September 19, 2025 • 33 mins
Get cozy with Ros and Eric as they take on your relationship questions directly from the Couples Terapia Couch!
Hear why Eric thinks he found his brother from another mother when one listener asks about long lectures.
Meanwhile, are fake apologies a good thing? Ros offers her take on saying sorry.
Plus, find out the one thing that causes Eric pure panic
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said, A ya DHO with Eric Winter
and Rodlin Fantag. All right, welcome to another episode, he said,
a d ho no longer just he said. We have
my beautiful wife back for an episode, which is good.
She's been doing some traveling. Things have been busy, which
(00:23):
is always a good thing, always a challenging thing at
the same time. But talk about some of your recent travels.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Hello. First of all, I feel like I haven't been
here for years.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
We're only doing one like every week.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I know, it feels longer. It feels longer, it feels
like an eternity.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So it's been like a month prisent you were on.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh my goodness. Anyways, I'm happy to be back. Guys,
I'm miss throw the ins here. Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
So talk to us.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
So what do you want me to talk about?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
What have you been up to? I have How was
your New York trip? Well, I already talked about that
a little bit, that you were struggling with a particular project. Guys,
I didn't talk about the project, but you've been struggling.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Yeah, I can't. Well, I signed an A and n
D A. I'm not supposed to talk about about it,
but it was well, I think that I'm never gonna
do ever again in my life. It's unfortunate because it's
a massive thing because it's a video game, and I
guess gamers it's it's a huge sport basically the gaming world.
But it's something that is very foreign to me. And
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I did it because my team was saying, it's the
coolest thing ever.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
You need to do it.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
It's another world. But I didn't know that. The process
to actually record the voice for these things is insane.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
I think it's had a tough experience. I did a
video game and I loved it. I did it years ago,
and I was like in a full body suit, but
I didn't have a headgear thing on. That's a big difference.
You had a headgear with like a camera. Here. I
was on a sound stage with cameras. I did no,
I did that.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I did that the first time that I did the
whole body thing for a while and as you know,
my claustrophobia. So I am inside this like dome, like
this egg shaped thing with a thousand that's weird.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I didn't do something as like a propper stage everywhere.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I was inside a dome that they had to monitor
me because they would close it and I'll be like,
I'm about to freak out.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
But they made it very very cold, so that helped me.
But it was maybe a million lights everywhere and doing
every single possible emotion face shape, like when I'm talking
about hundreds, I'm sad, happy, left, I brought up growl
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like a dog. Do it like hundreds of them, And
I was like, I want to punch a wall right now.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
See I didn't have the thing you had. I had
the dots on over my face.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
So I had, yes, I had dots all over my.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Face and a cap I had no.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I was inside like a recording booth, but they put
a massive camera on my head that was super heavy
on comfort. Guys, I can't even give me anxiety just
thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
So weird that you had that. I mean, mine was,
like I said, a sound stage. I had like props
that were fake, you know, a fake submarine, a fake
black hot helicopter. They were just like like big giant
planks and stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It was, and it's just interesting because I was asking
them listen. It was as a new world to me.
I said, why can't you why don't you guys record
the voice so the actor can do whatever the actual wants,
and then when you do the images, then you cater
based on the actress performance.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
But ninety percent of.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
It, no, they already do like a whole setup, so
you're actually acting and trying to copy the movement the
pauses of whoever they it was.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
This is more crazy. And know what I did, because
I was mine was all at once. Oh, all the reactions,
all the emotions, all the acting movements was at the
exact same time.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So these people trained once. I was like, I hate it,
but everybody's lovely. Then I had to go back to
New York a second time and I'm going I want
to scream. And then I went a third time and
I was not the most pleasant actress because I was like,
you know, guys, I fail. I have a head injury,
so I have a massive helmet. I kept telling Eric, Eric,
I want to die like a massive helmet pushing into
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my injury. And I'm going, let me just be professional,
let me just finish and complete this thing. And they
were very accommodating. But yeah, they probably thought I was
a nightmare because it was a lot. But I hope
it turns out to be. It's a very funny character,
so I'm hoping that it's going to turn on to
be epic.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
It's a big game. So yeah, you all will see
it and hear more about it when it releases. Now,
you're going back to Puerto Rico next week for.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
There is a festival called the Puerto Rico Film Festival.
Is the biggest festival we have in Puerto Rico.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
The organizers, they have been doing this for years and
their hope is to grow the festival to compete and
be at the same caliber as a massive uh TIF
you know, Toronto, Infancibo, Trabeca, Cans, you know, like I'm
in Kansas.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
A different story. They want high exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
They want to be very competitive, so they want to
get into that medium tier, tier tier, you know. But
it's really well organized. It's at the West coast, so
it's an area that is stunning that not a lot
of people cater too, because everybody wants to be in
the capital. And they're going to honor me this year,
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so I'm going to be there. They're going to present
my movie, so I've never been I'm excited. So let's
see how it goes. It gives me an opportunity also
to do all the work of other productions that I
want to continue doing. In Puerto Rico, I get to
see my parents and we'll also.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Speaking of your movie now. And people should know this
in the US, which is good because we're working our way.
I know a lot of international fans have been asking
me and asking you when can we see it? How
can we see it? We're getting to that place to
where it's going to be leased on vod and you're
gonna be able to buy it, rent it all that
or a streamer. But before that, in the US market,
we have what at least four screening slash kind of
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premiere not premieeres, but like actual q and as and
screenings with the cast and with you. Yes, what markets
are you hitting? So I'm taking the girls on.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
It's called the the Audio Tour, just again instead of
a comedy tour. Is like at the Audio Tour where
all the lead girls also Clarisa Molina, the fifth lead,
is also going to be available in some of these
markets and me we're going to go to We start
in Orlando October tenth. It opens in one theater in
See Me Kiss me. I don't know how to say, guys,
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can you see me? In Orlando? We're there for a week,
so it's it's a very limited theatrical run. We do
a week at a time Orlando first, then we go
to New York. We're gonna open in a theater in
fifty seventh in Times Square. Then we go to Chicago,
and then we go to Los Angeles, hopefully the Ala
live and down in town Los Angeles. Every city is
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just a one week engagement, so you have one week
to watch the movie. If it blows up and it
goes incredible like it did in Puerto Rico, we're like
three weeks now number one, which is amazing. There's a
possibility that we can expand, but the idea is to
do it limited. The girls are going to be in
every single city, so people that go to that screening,
they get the opportunity to do a Q and A,
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to take pictures with the cast with me, and we
just want to expand and have people in the States
to be able to watch the movie, you know, and
go to the theaters and have that theater experience, and
then come November it will be available and a lot
of all the major apps, so people can buy it
or rent it and then at some point you will
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probably just go to a streams.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Exciting and it will release international as well. We've been
working on a foreign sales agent to get it sold
in some key countries and markets, and I think it's listen,
this is what independent filmmaking is. Everybody. It is a
pill climb constantly and you just hope for the best
to make some money or make it back and break even.
