August 27, 2025 • 34 mins
In today’s episode I want to share and explore a scripture with you. I know you’ve heard this so many times, probably at a wedding or an event. These are very important words.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It does not dishonor others. Love is never self seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongdoing. It doesn’t delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, and always hopes. It always perseveres. Love never fails…
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome back to have a Little Faith with Thelilah. Oh
my gosh, are you enjoying this podcast series as much
as my producer Janie and I are enjoying bringing it
to you. I feel unfettered. I feel free. I have horses,
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and when I was younger, I used to love to
take my horses to the beach, to ocean the shores
and run on the sand as fast and as far
as we could go along the edge of the water,
the surf crashing, the waves crashing, the horses running free.
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I would let go of the reins, I would hold
out my arms and I would just run with the
wind in my hair. The horse loved it. I loved it.
It was such a feeling of abandonment. When I picture heaven,
when I picture the rapture, when I picture joining my
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Lord and my sons and my brother and my parents
and everybody I love that's gone before me, that's what
I imagine it will feel like that total freedom, powerful,
no reins, no reins holding the horseback, no reins holding
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me back. And I got to be honest, that's kind
of how I feel in this new podcast where I
am free. I am free to say that the Lord
loves you unconditionally for eternity, and he tells us this
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through his word. Today, I want to share a scripture
with you that most of you, regardless of your religious affiliation,
you have probably heard at a wedding, at an event.
But guess what. It's not just something that applies to marriage.
It applies to our relationships with everybody in our life,
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our children, your parents, your friends, even complete strangers. It's
First Corinthians thirteen four through seven. I know you've heard this.
Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy,
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It does not boast. It is not proud. It does
not dishonor others. Love is never self seeking. It is
not easily angered. Actually, in the original text, it doesn't
say it is not easily angered. It says it is
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not provoked. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It
always protects, always trust, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love
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never fails. What does all that mean? Even break it down?
You want to break it down, you want to talk
about it, Let's talk about it. Love is patient, doesn't
rush you, It doesn't insist on having its way. Love
waits until the time is right. Love is kind. It
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does not envy. It does not boast. If you are
in a relationship with somebody and you're envious, you're jealous.
You're jealous of the time they spend with their family,
You're jealous of something they have or don't have, you're jealous.
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Love does not envy, and it doesn't boast. It doesn't brag.
It isn't proud or arrogant, and it does not dishonor others.
If you are mocking someone you love, if you are
putting them down, if you are speaking ill about them
behind their back, do you really love them? No, you
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don't even like them. Love is not self seeking. It's
not selfish, it's not self centered. It is not easily angered,
or like I said in the original, it is not provoked.
It's not provoked. When you love someone, you know that
you love them. It keeps no record of wrongs. O.
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When you hold your behavior up to this standard, it's
hard to say you love people. Huh, especially that one
right there, keeps no record of wrongs. When you're arguing
with someone your adult child, do you bring up the past?
Do you throw it in their face?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Well?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What about the time you said this, What about the
time you did that? What about the car he crashed?
What about blah blah blah. No, that's not loving. That's
not love. When you are keeping a record of someone's wrongs,
you are not loving them. Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always, it always trust,
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it always hopes, it always hopes, and it always perseveres.
I have a few calls I want to share with
you today that address the need to follow these beautiful words,
these principles that God gave us. When I apply these
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principles to my relationships, I have to admit that I
I fall short. Ooh do I fall short? I fall short?
And that means I need to go back to the
Lord in prayer and say, help me, help me to
be more loving, Help me to honor others, Help me
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to not be selfish. Help me with my temper so
I am not angered. Help me not to keep a
list of other people's wrongs. Help me to rejoice with
the truth. Help me to protect those that I love,
Help me to trust and give me hope. When I
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look at those standards, I have to go back to
the Almighty and say help me. I want to love
like that. I want to have that kind of love
in my heart, but I fall so short and I
have to pray Lord, help me, help me to love
as you have called me to love. Up First, we
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have a call from a very sweet young woman named Penny.
Her mom is struggling with the empty nest in a
big way. Penny is struggling with the patience for that.
Penny is young, she wants to fly, she wants to
be free. She also wants to honor her mama. Let's
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hear from Penny right now. Hi, Penny, welcome. What can
I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (07:27):
I guess I could kind of use a bit of
your famous advice.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
All right, tell me you are Delilah dilemma, Penny, what's
going on? And I will see if I have any
wisdom on the subject.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Well. Thanks, Well, basically, it's the Eagel teenage story. I
guess I just became adult, so it's a lot scarier
than I thought it would be. Like, Man, I don't
know how you'll do it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Adulting is hard, isn't it. So you just turned eighteen
or twenty one.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
I just turned eighteen and I moved out onto my own,
like right after I turned eighteen, like not quite, like
maybe half a month after, and it's still quite the adjustment.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Why did you exit stage right? Was there abuse or
drama at home? Why why did you move out?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
No, man, there is nothing bad at home. It's just
I really feel like I've been sheltered my whole life,
and I really wanted to spread meanings and fly, you know,
and I felt like this was the perfect time to
do it, Like I might as well make the jump now.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
You know, we're the only culture that expects eighteen year
olds to be able to live on their own and
stand on their own two feet.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Yeah, it's just been kind of hard because I know
it's really difficult on my mom home, Like I don't
really know how to juggle how much to talk to her,
and I'm just scared that, like I don't want our
relationship to be tense because you know, we're talking too
much in her two up into people each other's business,
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and I'm afraid I've heard her so deeply these past
few days and I just feel like a complete jerk,
you know, And I hate hearing my mom cry, and I.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Just okay, so tell me what you mean when you
say you feel like you've been too sheltered.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
I don't know. My mom. She tells me all the
bad things in the world, and she doesn't let me
do things that are pretty safe, like things that so
many people do.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I have a sixteen year old daughter that's not allowed
to have a cell phone, so she probably thinks I'm
pretty old fashioned and pretty sheltered. But there's a reason
for that. Yeah, I know how scary the world is.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
My mom has a really good intuition, and if like somebody,
like she can tell what somebody's not well. Like for example,
she's letting me go in October over to a guy
friend's house, like his family is here, of course, and
they have a spare bedroom. He knows him really well,
and she feels comfortable with me doing that, like because
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he his family lives at a beach house and he
invited me to come today, like he's just a friend,
but like she's I don't know. I think the main
thing that I've been struggling with is she tells me
all the bad in the world, and I just end
up feeling so scared inside, you know, and it's hard.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Well, there is a lot of bad in the world.
