September 3, 2025 • 26 mins
Hello my friends and welcome to have a little faith with Delilah. Today we’re gonna talk about motherhood. I think motherhood is sacred. In fact I know motherhood is sacred…It is a really hard job.
A mom raising kids is the closest thing to doing God‘s job. Unconditional love, showing up through any storm, forgiving anything and everything…but mostly being there.
God loves mama’s. God loves blessing us, he loves healing us. He loves empowering us. God loves coming alongside of us, and sometimes he loves challenging us…
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, my friend. Welcome, Welcome to have a little faith
with Delilah. Today we're going to talk about motherhood. I
think motherhood is sacred. I know motherhood is sacred. Being
a mom, raising kids closest thing to doing God's job
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that there is. In my opinion, it's sacred. God loves, loves, loves,
loves mamas. He loves blessing us. He loves healing us,
he loves empowering us. He loves coming alongside us. Sometimes
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he loves challenging us. I was blessed to have a
mom that loved me fiercely. She was a little Cray Cray. Okay,
she was a lot Craig Cray. And the older I get,
the more I realize, Man, my mom had some crazy
ways of dealing with the pain in her life. Today
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we've got therapy and support groups and books and talk
shows and all that stuff to help you deal with
childhood trauma and abuse and neglecting, addictions and blah blah blah.
But when my mom was growing up, they didn't have
any of that. She didn't have access to any of that.
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But no matter what, no matter what bad choices my
mom might have made, she loved us fiercely, and we
knew that every day of our life, my mom loved
me more than life. I knew that I never went
to sleep a night in my life that I didn't
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know that. I know that I know that my Mama
loved me. I was in my mid thirties when God
called her home. I was blessed to have her for
those years, thirty five years. But when God called my
mom home, I didn't think I would ever recover. I
hurt so bad and I missed her so much. She
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was my biggest cheerleader. She was the person I wanted
to call whenever I had great news or good news,
or whenever I had bad news and I needed to
bounce something off. She was who I called, She was
who I turned to, and we certainly didn't always see
eye to eye. There was a couple of years I
didn't even talk to her. I was so mad. I
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just shut down. I distanced myself. It took us a
lot of work and a lot of tears and a
lot of talking to work through that. And thank God
that we did before she was diagnosed with cancer, before
God called her home. Today, have a little faith with Delilah.
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We're going to hear from some moms. A few moms
that I'm going to share with you in this episode.
These women are all in very different situations in life.
Up first, I want to share a conversation that I
had with Tiffany, who is calling to honor both her
son and his birth mom. Let's hear from Tiffany right now. Hi, Tiffany,
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what can I do to make you a night special?
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Request? A song for my oldest son's birth mom?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
How old is your oldest son?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
He is seven and a half.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
And how old was he when God brought him into
your arms?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Away? He brought him home from the hospital.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Oh awesome.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah, I actually called about two years ago and talked
to you when we had just gotten our twins. All
three of our children are adopted, and so we just
I called and talked to you a couple of years ago,
and I've called a bunch of times, but she's just
really been on my heart. Last week was his Gotcha
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day what we call it, and I just wanted to
call on your quest a song for her?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Do you want to share her first name?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yes, her name is Samantha.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
All right, we'll honor Samantha and all the birth bombs
letting us have the honor of loving their babies and
raising the ones they brought into the world.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Absolutely, absolutely, And how old are the twins? The twins
they're too a.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Welcome to the terrific twos.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
We are very very busy.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Very busy, very very busy.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Well, the night before the adoption was final, she said
she was listening to your show and she heard the
Tarzan song and she knew that she was making the
right choice. And so that song has always been very
very special to us.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
So God used that song, especially the lyrics of that song,
to give her the courage to do what must have
been breaking her heart. Yes, ma'am, hmm, now you're gonna
make me cry. I'm sorry, aren't we so blessed?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I can't even put into words how blessed we are?
You cannot even put them into words.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Until you've you've built a family through adoption. You just don't.
You just don't get it. You're right, you know, I
don't remember if I was as naive as other people.
But when people say to the me, you know which
ones are your real kids?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
All of them?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I'm like, are you kidding me? Or people will they
just say such strange strange things. When my son Sammy passed,
I lost count of the number of people who said, well,
thank goodness, it wasn't one of your real kids.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Yeah, that's yeah. My husband and I have a ministry.
We go around and speak to churches about foster care
and adoption and you so, I'm sure you've heard some
of the same things as well. You would just wouldn't
be you'd be shocked to hear some of the things
that people say.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
With thirteen and having fostered as many as I have
and adopted ten, we could share, you know, compare notes
at the foolish, heartless things that people say. But I
choose to believe it's out of ignorance, not out of cruelty, right, absolutely.