(08:07):
And this movie is like the little engine that could.
It just keeps doing amazing things in the market so
far in Puerto Rico, and it seems to be a
lot of buzz and excitement. You know, I think, you know,
even worldwide people want to see this movie, so it's fun.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah, I know. The reception and the feedback has been phenomenal.
I want to thank Puerto Rico because the the love
that we have received and the support has been overwhelming,
and the comments are just stunning. So it makes every single.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Even my acting and my horrible Spanish has been well received,
I think to a degree.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
To a degree, everybody loves Spanish. It was amazing, No guys,
he did amazing, and he looked amazing and everybody loves
your scenes and the movie is just fantastic. It's it's
the gift that keeps on giving, and I'm hoping that
we can continue expanding and more people get to watch
it because I'm very proud of it. I have learned
a lot. Like you said, independent filmmaking is a beast,
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is a beast of its own. But I feel like
after the idea and all the blood, sweat and tears,
I graduated with honors, So I cannot wait to do
it again because now I know. Now I know what
not to do.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You know, it's a grind. So anytime you see independent
movies in theaters, support them because they need the love.
They don't have the backing, the money, the platform that
these big studio movies have, and they're all made with labor, love,
and they're they're just some of them are obviously phenomenal
movies that end up getting all the climbing the ranks,
finding distribution and winning Oscars. Happens all the time, so
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you know, it's just a great market to support. On
that note, let's switch gears and transition into the relationship
stuff that we talked about a few weeks ago. We
asked you all to send in some questions, and we
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promised to for our humble, definitely non expert opinions on relationships,
and you guys sent some really good ones, I have
to say, so we're going to do our best to
tackle these on this podcast. Have some fun, and let's
see where these questions take us. I'm gonna lead us
in with the first question. My husband is loving, he's
a great father, he's a great son, He's truly a gift.
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But one of our kids makes a minor mist once
our one of our kids makes a minor mistake, he
gives them an hour long sermon that we all have
to listen to God.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
This sounds like me, I wasnly sounds like me.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I said, our kids down and have long conversations all
the time. He never screams. I actually can raise my
voice sometimes or uses bad words that I'm not good
at that part. It's just a lot of examples and
analogies I do that. Wow, this is that I can
relate to this guy. I know he means well, and
I know communication is the best way to raise children,
but sometimes I just want to say, please shut up,
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we get it. Am I wrong for being in or
does he need to stop the long lectures? What's her name?
This is a tough question, by the way, there's not
a name attached to this, and there's Yeah, this is
a tough one.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
So beautiful, smart lady, I hear you. I feel you
with all of my heart because I live that every
single day.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
But the thing I think to take away from this
with kids is in this new world of parenting, right before,
when I was a kid, I just got a spanking.
I didn't get spoken to. Did my dad used to
spank you? Yes?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
It did.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Did I used to get spanked and it would scare
the heck out of me and my dad was getting
that mad. And in this world of parenting, how do
you how do you combat kids that are constantly pushing
the buttons and often I think it has to come
with an explanation if that's the goal. And I admit
I definitely am a person that can be long winded.
So I empathize with your husband in this situation and
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also you, loving wife, I don't know your name. I
think it's I think it's a combination of both. To
be honest, I don't think this is my my humble opinion,
I don't think you can just be like, no, don't
do that, and have no consequence, have no action, no explanation.
If you're gonna ground them or take something away, take
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the phone away, take whatever away. You give them no explanation.
And I think often in our in our case and
our son's still really young, but in our daughter's case,
she's a girl that likes to challenge. And that's I've
heard from a lot of things I've seen online and
stuff like that, that that's a healthy thing that they
want to challenge. That's their place, that's their job. But
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I often think those conversations would go would be a
lot shorter if the challenge wasn't there and they were
just listening trying to learn. But you forget that they
have a tiny, you know, young brain developing that is,
you know, they're thirteen, and they don't know how to
listen and take in all that information. So that's what
I would say, being too long when it could be
a downfall. But it's like splitting the day. I think
you have to give an explanation, but maybe cut back
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on the explanation. That's my thought.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
This is how I feel like I appreciate that we
both beautiful lady have similar husbands when it comes to
really loving, phenomenal, phenomenal husbands, you know that actually care
about communicating with their kids and take the time to
sit down and explain everything. I think that's that's beautiful.
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I did not grow up with that experience, so I
appreciate it immensely. But with Eric, there are moments that
I feel that there's an over explanation or beating. How
you say this, beating in the drum, no, beating in
the head, like repeating.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I can't think of the term, so, but you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Like, there's times and it's interesting and I tell him
and I tell Sabella, I said, you guys have to
be really, really really mindful about developing something that you
guys think is great, but it's actually a little bit
toxic because the amount of arguments, and they could be
debating for an hour and then they get mad, and
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then he is in a bad mood, she is in
a bad mood, and then they talk it out for
like an hour. It's like a soap opera. I live
a novela every single day of my life, and I
don't want him or her to relate that to a
functional relationship. You know, it doesn't have to get to that.
So with eric Is, I tell him you know exactly
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who you're dealing with, and she does things that you
know the reasoning behind it. She likes to get a
rise out of you. She likes to manipulate, So don't react.
Don't be so predictable by reacting the same way over
and over and over. Just don't pay attention to it.
It's like sometimes it's like I just wish that you
would just don't get don't immediately get upset, and then
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we have to go through the whole cycle all over again.
