May 11, 2023 • 25 mins
Amara's mom, Ana Maria Oleaga, joins the show on this special Mother's Day episode! They share how Amara's daughters have changed their relationship for the better and how being a grandmother is a second chance at motherhood.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome, guys, Welcome to your show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I am a girl, I'm not at Anega, and you're
listening to Exactly I'm at a production of iHeart as Usual.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Thank you for tuning in, and don't forget to give
us those five stars.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast platform and
head over to our YouTube channel.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Where you will be able to watch or.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Listen to the podcast by searching exactly Amada, or just
go check me out and write I'm not at Anega
on the search bar. This week's episode is really it's
really gonna be fun and important. Uh, It's gonna be
important to me because I always like to bring you
into my rold, into my life, be as honest and
as open as possible. And we're gonna be talking a
(00:42):
little bit about a special day that should be celebrated
every day, which is Mother's Day. Betty ye as madst
for all the mothers out there listening, for.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
The mothers, the future mothers, the ones that are expecting,
the ones who have adopted, the ones who have puppies
and cats and animals, and are you know whatever it
is if you are nurturing soul and you're out here
being the best mother.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
You can be or plan on being a mother. Happy
Mother's Days to you.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Mother's Days doesn't necessarily have to be about you know,
your biological mother.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
I know amazing grandmothers.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
There are great mothers and aunts who are great you
know moms, and and.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
There's so many people out here raising these children and
being uh, you know, being an.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Amazing nurture that I feel is important to celebrate those
people doing that job as well. Let's celebrate the day together.
And I wouldn't be able to do this without. And
I'm older than maybe either the person who raised me
and has been my support system since day one, the
person who created me, who is my mother. And now
(01:52):
Tambing is abuda with you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Today we have mommy and my mom.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Hi, Mom, Hi, telling the prama the exactly madre intu
gas Mammy is to Premier, I'm your office. You know
a girl canky Yeah, Losentinos, we feel it now officially
(02:19):
that you are a grandmother. Means when Premiers so exactly
came theself to Mather.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
I know that's right. Hey, the.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Congos dire for losses mia a two ways I'll want
to see me to the Negas condo.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Okay, getting dad, get didn't when when you see my babies?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Okay, for example, sum his dad, what do you see
in her that you saw in me when I was little?
Speaker 1 (03:11):
So pick up? Yes, okay, it's very artistic.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
And okay a your highness you Hynes Soesa.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Hey, come one, yes for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
And you know, but me, I really enjoy seeing you
as a mother as well obviously as my mother, but
I enjoy seeing you as another version of a mother
for my daughters.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
You know, you're a grandmother, but I see you reliving
a lot of experiences.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Then do you feel and now you will have a
second opportunity to do things right?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Then a couple so yeah, so you feel that my
(04:42):
daughters give you life like the babies give you life.
They make you want to live. So I love that,
I really do. And that's such a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I think that sometimes as new you know, new mom's,
first time moms, we're so caught up and like not
knowing what we're doing, being excited as a mom, but
still trying to figure things out. The don't realize how
us bringing new life into the family really does give
life to the family overall, especially our mothers our grandmothers.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
And the fathers too, you know, new life.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Just learning how to raise a child and and showing
them how to talk, how to walk, how to eat,
just the process of it all.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
It really does give life to the whole family out.
