Are Kids Technology Crackheads?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,
and she couldn't.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
She cleaned and cared for her children and the man
of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.

Speaker 1 (00:09):
She was both obedient and soft by nature.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
She was a good woman who always made good choices.

Speaker 3 (00:17):
We're good mom's bad choices.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
Two single mom who said, but the patriarchy shared all
their bad choices and.

Speaker 5 (00:22):
Sound out they were so bad after all, we're experts.

Speaker 4 (00:24):
Overshares and your new besties.

Speaker 5 (00:26):
Sit back and enjoy the ride.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
I can do it.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Well.

Speaker 4 (00:32):
Welcome back to good Mom's bad Choices.

Speaker 1 (00:35):
I'm me and I'm Erica.

Speaker 4 (00:38):
And it's Wednesday, bitches, it's Wednesday.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
It's September.

Speaker 4 (00:43):
It's almost fall, and we're still here. We're still kicking.

Speaker 5 (00:49):
We're still here.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
We couldn't be and Mila, have we have You might
have not seen us in the studio in a while.

Speaker 5 (00:55):
Don't worry, we'll be there soon.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's just we're fighting for our lives, motherhood because school
has started, and this is what this is what happens
when you know. I just want to encourage the mom's
listening to parents listening, just like the come just to
come stop trying to fit a circle into a square.
Just give up a little bit, you know, giving up?

Speaker 3 (01:18):
What are we giving up?

Speaker 1 (01:19):
You know, like just go get the Chick fil a,
you know, just don't. You don't have to cook dinner
all week because it's week one or week three of
fucking like schooling. Like it's okay, you are good, mom,
and you don't have to prove it, Like we're done.
I'm done proving it. I've done. I've done trying to
like drive one hour to the studio when I know

(01:40):
my day is jam packed because I need to prove
that I am a business owner and I'm a podcaster
and I'm just no bitch. You're tired, So sit your
ass in your house, get on the zoom and record
the goddamn episode. I'm just in a season of make
your life easier. Stop trying to make it so fucking hard.

Speaker 4 (01:58):
I mean, yeah, why it's the point of making it
hard when it could just be easy. And like Lauren
Lauren Hill said, it's just don't, yeah, don't make things
more complicated.

Speaker 3 (02:09):
And I think that also applies to.

Speaker 4 (02:11):
Like your inner thoughts, Like sometimes your thoughts will come
and ruin your fuck up your day. And it's just
like you have to say, no, I'm not doing that.
I'm not going down that route. I'm not entertaining the
things that are going to overwhelm me and piss me off.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
I'm gonna go this other route, which is.

Speaker 4 (02:28):
La la la la la la la. I'm doing just fine.
I'm breathing, and I think we all kind of forget that.
If you're breathing, if you woke up this morning, you
have roof over your head, if you got some food,
what's really wrong with you? What's wrong other than that?
These are these are the core things that we need.
If you have love, you have family, you have shelter,

(02:48):
you have food, everything else will figure itself out. Just
stop trying to figure out everything in one time. It
just doesn't work that way. It never works that way.
So yeah, I'm going to succumb. I'm going to just
rest and not try to do and be everything at
one time and figure everything out. We have a friend
who is a Capricorn and she figures everything out at

(03:13):
the top level of all things, and I just realize, like,
I'm not her, and that's okay, But I can just
get I CA can just slow drip from her just
being around her. I think sometimes we have like people
in our circle that like you admire, but then they
also piss you the fuck off because they remind you
what you're not doing. But I'm like, I need a
friend like that to remind me you don't have to

(03:33):
be to that level. But also it's nice to know
that there's people who are capable, and we're all capable
of different things in different times.

Speaker 3 (03:41):
And that's okay, I'm.

Speaker 5 (03:44):
Playing the you know what.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
It's like you either there's women like that, but then
there's women like that also that do that me hello,
and like then you lose steam and you can't maintain.
So it's like you have to pay yourself right when
you're excited about something or like you're motivated about something,

(04:06):
like you can go balls to the wall and then
like halfway through your creation, you're fucking tapped out, like
you're exhausted. You you don't have any more ideas because
you put all of them on the table, like the
week week one, and like you don't like there's nothing
left to do, you know, Like so it's just it's

(04:26):
a slow burn, slow I'm letting. I'm letting this This
year of fifth grade which I can't believe my daughter's
in fifth grade. Today's her first day of school, and
it's just like slowburn slow burn. Also, like I said,
if like during the summertime, she has more responsibilities, Like

(04:47):
she literally has more responsibilities. I've been grooming her all
summer with responsibilities, cleaning, making her bed every morning. She's
starting to make her own dinners. Now, she's been making
dinner for herself all week. She set her own alarm,
like on her phone. Like, girl, you've got a phone
set that goddamn alarm, Like, use it for other reasons
besides roadblocks. Please. She woke her us up at five

(05:08):
point thirty this morning, woke me up, scare the shit
out of me, was standing over me in the bed.
Almost punched her because I was like, what the fuck?
And then she was like, mom, it's me.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
And you know, I'm like.

Speaker 5 (05:20):
Yeah, you do you do the adult take this season.

Speaker 1 (05:23):
You cook your goddamn meals, you wake yourself up for school.
This is what fifth grade is about, this is what
this season of motherhood is about. So I'm just letting
it happen. And also, this month has been a real
true act of like I just got to surrender because
I'm like really not in control. So I'm just like
counting my blessings and just doing what makes me feel

(05:48):
like my nervous system can be regulated, because for the
past few months it's been so up and down and
I'm I'm tired. I'm tired, but i have like a
lot of to be grateful for us, So I'm just like,
you know, just chill, chill out.

Speaker 4 (06:06):
I think it's time to bring back old school parenting,
which is like figure it out. I'm gonna show you
one time. I feel like the kids have become like
a little bit soft and nurtured, like overly nurtured, and
they kind of are like less responsible, and it's it's
like the norm, and I just don't agree with it.
And so it's like, yeah, fifth grade, ten years old,

(06:27):
Luna's almost eleven, like she started school. But I just yeah,
like be responsible, be independent, because our goal is that
we we hopefully prepare you for real life, and that's
just not realistic if we're doing everything fucking for you.
And in fact, you just reminded me I'm gonna I
got to text my baby daddy to make sure we're

(06:47):
all on the same page. Everybody needs to be on
the same page. We all need to be doing the same.

Speaker 1 (06:53):
I've also released the expectation of me and my baby
daddy being on the same page.

Speaker 4 (06:58):
But you know what, they trick us. I think I
think they might be more independent over there because those
they are not doing much. So I think they're tricking
us to pretend like they don't really know what's going on.
But I feel like at the dad's houses, they are
waking them up and like making their own lunch and
doing the things, because like, are they doing it? They are,
and they're playing us and they're getting home like what I.

Speaker 1 (07:19):
No know, Well, let's see it's a little bit of that,
or they're playing them too, They're like and they then
they like, don't go to school because that would never
happen at our house, but for some reason at their house,
like they're saying, I had a sniffle, she needs to
stay home. I'm like, what the fuck are you talking?

Speaker 4 (07:35):
No, you didn't want to wake up and take her
ass is what happened.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
And you know what, maybe I need a little bit
of that energy, you know, Maybe I need a little
bit of that energy.

Speaker 5 (07:43):
Oh you got a sniffle?

Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah, call it a day. Baby, we're not going You
got about one more this is your last year. Maybe
you got one and a half more years of schooling
that you can pull this shit before it actually counts.
And honestly, what did I hear someone really prolific recently
and we've been known this, but basically said college literally
is a waste of money. You don't have to go

(08:05):
to college anymore. At this point, am I going to
tell my daughter that? Maybe not?

Speaker 5 (08:08):
Who knows, but like it's just.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
Like live in your life because the world might be ending,
so you might as well just like skip school and
hang out. I've been trying to convince Iri to not
go to school all summer.

Speaker 4 (08:22):
But what's that type of parent? What's that type of
schooling that like the Hippi white people are doing, which
is like.

Speaker 5 (08:27):
Self learning, self guided?

Speaker 4 (08:29):
Yeah, like self guided, like you didn't even have to
learn how to read until you need it or some shit.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
I want to do that.

