April 4, 2024 • 34 mins
This week’s main dater, Javier says the hardest part of his nomad lifestyle is dating. On today’s episode the contestants get asked what they would bring to a deserted island during a round of rapid fire questions and give us their “hot takes” on topics like; Bloody Marys at night, keeping spiders in the house and no election this year. Will Abuelita find a match who is ready to get down and dirty with cross-country biking Javier?
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Vico. Hi, I had a premonition last night, and it
told me that today I'm going to make a match
made in heathing.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Ok Okay, that's a lot to live up to, but
let's give.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
It a go.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Now. I've got my guardian Ane just looking out for
our friend.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
This is date my Hourlita verse for our gorgeous Houri
dai Le plays.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Matchmaker for our star Dator and three.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Lucky contestants looking for some grand motherly approval. I am
your host, Vico, This joined by our lovely A.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Are you ready to meet our handsome main Dat.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Yeah, yes, let's do it. Yes me.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
This week's main Dat might have a little to teach
us about survival skills.
Speaker 5 (01:00):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
When we asked what makes him the happiest, he says bike,
beer and steak, short and sweet.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, he just finished a four thousand mile bike ride
and lives a pretty nomadic lifestyle.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I think it's time to welcome in Havier.
Speaker 5 (01:16):
Ha yet, come on in Hello? Thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Of course, tell us who Javier is, Give us your age,
what sparks joy, what makes you take? Just tell us
about your adventures? Anything laid on us you want to
know it all well.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
I'm a first generation Puerto Rican and the mainland my
mother unfortunately took us to Ohio, which was really not
the best place to go. Gotcha, and me and my
three brothers grew up there, and since a young age,
my brother's always drode it into me and said, you know,
your mother's raising us. As soon as you turn eighteen,
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you get out of the house, you go to college,
and you don't make mom work to support you any more.
And so I was like, yes, I'm going to go
to college. I'm going to do this whole thing. And
I did all that. I got tons of scholarships. I
ended up traveling and studying in different countries, and then
traveling I just started to realize that this whole chasing
a job that you think will bring you lots of
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money and happiness wasn't doing it. Everywhere I went, the
happiest people, the people who had the most joy, were
actually living simple lives. I fell in love with that,
and so traveling by bicycle allowed me to travel to
communities that people don't really visit and meet and have
wonderful interactions with people. So I became obsessed with trying
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new foods and exploring new communities. You meet everybody. You're
forced to meet everybody, so I became very social and
telling stories with people and being invited into homes all
the time. So now, after eighteen years of cycling around
the world, I've damn near done most of it.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And that's what I was going to ask you, if
I may interrupt. You've done this around the world.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
I've cycled all of North, Central and South America. Wow,
most of Europe, North Africa, some of the Middle East,
Southeast Asia, and Iceland and New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Wow, to name a few.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You've definitely been everywhere. How does your adventuring affect your
dating life?
Speaker 5 (03:19):
That's the most difficult thing. Really. You do meet solo
female travelers, but I tell you, I keep falling for
the wrong women because these strong, independent women I meet
on the road, adventurous and really mentally mature to be
on the road in traveling alone. I like them so much,
but they don't like men. So I'm like, oh, anyway,
(03:43):
I could change your mines really, because you're like everything
I'm looking for. Nope, Nope, sorry, I just don't. I
don't like men.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Hot, damn hot, damn.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
So the incredible women just happened to be barking at
the wrong tree.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Dang, that's a bummer.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
There's a few of us everywhere else, are Liva, You're
putting yourself as a contestine here.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
What's going on? My goodness?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Now, what exactly are you looking for these days?
Speaker 5 (04:09):
I guess those little games that we think traditional men
and women relationships are, like, I don't like that. I
want a woman that's strong enough that I am just
not lifting her up. I'm just kind of standing next
to her.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
You were raised by women, Yeah, by my grandmother and
my mother, And how was that up bringing?
Speaker 5 (04:29):
I also went to Catholic school, so there were a
bunch of nuns in the wish too. So, honestly, because
I'm the fourth and the youngest boy in a Puerto
Rican family, my grandmother and mother told me, oh, you're
going to be the priest. They're like, well, traditionally, if
a woman has many boys, the youngest boy's got to
be the priest. So in my head when I was
a little kid, I'm like, I guess I'm going to
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be a priest. I have that in my head for
like a good ten years. Yeah, that's kind of the
family I grew up in you know, crucifixes everywhere. Oh really,
Santos parties, Yeah, candles everywhere. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
If you are with a partner and one of you
is going through a moment of dysregulation, right, and something
like jealousy comes up, how do you want to handle that,
whether it's within yourself or the other person.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Well, in general, I don't like conflict, and I don't
like to argue.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Now.
Speaker 5 (05:21):
I do like to debate, you know. I'm very opinionated,
so I could debate about anything, the color of a
rock or anything. But and in relationships, I walk away,
take a breather, and then come back and revisit it
as long as nobody's yelling. I was raised by women
for a reason because I had a very abusive father.
So I will not do that. And that's a big,
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big red flag for me. If somebody likes to push
your buttons to make you aggressive, I get out of
that picture and I walk away jealousy. I really try
to avoid people who get jealoused for little things. That's
a big red flag for me, and I don't like
being situations like that.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
How do you communicate your feelings?
Speaker 2 (06:01):
How do you communicate your needs your ones around a
partner because we are not mind readers, all of us,
you know, amen to that.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Yeah, I try. Communication is always something that needs to
be improved. Part of the last relationship was because she
couldn't communicate to me. We had made an agreement. I
love beer. I'm a big beer drinker. And I said, okay,
you know what, I love beer, you love wheat. How
about I give up beer and you give up wheat.
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And we made this agreement. I didn't know that for
a whole year. She was smoking up the whole time,
and I was I gave up beer and we'd go
out and I was like, oh my god, drinking water,
drinking water. I looked good. I lost a lot of weight.
But then one morning I found out she was still smoking,
and that just crushed me. And I'm like, you've been
smoking every single day the whole time. That relationship ended
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because of that.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
How long were you together before and a half years?
It's two and a half years. And then because of
that what drew you to her? Originally?
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Actually I had a friend MATCHMAK for us. So it's
very difficult for me to meet people because of my lifestyle.
And you know, I like to travel.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
That was the last one ten years ago. Yeah, copy that.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Wow, that's a long time, bro.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
My friend said, I'm sick and tired of you being single.
You got to meet my friend and then so it
was kind of like okay, yeah, sure. She lived in
Colorado and I was living in San Francisco at that time,
and so after talking for a while, I said, you
know what, I'm going to ride my bike to go
on a date with you. And she was like, I'm
in Denver, what do you mean. I go, yeah, I'll
be there in two and a half weeks. So I
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left San Francisco and I rode my bike two and
a half weeks and I got to Denver and went
on a date with her, and she was blown away
that I rode my bike a thousand, two hundred miles
to see her. And then we started dating. But I
tried to lay it all out there. I told her
in the beginning, I'll never give you a ring, but
I will build you a house. And so that was
my kind of hint of how I would propose. So
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for my birthday, I flew her back to Colorado and
I had arranged to go see all these properties and
we found one hundred and twenty acres and it was beautiful,
and that real estate agent took us out there and
there's no house. It was just property and there was
woods and hills. And I looked there and I said,
come over here. And I grabbed her and I said,
(08:19):
could you envision you and I sitting on a porch
right here on a house that I build, with our
children running around the yard. And this was her response.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I guess I was proposed, why didn't you buy those
hundred and twenty acres and build yourself a home?
