July 20, 2023 • 23 mins
Welcome to a special edition of Exactly Amara where we dive into our overflowing inbox and bring you, our valued listeners into the spotlight! From motherhood to music - Amara is pulling back the curtain to answer fan questions sent via DM.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, guys, welcome, welcome to nice show, your show. This
is Exactly Amada and I am your girl, Amada Lanegra.
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Exactly Amada. I am glad that you're tuning in today,
because today I am going to be making this episode
real fun, real exciting. You know that we love to
talk about other things on this show, from sex education,
to finances, to parenthood, to whatever it is that you
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want to talk about. I'm always down to listen. I'm
always down to read it out and actually come up
with a podcast that I can actually dedicate to you.
So I have a whole bunch of dms, a ton
of dms asking me different things, and today I just
want to sit down and answer them for you. Okay,
are you guys ready? All right? Here goes one of
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the things that someone hit me up. I will say
who it is, so you know, I'll be discreet one.
Can you share your journey of entering the entertainment industry
and how it has shaped your life as a single mother. Why? Actually,
I feel that growing up in the entertainment industry has
shaped me into being a better mother because or by
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just my work ethic. I think that I've been very
driven my whole life because also coming up as a
beauty pageant baby, I learned to be very competitive by nature.
So I'm always looking to be better. I'm always looking
for the next challenge. I'm always looking to how can
I perfect my craft? And as a mother, I think
that I'm always looking as well on how to become
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a better mother. How can I balance out being a
mother and my job. I never see as anything being impossible.
I always just try to figure other ways of doing things,
because that's basically how it is in the entertainment industry.
There's no one straight line into making it. You know.
I've had to work on radio, I've had to work
on TV. I've had to work on a thousand things.
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Even though my passion has always been being on stage
and being a performer and being an artist and doing
music is really my biggest dream, My biggest goal, my drive,
But you have to be prepared to get prepared in
many different avenues and you just never know what the
future is going to throw at you. The same thing
with motherhood. You know, I definitely wasn't prepared to be
a mother at this moment in my life, in my career,
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but it's here, it came, and I'm doing the best
that I can and I think I'm doing a pretty
good job at it. And then that's just part of life.
You learn as you go along. I'm definitely grateful that
I was able to grow up doing what I love
because thanks to the effort, the discipline and other things
that I did growing up, I am able to be
where I am today and I've been able to succeed,
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and I pray to God I'm able to implement this drive,
this discipline, all the things that I learned, all the
things that I know to my girls growing up as well.
They're already working, they're doing commercials, they're already on national TV,
they're on Love and Hip Hop as well. You know,
their children's book is coming out, their clothing line is
coming out. I'm working on creating an empire for them
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as well. Like I think I'm doing it right. I
think that I'm doing it and I hope that one
day my girls are proud of me because only God
and I know all the hard work that I'm doing
to make sure that they have an amazing future. So
I hope that that answered that. But here you go through.
We also have another question, DCSC I love to get DMS.
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What are some of the biggest challenges you face while
raising twin girls while pursuing a career in the entertainment
and how did you overcome them? Well, I haven't overcome
them one hundred percent because my babies are only one
years old. Hasn't been hard. It's been extremely hard. I
am currently drinking coffee to stay up because I didn't
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get to sleep much night. My girls have also influenced
even my mother's health because my mom, you know, with
her age and other things that she has gone through
in her life, right, it affected her health. And now
that my girls are here, she doesn't sleep and not
sleeping has affected her that being and her nerves are
going crazy. Minds are going crazy. But I'm young. I
can put it off, but it's not easy. The truth
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of the matter is that being a mother is not
easy overall, especially when you have you're an entrepreneur, or
you have a career that demands a lot of your body,
your attention, your mental peace and all those things. It's
very difficult because everybody don't have anybody else to rely on.
My mother helps me, not as much as people would think.
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My mother does help me, but I just feel like
it's not necessarily her full responsibility to take care of
my children. And I never want to be that daughter
that just throws her kids to the grandparents, to her
mother and just like take care of my kids. No,
I do my best to be there as much as
I can. I travel with my children, I move around
with them. I think it's important also to have my
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girls with me because I never want them to grow
up feeling or thinking, mommy just left us to go
to work. No, mommy took you to work. Yes, mommy
was always working. But you were right beside her. You
were right there. You saw her drive, the way that
she worked, you saw her being there multitasking. I think
that it's very easy to just throw your kids to
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somebody else and you go do you or go clubbing
or go having a good time. Sometimes you do need
it but at the end of the day, it is
our responsibility, it's my responsibility, and I just do the
best to multitask and manage it the best that I can.