Is there any advice that you can pass down to me?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Then, Madre.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Is me primer avese and sindo mare.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
What advice can you give me? Why?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
No?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I see say yo to create yes, right the vaara
and when they yes they were they yes.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
La comnicas for lamentaaaaa.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Okay, different the animals to sell the converts I alg.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I comedic commo madri comira. Is there anything that you
regret that you did as a mother that you wouldn't
want me to to do?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
But satam you know you know complete genaro ruse at peto, Madre,
no order notata dio to puberta.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It's a primara teenager for this lot.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Cose know josalian pet so the road. Okay, there's something
that you did that you're like, you know what now now.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Okay, I know no.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Man, that's okay, No locme we make cri and Jeff
okay or to say form our.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah, yes, borno.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Okay, which, by the way, I feel that there's many
things ka I never thought, Hey, I would do as
a mother. I come and then I feel how I know,
I see how I'm copying a lot of the things
(08:29):
that you.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You know, how you raised me. You were very strong
with me when I was growing up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
You're very tough on me, which I'm grateful because it
taught me to be responsible, is be as it made
me into a professional.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I'm grateful for all those things. That's my professionality. As
maybe I might have like.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
These high expectations of what I expect them to be,
and I have to understand that they are going to
be whoever they're going to be in their time. They're
gonna pursue whatever it is that they want to be.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
How did you deal with knowing? In your case?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Because you and I have different experiences that I wanted
to be an artist, that I wanted to be payments,
that I want to do all these great things, and
financially you couldn't afford it.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Cours what sort of k S A NBA. That's that? Okay, Ken,
(10:01):
I go talk to like, ok.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
So, so compact Kenny through Now how about this, let's
(10:35):
get let's get to it. This is a broo cue conversation,
but to stop playing because when I was growing up,
you used that.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I don't use the word beats. I think the American
version of that would be spank, and you used to spank.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
The hell out of me.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
But I know that that's a cultural thing and it
all whatever she could find, she would throw it at me.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
And I feel that the kids.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
From our generation somewhere, how about the generation before us,
they respected, you know, their elderly and their parents more
than this generation.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Do you still believe in the spanking.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
One the younsada alos alos majores mask.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
They all? Should I use other methods? Or do you
still believe in the spanking? And pen yr como? Okay?
Speaker 3 (11:50):
And this.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
K greg die young moment you appears, okay, girl, you
(12:17):
lying another girl?
Speaker 3 (12:20):
You didn't you never spend but you know you got
that belt, that chant, that hangar, that wire, whatever, you
have a plan.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
You know you spank the hell out of me.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
But I think that it's not just about the spanking,
because there's a differently between spanking and abuse discipline. I
think is important showing your children to respect you as
a parent, to understand the sacrifices that you do for
them as a parent, that everything that you're doing, you're
disciplining them because you mean well for them, because you
try to protect them, because you can't just raise them
(12:49):
to be wild. I do understand there's other methods like
stand in the corner, take away certain toys. I think
that we've learned throughout, you know, time, there's other ways
of doing it. But I know, other than the Latino household,
that is very common. So I really wanted to know
because in many occasions my mom would be like, you
better not.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Put your hands on the baby. And but you didn't
know me anyways. But I mean simple pensel get.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
And doesn't just look at the part it's part the
THEO and they kind of come out selling.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I don't know, that's just me be don't is the
positive person?
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Savad do incurgass and mean, so, how do you raise
your daughter specifically or your children a row to have
that that friendly bond, that relationship with their mother where
they can feel comfortable enough to be honest with you
and tell you everything that's going in there in their
(14:08):
life without feeling necessarily, you know, judge, or feeling like
I can't come to my mother to my father to
tell them what's happening in my life. You know the
passic you got you you see your considerata.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
And because not casa no no I like yay.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No problema, the local vedia alamo and pante no so
(15:10):
primri terno it was so it's a it's a part, okay,
so Loyer, and.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I am curious to.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Know what are your honest thoughts on me becoming a mother,
says a Quales son.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
To spend some mien pos okay baillo Marri.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Chris is in my momentum Chris and Chris there vero
mask Chris ka very cholantes.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
No look look some perfect in castle to you called
take thee and didn't do something. And Mom, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Which is closet sipan Samoa Lesa.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And me via the see the thousand and one after
I had my daughters.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Altra foulsa, there was another break in my career where
I feel that God gave me the opportunity and was
kind of blessing me with allowing me to enjoy my daughters.
You know, God was more like, I'm gonna give you
a different type of momentum that right now, life is
gonna go a little bit slower for you so that
you can enjoy being a mother, enjoy getting to know
your daughter, spending time with them, because life will go
(16:55):
back into you know, work, work, work, work, work, work, work,
and you're gonna regret now spending time with your girls.
So I thank God every day for the opportunity that
he gave me of at least enjoying my.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Daughters their first year. I've been there.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Mammy has to go back to work, Mammy's going to
be traveling again, Mammy is not going to.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Be home fatal the first year of my daughter's lives.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
I've been here as much as possible to, you know,
teach him how to eat, teach him how.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
To talk, how to walk. Like that journey. I didn't
want to lose that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I didn't want to miss out on that, and I'm
grateful that I've been able to be around.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Do you think, mom, that I am a good mother,
perfect anything? My whole suddenly? What do you be honest
at that?
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (17:41):
See, okay, good be honest because.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
If I need to be better, that's another thing. As
a new time, first time mom, sometimes we're not perfect.
