October 15, 2025 • 30 mins
This entire podcast is meant to encourage you to put everything in God’s hands. He cares as much about the small things as he does about big things. I know it can be hard to trust sometimes, it can be nearly impossible. It’s not something you do once it’s a process you do over and over and over. I promise you it’s worth it. I hope you enjoy this episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello, Welcome, my friend. Welcome to another addition of have
a little faith. Right now, with everything going on in
the world, we need to have more than a little
bit of faith, more than a scooch of faith. A
little bit of faith isn't going to get you very
far with all the Craig Kray going on. I need
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a lot of faith. I need faith that is based
not on how I feel, because come on, I'm post metapausal.
My feelings change like the weather, like the wind. I
need a faith that is based on a rock, something
that doesn't shift like my emotions or my moods. I
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need a faith that is firmly grounded and rooted in
historical facts. I need a faith that is built on
the rock that never changes, that never wavers. I need
a faith in a God that is unchanging, that is
everlasting to everlasting, that is the same yesterday, today and always.
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I can put my trust and my faith in a
God that doesn't change with trends, with fashions. I want
to put my faith in something that is not shifting sand,
but a solid rock. Putting things in God's hands is hard.
Putting my life in his hands is hard. Putting my
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future in his hands, my children in his hands is hard,
but it is necessary. It's a powerful thing. Having the
willingness to let go and let God doesn't mean you're weak.
It means your faith is strong. It's an act of
trust and surrender to the one probably the only one
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that can actually help. When we face uncertainty, when we
face fears, when we are in the midst of situations
beyond our control, we tend to make bad decisions. I
tend to make bad decisions when I am on a
roller coaster, especially of emotions. I make really bad decisions.
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God wants us to step up to our responsibilities, but
he also wants us to let go, to let go
when we have to. Letting go of control is not
about giving up who. Some people hold on so tightly
to control, they grasp it with both hands, they wrap
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their legs around it. No, no, it must go my way.
You must see things my way. Let's be real. That's
an illusion. You're not in control. But when you put
that in God's hands, you're saying I've done all that
I can and God, I have to trust you with
the rest. You got to put it in his hands
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and trust him with the outcome. Life often brings circumstances
that don't make sense. It's overwhelming when that happens. When
you are brother in law who is the closest thing
to Jesus that you have ever seen, is in a
hospital fighting for his life. And it's not because he's
made bad choices. It's not because he's out getting wasted,
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smoking packs of cigarettes, killing himself. It just happens. Sometimes
when your sister is diagnosed with stage four and you're thinking,
how can this be. She's the one that ground her
on wheat, that made her on flour, that avoided toxins
and poisons and pharmaceuticals. How can this happen? But when
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somebody's just a good person to the core of their
being in you, you love them and you want to
fix it, and you desperately want the outcome. You want
so hard to let go and trust God. In today's podcast,
we have Bernadette. She's a mess with a man who
is manipulating her. Let's let Bernadette tell her own story.
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How is your beautiful autumn going thus far?
Speaker 2 (04:27):
It's going magnificently.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Well, I got some Ryan's Organic apple cider. However, in
your honor, I'm having a nice cup of tea and
just just so excited to talk to you and catch up.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
I'm actually making apple cider this year because I found
an old, funky apple cider press, an antique hanmade apple
cider press at a garage sale I went to like
five years ago, and I just got it refurbished and working.
So the thing cost me like fifty bucks at the
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garage cell, but it's probably cost me five hundred to
put it back together.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
But think about it, It'll be good for.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Generations to come, for generations, for generations, and the kids
are going to have fun because we're going to have
like an apple cider pressing party with their friends. Wow,
it's all good.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
How we're exciding.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
So what can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
I just felt inspired to call you and to say hi.
I have a bit of a dilemma and it's not
a pretty one.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I'm sorry to.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Say, Honey. I love Delilah dilemmas. It makes me feel
not so bad about all the horrible messes I've put
myself in.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Well, you know, they say they'd be careful who you
fall in love with, but you can't always felt it.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
You can't help it. The heart wants what the heart
wants left.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Shoot, thank you for saying that. Well, Unfortunately, I fell
in love with a creep. Oh and every time I
was around him, I lit up like a Christmas tree.
I supported him in his job. I you know, he
was dating someone else, and I said, oh, well, thanks
for bringing me to life and I'm out of here.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
Seebye.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
They just can't we be friends.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
And I'm like, okay, I guess.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
And so I supported him in his job because I
was really good at you know, I at his his
job basically, and I brought him fortune and fame, and
I you know, I did everything I could to help him,
and he started, uh yeah, he invaded my privacy. I
had found out he'd been a corrections officer and he's
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really good at hacking. He's an electrin he's an engineer.
