July 2, 2025 • 22 mins
This episode is all about broken commitments and promises. It’s about knowing when it is time to let go, and yes breaking up is hard to do. Sometimes it is so necessary and I promise you, God will get you through it. The folks I’m featuring today on this podcast are very willing to share their heartbreak but also their strength, their resilience and their hope for the future.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, My faithful friends. See what I just
did there. This is a podcast about having faith, but
so many of you are just always faithful friends. You're
from every race, creed, color, religious background, every area, and
(00:22):
you always lift me up and you always say incredibly
kind things and you show that you appreciate me. But
guess what, I appreciate you. I need this relationship, these friendships,
as much as you need them. Your love strengthens my
faith every single day. This podcast Have a Little Faith
(00:44):
with Delilah is uh an audio place that I want
to use as a way to help build a community,
a community where people can reach out and honestly share
without fear of haters or being mocked. When you share something,
you might never understand how many people you're touching. When
(01:08):
you're honest, when you're transparent, when you say this is
my issue, this is my struggle, or this is the
struggle I went through and some of the steps to
get me to the other side, you are helping pave
the way. You are helping clear the path for a
multitude of people perhaps following behind you. We all have
(01:29):
moments when we want to isolate. Sometimes we need to
isolate there are times when we hurt so bad we
just need to be alone with God. And then there
are times we want to pretend that we're not going
through and stuff. We want to just pretend like everything
is okay, and we want to stick our head in
(01:51):
the sand. When I'm feeling like that, I go to
the garden. I go to the garden, and there I
find God. I go to the the creek, I go
to the mountain. I go out in nature. I find
my connection with the Almighty and I let him speak
to me. There's an old hymn that says I went
(02:13):
to the garden alone while the dew was still on
the roses, and he walks with me, and he talks
with me, and he tells me I am his own.
This podcast is about that kind of relationship. It's not
about religion. It's about an intimate, personal, amazing, fulfilling, life
(02:39):
changing relationship in your heart, a transformation of your heart
by the one who made your heart. And this episode
is all about broken commitments and promises. It's about knowing
when it is time to let go. Yes, breaking up
is hard to do, but sometimes it is Son, And
(03:00):
I promise you God will get you through it. The
folks I'm featuring today on this podcast are very willing
to share their heartbreak but also their strength, their resilience.
And we are going to kick off today's episode from
a young woman named Nicki. Hi, Nikki, welcome, Welcome to
(03:20):
have a little faith. What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I've been listening to you since I've been little, to
listen to my mom all the time and afterward, actual
a lot in the evenion when I get off work,
so I'll listen to you every night.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
But wait, wait, wait, wait, why are you door dashing
if you are working?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Because I'm going through a really bad divorce and I
kind of lost everything, so kind of starting over from nothing.
But it'll be all right.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
How long were you married?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Five years?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Five years? And when you say you lost everything, I
mean besides your heart? What are we talking here? My home,
my car.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I just bought a new car, so you know, I'm
staying with my daughter now, looking for a place. It's
a bad divorce. It's cheated only several times. I took
him back several times and just got to the point
I can't do it no more. Just like I've been
beat down, you know, till like I didn't even know
who I was anymore.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Put your shoulders back and take a deep breath. Yep,
now repeat after me. Are you ready? I am royalty,
I am royalty. I am a daughter of the King
of Kings.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I am a daughter of the King of Kings.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I am a daughter of the God Most High.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
I am a daughter of the God Most High.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And never again will I settle for less.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Never again will I settle for less.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Ooh, I like the emphasis there. I never never, ever
ever Nope. Good for you? All right? What can I
do to make your night a little sweeter? Nikki?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Pick me a good song?
