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February 29, 2024 38 mins

Triple scorpio Rufus knows he could be a walking red flag, but he’s a real sweetheart. On today’s episode, we meet three possible “goth GF” hopefuls that will have to win over Abuelita if they want to win over this “Gómez.” The contestants play “Two truths and a lie,” and also play a very spicy round of What’s “IN” and What’s “OUT” for 2024. Will one of these hopefuls brew a love potion strong enough to win over Abuelita?

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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Are the apps and endless hit of disappointment? Are your
friends pushing you to swipe left when you feel like
you should be swiping right? Well, drop that phone and
give Auelita's intuition a go. This is Date My Aurida First,
where our fabulous Alita Aleana plays match maker for our

(00:26):
star dater and three lucky contestants looking for Alita's guidance
and winning the perfect match.

Speaker 2 (00:32):
Then these young gonna work.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
Another season of Date My Alida First.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
What do you think will happen this season?

Speaker 3 (00:42):
Uh?

Speaker 4 (00:42):
Oh, my Vico, I am so happy we're here again. Well,
I cannot see into the future, but I do have
a good intuition that Alita knows best and it's going
to be a fun ride, dhicle.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Yes it is. Let's roll up our sleeves and get to.

Speaker 4 (00:59):
Work, right eab You are such a lover boy, and
I feel like you're always crushing on someone. Now, who
do you have a crush on this week?

Speaker 1 (01:11):
Oh it's too many to count, Wilida, I'm constantly crushing
on people.

Speaker 4 (01:15):
You just did on two of them this morning.

Speaker 5 (01:17):
I know.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
I just I see someone and I'm just like my
heart immediately is like Dooki, Doki, you know what I'm.

Speaker 4 (01:23):
Saying, Dooki.

Speaker 2 (01:28):
But I'm not the only lover boy here, because we.

Speaker 1 (01:32):
Get a finer lover boy, main dater, someone to crush on.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yes, yes, yes, love is what we're all looking for.
I think it's just around the corner. So let's do this, huh.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
This week's main dater told us that he thinks he
was conceived after a Billy Idle concert. What music puts
you in the mood?

Speaker 4 (01:50):
The music that puts me in the mood is some
good sexy susa.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
Okay, bring it, Okay, see you it's your sausa.

Speaker 1 (02:02):
Okay, all right, let's get to it. Let's meet our
main dater, Rufus. He is a skater and a triple scorpio,
oh my god.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
Which he's been told as a red flag.

Speaker 1 (02:12):
He's a fashion photographer, jiu jitsu enthusiast, and his dream
girl is Mortitia Adams from the Adams family. Rufus, I
dig you so much. This is excellent, this is amazing.
We have so much to work with here. I am
very excited for this intense honey.

Speaker 6 (02:28):
Rufous, Hey, guys, how's everyone doing.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
So so good? Give us a little bit of yourself?

Speaker 1 (02:35):
What makes you take What would your besties say to
describe you?

Speaker 2 (02:40):
Give us some easy breezy.

Speaker 6 (02:41):
Facts, easy breezy facts coming right in.

Speaker 7 (02:44):
I mean, I guess people how they describe me as
pretty funny and fun loving and just joking around constantly.
I try to hide that serious and intense, passionate part
as much as possible, and then once it happens to you,
we're just kind of like, whoa where did this come from?
You know, because I do care a lot. I like
to get year as possible, but it becomes draining, you know,
especially in a city where people don't want to get

(03:05):
that deep, and I just try to be a little
bit reserved, you know, from the outside. But then that
just turns into me having way too much fun.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Mmmmmmmm No, that noted. I will lead that. What questions
do you have for Rufus today?

Speaker 4 (03:20):
Well, according to what I've learned so far, you seem
to be a very spontaneous individual. So tell me what
brings that out in you.

Speaker 7 (03:28):
I guess it was just ever since I was young,
you know, I always wanted to work, and because I
wanted to work so much, I just was like, oh,
I'll say yes to this, So all of a sudden,
I had six different jobs. And I was twenty four
and had six different careers. Because someone will be like, hey,
do you want to do this? I'm like yeah, And
I live my life to be super exciting, to be
a ton of different places and meet a ton of
cool people and in my life super enriching. And you know,

(03:50):
I look back like, yeah, stability, might have been a
bit nicer and all this stuff, you know, but it
was just so much fun and might not live a
dream life.

Speaker 4 (03:57):
And what is it that you do for work?

Speaker 6 (03:59):
Right now? I'm a fashion apurently currently. I know there's
a lot of others.

Speaker 4 (04:03):
But right now, right now, So you do meet a
lot of interesting people. So how does that work into
your day life?

Speaker 6 (04:09):
Oh I keep that so separate.

Speaker 7 (04:11):
Like when I'm shooting and I'm on set, I am
just total chastity about you know, asexual being. I'm in
such a zone and such a motive. Oh when I
work at a small friends and all that, and friends,
it's kind of usually what I go for, so I
try not to.

Speaker 6 (04:24):
I don't know folks on dating too much because I
have so much passion in life.

