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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome, Welcome, guys, Dia Amada and you're listening to Exactly Amada,
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
We say yo me dah. It's just so much drama
happening right now.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Between taking care of my girls, I'm doing my podcast,
working on my real estate, trying to be the best
mother I can be, trying to be the best daughter
I can be.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I mean, and every day I'm trying to come up
with a new project.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Now I want to do like a salon or a
restaurant or I don't know why am I such a hustler?
Is that like a Latino thing that you can't just
have one job. You always feel the need to have
several things going on in your life.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
I don't know. Maybe I need to slow down.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
But you know who can help me balance out my
mind is my friend, my co host sometimes producer. He
puts up with all my nonsense.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Alex is in the house.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I want to say, I put up with your nonsense.
I mean, I'm here and I love it.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I thank you. I know this. Sometimes I can be
a lot. Sometimes I'm you.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Know, say yo, I get upset, I get angry, I'm happy,
I be depressed, I'm excited, I be all over the place.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Sometimes you don't think so.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
You wouldn't be exactly a matter if you weren't.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Oooh yeah, love the answer, and you know what, talking
about my craziness in life. I need to zen my
ass down somewhere. I need to have the energy that
our guest has because even though she's the party and
her energy is so flowy and just good vibes, and
she always has the best advice, and I just love
how she just handles life. I need more friends like
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her that can zend me down and be like a Mada.
You might be going too fast, or you might just
be having too much coffee, Alex hol do we have today?
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Today's special guest is Clear Fountain. She's joining the conversation.
She is a multi talented psychotherapist, yoga instructor, and writer
who brings a unique an honest approach to health and
well being. With years of experience teaching yoga and working
with top athletes, musicians, and major brands. Player's an expert
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in the intersection of well being. Oh, I'm trauma healing,
somatic healing and self worth as a human right, ladies
and gentlemen. As I mentioned before, Claire Founday, I.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Am so happy to have you on my podcast exactly.
I'm ada because usually my podcast is.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Super you know, late and hype and this and that,
and I always do think it's important to have moments
where we don't necessarily need to be talking about sex
and the you know, raunchy, naughty way, but more.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
In an educational aspect.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And I know that you and I had an opportunity
of meeting and working together at one point. We reconnected
because God's tending is so perfect. We reconnected at the
cheesecake factory.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
We did.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
We had some great, great conversations. We had a little
cotail here and there. And I invited to to my
podcast because I just think that you have so much
to offer. Tell me about being a yoga instructor, first
of all, because I definitely need some of that.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
Yeah, yoga started a really long time ago. I started
doing yoga when I was in high school because of
depression and anxiety. And I had an aunt from California
and I just she told me about yoga and I
thought this could maybe help me feel better. And the
things I learned in the relationship with my body and
the amount of feeling I was able to do through
this practice was a bit life changing. And then in
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two thousand and nine I started actually teaching, and there
I say, the rest is history. But it's been something
that I practiced, like on the map, but also off
the mat.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Had you always been this chill, this zen, this relax
about life or do you think you went through a
stage in life or did anything impactful happen that made
you transition into you know what?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
I just need this this evolution.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
I think I was always really a pensive and thoughtful,
but I had a lot of anxiety when I was younger,
so much anxiety, ruminating thoughts, fixation on body. Just couldn't
calm down. And then once I got more into the practice,
I just knew there was another way. I know there
was another way to live.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Your work right now already does focus a lot on
the intersection of well being, trauma, healing, self worth and
all these other things. Can you tell us more about
how you bring these elements together in together for your clients?
Speaker 4 (04:24):
Yeah, I don't think we can really separate it. For
a long time, I was thinking, well, maybe I do
this one thing, or maybe I do that one thing,
And then I realized it's all connected. Right. We can't
separate our mind and our body and our spirit, and
we can't separate the environments that we're in. We can't
separate the things happening around us. So I take a
very holistic approach, and I think we're all a sum
of many stories, and we have to look at all
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our stories as a way to possibly feel better or
more so, get better at ceiling.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
You'll get us some achievement. I want to know the gossip,
I forget about that.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Listen.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
And I know that you've worked with ath leads, with Ladis,
with all these people you know say in power they
got all that stuff. Can you tell me, like, what
is their trauma looking like? What is you know like
do you find that they have similar things in common?
