January 10, 2025 • 19 mins
Comedians and besties Aminah, Sydnee and Marie join Chelsea to talk about spilling each others’ secrets, how laughter keeps them together, and why drugs > medicine.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Couples Counseling with Chelsea, And I'm here
with three of my friends. They are not a couple.
They're a threatle and they're not romantically involved either.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
There are three.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Comedians named Amina Amani, Sydney Washington, and Marie Fouston and
they are a friendship threatle and I spent some time
with them a whistler and heard a lot about their beef,
so I thought I would bring them onto the podcast.
What about secret keeping? Do you guys keep secrets from
each other? Or do you guys have secrets between like
two of you out of the three that you keep
(00:30):
from the third person.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I mean that must happen. Oh yeah, sure, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I think it would be the best interest to keep
all secrets from me because I'll either forget that is
a secret. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'm the problem. I'm
definitely a problem. And I'll say it and I'll be.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Like, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
Marie is good at keeping secret. From what I know,
She's good at keeping secret, but also she forgets. I
think she's mainly like she forgets things, so she like
you want to tell her, is in a ciper and
sometimes I forget on no stuff, or sometimes somebody will
tell me something and they'll be like, don't tell nobody,
and then I'll go tell somebody else and I'll be like,
don't tell nobody, and they'd be like I told you,
(01:08):
and I'd be like, yes, I remember I.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Did that to I was running back information that she
told me.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
But I will say this if I don't want to,
if I don't want one or the other to note,
I won't tell both of them.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Well, yeah, I think it's the best. I think it's best.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Not favor and not even mention it, don't allude to it,
don't even think about it in front of them, because
then they gonna be like, what you're thinking about it?
Then you'll be like, well, it's because if you tell me,
I'm gonna be like Sydney.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
And if you tell Sidney, I think somebody was like, oh,
I might as well tell Marie because I know you're
gonna tell her, and I'm like, hey, I already know,
I already.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Have you guys ever gotten into a real fight like no, no, no, no,
like like where you.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Had to agree, where you had to resolve at, like
you if somebody had to apologize or say they're sorry.
I don't mean to quit the knit.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
And that was that was a big one for us,
right she went she quit the NIT. I thought she
didn't want to deal with us anymore. She just didn't
want to deal with the Knit and she I think
there was miscommunication and everything, so it was be a text.
She was on the group chat messaging us, and it's like,
if we would have sat down and talked, I think
(02:25):
it would have went over.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Because I texted them that I had times to lightis
and they was like, you're not coming to work.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
You didn't have to and you had faced it out
in the public streets of New York twice.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
And I only know it twice because the man said
she fainted twice. Get her ambulance.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
And I and I texted her and I was like,
y'all I'm damn bad and they was like, yeah, so
about that line up And I was like, oh, I
mean we already went over this. You you did not
text us that you had time tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I did. We were Chelsea when you said this, and
Sydney's all the way back.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
When that story is imprinted in my life, so I
can't change it.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, whatever delusion I get. The delusion is bring to
the table, take it out of the origin story.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Baby, that's not Yeah, yeah, you have an interesting recollection
of things because you kind of do create your own reality.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Oh is that right?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
So yeah, I mean, listen, some people have to do
that to stay positive and remain upbeat. And so maybe
you're using that as a tool for your own happenings.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
No, no, no, it's not even a tool that happened.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I feel like I remember I don't even remember her
scrolling through, but I feel like I told them I
was sick, and that just wasn't the conversation.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So and even though they didn't find that text, that's
not that's still your story.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
That we're sticking to a sickness and not tell them.
That's weird to me.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Okay, So that's I mean, the way you were saying stuff,
it was like, obviously something's wrong, there's a problem.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I was direct about that. I feel like I was
direct about what was going on and what was wrong
with me.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I just didn't know. I didn't know what's a pinpoint.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
No, because nobody had a follow up. We had a dinner.