Speaker 1 (05:01):
All right? And have you gotten past gotten over the liar, liar,
pants on fire, the cheater, cheater where you meet her?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I'm getting there.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Just stay by day.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm getting there. Every day's a little easier. Toughest part, Oh,
the toughest part is I guess that not being alone
when you're used to being with somebody.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I knew you were going to say that. Do you
know why my show is so successful? Because at night
is when the it's it's when the monsters come out
from under the bed, it's when the lonely creeps out,
It's when the self doubts show up.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
It is those those were the things that made it
so easy to take him back. I guess all the
other times.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Well, you're not going to do that again, though, You're
never going to allow somebody to treat you like that,
right right? Never?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
No, never.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
And when mister oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean
to it was an accident, when he comes docking, what
are you going to say? No?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
But because he's not sorry and he has no remorse.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
If he's sorry, he's sorry that he got caught.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, that's again, that's the only thing you're sorry about.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Mm hmmm. I will play a sweet song, Nikki, just
for you, for you and every other woman and man
who's going wait a second. I deserve so much better.
I deserve to be treated with love and compassion. I
deserve to be if I'm going to be in a relationship,
I deserve to have an honest relationship that's built on
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trust exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I deserve to get what I give out.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Don't forget you are royalty.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I am royalty.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
God bless you, honey, Wow, just wow. What can I say?
NICKI was afraid to lose everything, but all she lost
were things, Things come, things go. What a wise young woman.
She knew enough to choose her serenity, her peace, and
quite possibly her sanity over things. NICKI. Kudos to you
(07:04):
working two jobs and leaning on people who love truly
love you, Nikki. God will restore everything that you have lost.
You just need to have a little faith. Okay, Up next,
I have a call I want to share with you
from Angel. Angel is actually responding to Nicki who she
(07:24):
heard on my radio program and mile mind. Does Angel
have a story of her own? And we are going
to share that story right now. Angel. What can I
do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Delilah, I like to say quickly that I was in
a store just now and heard you on the radio,
and I said, what station is that? And the young
lady told me, and the message that you gave to
the young lady that you were talking to it was
like you were speaking to me, but I didn't hear
the whole conversation. So I want to say to you
that I have been in a relationship on and off
for sixteen years with an habitual cheater who isn't good
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at it. For the last six months he has not
been in the home, but he is trying his very
best to come back. In these last six months, every
other day I catch him in some lie. Today I
ask him, why do you continue to lie to me?
And he didn't have an answer for me. So my
(08:20):
question to you is probably what I already know. But
sometimes you just need to hear things from other people, strangers. Actually,
I know that I should probably let go, but it
is really, really hard. It's been sixteen years, and no
matter what I do, no matter how I beg, no
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matter if I'm good or if I'm bad, he continues
to lie. He continues to manipulate and deceive me. But
I keep holding on by a thread, and I need
to know what the problem is other than me.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Here's the problem. Angel. In the last minute and and half,
you basically just told me that you are in a
relationship with someone who's acting like a snake, a snake
in the grass. But he's trying to convince you that no, no, no,
he's a codly little kitten. He's not. You know how
(09:18):
I know that. I know that because a person shows
you by their actions who they truly are. Their words
might say one thing, but if their actions show you
something else, believe they're actions. They might have all the
right words, but people are not what they say they are.
(09:40):
They are who they are what they do. You are
an incredibly intelligent, articulate woman. I don't know what your
career is, but I know you're successful at it. I
know that you are faithful to a fault, that once
you commit to a job, or to a friendship, or
to a church or to an organization, you give it
(10:02):
one hundred and ten percent. You are somebody that everybody
can count on. But when you were small, when you
were young, when you were birth to four or five,
you were shown that love hurts, And so the language
of love that you speak is not really love at all.
(10:22):
It's called a trauma bond, and you have a super
glue trauma bond to someone who does not respect you
one dmy diny little bit.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Everything you just said is absolutely correct, And in saying that,
I also acknowledge the fact that it's not just him,
it is me too, for all the same reasons that
you said, I am so accustomed to pain, it's natural
for me. I get that in my mind. I understand that.
In my mind. At the same time, I'm saying to myself,
(11:00):
I have more years behind me than I have ahead
of me. This thing is not changing. It's been sixteen years,
and like you said, it's the snake and it's not
it's not the furry little fat No.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
He sheds his skin, you know, once every every few
months and makes a promise. Oh baby, I promise. I'm sorry,
I'm sorry, I promise. It's not like that. I love you,
You're You're the one I love. They don't mean nothing.
I just can't help myself, but I promise.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Are you in my house?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
I had your man back in the day I married him.