Speaker 1 (08:34):
So that guy in an organ that I met when
I went and got put myself in a cave and
he told me that his children realized they needed to
learn because they didn't couldn't read like the school, so
they couldn't read the signs on the street and he
was like, well, maybe it's time that you learned to read,
and so they did. But I'm like, I don't know.
I know your brain needs to like be nourished in

(08:58):
certain things at a certain an age according to science.

Speaker 4 (09:02):
So oh, it's called the war the World. It's the World,
the World off school, it's like the World off school,
or the Waldorf School. That's it's a Waldorf school whatever
that school is. The Waldorf School does that method where
you self learn when it's time and you really what
you need to learn how to read the cracker jack box.
But I also think that's what.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
So they're going, They're we're paying the Waldorf School to
send our kids to school and then letting them fit
like self guide their education.

Speaker 3 (09:31):
Loo key yeah, which is also like that's a scam.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
That's a scam. I can do that at home.

Speaker 4 (09:37):
That's true, But I also feel like it's a white privilege,
Like God forbid, a black child doesn't know how to
read it until they're ten, Like, oh my god, are
you kidding, We're gonna I'm going to jail.

Speaker 5 (09:47):
That's crazy.

Speaker 4 (09:48):
We're so uneducated that there's only there's only certain privileges
we have. But I mean, you can imagine before the
establishment and the system of UHED like this very rigid
system of like an education system.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
I'm sure that's what everybody.

Speaker 4 (10:05):
Was doing, like go farm, go fucking help, and then
everything else came after. This type of school that we've
been doctrined in is really just to train us to
be worker bees and go to college and waste our
money and then.

Speaker 3 (10:17):
Blah blah blah blah blah. You know, you know, you
know the government shit.

Speaker 1 (10:22):
Yeah, no, it's true. That's why it's important that we
nurture the things that our kids are actually interested in now,
Like you know, like Luna loves to draw and create,
and you know, I really love I really love sports.
And I realized, like she's very social too, She's like
very she's very pro social.

Speaker 5 (10:43):
So I'm like, how do I not pro social? What
do I do with that? She take her to the mind.
She can make a friend anywhere, like she really can.

Speaker 1 (10:52):
I'm that's such a relief for me as a parent,
because I know that there's a lot of parents whose
kids struggle with that, you know. So it's like, so
I'm grateful that that's just not the struggle that I'm
facing with her right now, like today, like when she
she was like yesterday, she's like, I'm really excited to
meet the new kids at school, like the new ones
that are coming, which is you know, not that I

(11:15):
was surprised, but usually it's like I can't wait to
see my friends, like those little bitches that were harassing
me last year. And she's like, I'm excited to meet
the new people, and so I was like, you know,
I was like, that's a really that's a really big
deal for kids that are coming into a fifth grade
class with a bunch of kids that have been friends
for years, like that can be really intimidating for someone

(11:38):
to come in and not know anyone, And so I
was just encouraging her to I was like, well, if
you're excited to meet them, make sure. Well at first,
I said, do you know in the scariest part of
the day is for new kids, And she's like when
I was like, lunch, Like, lunch is the scariest part
of the day because it's like where the fuck am
I going to sit? We who do I sit with?
And so I don't know, I'm crossing my fingers because
I think it's like, well, it's past lunch now at school,

(12:01):
but I'm hoping I encouraged her. I was like, at lunchtime,
I really want to encourage you to like find a
new person and have them sit with you, because that's
going to be really even if she's not your forever
friend all year, Like, that's going to be really helpful
for someone.

Speaker 5 (12:14):
Who doesn't know anyone.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
And she's like, oh, yeah, of course, mom, I did
that last year with my other friend. I'm like, okay, girl,
get your little pro social ass out there the inn.

Speaker 4 (12:24):
I asked Lenna about that, like, are then any knew
kids at school.

Speaker 3 (12:27):
She's like, no, I don't think so.

Speaker 4 (12:29):
I'm like, okay, well, Luna don't. Luna is like Luda
is social. Luna has no problem making friends.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
No, no, no, I'm not saying she's not social, but
she is like she's has she's she's like me, She's like, okay,
let me analyze the situation. When when we were in
Costa Rica and the little girl who didn't speak Spanish
wanted to hang out, Luna was like, then, I know,
I know, like like five minutes later they're jumping in

(12:56):
the pool.

Speaker 5 (12:57):
But before that she was like resistant, she was.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
Like she doesn't speak English, like I don't.

Speaker 4 (13:02):
Know, and then I was like, well, how are you
She's like, we're such good friends. I was like, how
are you guys talking? She was like google translate. I
was like, oh that's smart. Yeah, Luna's Luna Is has
definitely been here before, for sure, for sure, maybe more
times than me. This Actually recently, she went to Minnesota
this week with her dad and she's texting me and

(13:24):
she's like, remember, don't say anything, but remember daddy's friend
that I said was really nice, some girl that they're with,
that there's a new girl every other month, because that's
what happens when there's another fucking household. And I was like, yeah,
she's like I think she's drunk.

Speaker 3 (13:39):
I'm like, this is how she's texting me.

Speaker 4 (13:43):
I'm like, Patty now, She's like she's really really loud.
And someone just came by and said free wine and
she said me. I was like, okay, She's like and
she's talking and then she's like and she won't stop
talking to me. I'm like, there's no other there. She's like,
I don't know, but I'm trying to get out of
this bus. It's like this is I feel like I'm

(14:05):
talking to my homegirl, like why are you texting me that?
She's like, don't tell daddy, but I think his friend
is drunk. She is my homegirl. But like the amount
of like awareness that you have, like why would you
even know what that means? And she is she's you
know what, I really I'm proud that she's just self.
She's self, like she doesn't really need a lot outside

(14:28):
of herself, like if someone's not fucking with her, if
things are not what.

Speaker 3 (14:31):
She's like, all right, I'm out by.

Speaker 4 (14:33):
We had a barbecue at your house last weekend and
I was like, mom's about to leave.

Speaker 3 (14:37):
Do you want to go?

Speaker 4 (14:37):
She's like, yeah'll leave with her. I'm like, but everyone's
still playing. She's like I'm good. I'm like, okay, well
catch you later, girl' That's what I mean.

Speaker 1 (14:45):
What I'm saying, Like she's good on her own, Like yeah,
I'm just saying that.

Speaker 5 (14:50):
I just see Luna.

Speaker 1 (14:51):
She's very independent, so like if she's in her zone
and she's good, she's like why do we need to
interrupt the flow? We're fine, Like why do we need
a new friend? And then the friend comes and she's
like Okay, she's cool, she can stay I am.

Speaker 4 (15:08):
I'm really proud of her having that trade because it
took me a really really really really really really long time.

Speaker 3 (15:13):
To like not care.

Speaker 4 (15:15):
And she's just like, I'm fine, Like, Okay, that's that
Sagittarius energy for real, because she's just very self sufficient,
which I feel like, you know, like especially as girls,
that's something we have to learn, you know, we always
want to be included. We always want to like there's
just like this, we're we're programmed to like be a

(15:36):
certain way and like get validated outside of ourselves in ways.

Speaker 3 (15:40):
And it took me a long time to learn that.

Speaker 4 (15:41):
And she's just like, I'm cool, I don't need any
of that bye, which I might, thank God a lot
of Yeah, I.

Speaker 1 (15:49):
Mean so many wife, not even it's not even just
a woman thing. I think people in general have a
really hard time being alone in general. And you know,
if you can learn as a child, I think also
when you're an only child, it becomes I was having
this conversation with my friend Jared because we both like

(16:13):
he's the youngest of his siblings by far, and I'm
like the oldest of my siblings by far, so we
feel we have felt like a lot in our life,
like we're only children, and I think only children a
lot of times have this kind of like it's either
hyper independence or sometimes it's just like I'm good by
myself because I've spent a lot of time alone. Not

(16:34):
like your parents weren't around, but like you didn't have
a play buddy around a lot, so you had to
like kind of figure your shit out by yourself, right,
and so like as an adult, I don't really have
a hard time being alone. And that's good. That's can
be good and it can be bad because I can
isolate and be totally fine. And then but then I
also like I know that I need like socialization, and like,

(16:58):
like I see a lot of that. I see a
lot of that with people that were only children, Like
as I was thinking about that today and identifying the
people in my life that didn't grow up with siblings
or like much older or younger, I see them a
lot like okay doing taking solo trips by themselves, going
on solo dates, do going places alone. Like so I

(17:22):
don't know, maybe, but you know, Ari is she's not
really an only child, I guess. So I'm curious to see,
like what her relationship will be like with her alone
time because like even my mom when we were in
Costa Rica, she was like I don't because I told her.
I was like, Mom, just go to the beach, go
buy go be by yourself, like go go like you
know ground and she's like, Erica, I know, like I

(17:44):
don't know why you think I like being alone.