It was almost like an intervention, and it's still they in.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
That was like, you need to start taking medicine. That's
what our intervention was. And I was like, I'll do drugs,
but I don't do medicine. To be fair, you also
made us do the intervention at a vegan place, so
everybody was angry coming in, like I'm paying I'm paying
all this money for vegan food.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I'm still hungry. Yes, this don't take time.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
I was veganah at the time, I was thinking, yeah, now, yeah,
some pepper on the piece of last night it was
a girl, Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Are you I mean, are you good at taking advice?
Or do you solicit advice? Like what's the dynamic between
the three of you giving advice or like, how do
you know when it's time to actually give advice or
when it's time to just be supportive?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I think I give advice when I'm asked of it.
I think for the most part, a lot of stuff's
not gonna make sense to me and my logic and
my values.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
So I have to let everybody rock and do their thing.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But then if they come and be like, well what
you think, Amena, then I'll go ahead and impart my wisdom.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
What was she saying? What was said? She said? It
never makes sense. That's what she said.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
No, because even Sidney was talking about borrow money. She
let somebody borrow money, they didn't pay her back. And
I was sitting there like, so, y'all still gonna be cool,
and she was just like it's fine, and I was like,
oh yeah, nah. So then I had to hold back
and let her navigate their friendship.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Sidney, how much money did you lend this person?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Well, it was a one hundred and seventy five thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
No, it was not that, but it was a complicated.
It was a complicated situation. It was very complimated, and
it all worked out eventually, and I just learned to Okay,
this is where me and Amina have the issue. It's
like she doesn't know what would actually upset me and
trigger me to be like I'm done because I do.
Let some big things happen and I'll be like it's fine,
(05:57):
it'll work out, and it's something kind of all will have.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Sidney would be like, oh they're dad, and I'll be
like yeah, I would have never thought that this. All
the things were done before this little Oh they didn't
write you a text, and now they're not friends no more.
I don't know it'd be mad. I mean, that's why
you know, the cereal gate situation was so crazy to me.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh, tell the cereal gate. They don't know. Oh, I
mean it those about cereal gate now, but Chelsea doesn't know, Okay,
so boom.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Sydney had a friend who lived up in the apartment
above her.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Sidney doesn't cook. Sid sid can't cook, sick don't cook.
This person feeds.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Her all the time, like she makes dinner and she's like, hey,
come eat, and Sidney just.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Eats and leaves.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
And one day this person had cereal on the fridge
and Sidney said this is all you have or something
like that, and it was like, dad, who ain't all
the cereal, Sydney? And no, no, I've never seen her
eat cereal, Sydney, so I probably.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Was you they're cereal there though that I don't eat
the cereal. Sydney complained about the cereal.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
The friend was upset, and then Sydney was mad that
the girl was mad and didn't talk to.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Her for four months. So cereal cereal but money. And
she had been feeding Sydney for I don't know, maybe
a year. I don't know how long.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
She had been No, no, no, hold on, wait, you're
missing you're missing points right when people do stuff for
you and you don't ask.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
That's what you're feeding. Most of the time, I'd be like, oh,
I'm good. Oh you're not. You don't want anything? Oh
will you in a RECOGNI.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're saying most of the time you didn't eat so
in a week, how many meals would you eat?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
It?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
There?
Speaker 4 (07:44):
No, no, no, no, no, no, it's no no, no, hold on,
I did not say that. I say a lot of
the times it's like it's being put on, Hey, you
want her to eat? Oh I made this. This person's
making food anyway. A lot of times sometimes I.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Don't be hungry at the time or all like oh
it's late da. So it's it's not a thing like
oh what you cooking, you cook it. It's never an
expectation of you cooking for me.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
It's a your offering and I come fly through because
it's gonna be there anyway.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
And if I say no, what do you you got to.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Eat in disorder? So it's like, well, let me just
eat this food. So you don't think I'm going through something.
And that's straight up what it was. And so when
the cereal thing came about. It's like, obviously you must
be having some pent up resentment or whatever about X,
Y and Z, and so that tipped her off and
was like, oh, absolutely not when for me I was like,
(08:36):
oh I thought I thought.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Everything was cool.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah, the way you're telling it now is different.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
How did you resolve this with your neighbor? How did
you guys start speaking again?
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I don't know how did it have Marie?
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I think she I mean well, because the friend the
girl called me and I was like, oh, Sidney's wrong,
and Sidney was like, Sidney didn't think she was wrong.