I promise. No, I love you. I love you.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
You're everything to me. And then the next thing I know,
I'm fighting a pair of ear rings on my window
sill that did not belong to me. Why are there
ear rings on my bedroom windowsill window?
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Yes? Well, like I said, sometimes it takes coming from
a stranger to get the message. I get the message.
Every day I'm getting further and further away. I am
really getting further and further away. But it's like when
I do that, it's like he's pushing harder and harder.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
So in contact, into all contact with this person, you
need to cut you don't. You don't put a snake
on a leash and take it for a walk. You don't.
You don't build a little snake cage and say, okay,
you viper, you just sleep in this cage. I'm gonna
leave the door open in case you decide to come
out and snuggle.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
No, consider it done. I cut that off today. And
I know you've probably heard that before from a lot
of your callers, but I understand that no contact is
a real thing. And because I haven't had no contact,
I continue to give him bits and pieces when he calls,
when he's in his feelings, and you know he's going
through this because I'm not in it.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
And he has a pet name for you that nobody
else has, and he just says it one time, and
it's just you. You melt like butter. You melt like
butter on hot toast on a hot biscuit. You can't
help it. Or he'll bring up a joke that nobody
else understands but you, and all of a sudden, all
of a sudden, you can't help yourself. You start thinking,
(13:12):
oh my gosh, oh my gosh, what am I doing?
I need you in my life. No you don't. He's
a snake. He's hissing, he's hissing. I couldn't do it.
I didn't have one more heartbreak in me.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I don't either, And Jelilah, I want to thank you
for taking the time to talk to me today. The
fact I knew I would get into you today because
I kept calling and the line was busy. I said,
I'm gonna wait to this time and the phone's gonna ring,
and that's exactly what happened. I appreciate your talking to me.
I'm gonna call you again in about a month or
so and let you know I went hard no contact.
(13:48):
I'm tired and I'm ready and I know that God
has something out of me for me, but I continue
to block my blessings because I continue to let the
snake be around. So again, thank you for talking to
me tonight. And I just want to say, if it's
any other listener, and there are thousands that are listening,
we can do this thing. Right here. I said to myself,
(14:10):
I'm going to start a podcast and call it The
Never Ending Breakup, because I've been breaking up for about
five years. Thank you so much, God, bless you.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Here's what I want you to remember. Angel. I want
you to remember that your name means something.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
An angel is a messenger of the most High God.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Before you were born, before the foundations of this earth
were laid, he saw you, he knew you, he knit
you together in your mother's womb. You are fearfully and
wonderfully made. And because of that, because you are a
daughter of the King of kings, you deserve to be
(14:59):
t treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Thank you, Yes, yes, but no more, no more.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
And I promise you that I believe you.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Thank you, thank you, Thank you for having this program.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
And here's the thing. Angel. You have a heart that
desires to be loved. And once you let your Father,
your heavenly Father, heal your heart, he will bring someone
into your life who is worthy of you.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
I know. But I gotta let go.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You gotta let go of the snake that's holding his place.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Consider it done. Thank you, Good.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Luck, God, bless you. Can I say a prayer for you, please,
Father God, I thank you for allowing Angel to get
through on the phone lines. I thank you, Lord God
for speaking to her heart, quickening her heart and saying,
call this woman, Call this woman. She's been where you are. Father.
I pray that you would restore her heart in the
same way that you restored mine. I pray that she
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would not make the same mistake again, that she would
wait on you. Those who wait upon the Lord will
renew their strength. They will rise as on the wings
of eagles. They will run and not grow weary, they
will walk and not grow faint. I pray, as she
runs the race of life, you will bring a partner
to her side, a man that is worthy of your daughter,
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this heavenly woman, this angel that brings so much joy
to so many other people, that she would be equally
yoked with a man who would bring joy to her.
I ask this in your precious your holy name. Amen.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Amen, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
He loves you, and I can tell you are the
kind of friend that makes life better, brighter, more joyful.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Try, and like I said, I'll talk to you in
thirty days again. At the same time, Thank you God, bless.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
You cling to the heavenly Father. And when you start,
when you start getting weak, when he uses those words
and you start to melt like better. God, no no, no, no, no,
no no. I hear you hissing. I'm not talking to you.