It's like, I think, I don't like.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I think it's give the exploit, give the explanation. If
the resistance is still there, there has to be a consequence,
and then walk away, but follow through with the consequence.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
We never follow through the consequence.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
That's not true. We're doing it much more now, but we're.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Doing it better before. No, and I think she got
our number and she was like, I can do whatever
you want because they're going to threaten threatening At the
end of the day, they're not gonna do anything.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
List We had a daughter early on that was so funny.
I'll never forget this. When she was little, like Dylan's age,
and she got in trouble and I tried to start
small and explain it at a DoD I was like,
all right, that's it. I'm gonna have to take away
your stuff. You're gonna have to lose this. She's like, fine,
take it here. Like helping me take away her stuff
for punishment. That's what we were dealing with. It was like,
where do you go from there? When they're just like, sure,
take it away anyway. A great question, not a straightforward answer,
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but I think it's splaining the difference. I think it's communicate,
say your piece. I got to get better at this,
by the way. Communicate say your piece. If there is resistance,
there's gonna have to be a consequence, and then walk
away because there's not much way you can do and
let everybody sit with it.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
You know how many times, because of Tenny's consumes our lives,
Eric is like, I am done with Tenny's I can't
do this anymore. She's too difficult and it's so much work.
I'm not doing it, and you're still doing it.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I know because I love her. It's part of the process.
Question number two, how do you say sorry and try
to move on when you know it's the other one
who should apologize? That's a tough one. We talked about
this before. I think I'm easier with apologies than you are.
I think I'm quicker with them. You don't think so.
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I think Sabella is a lot more like you, and
Dylan's like me, Like I'll apologize much quicker, and Dylan
will as well. Sabella will hold it and it's like
pulling teeth to get an apology. But I also is
that a female thing?
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Maybe I'm generalizing, but I think in our household it's
a female thing. What do you think? How do you?
How do you do that? How do you how do
you say sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
When you don't feel like apologizing or you know that
it's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Oh that's hard, Like.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
It's not your fault? So how do you say sorry
and try to move on when you know it's not
your fault or who should be apologizing? Do you wait
for that person? I think?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I think if you want to diffuse and you're sometimes
with relationships, it's like after many many, many many years,
like we've been together for almost twenty years. At some point,
it's like when you don't want to deal anymore and
you're like, you know what.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
It doesn't serve me.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I know I'm shoulding apologize because I didn't do anything wrong,
but if I continue this mood, it's not going to
lead to anything productive. So let me just apologize, because
that's gonna that apology is going to go a long way,
and I can just and the and the problem right here.
It's just difficult to get to the maturity, to the
level of maturity to understand that and be like, yeah,
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I'm just gonna I'm just gonna say I'm sorry because
I don't want to fight anymore.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
I think something that we've done, and we've done this
through therapy too, and talked about I think there's a
way of saying I'm sorry you feel that way, and
I'm sorry for whatever my part might have been in
this argument, and then you know, you try to do
your best to move on from there. When I'm wrong,
like wrong, I have no problem apologizing. I'm pretty quick
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to it. I'll say i'm sorry without a question.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I think I'm fine. When I know I'm wrong, I
say i'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
This I think is maybe more of a female thing.
There are a lot of memes and jokes about this.
Remember I had that meme I posted years ago of
a skeleton looking out the window reading a book, and
it says, waiting for your Latino wife to apologize. I
think I think that's pretty accurate.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
No, what I'm doing much better? I'm too old.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
I don't care. Are you what apologizing? Quicker? Maybe a hair?
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Yeah, I think I am. Think I am.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Then your thirties. Probably a hair quick her, not dramatically
quicker because I'm really wrong. There you go. There you
have it. Question number three on that note, because we
could argue about that one too. Eric, you said that
people who are too loud in public make you uncomfortable.
My husband is the same way. The problem is my
best friend is one of those people, and he gives
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me crap every time I want to invite her over.
He says it's embarrassing that the neighbors can hear her.
But I don't care what the neighbor I don't care
what the neighbors think. We pay for our home, not them.
How do I convince him to stop worrying about what
people think, because I'll never stop inviting my best friend over,
so he needs to get used to it. This is
a tricky one because I I wouldn't get uncomfortable in
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my own house. I would say to my wife that person,
she's way too loud, like I would say it to Rozlin,
for sure. I don't think it would bother me as much. Now,
if I had a dinner party at the house and
there was a bunch of friends over and that one
person was out of control, I would be I would
start to get uncomfortable. But where I'm really bad as
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in public, like at a restaurant.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Why why?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Oh I can't stand But it's not you see me
sweat squirt her panic attack in small spaces, that's my
panic attack. I panic? Why hate it?
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Why the first one is having a great time, It
doesn't fabody.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Is looking at the table and it's taking away from
their experience. Yes, you're in a public place. You're at
a restaurant. I want to have I want to be
able to talk to my friend too and not have
to shout over the other person shouting. It's uncomfortable. It
makes me, it makes me freak out. Listen, I think
in your case, what would be your advice to this.
I don't know. You're not going to stop inviting your
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best friend over.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Now, well, but you have to get over it. Let
her page. She's happy.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
You don't think there's a war.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
She has a loud laugh.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Or just loud voice. There's not a world in which
you would just like pull your best friend science tailors.
You're a little loud. You're best friend.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
For laughing and having a good time.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Way too loud in public, talking really loud.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I don't think I was saying anything like let's.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Be a little quiet. I tried to do it subtly.
I tried to be like, well, hey, hey, let's listen.
I've done that before many times in restaurants are like.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Hey, let's let's be a little You have never done that.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I've made those expressions, Yes I have. I've been out
with guy friends and I have I have a couple
that can be a little loud, and I've been like, hey, guys,
let's let's wear a little loud like everybody's looking. I've
done that.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
That's just funny. Would We had an incident in Miami
years ago when we started. I don't think we were married.
We were just dating and I was with a bunch
of friends, and there was this one of them that
was like it was out of control loud. Eric was miserable.
I think you did you leave like you couldn't. You
couldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
No, I went to the bathroom a couple of times.
I walked away fun you know, yeah, I walked out
to go to the bathroom. I just walked away. It
was too freaking loud. Man, Oh my god. Turn looking.
I'm like, oh my god. And she shut up so much.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
She was happy.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
I was happy too until that moment, way too loud.