There's also a lot of good in the world, and
hopefully you have an opportunity to explore that and focus
on that. But my daughter Blessing just left home for
the first time, and she's twenty one, and she's coming
back and she'll be home for two months before she
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takes off to go to Bali with some friends for
a month. But some of my adult children left as
soon as they were adults, as soon as they turned eighteen.
They left because they thought I was too strict. And
that's okay because in my house, I get to make
the rules. If you don't like them, you can leave
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once you're eighteen, and I support that. I don't stay.
I'm not angry, I'm not bitter. I have one daughter
that left two months after she turned eighteen and moved
in with one of my friends, a woman that I
had hired to tutor her, and was there for a
couple of months, and then she broke her rules, and
that woman said, sorry, you can't. You can't stay here.
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You're going to break the rules. You're not going to
come home at night, You're not going to tell me
where you are. You don't get to you don't get
to stay here and she finally came to her senses
and stopped making bad choices and met a nice man
and married him. And she's traveled all over the world
because he's in the military, and that is where doubt
wonderful for her. But uh, there's no way I would
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tell an eighteen year old to move out and have
to pay rent and pay utilities and pay insurance and
pay car payment bills because you can't make enough money
to live comfortably.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I don't know. It's just I feel like so many
new things are happening and it's like a bucket of overwhelming.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
And so how often do you talk to mom?
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Well, she's been calling every day. I have a grandmother
who calls in text too much. Like she's really smothering,
Like everybody thinks for her smothering. Like there's not one
person who think she doesn't smother and where all she
has and like except for family, I think because she's
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pushed people away from coming on. She's strong.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And I don't know, you are not here to meet
your mother's emotional needs. We do not have children to
meet our emotional needs. We have children or adopt children
so we can meet their emotional needs and as they grow.
The two things we must give our children are roots,
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so they always know they're grounded, They always have a
safe place to land, They always have somebody who's got
their back and wings to fly into their future. We
don't get to go into their future. We get to
create our life and watch them fly, but we don't
get to go into our children's future.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Yeah, as it right now, it just kind of feels
a bit only, you.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Know, overwhelming and lonely. How do you set boundaries and
at the same time keep the love lines open? That's
the big question. Yeah, So how how often do you
call your mom? Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Right now, it's been a bit tricky because you know,
my mom will call me and then I'll feel like
like I won't answer right away or something. And then
because it's like I kind of want to leave a
little bit of space so that I can kind of
set those boundaries because I'm the kind of person that
and people are too clingy. It kind of pushes me away.
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But she's been calling about twice a day.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Are there other kids in the family.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
No, I'm my MoMA's only.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Ah. Yeah, that just answered all my questions right there.
You are your mother's only and you are her whole world.
You are her reason for breathing, you are her reason
for being, and it's going to be very, very very
hard for you to set boundaries.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Yeah, and she's not married either, Like she's a single pringle,
So that makes me even more of the center of attention.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
And you just described several people in my life. I
have one, two, three, four people in my life who
are single moms with only children, and it's very very
hard when the kids grow up and the mom is
no longer needed to take them to practice, to take
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them to games, to take them to prom to take
them shopping, to take them to school to and their
moms are like, I don't know what to do with myself.
My whole world has revolved around this person for the
last eighteen years.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Yeah, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I try
to be super respectful about it, like why don't you
let me call you? Were Like, I try to be
open and honest that I'm terrified that she'll be like Nonna,
and I think that have been true.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
But you don't need to worry about her being like anybody.
You just need to say right now, I'm trying to
become independent. I don't want to be dependent on you
or upon my dad. I want to develop independence. I
want to grow into womanhood. And you have given me
a firm foundation of love and that's that's enough. But
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you're not here, honey, to meet her emotional needs.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Yeah. I've tried to tell her things like that, and
it kind of feels like I'm talking to rick Wall
and she'll start crying again or talk about how she's
feeling really hurt.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Sounds to me like she's just really having a hard
time with the empty nest. Yeah, and this could be
very good for her. It's going to be hard to adjust,
but now she's got time to go discover who she
is again and to make her own friends, and to
travel and to do all the things she put on
hold while she was raising you exactly.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Like she's been mountain biking a lot and like ticking
me fitness classes and it's like, I don't know, she
just she's always had lots of friends and acquaintances. So
I feel like once we get over this hump together,
I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, But it is
supposed to be awkward, is uncomfortable at first, right, this
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whole process.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, it's very awkward and uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
Yeah, this part is just so difficult and it feels
uncomfortable and wrong.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
And I think you are right where you're supposed to be,
and I think you are doing a wonderful job.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
You're trying to set boundaries. You're trying to honor and
respect the people you love. You're trying not to support
generational dysfunction. Penny, I think you're amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
You are delightful.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Thank you, And I'll also go blow my nose, good night,
good night, Thank you again.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
You're welcome. You know a lot of people when they
hear my name, first off, they sing my little jingle
de la Lah. A lot of people think I love
to talk, and I do, there's no doubt about that.
But mostly on this show, I love to listen. And
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I don't just listen to your words. I listen to
your voice. I listen to the pitch and the timber.