Speaker 5 (17:46):
I don't like to be alone. And I was like,
oh okay.

Speaker 4 (17:50):
I thought all adults.

Speaker 1 (17:51):
I was like, I'm like, are we all waiting to
be left the fuck alone? Like?

Speaker 4 (17:55):
No, okay, well just me? Huh.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
I was like, do you want me to come with you? Fuck?
All right?

Speaker 5 (18:01):
Well here I come.

Speaker 3 (18:04):
You know, it's so interesting.

Speaker 4 (18:05):
I was just reading this uh well, not article, because
who does that anymore. I was reading Instagram and there's
a tea there's I thought I sent it to you,
but maybe I forgot. There was a teacher saying it's
really really scary that like teaching kids in this in
this day and age, that they really don't know how
to be bored, and they're basically constantly waiting for like

(18:28):
a dopamine drop, and like if you don't teach in
fucking one minute, colorful, fucking snap reels. Then they're just
like looking at you with dead eyes. Like she can
literally be in front of a classroom and literally there's
nothing there, nobody's home, and you know, within like three minutes,
if they're not stimulated of their board, they're on their
phones and like it's literally She's like, it really does

(18:51):
resemble like teaching a bunch of drug addicts because they're
like they're they're so reactive if they if someone takes
away their technology, takes away their phone, And I'm like,
what kind of world are we producing with the children?

Speaker 3 (19:07):
And we've all seen it.

Speaker 4 (19:08):
We've seen like all those clips online where kids fucking
flip the fuck out about not having their cell phones
and kicking and scratching and even people like kids shooting
their parents for taking a fucking video games and shit,
and it's just like, what are we, Like, what are
we creating in the world that are making like little
crackheads and that we're just supporting it like it's just

(19:29):
totally normal.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
It's scary good.

Speaker 5 (19:31):
Are we creating technology crackheads?

Speaker 4 (19:33):
Yes, yes, we are a lot. We are coming technology crackheads,
and they're little developing brains are definitely technology We're.

Speaker 1 (19:43):
Later in life technology crackheads, but they're like organic technology cracks.

Speaker 5 (19:47):
They're like they're like they're like the og crackhead.

Speaker 4 (19:50):
They're like in bread, they're like bread like like naturally,
they've just like with their evolution, have become technology crackheads.
And it's just it's wild and it's scary, and I'm like,
we really, I keep saying this, like I want to
do you know, a three hour period after school, like
everybody put the phone in the fucking bag, is at
this bitch up and let's do other stuff. And it's

(20:12):
like it seems like I keep talking about it, it just
hasn't happened because I guess school just started.

Speaker 3 (20:16):
But we, I mean.

Speaker 4 (20:19):
Start technology and I am and I'm going to text
our dad too, and not that that's gonna work, but
technology is ruining us, and we're just allowing it to happen,
including gel nails.

Speaker 1 (20:32):
Nimi Less sent me this article today about how gel
nails have been banned from Europe, and then I saw
another post. Of course was when you sent me that,
then of course more posts at coming in. So the
New York Post was posting about it, and they said
that basically it's only been tested on animals, and that
it's like linked to fertility issues, sexual health issues, and

(20:55):
that it's a safety precaution because in Europe it's there's
free health care and the government has to pay for it,
so they are more diligent around like stopping any sort
of like things that they're gonna have to pay for,
whereas in America it pays.

Speaker 3 (21:13):
They profit, they profit, They.

Speaker 1 (21:15):
Profit on our illness and our sickness, so they're not
ever going to ban certain things. And that's why like
a lot of countries that offer free health care, like
they're really diligent around making sure that whatever's causing illness
or sickness is very like got we don't got time
for that, We're not going to pay for it. And
so here I am with like one broken nail. I
was very sad about this yesterday from my Costa Rica

(21:36):
nails that cost me thirty dollars for all this nail art,
and I was like, am I when you set me that?
I was like, maybe it's time. It's finally time. I've
taken breaks before, like during the pandemic, I took a
break and then like I think again, in like twenty
twenty two, why do I know this took a.

Speaker 4 (21:50):
Break and you're crackhead for nails.

Speaker 1 (21:53):
I was. I was looking at a video of myself
the other day and I didn't I had short nails,
and it wasn't like the pandemic anymore. So I was like,
what was I going through? It was what was happening,
And I'm like, you know, I think this might be
my last set. I think this is my last set
of gel nails, and I'm moving into press ons and
natural natural nails.

Speaker 4 (22:16):
We need to order the press ons now, because this
is what happens. I say this, and then my nails
break and look crazy, and then I'm like, I don't
have I don't have time to go like order press ons.
I need to get these done today or else I'm
gonna be walking around like this.

Speaker 1 (22:28):
If you're listening to this this episode and you know
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Speaker 4 (22:35):
Dm US, Please email dm us please. If you are
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Send them over, okay, because I and then it could
be like a bonding opportunity because the kids love the
press ons and we used to love them back in
the day too. When we were kids. So I'm like,
they have better.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
Nail I mean, I know the press ons can't be
great for your nails either, but they're not causing cancer.
They're just ripping the top layer of your nail off, which.

Speaker 3 (23:00):
Which we're doing anyway.

Speaker 4 (23:02):
We're doing that day and then eventually we can use
like some nail teak or whatever that stuff that makes
your nails strong.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
And then what are you gonna do about your toes?

Speaker 4 (23:10):
I don't know. I just thought about that was but
to ask you that, Like, I used to really like
doing nail art, but they're probably so weak now because
I've been putting jail polish on them for years. And
then I tried to get I tried to get irregular
polish at fucking with Hannah, and she's like, oh no, no,
it's not gonna last.

Speaker 5 (23:28):
No, no, no, no, it's not It's not true.

Speaker 3 (23:30):
She lied because she lied to me.

Speaker 1 (23:31):
She's definitely lying because the only reason I ever started
getting gel on my toes was because we were going
to Costa Rica for extended amounts of time. Before that,
I never ever, ever ever got gel on my toes
because it wouldn't chip. It just I knew my toes
would last last and I should have just continued because
I couldn't.

Speaker 5 (23:49):
They would have probably lasted in Costa Rica. It's a
little more.

Speaker 1 (23:52):
You know, you're out there in the sand and stuff.
But I don't. We don't. We don't need to be
getting gel on our toes, like truly, we don't. It's
a man, It says a lie. The nail shops are corrupt.

Speaker 4 (24:05):
Yeah, I think I think I'm done. I'm over it.
I just I really like nail art. But if I
can get it with a press on and I can
just keep a little thing a glue in my purse,
if one pops off, fucking.

Speaker 1 (24:15):
And you can change, you can have fucking new nail
art like better than any and you have to sit
for fucking three hours putting a goddamn strawberry on your nail.

Speaker 4 (24:24):
I'm so sick of sitting in that fucking chair. I'm
sick of getting my hair braided. I'm still getting my
nails done, like I just want to be bald and
bald and just I tried to not shave for like
three weeks, but I gave in yesterday and I shaved
because it's not working.

Speaker 3 (24:40):
But this is like this is all the programming of womanhood.

Speaker 4 (24:43):
Your hair has to be done, your nails have to
be done, you have to shave, blah blah blah.

Speaker 3 (24:47):
Such a bullshit.

Speaker 4 (24:48):
I don't want to do anything as one exists like
the beautiful queen that I am, So then do it? Uh?

Speaker 3 (24:56):
I hated my armpits the whole time.

Speaker 5 (24:58):
So did you shave them yet? Are they still hairy
right now?

Speaker 4 (25:00):
I shaved them yesterday because I was going to someone's house.
I went to I went to some when somebody's house,
and I was like, I'm not going to do this
in the daylight, even though I did at your house.
Those are my friends.

Speaker 1 (25:11):
So whose friends were these that couldn't see your curly
armpit hairs?