Now what I'm doing mid Like Kim Baylah, right, I'm
doing the Spanish version of Dancing with the Stars, and
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I have six days of rehearsals, eight hours of rehearsals,
one day of life to tape, meaning that I that's
my competition date, and then I do eight hours of
intense dancing every day. And then at the same time,
I'm currently also filming Love and Hip Hop the fifth season,
and then I also have my podcast, and then I
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also have my realistic and then it so I have
so many things going on, and then on top of
that being a mother, which is a twenty four hour job.
There's no days off for that. It looks really good
on social media, but it's very hard not to mention.
I just left to Mexico to do another TV show
called Mavez Go check that out as well. And I'm
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also working on my girls children book and clothing and
all these things. I've had to create a team to
help me do all these things. And even though I
have a team for every project. I have a team.
I have Alex and or Lean form my podcast, which
I'm so grateful for, and I have Cassie and Maryland
for other things, and I have the But you're still
the boss. You're still the one who has to be
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on top of every single project. You can just leave
it to them. Sometimes I do, and then I feel
guilty for it, but it's hard. The one thing you
can just let go is being a parent. It will
be a parent twenty four hours, every single day of
your life. So have I completely overcomed it? No? Well
I I don't think so. But I am glad to
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be able to be on exactly. Am I not to
take you through my journey? Yeah? That's that's pretty much it.
I know it sounds like a lot, because it is.
But I love my girls, and I love motherhood and
I love being part of this experience. Okay, here goes
into the DM. How did being a Love and hip
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hop impact your personal O, your personal and professional life?
Were there any unexpected opportunities or challenges? Okay, so here
it goes love and hip hop, which I am so
grateful for because Love and hip Hop gave me an
amazing platform to gain a new fan base right the
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American fan base, because I had come from being very Latina.
In the Latino market, everything was great. I've obviously always
been ambitious and I wanted to try something else. I don't
want to gain more, honest maybe I want to go
into Brazil, maybe into Japan. Why not. There's a lot
of people in the world. I think that sometimes we
think that our world is so small, and the world
really is so big. So I am grateful that love
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and hip hop allowed me to gain a new fan
base to listen to my music and get to know me.
And obviously that brought me new opportunities, commercials, endorsements, meeting
new people, movies, all types of things. I'm grateful for that.
I did put really a lot of hard work because
I have to give myself credit. We don't give ourselves
enough credit for the things that we have accomplished because
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a lot of people, even though you may be complaining,
a lot of people wish that they had your job.
A lot of people wish that they were in your place.
Right there's always somebody right behind you trying to gain
and have the lifestyle that you have. So I'm grateful
for that. I think mean Si Wina. I've been pretty
smart in the way that I've invested my money in
comparison to other people who have also been on the show,
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and I've seen their journey who haven't been financially smart
on how to not just spand and create this fake
lifestyle of luxury, but a real one. So I am
grateful in the professional aspect, grateful on the personal aspect.
It's been terrible, it's been trash. The worst decision I've
ever done in my life has been putting my personal
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love life on National TV, especially because I didn't have
the opportunity of controlling the narrative. We also have to
remember when we watch these shows, and this goes for
every show, not just mine. It's reality TV. It's a
TV show, so everything has to be intensified. Things may
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not be as big, as grand, as serious as they
may seem, but because it also has to be entertaining
for people watching, it goes zero to a thousand. So
my personal relationship, I feel that maybe if I hadn't
exposed it, maybe I would have a personal relationship at
this point. But because I made a decision of being
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on this show and exposing a lot of things that
I don't think it was necessary. It affected my relationships
from my first one, which was with MJ. We weren't gray,
but we were so much better when we weren't on camera.
Because it also allows people to feel as that they
can have opinions about your personal relationship and you know
they'll see you out in the streets and have comments.
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Imagine when you have issues with your partner in your household,
how annoying it is that your cousin, your mother, or
whoever it is, your friends know about it. Imagine the
whole world knowing about it. So that was bad the
father of my children. I should have not never I
regret that so much. I should have never put in
on national TV because that also affected many things that
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I wish would have been kept privately. So in my
personal life it has not done me well at all,
because it's very stressful to be filming these shows and
knowing that you're gonna go film something that you may
not want to because it's going to bring stress and drama.