Speaker 5 (08:35):
Well, you know there's something about people living in the
woods and writing manifestos a load of the woods. I
really want to become one of those guys.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
So it's better if you're own, daid Maya Wilita.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, I'm here in La.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
I'm like you could do the hard work. It maybe
make things a little bit easier.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
With that said, I think Liliana is definitely ready to
find that adventurer, that down for anything, woman who can
keep up with you, or maybe you'll have to keep
up with her. So let's bring in the contestants, shall we.
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today. Malani
(09:19):
the first and now it's time to bring in our contestants.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Hello, Charie, Shannaka and II le.
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Hi.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Hello.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
First up, we have Sari.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Sari is from Australia and has moved around a lot
all of her life. She credits her upbringing with why
she is able to be so flexible with change. Her
red flags are people who don't listen and are too
self involved. Excellent red flags. She's a virgo, but she
says don't hate her for ed. She has a lot
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of variety in her charge. Welcome Shari, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Anytime, anytime.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Who's next?
Speaker 4 (10:03):
Mevi go.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Next, we have Eileen.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Eileen is a pattern maker and has a strong passion
for sustainable fashion. She has three passports oh and has
said if she wasn't working at nine to five, she
would move to a new place.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Every three months. Hello Eileen. Hi, And last, but.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Not least, we have Shaunaka. Shannika's friends would say she
is either one hundred year old grandmother.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Or she is crazy and wild. She prides herself on.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Being a loyal friend and is a bit of a footy,
always looking to.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Try a new restaurant. Meet Shaannaka.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Hello, Hi, Hello, my beautiful Nia. That's I'm really excited
that you're all here today. So let's get playing.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Eh, Yes, thank you for joining us.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
So let's break the ice with you three.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
We are going to ask some rapid fire Russians.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Leanna wanting the first one.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yes, let's do this now here we go, Ladies, pay attention.
What three things would you bring with you to a
deserted island? M m mmm interesting, Shanika.
Speaker 7 (11:15):
One of those global phones get my call from anywhere.
Something to start fire with so that I can cook
some food while i'm there, And something a purify water.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Well, nice, excellent, Chari. What are your objects?
Speaker 8 (11:31):
So I am a bit of a forest fairy, so
I think i'd fare pretty well on an island by myself.
And I often daydream about escaping society and living in
the jungle, so this is a dream to me. That's
something that I would miss. There would be writing. I
love writing, so i'd want, you know, a never ending
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pen and paper. And I guess i'd bring a hat
because I tend to have a son quota. I get
over the sun at certain times. Not on an island,
I think there'd be plenty of it.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Very very nice, very interesting, Eleen, what are your three items.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
I would definitely do a good pair of shoes, probably
a book to read, big one, and plenty of snacks.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Plenty of snacks, very very nice. All right, my time
for a rabbit.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
What is your favorite cheap thrill, for instance a crown
trap from Taco Bell? And what is your favorite thing
to splurge on, for instance a deep tissue massage. I
see shore you being like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, do
you want to answer first?
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
I will absolutely sledge on a message, and I consider
it a need, It's a necessity in life. And what's
a chape throw?
Speaker 5 (12:45):
Wait?
Speaker 8 (12:47):
My chape throw is I don't pay for it, but
I will take fruit off the trees. I say when
I go.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Walking, incredible, true fairy, a true girl Shaunago, What are yours?
Speaker 7 (13:02):
A cheap thrill is just a good girl's night, Bring
a cheap bottle of wine, bring some snacks, and that's
like an easy six of good times and you have
to break the bank.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Splurging is travel.
Speaker 7 (13:13):
I think that there's so much of the world to see,
and there's so many places to go, and I think
it's really important to take that time and explore the places.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Eileen, what are yours cheap thrill?
Speaker 4 (13:23):
I would probably just say a spontaneous hike.
Speaker 6 (13:25):
With so much opportunity here in La to you know,
either do a day trip, go really close, or even
just drive a little outside the city. So that's pretty
easy as far as a splurge. I often take Shaunaka's
answer to it's always travel.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
That's always number one.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Hell's yeah, hellsy, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Fun, Helena, what you got, I'm going there with these ladies. Okay,
here we go. If you were to have dinner with
anyone dead or alive, who would that be?
Speaker 3 (13:53):
And I see a lot of wonderful reactions with this.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
When do you think I lean?
Speaker 6 (13:59):
My answer is my grandpa, who isn't with us anymore,
but I miss him. And uh yeah, always really good conversation,
really mind enhancing.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
So beautiful answer, Shania.
Speaker 7 (14:12):
I'll get emotional too. My dad passed in twenty twelve,
so it'll be that I'm about to just like get
dinner with them again and catch up on the past.
So yeah, that would be that would be mine.
Speaker 8 (14:23):
Sure, I'm sorry to both of you. I've experienced a
lot of death in my life, so I'd feel wrong
just choosing one of them. So I'm going to go
with a world leader, like a life world leader, because
I would just love to know what is going through
all of your heads, you know, like I would just
be able to I would just really like to question
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them and maybe influence them a.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Little, you know, that would be good.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Do you have any world leader that comes to mind?
Speaker 8 (14:50):
Give me any of them? I mean, there's too many
to name. Really.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I feel that they are many world leaders who need
a little chunk land.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
They all need a little chang lad talking about.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
All right, I had last one.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Would you rather live in a world without music or
one without internet?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Shanny, go what is yours?
Speaker 8 (15:12):
This is so hard?
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Is there music on the internet? Like I thought Spotify?
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I see you trying to be like, let me just
like do it one. Let me break the system here.
Speaker 7 (15:25):
I'm going to do that because music is so important
to mean, I love music. I love going to shows.
That's like a big thing for me. But I would
not be able to get anywhere without the Internet. It's
my smartphone is my map. It's like I always lost.
So I'm like I need that. I need to stay
connected with people. So I'd have to say no music.
I'd have to pick the Internet.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Okay, very nice, Sure, what's yours?
Speaker 8 (15:49):
Fatally a world? Good night Internet. I mean I've day
dreamed about living in the forest, so yeah, I just
I love music and I think it's such a an
essential part of souls, you know. So yeah, that was
an easy choice for Meleen, Eileen.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
What's yours?
Speaker 6 (16:07):
I couldn't live in a world without It's a tough one,
but without internet, because we have so much access to information. Also,
I am by myself here in La, so that's how
I access my family most of the time.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
So that would just be that alone is the sole reason.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
All right, thank you all for your ladies rapid fire responses.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Dare I say they were fire?
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Anyway, It's time to play another game now before I
will lead that decides who she wants to take on
a second date. This game is going to be a
lot by see, we are going to be looking.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
For your hot takes. Maybe it'll win, I will eat
this heart, or maybe it'll be that hill you would
die on.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Give us an example.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Okay, here's my hot takee It's okay to wear socks
while you're having sex.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
I read like I mean that it's better.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
It definitely is better.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Because it keeps your feet warm and it makes everything
feel warmer and hell's with better orgasms.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Anyway, that's my hot.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Take, My hot takes, hotake sex anyway it comes. Which
time is that happening?
Speaker 5 (17:22):
All right?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Oh the calendar?
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Well there you go, Shau, I got tell us what
your hotache is?
Speaker 7 (17:29):
Okay, so I will say bloody Mary's at night, order
at the bar at night, like what's wrong with you?