Speaker 4 (25:16):
I mean, it didn't really matter. Does does it ever
matter who it is? But I realized that I'm insecure
and I can't do my full dance moves, and so
I just said fuck it and then land.

Speaker 1 (25:26):
You know I think that like, first of all, my
armpit hair doesn't grow cute and like it's it's not
like a thin little cute like No, they're curly, and
they're aggressive and they're black as hal like like like
darker than my normal hair color like aggressively black, aggressively curly,
and I just don't. I'm not into it. I thought

(25:49):
I could be in it. I tried it for a while.
Kudos to those who do. In my opinion, it does.
It does. It's gonna trap smell more than I already
don't wordy ota, so like, I just I can't. I
have to pick my battles around, Like how natural I'm
gonna be?

Speaker 4 (26:05):
Like I told Landa, I didn't feel confident, and he's like,
you're not a real witch. I was like, fuck you,
what the fuck is it? I don't have to be
a hairy witch with the hell.

Speaker 1 (26:13):
First of all, he doesn't get to decide what a
real witch is as a man.

Speaker 5 (26:16):
I'm sorry, Warlock in your Warlock lane.

Speaker 4 (26:19):
First he was like, yeah, do it. Yeah, I don't
care do it. And then I was like, I don't
feel secure. He's like you then you started making friend
of my insecurities. I was like, this is not the
point of this. He's like, you gotta be confident, and
I was like, I'm not so Harry, I I back,
it's square when but.

Speaker 1 (26:38):
The program natural? I recently I started making my own deodorant.

Speaker 3 (26:42):
Actually, what's in it?

Speaker 1 (26:45):
Coconut oil, baking soda. I didn't have any Some people
put cornstarch or arrowroot in it, but I didn't have
any of that, so I just stuck with those two
ingredients and then I put a little bit of essential
oils and I went to the gym ash worked.

Speaker 4 (27:02):
I have radience.

Speaker 3 (27:03):
I'm gonna try it.

Speaker 5 (27:04):
Yeah, you can make it yourself.

Speaker 1 (27:05):
And I just put it in the fridge and they
just scrape a little bit and just rub it on.

Speaker 3 (27:08):
And does it solidify like a deodorant.

Speaker 1 (27:11):
Yeah, I could put it in like a like a thing,
but but I'm afraid it might melt. It's very like
heat sensitive, so it might just like melt into water.
You probably to keep it in the fridge. But I
haven't worn deodorant in probably like three months, and it's
been rough, you know, especially like when my cycle is

(27:33):
about to approach, it's like it gets a little funky.

Speaker 4 (27:38):
But well, God, God bless your man's heart, God bless him.
He does.

Speaker 5 (27:42):
He says I don't smell. Iri says I smell really bad.

Speaker 4 (27:45):
So he's a lie.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
I don't know who to believe.

Speaker 4 (27:48):
I can kids don't. Kids don't lie. Kids don't lie
though not. He says, I didn't smell, but I she
just a hater whatever.

Speaker 5 (27:58):
She's mad because she's funky too, so she to be quiet.

Speaker 4 (28:01):
You know, I'm grateful Luna hasn't come into her funk
like she's she's like slowly going through puberty. But I
don't think how long is puberty? Like do we need
to google this? I didn't ask chatchbt, like is it
a two year period?

Speaker 2 (28:13):
Like?

Speaker 3 (28:14):
How long does it take you to go through it?

Speaker 4 (28:15):
Because like I see lunas like sprouting in ways, but
like she doesn't stink like you know, I still see.

Speaker 5 (28:21):
Is puberty like end when you start your period? Is
that like that?

Speaker 4 (28:25):
Is that? Is that like the like I we're in
it where it's puberty, you've gone through it?

Speaker 1 (28:30):
Yeah, you know Iri, Actually she went through a really
funky phase and now she's not that funky anymore. Like
so it was like hormones. Like the beginning of her
entry in was really aggressive. I was said, what the
fuck is going on here? And now it's kind of calmed.
It's calmed down. But she's also into my national deodoran
she puts some mom this morning before she went to school.

Speaker 3 (28:50):
Oh, yeah, I know we've talked about this.

Speaker 4 (28:52):
We've been We've been if anyone's been listening to this
podcast for as long as it's been, going on seven
and a half years, almost eight. We go through a
lot of phases, and I feel like we've talked about
this before about like we're being natural, we're going all
the way natural, and I guess it's just like a
it's a journey because sometimes I forget to buy the
natural geoduran and now I'm back with the fucking aluminum

(29:14):
and I need to go back to the non toxic
shit because everything is literally trying to poison us, and
I'm just like, we have to fight against it or
else we're just gonna speed up our doomsday.

Speaker 1 (29:29):
It's true.

Speaker 4 (29:31):
No Joel polish, no toxic foods, no deonderant. You know.

Speaker 6 (29:36):
Ever since my last nanny that I had, she was
really non toxic, and she like shamed me and my
household for having all these toxic ingredients even though it
didn't work.

Speaker 3 (29:46):
Out with her.

Speaker 4 (29:48):
Every time I think about the nanny, I just can't
stop thinking about the Bible and her trying to know it.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
Didn't work out because she thinks I'm a devil worshiper
and that I need Jesus and that my altars are terrifying.
She did leave me with something. She left me with
this very clear, Like I I'm very much more aware

(30:18):
of all the toxic ingredients. Like I will never put
another piece of plastic in the microwave and heat up
my food. All of my tup awar is now glass.
Yeah pass like yeah like even like like I'm trying
my best, but a lot of like even like the
like the my creamer and my coffee, like the xanthem gums,
like all that stuff I'm really trying to do away

(30:39):
with because like, yes, America is poisoning us, but we're
also poisoning ourselves because we actually have We have the
wherewithal to educate ourselves and know what things are actually
bad in our food, but we choose to just do
the easy.

Speaker 5 (30:55):
Thing as I fuck it, I like it. I like this.

Speaker 1 (30:57):
I like the xanthem gum in my fucking silk, the
milk because it makes it hold together and it's not lottery. Well, bitch,
then keep drinking it and see what happens.

Speaker 4 (31:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (31:07):
So I'm trying to get on the train of a
non toxic lifestyle. I'm proud of myself. I'm like nineteen
percent better, not quite twenty nineteen, Okay, I mean because
because like the household products I'm trying, I need to
like go throughout my house. I just I literally just

(31:27):
bought non toxic today. I bought non toxic dish soap.
I bought non toxic laundry detergent that I've read online,
this brand called Mollie or something, Mollie's SuDS or something
like that. And yeah, like all my like everything I
washed my body with. So there's things happening slowly. The
most important thing though, is the food. Like, yes, I

(31:50):
can wash my dishes with non toxic soap, is that
going to not cause cancer? No, it's probably the eggs
I'm eating, or the juices that I'm eating, or the
milk I'm putting in my coffee or the meat like
you know, So one day at a time.

Speaker 3 (32:05):
But yeah, slow, slow progress.

Speaker 4 (32:08):
But it's there's also all of the poly threads that
we're getting from Amazon and fucking what's the other cheap one,
you know where we get all the bathing suit sheet
and she and I think about my yeah, and I
think about my womb, and then I want to have
another baby.

Speaker 1 (32:26):
And well that's another thing that I did see. I've
been doing stuff behind your back, but I'm gonna tell
you and put you on game right now.

Speaker 4 (32:32):
Oh not behind my back.

Speaker 1 (32:36):
The panties. So if you're wearing pannies, like it's really
important that you buy like one hundred percent cotton panties
and you're not.

Speaker 4 (32:43):
Oh, I'm wearing a hundred percent silk.

Speaker 3 (32:45):
Okay, these are from Amazon.

Speaker 4 (32:47):
Hoo.

Speaker 1 (32:54):
I hope Amazon is not lying to us, but yeah,
like one hundred percent cotton panties, maybe that helps text
your pussy from the polyester that you're wearing. Wear like
the workout pants that are filled the polyester, because I
did try to find like non polyestered workout pants. I
even went that far because I'm like, I'm sweating and
all this shit is just soaking into my body.

Speaker 5 (33:15):
But they're expensive, Like it's expensive?

Speaker 4 (33:18):
Are they still stretchy? Like what is that?