Even knowing the day before what you're gonna have to
do that night, you may not sleep in peace. Like
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I said before, of growth for my career, yes, challenges, Yes,
TV shows producers. A lot of people may not want
to work with you when you're on these tep of
shows because they automatically expect you to be arguing and
fighting and da da da, And sometimes you have to
explain that's me when I'm on that platform, but when
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I'm not working on those type of platforms, that's not
necessarily neat. I don't move like that and react like that.
It's hard to explain it to people because a lot
of people can get so invested in what they see
on these shows that they do kind of forget that
you have eight cameras in your face while you're doing it.
It does get edited. I filmed this like maybe six
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months before you got to see it, so maybe if
there was an issue six months later, we even forgot
that that even happened. But there's a lot that goes
to it. Like I said, I am extremely grateful for
the opportunity for the platform, and I've learned a lot
from it. But it has this pros and it has
his cons. Like everything in life, here's into the DM says,
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As a songwriter, what inspires you to create music? Are
there any specific experiences or emotions that draw you upon
writing songs. So I'll say writing songs for me is
a very difficult thing because I don't I have a
writer's camp or i'll have writers. I think I'm better
of an entertainer. I interpret better than I write, and
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when I have written, it usually always comes from a
space of depression, being sad, being heartbroken, or maybe when
I am at my high where I feel the most
empowered and I feel the baddest bitch and I feel,
you know, like I can conquer the world. As usually
any of those two emotions. Before, I think it was
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a thing like I write my own raps, I write
my own lyrics, I do my own thing. But I
don't think it's like that. I think it's important to
understand and know that we're all born with different talents,
different abilities. One is able to sing, but the other
one is not able to write. One can write but
can interpret. One can interpret but you may not have
you know, know charisma, or or you may not have
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that it fact they're on stage, Like, I think it's
important to know it takes a team of people to
create that hit song or to make that artist. Because
even when you look I am a big fan of Beyonce,
you may look at one of her songs and there
is one hundred writers on this one song. One wrote
and but the and the other one said, girl, yes,
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you know what I'm saying. Like it takes a team
of people. I think that a lot of artists put
a lot of pressure into trying to be this perfect
artist and just oh, I can write, it, can sing,
I can engineer, I can produce, I can do this. No,
it's okay to have a team. Listen, I'll sing, you write,
you produce, you engineer, mix and master you this and
then we come together and we created this. I always
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want to do music that make people feel good. But
at the same time, I know that there's a lot
of women and men that will be able to relate
with me. If I were to put out some songs
where I'm really talking about my current experiences. I would
love to talk, you know, do a song about motherhood.
I would love to do a song about how it
feels to be betrayed, you know, in love and not
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feeling like you can get back on your feet. But
then doing a song where I realized I am that
bitch and life is good and here I am. So
I think in due time, I'll get back to it
all right. So here goes another one. Can you tell
us about a memorable moment or accomplishment in your career
as a songwriter that holds a special place in your heart.
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I can talk about a special song. There's two special
songs for me, I would say that really were impactful
in my life and my career. One has to be I.
I was my first hit, and if you've never heard it,
go on YouTube and just write am al ayy i
eedia I got I. That was my first hit in
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the Latin community. I got to tour all over Europe,
all over Central America. It was the best experience of
my life. It came with a lot of drama behind
closed doors, but publicly it was a song that really
gave me the opportunity of showcasing my artistry. That was
a really big moment. It was a Residian fund Be
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mixed with Dimbo. It was a big fusion and till
this day, the song has done very, very well. Then
here comes the song Insecure, which was my first song
after being on Love and Hip Hop Loving about Miami
my first season. It was completely different from everything anything
I've ever done before because it was like an R
and B song ensues with like Caribbean influences, and it
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did very well. I love those two songs. In my
whole career, I've done a lot of music. I've done
a lot of music that has stayed in the studio,
a lot of music that has been out and people
didn't pay too much attention to a lot of music
the people loved, because you have to be prepared for
whatever reaction it may be. But those were the two
biggest songs that really hit my heart. Whenever I think
about my music and my career, definitely those two. I
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love you guys asking questions, I really live for this.