Speaker 7 (04:27):
But then when I meet someone I'm really into, it's like, oh, okay,
that's where like the bashing comes out, of the dating
comes out. It's just I'm a little bit like a dog,
you know. I get excited after I get to know you,
but initially I stand on it.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
You said earlier that you had a lot of different
passions and a lot of different things that you were pursuing,
and then you mentioned like stability would have been fine,
but then that also worked out, And now I'm curious,
how does stability look like for you?

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Right now?

Speaker 7 (04:52):
Stability looks like for me is I'm able to do
the main things that make me happy and that I love,
and I'm able to still support myself career wise, have fun.

Speaker 6 (05:01):
I know this is controversial, but I don't like the.

Speaker 7 (05:03):
Whole idea of, oh, let's have a career where we
can take a vacation to do what we want. It's like, no,
I want to be able to incorporate my career into
these different traveling excursions, so to speak. Well, at the
same time, I don't want to live and work NonStop
because I've also done that before and I haven't been
able to enjoy certain places that I've been in certain moments.

Speaker 8 (05:22):
That I've had.

Speaker 1 (05:23):
And you also mentioned earlier that you keep your career
and your dating life separate. Are you interested in dating
someone that's also in the same industry or like just
not working in the same collaboration or is it something
that down the line maybe you can collaborate.

Speaker 3 (05:36):
With a partner.

Speaker 7 (05:37):
I'm interested in it, definitely. I think that was a
harder line when I was younger and I was more
naive and I had a lot to learn. I think
as especially I got older and I've been in the
industry long enough, it's nicer because they understand kind of
where I'm coming from, and they understand the industry and
they understand how things work. So it's not like, oh,
you're on set, You're going to be done at six, right,
and I'm like, I have no idea. As well as people,

(05:58):
I always get this critique, Oh, you probably surrounded with
beautiful models the whole time. It's like, yeah, but not
trying to sleep with all them. Like I'm here to
do work, like Jesus, And only if you're in the
industry you really understand that, which I think is kind
of shallow of the world outside of it.

Speaker 6 (06:12):
But at the same time.

Speaker 1 (06:12):
It's like, you know, looking for someone then that has
a confidence within themselves that can support what you're doing
and not be like hypercritical or judgmental the.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
Things that you're doing.

Speaker 6 (06:24):
Yeah, oh definitely.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
When was the last time you had a long term relationship?

Speaker 6 (06:30):
What defines long time?

Speaker 2 (06:32):
I guess, like, what's the longest relationship you've been.

Speaker 6 (06:35):
In probably a year and a half, two years?

Speaker 2 (06:37):
How does that look like?

Speaker 1 (06:38):
And what are the things that you've learned from that
relationship that you want to definitely continue to pursue, but
also things that you don't want to keep looking for.

Speaker 7 (06:47):
I mean the main thing is just kind of like
the passion bash for each other kind of what we
talked about, and you know, the wanting to like the
mutual Oh I want to be passionate about you or
I want you to be passionate about me and who
at the same time, it's like I want to make
this person smile and feel that same time I want
the other person to feel the same way and be
able to explore and grow in different ways together, Like
we don't have to grow in exactly the same wavelength.

(07:08):
We get to do it our own kind of space
at the same times, those matchup in certain ways and
it isn't co dependent.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
I guess looking for interdependence. I see.

Speaker 4 (07:19):
Tell me, rufus, what are some of your deal breakers?

Speaker 7 (07:23):
Number one is bad manners, like not being nice and
bad manners. I can't do it. I can't handle it.
One I don't like seeing people be mean. It just
hurts me inside. And two it's just there's no harm
in being nice and being kind and having manners, so
it really hurts me. Another thing is and I know
this is definitely a fashion thing, but kind of like
bad style or kind of non expressive self style. And

(07:47):
I'm just like, oh, now is your moment when you
walk outside to kind of meet like like minded people,
which I didn't have growing up, and you decide to
dress like everyone else because that's how people told you
to be.

Speaker 4 (07:59):
And that's part of you photographer I which also influences that.
But tell me, are you looking for a serious relationship now?
Are you ready?

Speaker 3 (08:08):
Oh? Yeah?

Speaker 8 (08:09):
I love that.

Speaker 6 (08:10):
That'd be amazing.

Speaker 1 (08:11):
Your deal breakers are people that are mean, that are unkind, right,
So then let's look for the green flags. What are
the things that you're like, ooh, this is a trade
that I really am attracted to drawn two something that
I want to cultivate and nurture a life with.

Speaker 6 (08:26):
Definitely keep going back to the word passion. That's a
big one.

Speaker 7 (08:28):
It's like they're passionate about something, they love, something they
have an ambition and dream and that something you know,
culture well read. Is really big for me because you know,
I am an artist. I do like to know as
much as possible, to learn as much as possible. So
those are really big ones for me. And I guess
kind of like you guys said earlier, this spontaneous attitude

(08:48):
and being willing to say yes to certain things that
to everyday people might sound odd, like oh, let's go
on a trip here randomly, you know, not.

Speaker 6 (08:57):
Planning it out that much.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
What are the things that I come up for you?