And it's been really ugly for a long time. Nine
years of yeah, torture and torment, and no one seems
to really cure Delilah.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Okay, okay, okay, I need to just stop and give
you an award because I didn't think anyone could top
my knuckleheadedness, but you you might have done that.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
He's happy, he's breaking the law and he is not
being clot and I'm not smart enough with my devices.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
I've got some proof, Delilah.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I've done everything.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
He's ruined my life.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Literally, here's the thing where our abilities and God's begin,
Where our abilities, where our talents, Where are capabilities, where
our wisdom, where our technology ends, Now God begins.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I've been slowly getting myself better, and that's why when
he came along, I was still doing some major healings
and I could support him in his job and help
his dream come true.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
And I did.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I did what I could.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
I was a friend, nothing else. And yeah, I admit
in the beginning I did some stupid things, you know.
I let him woo me and impress me and all.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
This, and yeah, he broke up with the girl he.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Was dating, and you know, but just just I just
knew he was bad news. And I said, no, I'm good,
but he wouldn't leave me alone. And I've done everything
to get away from him. And at this point things
are so critical because I'm about to go unders.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I need you to listen to me, yes'am, because all
your hearing is the fear in your head, which is
very real. It's not imaginary. It's very real. You have
done everything with the police. You have done everything in
your ability to make your life safe. So where your
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abilities end, where you say I can do no more,
is where God can finally begin. Did you ever hear
the story of the little girl that broke her her
favorite doll?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
No, don't know that.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
One little girl had a doll, a porcelain doll, and
she dropped it and she broke it, and it broken,
the porcelain broken half. And she takes it to her
dad and she says, Dad, I drop my favorite doll.
I love this doll. I broke it. He says, Okay,
leave it right there on the kitchen table, honey, and
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when you get up tomorrow it'll be better. May not
be perfect, but you can have your dolly back. And
she says, but Dad, you're not paying attention. I'm telling you,
I broke my favorite porcelain doll. You can't make it better.
He goes, Actually, I can. And if you will leave
it right there on the dining room table when you
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get up tomorrow, it'll be better. Won't be perfect, but
you can play with your DOLLI And she screams and
she wails and she cries and she throws herself on
the floor, and she says, but you just don't understand, Dad,
I love this doll so much and it's broken, and
she just a fit and Dad keeps saying the same thing.
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She keeps saying the same thing. Finally, she grabs her doll,
stomps up the stairs, mad and disappointed, and goes to
bed holding her broken doll. And the next day she
comes down and she says, I knew you wouldn't do it.
You couldn't fix it. My doll is still broken. And
he said, baby girl, you never let it go.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
The glue that Dad needed to fix the porcelain was toxic.
He wasn't going to mix it up around his daughter.
He just wanted her to trust him enough to let
it go and let him work on it, and she
couldn't do it. Can you trust him enough to let
this go into his hands? I'm not saying stop fighting,
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I'm not saying stop being wise to protect yourself, but
doing all that you have done isn't doing enough, and
you need a higher power to take over. Are you
willing to let go of this and let God fix
it or not?
Speaker 4 (11:08):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
I am, then do it. Put it in his lap
and leave it there.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
It's as I have from praying, honey, all along. You
really don't understand. I've done everything I know to do.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I know you have, and I agree. I'm agreeing with that.
You have done all that. You can give it away,
give it to him, totally, give it to him and
leave it in his lap.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Oh gosh, the while of.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Let it go, Let it go, leave it in the
arms of the father. He knows what you need. He
knows what this person needs. He knows what this guy needs.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I even pray for him that God will just help him.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
He will. But you can't. You gotta let it go.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Okay, Well, because I've thought of just getting rid of all.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
The device again. You're trying. You're oh wow, I know,
oh wow.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I'm yeah, just saying here, you want them, you want
my devices? Just take it out.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
I'm through.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
I can't do anything to help you anymore.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Just leave me a littone, put it in God's hands
and leave it there.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
I guess me.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I'm because I can't do anything.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
All right, I'll find a song for you. Thank you, sweetheart.
Good night, You're awesome.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Have a good night.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Next, I have a call from James James is an
incredible dad that's worried about his adult children. That is
a situation a lot of us can relate to. Let's
listen to James right now. What can I do for you? James?
Speaker 4 (12:52):
My kids are glowing up during college, but I still
worry all the time. And I know they're doing the
best they can. But as a parent, and they don't
know what, you know, there's only that's worrying happening. And
I trunk that they can do what they have to.
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And as a kid growing up, I remember the times
when I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
So what kind of things do you worry about? Are
you talking about? You worry about them being heard on campus?
Are you talking about you worry about them making bad choices?
What are you worrying about?
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Well, they it's about doing their best, you know, not
taking the easy way out in terms of like oh
I don't want to do an assignment or I'm not
going to try and get into something. And you know,
now they're going to graduate from college and they have
to find a job, and I'm like, you really have to.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Do it, James, Why why did they have to do that?
I didn't graduate from college. I took the easy way.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Well, and that's the point. That's why I'm saying, like,
I feel like there's things I want them to do.
As a parent. You almost help us, she say, God,
let things happen and protect them and just be who
they are. You know, that's the whole thing of it.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Okay, So take a deep breath here, because I'm about
to I'm about to dump some Mama Delilah wisdom on you. Okay.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
I love it good.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
I believe that all of our days are written before
a single one comes to pass. That God knows before
he sends our little souls down here. He knows us.