And I think she wrote Sidney a letter, She got
her a gift basket.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Siddy didn't want any.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Parts of this girl. Sidney had a birthday dinner. We
all got dressed. Sidney walked by her and her birthday outfit.
Didn't it I did not.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
It was crazy. I don't know how they were think.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
I think COVID happened and that's how they started talking again,
brought us together and brought us apart. I do agree
with that said, though, if people do stuff for you,
you do you do you do? That's on you don't
be trying to pull up asking me for favors because
you done, did and did and did, like the Italian
(09:39):
is crazy, or.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
If you have a problem, nip it in the bud,
don't wait for something big to pop up. And then
you you come at me and I'm like, I don't
know what where is this coming from? Yeah, I agree
with the I'm not asking your offering.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I'm gonna take because I'm gonna take her.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I'm gonna take till you ain't got nothing left to
take but the the.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Take, and then being like, what's happening here? Like I
don't even know what you were, like, are you poor?
Where's the cereal?
Speaker 3 (10:05):
I don't know what you said exactly. I say it
was the thing that you said in the way that
you said it that it wasn't like she was.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Like I always it was. I don't know, I don't know.
We will. That'll be a different pot for a different time.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But the point of that is somebody off of some cereal,
but not fifteen hundred dollars yo, I.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Meana, this is why we'd be going back and forth.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Amina just wanted the core was That's all. I was
just a bullet point to wrap this all up.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
No, no, no, Chelsea, Chelsea, this is what I know.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
This is how I am.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
I feel like I'm very I'm an open book. I'm
very honest with my friends. I'm very emotional.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
It is very steep through how I am with my friends.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Right, if you have these random problems with me and
you do not speak, you know, on it, and then
you're sensitive about stuff and things you bothering you, I
can't that. I can't go further with that. Because we're friends.
There's going to be some issues. I don't like people
tiptoeing over stuff. It's like, just talk to me, tell
me what's wrong. I don't want to have to be guessing.
I'm not a mind reader. I'm not a magician. I'm
(11:14):
too old, I'm too grown.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I don't want it.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
So I will cut somebody off if I think it's
a personality trait. If I think it's like a oh this,
you can't have a real discussion about something that's bothering you,
so you'll let something blow up, and then I gotta
deal with that.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Everybody silent, everybody silent, I'll bomb the.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Wrong No, no, no, I can relate to what you're saying.
I get pissed off about little things. I get pissed
off about little things and sometimes don't get pissed off
about the bigger things. Sometimes I get, I get I
can be like that too, so I can relate to
what you're saying, even if these two girls can't.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yeah, I've shut it down.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
So I know you said laughter is the thing that
keeps you guys together, right, I mean, but there's got
to be other things that you've learned from from Sydney
in the time that you guys have all been fronts.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Oh, I gotta get it. Yeah, Okay, things that I have.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Learned either learn from them, well, learn from them definitely,
either about them or about yourself that you've learned from them.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Well, you know what I will say, on the border
of people pleasing to non people pleasing, I feel like
I've found like a good balance in between from watching
how we all kind of interact, right, So like my
Sidney will she will test it is Sidney wants to
be like everybody friends, she wants to make everybody happy,
(12:37):
and Maurice just be like it's about me, right like girl.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I mean you could if you add a little sprinkles
to this in cool.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
So I feel like as far as like pleasure and
like putting self first one hundred percent. I feel like
that's something that I admire greatly about Marie, Like I
don't think that's a bad thing. I feel like a
lot of people have a hard time doing that, and
you just do it so well. So I feel like
that's something that I do admire you, Like, you're not
(13:03):
with the drama. You want to have a good time.
You like, if it ain't adding a good time, then
we should have no parts to it.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And I know that's one hundred percent you.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
And then Sidney is, Yeah, I feel like what I
learned from Sidney is support, unconditional support. Like she even
talks about this in her One Woman show about like
her family giving her disgrace of how she burnt down
the family's house and then they still loved her, and
I was like, that wouldn't happen, and my family, you.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
You burned down your connection to your people.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
And so that is one thing that I admire about
Sidney is she really really does extend, extend, extend the grace.