I listen to everything. I can hear stress in your voice,
I can hear love in your voice. I can hear
regret in your voice. I can hear anger or unforgiveness.
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And sometimes people will call and I hear nothing but
pure joy and then they tell me their stories, and
I'm thinking, why do I hear joy in your voice
when your story is so tragic? And I think it's
because some people face life with faith, with grace, and
with love and they're able to find the joy in
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every situation. Such is the voice of my next caller.
Tragic story, but so much love and happiness. Stay tuned
for that coming up next. Hi, you've called the Delilah Show.
Who is on the phone line.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh, my name's Sarah.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Hi, Sarah, you sound excited. What can I do to
make your night more exciting?
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Well, my husband has Parkinson's and he's forty two and
Friday we got to go all day to try to
get tests done because you may have to have surgery
to try to help stomach issues. And it's just been
hard for us both and I've had to take golf,
quit work so I could take care of him, and
it's just been a little struggle. But we're getting better things.
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Things are starting to look up a little bit.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Wait a second, when I answered the phone, I heard
nothing but joy in your voice. You're telling me that,
in spite of the fact that your husband is fighting
for his life, if you still have joy or I
miss misinterpreted your voice.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
You like, I've listened to you since I was a
little girl. You've always made me feel better, Like everything
that every time I've been down with my mom when
she passed, I mean anything that made me said. You
were always like what I listened to and it just
always made everything me feel better. So actually talking to
you just blows my mind.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
You want to know something really cool. Yeah, as popular
as I might be, or as popular as my show
might be, honey, I am nothing compared to the strength
of you.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Oh sometimes I wonder how I can do it. But
like I said, every time I listen to you, it
just makes everything feel a whole lot better.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Do you know that God adores you and thinks the
world of you and trust you more than he does me.
You know how I know that to be true because
He knows that I could not stand up under the
challenges that you are facing with Grace.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
I said, some days it's easy.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Sometimes we try to get jokes kind of, you know,
but it's been up and down battle. I mean there's
some days he can't even walk or stand up, and
that's day that I have to actually be like a
CNA and transfer him and do everything for him. And
then there's days that he's not too bad. I mean
there's some days that he can walk and do okay,
But when he has a spell, it's just horrible, And
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I try my best to be strong for him, because
I mean, it's got to be hard on him. I
can't imagine not being able to stand.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Or walk or do anything for today. Sarah, you my friend,
are my hero.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Oh thank you?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Like I said, your like my favorite. I've called how
many times try and talk to you at least once
in my life.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
What's your husband's name? Rgil And he's forty two how old.
When he started getting the parkinson symptoms.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
About twenty nine, I was pregnant with my son, and
he went down and we didn't know what it was.
And we went for thirteen years trying to find some
doctor that would actually listen and try to figure out
what's wrong with him. And we just found them out
about three years ago that it's Parkinson's completely now. And
sometimes he has almost like a seizure where he'll be
on the ground shaking and everything and can't move or
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walk or nothing.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, Parkinson's is one of those things that they they
kind of have to rule everything else out before they
come to the diagnosis. They're like, Okay, well we'll cut
on your back, we'll cut on your neck, we'll try this,
we'll try that, we'll try everything, until they finally go, oh, well,
all that stuff we tried, nothing, nothing help because it's Parkinson's.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Yeah, and then he's on parkinson that they give for
normal and he's been doing better on it, and he
was and we have two wonderful children that are eighteen
and almost sixteen. And it's just been up and down
all the time, trying to keep positive about everything.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Can I say a prayer with you?
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Yeah, Father God, I thank you Lord for allowing Sarah
to get through on the phone lines tonight. And I
thank you for the joy that I hear in her
voice when she mentions her children. Lord. Her voice sparks
with joy, with deep joy. When she speaks of her husband.
I don't hear in her timbre, in her voice, in
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her the modulation of her voice. I don't hear grief
and terror and fear. I hear love and joy and
happiness in spite of their circumstances. Father, I thank you
for being with them. I thank you for doctors who
finally did a proper diagnosis. I know how hard that
is with Parkinson's, and I thank you for the doctors
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that he will be seeing in the near future. Lord,
I'm bold enough to ask for a complete and total healing,
for a complete and total reversal of all the symptoms,
of all the side effects of this disease. Your word
says you have not because you ask not. In other words,
just ask me, ask me boldly. So I'm asking boldly
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for Sarah and Virgil. I'm asking boldly on behalf of
their children, that you would bless this man and heal him.
Heal him from the top of his head to the
bottom of his feet. Heal him and give him strength
in his legs, strengthen his extremities. Heal him God, and
let him stand, let him walk, let him run, Let
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him feel your energy, your power, your holy spirit surge
through every muscle of his body. Father, I pray that
you would continue to shower him with your grace. That
you would bless this family, Bless their time together, Bless
their conversations, Bless their walk with you, Lord, Bless them,
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Bless them that they would draw near to You, Father,
no matter what I ask all of this in your
precious and holy name. Amen. Amen, Well you have a
great rest of your summer, the little bit that's a
left of it, and a good rest of twenty twenty five.
And I'm just gonna I'm going to believe that God's
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going to do a miracle. And when that miracle happens,
I want you to call me back so we can
share it with the world. Okay, I sure will. Thank
you for calling, honey. Thank you for your love and
your enthusiasm, your goodness. You have a good heart.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
Thank you. I've let some people think so you do.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I can tell you have. I've listened to voices for
fifty one years. I have been doing this show for
forty one years, and I can hear in people's voices
when they're faking it, when they're lying, when they're pretending
to care, but they don't really care much. And there
is nothing but honest, supportive, unconditioned love in your voice
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for your family. Yeah, there is.
Speaker 4 (26:03):
I got said that, there are everything to me.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Well, you have a wonderful night and we will be
in touch. That call from Sarah actually touched my heart
so much. Sarah and her husband and their children have
so much joy in the midst of some pretty big challenges.