And so I think that's kind of a weird thing
that people are like not the right time the day.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
To drink that it's just like like a spa show
but with a little vodka.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I got you salad in a glass.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Show you what's your hotache?
Speaker 8 (17:48):
I think you should just let spiders live in your house.
Does that count.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
As they save my little plant babies from all these
little mosquitos and shit and like and flies? So yeah,
I'm there with you, Eileen. What's your heart take?
Speaker 6 (18:02):
I think we should just skip the election this year because.
Speaker 4 (18:05):
There's no good answer anyway.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Here here we're all clapping, We're all does Brett Lena,
I feel like you.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Have another heart take on your chest.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Well, something we like talking about on the show is
astrology and we both put a lot of faith in
the stars, but not everyone does, so Hot Tache, is
astrology really that helpful in the German and relationship compatibility? Shari?
What do you think?
Speaker 8 (18:36):
I don't buy into it? I mean I know a
lot about it for someone who doesn't buy into it.
And when I had my chart read by a friend,
I was kind of blown away by how much was
in my chart that was relevant to my life. It
was like, show me where it says that I don't
believe you. So I guess I'm open, but skeptical.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
In true virgo form trying to go out. Are your
thoughts on that?
Speaker 8 (19:04):
Okay, you're not going to like my answer.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
You never know.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
I don't buy into astrology. I think it excuses bad behavior,
especially can be from an aries, because I don't feel
like I fit in aries at all. So because I
don't feel like I fit it, I think a lot
of people use it as an excuse like, oh, I'm sorry,
I like acted that way and it was hot headed
and crazy. It's because I'm an Aries.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
I'm like, no, girl, you're just a bit like.
Speaker 7 (19:27):
It's not because you're astrology sign, like you're just not
a nice person. So don't blame it on like marking
retrograde or the plans are misaligned.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
No, so it doesn't matter when you were born. You
are a Taurus.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Oh, I love that. I love that answer. That's fucking great, Eileen,
what are your thoughts?
Speaker 6 (19:47):
I agree with the other two ladies. When I do
kind of read my chart, I kind of agree with
certain things. But I also can't, you know, determine decisions
in my life based on what I'm reading.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
I'd rather go off of like my emotions and what
I think is right for me.
Speaker 6 (20:02):
So I think there's something there obviously is pretty old
and in play system, but it's not for me.
Speaker 3 (20:08):
Here here, here, here. I love that.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
That's great, Vico, it is your opinion. I knew you
were going to have to go there.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
I do enjoy substantially astrology, but I don't take just
my son's sign as a telltale. I'm a Libra, but
I'm not just a Libra. There's other elements in me
that like play with each other. I have my sad rising,
my scorpio moon, my virgo venus. Everything communicates to each
other and encompasses like who I am as a person.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
But again, I similarly do.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Agree that people that are always using these things as
a crutch to excuse their own behavior, that's never okay.
So like, I very much sympathize with these things, and
I also love to just, you know, lean a little bit.
And I'm like, oh, I'm a flirt because I'm a libra,
but I'm just.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
A fuck a great description of a libra. And well,
I think we've come to that point.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
This part is always hard, but thankfully, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
It Isa's duty to send one of these cuts down
the road.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
You are each so adorable. However, at the end of
the day, Alita has to look at what our main
data is interested in and which of the three of you,
which two of the three of you will be a
little more compatible. And we still have a lot more
questions to ask before the end of today's show. Anyway,
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and for that reason alone, the one person that will
be leaving us today is Shanic.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
My goodness, thank you, think you, think you, thank you,
thank you so much. We have such a wonderful energy.
We really appreciate you.
Speaker 7 (21:53):
Than bye so much.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, my
holy the first.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Well, here we are, the two of you now are
going to have a nice little one on one a
little so all right, Suri, welcome to.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Take it away.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Hi, my love, how are you today?
Speaker 5 (22:24):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (22:25):
Good?
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Thanks?
Speaker 8 (22:25):
This is fun. How are you?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
I'm doing good, so glad to see you. I'm gonna
ask you a couple of questions. Just open up your
heart in your mind and tell me how it is. Okay,
what kind of people do you usually date?
Speaker 8 (22:38):
I usually date people who don't have homes. It's not intentional,
but I've dated a guy who lived in his van,
a guy who lived in his car, another guy who
was traveling well, didn't have a heart like it just
seems to be a pattern.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Okay, And that didn't bother you? No, why? What is
the reason?
Speaker 8 (22:57):
Money can change in a heartbeat? So it's not the
reason that I would be going for someone. And it was,
I guess because I'm such a free spirited person myself.
I understood the hippie lifestyle and the nomad lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Tell me about your cooking expertise.
Speaker 8 (23:14):
Yeah, I love to cook. I enjoy it a lot.
I will say, though, that I don't cook meat because
I don't eat meat. So that can be a deal
breakup for some people.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
But Let's say that you are with your partner at
home and you're making dinner and he would like to
have a steak. It's okay if he makes it himself.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
He has to do it himself.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Yeah, okay, all right. So when was your last romantic
experience and how long was it it ended?
Speaker 8 (23:43):
I'd say two years ago. We were very incompatible and
so it was a bit of a painful breakup. It's
funny because I'm such an easy going, will accept everyone
and anyone kind of person. I have so many friends
that I maybe disagree with on very fundamental things, also
some that I agree with. But I've never ever thought
(24:04):
when it comes to relationships and maybe I should take
a different approach. It's only since that relationship that I've realized, oh,
maybe certain things do need to be the same. You
do need to look for things that are compatible or
it's just never going to work.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
What are you specifically looking for in a man?
Speaker 8 (24:20):
I want someone who we can make each other laugh.
That's really important to me. I want honesty, and I
want someone who is, you know, compassionate and kind and empathetic.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Are you willing to go on adventures, travel, do all
kinds of things?
Speaker 8 (24:35):
Yeah, I love adventures. I love travel. I am speaking
of adventures like I've done stunt school. I learnt a
paraglide solo. I love hiking. I've jumped off clifts into oceans.
My mother and I a deal when I was young
that I had to stop telling her before the fact.
I had to tell her after I was safe, so
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that she didn't have to worry.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
That is so sweet. Well, thank you, Shari. That's really
sweet of you. We enjoy your answers and let's see
what happens.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Yes, thank you, SCHERI, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Fantastic a Walita, take it away with your gofen.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 3 (25:18):
I'm great?
Speaker 4 (25:18):
How are you, a Belita?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I am doing great. This is getting tougher by the second.
So just open up your heart in your mind and
be honest about your answers and let's see where all
this goes. Okay, now you were you were born in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
I was born in Germany.
Speaker 5 (25:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Did you live there for any period of time? Yes?
Speaker 5 (25:37):
So.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
My mom's German, my dad's Canadian Americans. I kind of
grew up with all three. We moved around a lot
as a kid, so I lived on three different continents
before I was like three, so yeah, but I grew
up in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:52):
That's my hometown.
Speaker 6 (25:54):
Most of my you know, my mom's side of the
family is all there, but that's kind of what I
consider my hometown is in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
So I speak fluent German.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Have you ever dated a German Man?
Speaker 6 (26:03):
I have, but it's been a while. I've been here
for thirteen years, so okay.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
So what is it that you're looking for in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (26:10):
I think just a partner, like an equal, someone who
likes to have fun. I definitely do love my downtime,
but I also really like to make the most out
of every day. So I really would like a partner
who kind of feels the same way. You know, you
wake up in the more it's like what can we
do today or how can we make the most of
our time?