And so I feel like, yeah, even Marie would agree
to that. I feel like that is something that I
not only admire about her, but I had to learn
to do because before I was like, no nonsense, get
out my face. But now I'm just like, Okay, you
(13:54):
gotta let people be people and then give them room
to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Why are you laughing? All right? That was a great answer.
That was nice.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
That's why we're wrapping it up on a high note
so we can so our listeners can learn about female friendship, Marie,
and also actually telling your friends what you love about
them is a very important thing to do. So, Marie,
what have you learned from these two women? Or what
do you admire about these two women? What have you
learned about yourself through them?
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I mean, that was a really nice answer. Wow, I
really like that.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
Don't speak again.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Now, I would say that from Sydney, I probably learned
something similar. Like friends have never been something that's been
very important to me. But Sidney really is friends with everybody.
She's calling people, she's remembering things that people say, she's
following up. I'm like, how do you know everybody's business?
(14:54):
And she's like cause I listen, and I'm like, oh,
I have to live when people speak to me is crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Well, she's also sober, so that's also an added benefit.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
To listening. That's what it is. That's what it is. Yeah,
we marijuana takes your memories away. That's crazy.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
But yes, I learned about, you know, just being friends.
I'd be a friend, a good friend from Sydney and Amina.
I feel like Amina taught me that it's okay to
be honest and uh, you know, use your words in
a way that people can actually hear what you're saying.
Because sometimes a mina will say things and I'll be like, huh,
(15:33):
I never thought about it that way.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
But you know, it seems like, you know, friend, you're
doing the work. I don't know what work, but if
I feel like you're doing some of the work, that's crazy.
That's crazy. It's okay you don't think you're doing the work.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Before the podcast is over, just know I'm a mentor
in this friendship.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, you heard me, I told you to stop talking.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
But about a lot of adults and stuff I'm reading
you call me, I'm like healthcare, finances, fitness.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
But it's okay. You know you said I got healthcare
because of you. That's what you say. No, I said that.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
I feel like we talk about those things like I
feel like those are the conversations that we have.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Said, Nan, it's your turn. Close it up, Sidney with
your favorite things about Amina and Marie.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
No, No, Amina is a human being through she will
show you all parts of her as a being in
her growth, in her journey. Like I really do feel
like I've been there through so many things with her
that I see her, I see her and she's she's open,
(16:45):
she's not close to being like, well, this is what
it is and I'm working through it. And so she
has reminded me to be nicer to myself, that it's
okay to work on yourself. It's okay to even ask
for help. Maybe not financial help, but it's okay to ask.
It's okay to asking Yay, I need money, She'll she'll
(17:06):
find some things that you can do to make the
money that she's not gonna give you. And she has
just shown me the importance of family. She is down
for her no matter what, and I'll be ready to
cut them off. So I love that Marie has taught
me to put yourself first. That a lot of things
it's not that serious. Everything should be way more lighter.
(17:29):
To have a purpose of like fun and what makes
you happy. It's like the pursuit of happiness without the homelessness.
That's that's Marie in terms of like getting what you
want and working towards it and knowing that it's gonna
happen for you, and and.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It should be.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You should work smarter, not harder. Like everything that you're doing.
It shouldn't be a every day is a fight, you know.
So yeah, and confidence and just like believing in yourself
and whatnot is that's what I always see when I
see her. It's just like always putting your best foot forward.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Nice, nice ladies way. It ends on a high note.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Girls. I love it.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
We did, and we're wrapping it up because Sydney's taping
her half hour special tonight in Vegas.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Break a Leg.
Speaker 4 (18:18):
Yeah there, we saw the thirty Okay, we saw something.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Yes, And thank you ladies for making this work today.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Thank you for having us. This was really good. You
did too.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Thank you have fun tonight. And that's all for this
week with Amina, Sydney and Marie.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
You can find them on.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
Instagram at just sid BW. That's Sydney's at Reezi that's
with three E's ore ee e z Y and then
at Amina Amani. If you want some good Instagram stuff.