God bless you, Sarah, know that you are in my prayers.
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The last call I want to share in this episode
is from a young man named Evan. Evan and the
love of his life are going through some difficult times,
but he is showing love and patience. Let's listen to
Evan right now. Evan, welcome. What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Well? Do?
Speaker 4 (26:46):
I would love to dedicate a song to my girlfriend tonight.
We've been going through a really emotional season in our relationship.
We're taking a little break in our relationship right now,
and through it all, you know, I still feel so
much love and hope for us, no matter you know,
all the all the turbulent time it's been. I just
wanted to know that I'm believe in what we have
and I'm still here choosing her each and every day.
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You know, we usually take evening drives in the nighttime
and with our dogs in the back, and we listened
to the Delilah Show and we find ourselfs smiling and
appreciating each other in the life we built together. So
I don't know if she's listening to the show tonight,
or or what she doing.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
But okay, so what what category is she and wife? Girlfriend?
What are we taking a break from?
Speaker 4 (27:30):
Well, she's my girlfriend of almost four years next month.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
And whose idea was it to take a break?
Speaker 4 (27:37):
It was Carly's idea.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
And when she said take a break, did she like
put a beginning, a middle, and an end on this break?
Did she say take a break? And we're still gonna
like talk every day? Like what are the parameters of
take a break?
Speaker 4 (27:54):
She said, We're going to take a month long break.
We're not really in contact at all. We should her
house together, but she she said that we're gonna take
that break and you know, spend time working on ourselves
and come back and compare our lists we've made to
improve ourselves and in aspects of our relationship. She's you know,
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she's going through a tough time emotionally and mentally right now,
and I want to always support her. You know, I'll
be here waiting for.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
How does that work if you're sharing a house.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
Yeah, it's it's been tough. You know. I'm I'm staying
with one of my friends right now and she's there
at the house and I'm giving her the space she needs.
At the moment, I don't. I don't blame her. I know,
I know she she's pushing out loved ones in her
life right now. But it's it's not because she's, you know,
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just a hateful person. She's she's the most awful person
you'd ever meet. I swear. It's just she's she's going
through it mentally right now, and she's really trying to
get through it.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
So what kind of things is she hoping that you
will be working on.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
She would like me to, you know, work on some
of my opinions, and you know, thinking a little bit
more when I when I speak, because she is, you know,
quite sensitive, and I love that quality about her. And
I get talking and don't realize that I might be
flapping my jaws and say something that might actually, you know,
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be intensitive. Whether it's a new paint color in the house,
or whether it's a new piece of furniture we have
or something like that, you know, certain things like that.
But she's she's more or less just quite overwhelmed right now.
I think she just needs space from everything right now.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
So you're staying with a friend's house. Do you own
the house together or are you renting together?
Speaker 4 (29:45):
We are working towards owning it, yes, a mortgage.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
So I have to wonder, if you've spent that much
time building a life together, why you're not married.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
The only reason I haven't asked her to marry me
yet is because I haven't bought her ance rain yet.
And that's yeah, I'm sure she didn't want to hear that,
but I had said that before I worked. I work
a full time job, and I work in the evenings,
and between all the bills and everything, it's it's been
kind of hard to gave up that extra money. But yeah,
in my mind, you know, she's my life partner. We're
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already we're already committed to each other for life. So
it's it's just the next step is asked in that question.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, but you say you have a hard time sometimes
that you sometimes say in sensitive things or you don't
realize how she's feeling that she's very sensitive. Do you
think maybe she would I don't know, I don't know her.
I'm just shooting from the hip here, but do you
think maybe she feels like she's waited four years?
Speaker 4 (30:49):
You know, perhaps we we talked about marriage, and uh,
there's there's never been any kind of rush to get
married on both ends of it, because we've we've we've
talked about, you know, every subject under the sun pretty openly,
and you know, we both have acknowledged that we want
to get married, and we both acknowledge that we're not
in any rush either, because you know, we have such
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a we have had such a steady moving life together.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
And how old are you, Evan?
Speaker 4 (31:16):
I just turned twenty six, and how old is she?
She's twenty six as well, graduated high school together.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Actually, ah, so you got plenty of time.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
I hope to spend the rest of my life with her.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
You sound like such a sweetheart. Obviously I don't know
you from Adam, but you don't sound like an insensitive jerk.
You sound like a sweetheart.
Speaker 4 (31:38):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
You sound like she is the love of your life
and that she is.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Everything sure is with that a belt.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Well, I hope that she finds the love and support
she's looking for, that she's able to process what she's
going through, and that you guys can work this out,
because I feel the love you have for hermating through
the phone lines.
Speaker 4 (32:02):
Well for that as well, Thilah, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Young man. My prayer for you is simply this. Let
God guide you. I have heard nothing but love and
patience from you, and I sincerely hope this works out
for you. God, bless you, bless you, bless.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
You, Thank you, Thank you as well.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
When the Lord came to us in human form, when
he lived on this earth for thirty three years, when
he walked on this earth, he didn't just treat his
family or his favorite people with the kind of love
that we talked about that we read about in First Corinthians.
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God didn't reserve that kind of patient, supportive, non judgmental, protective,
hopeful love with just his inner circle. He treated everyone
that way. Everyone. My heart breaks every day with the
crazy stuff going on in this world, the division, the cruelty,
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the unkindness, but especially the division. God doesn't want that.
I don't care what political party you affiliate with. If
you are hateful, if you are hurtful, if you are
spewing vulgar hatred, you are not loving the way God
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calls us to love. He says, love your enemies, bless
those who persecute you. He calls us to a higher
standard of love. Thank you for sharing your time with
me today, and never take that for granted, and until
next time, remember to have a little faith, to share
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a little faith, and to slow down and love someone.