I don't know what's your advice. I think you could
subtly hint let her be.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
I think you can hint til your husband that.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Why why you have do you? Why do you have
to respect her and not respect your husband a little bit?
Just give her a hint.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Lady is not doing anything wrong. If you're uncomfortable because
somebody's behavior, that that is a reflection of you. Yes, something,
Oh my god, I don't know. Then, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Oh that's a good Where where were divided on that one?
That was a good one. Question number four to wrap
this episode up, need marriage advice. We both work and
we both work hard. He encourages me to buy what
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I want when I want it, But I just can't
encourage him the same way. He's always careful. You know,
he always has a cart full of things for the
house that are hideous. We don't need them, and I
know they will let they will look tacky. How can
I be supportive of his purchases when I know it's
a waste of money.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Oh, I wish I could have that problem.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
She just tries to get me to to get rid
of old, hideous things that I've had.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
For I would be so happy if my husband was
the type that I'm just Oh, honey, I just saw
this beautiful dining table.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Let's just switch you beautiful. She thinks they're tacky. Oh,
he has to overspend untacking.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Tacks a problem, But at least he's comfortable. He's comfortable spending.
You are you hate spending?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Yeah? I don't like it. Hate spending. It's very painful
for me.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Eric can have the same pair of jeans for for
five years, no problem.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I have I used them every single day, pants years old.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
No, but what I'm saying, you can just have two
teachers and two jeans on your perfectly.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Fine simple human. I'm very simple with that stuff. I
know she I mean, honestly, my upgraded wardrobe is all Rosalind.
She's the one that's bought. It's I basically wait for
a birthday to come buy or Christmas, and then she
goes shopping and she buys me a bunch of things.
She goes, I hope you like them, and I'm getting
much better. I would say nine out of ten things
(24:24):
I have no problem with. I keep, I stick my
neck out, I try it. Baggy jeans. I thought I'd
never do that. I bought a bunch.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
More because I know you so well that I can
just I don't even have to I can walk by
a store and I go that that that I know
exactly what looks.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
She's definitely elevated my wardrobe game, because when I met her,
it was definitely just jeans and a T shirt all
the time. Bermuda the shorts and shorts. Yeah, so she
has elevated my wardrobe game and got me a bit
more out of my comfort zone for a fact. But
in general, just buying things I don't splurge on much
like I watch as a un sneaking watches and shoes. Yes,
(25:03):
I will, I will buy too many. I have too
many sneakers. I don't need that many sneakers. I have
a lot of watches. I don't need that many watches.
I like those things, but I don't just yeah, Broslin
Will definitely you're much better, though, and I guess I'm
much better. I would say we both have rubbed off
on each other in a good way in this category.
You since we met, you have definitely slowed down your
(25:23):
spending and become much more thoughtful about what you spend
on and why you want it if you're going to
use it. And I have definitely improved on my spending
and bought some things. I just don't buy wasteful things.
I don't know. I don't even know that.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
And never has a problem with anything that has to
do with leaving money on the table, meaning if somebody
offers him, if there's a way for him to make
some cash. I like to make money, He's like, I'm
gonna do it, even if it's a lot of work
and it's not necessary or he doesn't need to do it.
I don't know how you do it, because I if
I don't want to do something and if it's just
(26:00):
too much trouble or two time consuming, and it's things
that don't matter. I don't care how much you pay me,
especially after this year, since since my nephew passed away,
is like a change. It rocked my world. Right, it's
been like life changing. I don't talk about it enough,
but it's been life changing in terms of my mind.
I don't know, and I just go. I can do
(26:21):
things that don't make me happy. I want to do
things that make me happy. That's why I have a
hard time when this job in New York about this
video game I know might be something amazing for my career,
but blah blah blah blah. But it is almost like
my body goes into panic and wants to shut down
because I just go, I don't want to be here.
(26:43):
It doesn't make me happy.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I will agree with that. And this happens when you
get older in life, as.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
To the point that you don't want to get invited
to anything. Yeah, it's true, like I don't want to, Guys,
I don't want to be invited to anything.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
I don't want to You don't want to be home.
We're similar like that, both their homebodies. Our daughter says
it the time, you guys are born. I'm a little
bit more going out than Rozlyn, a little bit more
but not much. But it's true twenties. Let's go there
is where forty PRIs change is a different world. It
She just sets in and I think it goes like
we're spending everything else, all right?
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Is I have a a friend of mine that I love,
and you know what, It's funny. She loves going out
and she's married, you know, with adult kids, but she
loves going out. And she's like, Ross, let's go to
this jazz place. They're gonna have this lady, this woman
singing Emmy white House is music and she's incredible. Should
we take the boys? But it's during the week or
(27:37):
Eric is probably going to be shooting, so let's just
you and me, right and I die. I was like,
oh my god, but I love her so much, and
I was like, you know what, Ross, The reality is
once i'ment there, Yeah, yeah, I know that I'm gonna
be like, oh my god, that girl was amazing and
I love the music and I'm gonna leave floating and
I'm gonna be like, this was a beautiful night out.
(27:59):
But it's just getting me to.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Go yeah, no. I'll give you an example. I went
to a Dodger game the other night and it was
a great. It was fine. I love going to any
sporting event, but i've taken our kids before, I've taken
both kids, and Sabella is always like, I want to
stay till the very end. I don't want to miss
a thing. I want them to call the game and
then we'll walk out. And I'm like, Sabella, I want
to beat the traffic. I want to get out of here.
(28:22):
I don't care if I see the last couple of
innings unless it's like the World Series and this is
the end all, be all, or any of any sport.
I'm gonna leave because I want to beat the traffic
and get out. Sadly, in the Dodger game, I missed
Tasker Hernandez's massive home run, which was a huge. They
were already winning, so it was as was a beautiful,
like big home run towards the end. But I don't
want to stay there and wait for the crowds. I
(28:43):
want to get out because it took me an hour
and something last time, Sabella made me mistay just to
get out of the parking lot. So I'm like, no, Sabella.
You see, this is why we leave.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Anyways, Guys, we're the couple that oh for like, Don'm
gonna give an example, which is crazy. So we go
to that by Bonnie concert, right, which is the biggest
event globally, right it is that residence. It's like incredible.