We're not perfect and we need help. And if you
need help, it's okay to ask your mom ya wailita
to me, I don't know what I'm doing it dependly,
I don't know how to do is ask for help, Beto.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
I also want to know me and there's something I
could do better as a mother. I'm never gonna take
it personal. Teach me.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
So is there anything you think that I need to picture?
You think I'm doing good? So far perfect, and then
it takes us attle lot, please the way and.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
That means a lot to me. I'm so grateful for
your words. I know that we've had this conversation in
the past about me having more children. Do you think
that I would be prepared at this moment in life
to have more children?
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Do you foresee me having more children? Or you think
that my girls will be it? To get get to
the fam really whole daycare center, Grey, I thought.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
I mean, I mean, you know a lot of people
have questioned me on the reasons why and how I
decided to be a single mother. I don't think it
was so much of a decision. I think I didn't
have much of an option, much of a choice. Because
if you have your child and your significant other, you
guys break up, divorced, separate, or no longer wants to
(19:49):
be part of your life, or you know, in many occasions,
when the male separates from the mother, they kind of
divorced the children as well. It's like says you and
not together, will that you take care of that, and
then they just leave and you have no other option
but to continue to raise your children. So when I
said I'm a single mother by toys or whatever, is
(20:11):
because I guess I wasn't being one hundred percent honest
because I didn't happen to the choice right.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I'm not going to abandon my children.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I would never leave my children, and it is my
duty as a mother to always protect my children, and
I will always do that.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
They will always be my priority.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
But I come from a single mother household as well,
and I feel very guilty for a long time because
I felt like I was repeating the pattern, not because
I wanted to, when life just made it that way.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
And I feel guilty for.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
It because I wanted to have a beautiful household with
a mother and a father for my children, and I
didn't get the opportunity of doing that I would have
done anything to fix it.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Some things are unfixable and some things you just can't do.
So in her case, they see things.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
In a moment man no poquet, no corpa, no not all.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Corona, marimon establis, katerically a lot of correct a convert
to colinoo, the polar presents and.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Secan solo No, I see I located poken that could
you see that?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Go do as my face was this and when you
see your majesty in your highness. I know that people
automatically expect them to be artists or to be in
the energinment industry because I've exposed them to that industry.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
But what would you like to see your granddaughters become
Manana and cork a man Jose professional? I love it,
(22:38):
but but you know what I mean. Honestly, thank you
so much for being on exactly amount of today.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Thank you for being an amazing mother, for being my
support system, for being my mom, my sister, my doctor,
my nurse, by everything I am. I am so grateful
to have such an amazing example of a mother of
a woman in my life. And obviously now as a grandmother,
you're doing such a great job with my girls, with
your babies, last World twins, and I just wanted to
(23:10):
have a moment where I could celebrate your publicly because
I always want publicly for people to know how much
I love you.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
I always want to give you your flowers.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
I don't want to wait till it's too late, because
God's timing, you know, is always perfect, but we just
never know. And if you're out there listening, you know,
if you have your mother, your grandmother, dot Wallia, whoever
it is that raised you, take this opportunity to say
thank you, to show them love, to give them their flowers,
because they're here today and you don't know about tomorrow.
It takes a village, it takes a lot of people
(23:39):
to really raise a person. But if there is a
person alone that does it, they deserve even more credit.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
And here's something you could take home with you. Love
and embraise your mother.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
It doesn't matter what she's been through, it doesn't matter
what she did regardless, she brought you into this world.
And if someone else is raising you and is raising
you or has raised you, or even it is still
continuing to be a support system for you, be grateful
for them, show them that you care, show them that
you love them. It could be the smartest little thing
just to show gratitude because now as a mother that
(24:11):
I'm going through the process of raising two children, it
is a sacrifice. You sacrifice your time, your life, your body,
your mental health, your everything, trying to be the best
that you can for someone else.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Mammy, I love you so much.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
I know if you guys want to follow and see
my mom, you can go see her app mamy Ana
la mama one on her Instagram accounts and you can
go follow her.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
She'd be thinking, she things, Anie, who will go follow me?