Any tips for other single parents trying to find balance,
of course, here's something I've learned. No matter how tired,
how exhausted I am, which is most of the time,
I always try to find time for my girls. And
when I say time for my girls, it's just to
be there without my phone, to just be present in
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that moment, in that space, create those those memories. And
let's say, for example, if I know I had to
film for Love and Hip Hop at two o'clock in
the afternoon. In the morning, I'll get an inflatable baby pool,
pour water and put their baby suits and I'll just
have them play in the water and I'm there. I'm
taking pictures, videos, memories. I am present, watch them laugh
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and have a good time. If I have to go
to work whenever, I'll take some time to go to
Turkey Cheeth and play with them and be there, and
I want to be present. We'll put music really loud
in the house and I don't know, I'll grab them
and I'll dance with them, and I just I want
to be as present as I can, because everyone keeps
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telling me that this time flies by so fast. I
don't want to lose these moments. I missed the first
steps because I was working, and that's okay, because that
comes with having to be a hard working woman, a
hard working woman that's building an empire for my children,
having to be a single parent. It also comes with
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not being able to be there for every special moment
that at some points I feel guilty, but then I
remember that this is my journey. There's no guidebook on
how to live your life, on how to be a
perfect parent, and you just learn as you go along.
I still do my best to take time out of
my day every single day, whether it's in the morning
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or whether it's at night, I'll read them a book
or or whatever. I just want to be present. And
I think that also it comes with creating that habit
of forcing yourself to be present, because if you just
do it once in a while, you will even realize
when your kids grew up and you weren't there every day.
I forced myself to make some time to be there
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for them every day. So yeah, it doesn't matter how
busy you are with life, with whatever, make time for
your children because they will always remember that. And I'll
say this, I remember growing up my mom was always working,
but she was always working and I got to see it.
She would take me with her, even if she put
me in a little corner with a chair and a
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book or whatever. She always made sure that I saw
her working and I was present. So that's important. I'm
gonna answer these other ones kind of briefly because I
know we don't have too much time, and I really
enjoy being able to answer all these dms because I
want to be there for you guys, and I want
you to know that I am paying attention and I'm here. Okay,
So here goes another one. As a single mother influenced
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the theme or message that you convey in your music.
Not as of yet, Not as of yet, but I
definitely feel that I should do one or two songs
for all those single, beautiful, strong mothers out there doing
what they got to do to make sure that their
kids is good. So eventually I would love to do
a song for my girls. Okay, so what are some
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misconception people made about your life in the entertainment industry
or being a single mother. They may definitely have a
misconception that you're just out here living this luxurious life
all day every day. In my case, it's not necessarily
true because some days I wake up looking gomuna a loga,
you know what I mean, not sleeping, taking care of
my kids. I'm a super regular girl when I'm in
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the house in shan like like regular regular life. And
then when you go out, I have the bougie on
trays and food and just all that stuff. I think
it's important to showcase the realness of who you are.
I can be both. I'm not that all day. I
think that social media has also made a lot of artists, celebrities,
influencers fake sell this lifestyle that you live like this
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and you eat this every day, and you really don't.
I think the people that are following all these influencers
and stuff or artists whatever, celebrities should know most of
it is a facade because we live the life that
a lot of people wish that they could. So just
don't believe everything that you see. Okay, I work really hard,
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You guys known because I talk to you all the time.
I still haven't been able to get my love life together. Hopefully,
now that I have downloaded this app Cheesebach and Raya
and all these things, I might be able to finally
find someone who knows And here goes the last one.
Before I tap out, Can you share a funny or
heartwarming story about your experience as a mother of twin
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girls and how it has influenced your perspective, life and success.
I'll say I am even more driven. I am even
more hungry to be successful, to create generational wealth for
my children, to be the best mother I can be.
For my girls. I want them to be proud of me.
I want them to see me in the best light.
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I want them to say, oh my god, that's my mom.
To just see what my mom did and that's why
I work really hard and being every day the best
version of me. My girls are my biggest inspiration. And
even being able to, you know, go to work and
bring my babies in a stroller and be there working
and seeing them there, it really motivates me. Like everything
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that I do, I do it for them. I used
to do it for my mother. Now I do it
for my daughters and my mother. I want to make them,
all three of them proud. I just think that having
being able to go to work, or being on stage
and seeing my mother with my little girls on the
side of the stage while I'm on stage working and
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just being this girl artists that I've worked my whole
life to become. That has been the biggest heartwarming experience
for me in life. And I'm grateful that God has
blessed me in that way. For my girls, for my mother,
my career, everything that I have, my fans, my listeners.
I'm grateful for you guys. Thank you for being there
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for me, for supporting me, for listening to my podcast.
I am so grateful. I think that gratitude is one
of the biggest things that we don't necessarily do every day,
and we should just to be grateful and thankful that
we're here today. This is definitely a blessing. If there
was a takeaway today, I just want to talk about
being grateful and gratitude. Gratitude brings more amazing things into
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your life. Just be grateful for the things that you have.