He knows our talents, our gifts, our insights. He knows
the trauma that's going to happen to us and how
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that is going to shape us. He knows the good
things that are going to happen to us and how
that will also shape us. And He has a purpose
for us. Our parents don't know any of that. They
are the vessels that He sends our souls to and through.
And if they are good parents, they will do their
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best to present opportunities for growth and wisdom and love.
If they are bad parents, they pile on the trauma
and then we spend the rest of our life overcoming that.
But they parents don't determine the path their kids are
going to take, not up to us to pick whether
they're going to be an engineer or a doctor, or
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a street sweeper or a disc jockey on the radio.
If my parents had picked my path, they would not
have chosen for me to be in broadcasting. Believe me you,
I never graduated college. I don't have a degree in anything,
and I've been fired twelve times. Dude. The school is
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great for some people, it's not great for everyone. Everybody's
got their path and hoping they do good or hoping
they study, or hoping they succeed is foolish.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Yeah, today's society, everybody thinks, oh, just open the app
and it will happen, you know, like it's so instantaneous
and everything's like a ten minute. They're so focused, and
I'm like, you have to dedicate time and focus and
do you need to do because it doesn't just open
an app and you're done. It's more than that. But
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they're still warning, and I'm still warning, and we always learn.
And I really appreciate your thoughts and your understanding.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
I hope and pray that you find some peace and
that you because our adult children become our best friends.
They are so fun when they become adults. I hope
that you are able to relax and trust that God's
got them so that you can just enjoy these wonderful
human beings that you were blessed to get to raise.
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Because it sounds like you were an extremely loving and
involved dad, So thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
And they're becoming my parents now because I tell they
don't do that, you shouldn't do that, so let's should
do it all comes around.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, you don't have to worry about them being the
kind of flunkies that are doing nothing but opening a
n app Dad, You've done well, Okay.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
I appreciate it. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
The next story I want to share with you is
from a listener named Crystal. Cristel is currently trying trying
to reconcile with her ex, but she's trying to do
that on her own strength, on her own timeline. Let's
listen to Crystal right now. Hi, Crystal, welcome to the
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Delilah Show. What can I do for you on this
autumn evening?
Speaker 5 (17:52):
Well, I just wanted to Colin and Uh, I don't
know that my boyfriend's listening, but I wanted to know
how much I love it, and like we've been through
all the ups and downs and we're finally back in
a good place, and it's just want to let him
know that I did a guarret for him and love everything.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
That he does.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
So you've been through it just recently or in the past,
like over the last year.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
Like we met last year and our relationship moved really quickly.
Long story short, we got married just to get divorced,
and now we're back together trying to figure everything out,
and we're talking about possibly getting remarried. So I mean,
we're just about a pass now.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
How long were you together before you got married?
Speaker 5 (18:42):
We met in January and we got married in September.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
And how long were you married before you were divorced?
Speaker 5 (18:49):
Probably almost a lot of things happened and we were
in a great spot and we couldn't couldn't figure out
how to work it out.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
But we're figuring it.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Out now, Crystal. How old are you?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I'm thirty five.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
How old is your your whatever he is now, he's thirty.
And are there children that you're you're dragging through this?
Speaker 5 (19:14):
He has a five year old son from his previous marriage.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
We were each married before.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
But before you guys do the on again, off again,
on again, off again, why don't you go get some
counsel and figure yourselves out.
Speaker 5 (19:32):
We're working on getting in the counseling together. So we're
on that step right now.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Okay, But before we talk about remarriage, and I'm not
saying you shouldn't, I'm just saying, before you have that conversation,
let's spend some time figuring yourself out and let him
spend time figuring himself out.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
We're discussing it, and we're like figuring things out and
we're not moving. That's the time, Like we're taking your time,
if that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Okay, So what blew up your marriage in a matter
of weeks?
Speaker 5 (20:11):
His son got sick, and so if he just was
that in the right head space.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
So again, it sounds to me like you both need
to work on yourselves and figure out what's going on
before you talk about let's get married again. Yeah, Like we.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Moved really quickly, like way too quickly.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
I'm not judging you, because God knows I have made
every every bad decision in the book. When it comes
to marriage and divorce. I am not in standing in
judgment of you at all. You don't have to explain anything,
you don't have to validate what you did. I've been there,
done that, got the T shirt and a bag of chips,
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and I'm I'm just speaking out of my own experience
and my own bad choices. I wish that I had
taken the time to slow down and learn about myself
before I just kept trying to fix something when really
the thing wasn't what was so broken? I was, Yeah,
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that's all not judging ya.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
Listened to your show on I daily, like every day
when I come home from work, I listen.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
And then, if you've been doing that for years, you
heard me going through my painful divorce, all the foolishness
I've been through.
Speaker 5 (21:39):
Shortly after, like him and I split up, and then
we stopped talking for a little bit. But then when
we started reconnecting that entire time that we weren't together,
I started listening to you.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Oh so this has been recently. You found me if
you had listened to me back in the eighties, who
was my life a hot mess?