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I don't want to believe that people really is cruel
as they come across when they say things like that,
I choose to believe that they're just ignorant. Yeah, So
thank you for having a ministry to help people understand.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Well, thank you for yours as well.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And when you look back through history, I mean, let's
think about it.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Jesus was adopted Jesus, you know, Queen Esther Moses.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Adoption is at the very heart of how God loves
us that we are adopted to be his own. All Right, Tiffany,
You'll be my heart for Samantha and all the birth
moms listening tonight. The next mom I'm going to share
with you is a conversation that I had with Stacy.
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Her daughter is truly amazing, and Stacy wants to sing
her praises right now.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Hi, this is Stacy. I cannot believe I got through.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Hi, Stacy.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I listened to her so like all the time, every day,
and I've never got through, never in years and we're
not in years.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Well, I'm sorry you never got through in the past,
but I'm glad you're here tonight. What can I do
to make your night special?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Well, I just wanted a short, little quick thing.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I won't go into much detail.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
But there is my daughter who I had on brain
surgery in two thousand and three, and she helped bring
me back, like because I had to re learn everything,
I mean adding driving a car, the whole business, right,
and she took over everything when she was fifteen. Wow,
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I'm paying the bills. Hi, I'm doing this. Hi, I'm
doing that.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
And at fifteen. Yeah, I have a fifteen year old
daughter I'm just trying to picture her taking over something
like I don't know, open end feeing out the dishwasher. Well, yeah,
that doesn't happen. I'm like, honey, put away the dishes. Honey,
please put away honey? Can you please put a put
away the dishes?
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I just you know, people come along in your life.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
I truly believe this.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
It's save you.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
And by that, I don't mean like they give their
life over you know what I mean for you and
do everything, but they help bring you to be a
better person, you know, and me so much. And I'm
I'm just so proud of her and I love her
and I think she's fantastic. And you know, one day
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your mom can do all the billing and the next
Dacey's like what what what?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So why did you have brain surgery? Can I ask?
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I had a brain tumor.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
It was acoustic neuroma that had grown out of the
right side of my ear and onto the brain stem
and was basically taking all the blood out of the
like the jugular vein back there. And now you're okay,
I'm good. I'm really good. I'm really good. Lots of therapy,
I mean, five years of physical therapy, and then I
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had some like therapy, so I didn't open my big mouth,
because when I got out of surgery, I had a
very big mouth. I had no frontal guidance at all, whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
No no filter.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Nope.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Do you want to know what's amazing, what's happened. I've
never had brain surgery, and I struggle with the same problem.
A thought forms in my head and it spills out
of my mouth before I can stop it.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Well, sometimes that happens, but you know, I mean, there's
for me, there's moments that I don't have to like
intentionally like hurt somebody just because I can say.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
It, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Anyway, She just she's been so great to me, and
she's done so much for me and helped me learn
how to handle money again and how to do all
these things. And I'm just amazed.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
And how old is she today?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Thirty five?
Speaker 5 (10:38):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
So you guys have been through it. You have been
through it.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
She's amazing.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
She's amazing, and you know, there's ups and downs and
give and take, and but we always find a way
to make it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
What's her name, Stacy, Her name is Caitlin.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
And you know what, I just want you to know
your So it's so newt right now, and at least
for me, I feel like it is because I don't
watch the news then, you know what I mean. I
listen to the stories and the music and you know,
and that helps put me in a better headspace than anything.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
I love it. So it works for me, and I
love it.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
If you watch the news, honey, you're gonna get scared
to death. It's terrifying.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Yeah, I'm like, you know what, uh huh, that's I
can't have that in my head.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So, but she's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
She's just the best, I mean, just the best, the best.
I knew when she was born that she was special,
and I just didn't realize how special. You know. She's
just and never belittled me or made me feel bad.
She's the best person ever, like ever, like better than me,
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a hundred million times better. So I went great things
for her.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Let me play that song for you. Thank you for
calling you have a great night.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
You too, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
You know. One of the things I love most about
doing this show is the fact that it is a
generational show. What do I mean by that? I mean
parents listen, grandparents used to listen or still listen if
they're here. Kids listen now grandkids are listening, and I
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love that. I love when people say, oh my gosh,
you remind me of my mama because we used to
listen when I was a kid in the car, and
now I've got my own kids or my own grandkids.
I love sharing words of wisdom or encouragement with generations.
I love being a part of your family. And in
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just a moment, I'm going to celebrate with a sweet
woman who is thinking and appreciating her mama. She is
so appreciative of the time that she has despite the
challenges with her sweet mama. That call and song are
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coming up next. Hi, Angela, Welcome to the Delilah Show.
Who is on your heart tonight?
Speaker 4 (13:16):
I don't have a.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
Lot of people, but one in particular, which is my mom.
She battles every day with short term memory, and every
time I see her, I just thank God for letting her.