Speaker 5 (33:20):
Like?

Speaker 1 (33:21):
Tech? The technologies have TECHNOLOGI and they have like good options.
It's just they're either expensive but they're ugly.

Speaker 4 (33:29):
And then also like there was something else that I wanted. Oh,
my other big plan is for Black Friday. I'm going
to get all new pots. I went non toxic, nonstick
pots and pants and like utensils for the house. The
fact that I have to wait till Black Friday to
afford non non toxic pots is like and for the

(33:50):
whole family underwear, like not just you, the baby needs
non toxic underwear, the husband and pants, like I need
your balls because I need the sperm, like everything needs
to it's.

Speaker 5 (34:00):
Expensive and these type of things.

Speaker 4 (34:02):
Yeah, those things too.

Speaker 1 (34:04):
I was using this to fucking fill the holes in
my kitchen because the ants are creeping through every hole.
Are you having ant problem? Okay, I'm having a severe tiny.

Speaker 4 (34:15):
Little tiny I've seen those little ones.

Speaker 1 (34:18):
Tiny little fuckers that are coming through the hole. So
I'm like using grout. Sorry, this is why this looks
like this. But when I was like, I don't need
to use this shit anymore. This is fucking silicone and plastic.
I'm putting all microplastics in my food.

Speaker 5 (34:31):
Get rid of these.

Speaker 4 (34:34):
I'm just gonna throwing shit away and then I'm not
have to buy new shit. That's the thing. I need
to start throwing it away. And even the hair, the
cacakalon or whatever. The hair is fucking everything fat sleigh sleigh.

Speaker 1 (34:46):
See that's another product that I bought. Damn, I'm actually
you know what, maybe I'm gonna bumping.

Speaker 4 (34:49):
Up to their.

Speaker 1 (34:54):
Yeah, I bought this other hair my sleigh. I think
it's called and.

Speaker 4 (34:57):
It did the hair, the nail. The hair lady like it.

Speaker 1 (35:01):
No, they always hate it because it's real, like your
hair lady's gonna tell you it's bullshit. But then I
put it in my hair and it was fine. Okay,
it was just fucking fine. It's just not what they're
used to, like sliding their fucking hands across microplastics all day,
which also is not good for them.

Speaker 4 (35:16):
Did it take hair a long time longer to do
your hair with it?

Speaker 1 (35:19):
No? No. The only thing is, like the color choices
are limited, and like with my hair being red and
like I want I want one. I'm actually like that's
a transition out of red. But with my hair being red,
it was hard to find colors that I like matched.
But there's there's other hair. Blood again more expensive than cackline.

Speaker 3 (35:38):
Hair, you know, a lot more expensive.

Speaker 1 (35:42):
I mean those those packs of hair like six dollars,
you know, like this one's probably like fifteen.

Speaker 5 (35:47):
It's like double. But it's worth it.

Speaker 1 (35:51):
You know.

Speaker 5 (35:52):
I got this other.

Speaker 1 (35:53):
Hair called what the fuck is it? Shit called?

Speaker 5 (35:57):
It was like they were really trying it.

Speaker 1 (35:59):
They're like it's Japanese cakline. I'm like, what the fuck
is Japanese cakline? And also they just they they pre
wash it so they do an apple cider vinegar rints
on the hair. But I don't really it's still it's
still to it's still microplastics. Like so what I don't
I don't really get it.

Speaker 4 (36:16):
Yeah, this is the year we've We've let go of microplastics,
we let grow of gel nails, we let go of
poly blends that caused to like goopier this groupier you
going good boop. We're black goop. Goddamn going goop. I'm
going got bitch and goop. And you know what the
thing about goop is, it's like it's natural and it's
still trendy and it's still like it's still like luxury.

(36:39):
It's not like the natural words has to be all
crunching and ugly and like, I'm going goop. You're right
when you're going natural, but also high class.

Speaker 1 (36:47):
Yeah, I'm I'm high class group black. I'm boop black Okay.

Speaker 4 (36:54):
Are you goop? No, I'm I'm boop boop. Okay. That's
that's our new that's our new band. And nobody steal it.
It's it's we kind of stole it, but it doesn't matter.
It's boop now, bitches black now, and.

Speaker 5 (37:06):
You know and and we and that's what we said.

Speaker 4 (37:08):
We like boop boo. Who what's the actress who does goop?
Gwyneth Paltrow, Watch Out, Bitch the boop was coming back.

Speaker 1 (37:19):
Yeah, I was watching this other podcast this this girl
name's Amdi What the fuck is her name? Mom INNDY
She interviewed Gwyneth Paltrow last week and it was a
really good interview. She was holding her ass to the
fire okay about goop and was just like was she saying?
She was just basically saying, like, are you in on
the joke? Because you know, people make fun of Gwen

(37:40):
Paltrow for like being so goofy and like all of oh,
like eating insects and all of her weird shit and
her biohacking, but she's been on this ship for like
years and years, like when she was doing like the
macrobiotic diet, like the first celebrity talking about that that
was like probably like fifteen years ago, and like just
doing all these like very expensive things that only her,
a person like her could afford this level of health

(38:03):
and and like and like just being very I guess,
unrelatable in ways. People start kind of hate her but
kind of love her, like the rich whites love her,
the medium lights hater and so you know, and so
the and this podcast she's a black woman. She was
just like, are you in on the joke? Like you know,
like people think like you're like like gimmicky, Like is

(38:25):
this really your lifestyle? And she's like, no, it really
is my lifestyle. And she's like so like she had
like something on her website that was like three thousand
dollars or like for something stupid, and she's like, well,
that's my demographic, Like those are my My demographic is
that rich woman who will who will.

Speaker 5 (38:41):
Spend that amount of money?

Speaker 4 (38:43):
And I don't know.

Speaker 1 (38:44):
The podcaster was just like really asking her all the
questions that everybody else would be dying would probably be
afraid to ask. It was good, but I still like,
I I admired one of Paltrow. I think that she's
done a really amazing job of carving out the lane,
and she's never has to do a fucking movie again
if she doesn't want to.

Speaker 5 (39:04):
I don't even remember the last Gwyneth Paltrow movie I
saw that she was in.

Speaker 1 (39:09):
Was it like in the nineties, Like, oh, really, so
Gwyneth Paltrow is not the one who did ten twelve
Perfect Strangers. No, that's Nicole Kidman.

Speaker 4 (39:18):
Oh okay, got I get my white's mixed up?

Speaker 1 (39:20):
Sorry, guys, Yeah, that's a different way. Gwyneth Paltrow doesn't
have a bunch of like Nicole Kidman's face is a
little scary. Gwyneth Paltrow. I don't think she's done anything.
She's been gooping. She's been gooping her face.

Speaker 4 (39:31):
Away, biohacking, biohacking.

Speaker 5 (39:33):
Red lighting and all types of shit.

Speaker 4 (39:35):
I kind of I want to I want to rewatch
Love Sex and Goop because I need to revisit that
because I did enjoy it. It was good.

Speaker 3 (39:42):
It was good.

Speaker 4 (39:43):
Yeah, if you guys haven't watched it was on Netflix.
It was Love, Sex and Goop and they like went
on like a deep dive into tantra into like all
these different like a metaphysical like you know those things
that we like Witchy Family, Constellation and things like that.

Speaker 3 (40:00):
Actually really good and I want to revisit it.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
M yeah, it was good.

Speaker 4 (40:04):
I was going to tell you something else.

Speaker 3 (40:06):
What was it?

Speaker 4 (40:07):
Oh, totally unrelated, But did you watch Love Island reunion?

Speaker 7 (40:14):
You know?

Speaker 1 (40:17):
You know? I tried, you know, I tried to watch it,
but then it wasn't. I realized this later. It's not
on Netflix.

Speaker 4 (40:25):
It's on It's not it's on Oh yeah, it's on Hulu.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
It's on Hulu. It was on It was like, it
wasn't Love Island on Netflix, like like the actual show,
but then the reunion was on a different platform.

Speaker 4 (40:38):
Really no, no, they had all been the same platform, right,
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (40:43):
I was confused because I could have sworn I started
watching Love Island on Netflix, and then I tried to
find the reunion and it wasn't on Netflix, and so
I just gave up because I wasn't gonna retype it
in my fucking thing again.

Speaker 5 (40:54):
And also I.