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Okay, so you are ready for a relationship, absolutely? What
is love to you?
Speaker 6 (26:35):
I'm kind of rational when it comes to love. I
try to be a little bit more down to her,
so you know, I'm not the kind of person who
gets swept away.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Give me two qualities you're looking for in a man, a.
Speaker 6 (26:44):
Good sense of humor and someone who can be honest.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
That's very important, isn't it. Well, thank you so much, sweetheart,
it's very nice answers. And let's see where we go
from here, Okay, perfect I wanted to Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Is it time for us to let them know our secret?
Speaker 1 (27:03):
God, I've been waiting forever. I know, I know them,
let's tell them.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Well, so a little did you know that our main
data has been listening this whole time. He's been lurking
in their shadows, looking at everything and listening to all.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Here's the thing, though, Alita might.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Have an idea of who she likes for him, but
we're gonna have you step out for a second to
see we have.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
A unanimous decision.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
In the meantime, muchisimas grasias to the both of you, Bess, truly,
it's been so much fun. Thank you so much for playing.
We'll deliberate and then we'll bring you back in into
the damn thing. Yes havit, come on in for a
hot second. And first impressions about these two now that
(27:48):
we have gotten to know them a little bit more.
Speaker 5 (27:51):
Shari has that nomad lifestyle she mentioned certain key words.
She is really free flowing and is kind of creative.
I think the biggest thing is this vegan thing. I
actually do hunt and on the island I would definitely
be grabbing animals.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
But she's willing to let you cook your own meat.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Yeah that's true.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
And since you are very much in the strong belief
that you each stand on your own and you share
whatever lifestyle you each have, well then good we can
do that, right Yeah.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
Yeah, I mean I did it brings before Eileen. I
actually really like Germany. I go to Germany often for
the beer festivals. That's cool, that's interesting, And that she
has different passports that's actually really nice. If I'm looking
forward to like children and a family, Canada and Germany
those are great places to live. Actually, those are the
key things I've jotted down.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
All right, Well, thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Me and I would are going to process everything that's happened,
and we're going to bring them both and make a choice.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah yeah, let you know, soon.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Will leave that talk to me.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
My opinion would be, what is yours?
Speaker 3 (29:02):
It's a tough one. It's a tough one.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
I feel like I know that he says he wants
someone has independent, someone that's like in doing their own
and all that does. But there's always that like mentioned of,
like I want to build a home, right. I think
Eileen has a bit more of that, right, But she's
also independent, is doing her own thing. So I think
that Shari is wonderful, is amazing. I do think that
like they're both so independent that they're just gonna not really.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Be independent of each other.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Yeah, it might be fun for a couple of trips
here and there, absolutely, but then when it comes to
like building home and building house, I think that's not
something that might. Yeah, but I think they're both great
truly dumb for either.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Oh so let me think about it for another thirty seconds.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Sounds good.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
Let's do that.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Okay, So the jury has a verdict.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Thank you both so much for your wonderful answers, for
being so candid and earnest and really putting it out there.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
That listen, ladies, you are both amazing, fantastic, out of
this world a little different. But in this case, I
needed to look at what our main data wants, needs
and is looking forward to, and for that reason alone,
the person who will be with our main data today
is Eileen.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Wow.
Speaker 8 (30:22):
Yes, sorry, I had a lot of fun. Thank you
so much.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Oh, thank you thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
You bye b bye.
Speaker 9 (30:31):
Well without further ado, Eileen neat Havierer javierre come on
and turn your camera Hellovier, Hello Javier.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
What were your first impressions?
Speaker 5 (30:46):
I love that you're German and Canadian. I go to
Octoberfest a lot. I've worked Octoberfest, so I think that's
kind of cool.
Speaker 6 (30:55):
Wow, can you carry all the beers?
Speaker 4 (30:57):
I can only carry six more than I can carry.
Speaker 5 (31:00):
I actually have leto housin right here in La and I.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
Haven't done this.
Speaker 5 (31:04):
Yeah. Oh, okay, yeah, you seemed adventurous and willing to
be spontaneous and creative. So that's what I noticed.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Okay, you too.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
We know there's a lot to talk about, so we're
going to send you off on.
Speaker 3 (31:18):
Your little virtual date. We're going to turn it on
to Eeps's drums.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So hard.
Speaker 5 (31:27):
So I moved to La. I've only been here a month.
No way, I moved from San Francisco.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Okay, I love San Francisco.
Speaker 6 (31:34):
My parents lived in San Jose for years, so I'm
very familiar.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
I'm still learning the area. I'm a really big cyclist,
so I actually ride my bicycle around the world.
Speaker 4 (31:45):
No Way, I have a bicycle.
Speaker 5 (31:48):
You do good.
Speaker 6 (31:49):
I bought it off an old lady in twenty twenty
when the pandemic hit and it has a basket.
Speaker 4 (31:53):
But I do love my bike well.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
On social media, I'm hungry guy on a bicyclea you
can see tons of my photos of traveling. I do
love to eat and I love to cook.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
I love to eat.
Speaker 5 (32:06):
I do hunt too, to eat it not for the trophy.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
Oh wow. My family in Germany they're butchers. My cousins
they're butchers.
Speaker 6 (32:14):
Yeah, and so they hunt and stuff and then like
the meat was provided by my mom's best friend's farm.
Speaker 5 (32:19):
Great. You can check out my Instagram profile I just
added to I've just been adding tons of pictures of
my travels and food that I eat or things that
I yeah, I do.
Speaker 6 (32:30):
Cool.
Speaker 5 (32:30):
Yeah, that pretty much tells my whole life story since
twenty seventeen.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
Nice. That sounds cool. Welcome to La Yeah.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
It's it's uh, there's so much to see. It's there's
a lot of driving around here. So but yeah, I'm
definitely up for like going on parking, taking the bikes out,
and then cycling a trail. If you're down for that,
that'd be kind of cool.
Speaker 4 (32:50):
I'm definitely down for that.
Speaker 8 (32:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (32:51):
So my bike it's an older it's like nineties, but
it's a mountain bike hybrid.
Speaker 4 (32:55):
It's not like a road bike or anything.
Speaker 5 (32:57):
I may have a bike that you could use.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Ah Okay, that is all the heat we could handle
this week.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Folks.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Check back in next week as we meet our next Nieto,
Nietta Nieta and a Alita plays matchmaker once more. Bite
Maori The First is a production from WV Sound and
iHeartMedia's My Ultura podcast network, hosted by me Vico Ortis
joined by the fabulous Leanna Montenegro Bait may Awali. The
First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel, and Sophie
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Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valder Alma, Leo Clem,
and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode was edited
by Sean Tracy and Nico Raguel. This episode features original
music by Gabe Lopez and Alvaro Morello. Special thanks to
our team of cupits at w V Entertainment. Special things
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also to our hopeful romantics this week, Javier, Eileen, Shanaka
and Churi. Additional thanks to Salt and line Media. For
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next week and in the meantime, don't do anything.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
I will lead that wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Oh, just do it better, Okays.