Speaker 4 (13:31):
See me still the way a mother should see their child.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
And I mean, it's heartbreaking to see her drift slowly
with her memory, but I know it's the way life
is when you're a certain age.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
So has your mom got dementia?
Speaker 5 (13:47):
She has short term memory. I mean, she takes medicine
for it to slow it down a little bit. But
I'm just very blessed to still have her on earth
with me and just share many memories.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
So you're close with Mama, and it's breaking your heart
to see her struggle with the short term memory, but
you're enjoying and rejoicing in the blessing that she's still alive.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Can I ask how old your mom is? Early eighty? Wow,
So you are very blessed, Angela. What's her name, Karen?
I will play a song to let her know how
much you cherish her and thank you for being grateful
for every moment. I wish and I wish more people
had that attitude if they only knew how everything can
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change in an instant.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Oh yeah, and some of us go through just wondering.
And it's not even just wondering, it's just you love
the people like your parents, like I do with my mom.
I mean, she she says, I'm so sorry I'm a
burden to you. You're not a burden.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You took care of me. Now it's my churn to
take care of you. Well, I'm going to play a
sweet song for your Mama, you have a great night.
Thank you for calling. The last color I want to
share is a woman named Linda. While she always had
the love of her kids, she found herself in a
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whole lot of trouble. Linda chose love, Linda chose God.
Let's hear her remarkable story right now.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
It's for Grenda. How you doing?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Like Hi, Linda, I'm wonderful. What can I do for you? Oh?
Speaker 4 (15:31):
I listened to you like forever and I don't believe
I finally got through. I try every night on my
boy coming home from work. But I'm glad I got
through tonight because I just like to send a song
out to my door. She's my inspiration, She's my everything.
I've been through a lot, but she's always always always
been there for me to everything I have to her
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through my kid is through. I mean, she was always
there and I just want to send a specially out
to her.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
All Right, Linda, what's your daughter's name, Lashan? And what
is the toughest thing that you say you said you
put them through. What's the toughest thing they had to
go through? Mama bear, I've been do that and back.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I'll put it like that I've been them back and
I've been cleaned for like fifteen years. And through those
times before I got clean, I mean I took them
through Helen back and my daughter was always there with me, always,
and she just stood buy me. I believe in me.
And if it wasn't for her, I don't know where
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I would be right now.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
So how old was your your daughter when you got clean?
When you came back.
Speaker 4 (16:41):
She's forty now, so I guess around twenty nine thirty.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
And is she loving having her mama back?
Speaker 4 (16:49):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (16:49):
She loved it.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
We talked twenty four hours, seven days a week, and
she tells me everything, and I tell her, Lashan, you
don't have to tell me everything. Just teach some things
to yourself, you know. But I mean we have the
greatest relationship. You know, so many people envy us because
they wish they had a relationship like my daughter and I.
But you know, through the time when I did get clean,
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I mean it was still with some rough patches to
go through, and you know, but like I said, she
was there every step of the way. She's just she's
my everything, She's my be ups up. I mean, it's
like she's my heart and I love her so much.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I had someone say to me when I was when
I was young and uh, making crazy decisions. And I
had a little boy, he's he's a police officer. Now
he's all grown up. But I had somebody say to me,
he is your little rudder. And I said what. And
they said, a ship, a huge ship, has a tiny
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little rudder that helps them to steer. And without that
little rudder, the ship would run aground or crash. And
they said, your son is your rudder. God gave you
that child was such a good heart to be your
rudder to make sure your life was steering in the
right direction. And it's true, and it sounds to me
like like this, this this daughter was a gift from
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God to be your rudder.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
She is she is, I mean, she's my everything. She's
every my heart. And you know what the worst part is,
I have two other kids and and they just they
just been there, you know, just as much as my daughter.
But there's something about my daughter. It's just like I
just can't describe, you know. And now she's got a
daughter on her off her on she's five years old,
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you know, and she's a teacher, and you know, she
just she's just so inspiration to me. She's my everything.
I mean, I look up to her. It should be
the other other way around, but I look up to her,
and she just she's always, always, always there, you know.
And and if I can give her the world, I
will give her everything in this world that her heart,
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her heart desire. I mean, you just don't know how
my heart grew up to her, you know. And you
know she's she's doing good. She's a teacher, she got
her own little you know daughter now, which she'll be
turning five pretty soon. And you know, she's everything to me.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
You are a blessed, blessed woman.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Yes, I am towe, blessed, chewing blessed, and I just
want to send out aspicious soul for her, you know,
and just let her know I love her so much.
I love all of my kids. I love I love them,
I love them.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
God bless you, honey. I'm so glad you found your
way to sobriety.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Yes I am too. I will never turn back from
not at all. And then like I'm going to school
now to be a counselor so that I can chose
somebody and tell somebody they don't have to live that life.