Speaker 1 (40:56):
Only invested my like two and a half hours of
my life too, so I didn't I don't feel like
I'm caught up to speed. And then I started reading
comments of people that were like, I can't believe that
I spent thirty eight hours investing in these teenagers. They're
all stupid, and I'm like, ye are.

Speaker 5 (41:14):
I'm like, you guys been they were always dumb.

Speaker 1 (41:16):
Like, but the reunion I think really like highlighted how
childish they are. It's what it seems like. I don't
really know because I didn't watch it, but you did,
so tell me what happened, what's going on?

Speaker 4 (41:26):
Watched it? I'm not even sure if I watched it
in entirety, but yeah, I mean halfway through, I was like,
there are teenagers, I know, like, do we really all
expect these relationships to last? Because they're twelve and I
had just seen some It's interesting. I've just seen like
some of the aftermath, I mean of like the relationships.
Huda was like, I can't talk about my current relationship

(41:48):
because it's under contract. She's about to be on another
dating show obviously, and then on that's on Netflix. Yeah, No,
Love Island was on Hulu because she says that she
can't talk about her current relationship because Netflix won't allow
her because she's obviously about to be on a TV
show that's on Netflix.

Speaker 1 (42:03):
The dating show for sure, for sure.

Speaker 4 (42:05):
Yeah, and she's like obviously trying to drop a promo
and then what else there.

Speaker 3 (42:10):
It's just fucking stupid.

Speaker 4 (42:12):
I saw recently that Ace told people that Nicolandria isn't real,
like there's no romantic spark of what you duh. Like,
I could see that the money exactly, and if you
guys are friends, shut the fuck up the think get
their money.

Speaker 3 (42:26):
But I also saw this was interesting to me.

Speaker 4 (42:29):
I saw her on a show recently with him Alandria
with Nick talking about people were really rooting for her
because you know, the cowboy guy Taylor had like played
her a little bit and was trying to get into her,
but like couldn't because he wasn't attracted to her. But
then when the next bitch came, who was like super
fair skinned, and like then he was all into her.
They're making it like a colorless thing, and like she

(42:52):
was saying that everybody in America really liked how Nick
was loving on her out loud because he's a fair
skinned guy and she's a dark skinned woman and I'm like,
by fairy mean white and they're just making there you know,
it was just interesting. They're making it so political and
it's like, you guys it's Love fucking Island, and I
get it. I get I was actually really surprised when

(43:13):
I frusht watched it. The first two women that showed
up for her and Shelley, and they're dark skin, beautiful
black women, and like generally on these shows there's like
a sprinkle of black people in general, and there's very
rarely like two chocolate women, and so I was pleasantly
surprised to see that when we first started, and they
were just saying, like, you know, there made it like
very about why they blew up a lot Nick and

(43:34):
a Landria and the black women were happy and know
the people were happy to see her be loved on,
and they were making it very deep, and I was
just like, I wish that it wasn't Love Island that
was like prompting society to have deep, important conversations, because
it's just very immature and like there's so much other
things going on in the world, but I just feel like.

Speaker 1 (43:53):
This conversation has been had. I just like not that
it's not an important conversation. Like listen, I understand my
privilege as a light skin black woman, Okay, like I'm not.
I don't want to piss anybody off. But I just
feel like this conversation has been had racism, like colorism exists,
Like these are things that have happened over and over
and over and over again. It's just a different format,
a different show, a different day of the year, time

(44:16):
of the year, like different people, different Like it's just
I don't know why anyone is surprised that the two
dark skinned black women were coined as the angry black women.
That's what always fucking happens. I don't think it's their
surprised that the dark skinned guy, like the light skin
guy that should always fucking happens, like white white man.

Speaker 4 (44:35):
Like they were trying to write it about Taylor, and
I feel like maybe he just they just weren't like vibing,
like maybe there was a chemistry. I don't think Taylor's
a bad guy. I don't think he was, Like I
don't know Taylor personally. I don't know if he was
like feeding into this coloristanism. But coloristism I just made
that up. But like I just I think like sometimes yes,
it's colorism, and a lot of times it's that, especially

(44:56):
wh they're trying to make them be angry or whatever,
calling them aggressive which was not true, but to bring
him into it, I was just like, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (45:03):
I was just like, what if he just wasn't Yeah,
what if it just wasn't his type?

Speaker 1 (45:06):
What if?

Speaker 5 (45:07):
Like could that possibly be? Could that possibly be?

Speaker 1 (45:10):
Could it not be because he only likes light skin
black girls? Like this is the old Like this is
such like a small little microcosm of what it's like
to date these people, like you don't know who if
Taylor historically has dated dark skinned black women. It's just
like this is this experience. These the options he had,
you know, And I'm not here to defend Taylor. I
don't know the nigga at all, except that it's kind

(45:30):
of fly though. I was looking at his Instagram and I.

Speaker 4 (45:32):
Liked I liked him at first sketch up.

Speaker 1 (45:35):
He was like Rent walking Gucci the runway.

Speaker 4 (45:40):
How you're doing a thing? That was before he was
on the show. Yes, Oh I didn't.

Speaker 1 (45:44):
Already had he already had like a career as like
a black cowboy.

Speaker 3 (45:48):
Yeah no, that's why they kicked.

Speaker 1 (45:50):
Yeah, they picked people that had like most of these
most of these people already had an audience, like Ace
already had a following, like you know, but I will
say even with the Nick and the Orlandria and the
Ace reveal that they're not really into each other, I
also don't believe anything that I see. You don't think

(46:11):
that Ace and Nick had a conversation. Was like, okay, yeah,
so you say that and make it seem like we're
they're trying to prolong their minute of fame, Like I
would do the same thing. Okay, well you don't prolong
it by saying it's not real. You don't say like, oh,
they don't really don't really into each other, because then
Orlandria and Nick are can stand ten toes down and
their relationship and prove everybody wrong. And like they can

(46:32):
they both can just keep going with this momentum that
they need to keep going because what are they going
to do next?

Speaker 5 (46:37):
I mean not to say that they can't.

Speaker 1 (46:38):
I actually think that like Ace is like a talented
and probably has a career in TV, and he's already
had a career in TV. It was like heading towards somewhere.
But I just feel like these these these younger like
reality stars are not stupid, like they've learned they've watched
how reality television people. I've had their moment and it's

(47:01):
gone quickly, and it would be stupid if you didn't
study that and realize how to keep the momentum going.

Speaker 4 (47:07):
You know, well, Amaya and her boyfriend have already broken up,
so apparently they're not studying it well enough. But I
already knew, like I love them.

Speaker 2 (47:14):
I knew that.

Speaker 5 (47:14):
I knew, I knew, I knew that wasn't going to work.

Speaker 1 (47:16):
I don't even know what happened with them, but I
looked at them, and I said, she don't really like her,
and I think.

Speaker 4 (47:22):
He did like her. I think they're all just fucking twelve.
But now they are famous, and they got all these options,
and now they're fucking distracted. This was the stupidest, fucking
eight weeks of my life that I wasted investing in
these twelve couples. I mean, it's not a.

Speaker 1 (47:37):
Real couple, they're just I'm glad. I'm glad that I've
retained at least twenty four thousand brilliant cells that I can.

Speaker 4 (47:45):
I didn't watch it all.

Speaker 1 (47:47):
I don't watch it all, but I can waste my
brain cells and something else like cannabis and drugs versus
love isolence.

Speaker 4 (47:54):
I'm actually preserving I can't watch the l T TV
because I'm preserved it brain cells for partying and getting wasted.

Speaker 1 (48:01):
For Coachella twenty twenty six, I must preserve medrainzas just
in case I go. I might not go because I'm
actually over thirty five now, However, if I do go,
then I must preserve these twenty four thousand brain cells,
So I cannot watch the season finale.

Speaker 3 (48:16):
Sorry.

Speaker 4 (48:16):
I can't watch all the episodes because I have other
party plans this weekend, and if I want to do both,
then I gotta just do one.

Speaker 1 (48:23):
I'll be astually brain dead if I do both.