Speaker 5 (22:03):
So sometimes I've been really thinking and kind of I
listen every night when I come home from work.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Sometimes we'll say a Bible.
Speaker 5 (22:13):
Verse, and one that really sticks with me is Matthew
Chapter nineteen, verse twenty six. With God, all things are possible.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Amen. Amen, Amen, Amen. I love that all things, not
some things, all things. Yes, you have a wonderful autumn,
and I hope that you guys are able to figure
things out.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Diana is struggling with a daughter who is choosing not
to communicate with her right now, a daughter who is
shut down, gone silent, and Diana is trying to force
an outcome. She is trying to make things go the
way she thinks they should go. And I understand, who
boy do? I understand that it's painful when you want
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to help. It's painful when you want to connect. It's
painful when somebody chooses to close the door. Sometimes you
can't help. Sometimes you can't connect. Sometimes all you can
do is let go and let God.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this Lilah?
Speaker 6 (23:26):
This is Diana.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
How are you hello?
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Diana? I am wonderful. What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (23:34):
My daughter and I had a long fight like three
years ago, and I have been trying.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
To be, you know, to get back with her. I've
tried everything.
Speaker 6 (23:47):
I've written letters, I've apologized, even if it wasn't my fault.
I've told her I loved her, I told her I
needed her, and she says, you're a terrible mother. My others,
my son is like, mom, you're the best year everything.
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My whole family has tried to talk to her and say,
you need your mother, You need to talk to your mom.
It's been three years. She has a daughter that I
haven't seen in three years. We were so close, and
I don't know what to do. And every letter I've written,
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every card I've given, any gift I've given, I don't
know if she's gotten it. She's I don't know what
to do. I go to counseling.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I what does your counselor say when you go to counseling.
Speaker 6 (24:45):
They just tell me to relax and maybe she'll come around.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
You know, is this a counselor you trust and feel
is wise? Yeah? So why are you not listening? I
am no, No, you're not because but you're not listening.
You're going to a counselor because you want counsel you
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want wisdom that is beyond your experience. The counselor is
giving you wisdom and you're ignoring it and trying desperately
to fix something that you didn't break. Right, You are
trying desperately, frantically to put Humpty Dumpty back together again,
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And you're not the reason Humpty Dumpty's broken. The Humpty
Dumpty jumped off that wall his own self.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Right, And I understand that.
Speaker 6 (25:45):
I just you know, I mean, this is a third
birthday that I'm not invited to and it hurts, right,
But you know what Amelia looks like.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Honey, Honey, listen to yourself. I know you said you're
going to counseling, but do you hear yourself. Yeah, you
are not listening to your counselor and letting go and
letting God put this together. You are frantically trying to
fix it. And the more you try to fix it,
the further away she is going to run. She has
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set a boundary and said, Mom, leave me alone. I
don't want to be connected to you right now. And
instead of respecting that and saying okay, I love you,
I'm here, should you change your mind? You are grasping
at straws, and that is pushing her further and further
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and further away because you're not getting the response you want.
You're becoming desperate. Okay, that's not going to help you, guys. Reconcile, right.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
It just doesn't seem like she ever wants to.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
But that's her right, that's her choice life itself. You
don't get to determine how she reacts or interacts with you.
That's that's way outside of your control.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Right.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Has she mentioned that you got some control issues?
Speaker 2 (27:16):
No, not really. I know I probably do.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Learn this phrase. It saved my sanity and it might
save yours. Let go and let God. Let go of
the need to have the outcome be what you want
it to be, and let God work through everything. Let
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go of the need to have your expectations meant, and
let God bring loving relationships into your life.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
My husband, he's there for me all the time.
Speaker 6 (27:57):
And you know, if I didn't have him, I don't
know where I'd be with God.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
But I mean, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Let go of the need to control the outcome of
this relationship with your daughter.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
And let God work through everything.
Speaker 4 (28:20):
All right, thank you?
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Because I need him to sift in my wife all
the time. He's even here listening to me at times.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
It's so all the time. He will never leave you
nor forsake you, never ever, ever, ever, ever, Even if
our own flesh and blood turns their back on us,
God will never turn his back on you. And the
only one that's going to be able to heal your
daughter's heart from whatever has pushed her away is the
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Almighty Right. So let him.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
God, bless you. I pray your family is healed, is reconciled,
that you guys are able to have a wonderful future.
But you're gonna have to just sit back, take your
hands off of this completely. Let Jesus take the wheel. Girlfriend.
Thank you, God bless you. This entire podcast is meant
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to encourage you, to encourage you to put everything in
God's hands. He cares. He cares as much about the
small things as he does about big things. I know
it can be hard to trust, sometimes nearly impossible. And
it's not something you do once and it's done. It's
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a process. You do it over and over and over.
It is so worth it. Thank you to my callers.
Bernadette James Crystal, and of course Diana. Your stories hopefully
will touch many other hearts. I will be back next
time with another f episode of Have a Little Faith.