Go follow them and you can join us next time
as we continue couples counseling with Chelsea
Welcome back to Couples Counseling with Chelsea, And I'm here
with three of my friends. They are not a couple.
They're a threatle and they're not romantically involved either.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
There are three.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Comedians named Amina Amani, Sydney Washington, and Marie Fouston and
they are a friendship threatle and I spent some time
with them a whistler and heard a lot about their beef,
so I thought I would bring them onto the podcast.
What about secret keeping? Do you guys keep secrets from
each other? Or do you guys have secrets between like
two of you out of the three that you keep
(00:30):
from the third person.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I mean that must happen. Oh yeah, sure, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I think it would be the best interest to keep
all secrets from me because I'll either forget that is
a secret. Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'm the problem. I'm
definitely a problem. And I'll say it and I'll be.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Like, oh yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
Marie is good at keeping secret. From what I know,
She's good at keeping secret, but also she forgets. I
think she's mainly like she forgets things, so she like
you want to tell her, is in a ciper and
sometimes I forget on no stuff, or sometimes somebody will
tell me something and they'll be like, don't tell nobody,
and then I'll go tell somebody else and I'll be like,
don't tell nobody, and they'd be like I told you,
(01:08):
and I'd be like, yes, I remember I.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Did that to I was running back information that she
told me.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
But I will say this if I don't want to,
if I don't want one or the other to note,
I won't tell both of them.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Well, yeah, I think it's the best. I think it's best.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Not favor and not even mention it, don't allude to it,
don't even think about it in front of them, because
then they gonna be like, what you're thinking about it?
Then you'll be like, well, it's because if you tell me,
I'm gonna be like Sydney.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
And if you tell Sidney, I think somebody was like, oh,
I might as well tell Marie because I know you're
gonna tell her, and I'm like, hey, I already know,
I already.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Have you guys ever gotten into a real fight like no, no, no, no,
like like where you.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Had to agree, where you had to resolve at, like
you if somebody had to apologize or say they're sorry.
I don't mean to quit the knit.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
And that was that was a big one for us,
right she went she quit the NIT. I thought she
didn't want to deal with us anymore. She just didn't
want to deal with the Knit and she I think
there was miscommunication and everything, so it was be a text.
She was on the group chat messaging us, and it's like,
if we would have sat down and talked, I think
(02:25):
it would have went over.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Because I texted them that I had times to lightis
and they was like, you're not coming to work.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
You didn't have to and you had faced it out
in the public streets of New York twice.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
And I only know it twice because the man said
she fainted twice. Get her ambulance.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
And I and I texted her and I was like,
y'all I'm damn bad and they was like, yeah, so
about that line up And I was like, oh, I
mean we already went over this. You you did not
text us that you had time tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I did. We were Chelsea when you said this, and
Sydney's all the way back.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
When that story is imprinted in my life, so I
can't change it.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, whatever delusion I get. The delusion is bring to
the table, take it out of the origin story.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Baby, that's not Yeah, yeah, you have an interesting recollection
of things because you kind of do create your own reality.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Oh is that right?
Speaker 1 (03:22):
So yeah, I mean, listen, some people have to do
that to stay positive and remain upbeat. And so maybe
you're using that as a tool for your own happenings.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
No, no, no, it's not even a tool that happened.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I feel like I remember I don't even remember her
scrolling through, but I feel like I told them I
was sick, and that just wasn't the conversation.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
So and even though they didn't find that text, that's
not that's still your story.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
That we're sticking to a sickness and not tell them.
That's weird to me.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Okay, So that's I mean, the way you were saying stuff,
it was like, obviously something's wrong, there's a problem.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
I was direct about that. I feel like I was
direct about what was going on and what was wrong
with me.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I just didn't know. I didn't know what's a pinpoint.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
No, because nobody had a follow up. We had a dinner.
It was almost like an intervention, and it's still they in.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
That was like, you need to start taking medicine. That's
what our intervention was. And I was like, I'll do drugs,
but I don't do medicine. To be fair, you also
made us do the intervention at a vegan place, so
everybody was angry coming in, like I'm paying I'm paying
all this money for vegan food.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I'm still hungry. Yes, this don't take time.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
I was veganah at the time, I was thinking, yeah, now, yeah,
some pepper on the piece of last night it was
a girl, Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Are you I mean, are you good at taking advice?