Speaker 3 (24:38):
At AMaGA aln a'm alen And thank you so much
once again for being part of Exactly A'mada.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
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Welcome, guys, Welcome to your show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I am a girl, I'm not at Anega, and you're
listening to Exactly I'm at a production of iHeart as Usual.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Thank you for tuning in, and don't forget to give
us those five stars.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast platform and
head over to our YouTube channel.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Where you will be able to watch or.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Listen to the podcast by searching exactly Amada, or just
go check me out and write I'm not at Anega
on the search bar. This week's episode is really it's
really gonna be fun and important. Uh, It's gonna be
important to me because I always like to bring you
into my rold, into my life, be as honest and
as open as possible. And we're gonna be talking a
(00:42):
little bit about a special day that should be celebrated
every day, which is Mother's Day. Betty ye as madst
for all the mothers out there listening, for.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
The mothers, the future mothers, the ones that are expecting,
the ones who have adopted, the ones who have puppies
and cats and animals, and are you know whatever it
is if you are nurturing soul and you're out here
being the best mother.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
You can be or plan on being a mother. Happy
Mother's Days to you.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Mother's Days doesn't necessarily have to be about you know,
your biological mother.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
I know amazing grandmothers.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
There are great mothers and aunts who are great you
know moms, and and.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
There's so many people out here raising these children and
being uh, you know, being an.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Amazing nurture that I feel is important to celebrate those
people doing that job as well. Let's celebrate the day together.
And I wouldn't be able to do this without. And
I'm older than maybe either the person who raised me
and has been my support system since day one, the
person who created me, who is my mother. And now
(01:52):
Tambing is abuda with you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Today we have mommy and my mom.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
Hi, Mom, Hi, telling the prama the exactly madre intu
gas Mammy is to Premier, I'm your office. You know
a girl canky Yeah, Losentinos, we feel it now officially
(02:19):
that you are a grandmother. Means when Premiers so exactly
came theself to Mather.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
I know that's right. Hey, the.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Congos dire for losses mia a two ways I'll want
to see me to the Negas condo.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Okay, getting dad, get didn't when when you see my babies?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Okay, for example, sum his dad, what do you see
in her that you saw in me when I was little?
Speaker 1 (03:11):
So pick up? Yes, okay, it's very artistic.
Speaker 3 (03:19):
And okay a your highness you Hynes Soesa.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Hey, come one, yes for sure.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
And you know, but me, I really enjoy seeing you
as a mother as well obviously as my mother, but
I enjoy seeing you as another version of a mother
for my daughters.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
You know, you're a grandmother, but I see you reliving
a lot of experiences.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Then do you feel and now you will have a
second opportunity to do things right?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (04:16):
Then a couple so yeah, so you feel that my
(04:42):
daughters give you life like the babies give you life.
They make you want to live. So I love that,
I really do. And that's such a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
I think that sometimes as new you know, new mom's,
first time moms, we're so caught up and like not
knowing what we're doing, being excited as a mom, but
still trying to figure things out. The don't realize how
us bringing new life into the family really does give
life to the family overall, especially our mothers our grandmothers.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
And the fathers too, you know, new life.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Just learning how to raise a child and and showing
them how to talk, how to walk, how to eat,
just the process of it all.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
It really does give life to the whole family out.
Is there any advice that you can pass down to me?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Then, Madre.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Is me primer avese and sindo mare.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
What advice can you give me? Why?
Speaker 3 (05:52):
No?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I see say yo to create yes, right the vaara
and when they yes they were they yes.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
La comnicas for lamentaaaaa.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Okay, different the animals to sell the converts I alg.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I comedic commo madri comira. Is there anything that you
regret that you did as a mother that you wouldn't
want me to to do?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
But satam you know you know complete genaro ruse at peto, Madre,
no order notata dio to puberta.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It's a primara teenager for this lot.
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Cose know josalian pet so the road. Okay, there's something
that you did that you're like, you know what now now.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Okay, I know no.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Man, that's okay, No locme we make cri and Jeff
okay or to say form our.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yeah, yes, borno.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Okay, which, by the way, I feel that there's many
things ka I never thought, Hey, I would do as
a mother. I come and then I feel how I know,
I see how I'm copying a lot of the things
(08:29):
that you.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You know, how you raised me. You were very strong
with me when I was growing up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
You're very tough on me, which I'm grateful because it
taught me to be responsible, is be as it made
me into a professional.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
I'm grateful for all those things. That's my professionality. As
maybe I might have like.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
These high expectations of what I expect them to be,
and I have to understand that they are going to
be whoever they're going to be in their time. They're
gonna pursue whatever it is that they want to be.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
How did you deal with knowing? In your case?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
Because you and I have different experiences that I wanted
to be an artist, that I wanted to be payments,
that I want to do all these great things, and
financially you couldn't afford it.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Cours what sort of k S A NBA. That's that? Okay, Ken,
(10:01):
I go talk to like, ok.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
So, so compact Kenny through Now how about this, let's
(10:35):
get let's get to it. This is a broo cue conversation,
but to stop playing because when I was growing up,
you used that.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
I don't use the word beats. I think the American
version of that would be spank, and you used to spank.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
The hell out of me.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
But I know that that's a cultural thing and it
all whatever she could find, she would throw it at me.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
And I feel that the kids.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
From our generation somewhere, how about the generation before us,
they respected, you know, their elderly and their parents more
than this generation.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Do you still believe in the spanking.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
One the younsada alos alos majores mask.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
They all? Should I use other methods? Or do you
still believe in the spanking? And pen yr como? Okay?