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Well, guys, welcome, welcome to nice show, your show. This
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Exactly Amada. I am glad that you're tuning in today,
because today I am going to be making this episode
real fun, real exciting. You know that we love to
talk about other things on this show, from sex education,
to finances, to parenthood, to whatever it is that you
(00:44):
want to talk about. I'm always down to listen. I'm
always down to read it out and actually come up
with a podcast that I can actually dedicate to you.
So I have a whole bunch of dms, a ton
of dms asking me different things, and today I just
want to sit down and answer them for you. Okay,
are you guys ready? All right? Here goes one of
(01:04):
the things that someone hit me up. I will say
who it is, so you know, I'll be discreet one.
Can you share your journey of entering the entertainment industry
and how it has shaped your life as a single mother. Why? Actually,
I feel that growing up in the entertainment industry has
shaped me into being a better mother because or by
(01:28):
just my work ethic. I think that I've been very
driven my whole life because also coming up as a
beauty pageant baby, I learned to be very competitive by nature.
So I'm always looking to be better. I'm always looking
for the next challenge. I'm always looking to how can
I perfect my craft? And as a mother, I think
that I'm always looking as well on how to become
(01:48):
a better mother. How can I balance out being a
mother and my job. I never see as anything being impossible.
I always just try to figure other ways of doing things,
because that's basically how it is in the entertainment industry.
There's no one straight line into making it. You know.
I've had to work on radio, I've had to work
on TV. I've had to work on a thousand things.
(02:11):
Even though my passion has always been being on stage
and being a performer and being an artist and doing
music is really my biggest dream, My biggest goal, my drive,
But you have to be prepared to get prepared in
many different avenues and you just never know what the
future is going to throw at you. The same thing
with motherhood. You know, I definitely wasn't prepared to be
a mother at this moment in my life, in my career,
(02:33):
but it's here, it came, and I'm doing the best
that I can and I think I'm doing a pretty
good job at it. And then that's just part of life.
You learn as you go along. I'm definitely grateful that
I was able to grow up doing what I love
because thanks to the effort, the discipline and other things
that I did growing up, I am able to be
where I am today and I've been able to succeed,
(02:54):
and I pray to God I'm able to implement this drive,
this discipline, all the things that I learned, all the
things that I know to my girls growing up as well.
They're already working, they're doing commercials, they're already on national TV,
they're on Love and Hip Hop as well. You know,
their children's book is coming out, their clothing line is
coming out. I'm working on creating an empire for them
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as well. Like I think I'm doing it right. I
think that I'm doing it and I hope that one
day my girls are proud of me because only God
and I know all the hard work that I'm doing
to make sure that they have an amazing future. So
I hope that that answered that. But here you go through.
We also have another question, DCSC I love to get DMS.
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What are some of the biggest challenges you face while
raising twin girls while pursuing a career in the entertainment
and how did you overcome them? Well, I haven't overcome
them one hundred percent because my babies are only one
years old. Hasn't been hard. It's been extremely hard. I
am currently drinking coffee to stay up because I didn't
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get to sleep much night. My girls have also influenced
even my mother's health because my mom, you know, with
her age and other things that she has gone through
in her life, right, it affected her health. And now
that my girls are here, she doesn't sleep and not
sleeping has affected her that being and her nerves are
going crazy. Minds are going crazy. But I'm young. I
can put it off, but it's not easy. The truth
(04:20):
of the matter is that being a mother is not
easy overall, especially when you have you're an entrepreneur, or
you have a career that demands a lot of your body,
your attention, your mental peace and all those things. It's
very difficult because everybody don't have anybody else to rely on.
My mother helps me, not as much as people would think.
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My mother does help me, but I just feel like
it's not necessarily her full responsibility to take care of
my children. And I never want to be that daughter
that just throws her kids to the grandparents, to her
mother and just like take care of my kids. No,
I do my best to be there as much as
I can. I travel with my children, I move around
with them. I think it's important also to have my
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girls with me because I never want them to grow
up feeling or thinking, mommy just left us to go
to work. No, mommy took you to work. Yes, mommy
was always working. But you were right beside her. You
were right there. You saw her drive, the way that
she worked, you saw her being there multitasking. I think
that it's very easy to just throw your kids to
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somebody else and you go do you or go clubbing
or go having a good time. Sometimes you do need
it but at the end of the day, it is
our responsibility, it's my responsibility, and I just do the
best to multitask and manage it the best that I can.