Or do you solicit advice? Like what's the dynamic between
the three of you giving advice or like, how do
you know when it's time to actually give advice or
when it's time to just be supportive?
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I think I give advice when I'm asked of it.
I think for the most part, a lot of stuff's
not gonna make sense to me and my logic and
my values.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
So I have to let everybody rock and do their thing.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
But then if they come and be like, well what
you think, Amena, then I'll go ahead and impart my wisdom.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
What was she saying? What was said? She said? It
never makes sense. That's what she said.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
No, because even Sidney was talking about borrow money. She
let somebody borrow money, they didn't pay her back. And
I was sitting there like, so, y'all still gonna be cool,
and she was just like it's fine, and I was like,
oh yeah, nah. So then I had to hold back
and let her navigate their friendship.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Sidney, how much money did you lend this person?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Well, it was a one hundred and seventy five thousand dollars.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
No, it was not that, but it was a complicated.
It was a complicated situation. It was very complimated, and
it all worked out eventually, and I just learned to Okay,
this is where me and Amina have the issue. It's
like she doesn't know what would actually upset me and
trigger me to be like I'm done because I do.
Let some big things happen and I'll be like it's fine,
(05:57):
it'll work out, and it's something kind of all will have.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Sidney would be like, oh they're dad, and I'll be
like yeah, I would have never thought that this. All
the things were done before this little Oh they didn't
write you a text, and now they're not friends no more.
I don't know it'd be mad. I mean, that's why
you know, the cereal gate situation was so crazy to me.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh, tell the cereal gate. They don't know. Oh, I
mean it those about cereal gate now, but Chelsea doesn't know, Okay,
so boom.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Sydney had a friend who lived up in the apartment
above her.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Sidney doesn't cook. Sid sid can't cook, sick don't cook.
This person feeds.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Her all the time, like she makes dinner and she's like, hey,
come eat, and Sidney just.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Eats and leaves.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
And one day this person had cereal on the fridge
and Sidney said this is all you have or something
like that, and it was like, dad, who ain't all
the cereal, Sydney? And no, no, I've never seen her
eat cereal, Sydney, so I probably.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Was you they're cereal there though that I don't eat
the cereal. Sydney complained about the cereal.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
The friend was upset, and then Sydney was mad that
the girl was mad and didn't talk to.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Her for four months. So cereal cereal but money. And
she had been feeding Sydney for I don't know, maybe
a year. I don't know how long.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
She had been No, no, no, hold on, wait, you're
missing you're missing points right when people do stuff for
you and you don't ask.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
That's what you're feeding. Most of the time, I'd be like, oh,
I'm good. Oh you're not. You don't want anything? Oh
will you in a RECOGNI.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're saying most of the time you didn't eat so
in a week, how many meals would you eat?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
It?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
There?
Speaker 4 (07:44):
No, no, no, no, no, no, it's no no, no, hold on,
I did not say that. I say a lot of
the times it's like it's being put on, Hey, you
want her to eat? Oh I made this. This person's
making food anyway. A lot of times sometimes I.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Don't be hungry at the time or all like oh
it's late da. So it's it's not a thing like
oh what you cooking, you cook it. It's never an
expectation of you cooking for me.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
It's a your offering and I come fly through because
it's gonna be there anyway.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
And if I say no, what do you you got to.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
Eat in disorder? So it's like, well, let me just
eat this food. So you don't think I'm going through something.
And that's straight up what it was. And so when
the cereal thing came about. It's like, obviously you must
be having some pent up resentment or whatever about X,
Y and Z, and so that tipped her off and
was like, oh, absolutely not when for me I was like,
(08:36):
oh I thought I thought.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
Everything was cool.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah, the way you're telling it now is different.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
How did you resolve this with your neighbor? How did
you guys start speaking again?
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I don't know how did it have Marie?
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I think she I mean well, because the friend the
girl called me and I was like, oh, Sidney's wrong,
and Sidney was like, Sidney didn't think she was wrong.