Speaker 1 (08:59):
And relationship they're like, Oh, I got to work on
this and I want I want to show up in
this way in this new relationship.

Speaker 7 (09:05):
I think a big one for me, I've had to
think about this a lot kind of in my life
is being present and not focusing on other parts of
my life, whether it be career, family, so on and
so forth. And I'm not feeling bad while I'm with
someone I'm dating and I really like and enjoying my
time and then thinking about, oh, but I need to
chase down these clients and do this and do that,
and almost feeling guilty for spending time with someone I

(09:27):
really do appreciate, just because I feel a necessity to
really put forward my career and these ambitions.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
It's a really beautiful thing to notice within yourself and
have awareness around.

Speaker 2 (09:39):
So thank you for sharing that.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
We have here in your bio that you are so
very drawn to. Morticia Adams, Do you consider yourself a
Gomez like goofy guy with that very stoic power femme
who's gonna put you in your place? Is that something
that really is like, oh yeah, I'll be done for that.

Speaker 6 (09:59):
That's a dream marriage or relationship. I don't even know
why people think otherwise.

Speaker 7 (10:03):
Like they both adore each other, loved each other in
like their own ways, and very supportive and like you're saying,
he's goofy, it's funny at the same time, like very
confident in themselves relationships saying with Mortitia, and it's just
nothing is breakable between that bond, and it's just wonderful
and sweet.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
I love that so we're aiming for your mortitia, Adams,
that's what we're looking for.

Speaker 6 (10:22):
Yeah, well, I know.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
I mean, like, you're a fashion photographer. How does that
look like? What happens when we find you the mortitia.

Speaker 2 (10:32):
Of your life?

Speaker 1 (10:32):
And then how does that affect or shift and change
your fashion?

Speaker 4 (10:37):
Viga? If he looks this good in a sweatshirt, I
can't even imagine how well he will look in a
tuxedo or a suit.

Speaker 7 (10:45):
I try not to wear it as much because I
look like a body arter bouncer.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
I get that. I get that.

Speaker 4 (10:52):
What is the one thing that you do not want
in a relationship? The one thing jealousy?

Speaker 1 (10:58):
Now I counter with this one because we all'll have
moments of jealousy, and we'll have moments of like desiring
some sort of possession. How do you handle jealousy when
it comes up for yourself? And how do you want
to show up when a partner comes in, like, hey,
something's coming up? Like what would be your ideal scenario
when jealousy inevitably arises.

Speaker 7 (11:16):
For me personally, if I feel it, I definitely need
to look inside it myself. I feel like it comes
to a place of lack of confidence spoken relationship myself
and then not trusting the partner you're with. That's the
only reason why I would come up, especially with someone
you truly life. If it's flipped in their side, I
would like them to kind of talk to me and
kind of hear where they're coming from. Because we really
care about each other, then we should really talk about

(11:37):
it communication.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
All right?

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Are we ready? Are we doing it? Is it happening?

Speaker 4 (11:42):
Well? I think this young man with his good looks
and his smart mind, I think we are ready and
I hope to do you right.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Amazing, Well, we're going to send you into hiding mode. Well,
we get to know some eligible ladies, but we're ready
to rock and roll.

Speaker 4 (12:01):
Look at that smile. I'm like, from here to here.

Speaker 2 (12:05):
We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Miawani
the first.

Speaker 1 (12:12):
All right, well, now that we've met Rufus, it's time
to meet some of our excited contestants. Meet Tarnay twenty three,
a Sagittarius who has described herself as a hardcore.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
Top natural lover girl. She's got the eldest daughter, ya,
but she's walking it out. Give it up to Tarnay.

Speaker 1 (12:37):
Now let's move on to Marian twenty eight, a psych
nurse who is the smallest nurse in the unette and
Barton's on the side. Her go to karaoke is nineties
twenties and sink or Spice girls. Okay, she's a fan
of horror and more specifically clowns.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
Oh my god, lordy, what a combo.

Speaker 2 (13:00):
Nice to meet you, Glad to have you here.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
And last, but certainly not least, meet Jessica, a fashion
designer who could give a ted talk on Denim Brown.
An outspoken perfectionist who is looking for a man who
can keep up with her. Ooh, hello, hello Jessica.

Speaker 4 (13:23):
Hi wow, what a beautiful group of ladies. Indeed, lordy, lordy, lord.

Speaker 2 (13:30):
Now the world here.

Speaker 1 (13:32):
Let's just go ahead and hop in and break the
ice with the game we know and love and might
sometimes want to avoid.

Speaker 2 (13:41):
Two truths and a lie. Oh yeah, oh yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:46):
In this game, you are to give us three facts
about yourself and Aworita and I will try to sniff
out the lie.

Speaker 2 (13:54):
So should we give them some time?

Speaker 4 (13:56):
Do it? Now?

Speaker 5 (13:57):
How PG?

Speaker 4 (13:58):
Is this not at all totally are? I will eat
this here, so bring it.

Speaker 2 (14:07):
Jessica, take it away. What are your two truth in
a lie.

