
And you don't want to be rude and be like
are you gonna put in chicken because you don't want
them to get mad. You would assume yeah, and you
don't want to be a Karen, but you just really
just kind of have a question.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
Yeah, So cheese filled tortilla. And at the end, the
guy was like he's kind of cute. He was like,
do you want to drink? And I was like, no,
I'm okay, side of water and he's like, no, you
should get a drink. And I could tell everyone mind's
getting annoyed. Pause. He's likely twirling his hair and I'm
curling my hair and I'm like, no, I don't want
to drink, and he's like, looks at milk ill. He
looks at me as he re just behind himself, opens
(30:20):
the fridge like while still looking at it.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Not making eye contact in the fridge.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Like looking at me like like this, and then grabs
the kid's low fat one percent dairy like cow milk,
pulls it out and like slices it like soultially over
the counter and like kind of winks at me. He
give me dairy cow milk. You know.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
He went up to his manager and goes, just take that.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
Annoyed picture, like, yeah, then thirty cent milk. If he
gives me like chocolate milk would be a little bit cuter.
He gives me like apple juice, a little bit cuter.
But like handing me a glass of cow's milk for
like a threat. I was like, excuse me. So then
I told someone They're like that only happened me, and
I was like, yeah, someone was here.
Speaker 2 (30:58):
I told that to my boyfriend and that's exactly his reaction.
He told me to text you and go that would
only happen to Sydney.
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Yeah, I at least give me some oat milk.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Literally, that would only happen. That is so funny. Okay,
next card, what is your first love's name and the
reason you fell in love with him? M I don't
want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
His name, he did have a name, Okay, well I
thought he was my first love. Well, looking back, was
definitely given trauma ban his name.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
You could also give him a fake name for the
sake of the podcast.
Speaker 5 (31:32):
I mean, I I don't really care your nms with
man fan tan Brand cants with can you guys have
probably figured out there's literally only one name that has
those letters in it.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Anyway, what was.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
The question, what was your first love's name? And why
did you fall in love with him in the first place?
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I think it was like much ill, I hate reminiscing
on this in a positive manner. I think it was
unemotional and non emotional intellectual connection because like he was
a lot older than me, so it was nice to, like,
for the first time ever have someone where I could
like talk to him about like intellectual stuff and talk
about music and talk about movies, and just like he's
(32:13):
that kind of person where I could spend fifty million
hours straight with him and never get bored. Like ill, Ugh,
I don't want to think about this positively part.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Of feeling though, I mean, this is needed.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Yeah, look at me talking about him and not insulting him.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
That's so nice.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
I will say that was a good part of relationship
is that like I could talk to him about anything
and everything and we would never get bored, Like we
would just sit we could just sit on his couch
and just like kie ky like and laugh for hours.
So I think that was like an emotional intellectual connection.
I'd never have someone else before, and it was like
I was with him for a very long time. Because
I think it's just having someone that you know was
like your person. It was like a nice feeling. So
(32:48):
I think just like having that kind of connection was
nice for the first like you know, like something like
being young and in love, you know, like in your
early twenties, like it's the best laugh.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Also, he was older, so I think it made you
feel a little bit more mature, if that makes sense,
that you are more mature than your age, as I
would like to believe I am. So I'm sure that
felt nice as well.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Yeah, like being able to like in bition future when
someone was definitely nice.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Yeah, it felt adult and real.
Speaker 1 (33:11):
Yeah, it's like first like adult relationship, you know, and
it like like for me, I was obsessed with romance
novels growing up, so like reading romance novels and like
watching romantic movies and like all the like rom comms
and like they always describe that certain feeling and like
growing up, I was faired I'd never had it because
like I was what eighteen when I met him, and
I never felt like I had that feeling before. But
(33:31):
he like made those feelings personable, like he was an
abodyment of those feelings. So I think, ill that's sound acute.
I did not mean for it to be, because I
mean traumatized me anyway. That's why I feel like he
was like my first love.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
You Mine is a little bit more complex than that,
because I feel like I had three first loves.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I actually have four.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
No, I actually had fifteen no the first one, and
I feel like we all can relate to this. I
feel like you can relate to this as well. My
first love was in high school, and that was more
of a highest school puppy love. It felt very immature,
but it also felt very you know, summer we would
sneak out. It was very you know what I mean.
It felt very like young and in love, but very
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immature at the same time. My second one was in college.