What is what has not? What it has done for
Puerto Rico is it's absolutely be the hottest ticket. And
we I'm getting to the Casita, which is where we were.
(29:13):
It's the biggest, so difficult, people pay crazy money. So
I got the tickets. We go to La Casita. Remember
when I was exhausted. I was exhausted, you know. I
came from like for poisoning, you guys know. It was
like Puerto Rico was like the whole thing. And I
was like, oh my god. We left early and everybody
was like, who leaves early? The freaking bad pony concert,
(29:36):
And guys, I couldn't be there anymore.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
All of us were going. We were like, all right,
I'm ready to go. Great concert. We loved it so much.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
But I was like, people are going to be so
mad when they realized that we decided to leave early.
Nothing against by Bunny. He's amazing and the concert was phenomenal,
but we were like, oh, you know what, I want
to say something, guys.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
I have a friend of mine that sends me this clip.
I think it was talk.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
I think it was that we're at the concert. Eric
actually is like Eric loves urban music, and Eric is
like loving it. I'm exhaustible. We're there and Eric.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
As a joke.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Because I was there with Boo and Carla and like
I said, because of the movie, and Helica was nega,
she flew already back to and anyways, so we're all there,
and every time there was a camera, Eric will go
was on the on the jumbo tron, yeah exactly, and
he will go the ideo mohic.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
In theaters now, and I can say.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Stop saying that because everybody's like his mouthing.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
The name of the movie. The entire arena is looking
at can see that screen.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Exactly, And I'm embarrassed because I don't want people thinking
we're there because I'm like shamelessly promoting my movie.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
And He's like every time, and then there was one
moment that is like the third time he goes the
adio MO, and I cover his mouth because I'm embarrassed,
and my friend is like, listen, they're just joying you,
saying that you shot him up and you're controlling, and
I'm going, oh my god, I was actually protecting my body.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
And by the way, it's not even that people have
to understand, like this is our sense of humor. ROZs
and I joke and do things like that to each
other all the time. For twenty years, we have had
a banter with each other, and honestly, probably the banter
that's kept our relationship going. And that's what's funny, is
(31:32):
like we will laugh at each other, we will tease
each other, we will joke about things in front of people.
We do it on our podcast. We make fun of
each other all the time. And I've said this when
people ask for relationship advice, if you can't make fun
of your partner and laugh about it, if you can't
laugh with your partner and not take yourself so seriously,
that's gonna be your biggest problem in the relationship. So
(31:52):
we do this and people don't get it because they
either they're just trying to find an issue, and I
think that happens in all public figures, like people just
try to find an issue. They think that somebody's having
a problem, somebody's having an affair, somebod's having blah blah blah.
They just make it up because they want to find
a problem. So for all those people who thought she
was trying to shut me up or or she was, uh,
(32:12):
you're taking away my masculinity by doing that, No, man,
we were having a lot. We were cracking up after
that TikTok click clip. So just so you know, that's
how people take social media out of context. They take
little viral moments and they turn it into something bigger.
So be mindful, be smart, don't pay attention to every
little clip you see on social media and think that's
(32:34):
the end all, be all. We were messing around.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
We were messing around, So I didn't mean to show
you up. I just didn't want you to talk about
the movie because it wasn't about the movie at that moment.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
And I was like, oh my god, everybody sees him.
It was fun I thought it was hilarious. That's why
I posted on my social you posted it. I even
showed you when I posted it.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
All right. On that note, love you, thanks for listening,
and don't forget to write us a review and tell
us what you think.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
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and Ross at iHeartRadio dot com, he said. AJAB is
part of iHeartRadio's Miculduda podcast network.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
See you next time. Bye,
This is he said, A ya DHO with Eric Winter
and Rodlin Fantag. All right, welcome to another episode, he said,
a d ho no longer just he said. We have
my beautiful wife back for an episode, which is good.
She's been doing some traveling. Things have been busy, which
(00:23):
is always a good thing, always a challenging thing at
the same time. But talk about some of your recent travels.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Hello. First of all, I feel like I haven't been
here for years.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
We're only doing one like every week.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I know, it feels longer. It feels longer, it feels
like an eternity.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
So it's been like a month prisent you were on.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Oh my goodness. Anyways, I'm happy to be back. Guys,
I'm miss throw the ins here. Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
So talk to us.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
So what do you want me to talk about?
Speaker 1 (00:53):
What have you been up to? I have How was
your New York trip? Well, I already talked about that
a little bit, that you were struggling with a particular project. Guys,
I didn't talk about the project, but you've been struggling.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Yeah, I can't. Well, I signed an A and n
D A. I'm not supposed to talk about about it,
but it was well, I think that I'm never gonna
do ever again in my life. It's unfortunate because it's
a massive thing because it's a video game, and I
guess gamers it's it's a huge sport basically the gaming world.
But it's something that is very foreign to me. And
(01:26):
I did it because my team was saying, it's the
coolest thing ever.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
You need to do it.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
It's another world. But I didn't know that. The process
to actually record the voice for these things is insane.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
I think it's had a tough experience. I did a
video game and I loved it. I did it years ago,
and I was like in a full body suit, but
I didn't have a headgear thing on. That's a big difference.
You had a headgear with like a camera. Here. I
was on a sound stage with cameras. I did no,
I did that.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
I did that the first time that I did the
whole body thing for a while and as you know,
my claustrophobia. So I am inside this like dome, like
this egg shaped thing with a thousand that's weird.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I didn't do something as like a propper stage everywhere.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I was inside a dome that they had to monitor
me because they would close it and I'll be like,
I'm about to freak out.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
But they made it very very cold, so that helped me.
But it was maybe a million lights everywhere and doing
every single possible emotion face shape, like when I'm talking
about hundreds, I'm sad, happy, left, I brought up growl
(02:37):
like a dog. Do it like hundreds of them, And
I was like, I want to punch a wall right now.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
See I didn't have the thing you had. I had
the dots on over my face.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
So I had, yes, I had dots all over my.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Face and a cap I had no.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
I was inside like a recording booth, but they put
a massive camera on my head that was super heavy
on comfort. Guys, I can't even give me anxiety just
thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
So weird that you had that. I mean, mine was,
like I said, a sound stage. I had like props
that were fake, you know, a fake submarine, a fake
black hot helicopter. They were just like like big giant
planks and stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It was, and it's just interesting because I was asking
them listen. It was as a new world to me.