Speaker 2 (05:11):
Is healing a little bit.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
More difficult for these people because they are in the
spotlight or a lot of people expect a lot out
of them. How do you help them, specifically those that
are in the spotlight consistently, how do you help them
heal from these traumas that they've had in their past.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Yeah, I mean this adds another layer, right, any public
facing persona and like, can you mail this? There's a
lot of expectation. There's a lot of people projecting, and
the Internet has given everyone a space to say whatever
they want about whatever they want. Yeah, And it's like,
I think it can be really dehumanizing. They don't think
you're a real person, they don't think you have feelings,
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and that can weigh on people. And I know there's
also this voice of well, you chose this profession, and
it's not that simple because that means to say, well,
you don't get to have feelings because you chose this.
That's not fair. That's not fair. And I realize, like
humans are humans, right, We have feelings, and our feelings
can get hurt, and when people say nasty things about us,
it's hard to just let it bounce off, you know.
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And so it's great, I work a lot. It's how
can we process that and separate, you know, truth from fiction?
How can we stand in our truth?
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Well, no, do me a therapy right now, because let
me tell you something about me.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Girl? Let me tell you what the people have said
that I had heard because it's the truth. But it
really ain't the truth, but the people it's making it
see I it's the truth.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
There's so obviously you know that me being.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
In the public eye reality TV, a lot of people
believe one hundred percent of the things that they see.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
In many occasions, they forget that this is a reality show,
pint pint.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Some things are blown out of proportion, and by the
time something really happens, by the time they hear it
out of the tenth person, the story has already changed.
And in many occasions, my feelings do get hurt. And
I know that I am in the public guy, and
I'm supposed to just suck it up and.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Act like it's all good.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
But how am I supposed to deal with the commons
of society being judged, rumors created on you.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Know about me? How do I deal with this in
a way.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
That it doesn't affect me personally? And I still have
to deal with it because it's part of my job,
is part of what I do for a living.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Yeah, that's so true, And that's so honest that your work,
it does. It really kind of stings sometimes, I've sound
Usually the stuff that stings the most is attached to
deeper stuff that's happened to us, right, So if it's
someone could say something that just doesn't affect us, right
like nah this and that and know, yeah, we'll bounce
it off not really real. But the stuff that maybe
touches at our worthiness, our lovability, our physical appearance. I
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feel like that we've got our worried about that. Media
loves to go in about how we look or how
our body was shaped, or who we loved or who
we weren't block with. So a lot of it is
really thinking about what's the core, like when did this happen?
And it may have been long before this profession.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I've realized as an only child, this is an only
child's syndrome. And if you're out here listening, I know
that you've been through this. I've realized that it works
for me when I go to my bathroom, when I'm
in the shower, I cry, I talk to myself, I
give myself advice. Sometimes I give myself words of encouragement.
Sometimes you got to do that, whether you look at
yourself in the mirror, whether you go into that shower
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and you cry a little bit and get it out
of your system, because sometimes you hold in so much information,
so much feelings and emotions inside.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
You don't have anybody to talk to.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
You feel like everybody's going to judge you. You may
not know exactly how to go about it, and you
need to get it out of your system. If not,
there comes these occasions where people become super angry. There
they're you know, extremely frustrated. And I give myself affirmations
all the time. You are a Babbage, You're smart. I'm
so proud of you. You've come such a long way.
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Like I look at all the things compass. Sometimes you
need to be able to be your own hype person
when nobody is doing it for you. And I think
that this conversation is important because a lot of people
feel so lonely these days. Everybody's so caught up in
their own world, and everybody has so many traumas and
things that they're going through that they have no one
to communicate with honestly, if they find a professional like yourself.
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But when you don't have that, what are some things
that you can do to help yourself heal. I know
that yoga is one of those ways. I know that
physical activity, whether it is that you like pilate is
dy like running day, Like, what are some of the
things that you recommend.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
I think you've had great examples, Like I would say
the same thing. It gets stuck in your body. We
get angry, we snap on people, we get sick, we
wonder why our bodies ache. The body will speak in
so many ways and so we've got to get that
stuff out. And you're right, I think taking a shower
that can be a massive redset. I'm going to cleanse
what's happening. I'm going to talk to myself. Having a
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conversation with yourself is great. I mean, having trusted friend's
family walk once is also wonderful. Leaning into community it's great,
But like you said, sometimes that doesn't feel so safe.
Having informations, keeping a journal, just hyping yourself up, having
a conversation. What would younger you want to hear? How
would you talk to younger you? How would you talk
to someone you love and then talk to yourself? That
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way that reset can change a walk.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
I like what you said about about the showering part,
because that is soothing. Another thing is like I'm the
type of person who like I'm up till super late,
But that's just because of my own trauma with a
PTS and everything, Like, I can't sleep at night, so
that is one thing I do, Like I'm about two
thirty three o'clock in the morning, go take a shower,
and it just like calms me down and just it's
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time for bed.