Vico. Hi, I had a premonition last night, and it
told me that today I'm going to make a match
made in heathing.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Ok Okay, that's a lot to live up to, but
let's give.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
It a go.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Now. I've got my guardian Ane just looking out for
our friend.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Here.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
This is date my Hourlita verse for our gorgeous Houri
dai Le plays.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Matchmaker for our star Dator and three.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Lucky contestants looking for some grand motherly approval. I am
your host, Vico, This joined by our lovely A.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Are you ready to meet our handsome main Dat.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Yeah, yes, let's do it. Yes me.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
This week's main Dat might have a little to teach
us about survival skills.
Speaker 5 (01:00):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
When we asked what makes him the happiest, he says bike,
beer and steak, short and sweet.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, he just finished a four thousand mile bike ride
and lives a pretty nomadic lifestyle.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
I think it's time to welcome in Havier.
Speaker 5 (01:16):
Ha yet, come on in Hello? Thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Of course, tell us who Javier is, Give us your age,
what sparks joy, what makes you take? Just tell us
about your adventures? Anything laid on us you want to
know it all well.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
I'm a first generation Puerto Rican and the mainland my
mother unfortunately took us to Ohio, which was really not
the best place to go. Gotcha, and me and my
three brothers grew up there, and since a young age,
my brother's always drode it into me and said, you know,
your mother's raising us. As soon as you turn eighteen,
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you get out of the house, you go to college,
and you don't make mom work to support you any more.
And so I was like, yes, I'm going to go
to college. I'm going to do this whole thing. And
I did all that. I got tons of scholarships. I
ended up traveling and studying in different countries, and then
traveling I just started to realize that this whole chasing
a job that you think will bring you lots of
(02:16):
money and happiness wasn't doing it. Everywhere I went, the
happiest people, the people who had the most joy, were
actually living simple lives. I fell in love with that,
and so traveling by bicycle allowed me to travel to
communities that people don't really visit and meet and have
wonderful interactions with people. So I became obsessed with trying
(02:38):
new foods and exploring new communities. You meet everybody. You're
forced to meet everybody, so I became very social and
telling stories with people and being invited into homes all
the time. So now, after eighteen years of cycling around
the world, I've damn near done most of it.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
And that's what I was going to ask you, if
I may interrupt. You've done this around the world.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
I've cycled all of North, Central and South America. Wow,
most of Europe, North Africa, some of the Middle East,
Southeast Asia, and Iceland and New Zealand.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Wow, to name a few.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You've definitely been everywhere. How does your adventuring affect your
dating life?
Speaker 5 (03:19):
That's the most difficult thing. Really. You do meet solo
female travelers, but I tell you, I keep falling for
the wrong women because these strong, independent women I meet
on the road, adventurous and really mentally mature to be
on the road in traveling alone. I like them so much,
but they don't like men. So I'm like, oh, anyway,
(03:43):
I could change your mines really, because you're like everything
I'm looking for. Nope, Nope, sorry, I just don't. I
don't like men.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Hot, damn hot, damn.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
So the incredible women just happened to be barking at
the wrong tree.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Dang, that's a bummer.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
There's a few of us everywhere else, are Liva, You're
putting yourself as a contestine here.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
What's going on? My goodness?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Now, what exactly are you looking for these days?
Speaker 5 (04:09):
I guess those little games that we think traditional men
and women relationships are, like, I don't like that. I
want a woman that's strong enough that I am just
not lifting her up. I'm just kind of standing next
to her.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
You were raised by women, Yeah, by my grandmother and
my mother, And how was that up bringing?
Speaker 5 (04:29):
I also went to Catholic school, so there were a
bunch of nuns in the wish too. So, honestly, because
I'm the fourth and the youngest boy in a Puerto
Rican family, my grandmother and mother told me, oh, you're
going to be the priest. They're like, well, traditionally, if
a woman has many boys, the youngest boy's got to
be the priest. So in my head when I was
a little kid, I'm like, I guess I'm going to
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be a priest. I have that in my head for
like a good ten years. Yeah, that's kind of the
family I grew up in you know, crucifixes everywhere. Oh really,
Santos parties, Yeah, candles everywhere. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
If you are with a partner and one of you
is going through a moment of dysregulation, right, and something
like jealousy comes up, how do you want to handle that,
whether it's within yourself or the other person.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Well, in general, I don't like conflict, and I don't
like to argue.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Now.
Speaker 5 (05:21):
I do like to debate, you know. I'm very opinionated,
so I could debate about anything, the color of a
rock or anything. But and in relationships, I walk away,
take a breather, and then come back and revisit it
as long as nobody's yelling. I was raised by women
for a reason because I had a very abusive father.
So I will not do that. And that's a big,
(05:42):
big red flag for me. If somebody likes to push
your buttons to make you aggressive, I get out of
that picture and I walk away jealousy. I really try
to avoid people who get jealoused for little things. That's
a big red flag for me, and I don't like
being situations like that.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
How do you communicate your feelings?
Speaker 2 (06:01):
How do you communicate your needs your ones around a
partner because we are not mind readers, all of us,
you know, amen to that.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
Yeah, I try. Communication is always something that needs to
be improved. Part of the last relationship was because she
couldn't communicate to me. We had made an agreement. I
love beer. I'm a big beer drinker. And I said, okay,
you know what, I love beer, you love wheat. How
about I give up beer and you give up wheat.
(06:28):
And we made this agreement. I didn't know that for
a whole year. She was smoking up the whole time,
and I was I gave up beer and we'd go
out and I was like, oh my god, drinking water,
drinking water. I looked good. I lost a lot of weight.
But then one morning I found out she was still smoking,
and that just crushed me. And I'm like, you've been
smoking every single day the whole time. That relationship ended
(06:50):
because of that.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
How long were you together before and a half years?
It's two and a half years. And then because of
that what drew you to her? Originally?
Speaker 5 (06:59):
Actually I had a friend MATCHMAK for us. So it's
very difficult for me to meet people because of my lifestyle.
And you know, I like to travel.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
That was the last one ten years ago. Yeah, copy that.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
Wow, that's a long time, bro.
Speaker 5 (07:14):
My friend said, I'm sick and tired of you being single.
You got to meet my friend and then so it
was kind of like okay, yeah, sure. She lived in
Colorado and I was living in San Francisco at that time,
and so after talking for a while, I said, you
know what, I'm going to ride my bike to go
on a date with you. And she was like, I'm
in Denver, what do you mean. I go, yeah, I'll
be there in two and a half weeks. So I
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left San Francisco and I rode my bike two and
a half weeks and I got to Denver and went
on a date with her, and she was blown away
that I rode my bike a thousand, two hundred miles
to see her. And then we started dating. But I
tried to lay it all out there. I told her
in the beginning, I'll never give you a ring, but
I will build you a house. And so that was
my kind of hint of how I would propose. So
(07:59):
for my birthday, I flew her back to Colorado and
I had arranged to go see all these properties and
we found one hundred and twenty acres and it was beautiful,
and that real estate agent took us out there and
there's no house. It was just property and there was
woods and hills. And I looked there and I said,
come over here. And I grabbed her and I said,
(08:19):
could you envision you and I sitting on a porch
right here on a house that I build, with our
children running around the yard. And this was her response.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
I guess I was proposed, why didn't you buy those
hundred and twenty acres and build yourself a home?
Speaker 5 (08:35):
Well, you know there's something about people living in the
woods and writing manifestos a load of the woods. I
really want to become one of those guys.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
So it's better if you're own, daid Maya Wilita.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Yes, I'm here in La.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
I'm like you could do the hard work. It maybe
make things a little bit easier.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
With that said, I think Liliana is definitely ready to
find that adventurer, that down for anything, woman who can
keep up with you, or maybe you'll have to keep
up with her. So let's bring in the contestants, shall we.