God bless you, del
Welcome back to have a Little Faith with Thelilah. Oh
my gosh, are you enjoying this podcast series as much
as my producer Janie and I are enjoying bringing it
to you. I feel unfettered. I feel free. I have horses,
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and when I was younger, I used to love to
take my horses to the beach, to ocean the shores
and run on the sand as fast and as far
as we could go along the edge of the water,
the surf crashing, the waves crashing, the horses running free.
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I would let go of the reins, I would hold
out my arms and I would just run with the
wind in my hair. The horse loved it. I loved it.
It was such a feeling of abandonment. When I picture heaven,
when I picture the rapture, when I picture joining my
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Lord and my sons and my brother and my parents
and everybody I love that's gone before me, that's what
I imagine it will feel like that total freedom, powerful,
no reins, no reins holding the horseback, no reins holding
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me back. And I got to be honest, that's kind
of how I feel in this new podcast where I
am free. I am free to say that the Lord
loves you unconditionally for eternity, and he tells us this
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through his word. Today, I want to share a scripture
with you that most of you, regardless of your religious affiliation,
you have probably heard at a wedding, at an event.
But guess what. It's not just something that applies to marriage.
It applies to our relationships with everybody in our life,
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our children, your parents, your friends, even complete strangers. It's
First Corinthians thirteen four through seven. I know you've heard this.
Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy,
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It does not boast. It is not proud. It does
not dishonor others. Love is never self seeking. It is
not easily angered. Actually, in the original text, it doesn't
say it is not easily angered. It says it is
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not provoked. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does
not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It
always protects, always trust, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love
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never fails. What does all that mean? Even break it down?
You want to break it down, you want to talk
about it, Let's talk about it. Love is patient, doesn't
rush you, It doesn't insist on having its way. Love
waits until the time is right. Love is kind. It
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does not envy. It does not boast. If you are
in a relationship with somebody and you're envious, you're jealous.
You're jealous of the time they spend with their family,
You're jealous of something they have or don't have, you're jealous.
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Love does not envy, and it doesn't boast. It doesn't brag.
It isn't proud or arrogant, and it does not dishonor others.
If you are mocking someone you love, if you are
putting them down, if you are speaking ill about them
behind their back, do you really love them? No, you
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don't even like them. Love is not self seeking. It's
not selfish, it's not self centered. It is not easily angered,
or like I said in the original, it is not provoked.
It's not provoked. When you love someone, you know that
you love them. It keeps no record of wrongs. O.
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When you hold your behavior up to this standard, it's
hard to say you love people. Huh, especially that one
right there, keeps no record of wrongs. When you're arguing
with someone your adult child, do you bring up the past?
Do you throw it in their face?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Well?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What about the time you said this, What about the
time you did that? What about the car he crashed?
What about blah blah blah. No, that's not loving. That's
not love. When you are keeping a record of someone's wrongs,
you are not loving them. Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always, it always trust,
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it always hopes, it always hopes, and it always perseveres.
I have a few calls I want to share with
you today that address the need to follow these beautiful words,
these principles that God gave us. When I apply these
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principles to my relationships, I have to admit that I
I fall short. Ooh do I fall short? I fall short?
And that means I need to go back to the
Lord in prayer and say, help me, help me to
be more loving, Help me to honor others, Help me
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to not be selfish. Help me with my temper so
I am not angered. Help me not to keep a
list of other people's wrongs. Help me to rejoice with
the truth. Help me to protect those that I love,
Help me to trust and give me hope. When I
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look at those standards, I have to go back to
the Almighty and say help me. I want to love
like that. I want to have that kind of love
in my heart, but I fall so short and I
have to pray Lord, help me, help me to love
as you have called me to love. Up First, we
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have a call from a very sweet young woman named Penny.
Her mom is struggling with the empty nest in a
big way. Penny is struggling with the patience for that.
Penny is young, she wants to fly, she wants to
be free. She also wants to honor her mama. Let's
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hear from Penny right now. Hi, Penny, welcome. What can
I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (07:27):
I guess I could kind of use a bit of
your famous advice.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
All right, tell me you are Delilah dilemma, Penny, what's
going on? And I will see if I have any
wisdom on the subject.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
Well. Thanks, Well, basically, it's the Eagel teenage story. I
guess I just became adult, so it's a lot scarier
than I thought it would be. Like, Man, I don't
know how you'll do it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Adulting is hard, isn't it. So you just turned eighteen
or twenty one.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
I just turned eighteen and I moved out onto my own,
like right after I turned eighteen, like not quite, like
maybe half a month after, and it's still quite the adjustment.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Why did you exit stage right? Was there abuse or
drama at home? Why why did you move out?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
No, man, there is nothing bad at home. It's just
I really feel like I've been sheltered my whole life,
and I really wanted to spread meanings and fly, you know,
and I felt like this was the perfect time to
do it, Like I might as well make the jump now.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
You know, we're the only culture that expects eighteen year
olds to be able to live on their own and
stand on their own two feet.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Yeah, it's just been kind of hard because I know
it's really difficult on my mom home, Like I don't
really know how to juggle how much to talk to her,
and I'm just scared that, like I don't want our
relationship to be tense because you know, we're talking too
much in her two up into people each other's business,
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and I'm afraid I've heard her so deeply these past
few days and I just feel like a complete jerk,
you know, And I hate hearing my mom cry, and I.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Just okay, so tell me what you mean when you
say you feel like you've been too sheltered.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
I don't know. My mom. She tells me all the
bad things in the world, and she doesn't let me
do things that are pretty safe, like things that so
many people do.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I have a sixteen year old daughter that's not allowed
to have a cell phone, so she probably thinks I'm
pretty old fashioned and pretty sheltered. But there's a reason
for that. Yeah, I know how scary the world is.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
My mom has a really good intuition, and if like somebody,
like she can tell what somebody's not well. Like for example,
she's letting me go in October over to a guy
friend's house, like his family is here, of course, and
they have a spare bedroom. He knows him really well,
and she feels comfortable with me doing that, like because
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he his family lives at a beach house and he
invited me to come today, like he's just a friend,
but like she's I don't know. I think the main
thing that I've been struggling with is she tells me
all the bad in the world, and I just end
up feeling so scared inside, you know, and it's hard.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Well, there is a lot of bad in the world.