That was the most toxic relationship I've ever been in,
but it was fueled by lust and that was still
a kind of love that I had never felt before.
So it felt like I was in love again, just
in a very very different way. A lot of it
was passionate, a lot of it was physical, and that's
where that ended up. And then my third one felt
(34:32):
like we're going to be together forever. That kind of
embodiment of everything that is good to me was in
this person. And that was my most recent ex.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Yeah, I had the last one. I had the first two. Yeah, well,
my Papa love was Harry Styles and then the other
one was also Harry Style. Also.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
But you had a boyfriend in high school. Iugh that
you were in love with him.
Speaker 1 (34:50):
But no, someone was like probably the hole in my
brain hostage that was like stock on them in the
worst way. No, oh no, no, no, no, don't count
that anymore.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Cool boyfriend is so funny.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Sorry, it was certainly a situation that happened. We don't
speak about it.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
She doesn't like to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
We don't speak about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
All right, we are progressing to level three.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
This feels like a date. What about me is hardest
for you to understand.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
Hardest for me to understand? Oh, easy, easy, easy answer.
It's your because you're not an introvert, but it's your
introverted habits that you have, so like not going out
on the week nights or staying in your room for
like long periods of time, or when you're like, it's
not that I have anything going on, it's I need
an to myself on a weekend.
Speaker 1 (35:42):
You know.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
It's stuff like that that I feel like hard to understand.
But it's one of the many things that makes us
different and one of the things that I love about
you because I feel like that's very healthy for you.
I feel like you need it. And the longer I
was friends with you, the more I came to understand it.
So I don't really get it and I would never
do it, but I understand that you have to and
why it's important for you.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
I like to call it dark room time.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Yeah, that is what you call it.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
Yeah, sometimes you need to sit in the dark room
and ponder about your life and cry a little bit.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Yeah. Whatever city says she needs her dark room time.
I know, not to like no communication.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
Yeah, like people living, I go back because I turned
my location off and everything, and it like freaks people out.
I don't know why I do that. It makes me
feel like less.
Speaker 2 (36:18):
Pressure and you've gotten way better about this, But sometimes,
I mean, this was like last year at one point,
you had dark room time for like three days and
your mom called me and was like, where's my daughter?
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Yeah, it happened. Sometimes I just go on walks and
that kind of where I'm going. That's a bad habit
which I'm gonna stop doing. Speaking of a dark room time,
my current dark room album is Never Enough by Daniel Caesar,
and I hate that. I love it because he's problematic
and I don't like him, but the album does hit.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Are you gonna opt to answer this question yourself?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Yeah, it's like the same thing about opposite. You're always positive.
I really don't understand how, like you like wake up singing,
and I'm actually like, I wake up you and I
have to actually like drag myself out of the house
and she accept libally jumps the door woo, and I'm like,
I don't know how you're actually that positive.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
It's also hard because my mom is more energetic than
I am in the mornings, if you can believe it,
and so for me, it's like it's hard to talk
to her sometimes in the morning because she's always asking
me questions and trying to engage, and I'm still trying
to wake up, so I can't even imagine how to
your people.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Well, like if you talk to me before at eight am,
I actually have to apologize sometimes, But I know it's
not personal.
Speaker 2 (37:20):
I think we're just different people. And that's the beauty
about friendship is that the more you understand that you
are like a different person than the person that doesn't,
just go for friendships with those for family relationships, et cetera.
As long as you understand that, like you're allowed to
be different people, and as long as you respect that
about each other, that's not friendships grow. It's really fun.
Like the Martin, I'm a long term friendship. Okay, my
(37:40):
turn level three? What about me? Most surprised you during
this game? So like it was there an answer that I.
Speaker 3 (37:48):
Had or probably the first love answer for what why?
Speaker 1 (37:53):
Because I thought it would have been Bob or here it.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
That we should keep that? Yeah, Jericho Jericho is is
that a song?
Speaker 1 (38:08):
Jericho?
Speaker 2 (38:09):
I don't know, but there was a Jericho in the Bible.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Yeah, yeah, that's how I found it from.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
Yeah, and there was also a Jericho in veggietails, which
is from the Bible.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Who thought, let's let's explain the Bible through veggies talking vegetables.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
You like to talk to tomatoes.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Bad memories of veggietails because I went to this one
Bibles like at my church. It was like the kid's
part and we'ld always watch veggietails and this one girl
cut my braids off, and I remember my mom losing
her mind. But I remember, like we were watching veggie
Tails as it happened. I remember the tomatoes on the screen.