Speaker 3 (14:10):
I was a professional figure skater. I have over a
dozen tattoos and I speak fluent Chinese.

Speaker 9 (14:19):
That's hard.

Speaker 4 (14:21):
You want to talk about this if you want to.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
I think it's the tattoos.

Speaker 4 (14:23):
I think it's the tattoos.

Speaker 9 (14:24):
Also the tattoos.

Speaker 5 (14:26):
Yeah, yeah, that's actually true. That's true.

Speaker 3 (14:29):
Sixteen tattoos, sixteen tattoos.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
Oh my god.

Speaker 4 (14:33):
Okay, it's the figure skater.

Speaker 5 (14:35):
I was a.

Speaker 4 (14:40):
Very good that's a good deep down. I wanted to
figure skates somewhere along though never.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
Too late, never too late. Well, thank you for that.
You tricked a Wilita and VI and I'm gullible as
hell though, So I Marian, talk to me. What are
your three?

Speaker 4 (15:00):
Bring it girl?

Speaker 10 (15:01):
Oh my god.

Speaker 5 (15:02):
Okay.

Speaker 11 (15:02):
So my two truths and a lot is that I've
traveled solo out of the country. I have never had
a threesome, but I've had a foursome and I have
a phobia of vomit.

Speaker 4 (15:17):
If you've had a foursome, does that have included threesome?

Speaker 1 (15:20):
No, it's very different for people versus three changes the
game with the number three is but it's four.

Speaker 4 (15:25):
I am asking an expert.

Speaker 2 (15:28):
Yes, anyway, not saying a word.

Speaker 1 (15:32):
That's the first one America Anyway, I got distracted.

Speaker 2 (15:38):
Okay, Oh, I think it's the vomit. I think it's
the vomit.

Speaker 5 (15:42):
I actually do have that.

Speaker 4 (15:44):
You do how do you work?

Speaker 2 (15:46):
How do you live life?

Speaker 10 (15:47):
I work in psych We don't see that too much.

Speaker 2 (15:50):
But burgeoning on the side, people be buke and everwhere.
I used to do the same thing too. What is why?

Speaker 11 (15:57):
Yeah, I've traveled solo too country, but I was meeting people.

Speaker 10 (16:02):
Does that kill you?

Speaker 1 (16:03):
Kept some out of the fact, And usually omission is
a lie.

Speaker 4 (16:08):
So it's a half asked truth.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
It's a half asked but it still kills as a lie.

Speaker 4 (16:12):
Totally not.

Speaker 2 (16:15):
Talk to us. What are your three?

Speaker 9 (16:18):
Okay?

Speaker 8 (16:19):
The first one is I'm half Mexican. The number two
is I've only been in one relationship. And three is
I actually prefer to be vanilla in bed.

Speaker 4 (16:28):
Okay, I'm gonna say that. The half Mexican is the truth.
Uh huh. The one relationship, I think that's the lie.
And being vanilla in bed, I mean it can be tasty.
Did I say something wrong? Now it's everybody laughing around me.

Speaker 1 (16:46):
You're so good, You're so good, So bless you, bless you,
bless you.

Speaker 2 (16:55):
I'm going to also go with the relationship bed. That's
the lie.

Speaker 8 (16:59):
Have actually been in one relationships to be vanilla in bed?

Speaker 2 (17:04):
Okay, wait that's right.

Speaker 1 (17:05):
Okay, cool, got it? So you don't prefer to be vanilla? Okay, Cool,
I confused myself.

Speaker 4 (17:09):
I'm there too. Okay, WELLA is very confused.

Speaker 2 (17:14):
It happens sometimes we Spanish seven.

Speaker 4 (17:17):
Confusion is allowed.

Speaker 1 (17:19):
All right, thank you all so much for playing this
first round. So it's time to play another game before
a wait that sends one of our lovely contestants home.

Speaker 2 (17:28):
And wait one second. Uh, the Smoothella.

Speaker 1 (17:31):
Lineup just dropped and you three our headliners. So our
main dat has been a part of various rock bands
and plays seven instruments.

Speaker 2 (17:46):
What those fingers do?

Speaker 4 (17:48):
God?

Speaker 2 (17:50):
I am the worst today finger.

Speaker 1 (17:54):
Today, our beautiful contestants will be headlining smooth Ella alongside.

Speaker 2 (17:59):
Our main dater. In this game, we are.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
Asking each of you, inspired by your love life, to
come up with your band's name and the hit song
that describes those loves and or heartaches. We will give
you a bit of time to think about this brainstorm
and come up with some rock and roll bangers. All right, ladies,

(18:23):
I will eat that and I are ready to start
the most.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
Night one was not expecting that.

Speaker 1 (18:34):
I feel like you should be going to like a
heavy metal or rock concert. Maybe salsa is not for you.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
No.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
Night one. The headliner is Marian Yeah, tell us your
band name and your hit song.

Speaker 11 (18:50):
Our band is the Pisces and our hit song is
sixty nine.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
Yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 10 (19:00):
That night thought everybody can relate.

Speaker 2 (19:02):
To, absolutely, absoluteolutely. Thank you so much for that, Mariah.