La la la la la again. Hear you block him.
We got fancy phones down block him.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Absolutely absolutely, and please. Like I said, I'm gonna follow
up with you. I'm gonna be one of your success stories.
And I mean that, I'm gonna be a success story.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
You are a success story, Honey, you are a success story.
You just got to find a real love instead of
a trauma bond.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Absolutely, thank you, delai Lah.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
All right, good night, good night. What a powerful call
from Angel. I don't know about you, but I think
she is more than ready now to trust God to
take her life back. I want to thank you Angel
for sharing your story, for being transparent in a way
that's real and true and helpful. So thank you for that.
The last call I want to share with you today
(18:12):
is from Mary Kate. She not only has gone through
relationship challenges, but a whole lot more. The good news
is that Mary Kate confronted her challenges and made it through.
Let's listen to this story right now. Hey Mary Kate,
what can I do for you today?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
Well, Delilah, I would love to talk about taking chances.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
I was online and I'm looking through profiles and saw
this profile and this man is a skier and a
scuba diver and a surfers a four hundred acre farm
and I'm in a wheelchair. So I thought, well, this
guy's ben't going to go for me. But his profile
picture was a full on Bonnie Prince Charlie kilt, and
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I'm a real cult file that thought, well, I'll take
a chance. I emailed him and said, hey, love the Kilts.
You know what's your clan. I'm Clan Stewart. And he
got back to me and said, oh, well your clan
chased my clan out of Scotland and Ireland. What am
I supposed to do with that? What does that mean?
I thought, well, I'll take another chance, okay, So we
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kept emailing, kept emailing, and finally talked on the phone
for the first time and for four hours, and then
about a month later we met in person and thereby
hangs a tail. We've been together for nine.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Years and does he still wear the kilt? For you?
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, you took a chance on love. You said, you
know what, I'll never know if I don't ask, I'll
never know I'll never find out if I don't take
a chance. And what are your favorite things to do
together besides you know, look at him in a kilt.
Speaker 5 (19:58):
Oh, we'd love to go to movies. We love to
just you know, hang out and talk. And we're actually
going to Ireland this summer and so it's you know,
we just love to do all kinds of things. And
I just want to say to everybody, and like you
just said, you know, take a chance. If you don't ask,
you don't get amen. Where they're closing the door, somewhere
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they're open the window. So that's what I try to
live my life by.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
I'm proud of the fact that you are encouraging others
to be bold and to live boldly.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
You've got and the lady that was on earlier about
the seventeen year marriage, I was like, God, that was
my marriage. I was in a marriage for seventeen years,
was living myself and said, no, I got to get
out of this. And I've found myself again and she
can too. So you just kind of keep on going, right.
You know that I listened to you all the time.
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You know that all very intimately.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Thank you for calling.
Speaker 5 (20:55):
Thank you Diana, talk to you later.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Bye bye, honey. Thank you to Nicki, to Angel, and
to Marry Kate for sharing their tremendous stories of overcoming
You know, not many people enter a commitment. I don't
know anybody. I have never met a person who entered
a commitment thinking it would come to an end, thinking
it would become too painful to sustain. But when you
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are in a relationship with someone who thinks that it
is okay to hurt you, okay to dismiss you, okay
to disrespect you, guess what it's not here is what
I know to be true. God doesn't want us in
abusive situations. He doesn't He doesn't want us wasting our lives,
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our love, our energy, trying to fix someone who doesn't
want to be fixed, trying to fill in the gaps
for somebody who's emotionally unavailable, who's too drunk, too tired,
too high, too stressed out, too busy, cheating, too busy lying,
or to sell fish to participate in the union. Let go.