Now what I'm doing mid Like Kim Baylah, right, I'm
doing the Spanish version of Dancing with the Stars, and
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I have six days of rehearsals, eight hours of rehearsals,
one day of life to tape, meaning that I that's
my competition date, and then I do eight hours of
intense dancing every day. And then at the same time,
I'm currently also filming Love and Hip Hop the fifth season,
and then I also have my podcast, and then I
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also have my realistic and then it so I have
so many things going on, and then on top of
that being a mother, which is a twenty four hour job.
There's no days off for that. It looks really good
on social media, but it's very hard not to mention.
I just left to Mexico to do another TV show
called Mavez Go check that out as well. And I'm
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also working on my girls children book and clothing and
all these things. I've had to create a team to
help me do all these things. And even though I
have a team for every project. I have a team.
I have Alex and or Lean form my podcast, which
I'm so grateful for, and I have Cassie and Maryland
for other things, and I have the But you're still
the boss. You're still the one who has to be
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on top of every single project. You can just leave
it to them. Sometimes I do, and then I feel
guilty for it, but it's hard. The one thing you
can just let go is being a parent. It will
be a parent twenty four hours, every single day of
your life. So have I completely overcomed it? No? Well
I I don't think so. But I am glad to
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be able to be on exactly. Am I not to
take you through my journey? Yeah? That's that's pretty much it.
I know it sounds like a lot, because it is.
But I love my girls, and I love motherhood and
I love being part of this experience. Okay, here goes
into the DM. How did being a Love and hip
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hop impact your personal O, your personal and professional life?
Were there any unexpected opportunities or challenges? Okay, so here
it goes love and hip hop, which I am so
grateful for because Love and hip Hop gave me an
amazing platform to gain a new fan base right the
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American fan base, because I had come from being very Latina.
In the Latino market, everything was great. I've obviously always
been ambitious and I wanted to try something else. I don't
want to gain more, honest maybe I want to go
into Brazil, maybe into Japan. Why not. There's a lot
of people in the world. I think that sometimes we
think that our world is so small, and the world
really is so big. So I am grateful that love
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and hip hop allowed me to gain a new fan
base to listen to my music and get to know me.
And obviously that brought me new opportunities, commercials, endorsements, meeting
new people, movies, all types of things. I'm grateful for that.
I did put really a lot of hard work because
I have to give myself credit. We don't give ourselves
enough credit for the things that we have accomplished because
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a lot of people, even though you may be complaining,
a lot of people wish that they had your job.
A lot of people wish that they were in your place.
Right there's always somebody right behind you trying to gain
and have the lifestyle that you have. So I'm grateful
for that. I think mean Si Wina. I've been pretty
smart in the way that I've invested my money in
comparison to other people who have also been on the show,
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and I've seen their journey who haven't been financially smart
on how to not just spand and create this fake
lifestyle of luxury, but a real one. So I am
grateful in the professional aspect, grateful on the personal aspect.
It's been terrible, it's been trash. The worst decision I've
ever done in my life has been putting my personal
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love life on National TV, especially because I didn't have
the opportunity of controlling the narrative. We also have to
remember when we watch these shows, and this goes for
every show, not just mine. It's reality TV. It's a
TV show, so everything has to be intensified. Things may
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not be as big, as grand, as serious as they
may seem, but because it also has to be entertaining
for people watching, it goes zero to a thousand. So
my personal relationship, I feel that maybe if I hadn't
exposed it, maybe I would have a personal relationship at
this point. But because I made a decision of being
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on this show and exposing a lot of things that
I don't think it was necessary. It affected my relationships
from my first one, which was with MJ. We weren't gray,
but we were so much better when we weren't on camera.
Because it also allows people to feel as that they
can have opinions about your personal relationship and you know
they'll see you out in the streets and have comments.
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Imagine when you have issues with your partner in your household,
how annoying it is that your cousin, your mother, or
whoever it is, your friends know about it. Imagine the
whole world knowing about it. So that was bad the
father of my children. I should have not never I
regret that so much. I should have never put in
on national TV because that also affected many things that
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I wish would have been kept privately. So in my
personal life it has not done me well at all,
because it's very stressful to be filming these shows and
knowing that you're gonna go film something that you may
not want to because it's going to bring stress and drama.
Even knowing the day before what you're gonna have to
do that night, you may not sleep in peace. Like
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I said before, of growth for my career, yes, challenges, Yes,
TV shows producers. A lot of people may not want
to work with you when you're on these tep of
shows because they automatically expect you to be arguing and
fighting and da da da, And sometimes you have to
explain that's me when I'm on that platform, but when
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I'm not working on those type of platforms, that's not
necessarily neat. I don't move like that and react like that.