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today. Malani
(09:19):
the first and now it's time to bring in our contestants.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
Hello, Charie, Shannaka and II le.
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Hi.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Hello.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
First up, we have Sari.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Sari is from Australia and has moved around a lot
all of her life. She credits her upbringing with why
she is able to be so flexible with change. Her
red flags are people who don't listen and are too
self involved. Excellent red flags. She's a virgo, but she
says don't hate her for ed. She has a lot
(09:54):
of variety in her charge. Welcome Shari, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Anytime, anytime.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Who's next?
Speaker 4 (10:03):
Mevi go.
Speaker 3 (10:03):
Next, we have Eileen.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Eileen is a pattern maker and has a strong passion
for sustainable fashion. She has three passports oh and has
said if she wasn't working at nine to five, she
would move to a new place.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Every three months. Hello Eileen. Hi, And last, but.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Not least, we have Shaunaka. Shannika's friends would say she
is either one hundred year old grandmother.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Or she is crazy and wild. She prides herself on.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Being a loyal friend and is a bit of a footy,
always looking to.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Try a new restaurant. Meet Shaannaka.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Hello, Hi, Hello, my beautiful Nia. That's I'm really excited
that you're all here today. So let's get playing.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Eh, Yes, thank you for joining us.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
So let's break the ice with you three.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
We are going to ask some rapid fire Russians.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Leanna wanting the first one.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yes, let's do this now here we go, Ladies, pay attention.
What three things would you bring with you to a
deserted island? M m mmm interesting, Shanika.
Speaker 7 (11:15):
One of those global phones get my call from anywhere.
Something to start fire with so that I can cook
some food while i'm there, And something a purify water.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Well, nice, excellent, Chari. What are your objects?
Speaker 8 (11:31):
So I am a bit of a forest fairy, so
I think i'd fare pretty well on an island by myself.
And I often daydream about escaping society and living in
the jungle, so this is a dream to me. That's
something that I would miss. There would be writing. I
love writing, so i'd want, you know, a never ending
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pen and paper. And I guess i'd bring a hat
because I tend to have a son quota. I get
over the sun at certain times. Not on an island,
I think there'd be plenty of it.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Very very nice, very interesting, Eleen, what are your three items.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
I would definitely do a good pair of shoes, probably
a book to read, big one, and plenty of snacks.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
Plenty of snacks, very very nice. All right, my time
for a rabbit.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Good question.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
What is your favorite cheap thrill, for instance a crown
trap from Taco Bell? And what is your favorite thing
to splurge on, for instance a deep tissue massage. I
see shore you being like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, do
you want to answer first?
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
I will absolutely sledge on a message, and I consider
it a need, It's a necessity in life. And what's
a chape throw?
Speaker 5 (12:45):
Wait?
Speaker 8 (12:47):
My chape throw is I don't pay for it, but
I will take fruit off the trees. I say when
I go.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Walking, incredible, true fairy, a true girl Shaunago, What are yours?
Speaker 7 (13:02):
A cheap thrill is just a good girl's night, Bring
a cheap bottle of wine, bring some snacks, and that's
like an easy six of good times and you have
to break the bank.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Splurging is travel.
Speaker 7 (13:13):
I think that there's so much of the world to see,
and there's so many places to go, and I think
it's really important to take that time and explore the places.
Speaker 3 (13:20):
Eileen, what are yours cheap thrill?
Speaker 4 (13:23):
I would probably just say a spontaneous hike.
Speaker 6 (13:25):
With so much opportunity here in La to you know,
either do a day trip, go really close, or even
just drive a little outside the city. So that's pretty
easy as far as a splurge. I often take Shaunaka's
answer to it's always travel.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
That's always number one.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Hell's yeah, hellsy, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Fun, Helena, what you got, I'm going there with these ladies. Okay,
here we go. If you were to have dinner with
anyone dead or alive, who would that be?
Speaker 3 (13:53):
And I see a lot of wonderful reactions with this.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
When do you think I lean?
Speaker 6 (13:59):
My answer is my grandpa, who isn't with us anymore,
but I miss him. And uh yeah, always really good conversation,
really mind enhancing.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
So beautiful answer, Shania.
Speaker 7 (14:12):
I'll get emotional too. My dad passed in twenty twelve,
so it'll be that I'm about to just like get
dinner with them again and catch up on the past.
So yeah, that would be that would be mine.
Speaker 8 (14:23):
Sure, I'm sorry to both of you. I've experienced a
lot of death in my life, so I'd feel wrong
just choosing one of them. So I'm going to go
with a world leader, like a life world leader, because
I would just love to know what is going through
all of your heads, you know, like I would just
be able to I would just really like to question
(14:44):
them and maybe influence them a.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
Little, you know, that would be good.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
Do you have any world leader that comes to mind?
Speaker 8 (14:50):
Give me any of them? I mean, there's too many
to name. Really.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I feel that they are many world leaders who need
a little chunk land.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
They all need a little chang lad talking about.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
All right, I had last one.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Would you rather live in a world without music or
one without internet?
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Shanny, go what is yours?
Speaker 8 (15:12):
This is so hard?
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Is there music on the internet? Like I thought Spotify?
Speaker 2 (15:19):
I see you trying to be like, let me just
like do it one. Let me break the system here.
Speaker 7 (15:25):
I'm going to do that because music is so important
to mean, I love music. I love going to shows.
That's like a big thing for me. But I would
not be able to get anywhere without the Internet. It's
my smartphone is my map. It's like I always lost.
So I'm like I need that. I need to stay
connected with people. So I'd have to say no music.
I'd have to pick the Internet.
Speaker 3 (15:45):
Okay, very nice, Sure, what's yours?
Speaker 8 (15:49):
Fatally a world? Good night Internet. I mean I've day
dreamed about living in the forest, so yeah, I just
I love music and I think it's such a an
essential part of souls, you know. So yeah, that was
an easy choice for Meleen, Eileen.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
What's yours?
Speaker 6 (16:07):
I couldn't live in a world without It's a tough one,
but without internet, because we have so much access to information. Also,
I am by myself here in La, so that's how
I access my family most of the time.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
So that would just be that alone is the sole reason.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
All right, thank you all for your ladies rapid fire responses.
Speaker 3 (16:27):
Dare I say they were fire?
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Anyway, It's time to play another game now before I
will lead that decides who she wants to take on
a second date. This game is going to be a
lot by see, we are going to be looking.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
For your hot takes. Maybe it'll win, I will eat
this heart, or maybe it'll be that hill you would
die on.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Give us an example.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Okay, here's my hot takee It's okay to wear socks
while you're having sex.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
I read like I mean that it's better.
Speaker 3 (17:05):
It definitely is better.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
Because it keeps your feet warm and it makes everything
feel warmer and hell's with better orgasms.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
Anyway, that's my hot.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Take, My hot takes, hotake sex anyway it comes. Which
time is that happening?
Speaker 5 (17:22):
All right?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Oh the calendar?
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Well there you go, Shau, I got tell us what
your hotache is?
Speaker 7 (17:29):
Okay, so I will say bloody Mary's at night, order
at the bar at night, like what's wrong with you?
And so I think that's kind of a weird thing
that people are like not the right time the day.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
To drink that it's just like like a spa show
but with a little vodka.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
I got you salad in a glass.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Show you what's your hotache?