Speaker 4 (10:48):
It can be totally rounding exercise too.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
You know, having issues with your sleep does affect your system,
your nervous system, in many different ways, and that also
can create a lot of things. I'm one of those
people that have issues, especially now with my daughters that
are up you know, inconsistently and and now like sometimes
that wake up being angry for no reason but nothing
has even happened, and that's just the sleep deprivation, huh.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Does does affect a lot. So by the way, talking
about showers, you know that I gotta be exactly myself.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Sometimes you might not even just have to, like, you know,
masturbate sometimes, especially for men, in many occasions, if you
just think, like do what you gotta do, boom, you
feel more happy when you get out of there, life
seems to be better.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Sometimes not just about crying.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Sometimes it's just about getting whatever it is out of
your body, out of your system, and those are the
things that nobody wants to talk about. But I do
think that it's the truth and it's important. And I
want to ask you, Claire, as a sex positive, sexuality
gender kinky, affirmative and body liberational, you know, a counselor,
you have a very unique perspective on the importance of
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body image and sexual trauma. Can you speak a little
bit about ways in which these issues impact the mental
and physical health and.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
How do you navigate that with your clients.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Well, it's like everything, I mean, every story is different, right,
No two people have the same experience exactly in the
same history, or the same environment, or the same cultural
idea of body and sect and all these pieces. But
the impact is like a ripple effect, right. But I
think not just about healing, but also about having pleasure,
being able to feel good in our bodies and whole
in our bodies and not shaming or pathologizing anything like that.
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I agree. I think masturbation and a connection with one's
own body is an amazing stress reduction. It's also a
way to connect back to self. And like you were saying,
who's going to love me more than me? What's one
of the most loving. Things we can do is find
a way that we can feel safe and empowered in
our bodies, especially if that has been taken from us.
I mean, I know women as actually before, our bodies
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are not our own. They go onto everyone but us.
And so it's a really big moment to say all
these things might have happened in society, things in our
environments have happened. But I can take my body back.
I can be the leader and the driver's seat of
my body and things.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
And who knows you more than you?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
You know, I definitely know me. I can do me
in five seconds. And that's what I love about me.
I've taken enough time forget to know.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Oh Jesus, Oh Jesus.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
No, that's grateful. I think it's wonderful.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
What are some boundaries that you know, our listeners are people,
oh raw can put in order to conserve their their peace.
What are those boundaries that you consider people should implement.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
Yeah, I mean boundaries are for us. They're not about
the other person. It's not you won't do this, it's
I won't. I'm not going to tolerate this or I
don't go in these spaces. So boundaries will protect us.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Yeah, and so really it's.
Speaker 4 (13:49):
Anything like we can give something a silent blessing and
be like, you know what, this isn't going to work,
and then we can move along. So I think boundaries
are a really good way to just again, like you said,
you get to a place where you're like, I've seen
what I needed to see. The lenses are cleared, and
I don't want this type of energy around them.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
I've always wondered when you are a therapist, a counselor
when when whenever you're helping, whenever you're that soul that
you know that I feel that God has selected to
give you that power of being able to be that
healing heart for other people? How do you deal with
all that pressure? And I don't want to say negativity,
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but when you're that person, it's like an attorney. An
attorney wakes up knowing that you got to deal with
everybody's shit. You got to deal with everybody's problems the
same way that a doctor does. A doctor has to
heal with everybody's illness. How do you how do you
yourself as a person not overwhelm yourself with everybody's issues
because you have to be healing, you know, for them.
Speaker 4 (14:51):
Yeah, it's like I've done so much of my own work,
right It's like training. It's like when you train for
a sport and we think, oh my god, I could
never run as much a soccer player's run. Well, they
train for it. Does that make sen I trained for
this work. I take a lot of care of myself.
I do a lot of practices. It's like, my shoulders
are strong right to hold this and to be able
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to hold a space for people. And it's like, have
I not seen some of the darkness of life? I
don't know if I could do this. So it's like
because of my life experiences, because of things I've been through, it,
I can hold more. And that feels good. It feels like,
let me do this. And then if I ever need
to take a moment and take a break because I
can't hold as much space, I do that.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
You know.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
That's like an offering more. I'm like, hey, I can't
hold as much right now. But yeah, it's just a
lot of care, a lot of care and keeping of self.
And I also don't see it all as negative. It's
more like the human experience.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
When you think of the word human rights, what does
that mean to you?