Speaker 4 (19:07):
And the year it was a busy year.

Speaker 2 (19:09):
Yeah, you actually were there there.

Speaker 4 (19:12):
Yeah, sixty nine, three hundred and sixty five times.

Speaker 2 (19:16):
Yo, oh oh and nine two. Headliner is Jessica. What
is your band name and what is your hit song?

Speaker 3 (19:26):
So our band name is called the Secret Kink, although
it's not so secret, and then our hit single platinum record,
by the way, is called timey Up.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
Daddy, Yes, yes, yes, yes, okay, I'm into this.

Speaker 2 (19:44):
This is fantastic.

Speaker 4 (19:45):
You would have daddy tie you up.

Speaker 2 (19:47):
I'd be tatty tying up.

Speaker 4 (19:49):
But thank you.

Speaker 2 (19:52):
Way too much.

Speaker 4 (19:53):
What is the Secret Kink?

Speaker 5 (19:57):
There are so many drop one on.

Speaker 2 (20:00):
Us, drop one on us, too good, too good, incredible.
Headliner for night too.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
Headlining Night number three is Tournay.

Speaker 2 (20:13):
Give us your band name and song.

Speaker 8 (20:15):
My band name would be bad and Bougie. Yes, the
song would be There's the First Time for Everything.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
Yes, yes, romantics. I love it, I love it, love it.

Speaker 4 (20:28):
Listen my neck, my back, my smoochie and my crack.
Well motion with you ladies was a blast.

Speaker 2 (20:42):
Well, that was exhilarating.

Speaker 1 (20:45):
It's time now for AA to choose which two contestants
will move forward and who is gonna get a little.

Speaker 2 (20:53):
Tender chunk lit bye bye.

Speaker 1 (20:56):
But hearing from all you seems like a good chunk
late that is a good time as well, So.

Speaker 2 (21:01):
Aita, do you want to go ahead and do the thing?

Speaker 4 (21:03):
This was very, very difficult because at the end, Awlita
has to say what she thinks and I'm surrounded by
people who might not agree with me. But at the
end of the day, I am thinking about our main dater,
the things that would put you guys together, how you
would connect. And today I must say goodbye to a beautiful,

(21:29):
beautiful woman. And I'm sorry to see you go. Marian.

Speaker 1 (21:37):
Listen, we adore you. You've been so much fun.

Speaker 10 (21:41):
Thank you guys so much for having me. It was
so much fun.

Speaker 4 (21:44):
Thank you, my love.

Speaker 2 (21:47):
Will be your right back. Welcome back to day may
A Alita first.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
Okay, well, now it's time to get more intimate with
a remaining too contestant. We're going to send Ahelita now
into two speed dates with each of you called da.
So shall we get you without one on one Liliana?

Speaker 4 (22:15):
Okay, let's do this now. Hello, Darnay, how are you?

Speaker 9 (22:19):
I'm good? How are you?

Speaker 4 (22:20):
I am doing great? But now I have to get
a little personal with you and find out what you
are all about. Okay, So tell me a little bit
about your love relationships in the past.

Speaker 9 (22:30):
Okay.

Speaker 8 (22:30):
So, like I've mentioned before, my truth, I've only been
in one relationship.

Speaker 9 (22:34):
It was with the high school sweetheart.

Speaker 8 (22:36):
It was my best friend from seventh grade and then
eventually ninth grade we had gotten together. We were together
for three years, and then senior year of high school,
he broke up with me because he wanted to work
on himself, meaning that there was just someone new that
he met and he wanted to give it a shot.

Speaker 9 (22:54):
So he went and did that.

Speaker 4 (22:56):
He broke up with you when you were eighteen. I'm
assuming yes, So what has kept you out of a
relationship all these years.

Speaker 9 (23:03):
Well, here's the thing.

Speaker 8 (23:04):
So he went with someone else, broke up with that person,
and at eighteen I was very naive, gullible, so I
took him back and then we were together until I
was twenty one years old, and then he did the
same thing again.

Speaker 4 (23:18):
Okay, what I would lead, that would tell you is
leave the past where it belongs.

Speaker 9 (23:21):
Oh yeah, for sure. I've healed from that situation thankfully.

Speaker 4 (23:25):
And what is it that you're looking for now?

Speaker 8 (23:27):
I really just want to find someone who's nurturing, someone
who can take care of me, not necessarily financially, but emotionally,
just to know that someone else is looking out for me.
I've grown up in like a first generation immigrant household.
I'm the eldest daughter, so I feel like I always
had the role since I was younger to like take
care and provide for my family or all that stuff.

(23:48):
So I feel like I've never felt that reciprocated back
to me, and I feel like it'd be nice to
find that in a partner or you know.

Speaker 4 (23:56):
Well though you've never had it in the past, you
only stop to this one. God so fortunate, and that
was a bad idea it was.

Speaker 8 (24:05):
I definitely do believe it's a bad idea. I have
no regrets because it bore me into the person I
am today. So I'm a lot stronger because of it.

Speaker 4 (24:12):
You learned a lot and you are have Latina, yes,
and very close to your grandparents. What is that about?
Have they given you any wonderful advice about love?