I said, why can't you why don't you guys record
the voice so the actor can do whatever the actual wants,
and then when you do the images, then you cater
based on the actress performance.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
But ninety percent of.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
It, no, they already do like a whole setup, so
you're actually acting and trying to copy the movement the
pauses of whoever they it was.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
This is more crazy. And know what I did, because
I was mine was all at once. Oh, all the reactions,
all the emotions, all the acting movements was at the
exact same time.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So these people trained once. I was like, I hate it,
but everybody's lovely. Then I had to go back to
New York a second time and I'm going I want
to scream. And then I went a third time and
I was not the most pleasant actress because I was like,
you know, guys, I fail. I have a head injury,
so I have a massive helmet. I kept telling Eric, Eric,
I want to die like a massive helmet pushing into
(04:20):
my injury. And I'm going, let me just be professional,
let me just finish and complete this thing. And they
were very accommodating. But yeah, they probably thought I was
a nightmare because it was a lot. But I hope
it turns out to be. It's a very funny character,
so I'm hoping that it's going to turn on to
be epic.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
It's a big game. So yeah, you all will see
it and hear more about it when it releases. Now,
you're going back to Puerto Rico next week for.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
There is a festival called the Puerto Rico Film Festival.
Is the biggest festival we have in Puerto Rico.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
The organizers, they have been doing this for years and
their hope is to grow the festival to compete and
be at the same caliber as a massive uh TIF
you know, Toronto, Infancibo, Trabeca, Cans, you know, like I'm
in Kansas.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
A different story. They want high exactly.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
They want to be very competitive, so they want to
get into that medium tier, tier tier, you know. But
it's really well organized. It's at the West coast, so
it's an area that is stunning that not a lot
of people cater too, because everybody wants to be in
the capital. And they're going to honor me this year,
(05:33):
so I'm going to be there. They're going to present
my movie, so I've never been I'm excited. So let's
see how it goes. It gives me an opportunity also
to do all the work of other productions that I
want to continue doing. In Puerto Rico, I get to
see my parents and we'll also.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Speaking of your movie now. And people should know this
in the US, which is good because we're working our way.
I know a lot of international fans have been asking
me and asking you when can we see it? How
can we see it? We're getting to that place to
where it's going to be leased on vod and you're
gonna be able to buy it, rent it all that
or a streamer. But before that, in the US market,
we have what at least four screening slash kind of
(06:11):
premiere not premieeres, but like actual q and as and
screenings with the cast and with you. Yes, what markets
are you hitting? So I'm taking the girls on.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
It's called the the Audio Tour, just again instead of
a comedy tour. Is like at the Audio Tour where
all the lead girls also Clarisa Molina, the fifth lead,
is also going to be available in some of these
markets and me we're going to go to We start
in Orlando October tenth. It opens in one theater in
See Me Kiss me. I don't know how to say, guys,
(06:40):
can you see me? In Orlando? We're there for a week,
so it's it's a very limited theatrical run. We do
a week at a time Orlando first, then we go
to New York. We're gonna open in a theater in
fifty seventh in Times Square. Then we go to Chicago,
and then we go to Los Angeles, hopefully the Ala
live and down in town Los Angeles. Every city is
(07:02):
just a one week engagement, so you have one week
to watch the movie. If it blows up and it
goes incredible like it did in Puerto Rico, we're like
three weeks now number one, which is amazing. There's a
possibility that we can expand, but the idea is to
do it limited. The girls are going to be in
every single city, so people that go to that screening,
they get the opportunity to do a Q and A,
(07:23):
to take pictures with the cast with me, and we
just want to expand and have people in the States
to be able to watch the movie, you know, and
go to the theaters and have that theater experience, and
then come November it will be available and a lot
of all the major apps, so people can buy it
or rent it and then at some point you will
(07:43):
probably just go to a streams.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Exciting and it will release international as well. We've been
working on a foreign sales agent to get it sold
in some key countries and markets, and I think it's listen,
this is what independent filmmaking is. Everybody. It is a
pill climb constantly and you just hope for the best
to make some money or make it back and break even.
(08:07):
And this movie is like the little engine that could.
It just keeps doing amazing things in the market so
far in Puerto Rico, and it seems to be a
lot of buzz and excitement. You know, I think, you know,
even worldwide people want to see this movie, so it's fun.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah, I know. The reception and the feedback has been phenomenal.
I want to thank Puerto Rico because the the love
that we have received and the support has been overwhelming,
and the comments are just stunning. So it makes every single.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Even my acting and my horrible Spanish has been well received,
I think to a degree.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
To a degree, everybody loves Spanish. It was amazing, No guys,
he did amazing, and he looked amazing and everybody loves
your scenes and the movie is just fantastic. It's it's
the gift that keeps on giving, and I'm hoping that
we can continue expanding and more people get to watch
it because I'm very proud of it. I have learned
a lot. Like you said, independent filmmaking is a beast,
(09:03):
is a beast of its own. But I feel like
after the idea and all the blood, sweat and tears,
I graduated with honors, So I cannot wait to do
it again because now I know. Now I know what
not to do.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
You know, it's a grind. So anytime you see independent
movies in theaters, support them because they need the love.
They don't have the backing, the money, the platform that
these big studio movies have, and they're all made with labor, love,
and they're they're just some of them are obviously phenomenal
movies that end up getting all the climbing the ranks,
finding distribution and winning Oscars. Happens all the time, so
(09:38):
you know, it's just a great market to support. On
that note, let's switch gears and transition into the relationship
stuff that we talked about a few weeks ago. We
asked you all to send in some questions, and we
(09:59):
promised to for our humble, definitely non expert opinions on relationships,
and you guys sent some really good ones, I have
to say, so we're going to do our best to
tackle these on this podcast. Have some fun, and let's
see where these questions take us. I'm gonna lead us
in with the first question. My husband is loving, he's
a great father, he's a great son, He's truly a gift.