I heard snip. I said, I know, the little girl
(38:45):
just cut my braid off. That was that was wow.
I hope she's like, I hope she's happy in life, you.
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Know, yeah, exactly. I hope she's doing well.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
Well, blass, do.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
You want to hear my answer to the question, because
I haven't. I was surprised that you were able to
talk about your first love in a way, not in
such a positive way, but in a way where you
didn't deflect with humor basically.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
The whole time. That is true, you know, because.
Speaker 2 (39:11):
That's how you that's one of your coping mechanisms that
you know. It's funny to me because I love to laugh,
but also it was really nice and healthy hearing you
go on that kind of tangent about your ex in
such a mature way. And I remember when I was
gonna say, maybe I'll take this out. But I remember
when you were dating him, you were like, I already
have our vows room basically, and like it just felt
(39:32):
like that was the moment that you kind of knew
you would never get with him and you could kind
of just get some closure mentally there, and I like that.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
It it surprised me, weird. I think that's actually the
first time I've talked about him in a positive light
since about two years.
Speaker 2 (39:50):
That's a prob because you know, no sarcasm, no nothing, nothing.
It was really it was really good, So.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
I can appreciate that I thought it was one thing
and it wasn't. But it's just nice because like you know,
when you're going through something hard and it's like you'll
you'll never see the other side of things. I finally
have and that it feels nice. That's good, you know.
I ill you know, I hate fluffiness, Like for our
board meetings at school, we have to do like a
(40:15):
rosebud and a thorn, and I'm like, I, actually, you
don't want to do this, okay. In Seria's ways, like
what's your favorite part of the day, what's your part?
You guys do that in France and actually be like,
I don't know when.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Sinny I go to dinner too in New York. I'm
always like, what was your favorite part about that? It
was yours?
Speaker 1 (40:29):
Like, shut it, I can't do fluffy stuff. Okay, so fluffy.
Both players share something why god it be me too?
Both players share something you're most grateful for in this
current moment. I'm grateful for my peace. Yeah, And I'm
grateful for peace and stillness because i feel like my
(40:50):
life has been so chaotic the past like actually four years,
and I feel like it's been a very emotionally chaotic
as well, and it feels not for the first time.
I'm just like not have to a lot on anyone
else for like comfort or peace or happiness. Like I'm
very much comfortable just being on my own.
Speaker 2 (41:09):
That was so nice. I'm so happy this era, this
is Sydney era is very like nice to hear as
your friend. I'm very thankful right now in this current
moment for my family because my mom and I I
think this is record the longest we've ever gone without
getting in a fight. She's just really really been there
for me.
Speaker 1 (41:27):
Lately.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
If you are a longtime listener of the podcast, you
know my mom and I are like best friends. So
recently it's been really cool. I've been able to call
her and just kind of rant, and I've been able
to kind of express what I need from her, like
I need you to listen, I need advice, I need
your comfort. I just need you to agree with everything
I say because I'm not in a place where I
can literally take anything else right now until I throw
myself out of this car window. So it was really
(41:49):
nice these past few months, and especially post breakup and
going into the current relationship I'm in, it was really
really great to just have my mom there putting me
first in kind of a mental way. And also we've
been more best friends recently than like we have been
like the you know, during college. Even it just feels
(42:10):
very adult and it feels like she respects me now
is kind of like an independent, which is great, not
that she didn't respect me before. But that's one thing
I feel really grateful for right now is the relationship
I have with my mom and my family overall.
Speaker 1 (42:21):
Oh that's so cute.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, I was like, Oh, the last one is do
you have another one or is this it? Ooh, what
do you think this is such a good one? What
do you think our most important similarity is such a
good one?
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I don't know. It's like part of why our friendship
works so well because we're.
Speaker 2 (42:44):
So different, we're also the same in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1 (42:46):
Yeah, I'm trying to think both the baddies. I think
we both don't take things too seriously when it needs
to not be taken seriously. And that made no sense
kennecation style or values.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
I was gonna say our moral compass is very aligned, Yeah,
because we don't really Sydney and I have this thing
where we don't really take ourselves or life during conversation.