Speaker 8 (24:22):
There's been moments where I've cried to them. I'm like, oh, like,
when am I going to find my person? Why don't
I always have bad luck? But they're like, you know, why,
why don't you change the negative to a positive and
say maybe this is happening because you have to take
care of yourself right now. Maybe you have to be alone,
Maybe you have to figure out who you are before
you can find someone who love you and learn to
love yourself first. And then we say that like the

(24:42):
right person will come when you least expect it.

Speaker 4 (24:44):
So are you a jealous woman?

Speaker 9 (24:47):
I would say, like seriously jealous?

Speaker 8 (24:49):
Maybe like like a little like joke.

Speaker 9 (24:51):
Here and there, but nothing crazy.

Speaker 4 (24:52):
You know something that you can communicate to your partner.

Speaker 8 (24:55):
Yes, that's something I'm really big on too. I feel
like I was the one that preferred to community in
the past.

Speaker 4 (25:01):
Okay, so what else would you like this person to
know about you?

Speaker 8 (25:05):
That I have a really big heart and it's been
taken advantage of a lot. And I hope that he
sees me for who I am and doesn't try to
change me.

Speaker 4 (25:16):
So you are ready for this relationship. I've been ready,
You've been ready.

Speaker 1 (25:21):
So sorry to interrupt, but Awilita here is a busy woman.

Speaker 2 (25:25):
So we're gonna move on to our next speed date.
Thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (25:30):
Turna, Jessica, it is your turn now for a woman
one with a Wilita.

Speaker 4 (25:36):
Oh gosh, Emertine, Oh no, Awilita has the chunk late
here just in case. No, no, I'm kidding, Jessica. You're
a beautiful woman. You seem to have your life together.
Tell me about that.

Speaker 3 (25:47):
So I'm working as a fashion designer in the denim industry.

Speaker 5 (25:50):
I have a degree in Denham Wow.

Speaker 3 (25:52):
So I'm very ambitious with my career. I'm very like
gold driven career oriented, but I still like love to
make time for my friends and my family. So I
feel like I have that good like work life balance.
But I'm like really big on ambition and like really
going for it.

Speaker 4 (26:11):
You want a man who is ambitious and who's got
his life together. What is he like? What do you
want to see in that relationship with him?

Speaker 3 (26:20):
Like a willingness for open communication. I'm big on like
talking about your feelings and not kind of like shutting
things away and having them like bubble up later. Definitely
like an element of trust. And yeah, if our lifestyles
kind of match up, that would be great.

Speaker 4 (26:39):
Are you ready for a relationship?

Speaker 3 (26:41):
I would say yes, I'm definitely ready for a relationship.
In the past, I used to hop from relationship to
relationship because I think I've had a fear of being alone.
But I think as I get older in life, I'm
really comfortable being with myself, being with my friends, and
if someone comes along, then you know, that's perfect.

Speaker 4 (26:57):
You have truly grown us woman that we can see
that you're a beautiful young lady. What is it that
you want this man to know about you? Then no
one else does?

Speaker 9 (27:09):
Oh, then no one else does.

Speaker 4 (27:12):
Something just for him.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
I'm a very like passionate person. I'm very passionate in
the bedroom as.

Speaker 4 (27:18):
Well, So alrighty, now.

Speaker 3 (27:22):
Someone who can like keep up with that is kind
of essential to me. It's like a core value is
like intimacy, whether that be in the bedroom or just
like talking.

Speaker 5 (27:32):
I'm really close to my family.

Speaker 3 (27:34):
I'm Chinese American, so my culture is very important to
me as well. So if he's down to like learn
more about my culture, I love people are open to them.

Speaker 1 (27:45):
Thank you so so much for our remaining condescens You
have made it through the Gafesito, and now we're just
one round of games away to pick zioiner.

Speaker 2 (27:57):
So let's just get to it.

Speaker 1 (27:58):
Our main dater wants to know that his partner doesn't
have bad taste, So let's go ahead and play out
what's in and what's out?

Speaker 2 (28:09):
In this game, you will be.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
Given two subjects or scenarios, and you have to choose
which you think is in and which you think is out?
All right, So no answer is necessarily wrong, but that
doesn't mean that Ileana or myself.

Speaker 4 (28:27):
What are you judging? You?

Speaker 2 (28:28):
Or talk about it?

Speaker 4 (28:32):
All right? Let me give them the first one. Are
you ladies ready? What's in and what's out? Communicating carefully
with your partner or sarcasm to the point of roasting
your partner for fun? How about you, Jessica.

Speaker 3 (28:47):
I would say like sarcasm and roasting a little bit
of fun, a little back and forth banter.

Speaker 8 (28:53):
I like that, Tarney, I take communicating carefully is in
because I feel like you can have fun or be
funny in ways other than roasting.

Speaker 9 (29:03):
That would be my two cents on it.

Speaker 2 (29:04):
QQQ, thank you into into it. Here's mine?

Speaker 1 (29:08):
What's in? What's out? Boyfriend Dick or himbos?

Speaker 9 (29:13):
Oh, himbos are out.