There's also a lot of good in the world, and
hopefully you have an opportunity to explore that and focus
on that. But my daughter Blessing just left home for
the first time, and she's twenty one, and she's coming
back and she'll be home for two months before she
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takes off to go to Bali with some friends for
a month. But some of my adult children left as
soon as they were adults, as soon as they turned eighteen.
They left because they thought I was too strict. And
that's okay because in my house, I get to make
the rules. If you don't like them, you can leave
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once you're eighteen, and I support that. I don't stay.
I'm not angry, I'm not bitter. I have one daughter
that left two months after she turned eighteen and moved
in with one of my friends, a woman that I
had hired to tutor her, and was there for a
couple of months, and then she broke her rules, and
that woman said, sorry, you can't. You can't stay here.
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You're going to break the rules. You're not going to
come home at night, You're not going to tell me
where you are. You don't get to you don't get
to stay here and she finally came to her senses
and stopped making bad choices and met a nice man
and married him. And she's traveled all over the world
because he's in the military, and that is where doubt
wonderful for her. But uh, there's no way I would
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tell an eighteen year old to move out and have
to pay rent and pay utilities and pay insurance and
pay car payment bills because you can't make enough money
to live comfortably.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
I don't know. It's just I feel like so many
new things are happening and it's like a bucket of overwhelming.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
And so how often do you talk to mom?
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Well, she's been calling every day. I have a grandmother
who calls in text too much. Like she's really smothering,
Like everybody thinks for her smothering. Like there's not one
person who think she doesn't smother and where all she
has and like except for family, I think because she's
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pushed people away from coming on. She's strong.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And I don't know, you are not here to meet
your mother's emotional needs. We do not have children to
meet our emotional needs. We have children or adopt children
so we can meet their emotional needs and as they grow.
The two things we must give our children are roots,
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so they always know they're grounded, They always have a
safe place to land, They always have somebody who's got
their back and wings to fly into their future. We
don't get to go into their future. We get to
create our life and watch them fly, but we don't
get to go into our children's future.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Yeah, as it right now, it just kind of feels
a bit only, you.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Know, overwhelming and lonely. How do you set boundaries and
at the same time keep the love lines open? That's
the big question. Yeah, So how how often do you
call your mom? Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Right now, it's been a bit tricky because you know,
my mom will call me and then I'll feel like
like I won't answer right away or something. And then
because it's like I kind of want to leave a
little bit of space so that I can kind of
set those boundaries because I'm the kind of person that
and people are too clingy. It kind of pushes me away.
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But she's been calling about twice a day.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Are there other kids in the family.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
No, I'm my MoMA's only.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Ah. Yeah, that just answered all my questions right there.
You are your mother's only and you are her whole world.
You are her reason for breathing, you are her reason
for being, and it's going to be very, very very
hard for you to set boundaries.
Speaker 3 (14:47):
Yeah, and she's not married either, Like she's a single pringle,
So that makes me even more of the center of attention.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
And you just described several people in my life. I
have one, two, three, four people in my life who
are single moms with only children, and it's very very
hard when the kids grow up and the mom is
no longer needed to take them to practice, to take
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them to games, to take them to prom to take
them shopping, to take them to school to and their
moms are like, I don't know what to do with myself.
My whole world has revolved around this person for the
last eighteen years.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Yeah, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I try
to be super respectful about it, like why don't you
let me call you? Were Like, I try to be
open and honest that I'm terrified that she'll be like Nonna,
and I think that have been true.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
But you don't need to worry about her being like anybody.
You just need to say right now, I'm trying to
become independent. I don't want to be dependent on you
or upon my dad. I want to develop independence. I
want to grow into womanhood. And you have given me
a firm foundation of love and that's that's enough. But
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you're not here, honey, to meet her emotional needs.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Yeah. I've tried to tell her things like that, and
it kind of feels like I'm talking to rick Wall
and she'll start crying again or talk about how she's
feeling really hurt.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Sounds to me like she's just really having a hard
time with the empty nest. Yeah, and this could be
very good for her. It's going to be hard to adjust,
but now she's got time to go discover who she
is again and to make her own friends, and to
travel and to do all the things she put on
hold while she was raising you exactly.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Like she's been mountain biking a lot and like ticking
me fitness classes and it's like, I don't know, she
just she's always had lots of friends and acquaintances. So
I feel like once we get over this hump together,
I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, But it is
supposed to be awkward, is uncomfortable at first, right, this
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whole process.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Oh, it's very awkward and uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
Yeah, this part is just so difficult and it feels
uncomfortable and wrong.
Speaker 1 (17:20):
And I think you are right where you're supposed to be,
and I think you are doing a wonderful job.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
You're trying to set boundaries. You're trying to honor and
respect the people you love. You're trying not to support
generational dysfunction. Penny, I think you're amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
You are delightful.
Speaker 3 (17:45):
Thank you, And I'll also go blow my nose, good night,
good night, Thank you again.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
You're welcome. You know a lot of people when they
hear my name, first off, they sing my little jingle
de la Lah. A lot of people think I love
to talk, and I do, there's no doubt about that.
But mostly on this show, I love to listen. And
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I don't just listen to your words. I listen to
your voice. I listen to the pitch and the timber.
I listen to everything. I can hear stress in your voice,
I can hear love in your voice. I can hear
regret in your voice. I can hear anger or unforgiveness.
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And sometimes people will call and I hear nothing but
pure joy and then they tell me their stories, and
I'm thinking, why do I hear joy in your voice
when your story is so tragic? And I think it's
because some people face life with faith, with grace, and
with love and they're able to find the joy in
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every situation. Such is the voice of my next caller.