Speaker 8 (17:48):
I think you should just let spiders live in your house.
Does that count.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
As they save my little plant babies from all these
little mosquitos and shit and like and flies? So yeah,
I'm there with you, Eileen. What's your heart take?
Speaker 6 (18:02):
I think we should just skip the election this year because.
Speaker 4 (18:05):
There's no good answer anyway.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Here here we're all clapping, We're all does Brett Lena,
I feel like you.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Have another heart take on your chest.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
Well, something we like talking about on the show is
astrology and we both put a lot of faith in
the stars, but not everyone does, so Hot Tache, is
astrology really that helpful in the German and relationship compatibility? Shari?
What do you think?
Speaker 8 (18:36):
I don't buy into it? I mean I know a
lot about it for someone who doesn't buy into it.
And when I had my chart read by a friend,
I was kind of blown away by how much was
in my chart that was relevant to my life. It
was like, show me where it says that I don't
believe you. So I guess I'm open, but skeptical.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
In true virgo form trying to go out. Are your
thoughts on that?
Speaker 8 (19:04):
Okay, you're not going to like my answer.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
You never know.
Speaker 7 (19:08):
I don't buy into astrology. I think it excuses bad behavior,
especially can be from an aries, because I don't feel
like I fit in aries at all. So because I
don't feel like I fit it, I think a lot
of people use it as an excuse like, oh, I'm sorry,
I like acted that way and it was hot headed
and crazy. It's because I'm an Aries.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
I'm like, no, girl, you're just a bit like.
Speaker 7 (19:27):
It's not because you're astrology sign, like you're just not
a nice person. So don't blame it on like marking
retrograde or the plans are misaligned.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
No, so it doesn't matter when you were born. You
are a Taurus.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Oh, I love that. I love that answer. That's fucking great, Eileen,
what are your thoughts?
Speaker 6 (19:47):
I agree with the other two ladies. When I do
kind of read my chart, I kind of agree with
certain things. But I also can't, you know, determine decisions
in my life based on what I'm reading.
Speaker 4 (19:59):
I'd rather go off of like my emotions and what
I think is right for me.
Speaker 6 (20:02):
So I think there's something there obviously is pretty old
and in play system, but it's not for me.
Speaker 3 (20:08):
Here here, here, here. I love that.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
That's great, Vico, it is your opinion. I knew you
were going to have to go there.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
I do enjoy substantially astrology, but I don't take just
my son's sign as a telltale. I'm a Libra, but
I'm not just a Libra. There's other elements in me
that like play with each other. I have my sad rising,
my scorpio moon, my virgo venus. Everything communicates to each
other and encompasses like who I am as a person.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
But again, I similarly do.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Agree that people that are always using these things as
a crutch to excuse their own behavior, that's never okay.
So like, I very much sympathize with these things, and
I also love to just, you know, lean a little bit.
And I'm like, oh, I'm a flirt because I'm a libra,
but I'm just.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
A fuck a great description of a libra. And well,
I think we've come to that point.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
This part is always hard, but thankfully, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
It Isa's duty to send one of these cuts down
the road.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
You are each so adorable. However, at the end of
the day, Alita has to look at what our main
data is interested in and which of the three of you,
which two of the three of you will be a
little more compatible. And we still have a lot more
questions to ask before the end of today's show. Anyway,
(21:36):
and for that reason alone, the one person that will
be leaving us today is Shanic.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
My goodness, thank you, think you, think you, thank you,
thank you so much. We have such a wonderful energy.
We really appreciate you.
Speaker 7 (21:53):
Than bye so much.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, my
holy the first.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Well, here we are, the two of you now are
going to have a nice little one on one a
little so all right, Suri, welcome to.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Take it away.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Hi, my love, how are you today?
Speaker 5 (22:24):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (22:25):
Good?
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Thanks?
Speaker 8 (22:25):
This is fun. How are you?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
I'm doing good, so glad to see you. I'm gonna
ask you a couple of questions. Just open up your
heart in your mind and tell me how it is. Okay,
what kind of people do you usually date?
Speaker 8 (22:38):
I usually date people who don't have homes. It's not intentional,
but I've dated a guy who lived in his van,
a guy who lived in his car, another guy who
was traveling well, didn't have a heart like it just
seems to be a pattern.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
Okay, And that didn't bother you? No, why? What is
the reason?
Speaker 8 (22:57):
Money can change in a heartbeat? So it's not the
reason that I would be going for someone. And it was,
I guess because I'm such a free spirited person myself.
I understood the hippie lifestyle and the nomad lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Tell me about your cooking expertise.
Speaker 8 (23:14):
Yeah, I love to cook. I enjoy it a lot.
I will say, though, that I don't cook meat because
I don't eat meat. So that can be a deal
breakup for some people.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
But Let's say that you are with your partner at
home and you're making dinner and he would like to
have a steak. It's okay if he makes it himself.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
He has to do it himself.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Yeah, okay, all right. So when was your last romantic
experience and how long was it it ended?
Speaker 8 (23:43):
I'd say two years ago. We were very incompatible and
so it was a bit of a painful breakup. It's
funny because I'm such an easy going, will accept everyone
and anyone kind of person. I have so many friends
that I maybe disagree with on very fundamental things, also
some that I agree with. But I've never ever thought
(24:04):
when it comes to relationships and maybe I should take
a different approach. It's only since that relationship that I've realized, oh,
maybe certain things do need to be the same. You
do need to look for things that are compatible or
it's just never going to work.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
What are you specifically looking for in a man?
Speaker 8 (24:20):
I want someone who we can make each other laugh.
That's really important to me. I want honesty, and I
want someone who is, you know, compassionate and kind and empathetic.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Are you willing to go on adventures, travel, do all
kinds of things?
Speaker 8 (24:35):
Yeah, I love adventures. I love travel. I am speaking
of adventures like I've done stunt school. I learnt a
paraglide solo. I love hiking. I've jumped off clifts into oceans.
My mother and I a deal when I was young
that I had to stop telling her before the fact.
I had to tell her after I was safe, so
(24:56):
that she didn't have to worry.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
That is so sweet. Well, thank you, Shari. That's really
sweet of you. We enjoy your answers and let's see
what happens.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
Yes, thank you, SCHERI, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Fantastic a Walita, take it away with your gofen.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
How are you, my love?
Speaker 3 (25:18):
I'm great?
Speaker 4 (25:18):
How are you, a Belita?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
I am doing great. This is getting tougher by the second.
So just open up your heart in your mind and
be honest about your answers and let's see where all
this goes. Okay, now you were you were born in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
I was born in Germany.
Speaker 5 (25:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Did you live there for any period of time? Yes?
Speaker 5 (25:37):
So.
Speaker 6 (25:38):
My mom's German, my dad's Canadian Americans. I kind of
grew up with all three. We moved around a lot
as a kid, so I lived on three different continents
before I was like three, so yeah, but I grew
up in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:52):
That's my hometown.
Speaker 6 (25:54):
Most of my you know, my mom's side of the
family is all there, but that's kind of what I
consider my hometown is in Germany.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
So I speak fluent German.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Have you ever dated a German Man?
Speaker 6 (26:03):
I have, but it's been a while. I've been here
for thirteen years, so okay.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
So what is it that you're looking for in a relationship.
Speaker 6 (26:10):
I think just a partner, like an equal, someone who
likes to have fun. I definitely do love my downtime,
but I also really like to make the most out
of every day. So I really would like a partner
who kind of feels the same way. You know, you
wake up in the more it's like what can we
do today or how can we make the most of
our time?