It's hard to explain it to people because a lot
of people can get so invested in what they see
on these shows that they do kind of forget that
you have eight cameras in your face while you're doing it.
It does get edited. I filmed this like maybe six
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months before you got to see it, so maybe if
there was an issue six months later, we even forgot
that that even happened. But there's a lot that goes
to it. Like I said, I am extremely grateful for
the opportunity for the platform, and I've learned a lot
from it. But it has this pros and it has
his cons. Like everything in life, here's into the DM says,
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As a songwriter, what inspires you to create music? Are
there any specific experiences or emotions that draw you upon
writing songs. So I'll say writing songs for me is
a very difficult thing because I don't I have a
writer's camp or i'll have writers. I think I'm better
of an entertainer. I interpret better than I write, and
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when I have written, it usually always comes from a
space of depression, being sad, being heartbroken, or maybe when
I am at my high where I feel the most
empowered and I feel the baddest bitch and I feel,
you know, like I can conquer the world. As usually
any of those two emotions. Before, I think it was
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a thing like I write my own raps, I write
my own lyrics, I do my own thing. But I
don't think it's like that. I think it's important to
understand and know that we're all born with different talents,
different abilities. One is able to sing, but the other
one is not able to write. One can write but
can interpret. One can interpret but you may not have
you know, know charisma, or or you may not have
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that it fact they're on stage, Like, I think it's
important to know it takes a team of people to
create that hit song or to make that artist. Because
even when you look I am a big fan of Beyonce,
you may look at one of her songs and there
is one hundred writers on this one song. One wrote
and but the and the other one said, girl, yes,
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you know what I'm saying. Like it takes a team
of people. I think that a lot of artists put
a lot of pressure into trying to be this perfect
artist and just oh, I can write, it, can sing,
I can engineer, I can produce, I can do this. No,
it's okay to have a team. Listen, I'll sing, you write,
you produce, you engineer, mix and master you this and
then we come together and we created this. I always
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want to do music that make people feel good. But
at the same time, I know that there's a lot
of women and men that will be able to relate
with me. If I were to put out some songs
where I'm really talking about my current experiences. I would
love to talk, you know, do a song about motherhood.
I would love to do a song about how it
feels to be betrayed, you know, in love and not
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feeling like you can get back on your feet. But
then doing a song where I realized I am that
bitch and life is good and here I am. So
I think in due time, I'll get back to it
all right. So here goes another one. Can you tell
us about a memorable moment or accomplishment in your career
as a songwriter that holds a special place in your heart.
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I can talk about a special song. There's two special
songs for me, I would say that really were impactful
in my life and my career. One has to be I.
I was my first hit, and if you've never heard it,
go on YouTube and just write am al ayy i
eedia I got I. That was my first hit in
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the Latin community. I got to tour all over Europe,
all over Central America. It was the best experience of
my life. It came with a lot of drama behind
closed doors, but publicly it was a song that really
gave me the opportunity of showcasing my artistry. That was
a really big moment. It was a Residian fund Be
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mixed with Dimbo. It was a big fusion and till
this day, the song has done very, very well. Then
here comes the song Insecure, which was my first song
after being on Love and Hip Hop Loving about Miami
my first season. It was completely different from everything anything
I've ever done before because it was like an R
and B song ensues with like Caribbean influences, and it
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did very well. I love those two songs. In my
whole career, I've done a lot of music. I've done
a lot of music that has stayed in the studio,
a lot of music that has been out and people
didn't pay too much attention to a lot of music
the people loved, because you have to be prepared for
whatever reaction it may be. But those were the two
biggest songs that really hit my heart. Whenever I think
about my music and my career, definitely those two. I
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love you guys asking questions, I really live for this.
Any tips for other single parents trying to find balance,
of course, here's something I've learned. No matter how tired,
how exhausted I am, which is most of the time,
I always try to find time for my girls. And
when I say time for my girls, it's just to
be there without my phone, to just be present in
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that moment, in that space, create those those memories. And
let's say, for example, if I know I had to
film for Love and Hip Hop at two o'clock in
the afternoon. In the morning, I'll get an inflatable baby pool,
pour water and put their baby suits and I'll just
have them play in the water and I'm there. I'm
taking pictures, videos, memories. I am present, watch them laugh
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and have a good time. If I have to go
to work whenever, I'll take some time to go to
Turkey Cheeth and play with them and be there, and
I want to be present. We'll put music really loud
in the house and I don't know, I'll grab them
and I'll dance with them, and I just I want
to be as present as I can, because everyone keeps
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telling me that this time flies by so fast. I
don't want to lose these moments. I missed the first
steps because I was working, and that's okay, because that
comes with having to be a hard working woman, a
hard working woman that's building an empire for my children,
having to be a single parent. It also comes with
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not being able to be there for every special moment
that at some points I feel guilty, but then I
remember that this is my journey. There's no guidebook on
how to live your life, on how to be a
perfect parent, and you just learn as you go along.