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Do Me a favor. Take some time out of these
beautiful autumn nights to slow down and love someone
Speaker 6 (30:14):
Delight
Hello, Welcome, my friend. Welcome to another addition of have
a little faith. Right now, with everything going on in
the world, we need to have more than a little
bit of faith, more than a scooch of faith. A
little bit of faith isn't going to get you very
far with all the Craig Kray going on. I need
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a lot of faith. I need faith that is based
not on how I feel, because come on, I'm post metapausal.
My feelings change like the weather, like the wind. I
need a faith that is based on a rock, something
that doesn't shift like my emotions or my moods. I
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need a faith that is firmly grounded and rooted in
historical facts. I need a faith that is built on
the rock that never changes, that never wavers. I need
a faith in a God that is unchanging, that is
everlasting to everlasting, that is the same yesterday, today and always.
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I can put my trust and my faith in a
God that doesn't change with trends, with fashions. I want
to put my faith in something that is not shifting sand,
but a solid rock. Putting things in God's hands is hard.
Putting my life in his hands is hard. Putting my
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future in his hands, my children in his hands is hard,
but it is necessary. It's a powerful thing. Having the
willingness to let go and let God doesn't mean you're weak.
It means your faith is strong. It's an act of
trust and surrender to the one probably the only one
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that can actually help. When we face uncertainty, when we
face fears, when we are in the midst of situations
beyond our control, we tend to make bad decisions. I
tend to make bad decisions when I am on a
roller coaster, especially of emotions. I make really bad decisions.
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God wants us to step up to our responsibilities, but
he also wants us to let go, to let go
when we have to. Letting go of control is not
about giving up who. Some people hold on so tightly
to control, they grasp it with both hands, they wrap
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their legs around it. No, no, it must go my way.
You must see things my way. Let's be real. That's
an illusion. You're not in control. But when you put
that in God's hands, you're saying I've done all that
I can and God, I have to trust you with
the rest. You got to put it in his hands
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and trust him with the outcome. Life often brings circumstances
that don't make sense. It's overwhelming when that happens. When
you are brother in law who is the closest thing
to Jesus that you have ever seen, is in a
hospital fighting for his life. And it's not because he's
made bad choices. It's not because he's out getting wasted,
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smoking packs of cigarettes, killing himself. It just happens. Sometimes
when your sister is diagnosed with stage four and you're thinking,
how can this be. She's the one that ground her
on wheat, that made her on flour, that avoided toxins
and poisons and pharmaceuticals. How can this happen? But when
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somebody's just a good person to the core of their
being in you, you love them and you want to
fix it, and you desperately want the outcome. You want
so hard to let go and trust God. In today's podcast,
we have Bernadette. She's a mess with a man who
is manipulating her. Let's let Bernadette tell her own story.
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How is your beautiful autumn going thus far?
Speaker 2 (04:27):
It's going magnificently.
Speaker 3 (04:28):
Well, I got some Ryan's Organic apple cider. However, in
your honor, I'm having a nice cup of tea and
just just so excited to talk to you and catch up.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
I'm actually making apple cider this year because I found
an old, funky apple cider press, an antique hanmade apple
cider press at a garage sale I went to like
five years ago, and I just got it refurbished and working.
So the thing cost me like fifty bucks at the
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garage cell, but it's probably cost me five hundred to
put it back together.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
But think about it, It'll be good for.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Generations to come, for generations, for generations, and the kids
are going to have fun because we're going to have
like an apple cider pressing party with their friends. Wow,
it's all good.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
How we're exciding.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
So what can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
I just felt inspired to call you and to say hi.
I have a bit of a dilemma and it's not
a pretty one.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
I'm sorry to.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Say, Honey. I love Delilah dilemmas. It makes me feel
not so bad about all the horrible messes I've put
myself in.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
Well, you know, they say they'd be careful who you
fall in love with, but you can't always felt it.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
You can't help it. The heart wants what the heart
wants left.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Shoot, thank you for saying that. Well, Unfortunately, I fell
in love with a creep. Oh and every time I
was around him, I lit up like a Christmas tree.
I supported him in his job. I you know, he
was dating someone else, and I said, oh, well, thanks
for bringing me to life and I'm out of here.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
Seebye.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
They just can't we be friends.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
And I'm like, okay, I guess.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
And so I supported him in his job because I
was really good at you know, I at his his
job basically, and I brought him fortune and fame, and
I you know, I did everything I could to help him,
and he started, uh yeah, he invaded my privacy. I
had found out he'd been a corrections officer and he's
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really good at hacking. He's an electrin he's an engineer.
And it's been really ugly for a long time. Nine
years of yeah, torture and torment, and no one seems
to really cure Delilah.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Okay, okay, okay, I need to just stop and give
you an award because I didn't think anyone could top
my knuckleheadedness, but you you might have done that.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
He's happy, he's breaking the law and he is not
being clot and I'm not smart enough with my devices.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
I've got some proof, Delilah.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I've done everything.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
He's ruined my life.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Literally, here's the thing where our abilities and God's begin,
Where our abilities, where our talents, Where are capabilities, where
our wisdom, where our technology ends, Now God begins.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
I've been slowly getting myself better, and that's why when
he came along, I was still doing some major healings
and I could support him in his job and help
his dream come true.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
And I did.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I did what I could.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
I was a friend, nothing else. And yeah, I admit
in the beginning I did some stupid things, you know.