(10:22):
But one of our kids makes a minor mist once
our one of our kids makes a minor mistake, he
gives them an hour long sermon that we all have
to listen to God.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
This sounds like me, I wasnly sounds like me.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I said, our kids down and have long conversations all
the time. He never screams. I actually can raise my
voice sometimes or uses bad words that I'm not good
at that part. It's just a lot of examples and
analogies I do that. Wow, this is that I can
relate to this guy. I know he means well, and
I know communication is the best way to raise children,
but sometimes I just want to say, please shut up,
(10:57):
we get it. Am I wrong for being in or
does he need to stop the long lectures? What's her name?
This is a tough question, by the way, there's not
a name attached to this, and there's Yeah, this is
a tough one.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
So beautiful, smart lady, I hear you. I feel you
with all of my heart because I live that every
single day.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
But the thing I think to take away from this
with kids is in this new world of parenting, right before,
when I was a kid, I just got a spanking.
I didn't get spoken to. Did my dad used to
spank you? Yes?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
It did.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Did I used to get spanked and it would scare
the heck out of me and my dad was getting
that mad. And in this world of parenting, how do
you how do you combat kids that are constantly pushing
the buttons and often I think it has to come
with an explanation if that's the goal. And I admit
I definitely am a person that can be long winded.
So I empathize with your husband in this situation and
(12:03):
also you, loving wife, I don't know your name. I
think it's I think it's a combination of both. To
be honest, I don't think this is my my humble opinion,
I don't think you can just be like, no, don't
do that, and have no consequence, have no action, no explanation.
If you're gonna ground them or take something away, take
(12:24):
the phone away, take whatever away. You give them no explanation.
And I think often in our in our case and
our son's still really young, but in our daughter's case,
she's a girl that likes to challenge. And that's I've
heard from a lot of things I've seen online and
stuff like that, that that's a healthy thing that they
want to challenge. That's their place, that's their job. But
(12:45):
I often think those conversations would go would be a
lot shorter if the challenge wasn't there and they were
just listening trying to learn. But you forget that they
have a tiny, you know, young brain developing that is,
you know, they're thirteen, and they don't know how to
listen and take in all that information. So that's what
I would say, being too long when it could be
a downfall. But it's like splitting the day. I think
you have to give an explanation, but maybe cut back
(13:06):
on the explanation. That's my thought.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
This is how I feel like I appreciate that we
both beautiful lady have similar husbands when it comes to
really loving, phenomenal, phenomenal husbands, you know that actually care
about communicating with their kids and take the time to
sit down and explain everything. I think that's that's beautiful.
(13:33):
I did not grow up with that experience, so I
appreciate it immensely. But with Eric, there are moments that
I feel that there's an over explanation or beating. How
you say this, beating in the drum, no, beating in
the head, like repeating.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I can't think of the term, so, but you know
what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Like, there's times and it's interesting and I tell him
and I tell Sabella, I said, you guys have to
be really, really really mindful about developing something that you
guys think is great, but it's actually a little bit
toxic because the amount of arguments, and they could be
debating for an hour and then they get mad, and
(14:18):
then he is in a bad mood, she is in
a bad mood, and then they talk it out for
like an hour. It's like a soap opera. I live
a novela every single day of my life, and I
don't want him or her to relate that to a
functional relationship. You know, it doesn't have to get to that.
So with eric Is, I tell him you know exactly
(14:40):
who you're dealing with, and she does things that you
know the reasoning behind it. She likes to get a
rise out of you. She likes to manipulate, So don't react.
Don't be so predictable by reacting the same way over
and over and over. Just don't pay attention to it.
It's like sometimes it's like I just wish that you
would just don't get don't immediately get upset, and then
(15:03):
we have to go through the whole cycle all over again.
It's like, I think, I don't like.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I think it's give the exploit, give the explanation. If
the resistance is still there, there has to be a consequence,
and then walk away, but follow through with the consequence.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
We never follow through the consequence.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
That's not true. We're doing it much more now, but we're.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Doing it better before. No, and I think she got
our number and she was like, I can do whatever
you want because they're going to threaten threatening At the
end of the day, they're not gonna do anything.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
List We had a daughter early on that was so funny.
I'll never forget this. When she was little, like Dylan's age,
and she got in trouble and I tried to start
small and explain it at a DoD I was like,
all right, that's it. I'm gonna have to take away
your stuff. You're gonna have to lose this. She's like, fine,
take it here. Like helping me take away her stuff
for punishment. That's what we were dealing with. It was like,
where do you go from there? When they're just like, sure,
take it away anyway. A great question, not a straightforward answer,
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but I think it's splaining the difference. I think it's communicate,
say your piece. I got to get better at this,
by the way. Communicate say your piece. If there is resistance,
there's gonna have to be a consequence, and then walk
away because there's not much way you can do and
let everybody sit with it.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
You know how many times, because of Tenny's consumes our lives,
Eric is like, I am done with Tenny's I can't
do this anymore. She's too difficult and it's so much work.
I'm not doing it, and you're still doing it.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I know because I love her. It's part of the process.
Question number two, how do you say sorry and try
to move on when you know it's the other one
who should apologize? That's a tough one. We talked about
this before. I think I'm easier with apologies than you are.
I think I'm quicker with them. You don't think so.
(16:40):
I think Sabella is a lot more like you, and
Dylan's like me, Like I'll apologize much quicker, and Dylan
will as well. Sabella will hold it and it's like
pulling teeth to get an apology. But I also is
that a female thing?
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Maybe I'm generalizing, but I think in our household it's
a female thing. What do you think? How do you?
How do you do that? How do you how do
you say sorry.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
When you don't feel like apologizing or you know that
it's not your fault.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
It's not your fault.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Oh that's hard, Like.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
It's not your fault? So how do you say sorry
and try to move on when you know it's not
your fault or who should be apologizing? Do you wait
for that person? I think?
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I think if you want to diffuse and you're sometimes
with relationships, it's like after many many, many many years,
like we've been together for almost twenty years. At some point,
it's like when you don't want to deal anymore and
you're like, you know what.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
It doesn't serve me.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
I know I'm shoulding apologize because I didn't do anything wrong,
but if I continue this mood, it's not going to
lead to anything productive. So let me just apologize, because
that's gonna that apology is going to go a long way,
and I can just and the and the problem right here.