Speaker 2 (29:16):
Tarnay, himbos are out?

Speaker 9 (29:18):
No nice are out?

Speaker 2 (29:19):
So then boyfriend Dick definitely in.

Speaker 9 (29:21):
All the way, all the way.

Speaker 2 (29:24):
The jokes her art and less. It's great, Jessica, what
do you think.

Speaker 9 (29:28):
Boyfriend Dick is in?

Speaker 1 (29:29):
Boyfriend Dick is in and himbos are out? I will say, though,
if this was a THEMBO, then I would be thembos
are in because I'm a fucking golden retriever, just like
take away?

Speaker 4 (29:40):
Which one is your? Okay? What's in? What's out? Being
friendly with an X or ignoring their existence before your
current relationship? Mmmm?

Speaker 2 (29:49):
Interesting?

Speaker 4 (29:49):
Oh Jessica, I go for it.

Speaker 3 (29:51):
I will say being friendly with your ex is out.

Speaker 9 (29:56):
I think I would agree to.

Speaker 1 (29:58):
So both Tarnay and Jessica are saying that being friendly
with the ex is out and ignoring their existence before
your current.

Speaker 4 (30:05):
Relationship is in very good.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah, is it time for us to let them know
our secret gone?

Speaker 4 (30:13):
I've been waiting forever. No, tell them, let's tell them, Well,
so a little.

Speaker 1 (30:19):
Did you know that our main data has been listening
this whole time. He's been lurking in their shadows, looking
at everything and listening to all. Here's the thing, though,
Awalita might have an idea of who she likes for him,
but we're gonna have you step out for a second
to see we have a unanimous decision. In the meantime,
muchisimas gaias to the both of you. Be truly, it's

(30:43):
been so much fun. Thank you so much for playing.
We'll deliberate and then we'll bring you back in and
the damn thing.

Speaker 2 (30:49):
Yes, rufus, get over here. Let's have a little chat
before we deliberate. What are your thoughts?

Speaker 7 (30:58):
I think that both really funny and sweet and to
her name or is like, Oh, she's really funny and sweet.
I'm just afraid that she might have a lot more
to learn even though she's sweet. I love her journey
that she's like going for it and listening to herself,
but seemed like that Jessica is kind of on the opposite.
She's kind of not this next severe I kind of
fit where it's like, oh I don't need someone. It's like, oh,

(31:19):
I'm myself and if I have someone that's incredible and
I want to foster that and not like, oh, here's someone,
I'm going to make this work, or let's find someone
just to date because we want to date them, which
I think is great.

Speaker 1 (31:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm right there with you. Thank you
for that input, Gees, Yes, all right, I will need that.
So I think, you know, right on the money, Tourney's
super sweet, adorable, precious, needs a little bit more of experience.
And I very much am aligned with Rufus in terms
of like exploring a dynamic with her might end up

(31:50):
taking more of a caretaking role rather than an equal
type of role. I think that Jessica I can step up,
not step up. I think that if any of the
reason needs to step up to Jessica.

Speaker 4 (32:00):
Well, you know, I'm very happy of how this turned
out in my mind and in my heart because I
did want to give Tarnay another chance and Rufus so
that he could know a little bit more about her. Yes,
the fact that she doesn't have that much experience of
course counts in. And I think from minute one Jessica

(32:21):
has been the choice. Yeah, yeah, there's no question about it.

Speaker 1 (32:26):
Let's bring in our contestins and share the verdict. Welcome
back our lead that has landed on a match. So
our leader, Liliana, what you gotta say.

Speaker 4 (32:39):
As you sure that this is very very very difficult.
You are both amazing women at different stages of your life.
However that came into consideration, especially where our main data
is also at and without any more questions in your minds,
the beautiful woman that will be dating our young man

(33:03):
is Jessica.

Speaker 1 (33:07):
So thank you, Jessica, Tarnie. Thank you so so so
very much, Johnny.

Speaker 4 (33:13):
Lots of lug and blessings in your future life. You
are an amazing young lady. Thank you, thank you so much.
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
So Jessica. Without further Ado, Rufus get on in.

Speaker 6 (33:29):
Nice to meet you.

Speaker 4 (33:32):
Rufa's first impression.

Speaker 6 (33:33):
Oh, immediately, like I was just kind of taken.

Speaker 7 (33:35):
I was like, oh, she's like very elegant, she cares
herself very well, and she seems very funny and sweet
and there's definitely a lot too. Also the fashion designer
as well, and really drawing into yourself since I'm a
fashion photographer and I've kind of lived all around the
world doing different jobs. That was really fascinating to me.
And you know, a nice little match. Also the roasting
bit as well. It's important, you.

Speaker 5 (33:57):
Know, I think so too.

Speaker 1 (33:58):
Yeah, yes, yes, And Jessica at first impressions on rufus
very attractive.

Speaker 3 (34:02):
I love your style with the hoodie and the chain.
It's cool to find out that you've been like doing.

Speaker 9 (34:07):
Like fashion photography.

Speaker 5 (34:09):
That's really cool. So that's like a little thing in common.