They don't have to be out there struggling. You know,
if I can give somebody that's strungth and hope, like
you know people have given me, to let them know
they can believe in themselves. And if I can make
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this through daycare, because I was there and back and
up the corner, down the corner, down the street, up
the hill, every which way possible, and I'm here. You know,
I got a good job, I got my own place.
I mean, you know, if I can do it, they
can do it. Now. If I can encourage somebody to
give them that strength, I want.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So if one of my listeners, Honey is listening right now,
who's struggling with addiction, alcoholism, drug addiction, crack, math, oxy porn, gambling,
what would you, as somebody who's been around the block
and came out alive, what would you say to them?
Speaker 4 (20:29):
Don't give up, don't give up that there is glory
around the corner. You just don't give up. You know
it may not look good today, but tomorrow it's going
to be an awesome day. You know it's going to
be a great day. Don't they think I could say
don't give up, please just keep the face.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
So what what got you to that point where you
decided that you were tired of sick and tired of
being sick and tired?
Speaker 3 (20:53):
You know.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
It's strange because the person that I was with, they
was getting, you know, and getting high to it, and
somehow God made it away so that they had to
go to jail. And my daughter she came to the house.
She said, Mama, getting you out of here now. And
I don't think if that person went to jail, I
would or not have came out. But my daughter came
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and she said, she put me on a plane, she
brought me here to tex and here I am. That's
what got me in. I had turned back since I
haven't been back since.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
So maybe it was an angel that led your partner
to jail, that opened that door so you could think
clearly yes, And do you know if they have gotten
their act together?
Speaker 4 (21:37):
I don't know. I really don't know. I the less
I heard they were trying, but I don't know how
far they have gotten. But all I know is I'm
not never ever gone back, you know, And if I
can encourage that person to stringen up their act and
you know, be strong, and you know, there's nothing out there.
You know, there's nothing out there for you. And if
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I can tell them that, I would, so I'd rather
stay a distance from that person.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Good for you. Wow, you have got a whole lot
of wisdom to share.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
God that brought me so far, you know, and like
I said with my daughter, be my inspiration to you know. Oh,
I've got a story that I know, I got a
testimony that could change a lot of people's lives. And
like I said, I'm born to school. Now. Hopefully you know,
I can reach out to at least one person, that's all.
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I need, one person so that one person can spread
it to another person. And God knows where this world
would be with a lot of people that's out there using.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Well, I'm going to say a prayer that God opens
those doors that you're able to do that counseling, because
I can tell your joy is infectious.
Speaker 4 (22:49):
Yes, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Your joy, your hope, your hope for the future. God says,
I know the plans that I have for you. I
know the plans plans for a whole but in the future,
plans to prosper you. You you not only know that
you live it.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Yes, yes, like my daughter always tell me, Mom, because
I heard, like you know, I we talking about certain
things that happened in the past, and she said, Mom,
I'm glad that you went through what you went through,
because maybe I wouldn't be where I am today. Like
I said, she's a teacher, you know, she's adulter, she's
doors great, she got her daughter into gymnastic and dance
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and you know, and she say, everything happened for a reason.
I had to go through what I had to go
through in order to be where I am right now today.
So you know, like I said, she's so expirational to me,
and I just want to continue to inspire everybody else,
you know, just every day, every day, every day, every day.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
God bless you, honey. Thank you for calling and sharing
your hope with others.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
Thank you so much, and the a lot of you
are awesome. I don't believe I finally got through. I
don't believe it. But thank you so much and keep
doing what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Wow, just wow, Well what do you say? Oh my goodness,
Linda and her kids an absolute miracle, What an inspiration
Linda is. Thank you God for her life. Before we
close this episode, I want to acknowledge that many of
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you listening, do not have a loving relationship with your mom? Maybe,
like Wilmadine, my mom, she's gone to be with God.
Maybe she isn't a part of your life because of abuse,
because of mental illness, because of addictions. I want you
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to know, I understand, I really do, how painful that is.
I also want you to know that the Lord loves
you so very much, so much, even with that huge
mother wound in your soul. With prayer, with faith, turn
that pain into purpose to all the moms out there,
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and the dads that have to be moms that have
chosen to take on this role of love. I know
how much you give of yourself, the sacrifices you make.
I know I know the sacrifices you make, the tears
you cry, how you close the door and don't want
your children to hear you sobbing, how you put on
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a happy face so they never know the weight that
you are under. It is all worth it. I promise you.
There is no stronger love on this earth than the
love of a mother. Lord. Bless all of you. Thank
you for joining me today, and remember, if you want
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to share your story, if you want to share your faith,
if you need a prayer. Call me in the evening
Monday through Friday one eight eight, eight, six, three, three,
five four or five to Two'll find me in my studio.