I let him woo me and impress me and all.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
This, and yeah, he broke up with the girl he.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Was dating, and you know, but just just I just
knew he was bad news. And I said, no, I'm good,
but he wouldn't leave me alone. And I've done everything
to get away from him. And at this point things
are so critical because I'm about to go unders.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I need you to listen to me, yes'am, because all
your hearing is the fear in your head, which is
very real. It's not imaginary. It's very real. You have
done everything with the police. You have done everything in
your ability to make your life safe. So where your
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abilities end, where you say I can do no more,
is where God can finally begin. Did you ever hear
the story of the little girl that broke her her
favorite doll?
Speaker 2 (09:00):
No, don't know that.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
One little girl had a doll, a porcelain doll, and
she dropped it and she broke it, and it broken,
the porcelain broken half. And she takes it to her
dad and she says, Dad, I drop my favorite doll.
I love this doll. I broke it. He says, Okay,
leave it right there on the kitchen table, honey, and
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when you get up tomorrow it'll be better. May not
be perfect, but you can have your dolly back. And
she says, but Dad, you're not paying attention. I'm telling you,
I broke my favorite porcelain doll. You can't make it better.
He goes, Actually, I can. And if you will leave
it right there on the dining room table when you
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get up tomorrow, it'll be better. Won't be perfect, but
you can play with your DOLLI And she screams and
she wails and she cries and she throws herself on
the floor, and she says, but you just don't understand, Dad,
I love this doll so much and it's broken, and
she just a fit and Dad keeps saying the same thing.
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She keeps saying the same thing. Finally, she grabs her doll,
stomps up the stairs, mad and disappointed, and goes to
bed holding her broken doll. And the next day she
comes down and she says, I knew you wouldn't do it.
You couldn't fix it. My doll is still broken. And
he said, baby girl, you never let it go.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
The glue that Dad needed to fix the porcelain was toxic.
He wasn't going to mix it up around his daughter.
He just wanted her to trust him enough to let
it go and let him work on it, and she
couldn't do it. Can you trust him enough to let
this go into his hands? I'm not saying stop fighting,
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I'm not saying stop being wise to protect yourself, but
doing all that you have done isn't doing enough, and
you need a higher power to take over. Are you
willing to let go of this and let God fix
it or not?
Speaker 4 (11:08):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:09):
I am, then do it. Put it in his lap
and leave it there.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
It's as I have from praying, honey, all along. You
really don't understand. I've done everything I know to do.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I know you have, and I agree. I'm agreeing with that.
You have done all that. You can give it away,
give it to him, totally, give it to him and
leave it in his lap.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Oh gosh, the while of.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Let it go, Let it go, leave it in the
arms of the father. He knows what you need. He
knows what this person needs. He knows what this guy needs.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I even pray for him that God will just help him.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
He will. But you can't. You gotta let it go.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Okay, Well, because I've thought of just getting rid of all.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
The device again. You're trying. You're oh wow, I know,
oh wow.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
I'm yeah, just saying here, you want them, you want
my devices? Just take it out.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
I'm through.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
I can't do anything to help you anymore.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Just leave me a littone, put it in God's hands
and leave it there.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
I guess me.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
I'm because I can't do anything.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
All right, I'll find a song for you. Thank you, sweetheart.
Good night, You're awesome.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Have a good night.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Next, I have a call from James James is an
incredible dad that's worried about his adult children. That is
a situation a lot of us can relate to. Let's
listen to James right now. What can I do for you? James?
Speaker 4 (12:52):
My kids are glowing up during college, but I still
worry all the time. And I know they're doing the
best they can. But as a parent, and they don't
know what, you know, there's only that's worrying happening. And
I trunk that they can do what they have to.
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And as a kid growing up, I remember the times
when I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
So what kind of things do you worry about? Are
you talking about? You worry about them being heard on campus?
Are you talking about you worry about them making bad choices?
What are you worrying about?
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Well, they it's about doing their best, you know, not
taking the easy way out in terms of like oh
I don't want to do an assignment or I'm not
going to try and get into something. And you know,
now they're going to graduate from college and they have
to find a job, and I'm like, you really have to.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Do it, James, Why why did they have to do that?
I didn't graduate from college. I took the easy way.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
Well, and that's the point. That's why I'm saying, like,
I feel like there's things I want them to do.
As a parent. You almost help us, she say, God,
let things happen and protect them and just be who
they are. You know, that's the whole thing of it.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Okay, So take a deep breath here, because I'm about
to I'm about to dump some Mama Delilah wisdom on you. Okay.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
I love it good.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
I believe that all of our days are written before
a single one comes to pass. That God knows before
he sends our little souls down here. He knows us.