And I think she wrote Sidney a letter, She got
her a gift basket.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Siddy didn't want any.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
Parts of this girl. Sidney had a birthday dinner. We
all got dressed. Sidney walked by her and her birthday outfit.
Didn't it I did not.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
It was crazy. I don't know how they were think.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
I think COVID happened and that's how they started talking again,
brought us together and brought us apart. I do agree
with that said, though, if people do stuff for you,
you do you do you do? That's on you don't
be trying to pull up asking me for favors because
you done, did and did and did, like the Italian
(09:39):
is crazy, or.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
If you have a problem, nip it in the bud,
don't wait for something big to pop up. And then
you you come at me and I'm like, I don't
know what where is this coming from? Yeah, I agree
with the I'm not asking your offering.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I'm gonna take because I'm gonna take her.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I'm gonna take till you ain't got nothing left to
take but the the.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Take, and then being like, what's happening here? Like I
don't even know what you were, like, are you poor?
Where's the cereal?
Speaker 3 (10:05):
I don't know what you said exactly. I say it
was the thing that you said in the way that
you said it that it wasn't like she was.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Like I always it was. I don't know, I don't know.
We will. That'll be a different pot for a different time.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
But the point of that is somebody off of some cereal,
but not fifteen hundred dollars yo, I.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Meana, this is why we'd be going back and forth.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Amina just wanted the core was That's all. I was
just a bullet point to wrap this all up.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
No, no, no, Chelsea, Chelsea, this is what I know.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
This is how I am.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
I feel like I'm very I'm an open book. I'm
very honest with my friends. I'm very emotional.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
It is very steep through how I am with my friends.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
Right, if you have these random problems with me and
you do not speak, you know, on it, and then
you're sensitive about stuff and things you bothering you, I
can't that. I can't go further with that. Because we're friends.
There's going to be some issues. I don't like people
tiptoeing over stuff. It's like, just talk to me, tell
me what's wrong. I don't want to have to be guessing.
I'm not a mind reader. I'm not a magician. I'm
(11:14):
too old, I'm too grown.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I don't want it.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
So I will cut somebody off if I think it's
a personality trait. If I think it's like a oh this,
you can't have a real discussion about something that's bothering you,
so you'll let something blow up, and then I gotta
deal with that.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Everybody silent, everybody silent, I'll bomb the.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Wrong No, no, no, I can relate to what you're saying.
I get pissed off about little things. I get pissed
off about little things and sometimes don't get pissed off
about the bigger things. Sometimes I get, I get I
can be like that too, so I can relate to
what you're saying, even if these two girls can't.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yeah, I've shut it down.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
So I know you said laughter is the thing that
keeps you guys together, right, I mean, but there's got
to be other things that you've learned from from Sydney
in the time that you guys have all been fronts.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Oh, I gotta get it. Yeah, Okay, things that I have.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Learned either learn from them, well, learn from them definitely,
either about them or about yourself that you've learned from them.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Well, you know what I will say, on the border
of people pleasing to non people pleasing, I feel like
I've found like a good balance in between from watching
how we all kind of interact, right, So like my
Sidney will she will test it is Sidney wants to
be like everybody friends, she wants to make everybody happy,
(12:37):
and Maurice just be like it's about me, right like girl.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
I mean you could if you add a little sprinkles
to this in cool.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
So I feel like as far as like pleasure and
like putting self first one hundred percent. I feel like
that's something that I admire greatly about Marie, Like I
don't think that's a bad thing. I feel like a
lot of people have a hard time doing that, and
you just do it so well. So I feel like
that's something that I do admire you, Like, you're not
(13:03):
with the drama. You want to have a good time.
You like, if it ain't adding a good time, then
we should have no parts to it.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
And I know that's one hundred percent you.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
And then Sidney is, Yeah, I feel like what I
learned from Sidney is support, unconditional support. Like she even
talks about this in her One Woman show about like
her family giving her disgrace of how she burnt down
the family's house and then they still loved her, and
I was like, that wouldn't happen, and my family, you.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
You burned down your connection to your people.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
And so that is one thing that I admire about
Sidney is she really really does extend, extend, extend the grace.