Speaker 4 (48:26):
Okay, another one and another thing in the media, Speaking
of being brain dead, did you see Brittany Rennerd and
her mom fighting her baby daddy on the pickup? I
was like, Oh, that's your mom. Oh, it's cool, right.
It was just like they were Yeah, the mom apparently
beat up No, the mom apparently beat up the wife

(48:50):
what Yeah, And she wrote about it on her Instagram
like I beat that bitch em. I was like, where
are they from? There's all they make whites like that
in this particular place, so I needed let me. I
wonder if if you but her.

Speaker 5 (49:02):
Baby dad, he's already married. I have questions he got married.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
Yeah, that baby's like three, I think, or two or three,
the baby.

Speaker 1 (49:09):
But I'm saying they birthed the baby, they were together.
He must have fucked around and found a wife the
next year and got married.

Speaker 5 (49:15):
That's quick term around.

Speaker 3 (49:16):
These new niggas. They move fast.

Speaker 4 (49:18):
When you're rich and you're young and you got money,
the hoes come flocking and you get wives pretty quickly.
It's not like a hard thing.

Speaker 3 (49:25):
Trust me.

Speaker 4 (49:26):
If we were a little bit younger and groupies, we
could probably.

Speaker 3 (49:29):
I don't know if it will work for us.

Speaker 1 (49:30):
I mean all I saw was the baby was crying
because he was leaving with the dad, And you know,
I get it, like as a mom, like that's a
that's hard for you to watch.

Speaker 5 (49:38):
I've experienced that, and.

Speaker 1 (49:41):
You know, you don't want your child to have like
a traumatic experience going with the parent, even though like
more times than not, once they get in the car,
they chill out and they're perfectly fine because kids are dramatic,
but like, and you know, I don't know his relationship
with his child and if he's around, I mean, according
to Britney's Curse, out he's.

Speaker 3 (49:59):
Not, she's from my story. Okay, but yeah.

Speaker 1 (50:04):
I mean putting it on the internet. I don't really
know what the purpose of that is besides you know,
us being able to comment it comments on this podcaster.
I mean, and now everyone knows your business, and so like,
now what do we do with this?

Speaker 4 (50:17):
Like okay, but recording a pickup and then your mom
cursing out the baby daddy as he's putting in the
car and provoking and then cursing.

Speaker 1 (50:28):
You both look crazy, like you're causing a lot of
trauma to this child on both sides.

Speaker 4 (50:32):
Like why would you fight? Like why would you even
do all that in front of a three year old
that's already obviously upset, Like that doesn't make a lot
of sense to me, Like, you know, he has to go,
that's his other half of the family's and it does.
It comes off it comes off bitter, you know, like
because he does have a wife, because he didn't marry you,
because and I don't care what anybody says.

Speaker 3 (50:50):
I don't care what anybody says.

Speaker 4 (50:51):
And this is this is from a very like sexually
liberated woman when the whole world and everybody in society
and everybody in your personal life, and people have consistently
consistently called you a hoe and said this about you.
You're a groupie. You're a groupie. And then you think
you found your person and you have a baby for them,
and then it doesn't work out, and people are continuously

(51:13):
calling you a groupie, and then they go and meet
somebody else and marry them.

Speaker 3 (51:17):
I'm sure that shit hurts.

Speaker 4 (51:18):
Every woman wants to be loved and valued, even the
most promiscuous, even the most sexually liberated. Like we all
want to be kept and be valued and be loved correctly,
and so like that, like that not like that title and.

Speaker 3 (51:31):
That that stigma.

Speaker 4 (51:33):
You know, it hurts.

Speaker 3 (51:34):
I'm sure it stings.

Speaker 4 (51:35):
And I'm sure that comes with like you know, he's
picking her, picking the baby up with this bitch and
all these other things. But like, for the love of God,
get your ghetto ass mom back in the house, because
your ghetto mom talking about I would suck y'o dick
if you had one, Like, bitch, if you don't sit
the fuck down and go in the house, let me

(51:55):
handle my business. And what she said, yes, and then
told the baby mama, he ain't shit, that's why you
got a so and so to my money in your
bank account and the baby only has eleven thousand dollars
in his bank account because you ain't shit. And then
then the woman pops off. The wife pops off, like
who the fuck are you talking to?

Speaker 1 (52:11):
Bitch?

Speaker 3 (52:11):
Because I could she.

Speaker 4 (52:12):
Wasn't saying shit, and then she snapped and then apparently
her and the mama got into a fight. But it's like,
if your grown ass mom doesn't know how to act,
she don't need to be at to drop off.

Speaker 1 (52:24):
Yeah, I mean both of this looks really bad for
both parties in court if they if it goes to court.
I mean, now you now you have evidence of your
mom acting crazy, Brittany, and now you look like your
household is unstable, even if that's not the case. And
for some reason, you felt like posting this on the
internet because this is your phone, so like why would
you pose this because it doesn't look good for you?

(52:46):
Like why unless you're planning, unless you're planning something else,
Because we all know Brittany is a very calculated woman,
and I don't really think that she does anything for
just anything, you know, like there's always something behind whatever
she's doing.

Speaker 4 (53:06):
So I thought maybe she was collecting the evidence so
she could say he's always crying when he goes with them,
which is a very difficult thing to prove that something's
like wrong just because the baby's crying. But it's just
you're a product of your environment. And if that's your.

Speaker 5 (53:21):
Mom, and then she should have cut she should have
cut the camera there.

Speaker 1 (53:23):
Then she should have cut it there, not your mom
talk about sucking dicks and shit like no, yeah, I
saw that unfortunate mess on the internet.

Speaker 3 (53:33):
I did guess, Yeah, it's unfortunate.

Speaker 4 (53:38):
And I just I thought we should comment on it
as the as the podcast Baby Mama's, I thought that
it was you know, I thought, oh, this doesn't.

Speaker 3 (53:45):
Look very good.

Speaker 4 (53:46):
And as a baby mom, as as someone who has
to do you know, has done child drop offs and pickups,
I was just like, this is not going to Brittany.

Speaker 1 (53:55):
Just write the book like all of us. Okay, we
don't need to do videos. Just write a book. Start
talking on the podcast. We don't need to see it.

Speaker 4 (54:03):
And apparently she talked about her mom not being a
very good mom on Basketball Wives. I might need to
look at Basketball Wives, that's what, you know. What I
don't I wasted my time watching Leven, watching Love Island
because it's not my age range. I'd rather look at
my age range. Ghetto shit. At least these bitches are
old and actually getto I don't want to look at
these twenty six year olds and they're fucking love their love.
That's not gonna last five minutes. I'm just gonna move

(54:24):
to the old bitches.

Speaker 1 (54:25):
No, no channel is it on Mila, No, No.

Speaker 4 (54:31):
I want to see. I want to see if she
talked about her relationship with Kevin on their Their marriage
cares are now.

Speaker 5 (54:39):
They're both fucking nuts nuts.

Speaker 4 (54:42):
So tell me what if she if she tells anything
about their relationship.

Speaker 1 (54:46):
We have we have other battles to fight, like microplastics. Okay, bitch,
I need you to go and put the phones in
the back, and I need you to go throw away
your panties. I don't need you to go fucking look at.

Speaker 4 (54:56):
Kevin GiB a hundred percent silk from Amazon.

Speaker 3 (55:02):
These are from one of our shoots.

Speaker 4 (55:05):
Oh, I know, it's just sometimes I want to get
away and I want to get in away with other
people's mess, and it's hers right now. She's the most entertaining. First,
she was Muslim. Then she was married. Now her mom's
fighting bitches online, Like I'm interested. Fuck, it's entertaining. Can
you blame me?

Speaker 1 (55:22):
No?

Speaker 4 (55:26):
I me googling where are they from? Because I need
to know where this white mom talking this way is from?
Ocean Springs, Missouri. Makes sense, lovely, they only make whites
like that in certain places, real hood places Missouri, Kansas, Detroit, Philly, Baltimore,
Deep Deep South Florida's Louisiana's Florida. I didn't see the

(55:48):
mom one time, but I guarantee you she had a
hoop earrings, and she probably had like a bob or
like an asymmetrical or something.

Speaker 1 (55:56):
Bob for sure.

Speaker 4 (55:58):
She had on a name plate and nameplate like gold
necklace and.

Speaker 5 (56:03):
A little shaved in the back situation.

Speaker 4 (56:06):
M I was like, where is her white mom from?
I didn't see her mom?

Speaker 3 (56:10):
This is what I need to see.