(22:08):
Let God fix them because he is the only one
who can. And sometimes that means putting distance between you
and the person who is not respecting you. Thank you
for giving me your time today. I do not take
that for granted. Call me this evening, any evening Monday
through Friday, and we will talk about it, and we
(22:30):
will pray about it. One eight, eight, eighth, six, three, three, five,
four or five two. Follow and subscribe right now on
the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to
your podcast. I will be back next week. Until then,
remember to have a little faith be Lie
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, My faithful friends. See what I just
did there. This is a podcast about having faith, but
so many of you are just always faithful friends. You're
from every race, creed, color, religious background, every area, and
(00:22):
you always lift me up and you always say incredibly
kind things and you show that you appreciate me. But
guess what, I appreciate you. I need this relationship, these friendships,
as much as you need them. Your love strengthens my
faith every single day. This podcast Have a Little Faith
(00:44):
with Delilah is uh an audio place that I want
to use as a way to help build a community,
a community where people can reach out and honestly share
without fear of haters or being mocked. When you share something,
you might never understand how many people you're touching. When
(01:08):
you're honest, when you're transparent, when you say this is
my issue, this is my struggle, or this is the
struggle I went through and some of the steps to
get me to the other side, you are helping pave
the way. You are helping clear the path for a
multitude of people perhaps following behind you. We all have
(01:29):
moments when we want to isolate. Sometimes we need to
isolate there are times when we hurt so bad we
just need to be alone with God. And then there
are times we want to pretend that we're not going
through and stuff. We want to just pretend like everything
is okay, and we want to stick our head in
(01:51):
the sand. When I'm feeling like that, I go to
the garden. I go to the garden, and there I
find God. I go to the the creek, I go
to the mountain. I go out in nature. I find
my connection with the Almighty and I let him speak
to me. There's an old hymn that says I went
(02:13):
to the garden alone while the dew was still on
the roses, and he walks with me, and he talks
with me, and he tells me I am his own.
This podcast is about that kind of relationship. It's not
about religion. It's about an intimate, personal, amazing, fulfilling, life
(02:39):
changing relationship in your heart, a transformation of your heart
by the one who made your heart. And this episode
is all about broken commitments and promises. It's about knowing
when it is time to let go. Yes, breaking up
is hard to do, but sometimes it is Son, And
(03:00):
I promise you God will get you through it. The
folks I'm featuring today on this podcast are very willing
to share their heartbreak but also their strength, their resilience.
And we are going to kick off today's episode from
a young woman named Nicki. Hi, Nikki, welcome, Welcome to
(03:20):
have a little faith. What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I've been listening to you since I've been little, to
listen to my mom all the time and afterward, actual
a lot in the evenion when I get off work,
so I'll listen to you every night.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
But wait, wait, wait, wait, why are you door dashing
if you are working?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Because I'm going through a really bad divorce and I
kind of lost everything, so kind of starting over from nothing.
But it'll be all right.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
How long were you married?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Five years?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Five years? And when you say you lost everything, I
mean besides your heart? What are we talking here? My home,
my car.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I just bought a new car, so you know, I'm
staying with my daughter now, looking for a place. It's
a bad divorce. It's cheated only several times. I took
him back several times and just got to the point
I can't do it no more. Just like I've been
beat down, you know, till like I didn't even know
who I was anymore.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Put your shoulders back and take a deep breath. Yep,
now repeat after me. Are you ready? I am royalty,
I am royalty. I am a daughter of the King
of Kings.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I am a daughter of the King of Kings.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I am a daughter of the God Most High.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
I am a daughter of the God Most High.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
And never again will I settle for less.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Never again will I settle for less.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Ooh, I like the emphasis there. I never never, ever
ever Nope. Good for you? All right? What can I
do to make your night a little sweeter? Nikki?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Pick me a good song?
Speaker 1 (05:01):
All right? And have you gotten past gotten over the liar, liar,
pants on fire, the cheater, cheater where you meet her?
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I'm getting there.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Just stay by day.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I'm getting there. Every day's a little easier. Toughest part, Oh,
the toughest part is I guess that not being alone
when you're used to being with somebody.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I knew you were going to say that. Do you
know why my show is so successful? Because at night
is when the it's it's when the monsters come out
from under the bed, it's when the lonely creeps out,
It's when the self doubts show up.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
It is those those were the things that made it
so easy to take him back. I guess all the
other times.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Well, you're not going to do that again, though, You're
never going to allow somebody to treat you like that,
right right? Never?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
No, never.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
And when mister oh, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean
to it was an accident, when he comes docking, what
are you going to say? No?