Speaker 2 (15:46):
The human rights.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
Oh, kind of my idea, but like everybody has a
right to wellness. But it's also looking at like systemic
issues and environments that don't serve everyone.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
With the way things are going in the world right now, fundamentally,
people need mental health, people need closure, people need some
type of boundaries where they can attach themselves to like
minded people to help each other out. That is a
human right, you know, to be able to take care
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of each other without judgment man, because right now the
world seems to be always wanting to judge you for
every single thing that you try to do to help
yourself out. It's hard.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
It's hard.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
Well, we all want dignity, we all want safety, we
all want to feel connected and like we have a
sense of belonging and we all deserve we should all
be able to access that and to feel our most
optimal selves. And again, optimal self is really subjective. What's
optimal for you? What's optimize else? But you get to
define that, and that I think is.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Like we all I just think that when we talk
about human rights, in my eyes, there's just two versions
of it. It's like what we deserve, what we are
supposed to have, just in nature and then here comes
the government. We are failing each other and I think
that in many occasions, nobody wants to talk about it.
That's why I love this podcast because we talk about
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the things that we may all think but don't want
to talk about.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
How can we heal?
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Because if we heal, we pass that energy onto someone else.
Or even just watching you become a better human being
makes me reflect on the fact that I need to
do better with my life and myself. You know, I
think that's super important. And like I said, nobody wants
to talk about it. But I just feel like we're
feeling each other as humans right now.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
And that's why you have Claire, and that's why you
have her, you know, speaking the good word and helping
so many people out because someone like her has taken
the a chance on helping others.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
And talking about, you know, helping and changing others. Claire
has a really big following on social media. How do
you use your platform or social media to help those
that are following you.
Speaker 4 (18:07):
To some extent? I feel like a professional helper, like
a help we need a resource finess. I got you.
You want to talk about a subject matter that you
don't hear somebody talking about I got you, let me
talk about it. Just a way to share resources, a
way to bring people together, a way to connect people.
Because I think we were talking about like humanity has
been a bit lost, and I would agree, but there
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is a lot of strength and like minded, loving people
coming together, and we can always move in a way
of compassion. You know, we can stand up COVID to
right and still move in compassion. And I think we've
got each other right. Well, people come together, there can
be a lot of healing and a lot of powerful movement.
Even with all the crazy, big money people happening, we
can still have a lot of power within people.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
So here it comes this because I really want to
know what is next for you. You know, what projects
are you currently working on, and what are your goals
for the future in terms of promoting wellness and mental health.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
Long term, I'd love to have a holistic platform where
everything lives in one place and you can get resources,
you can get connections to people, to networks the things
you want to learn about. Again, it's like moving the
power back to the people kind of aspect. But right
now I'm working on a sexual assault survivor's workbook, which
will be a little sprinkle of memoir, but also a
work book where people can work with their own pace,
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they can have a better connection with their body, with themselves,
moving through trauma, healing all these pieces, and then maybe
a podcast, but we'll see. And cocktails are going to
have more cocktails. That's what we're going to do.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Yes, they definitely have some more cocktails. But I am
so grateful that you know, you gave some great pointers
and I'm grateful that you came on exactly, Amada. If
there's anybody out there that hasn't been able to have
the opportunity of funding on social media, they would like
to talk to you. They need some counseling, they need
some heating, that need some of your energy. Where can
they find you?
Speaker 4 (19:56):
You can find me on the internet at CB quality
or look up Claire Fountain and you can hit me uf.
I'm always there.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
You know what, You always need a friend, You always
need a support system. And if there's anything you could
take home with you today is never feel like you're
crazy for wanting help. Never feel like you know. There's
always going to be out there the world is judging you.
There's always somebody out there that's willing to listen, that's
willing to be your friend, that's willing to support, that's
willing to give you great advice, that's willing to share
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their story with you. Because you trust me, You're not
the only one. There's so many people out there. I
feel the same way that you do that have gone
through the same traumas that you have, and everybody has,
you know, a different timing. It's some things just take
time to heal, to grow out of, to process to overcome.
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Don't feel that it is impossible for you to go
back to being how you were, or whatever the case
may be.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
There is somebody out there.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
We have amazing people like Claire who dedicate their lives
into helping other people and becoming that light for others.
I am so grateful that you came on the show today, Claire.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
Thank you so much. You're so amazing.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
I am always so happy to have amazing women on
exactly amount of Alex. You are just as beautiful. You
have a beautiful soul, and I'm grateful that you were
part of exactly I wanted today as well.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Please feel free to hit me up on my Instagram.
So a lot of them my dms and.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
What can I say? I feel so zen, I feel
so at peace. I think it's clear that she just
passes that energy onto me. This has been a production
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