He knows our talents, our gifts, our insights. He knows
the trauma that's going to happen to us and how
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that is going to shape us. He knows the good
things that are going to happen to us and how
that will also shape us. And He has a purpose
for us. Our parents don't know any of that. They
are the vessels that He sends our souls to and through.
And if they are good parents, they will do their
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best to present opportunities for growth and wisdom and love.
If they are bad parents, they pile on the trauma
and then we spend the rest of our life overcoming that.
But they parents don't determine the path their kids are
going to take, not up to us to pick whether
they're going to be an engineer or a doctor, or
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a street sweeper or a disc jockey on the radio.
If my parents had picked my path, they would not
have chosen for me to be in broadcasting. Believe me you,
I never graduated college. I don't have a degree in anything,
and I've been fired twelve times. Dude. The school is
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great for some people, it's not great for everyone. Everybody's
got their path and hoping they do good or hoping
they study, or hoping they succeed is foolish.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Yeah, today's society, everybody thinks, oh, just open the app
and it will happen, you know, like it's so instantaneous
and everything's like a ten minute. They're so focused, and
I'm like, you have to dedicate time and focus and
do you need to do because it doesn't just open
an app and you're done. It's more than that. But
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they're still warning, and I'm still warning, and we always learn.
And I really appreciate your thoughts and your understanding.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
I hope and pray that you find some peace and
that you because our adult children become our best friends.
They are so fun when they become adults. I hope
that you are able to relax and trust that God's
got them so that you can just enjoy these wonderful
human beings that you were blessed to get to raise.
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Because it sounds like you were an extremely loving and
involved dad, So thank you for that.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
And they're becoming my parents now because I tell they
don't do that, you shouldn't do that, so let's should
do it all comes around.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, you don't have to worry about them being the
kind of flunkies that are doing nothing but opening a
n app Dad, You've done well, Okay.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
I appreciate it. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
The next story I want to share with you is
from a listener named Crystal. Cristel is currently trying trying
to reconcile with her ex, but she's trying to do
that on her own strength, on her own timeline. Let's
listen to Crystal right now. Hi, Crystal, welcome to the
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Delilah Show. What can I do for you on this
autumn evening?
Speaker 5 (17:52):
Well, I just wanted to Colin and Uh, I don't
know that my boyfriend's listening, but I wanted to know
how much I love it, and like we've been through
all the ups and downs and we're finally back in
a good place, and it's just want to let him
know that I did a guarret for him and love everything.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
That he does.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
So you've been through it just recently or in the past,
like over the last year.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
Like we met last year and our relationship moved really quickly.
Long story short, we got married just to get divorced,
and now we're back together trying to figure everything out,
and we're talking about possibly getting remarried. So I mean,
we're just about a pass now.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
How long were you together before you got married?
Speaker 5 (18:42):
We met in January and we got married in September.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
And how long were you married before you were divorced?
Speaker 5 (18:49):
Probably almost a lot of things happened and we were
in a great spot and we couldn't couldn't figure out
how to work it out.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
But we're figuring it.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Out now, Crystal. How old are you?
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I'm thirty five.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
How old is your your whatever he is now, he's thirty.
And are there children that you're you're dragging through this?
Speaker 5 (19:14):
He has a five year old son from his previous marriage.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
We were each married before.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
But before you guys do the on again, off again,
on again, off again, why don't you go get some
counsel and figure yourselves out.
Speaker 5 (19:32):
We're working on getting in the counseling together. So we're
on that step right now.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Okay, But before we talk about remarriage, and I'm not
saying you shouldn't, I'm just saying, before you have that conversation,
let's spend some time figuring yourself out and let him
spend time figuring himself out.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
We're discussing it, and we're like figuring things out and
we're not moving. That's the time, Like we're taking your time,
if that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Okay, So what blew up your marriage in a matter
of weeks?
Speaker 5 (20:11):
His son got sick, and so if he just was
that in the right head space.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
So again, it sounds to me like you both need
to work on yourselves and figure out what's going on
before you talk about let's get married again. Yeah, Like we.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Moved really quickly, like way too quickly.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
I'm not judging you, because God knows I have made
every every bad decision in the book. When it comes
to marriage and divorce. I am not in standing in
judgment of you at all. You don't have to explain anything,
you don't have to validate what you did. I've been there,
done that, got the T shirt and a bag of chips,
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and I'm I'm just speaking out of my own experience
and my own bad choices. I wish that I had
taken the time to slow down and learn about myself
before I just kept trying to fix something when really
the thing wasn't what was so broken? I was, Yeah,
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that's all not judging ya.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
Listened to your show on I daily, like every day
when I come home from work, I listen.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
And then, if you've been doing that for years, you
heard me going through my painful divorce, all the foolishness
I've been through.
Speaker 5 (21:39):
Shortly after, like him and I split up, and then
we stopped talking for a little bit. But then when
we started reconnecting that entire time that we weren't together,
I started listening to you.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Oh so this has been recently. You found me if
you had listened to me back in the eighties, who
was my life a hot mess?
Speaker 5 (22:03):
So sometimes I've been really thinking and kind of I
listen every night when I come home from work.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Sometimes we'll say a Bible.