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Okay, so you are ready for a relationship, absolutely? What
is love to you?
Speaker 6 (26:35):
I'm kind of rational when it comes to love. I
try to be a little bit more down to her,
so you know, I'm not the kind of person who
gets swept away.
Speaker 1 (26:41):
Give me two qualities you're looking for in a man, a.
Speaker 6 (26:44):
Good sense of humor and someone who can be honest.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
That's very important, isn't it. Well, thank you so much, sweetheart,
it's very nice answers. And let's see where we go
from here, Okay, perfect I wanted to Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:00):
Is it time for us to let them know our secret?
Speaker 1 (27:03):
God, I've been waiting forever. I know, I know them,
let's tell them.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Well, so a little did you know that our main
data has been listening this whole time. He's been lurking
in their shadows, looking at everything and listening to all.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Here's the thing, though, Alita might.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Have an idea of who she likes for him, but
we're gonna have you step out for a second to
see we have.
Speaker 3 (27:26):
A unanimous decision.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
In the meantime, muchisimas grasias to the both of you, Bess, truly,
it's been so much fun. Thank you so much for playing.
We'll deliberate and then we'll bring you back in into
the damn thing. Yes havit, come on in for a
hot second. And first impressions about these two now that
(27:48):
we have gotten to know them a little bit more.
Speaker 5 (27:51):
Shari has that nomad lifestyle she mentioned certain key words.
She is really free flowing and is kind of creative.
I think the biggest thing is this vegan thing. I
actually do hunt and on the island I would definitely
be grabbing animals.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
But she's willing to let you cook your own meat.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Yeah that's true.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
And since you are very much in the strong belief
that you each stand on your own and you share
whatever lifestyle you each have, well then good we can
do that, right Yeah.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
Yeah, I mean I did it brings before Eileen. I
actually really like Germany. I go to Germany often for
the beer festivals. That's cool, that's interesting, And that she
has different passports that's actually really nice. If I'm looking
forward to like children and a family, Canada and Germany
those are great places to live. Actually, those are the
key things I've jotted down.
Speaker 3 (28:43):
All right, Well, thank you.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
Me and I would are going to process everything that's happened,
and we're going to bring them both and make a choice.
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah yeah, let you know, soon.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
Will leave that talk to me.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
My opinion would be, what is yours?
Speaker 3 (29:02):
It's a tough one. It's a tough one.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
I feel like I know that he says he wants
someone has independent, someone that's like in doing their own
and all that does. But there's always that like mentioned of,
like I want to build a home, right. I think
Eileen has a bit more of that, right, But she's
also independent, is doing her own thing. So I think
that Shari is wonderful, is amazing. I do think that
like they're both so independent that they're just gonna not really.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Be independent of each other.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Yeah, it might be fun for a couple of trips
here and there, absolutely, but then when it comes to
like building home and building house, I think that's not
something that might. Yeah, but I think they're both great
truly dumb for either.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Oh so let me think about it for another thirty seconds.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
Sounds good.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
Let's do that.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Okay, So the jury has a verdict.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Thank you both so much for your wonderful answers, for
being so candid and earnest and really putting it out there.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
That listen, ladies, you are both amazing, fantastic, out of
this world a little different. But in this case, I
needed to look at what our main data wants, needs
and is looking forward to, and for that reason alone,
the person who will be with our main data today
is Eileen.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
Wow.
Speaker 8 (30:22):
Yes, sorry, I had a lot of fun. Thank you
so much.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
Oh, thank you thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
You bye b bye.
Speaker 9 (30:31):
Well without further ado, Eileen neat Havierer javierre come on
and turn your camera Hellovier, Hello Javier.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
What were your first impressions?
Speaker 5 (30:46):
I love that you're German and Canadian. I go to
Octoberfest a lot. I've worked Octoberfest, so I think that's
kind of cool.
Speaker 6 (30:55):
Wow, can you carry all the beers?
Speaker 4 (30:57):
I can only carry six more than I can carry.
Speaker 5 (31:00):
I actually have leto housin right here in La and I.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
Haven't done this.
Speaker 5 (31:04):
Yeah. Oh, okay, yeah, you seemed adventurous and willing to
be spontaneous and creative. So that's what I noticed.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
Okay, you too.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
We know there's a lot to talk about, so we're
going to send you off on.
Speaker 3 (31:18):
Your little virtual date. We're going to turn it on
to Eeps's drums.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So hard.
Speaker 5 (31:27):
So I moved to La. I've only been here a month.
No way, I moved from San Francisco.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Okay, I love San Francisco.
Speaker 6 (31:34):
My parents lived in San Jose for years, so I'm
very familiar.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
I'm still learning the area. I'm a really big cyclist,
so I actually ride my bicycle around the world.
Speaker 4 (31:45):
No Way, I have a bicycle.
Speaker 5 (31:48):
You do good.
Speaker 6 (31:49):
I bought it off an old lady in twenty twenty
when the pandemic hit and it has a basket.
Speaker 4 (31:53):
But I do love my bike well.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
On social media, I'm hungry guy on a bicyclea you
can see tons of my photos of traveling. I do
love to eat and I love to cook.
Speaker 4 (32:04):
I love to eat.
Speaker 5 (32:06):
I do hunt too, to eat it not for the trophy.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
Oh wow. My family in Germany they're butchers. My cousins
they're butchers.
Speaker 6 (32:14):
Yeah, and so they hunt and stuff and then like
the meat was provided by my mom's best friend's farm.
Speaker 5 (32:19):
Great. You can check out my Instagram profile I just
added to I've just been adding tons of pictures of
my travels and food that I eat or things that
I yeah, I do.
Speaker 6 (32:30):
Cool.
Speaker 5 (32:30):
Yeah, that pretty much tells my whole life story since
twenty seventeen.
Speaker 4 (32:33):
Nice. That sounds cool. Welcome to La Yeah.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
It's it's uh, there's so much to see. It's there's
a lot of driving around here. So but yeah, I'm
definitely up for like going on parking, taking the bikes out,
and then cycling a trail. If you're down for that,
that'd be kind of cool.
Speaker 4 (32:50):
I'm definitely down for that.
Speaker 8 (32:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (32:51):
So my bike it's an older it's like nineties, but
it's a mountain bike hybrid.
Speaker 4 (32:55):
It's not like a road bike or anything.
Speaker 5 (32:57):
I may have a bike that you could use.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
Ah Okay, that is all the heat we could handle
this week.
Speaker 3 (33:09):
Folks.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Check back in next week as we meet our next Nieto,
Nietta Nieta and a Alita plays matchmaker once more. Bite
Maori The First is a production from WV Sound and
iHeartMedia's My Ultura podcast network, hosted by me Vico Ortis
joined by the fabulous Leanna Montenegro Bait may Awali. The
First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel, and Sophie
(33:33):
Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valder Alma, Leo Clem,
and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode was edited
by Sean Tracy and Nico Raguel. This episode features original
music by Gabe Lopez and Alvaro Morello. Special thanks to
our team of cupits at w V Entertainment. Special things
(33:53):
also to our hopeful romantics this week, Javier, Eileen, Shanaka
and Churi. Additional thanks to Salt and line Media. For
more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. See you
next week and in the meantime, don't do anything.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
I will lead that wouldn't do.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Oh, just do it better, Okays.
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