Speaker 3 (11:50):
And this.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
K greg die young moment you appears, okay, girl, you
(12:17):
lying another girl?
Speaker 3 (12:20):
You didn't you never spend but you know you got
that belt, that chant, that hangar, that wire, whatever, you
have a plan.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
You know you spank the hell out of me.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
But I think that it's not just about the spanking,
because there's a differently between spanking and abuse discipline. I
think is important showing your children to respect you as
a parent, to understand the sacrifices that you do for
them as a parent, that everything that you're doing, you're
disciplining them because you mean well for them, because you
try to protect them, because you can't just raise them
(12:49):
to be wild. I do understand there's other methods like
stand in the corner, take away certain toys. I think
that we've learned throughout, you know, time, there's other ways
of doing it. But I know, other than the Latino household,
that is very common. So I really wanted to know
because in many occasions my mom would be like, you
better not.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Put your hands on the baby. And but you didn't
know me anyways. But I mean simple pensel get.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
And doesn't just look at the part it's part the
THEO and they kind of come out selling.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
I don't know, that's just me be don't is the
positive person?
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Savad do incurgass and mean, so, how do you raise
your daughter specifically or your children a row to have
that that friendly bond, that relationship with their mother where
they can feel comfortable enough to be honest with you
and tell you everything that's going in there in their
(14:08):
life without feeling necessarily, you know, judge, or feeling like
I can't come to my mother to my father to
tell them what's happening in my life. You know the
passic you got you you see your considerata.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
And because not casa no no I like yay.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No problema, the local vedia alamo and pante no so
(15:10):
primri terno it was so it's a it's a part, okay,
so Loyer, and.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
I am curious to.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Know what are your honest thoughts on me becoming a mother,
says a Quales son.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
To spend some mien pos okay baillo Marri.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
Chris is in my momentum Chris and Chris there vero
mask Chris ka very cholantes.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
No look look some perfect in castle to you called
take thee and didn't do something. And Mom, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Which is closet sipan Samoa Lesa.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
And me via the see the thousand and one after
I had my daughters.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Altra foulsa, there was another break in my career where
I feel that God gave me the opportunity and was
kind of blessing me with allowing me to enjoy my daughters.
You know, God was more like, I'm gonna give you
a different type of momentum that right now, life is
gonna go a little bit slower for you so that
you can enjoy being a mother, enjoy getting to know
your daughter, spending time with them, because life will go
(16:55):
back into you know, work, work, work, work, work, work, work,
and you're gonna regret now spending time with your girls.
So I thank God every day for the opportunity that
he gave me of at least enjoying my.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
Daughters their first year. I've been there.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Mammy has to go back to work, Mammy's going to
be traveling again, Mammy is not going to.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Be home fatal the first year of my daughter's lives.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
I've been here as much as possible to, you know,
teach him how to eat, teach him how.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
To talk, how to walk. Like that journey. I didn't
want to lose that.
Speaker 3 (17:27):
I didn't want to miss out on that, and I'm
grateful that I've been able to be around.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Do you think, mom, that I am a good mother,
perfect anything? My whole suddenly? What do you be honest
at that?
Speaker 3 (17:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (17:41):
See, okay, good be honest because.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
If I need to be better, that's another thing. As
a new time, first time mom, sometimes we're not perfect.
We're not perfect and we need help. And if you
need help, it's okay to ask your mom ya wailita
to me, I don't know what I'm doing it dependly,
I don't know how to do is ask for help, Beto.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
I also want to know me and there's something I
could do better as a mother. I'm never gonna take
it personal. Teach me.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
So is there anything you think that I need to picture?
