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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
La is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and she's getting ghosted by Dante. So we're
gonna see if we can get him on the phone
in just a few minutes, ask him why he's ghosting her,
and maybe get her another date if she still wants one.
But first, Lola, how long has it been since your
date with Dante?
Speaker 3 (00:21):
It was like a week and a half, almost two
weeks ago. We met at this at this bar close
to where I were. It was happy hour.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I mean, have you tried to get a hold of
him in that time? Where have you texted him since
your date?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Yes, I've texted him a couple of times and literally
no response. Like the first time, he was like, hey,
I'm busy, I'll hit you up in a little bit.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
Then never heard anything.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I waited, you know, a couple of days, and then
I tried again and nothing. And then I tried once
more last night and still nothing, And that's I called off.
Speaker 5 (01:01):
What is it about him that makes you want to
talk to him so bad? Because don't you just kind
of want to be like we'll screw you then, Bro.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
I do like that's part of it now. But it's
like I'm I've been ghosted before.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
I've ghosted before, like I've just never I've always known why,
like you know what I mean, like where you can
look back and you're like, oh.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
It was probably this or it was probably that. Yeah,
Like this night, everything seemed to go so well. I
think that's part of it, is just like what did
I do?
Speaker 6 (01:31):
Like is it me?
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Is it him? I don't know if he's married, you know,
It's like I don't know what. I don't know what
the deal is. I just kind of it'd be nice
to talk to him again or see him again. But
more than anything, I just kind of want to know,
like what's up, Like why, because everything was so nice
that night.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Was that anything you can think of that could have
been an awkward moment or anything like that.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
No, Like we were we were at this bar and
like I've seen him before and drew my interest, but
I never approached or anything like that. And then I
was there for happy I with a couple of friends
after work, and he came over and started talking to us,
and then my other friends kind of like walked away
(02:16):
and it was just the two of us, and it's
this cool place. They have like board games and plants
and it's just a like chill vibe, you know.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
And so we played a couple of board games, played
played battleship. I haven't done that in like forever.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
It was it was really cool, and I was trying
to like just trying to see where he was, and
he like started he found my battleship and kept, you know, hitting, hitting,
and I was like, so are you hitting on me?
Speaker 7 (02:47):
And like.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
That like broke the tension and we both started laughing.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
And then that's when like we just started like really
talking and we were doing that question game you know
that started was like, oh, who's your favorite band? Then
things get you know, a little a little more intense.
It's like, uh, you ever run from the cops like
in college or whatever? Do you ever catch your parents?
Did your parents ever catch you? That kind of stuff.
Speaker 7 (03:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
The weirdest one was body count.
Speaker 5 (03:18):
Well, I asked that question.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
He asked.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
He asked at date, like not even a date really,
like we're just.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Chilling, right, and I guess that is a weird question
to ask on the first date. How many people you've
been with or whatever. But I could see it in
that moment, being like, you're playing a fun game, so
you don't I wouldn't even think about it. Then I
would say, I'm like, oh, probably like a crunchy question
to ask her.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
Okay, so then how did how did you react to that?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Well?
Speaker 4 (03:43):
I turned it back on him. I was like, well,
what's yours?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
And so then he answered, and I was like, okay,
what is this more than mine?
Speaker 4 (03:52):
And so I said it. I gave my honest body
count and.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It didn't seem like it was a big deal. We like,
you know, kept hanging out, kept drinking. He even you know,
he was like, hey, should we go somewhere else? I
was like, I was like, I've got to, you know,
it's got to work tomorrow. And I didn't want to leave,
but like I didn't want to. It was just such
a good night. I didn't want anything more to like
ruin that. So like we said our goodbyes and we
(04:19):
exchanged numbers and you know.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
And that was it.
Speaker 7 (04:23):
Yeah, well we'll try to figure it out for you.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
We'll play a song, come back and then call him
and see the answers and if you'll tell us why
he's ghosting you, and then maybe get you get you
another date if you still want one.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
Okay, absolutely, thank you guys.
Speaker 7 (04:35):
All right, play some come back, Get your first DA
follow up, Next.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
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Speaker 2 (04:44):
Law dot com if you're just joining us for today's
first Day follow up. Lola is on the phone, and
Lola is getting ghosted by a dude named Dante, and
she has no idea why. Maybe it's because she sunk
his battleship. Not sure, but we'll find out laterally before
we get him a call to see why he's ghosting you, Lolo,
why don't you kind of recap your day for everybody?
Speaker 3 (05:04):
We met a happy hour after work, hung out, play
played board games, battleship, had great conversations, played questions, game,
drank a little, say good night. You know, everything seemed
cool and then he's literally ghosted me.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
Are you ready to call him and ask him?
Speaker 4 (05:24):
I think so?
Speaker 7 (05:25):
All right, here we go. Hello, all right, I speak
to Dante. Please.
Speaker 6 (05:39):
Yeah, this is Dante.
Speaker 7 (05:40):
Dante, what's up? Man? How are you? My name is
Jewbell and I host the radio show. It's called The
Jewbel Show.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Hi, Dante, the show's here too. I'm Nina, Hi, and
I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6 (05:48):
Oh so this is a bunch of people.
Speaker 7 (05:50):
Yes, it is Dante.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
I'm doing I'm doing pretty swell. But uh, why are
you calling me?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
We're calling you because as we do a segment on
our show. I don't know if you've heard it before,
but it's called the first Day follow up. It's where
if you go out on a date with somebody and
then you end up ghosting them, that person can have
us call you and ask why you've been ghosting them.
So we got an email about you from somebody named Lola.