Speaker 2 (05:59):
But because he's not sorry and he has no remorse.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
If he's sorry, he's sorry that he got caught.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, that's again, that's the only thing you're sorry about.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Mm hmmm. I will play a sweet song, Nikki, just
for you, for you and every other woman and man
who's going wait a second. I deserve so much better.
I deserve to be treated with love and compassion. I
deserve to be if I'm going to be in a relationship,
I deserve to have an honest relationship that's built on
(06:32):
trust exactly.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
I deserve to get what I give out.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Don't forget you are royalty.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I am royalty.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
God bless you, honey, Wow, just wow. What can I say?
NICKI was afraid to lose everything, but all she lost
were things, Things come, things go. What a wise young woman.
She knew enough to choose her serenity, her peace, and
quite possibly her sanity over things. NICKI. Kudos to you
(07:04):
working two jobs and leaning on people who love truly
love you, Nikki. God will restore everything that you have lost.
You just need to have a little faith. Okay, Up next,
I have a call I want to share with you
from Angel. Angel is actually responding to Nicki who she
(07:24):
heard on my radio program and mile mind. Does Angel
have a story of her own? And we are going
to share that story right now. Angel. What can I
do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Delilah, I like to say quickly that I was in
a store just now and heard you on the radio,
and I said, what station is that? And the young
lady told me, and the message that you gave to
the young lady that you were talking to it was
like you were speaking to me, but I didn't hear
the whole conversation. So I want to say to you
that I have been in a relationship on and off
for sixteen years with an habitual cheater who isn't good
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at it. For the last six months he has not
been in the home, but he is trying his very
best to come back. In these last six months, every
other day I catch him in some lie. Today I
ask him, why do you continue to lie to me?
And he didn't have an answer for me. So my
(08:20):
question to you is probably what I already know. But
sometimes you just need to hear things from other people, strangers. Actually,
I know that I should probably let go, but it
is really, really hard. It's been sixteen years, and no
matter what I do, no matter how I beg, no
(08:41):
matter if I'm good or if I'm bad, he continues
to lie. He continues to manipulate and deceive me. But
I keep holding on by a thread, and I need
to know what the problem is other than me.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Here's the problem. Angel. In the last minute and and half,
you basically just told me that you are in a
relationship with someone who's acting like a snake, a snake
in the grass. But he's trying to convince you that no, no, no,
he's a codly little kitten. He's not. You know how
(09:18):
I know that. I know that because a person shows
you by their actions who they truly are. Their words
might say one thing, but if their actions show you
something else, believe they're actions. They might have all the
right words, but people are not what they say they are.
(09:40):
They are who they are what they do. You are
an incredibly intelligent, articulate woman. I don't know what your
career is, but I know you're successful at it. I
know that you are faithful to a fault, that once
you commit to a job, or to a friendship, or
to a church or to an organization, you give it
(10:02):
one hundred and ten percent. You are somebody that everybody
can count on. But when you were small, when you
were young, when you were birth to four or five,
you were shown that love hurts, And so the language
of love that you speak is not really love at all.
(10:22):
It's called a trauma bond, and you have a super
glue trauma bond to someone who does not respect you
one dmy diny little bit.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
Everything you just said is absolutely correct, And in saying that,
I also acknowledge the fact that it's not just him,
it is me too, for all the same reasons that
you said, I am so accustomed to pain, it's natural
for me. I get that in my mind. I understand that.
In my mind. At the same time, I'm saying to myself,
(11:00):
I have more years behind me than I have ahead
of me. This thing is not changing. It's been sixteen years,
and like you said, it's the snake and it's not
it's not the furry little fat No.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
He sheds his skin, you know, once every every few
months and makes a promise. Oh baby, I promise. I'm sorry,
I'm sorry, I promise. It's not like that. I love you,
You're You're the one I love. They don't mean nothing.
I just can't help myself, but I promise.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Are you in my house?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
I had your man back in the day I married him.
I promise. No, I love you. I love you.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
You're everything to me. And then the next thing I know,
I'm fighting a pair of ear rings on my window
sill that did not belong to me. Why are there
ear rings on my bedroom windowsill window?