Speaker 6 (34:13):
Absolutely, they were like, oh, you're wearing a hoodie.

Speaker 4 (34:17):
I'm sorry, Vigovid, we are. I don't want us anymore.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
I want to I want to find clarity here that
it was a Wilida roasting you for the hoodie, just
saying well, I can definitely feel the tension. Let's let these.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
Two off on a virtual date where we get to
sit back Beachie's Mosses and listen.

Speaker 3 (34:43):
Well, hi, Hi, how was it like listening to all
of us like give answers and everything.

Speaker 7 (34:51):
It was pretty awkward, not gonna lie, but also was
like fun and fascinating, like yeah, no, I think she's there. Yeah,
it was like pretty funny and weird. I've never like
done one of these things or.

Speaker 6 (35:03):
Anything like this.

Speaker 3 (35:04):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (35:05):
Same.

Speaker 6 (35:06):
What was it like answering the questions and feeling like
the contested Oh.

Speaker 3 (35:09):
Gosh, well, I love like trash your reality TV, but
I have like never I never want to go on
it because it feels like like emotional trauma that I
don't want. I think I was just hoping that I
would like be like witty on camera as I would
be off camera. I was like, oh, I hope I
don't like get choked up or anything, but I feel

(35:31):
like I did.

Speaker 7 (35:31):
Okay, right, I was like, okay, am on. I was
just like I'm just like great, like revealing this great prize.
I'm like, no, she's fantastic, like she's I'm just gonna
hear what caught you into fashion? Because your figure skate
are extraordinary?

Speaker 3 (35:48):
Well, I don't want figure skate anymore. It was when
I was a kid, I used to compete. I was
never like the math and science kid that my parents
wanted me to be. I was like gravitating towards the arts.

Speaker 5 (35:59):
I actually used to play guit I.

Speaker 9 (36:00):
Still have one in my closet.

Speaker 5 (36:02):
But yeah, I think fashion.

Speaker 3 (36:03):
I just kept going back to it, like it was
just something that I would like keep drawing or had
like an interest in. So I came to La to
go to school here.

Speaker 5 (36:12):
I went to fit them in downtown.

Speaker 6 (36:14):
Both my sister and my mom went to fit them.

Speaker 5 (36:17):
Oh really, Yeah. I did two degrees.

Speaker 3 (36:18):
I did a degree in product development and then I
did an advanced study in Denham and I thought I
was going to go more into the business side, but
I ended up falling into design and I just love
it so kind of my thing.

Speaker 7 (36:30):
Now, you were just forc into being creative. You have
no choice basically.

Speaker 5 (36:34):
Yeah, it's perfect. I love being creative. I don't think
I could not be totally.

Speaker 6 (36:40):
I mean, I was looking for good venim yesterday. I
wish I had your you know, input.

Speaker 9 (36:44):
It's like I'm here to help.

Speaker 6 (36:48):
Oh, I actually get to see in real life. It's
not just.

Speaker 5 (36:52):
Not just a computer screen.

Speaker 7 (36:54):
Like hiding behind you know, a producer tag. Yeah right,
it being amazing. Really one, I'm really happy that, you know,
I got to talk to you now and all this.

Speaker 5 (37:04):
Yeah, I know, Yeah, I'm not much of like a
zoom person.

Speaker 3 (37:07):
It makes me kind of anxious sometimes, but it feels
more like natural, like getting to know everybody and getting
to know you.

Speaker 7 (37:13):
Oh, I mean you do the same thing I do.
It's like we look away kind of when we talk
on like right.

Speaker 6 (37:18):
Fucking They're like, no, get the fuck out of here.

Speaker 7 (37:23):
You're like wonderful, be lovely to meet your you know
soon obviously if you have the three times, Oh.

Speaker 5 (37:28):
Totally yeah, I can make time.

Speaker 2 (37:34):
Well wow, wow wow. I hope those sweeties hit it off.

Speaker 1 (37:39):
Find us back here next week as Leanna and I
make some more matches.

Speaker 2 (37:45):
Good work today, I want need them.

Speaker 4 (37:46):
Oh we did good. I like what I'm looking at.

Speaker 1 (37:52):
Date Miami The First is a production from WV Sound
and iHeartMedia as Michael Dura podcast Network, hosted by me
vig orbis joined by the Fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My
Hourly the First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel,
and Sophie Spencer Zavos.

Speaker 2 (38:08):
Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico
Raguel w V Sound.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
This episode was edited by Sean Tracy and Nico Raguel.
This episode features original music by Gabe Lopez and Alvaro Morello.
Special thanks to our team of cubits at w V Entertainment.

Speaker 2 (38:26):
Special Things.

Speaker 1 (38:27):
Also to our hole for romantics this week, Rufus, Marian,
Jessica and Tarnay. Additional thanks to Salt and Line Media.

Speaker 2 (38:34):
For more podcasts from.

Speaker 1 (38:36):
iHeart, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you
listen to your favorite shows. So you next week and
in the meantime, don't do anything Awalita wouldn't do.

Speaker 4 (38:46):
Just do it better. Okay, besitos
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