I will be back next week. But until then, remember
the Lord loves you even more than your mama does,
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so never forget to have a little faith
Speaker 3 (26:14):
Delight
Hello, my friend. Welcome, Welcome to have a little faith
with Delilah. Today we're going to talk about motherhood. I
think motherhood is sacred. I know motherhood is sacred. Being
a mom, raising kids closest thing to doing God's job
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that there is. In my opinion, it's sacred. God loves, loves, loves,
loves mamas. He loves blessing us. He loves healing us,
he loves empowering us. He loves coming alongside us. Sometimes
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he loves challenging us. I was blessed to have a
mom that loved me fiercely. She was a little Cray Cray. Okay,
she was a lot Craig Cray. And the older I get,
the more I realize, Man, my mom had some crazy
ways of dealing with the pain in her life. Today
(01:09):
we've got therapy and support groups and books and talk
shows and all that stuff to help you deal with
childhood trauma and abuse and neglecting, addictions and blah blah blah.
But when my mom was growing up, they didn't have
any of that. She didn't have access to any of that.
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But no matter what, no matter what bad choices my
mom might have made, she loved us fiercely, and we
knew that every day of our life, my mom loved
me more than life. I knew that I never went
to sleep a night in my life that I didn't
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know that. I know that I know that my Mama
loved me. I was in my mid thirties when God
called her home. I was blessed to have her for
those years, thirty five years. But when God called my
mom home, I didn't think I would ever recover. I
hurt so bad and I missed her so much. She
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was my biggest cheerleader. She was the person I wanted
to call whenever I had great news or good news,
or whenever I had bad news and I needed to
bounce something off. She was who I called, She was
who I turned to, and we certainly didn't always see
eye to eye. There was a couple of years I
didn't even talk to her. I was so mad. I
(02:41):
just shut down. I distanced myself. It took us a
lot of work and a lot of tears and a
lot of talking to work through that. And thank God
that we did before she was diagnosed with cancer, before
God called her home. Today, have a little faith with Delilah.
(03:02):
We're going to hear from some moms. A few moms
that I'm going to share with you in this episode.
These women are all in very different situations in life.
Up first, I want to share a conversation that I
had with Tiffany, who is calling to honor both her
son and his birth mom. Let's hear from Tiffany right now. Hi, Tiffany,
(03:27):
what can I do to make you a night special?
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Request? A song for my oldest son's birth mom?
Speaker 1 (03:33):
How old is your oldest son?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
He is seven and a half.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
And how old was he when God brought him into
your arms?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Away? He brought him home from the hospital.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Oh awesome.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah, I actually called about two years ago and talked
to you when we had just gotten our twins. All
three of our children are adopted, and so we just
I called and talked to you a couple of years ago,
and I've called a bunch of times, but she's just
really been on my heart. Last week was his Gotcha
(04:04):
day what we call it, and I just wanted to
call on your quest a song for her?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Do you want to share her first name?
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yes, her name is Samantha.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
All right, we'll honor Samantha and all the birth bombs
letting us have the honor of loving their babies and
raising the ones they brought into the world.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Absolutely, absolutely, And how old are the twins? The twins
they're too a.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Welcome to the terrific twos.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
We are very very busy.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Very busy, very very busy.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Well, the night before the adoption was final, she said
she was listening to your show and she heard the
Tarzan song and she knew that she was making the
right choice. And so that song has always been very
very special to us.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
So God used that song, especially the lyrics of that song,
to give her the courage to do what must have
been breaking her heart. Yes, ma'am, hmm, now you're gonna
make me cry. I'm sorry, aren't we so blessed?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I can't even put into words how blessed we are?
You cannot even put them into words.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Until you've you've built a family through adoption. You just don't.
You just don't get it. You're right, you know, I
don't remember if I was as naive as other people.
But when people say to the me, you know which
ones are your real kids?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
All of them?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I'm like, are you kidding me? Or people will they
just say such strange strange things. When my son Sammy passed,
I lost count of the number of people who said, well,
thank goodness, it wasn't one of your real kids.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Yeah, that's yeah. My husband and I have a ministry.
We go around and speak to churches about foster care
and adoption and you so, I'm sure you've heard some
of the same things as well. You would just wouldn't
be you'd be shocked to hear some of the things
that people say.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
With thirteen and having fostered as many as I have
and adopted ten, we could share, you know, compare notes
at the foolish, heartless things that people say. But I
choose to believe it's out of ignorance, not out of cruelty, right, absolutely.
(06:27):
I don't want to believe that people really is cruel
as they come across when they say things like that,
I choose to believe that they're just ignorant. Yeah, So
thank you for having a ministry to help people understand.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Well, thank you for yours as well.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And when you look back through history, I mean, let's
think about it.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Jesus was adopted Jesus, you know, Queen Esther Moses.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Adoption is at the very heart of how God loves
us that we are adopted to be his own. All Right, Tiffany,
You'll be my heart for Samantha and all the birth
moms listening tonight. The next mom I'm going to share
with you is a conversation that I had with Stacy.