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Yes? Well, like I said, sometimes it takes coming from
a stranger to get the message. I get the message.
Every day I'm getting further and further away. I am
really getting further and further away. But it's like when
I do that, it's like he's pushing harder and harder.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
So in contact, into all contact with this person, you
need to cut you don't. You don't put a snake
on a leash and take it for a walk. You don't.
You don't build a little snake cage and say, okay,
you viper, you just sleep in this cage. I'm gonna
leave the door open in case you decide to come
out and snuggle.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
No, consider it done. I cut that off today. And
I know you've probably heard that before from a lot
of your callers, but I understand that no contact is
a real thing. And because I haven't had no contact,
I continue to give him bits and pieces when he calls,
when he's in his feelings, and you know he's going
through this because I'm not in it.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
And he has a pet name for you that nobody
else has, and he just says it one time, and
it's just you. You melt like butter. You melt like
butter on hot toast on a hot biscuit. You can't
help it. Or he'll bring up a joke that nobody
else understands but you, and all of a sudden, all
of a sudden, you can't help yourself. You start thinking,
(13:12):
oh my gosh, oh my gosh, what am I doing?
I need you in my life. No you don't. He's
a snake. He's hissing, he's hissing. I couldn't do it.
I didn't have one more heartbreak in me.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I don't either, And Jelilah, I want to thank you
for taking the time to talk to me today. The
fact I knew I would get into you today because
I kept calling and the line was busy. I said,
I'm gonna wait to this time and the phone's gonna ring,
and that's exactly what happened. I appreciate your talking to me.
I'm gonna call you again in about a month or
so and let you know I went hard no contact.
(13:48):
I'm tired and I'm ready and I know that God
has something out of me for me, but I continue
to block my blessings because I continue to let the
snake be around. So again, thank you for talking to
me tonight. And I just want to say, if it's
any other listener, and there are thousands that are listening,
we can do this thing. Right here. I said to myself,
(14:10):
I'm going to start a podcast and call it The
Never Ending Breakup, because I've been breaking up for about
five years. Thank you so much, God, bless you.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Here's what I want you to remember. Angel. I want
you to remember that your name means something.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
An angel is a messenger of the most High God.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Before you were born, before the foundations of this earth
were laid, he saw you, he knew you, he knit
you together in your mother's womb. You are fearfully and
wonderfully made. And because of that, because you are a
daughter of the King of kings, you deserve to be
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t treated with the utmost respect and dignity.
Speaker 3 (15:05):
Thank you, Yes, yes, but no more, no more.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
And I promise you that I believe you.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
Thank you, thank you, Thank you for having this program.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
And here's the thing. Angel. You have a heart that
desires to be loved. And once you let your Father,
your heavenly Father, heal your heart, he will bring someone
into your life who is worthy of you.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
I know. But I gotta let go.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
You gotta let go of the snake that's holding his place.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
Consider it done. Thank you, Good.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Luck, God, bless you. Can I say a prayer for you, please,
Father God, I thank you for allowing Angel to get
through on the phone lines. I thank you, Lord God
for speaking to her heart, quickening her heart and saying,
call this woman, Call this woman. She's been where you are. Father.
I pray that you would restore her heart in the
same way that you restored mine. I pray that she
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would not make the same mistake again, that she would
wait on you. Those who wait upon the Lord will
renew their strength. They will rise as on the wings
of eagles. They will run and not grow weary, they
will walk and not grow faint. I pray, as she
runs the race of life, you will bring a partner
to her side, a man that is worthy of your daughter,
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this heavenly woman, this angel that brings so much joy
to so many other people, that she would be equally
yoked with a man who would bring joy to her.
I ask this in your precious your holy name. Amen.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
Amen, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
He loves you, and I can tell you are the
kind of friend that makes life better, brighter, more joyful.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Try, and like I said, I'll talk to you in
thirty days again. At the same time, Thank you God, bless.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
You cling to the heavenly Father. And when you start,
when you start getting weak, when he uses those words
and you start to melt like better. God, no no, no, no, no,
no no. I hear you hissing. I'm not talking to you.
La la la la la again. Hear you block him.