Speaker 6 (06:16):
Well, if I really want to talk about that one.
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Really, can you why? I mean, she said it was
a good time.
Speaker 6 (06:25):
I mean I had a general good time. Things were,
things were pretty good. But I could tell that she
really wasn't. She wasn't really like truthful to me.
Speaker 7 (06:34):
What does that mean?
Speaker 6 (06:36):
Well, what it means is when you ask someone a
direct question, they just kind of like you could tell,
they don't want to answer it, and then when they
finally do answer it, they don't tell you the truth.
Speaker 5 (06:45):
Okay, so backup what happened.
Speaker 6 (06:47):
So it's just my intuition.
Speaker 7 (06:49):
Okay, explain the situation you're talking about.
Speaker 6 (06:52):
Well, we're playing game, we're having a generally good date
playing games, and we're asking questions about each other. And
I just didn't feel like the answers I was getting
we're really what it was. So you know how it is,
once you finally kind of determine you don't want to
really be there anymore, you just kind of go with
it and things things stay on a good note, but
(07:13):
then once you're done, you're just done.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Kind of. I just feel like there was some mixed
messaging with the exchanges of numbers and stuff.
Speaker 6 (07:22):
Yeah. Well, let's put it this way. I was just asking,
and I started asking the questions, and I want to
know some things because it gives me a good gauge
on kind of person I want to be with. And
I asked her how many people she what was before?
Speaker 5 (07:36):
Does that question usually go over well for you?
Speaker 6 (07:38):
I mean, you can find pretty quickly whether or not
you want to continue something. Because I have my own
threshold for me. If I find that a girl has
more than me, then I don't necessarily want to be
with that girl.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Why I don't even know that it's about the number, Dante.
I just think the question is a little bit presmptuous.
I don't know if that's your business right away.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
Everyone has their own price already when they date. I
just find that to be one of mine. And when
and when she answered, I could tell she didn't want
to give me an answer. So then once I actually
got her to answer it, I think she just set
a number below mine. And it was very clear that
she wasn't really telling the truth.
Speaker 7 (08:18):
Okay, so you just think she was lying about it?
Speaker 6 (08:21):
Yeah, And I have a standard for dating that I
that I that I want. One of them is don't
be too obvious with your life, and the other is
don't sleep with more men than me.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
What about you and the more like women you sleep with,
you get degraded.
Speaker 6 (08:36):
I don't think it's the it's equated to the same thing.
Speaker 8 (08:41):
I did not have enough coffee for this, first of all, Dante,
I did not lie to you. Your question was out
of pocket, and I didn't want to answer because everything
was going so well and I didn't want to go
this direction because I worried about exist exactly, Dante.
Speaker 7 (09:02):
That's Lola. She's been on the list.
Speaker 6 (09:03):
Yeah, of course, of course, I've got to talk to
too now. Oh that's okay for you, and you finally
stop calling me.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
Yeah, the good news is you won't ever have to
talk to me again. What I did with my body
before I.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Mess you is none of your business, literally none.
Speaker 6 (09:22):
It is, though I think it is everyone's business when
someone's trying to start a relationship with somebody in general,
just when they're dating, when they're trying to start something,
they want to know the history of the person, history
of people matter.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Dictating the fact that I'm.
Speaker 3 (09:37):
A grown woman who's literally and I'll tell everybody I
don't care the fact that I'm a grown woman who's
literally slept with five men in my life that is
too much.
Speaker 6 (09:47):
Five That probably means ten, if not more, because women
just cut that those numbers and half because they know
they don't want it heard by everybody just.
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Makes up his own rules. Was going to date Dante?
He's a show? But the diary are you explaining everything
that's happened in their lives prior of saying Hi, nice
to meet you.
Speaker 6 (10:04):
Sorry. If only if it was like that, it'd be
so much easier days.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
And I'm sure I'm sure you believe that I'm sure
you do.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
This is like two different dudes, the guy I met
that night and this this guy, because I wouldn't I
wouldn't have wasted my time on this guy.
Speaker 6 (10:19):
Because I already made my mind up against you.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
All right, Well, well, I hope that all those women
that were part of your number. That's the part that
chirps me out, is like, you go ahead, you slept
with twice and more than twice as many people as
I had. If your number is even correct, If you've
got this formula, then that means that you probably use
it too.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (10:41):
I mean, if we're talking about dude math, don't they
cut it in half and like divide it or something
like that. So if you said fifteen, really we're talking
about like what forty five exactly?
Speaker 6 (10:52):
Actually whatever the dude says, it's usually half of that
because half of them are virgins. They never get sex.
It's so much hard for guys to actually get it,
so they're trying to portray macho more.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
So, this is interesting, very interesting guy, very interesting.
Speaker 6 (11:08):
Yeah, I know. Yeah, that's why I've already slept with
twenty women.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
Wow, this is a pride. And then we divide that vibe.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
No, I don't know, Dante. Would you like to go
on another day with Lola? Will pay for it?
Speaker 4 (11:22):
No?
Speaker 6 (11:23):
I don't think I do.
Speaker 5 (11:24):
Cool.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
Yeah, not only do I not want to go on
another day.
Speaker 3 (11:26):
I'm going to vend my youth for the drink you
bought me and I don't ever want to do again.
Speaker 6 (11:31):
Oh great, I get a refund. Nice.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
I wouldn't even bother though, Keep your money, girl.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Yeah, yeah, I'm just sorry.
Speaker 6 (11:37):
I think I think we're getting well.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
This battleship just got some.
Speaker 6 (11:42):
Oh yeah, yeah, you sung it when you suck what
Speaker 1 (11:53):
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