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Her daughter is truly amazing, and Stacy wants to sing
her praises right now.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Hi, this is Stacy. I cannot believe I got through.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Hi, Stacy.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I listened to her so like all the time, every day,
and I've never got through, never in years and we're
not in years.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Well, I'm sorry you never got through in the past,
but I'm glad you're here tonight. What can I do
to make your night special?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Well, I just wanted a short, little quick thing.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
I won't go into much detail.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
But there is my daughter who I had on brain
surgery in two thousand and three, and she helped bring
me back, like because I had to re learn everything,
I mean adding driving a car, the whole business, right,
and she took over everything when she was fifteen. Wow,
(08:10):
I'm paying the bills. Hi, I'm doing this. Hi, I'm
doing that.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
And at fifteen. Yeah, I have a fifteen year old
daughter I'm just trying to picture her taking over something
like I don't know, open end feeing out the dishwasher. Well, yeah,
that doesn't happen. I'm like, honey, put away the dishes. Honey,
please put away honey? Can you please put a put
away the dishes?
Speaker 2 (08:40):
I just you know, people come along in your life.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
I truly believe this.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
It's save you.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
And by that, I don't mean like they give their
life over you know what I mean for you and
do everything, but they help bring you to be a
better person, you know, and me so much. And I'm
I'm just so proud of her and I love her
and I think she's fantastic. And you know, one day
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your mom can do all the billing and the next
Dacey's like what what what?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
So why did you have brain surgery? Can I ask?
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (09:18):
I had a brain tumor.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
It was acoustic neuroma that had grown out of the
right side of my ear and onto the brain stem
and was basically taking all the blood out of the
like the jugular vein back there. And now you're okay,
I'm good. I'm really good. I'm really good. Lots of therapy,
I mean, five years of physical therapy, and then I
(09:41):
had some like therapy, so I didn't open my big mouth,
because when I got out of surgery, I had a
very big mouth. I had no frontal guidance at all, whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
No no filter.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Nope.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Do you want to know what's amazing, what's happened. I've
never had brain surgery, and I struggle with the same problem.
A thought forms in my head and it spills out
of my mouth before I can stop it.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
Well, sometimes that happens, but you know, I mean, there's
for me, there's moments that I don't have to like
intentionally like hurt somebody just because I can say.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
It, you know.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Anyway, She just she's been so great to me, and
she's done so much for me and helped me learn
how to handle money again and how to do all
these things. And I'm just amazed.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
And how old is she today?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Thirty five?
Speaker 5 (10:38):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (10:39):
So you guys have been through it. You have been
through it.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
She's amazing.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
She's amazing, and you know, there's ups and downs and
give and take, and but we always find a way
to make it.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
What's her name, Stacy, Her name is Caitlin.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
And you know what, I just want you to know
your So it's so newt right now, and at least
for me, I feel like it is because I don't
watch the news then, you know what I mean. I
listen to the stories and the music and you know,
and that helps put me in a better headspace than anything.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
I love it. So it works for me, and I
love it.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
If you watch the news, honey, you're gonna get scared
to death. It's terrifying.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Yeah, I'm like, you know what, uh huh, that's I
can't have that in my head.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
So, but she's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
She's just the best, I mean, just the best, the best.
I knew when she was born that she was special,
and I just didn't realize how special. You know. She's
just and never belittled me or made me feel bad.
She's the best person ever, like ever, like better than me,
(11:49):
a hundred million times better. So I went great things
for her.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Let me play that song for you. Thank you for
calling you have a great night.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
You too, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
You know. One of the things I love most about
doing this show is the fact that it is a
generational show. What do I mean by that? I mean
parents listen, grandparents used to listen or still listen if
they're here. Kids listen now grandkids are listening, and I
(12:25):
love that. I love when people say, oh my gosh,
you remind me of my mama because we used to
listen when I was a kid in the car, and
now I've got my own kids or my own grandkids.
I love sharing words of wisdom or encouragement with generations.
I love being a part of your family. And in
(12:47):
just a moment, I'm going to celebrate with a sweet
woman who is thinking and appreciating her mama. She is
so appreciative of the time that she has despite the
challenges with her sweet mama. That call and song are
(13:08):
coming up next. Hi, Angela, Welcome to the Delilah Show.
Who is on your heart tonight?
Speaker 4 (13:16):
I don't have a.
Speaker 5 (13:17):
Lot of people, but one in particular, which is my mom.
She battles every day with short term memory, and every
time I see her, I just thank God for letting her.
Speaker 4 (13:31):
See me still the way a mother should see their child.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
And I mean, it's heartbreaking to see her drift slowly
with her memory, but I know it's the way life
is when you're a certain age.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
So has your mom got dementia?