And so I feel like, yeah, even Marie would agree
to that. I feel like that is something that I
not only admire about her, but I had to learn
to do because before I was like, no nonsense, get
out my face. But now I'm just like, Okay, you
(13:54):
gotta let people be people and then give them room
to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Why are you laughing? All right? That was a great answer.
That was nice.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
That's why we're wrapping it up on a high note
so we can so our listeners can learn about female friendship, Marie,
and also actually telling your friends what you love about
them is a very important thing to do. So, Marie,
what have you learned from these two women? Or what
do you admire about these two women? What have you
learned about yourself through them?
Speaker 2 (14:28):
I mean, that was a really nice answer. Wow, I
really like that.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
Don't speak again.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Now, I would say that from Sydney, I probably learned
something similar. Like friends have never been something that's been
very important to me. But Sidney really is friends with everybody.
She's calling people, she's remembering things that people say, she's
following up. I'm like, how do you know everybody's business?
(14:54):
And she's like cause I listen, and I'm like, oh,
I have to live when people speak to me is crazy.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Well, she's also sober, so that's also an added benefit.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
To listening. That's what it is. That's what it is. Yeah,
we marijuana takes your memories away. That's crazy.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
But yes, I learned about, you know, just being friends.
I'd be a friend, a good friend from Sydney and Amina.
I feel like Amina taught me that it's okay to
be honest and uh, you know, use your words in
a way that people can actually hear what you're saying.
Because sometimes a mina will say things and I'll be like, huh,
(15:33):
I never thought about it that way.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
But you know, it seems like, you know, friend, you're
doing the work. I don't know what work, but if
I feel like you're doing some of the work, that's crazy.
That's crazy. It's okay you don't think you're doing the work.
Speaker 3 (15:48):
Before the podcast is over, just know I'm a mentor
in this friendship.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Yeah, you heard me, I told you to stop talking.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
But about a lot of adults and stuff I'm reading
you call me, I'm like healthcare, finances, fitness.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
But it's okay. You know you said I got healthcare
because of you. That's what you say. No, I said that.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
I feel like we talk about those things like I
feel like those are the conversations that we have.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
Said, Nan, it's your turn. Close it up, Sidney with
your favorite things about Amina and Marie.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
No, No, Amina is a human being through she will
show you all parts of her as a being in
her growth, in her journey. Like I really do feel
like I've been there through so many things with her
that I see her, I see her and she's she's open,
(16:45):
she's not close to being like, well, this is what
it is and I'm working through it. And so she
has reminded me to be nicer to myself, that it's
okay to work on yourself. It's okay to even ask
for help. Maybe not financial help, but it's okay to ask.
It's okay to asking Yay, I need money, She'll she'll
(17:06):
find some things that you can do to make the
money that she's not gonna give you. And she has
just shown me the importance of family. She is down
for her no matter what, and I'll be ready to
cut them off. So I love that Marie has taught
me to put yourself first. That a lot of things
it's not that serious. Everything should be way more lighter.
(17:29):
To have a purpose of like fun and what makes
you happy. It's like the pursuit of happiness without the homelessness.
That's that's Marie in terms of like getting what you
want and working towards it and knowing that it's gonna
happen for you, and and.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It should be.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You should work smarter, not harder. Like everything that you're doing.
It shouldn't be a every day is a fight, you know.
So yeah, and confidence and just like believing in yourself
and whatnot is that's what I always see when I
see her. It's just like always putting your best foot forward.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Nice, nice ladies way. It ends on a high note.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Girls. I love it.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
We did, and we're wrapping it up because Sydney's taping
her half hour special tonight in Vegas.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Break a Leg.
Speaker 4 (18:18):
Yeah there, we saw the thirty Okay, we saw something.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
Yes, And thank you ladies for making this work today.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Thank you for having us. This was really good. You
did too.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Thank you have fun tonight. And that's all for this
week with Amina, Sydney and Marie.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
You can find them on.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
Instagram at just sid BW. That's Sydney's at Reezi that's
with three E's ore ee e z Y and then
at Amina Amani. If you want some good Instagram stuff.
Go follow them and you can join us next time
as we continue couples counseling with Chelsea
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