We got fancy phones down block him.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Absolutely absolutely, and please. Like I said, I'm gonna follow
up with you. I'm gonna be one of your success stories.
And I mean that, I'm gonna be a success story.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
You are a success story, Honey, you are a success story.
You just got to find a real love instead of
a trauma bond.
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Absolutely, thank you, delai Lah.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
All right, good night, good night. What a powerful call
from Angel. I don't know about you, but I think
she is more than ready now to trust God to
take her life back. I want to thank you Angel
for sharing your story, for being transparent in a way
that's real and true and helpful. So thank you for that.
The last call I want to share with you today
(18:12):
is from Mary Kate. She not only has gone through
relationship challenges, but a whole lot more. The good news
is that Mary Kate confronted her challenges and made it through.
Let's listen to this story right now. Hey Mary Kate,
what can I do for you today?
Speaker 5 (18:29):
Well, Delilah, I would love to talk about taking chances.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (18:35):
I was online and I'm looking through profiles and saw
this profile and this man is a skier and a
scuba diver and a surfers a four hundred acre farm
and I'm in a wheelchair. So I thought, well, this
guy's ben't going to go for me. But his profile
picture was a full on Bonnie Prince Charlie kilt, and
(18:56):
I'm a real cult file that thought, well, I'll take
a chance. I emailed him and said, hey, love the Kilts.
You know what's your clan. I'm Clan Stewart. And he
got back to me and said, oh, well your clan
chased my clan out of Scotland and Ireland. What am
I supposed to do with that? What does that mean?
I thought, well, I'll take another chance, okay, So we
(19:19):
kept emailing, kept emailing, and finally talked on the phone
for the first time and for four hours, and then
about a month later we met in person and thereby
hangs a tail. We've been together for nine.
Speaker 1 (19:34):
Years and does he still wear the kilt? For you?
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, you took a chance on love. You said, you
know what, I'll never know if I don't ask, I'll
never know I'll never find out if I don't take
a chance. And what are your favorite things to do
together besides you know, look at him in a kilt.
Speaker 5 (19:58):
Oh, we'd love to go to movies. We love to
just you know, hang out and talk. And we're actually
going to Ireland this summer and so it's you know,
we just love to do all kinds of things. And
I just want to say to everybody, and like you
just said, you know, take a chance. If you don't ask,
you don't get amen. Where they're closing the door, somewhere
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they're open the window. So that's what I try to
live my life by.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
I'm proud of the fact that you are encouraging others
to be bold and to live boldly.
Speaker 5 (20:31):
You've got and the lady that was on earlier about
the seventeen year marriage, I was like, God, that was
my marriage. I was in a marriage for seventeen years,
was living myself and said, no, I got to get
out of this. And I've found myself again and she
can too. So you just kind of keep on going, right.
You know that I listened to you all the time.
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You know that all very intimately.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Thank you for calling.
Speaker 5 (20:55):
Thank you Diana, talk to you later.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Bye bye, honey. Thank you to Nicki, to Angel, and
to Marry Kate for sharing their tremendous stories of overcoming
You know, not many people enter a commitment. I don't
know anybody. I have never met a person who entered
a commitment thinking it would come to an end, thinking
it would become too painful to sustain. But when you
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are in a relationship with someone who thinks that it
is okay to hurt you, okay to dismiss you, okay
to disrespect you, guess what it's not here is what
I know to be true. God doesn't want us in
abusive situations. He doesn't He doesn't want us wasting our lives,
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our love, our energy, trying to fix someone who doesn't
want to be fixed, trying to fill in the gaps
for somebody who's emotionally unavailable, who's too drunk, too tired,
too high, too stressed out, too busy, cheating, too busy lying,
or to sell fish to participate in the union. Let go.
(22:08):
Let God fix them because he is the only one
who can. And sometimes that means putting distance between you
and the person who is not respecting you. Thank you
for giving me your time today. I do not take
that for granted. Call me this evening, any evening Monday
through Friday, and we will talk about it, and we
(22:30):
will pray about it. One eight, eight, eighth, six, three, three, five,
four or five two. Follow and subscribe right now on
the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to
your podcast. I will be back next week. Until then,
remember to have a little faith be Lie
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