Tragic story, but so much love and happiness. Stay tuned
for that coming up next. Hi, you've called the Delilah Show.
Who is on the phone line.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
Oh, my name's Sarah.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Hi, Sarah, you sound excited. What can I do to
make your night more exciting?
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Well, my husband has Parkinson's and he's forty two and
Friday we got to go all day to try to
get tests done because you may have to have surgery
to try to help stomach issues. And it's just been
hard for us both and I've had to take golf,
quit work so I could take care of him, and
it's just been a little struggle. But we're getting better things.
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Things are starting to look up a little bit.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Wait a second, when I answered the phone, I heard
nothing but joy in your voice. You're telling me that,
in spite of the fact that your husband is fighting
for his life, if you still have joy or I
miss misinterpreted your voice.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
You like, I've listened to you since I was a
little girl. You've always made me feel better, Like everything
that every time I've been down with my mom when
she passed, I mean anything that made me said. You
were always like what I listened to and it just
always made everything me feel better. So actually talking to
you just blows my mind.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
You want to know something really cool. Yeah, as popular
as I might be, or as popular as my show
might be, honey, I am nothing compared to the strength
of you.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Oh sometimes I wonder how I can do it. But
like I said, every time I listen to you, it
just makes everything feel a whole lot better.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Do you know that God adores you and thinks the
world of you and trust you more than he does me.
You know how I know that to be true because
He knows that I could not stand up under the
challenges that you are facing with Grace.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
I said, some days it's easy.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Sometimes we try to get jokes kind of, you know,
but it's been up and down battle. I mean there's
some days he can't even walk or stand up, and
that's day that I have to actually be like a
CNA and transfer him and do everything for him. And
then there's days that he's not too bad. I mean
there's some days that he can walk and do okay,
But when he has a spell, it's just horrible, And
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I try my best to be strong for him, because
I mean, it's got to be hard on him. I
can't imagine not being able to stand.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Or walk or do anything for today. Sarah, you my friend,
are my hero.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
Oh thank you?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Like I said, your like my favorite. I've called how
many times try and talk to you at least once
in my life.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
What's your husband's name? Rgil And he's forty two how old.
When he started getting the parkinson symptoms.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
About twenty nine, I was pregnant with my son, and
he went down and we didn't know what it was.
And we went for thirteen years trying to find some
doctor that would actually listen and try to figure out
what's wrong with him. And we just found them out
about three years ago that it's Parkinson's completely now. And
sometimes he has almost like a seizure where he'll be
on the ground shaking and everything and can't move or
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walk or nothing.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Yeah, Parkinson's is one of those things that they they
kind of have to rule everything else out before they
come to the diagnosis. They're like, Okay, well we'll cut
on your back, we'll cut on your neck, we'll try this,
we'll try that, we'll try everything, until they finally go, oh, well,
all that stuff we tried, nothing, nothing help because it's Parkinson's.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Yeah, and then he's on parkinson that they give for
normal and he's been doing better on it, and he
was and we have two wonderful children that are eighteen
and almost sixteen. And it's just been up and down
all the time, trying to keep positive about everything.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
Can I say a prayer with you?
Speaker 4 (23:02):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Yeah, Father God, I thank you Lord for allowing Sarah
to get through on the phone lines tonight. And I
thank you for the joy that I hear in her
voice when she mentions her children. Lord. Her voice sparks
with joy, with deep joy. When she speaks of her husband.
I don't hear in her timbre, in her voice, in
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her the modulation of her voice. I don't hear grief
and terror and fear. I hear love and joy and
happiness in spite of their circumstances. Father, I thank you
for being with them. I thank you for doctors who
finally did a proper diagnosis. I know how hard that
is with Parkinson's, and I thank you for the doctors
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that he will be seeing in the near future. Lord,
I'm bold enough to ask for a complete and total healing,
for a complete and total reversal of all the symptoms,
of all the side effects of this disease. Your word
says you have not because you ask not. In other words,
just ask me, ask me boldly. So I'm asking boldly
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for Sarah and Virgil. I'm asking boldly on behalf of
their children, that you would bless this man and heal him.
Heal him from the top of his head to the
bottom of his feet. Heal him and give him strength
in his legs, strengthen his extremities. Heal him God, and
let him stand, let him walk, let him run, Let
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him feel your energy, your power, your holy spirit surge
through every muscle of his body. Father, I pray that
you would continue to shower him with your grace. That
you would bless this family, Bless their time together, Bless
their conversations, Bless their walk with you, Lord, Bless them,
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Bless them that they would draw near to You, Father,
no matter what I ask all of this in your
precious and holy name. Amen. Amen, Well you have a
great rest of your summer, the little bit that's a
left of it, and a good rest of twenty twenty five.
And I'm just gonna I'm going to believe that God's
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going to do a miracle. And when that miracle happens,
I want you to call me back so we can
share it with the world. Okay, I sure will. Thank
you for calling, honey. Thank you for your love and
your enthusiasm, your goodness. You have a good heart.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
Thank you. I've let some people think so you do.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I can tell you have. I've listened to voices for
fifty one years. I have been doing this show for
forty one years, and I can hear in people's voices
when they're faking it, when they're lying, when they're pretending
to care, but they don't really care much. And there
is nothing but honest, supportive, unconditioned love in your voice
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for your family. Yeah, there is.
Speaker 4 (26:03):
I got said that, there are everything to me.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
Well, you have a wonderful night and we will be
in touch. That call from Sarah actually touched my heart
so much. Sarah and her husband and their children have
so much joy in the midst of some pretty big challenges.
God bless you, Sarah, know that you are in my prayers.
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The last call I want to share in this episode
is from a young man named Evan. Evan and the
love of his life are going through some difficult times,
but he is showing love and patience. Let's listen to
Evan right now. Evan, welcome. What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (26:45):
Well? Do?