Speaker 5 (22:13):
Verse, and one that really sticks with me is Matthew
Chapter nineteen, verse twenty six. With God, all things are possible.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Amen. Amen, Amen, Amen. I love that all things, not
some things, all things. Yes, you have a wonderful autumn,
and I hope that you guys are able to figure
things out.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Diana is struggling with a daughter who is choosing not
to communicate with her right now, a daughter who is
shut down, gone silent, and Diana is trying to force
an outcome. She is trying to make things go the
way she thinks they should go. And I understand, who
boy do? I understand that it's painful when you want
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to help. It's painful when you want to connect. It's
painful when somebody chooses to close the door. Sometimes you
can't help. Sometimes you can't connect. Sometimes all you can
do is let go and let God.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this Lilah?
Speaker 6 (23:26):
This is Diana.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
How are you hello?
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Diana? I am wonderful. What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (23:34):
My daughter and I had a long fight like three
years ago, and I have been trying.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
To be, you know, to get back with her. I've
tried everything.
Speaker 6 (23:47):
I've written letters, I've apologized, even if it wasn't my fault.
I've told her I loved her, I told her I
needed her, and she says, you're a terrible mother. My others,
my son is like, mom, you're the best year everything.
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My whole family has tried to talk to her and say,
you need your mother, You need to talk to your mom.
It's been three years. She has a daughter that I
haven't seen in three years. We were so close, and
I don't know what to do. And every letter I've written,
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every card I've given, any gift I've given, I don't
know if she's gotten it. She's I don't know what
to do. I go to counseling.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I what does your counselor say when you go to counseling.
Speaker 6 (24:45):
They just tell me to relax and maybe she'll come around.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
You know, is this a counselor you trust and feel
is wise? Yeah? So why are you not listening? I
am no, No, you're not because but you're not listening.
You're going to a counselor because you want counsel you
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want wisdom that is beyond your experience. The counselor is
giving you wisdom and you're ignoring it and trying desperately
to fix something that you didn't break. Right, You are
trying desperately, frantically to put Humpty Dumpty back together again,
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And you're not the reason Humpty Dumpty's broken. The Humpty
Dumpty jumped off that wall his own self.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
Right, And I understand that.
Speaker 6 (25:45):
I just you know, I mean, this is a third
birthday that I'm not invited to and it hurts, right,
But you know what Amelia looks like.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Honey, Honey, listen to yourself. I know you said you're
going to counseling, but do you hear yourself. Yeah, you
are not listening to your counselor and letting go and
letting God put this together. You are frantically trying to
fix it. And the more you try to fix it,
the further away she is going to run. She has
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set a boundary and said, Mom, leave me alone. I
don't want to be connected to you right now. And
instead of respecting that and saying okay, I love you,
I'm here, should you change your mind? You are grasping
at straws, and that is pushing her further and further
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and further away because you're not getting the response you want.
You're becoming desperate. Okay, that's not going to help you, guys. Reconcile, right.
Speaker 2 (26:55):
It just doesn't seem like she ever wants to.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
But that's her right, that's her choice life itself. You
don't get to determine how she reacts or interacts with you.
That's that's way outside of your control.
Speaker 4 (27:11):
Right.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Has she mentioned that you got some control issues?
Speaker 2 (27:16):
No, not really. I know I probably do.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Learn this phrase. It saved my sanity and it might
save yours. Let go and let God. Let go of
the need to have the outcome be what you want
it to be, and let God work through everything. Let
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go of the need to have your expectations meant, and
let God bring loving relationships into your life.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
My husband, he's there for me all the time.
Speaker 6 (27:57):
And you know, if I didn't have him, I don't
know where I'd be with God.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
But I mean, you know.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Let go of the need to control the outcome of
this relationship with your daughter.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
And let God work through everything.
Speaker 4 (28:20):
All right, thank you?
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Because I need him to sift in my wife all
the time. He's even here listening to me at times.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
It's so all the time. He will never leave you
nor forsake you, never ever, ever, ever, ever, Even if
our own flesh and blood turns their back on us,
God will never turn his back on you. And the
only one that's going to be able to heal your
daughter's heart from whatever has pushed her away is the
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Almighty Right. So let him.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
God, bless you. I pray your family is healed, is reconciled,
that you guys are able to have a wonderful future.
But you're gonna have to just sit back, take your
hands off of this completely. Let Jesus take the wheel. Girlfriend.
Thank you, God bless you. This entire podcast is meant
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to encourage you, to encourage you to put everything in
God's hands. He cares. He cares as much about the
small things as he does about big things. I know
it can be hard to trust, sometimes nearly impossible. And
it's not something you do once and it's done. It's
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a process. You do it over and over and over.
It is so worth it. Thank you to my callers.
Bernadette James Crystal, and of course Diana. Your stories hopefully
will touch many other hearts. I will be back next
time with another f episode of Have a Little Faith.
(30:03):
Do Me a favor. Take some time out of these
beautiful autumn nights to slow down and love someone
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