Speaker 5 (13:47):
She has short term memory. I mean, she takes medicine
for it to slow it down a little bit. But
I'm just very blessed to still have her on earth
with me and just share many memories.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
So you're close with Mama, and it's breaking your heart
to see her struggle with the short term memory, but
you're enjoying and rejoicing in the blessing that she's still alive.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Can I ask how old your mom is? Early eighty? Wow,
So you are very blessed, Angela. What's her name, Karen?
I will play a song to let her know how
much you cherish her and thank you for being grateful
for every moment. I wish and I wish more people
had that attitude if they only knew how everything can
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change in an instant.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Oh yeah, and some of us go through just wondering.
And it's not even just wondering, it's just you love
the people like your parents, like I do with my mom.
I mean, she she says, I'm so sorry I'm a
burden to you. You're not a burden.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
You took care of me. Now it's my churn to
take care of you. Well, I'm going to play a
sweet song for your Mama, you have a great night.
Thank you for calling. The last color I want to
share is a woman named Linda. While she always had
the love of her kids, she found herself in a
(15:16):
whole lot of trouble. Linda chose love, Linda chose God.
Let's hear her remarkable story right now.
Speaker 4 (15:26):
It's for Grenda. How you doing?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Like Hi, Linda, I'm wonderful. What can I do for you? Oh?
Speaker 4 (15:31):
I listened to you like forever and I don't believe
I finally got through. I try every night on my
boy coming home from work. But I'm glad I got
through tonight because I just like to send a song
out to my door. She's my inspiration, She's my everything.
I've been through a lot, but she's always always always
been there for me to everything I have to her
(15:55):
through my kid is through. I mean, she was always
there and I just want to send a specially out
to her.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
All Right, Linda, what's your daughter's name, Lashan? And what
is the toughest thing that you say you said you
put them through. What's the toughest thing they had to
go through? Mama bear, I've been do that and back.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
I'll put it like that I've been them back and
I've been cleaned for like fifteen years. And through those
times before I got clean, I mean I took them
through Helen back and my daughter was always there with me, always,
and she just stood buy me. I believe in me.
And if it wasn't for her, I don't know where
(16:34):
I would be right now.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
So how old was your your daughter when you got clean?
When you came back.
Speaker 4 (16:41):
She's forty now, so I guess around twenty nine thirty.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
And is she loving having her mama back?
Speaker 4 (16:49):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (16:49):
She loved it.
Speaker 4 (16:50):
We talked twenty four hours, seven days a week, and
she tells me everything, and I tell her, Lashan, you
don't have to tell me everything. Just teach some things
to yourself, you know. But I mean we have the
greatest relationship. You know, so many people envy us because
they wish they had a relationship like my daughter and I.
But you know, through the time when I did get clean,
(17:12):
I mean it was still with some rough patches to
go through, and you know, but like I said, she
was there every step of the way. She's just she's
my everything, She's my be ups up. I mean, it's
like she's my heart and I love her so much.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I had someone say to me when I was when
I was young and uh, making crazy decisions. And I
had a little boy, he's he's a police officer. Now
he's all grown up. But I had somebody say to me,
he is your little rudder. And I said what. And
they said, a ship, a huge ship, has a tiny
(17:48):
little rudder that helps them to steer. And without that
little rudder, the ship would run aground or crash. And
they said, your son is your rudder. God gave you
that child was such a good heart to be your
rudder to make sure your life was steering in the
right direction. And it's true, and it sounds to me
like like this, this this daughter was a gift from
(18:11):
God to be your rudder.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
She is she is, I mean, she's my everything. She's
every my heart. And you know what the worst part is,
I have two other kids and and they just they
just been there, you know, just as much as my daughter.
But there's something about my daughter. It's just like I
just can't describe, you know. And now she's got a
daughter on her off her on she's five years old,
(18:34):
you know, and she's a teacher, and you know, she
just she's just so inspiration to me. She's my everything.
I mean, I look up to her. It should be
the other other way around, but I look up to her,
and she just she's always, always, always there, you know.
And and if I can give her the world, I
will give her everything in this world that her heart,
(18:54):
her heart desire. I mean, you just don't know how
my heart grew up to her, you know. And you
know she's she's doing good. She's a teacher, she got
her own little you know daughter now, which she'll be
turning five pretty soon. And you know, she's everything to me.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
You are a blessed, blessed woman.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Yes, I am towe, blessed, chewing blessed, and I just
want to send out aspicious soul for her, you know,
and just let her know I love her so much.
I love all of my kids. I love I love them,
I love them.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
God bless you, honey. I'm so glad you found your
way to sobriety.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Yes I am too. I will never turn back from
not at all. And then like I'm going to school
now to be a counselor so that I can chose
somebody and tell somebody they don't have to live that life.
They don't have to be out there struggling. You know,
if I can give somebody that's strungth and hope, like
you know people have given me, to let them know
they can believe in themselves. And if I can make
(19:53):
this through daycare, because I was there and back and
up the corner, down the corner, down the street, up
the hill, every which way possible, and I'm here. You know,
I got a good job, I got my own place.