Speaker 4 (26:46):
I would love to dedicate a song to my girlfriend tonight.
We've been going through a really emotional season in our relationship.
We're taking a little break in our relationship right now,
and through it all, you know, I still feel so
much love and hope for us, no matter you know,
all the all the turbulent time it's been. I just
wanted to know that I'm believe in what we have
and I'm still here choosing her each and every day.
(27:09):
You know, we usually take evening drives in the nighttime
and with our dogs in the back, and we listened
to the Delilah Show and we find ourselfs smiling and
appreciating each other in the life we built together. So
I don't know if she's listening to the show tonight,
or or what she doing.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
But okay, so what what category is she and wife? Girlfriend?
What are we taking a break from?
Speaker 4 (27:30):
Well, she's my girlfriend of almost four years next month.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
And whose idea was it to take a break?
Speaker 4 (27:37):
It was Carly's idea.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
And when she said take a break, did she like
put a beginning, a middle, and an end on this break?
Did she say take a break? And we're still gonna
like talk every day? Like what are the parameters of
take a break?
Speaker 4 (27:54):
She said, We're going to take a month long break.
We're not really in contact at all. We should her
house together, but she she said that we're gonna take
that break and you know, spend time working on ourselves
and come back and compare our lists we've made to
improve ourselves and in aspects of our relationship. She's you know,
(28:16):
she's going through a tough time emotionally and mentally right now,
and I want to always support her. You know, I'll
be here waiting for.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
How does that work if you're sharing a house.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
Yeah, it's it's been tough. You know. I'm I'm staying
with one of my friends right now and she's there
at the house and I'm giving her the space she needs.
At the moment, I don't. I don't blame her. I know,
I know she she's pushing out loved ones in her
life right now. But it's it's not because she's, you know,
(28:46):
just a hateful person. She's she's the most awful person
you'd ever meet. I swear. It's just she's she's going
through it mentally right now, and she's really trying to
get through it.
Speaker 1 (28:56):
So what kind of things is she hoping that you
will be working on.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
She would like me to, you know, work on some
of my opinions, and you know, thinking a little bit
more when I when I speak, because she is, you know,
quite sensitive, and I love that quality about her. And
I get talking and don't realize that I might be
flapping my jaws and say something that might actually, you know,
(29:23):
be intensitive. Whether it's a new paint color in the house,
or whether it's a new piece of furniture we have
or something like that, you know, certain things like that.
But she's she's more or less just quite overwhelmed right now.
I think she just needs space from everything right now.
Speaker 1 (29:40):
So you're staying with a friend's house. Do you own
the house together or are you renting together?
Speaker 4 (29:45):
We are working towards owning it, yes, a mortgage.
Speaker 1 (29:49):
So I have to wonder, if you've spent that much
time building a life together, why you're not married.
Speaker 4 (29:57):
The only reason I haven't asked her to marry me
yet is because I haven't bought her ance rain yet.
And that's yeah, I'm sure she didn't want to hear that,
but I had said that before I worked. I work
a full time job, and I work in the evenings,
and between all the bills and everything, it's it's been
kind of hard to gave up that extra money. But yeah,
in my mind, you know, she's my life partner. We're
(30:18):
already we're already committed to each other for life. So
it's it's just the next step is asked in that question.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Okay, but you say you have a hard time sometimes
that you sometimes say in sensitive things or you don't
realize how she's feeling that she's very sensitive. Do you
think maybe she would I don't know, I don't know her.
I'm just shooting from the hip here, but do you
think maybe she feels like she's waited four years?
Speaker 4 (30:49):
You know, perhaps we we talked about marriage, and uh,
there's there's never been any kind of rush to get
married on both ends of it, because we've we've we've
talked about, you know, every subject under the sun pretty openly,
and you know, we both have acknowledged that we want
to get married, and we both acknowledge that we're not
in any rush either, because you know, we have such
(31:11):
a we have had such a steady moving life together.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
And how old are you, Evan?
Speaker 4 (31:16):
I just turned twenty six, and how old is she?
She's twenty six as well, graduated high school together.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
Actually, ah, so you got plenty of time.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
I hope to spend the rest of my life with her.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
You sound like such a sweetheart. Obviously I don't know
you from Adam, but you don't sound like an insensitive jerk.
You sound like a sweetheart.
Speaker 4 (31:38):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (31:39):
You sound like she is the love of your life
and that she is.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Everything sure is with that a belt.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Well, I hope that she finds the love and support
she's looking for, that she's able to process what she's
going through, and that you guys can work this out,
because I feel the love you have for hermating through
the phone lines.
Speaker 4 (32:02):
Well for that as well, Thilah, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (32:05):
Young man. My prayer for you is simply this. Let
God guide you. I have heard nothing but love and
patience from you, and I sincerely hope this works out
for you. God, bless you, bless you, bless.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
You, Thank you, Thank you as well.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
When the Lord came to us in human form, when
he lived on this earth for thirty three years, when
he walked on this earth, he didn't just treat his
family or his favorite people with the kind of love
that we talked about that we read about in First Corinthians.
(32:47):
God didn't reserve that kind of patient, supportive, non judgmental, protective,
hopeful love with just his inner circle. He treated everyone
that way. Everyone. My heart breaks every day with the
crazy stuff going on in this world, the division, the cruelty,
(33:11):
the unkindness, but especially the division. God doesn't want that.
I don't care what political party you affiliate with. If
you are hateful, if you are hurtful, if you are
spewing vulgar hatred, you are not loving the way God
(33:32):
calls us to love. He says, love your enemies, bless
those who persecute you. He calls us to a higher
standard of love. Thank you for sharing your time with
me today, and never take that for granted, and until
next time, remember to have a little faith, to share
(33:53):
a little faith, and to slow down and love someone.
God bless you, del
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