You think I'm doing good? So far perfect, and then
it takes us attle lot, please the way and.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
That means a lot to me. I'm so grateful for
your words. I know that we've had this conversation in
the past about me having more children. Do you think
that I would be prepared at this moment in life
to have more children?
Speaker 1 (18:47):
Do you foresee me having more children? Or you think
that my girls will be it? To get get to
the fam really whole daycare center, Grey, I thought.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
I mean, I mean, you know a lot of people
have questioned me on the reasons why and how I
decided to be a single mother. I don't think it
was so much of a decision. I think I didn't
have much of an option, much of a choice. Because
if you have your child and your significant other, you
guys break up, divorced, separate, or no longer wants to
(19:49):
be part of your life, or you know, in many occasions,
when the male separates from the mother, they kind of
divorced the children as well. It's like says you and
not together, will that you take care of that, and
then they just leave and you have no other option
but to continue to raise your children. So when I
said I'm a single mother by toys or whatever, is
(20:11):
because I guess I wasn't being one hundred percent honest
because I didn't happen to the choice right.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
I'm not going to abandon my children.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I would never leave my children, and it is my
duty as a mother to always protect my children, and
I will always do that.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
They will always be my priority.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
But I come from a single mother household as well,
and I feel very guilty for a long time because
I felt like I was repeating the pattern, not because
I wanted to, when life just made it that way.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
And I feel guilty for.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
It because I wanted to have a beautiful household with
a mother and a father for my children, and I
didn't get the opportunity of doing that I would have
done anything to fix it.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Some things are unfixable and some things you just can't do.
So in her case, they see things.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
In a moment man no poquet, no corpa, no not all.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Corona, marimon establis, katerically a lot of correct a convert
to colinoo, the polar presents and.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Secan solo No, I see I located poken that could
you see that?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Go do as my face was this and when you
see your majesty in your highness. I know that people
automatically expect them to be artists or to be in
the energinment industry because I've exposed them to that industry.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
But what would you like to see your granddaughters become
Manana and cork a man Jose professional? I love it,
(22:38):
but but you know what I mean. Honestly, thank you
so much for being on exactly amount of today.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Thank you for being an amazing mother, for being my
support system, for being my mom, my sister, my doctor,
my nurse, by everything I am. I am so grateful
to have such an amazing example of a mother of
a woman in my life. And obviously now as a grandmother,
you're doing such a great job with my girls, with
your babies, last World twins, and I just wanted to
(23:10):
have a moment where I could celebrate your publicly because
I always want publicly for people to know how much
I love you.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
I always want to give you your flowers.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
I don't want to wait till it's too late, because
God's timing, you know, is always perfect, but we just
never know. And if you're out there listening, you know,
if you have your mother, your grandmother, dot Wallia, whoever
it is that raised you, take this opportunity to say
thank you, to show them love, to give them their flowers,
because they're here today and you don't know about tomorrow.
It takes a village, it takes a lot of people
(23:39):
to really raise a person. But if there is a
person alone that does it, they deserve even more credit.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
And here's something you could take home with you. Love
and embraise your mother.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
It doesn't matter what she's been through, it doesn't matter
what she did regardless, she brought you into this world.
And if someone else is raising you and is raising
you or has raised you, or even it is still
continuing to be a support system for you, be grateful
for them, show them that you care, show them that
you love them. It could be the smartest little thing
just to show gratitude because now as a mother that
(24:11):
I'm going through the process of raising two children, it
is a sacrifice. You sacrifice your time, your life, your body,
your mental health, your everything, trying to be the best
that you can for someone else.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Mammy, I love you so much.
Speaker 3 (24:26):
I know if you guys want to follow and see
my mom, you can go see her app mamy Ana
la mama one on her Instagram accounts and you can
go follow her.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
She'd be thinking, she things, Anie, who will go follow me?
Speaker 3 (24:38):
At AMaGA aln a'm alen And thank you so much
once again for being part of Exactly A'mada.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Make sure to find be on the YouTube channel I
have to do.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Who's Good to a search bar and write Amada or
exactly Amada for more episodes.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
And you guys already know that this has been a
production of Ihearts micro through that podcast network.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
For more podcasts from iHeart, visit the iHeart Radio app,
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Speaker 1 (25:07):
This is your girl, Mama Nigra. Thank you for listening
to Exactly i'm Ada. I'm happy mother s been it
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