During communication not actually, me and Sydney both make very smart,
calculated choices about our lives for our futures, but when
we're talking and we're just like giggling and stuff, we
don't really take life or each other too seriously. So
(43:22):
it kind of is an easier way to communicate without
being like so intense about everything. And it's a really
good break because during work you always have to be
like in school, you always have to be really thinking,
and so when you get together with your friends, you
kind of want to just let loose and be able
to say whatever you want and not have everything been
taken so heavily. So I think that's a really important
quality too.
Speaker 1 (43:44):
I agree, just to like reflect what you said.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
I don't like this one, okay, what is it?
Speaker 1 (43:49):
Just a different one? Each player write a message to
me the other and fold in exchange open open only once,
need to have party, we'll we live together?
Speaker 2 (43:59):
So well, all, so yeah, we're doing this for the podcast,
So I have an alternate idea.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
I'm gonna be like, I just have an alternate idea.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
For the final card, Let's pick another level three card
and then both answer it.
Speaker 1 (44:11):
Oh, this one's like, I guess, acute like in there,
I don't like the way it's worded. Makes one up,
but whatever, Okay, final question, when in this game did
you feel most connected to me? Oh? You think that
was cute? And machine?
Speaker 2 (44:26):
Do you want me to go first?
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (44:28):
I was gonna say when you were talking about your
ex because I really struggled to do that and I
just felt really good about that and it made me happy.
But I felt most connected to you during this game
when the card read what's one thing that you don't
understand about me because it allowed us to kind of
explain one thing that we have that's different, but also
(44:48):
how we understand it and respected about each other. It
just made me feel seen.
Speaker 1 (44:51):
He took my answer yeah, sorry to another one we did.
Speaker 4 (44:55):
Okay, I don't remember most No, that's what they send
you and I blackout when we were actually not actually
just like funny, not without because we just worked.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
I'm getting great at these disclaimers. By the way, I'm
catching things before you catch you welcome no me.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Yes, let's say stripper. Yeah, there's a guy in love
is blind. He's a lawyer and he's talking when he's
a stripper, like just because I was like, hello, don't
do that.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
It's so weird. Those are the two most contrasting professions ever.
Speaker 1 (45:29):
Yeah, I'm gonna differ like shock value, but I'm like,
that's not funny joke. M I have the same answer
the whole game because we got to talk about stuff.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
That was cute. You could have the same answer, just
explain why in your own words.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
I think on the podcast, obviously we're vulnerable a lot,
but I think it's different in the sense that when
we talk about things in the podcast, we talk about
it in the way that we know. The audience doesn't know,
like the full context of things, so it's like as
describing they like generally how I felt about something. But
I think after experiencing each other go through like really
(46:09):
traumatic breakups, it's nice or it's like feels vulnerable to
you alfull to hear like that. We're both on the
other side of things now, so it's nice to like
we also know there's been progress from each other every day,
but like hearing the progress, like even like in like
tone voice, like being able to confidently talk about something
about getting emotional about it, it's supercute or whatever because
it's talk about growth.
Speaker 2 (46:30):
You know. And you'll never better really, Yeah, you'll never
be like healed or anything really because when you do
break up with somebody, you're always gonna have a piece
of them in your heart or your mind or both.
But I think the progress that we've made is so impressive,
and I think it's more than what a lot of
people can say about their own I feel really proud
of it, and I feel better in a lot of ways,
(46:53):
and I know you do too, which is so great
to see manifest I'll agreed, Oh who that is about it.
I loved that game. Did you like this episode?
Speaker 1 (47:03):
All right?
Speaker 2 (47:05):
That is a wrap. Everyone. Make sure to follow our
socials at Crying a public podcast on Instagram and TikTok,
but probably just Instagram because we have I say this
every episode.
Speaker 1 (47:15):
We're actually going to start once everything calms down.
Speaker 2 (47:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
Sorry, we.
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Have very busy lives, guys, we have both have four jobs.
And then you can also listen to us on Spotify,
Apple Podcasts and iHeart or wherever you get your podcasts.
We love you, guys, thank you for coming on this
vulnerable trip with us. We hope you like this episode.
Let us know if you want us to do more games,
because I have these card games out of the actual wantsuit.
(47:42):
I'm a big game girl, so I have like I
have like Girls' Night first person to laugh. That would
be good podcast content. But if also if you want
us to like get a game that is similar to
this or goes along the same line, send us a
link on our Instagram and son you'll check it out
and we'll probably get it. Yeah out, let us know
if you have any more content ideas.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
We love you.
Speaker 2 (48:02):
Goodbye,
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