Speaker 4 (56:11):
I don't what do we do without the Internet. I
know everything I need to know just from one Google.
I want to know, Oh my god, am I going
to hell? Or is this just where we're at?

Speaker 5 (56:23):
They want us to go to hell?

Speaker 4 (56:24):
What do you mean they're doing?

Speaker 5 (56:26):
They're killing it now. I got to look up her mom.

Speaker 4 (56:30):
Me too. I'm trying to wait. Yeah, she doesn't have
the asymmetrical not at she'd breeze.

Speaker 1 (56:42):
That's who.

Speaker 5 (56:43):
I don't see her mom any Oh, no, this is
her mom.

Speaker 1 (56:46):
No, that's her aunt. Is that her mom blonde? Was
she blonde?

Speaker 4 (56:51):
Yeah? I found her.

Speaker 1 (56:53):
Listen, that's the one I saw that was old though
she might have had the asymmetrical out.

Speaker 4 (57:02):
I know we're facts. At one point in history. Her
mom had hoop earrings and a bob Okay period anything
anything else important in the news that we need to
talk about.

Speaker 1 (57:18):
I think that covers it. I think that's I think
I want to preserve the rest of my twenty four
thousand brain cells, So I think that's it.

Speaker 3 (57:27):
Okay, Because do you.

Speaker 5 (57:29):
Have an affirmation for today?

Speaker 4 (57:30):
My dear fuck I had one recently. Did I write
it down and never write shit down? To annoying? Hmmmm?
This is not it? Mm, preserve your why do we think?

(57:52):
Why do you think we have twenty four thousand brain cells?
Are you just making that number up or is that
specific to something?

Speaker 5 (57:59):
I just right it up right now.

Speaker 4 (58:02):
Because now I want to google how many brain cells
do we have? Should be something about being holistic and
eco friendly. I'm really grateful for the people listening that
can come and hang out and listen to our nonsense

(58:25):
and hopefully laugh a little and take the edge off,
and also remind them to stop using non toxic, non
toxic things, I mean toxic things and replace their items.

Speaker 3 (58:34):
I'd like to think this is a podcast of.

Speaker 1 (58:36):
Balance only toxic bitches use toxic household items and now
be toxic only talks about toxic things.

Speaker 3 (58:47):
Don't be toxic, just talk about toxic things and people.

Speaker 4 (58:51):
Oh, we have a hundred billion neurons actually maybe more
of like an eighty six billion, so we so apparently
we have a few to we have a few to spare.

Speaker 1 (59:09):
Okay, well that's that just depends how many I've already
lost from all of my treacherous years of debauchery, that's true,
which started at a young age, so like, I don't
even know if I got the full development of all
of them.

Speaker 4 (59:25):
Well. I also, fun fact I've read recently too, is
that like thirty six is the age where our bodies
stop like bouncing back as quickly.

Speaker 3 (59:35):
So yeah, if you're in.

Speaker 4 (59:39):
The thirty six, thirty seven, thirty eight range, and you
were previously indulging in a lot of debauchery.

Speaker 3 (59:45):
This is the age where you have to.

Speaker 4 (59:47):
Not maybe stop the debauchery, but also level up with
anti debauchery. You have to find balance in it or
else your bodies won't recover as much. And this is
where your necks start looking old. And we all know
how we feel about old necks. So just you know,
a friendly reminder that if you're going to indulge in
you're older over thirty five, that you might not bounce back.
And so this is the time to consider is the

(01:00:08):
debauchery really necessary? And if you go into Coachella, you
got to really plan for it.

Speaker 1 (01:00:14):
Oh you know what, I have a quote that came
up in our last Zoom call with our.

Speaker 5 (01:00:20):
Retreat ladies.

Speaker 1 (01:00:21):
Shout out to the Good Vibe retreat ladies, the group
seventeen and eighteen, I miss you after our retreats.

Speaker 5 (01:00:28):
We always have a follow up call if you follow
up calls with.

Speaker 1 (01:00:30):
Our ladies, and Rosina gave us a really good quote
and I think it kind of goes hand in hand
with what we were talking at the top of the episode,
which was just like surrender to the mess. So today's
quote is surrender to the mess without sacrificing your twenty
four thousand brain cells eighty four billion nods.

Speaker 4 (01:00:56):
Surrender to the mess, Surrender to the men.

Speaker 3 (01:01:00):
Life is messy.

Speaker 4 (01:01:01):
Everything is not going to be squeaky clean, including your house,
because it is lived in and so don't expect it
to be. We are all human, we are human ing.
We're trying to survive, We're trying to figure it the
fuck out. We're trying to be happy, which is a choice,
and just choose happiness and surrender every day to not battling,

(01:01:23):
not fighting. The little shit just exists.

Speaker 1 (01:01:27):
Amen. Well, y'all, thank you for joining us on another
episode of Good Mom's Bad Joy this podcast. If you
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Speaker 4 (01:02:31):
You can follow my personal instagram at Mela with an
age underscore map with two p's.

Speaker 3 (01:02:36):
We didn't do a tarot reading.

Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
I don't have a card in front of me, do you?

Speaker 3 (01:02:42):
I will, I can one moment.

Speaker 4 (01:02:54):
Oh, and we got a nine of Pentacles, nine.

Speaker 1 (01:02:58):
Of Pentacles, nine of penticle.

Speaker 5 (01:03:00):
Let's see what the cards.

Speaker 4 (01:03:03):
Look at the shuffle.

Speaker 3 (01:03:03):
This was the shuffle.

Speaker 1 (01:03:05):
Wow, chaos, surrender to the mess. Nine of Pentacles is abundance, luxury,
self sufficiency, financial independence. You have worked hard to create
abundance in your life, and the nine of Pentacles says
now you can finally enjoy the fruits of your labor.
Thanks to your independent efforts, self confidence, and discipline, you

(01:03:28):
attained a well deserved success and created a stable foundation
for your material wealth and comfort. When the nine of
Pentacles appears in a tarot reading, do not be scared
to splurge, indulge, or pamper yourself, especially as a reward
for all your hard work. Treat yourself to a special
occasion or a personal gift to celebrate your journey. Here,
the nine of Pinnacles also speaks of financial independence. The

(01:03:48):
woman in this card has created a luxurious lifestyle by
her own actions and efforts. She encourages you to do
the same. While a suit of pentacles typically focuses on
material wealth and gain, this card also suggests that you
are in harmony with the environment around you. You appreciate
the beauty and abundance found in nature, and you can
harness this high vibe energy to bring pleasure into your life.

Speaker 5 (01:04:09):
You may enjoy.

Speaker 1 (01:04:09):
Gardening or flooristry, or may just like to pass your
time in the beauty of nature with picnics or walks
in the park. Go outside, bitch. You made it week
two three one of motherhood. We're in quarter four of

(01:04:29):
the twenty twenty fives. You've made it the last part
of the year. Enjoy the fruits of your labor and.

Speaker 5 (01:04:38):
If the fruits feel.

Speaker 1 (01:04:41):
Scarce, go to nature because it's abundant there.

Speaker 3 (01:04:46):
Plant to seed and the day will come.

Speaker 4 (01:04:47):
Everything will come and do time. Yes, thank you for listening,
Thank you for supporting two moms that you know, just
trying to make shit happen. Earne every day here, Love you,
bab plea.

Speaker 2 (01:05:04):
Yeah, I'm living so good. Can't you tell? I went
through a drought. That's until I found out well maym
have been known Earth? I used to be broken tail,
now got the.

Speaker 7 (01:05:12):
Blues in to like Beyonce Jasell throat shot or pop
in his cow wearing our voices.

Speaker 2 (01:05:17):
Patriarchy kept it in the box to exploit it.

Speaker 7 (01:05:20):
Women put the pee and powers, so it's pointless. They
want me to be good, so I make bad choices.
Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.
It he's in on for cannabis in their bathbon walked
in Boston's cap and I blew his cat balls.

Speaker 2 (01:05:33):
Hot dog. Now I'm immune to the cat called Herbie
in No waisted straight to it like a dollar sign. Mother,
rent the lover when too.

Speaker 7 (01:05:39):
It is like a water sign where you're rent the
winter essential will when the summertime.

Speaker 2 (01:05:43):
I do it all ain't know when that needs a
running B.

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