I still do my best to take time out of
my day every single day, whether it's in the morning
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or whether it's at night, I'll read them a book
or or whatever. I just want to be present. And
I think that also it comes with creating that habit
of forcing yourself to be present, because if you just
do it once in a while, you will even realize
when your kids grew up and you weren't there every day.
I forced myself to make some time to be there
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for them every day. So yeah, it doesn't matter how
busy you are with life, with whatever, make time for
your children because they will always remember that. And I'll
say this, I remember growing up my mom was always working,
but she was always working and I got to see it.
She would take me with her, even if she put
me in a little corner with a chair and a
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book or whatever. She always made sure that I saw
her working and I was present. So that's important. I'm
gonna answer these other ones kind of briefly because I
know we don't have too much time, and I really
enjoy being able to answer all these dms because I
want to be there for you guys, and I want
you to know that I am paying attention and I'm here. Okay,
So here goes another one. As a single mother influenced
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the theme or message that you convey in your music.
Not as of yet, Not as of yet, but I
definitely feel that I should do one or two songs
for all those single, beautiful, strong mothers out there doing
what they got to do to make sure that their
kids is good. So eventually I would love to do
a song for my girls. Okay, so what are some
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misconception people made about your life in the entertainment industry
or being a single mother. They may definitely have a
misconception that you're just out here living this luxurious life
all day every day. In my case, it's not necessarily
true because some days I wake up looking gomuna a loga,
you know what I mean, not sleeping, taking care of
my kids. I'm a super regular girl when I'm in
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the house in shan like like regular regular life. And
then when you go out, I have the bougie on
trays and food and just all that stuff. I think
it's important to showcase the realness of who you are.
I can be both. I'm not that all day. I
think that social media has also made a lot of artists, celebrities,
influencers fake sell this lifestyle that you live like this
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and you eat this every day, and you really don't.
I think the people that are following all these influencers
and stuff or artists whatever, celebrities should know most of
it is a facade because we live the life that
a lot of people wish that they could. So just
don't believe everything that you see. Okay, I work really hard,
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You guys known because I talk to you all the time.
I still haven't been able to get my love life together. Hopefully,
now that I have downloaded this app Cheesebach and Raya
and all these things, I might be able to finally
find someone who knows And here goes the last one.
Before I tap out, Can you share a funny or
heartwarming story about your experience as a mother of twin
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girls and how it has influenced your perspective, life and success.
I'll say I am even more driven. I am even
more hungry to be successful, to create generational wealth for
my children, to be the best mother I can be.
For my girls. I want them to be proud of me.
I want them to see me in the best light.
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I want them to say, oh my god, that's my mom.
To just see what my mom did and that's why
I work really hard and being every day the best
version of me. My girls are my biggest inspiration. And
even being able to, you know, go to work and
bring my babies in a stroller and be there working
and seeing them there, it really motivates me. Like everything
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that I do, I do it for them. I used
to do it for my mother. Now I do it
for my daughters and my mother. I want to make them,
all three of them proud. I just think that having
being able to go to work, or being on stage
and seeing my mother with my little girls on the
side of the stage while I'm on stage working and
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just being this girl artists that I've worked my whole
life to become. That has been the biggest heartwarming experience
for me in life. And I'm grateful that God has
blessed me in that way. For my girls, for my mother,
my career, everything that I have, my fans, my listeners.
I'm grateful for you guys. Thank you for being there
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for me, for supporting me, for listening to my podcast.
I am so grateful. I think that gratitude is one
of the biggest things that we don't necessarily do every day,
and we should just to be grateful and thankful that
we're here today. This is definitely a blessing. If there
was a takeaway today, I just want to talk about
being grateful and gratitude. Gratitude brings more amazing things into
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your life. Just be grateful for the things that you have.
Thank you so much, thank you, thank you, thank you
so much for being part of Exactly Amada. Make sure
to find me on YouTube. Cash the show by searching
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