I mean, you know, if I can do it, they
can do it. Now. If I can encourage somebody to
give them that strength, I want.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
To do that.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
So if one of my listeners, Honey is listening right now,
who's struggling with addiction, alcoholism, drug addiction, crack, math, oxy porn, gambling,
what would you, as somebody who's been around the block
and came out alive, what would you say to them?
Speaker 4 (20:29):
Don't give up, don't give up that there is glory
around the corner. You just don't give up. You know
it may not look good today, but tomorrow it's going
to be an awesome day. You know it's going to
be a great day. Don't they think I could say
don't give up, please just keep the face.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
So what what got you to that point where you
decided that you were tired of sick and tired of
being sick and tired?
Speaker 3 (20:53):
You know.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
It's strange because the person that I was with, they
was getting, you know, and getting high to it, and
somehow God made it away so that they had to
go to jail. And my daughter she came to the house.
She said, Mama, getting you out of here now. And
I don't think if that person went to jail, I
would or not have came out. But my daughter came
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and she said, she put me on a plane, she
brought me here to tex and here I am. That's
what got me in. I had turned back since I
haven't been back since.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
So maybe it was an angel that led your partner
to jail, that opened that door so you could think
clearly yes, And do you know if they have gotten
their act together?
Speaker 4 (21:37):
I don't know. I really don't know. I the less
I heard they were trying, but I don't know how
far they have gotten. But all I know is I'm
not never ever gone back, you know, And if I
can encourage that person to stringen up their act and
you know, be strong, and you know, there's nothing out there.
You know, there's nothing out there for you. And if
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I can tell them that, I would, so I'd rather
stay a distance from that person.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Good for you. Wow, you have got a whole lot
of wisdom to share.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
God that brought me so far, you know, and like
I said with my daughter, be my inspiration to you know. Oh,
I've got a story that I know, I got a
testimony that could change a lot of people's lives. And
like I said, I'm born to school. Now. Hopefully you know,
I can reach out to at least one person, that's all.
(22:30):
I need, one person so that one person can spread
it to another person. And God knows where this world
would be with a lot of people that's out there using.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Well, I'm going to say a prayer that God opens
those doors that you're able to do that counseling, because
I can tell your joy is infectious.
Speaker 4 (22:49):
Yes, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:50):
Your joy, your hope, your hope for the future. God says,
I know the plans that I have for you. I
know the plans plans for a whole but in the future,
plans to prosper you. You you not only know that
you live it.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Yes, yes, like my daughter always tell me, Mom, because
I heard, like you know, I we talking about certain
things that happened in the past, and she said, Mom,
I'm glad that you went through what you went through,
because maybe I wouldn't be where I am today. Like
I said, she's a teacher, you know, she's adulter, she's
doors great, she got her daughter into gymnastic and dance
(23:26):
and you know, and she say, everything happened for a reason.
I had to go through what I had to go
through in order to be where I am right now today.
So you know, like I said, she's so expirational to me,
and I just want to continue to inspire everybody else,
you know, just every day, every day, every day, every day.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
God bless you, honey. Thank you for calling and sharing
your hope with others.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
Thank you so much, and the a lot of you
are awesome. I don't believe I finally got through. I
don't believe it. But thank you so much and keep
doing what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Wow, just wow, Well what do you say? Oh my goodness,
Linda and her kids an absolute miracle, What an inspiration
Linda is. Thank you God for her life. Before we
close this episode, I want to acknowledge that many of
(24:19):
you listening, do not have a loving relationship with your mom? Maybe,
like Wilmadine, my mom, she's gone to be with God.
Maybe she isn't a part of your life because of abuse,
because of mental illness, because of addictions. I want you
(24:40):
to know, I understand, I really do, how painful that is.
I also want you to know that the Lord loves
you so very much, so much, even with that huge
mother wound in your soul. With prayer, with faith, turn
that pain into purpose to all the moms out there,
(25:05):
and the dads that have to be moms that have
chosen to take on this role of love. I know
how much you give of yourself, the sacrifices you make.
I know I know the sacrifices you make, the tears
you cry, how you close the door and don't want
your children to hear you sobbing, how you put on
(25:27):
a happy face so they never know the weight that
you are under. It is all worth it. I promise you.
There is no stronger love on this earth than the
love of a mother. Lord. Bless all of you. Thank
you for joining me today, and remember, if you want
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to share your story, if you want to share your faith,
if you need a prayer. Call me in the evening
Monday through Friday one eight eight, eight, six, three, three,
five four or five to Two'll find me in my studio.
I will be back next week. But until then, remember
the Lord loves you even more than your mama does,
(26:09):
so never forget to have a little faith
Speaker 3 (26:14):
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