It's just difficult to get to the maturity, to the
level of maturity to understand that and be like, yeah,
(17:55):
I'm just gonna I'm just gonna say I'm sorry because
I don't want to fight anymore.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
I think something that we've done, and we've done this
through therapy too, and talked about I think there's a
way of saying I'm sorry you feel that way, and
I'm sorry for whatever my part might have been in
this argument, and then you know, you try to do
your best to move on from there. When I'm wrong,
like wrong, I have no problem apologizing. I'm pretty quick
(18:20):
to it. I'll say i'm sorry without a question.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I think I'm fine. When I know I'm wrong, I
say i'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
This I think is maybe more of a female thing.
There are a lot of memes and jokes about this.
Remember I had that meme I posted years ago of
a skeleton looking out the window reading a book, and
it says, waiting for your Latino wife to apologize. I
think I think that's pretty accurate.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
No, what I'm doing much better? I'm too old.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
I don't care. Are you what apologizing? Quicker? Maybe a hair?
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Yeah, I think I am. Think I am.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Then your thirties. Probably a hair quick her, not dramatically
quicker because I'm really wrong. There you go. There you
have it. Question number three on that note, because we
could argue about that one too. Eric, you said that
people who are too loud in public make you uncomfortable.
My husband is the same way. The problem is my
best friend is one of those people, and he gives
(19:20):
me crap every time I want to invite her over.
He says it's embarrassing that the neighbors can hear her.
But I don't care what the neighbor I don't care
what the neighbors think. We pay for our home, not them.
How do I convince him to stop worrying about what
people think, because I'll never stop inviting my best friend over,
so he needs to get used to it. This is
a tricky one because I I wouldn't get uncomfortable in
(19:43):
my own house. I would say to my wife that person,
she's way too loud, like I would say it to Rozlin,
for sure. I don't think it would bother me as much. Now,
if I had a dinner party at the house and
there was a bunch of friends over and that one
person was out of control, I would be I would
start to get uncomfortable. But where I'm really bad as
(20:06):
in public, like at a restaurant.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Why why?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Oh I can't stand But it's not you see me
sweat squirt her panic attack in small spaces, that's my
panic attack. I panic? Why hate it?
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Why the first one is having a great time, It
doesn't fabody.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Is looking at the table and it's taking away from
their experience. Yes, you're in a public place. You're at
a restaurant. I want to have I want to be
able to talk to my friend too and not have
to shout over the other person shouting. It's uncomfortable. It
makes me, it makes me freak out. Listen, I think
in your case, what would be your advice to this.
I don't know. You're not going to stop inviting your
(20:47):
best friend over.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Now, well, but you have to get over it. Let
her page. She's happy.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
You don't think there's a war.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
She has a loud laugh.
Speaker 1 (20:54):
Or just loud voice. There's not a world in which
you would just like pull your best friend science tailors.
You're a little loud. You're best friend.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
For laughing and having a good time.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Way too loud in public, talking really loud.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
I don't think I was saying anything like let's.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Be a little quiet. I tried to do it subtly.
I tried to be like, well, hey, hey, let's listen.
I've done that before many times in restaurants are like.
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Hey, let's let's be a little You have never done that.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I've made those expressions, Yes I have. I've been out
with guy friends and I have I have a couple
that can be a little loud, and I've been like, hey, guys,
let's let's wear a little loud like everybody's looking. I've
done that.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
That's just funny. Would We had an incident in Miami
years ago when we started. I don't think we were married.
We were just dating and I was with a bunch
of friends, and there was this one of them that
was like it was out of control loud. Eric was miserable.
I think you did you leave like you couldn't. You
couldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
No, I went to the bathroom a couple of times.
I walked away fun you know, yeah, I walked out
to go to the bathroom. I just walked away. It
was too freaking loud. Man, Oh my god. Turn looking.
I'm like, oh my god. And she shut up so much.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
She was happy.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
I was happy too until that moment, way too loud.
I don't know what's your advice. I think you could
subtly hint let her be.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
I think you can hint til your husband that.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Why why you have do you? Why do you have
to respect her and not respect your husband a little bit?
Just give her a hint.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Lady is not doing anything wrong. If you're uncomfortable because
somebody's behavior, that that is a reflection of you. Yes, something,
Oh my god, I don't know. Then, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Oh that's a good Where where were divided on that one?
That was a good one. Question number four to wrap
this episode up, need marriage advice. We both work and
we both work hard. He encourages me to buy what
(23:03):
I want when I want it, But I just can't
encourage him the same way. He's always careful. You know,
he always has a cart full of things for the
house that are hideous. We don't need them, and I
know they will let they will look tacky. How can
I be supportive of his purchases when I know it's
a waste of money.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Oh, I wish I could have that problem.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
She just tries to get me to to get rid
of old, hideous things that I've had.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
For I would be so happy if my husband was
the type that I'm just Oh, honey, I just saw
this beautiful dining table.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Let's just switch you beautiful. She thinks they're tacky. Oh,
he has to overspend untacking.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Tacks a problem, But at least he's comfortable. He's comfortable spending.
You are you hate spending?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Yeah? I don't like it. Hate spending. It's very painful
for me.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Eric can have the same pair of jeans for for
five years, no problem.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I have I used them every single day, pants years old.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
No, but what I'm saying, you can just have two
teachers and two jeans on your perfectly.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Fine simple human. I'm very simple with that stuff. I
know she I mean, honestly, my upgraded wardrobe is all Rosalind.
She's the one that's bought. It's I basically wait for
a birthday to come buy or Christmas, and then she
goes shopping and she buys me a bunch of things.
She goes, I hope you like them, and I'm getting
much better. I would say nine out of ten things
(24:24):
I have no problem with. I keep, I stick my
neck out, I try it. Baggy jeans. I thought I'd
never do that. I bought a bunch.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
More because I know you so well that I can
just I don't even have to I can walk by
a store and I go that that that I know
exactly what looks.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
She's definitely elevated my wardrobe game, because when I met her,
it was definitely just jeans and a T shirt all
the time. Bermuda the shorts and shorts. Yeah, so she
has elevated my wardrobe game and got me a bit
more out of my comfort zone for a fact. But
in general, just buying things I don't splurge on much
like I watch as a un sneaking watches and shoes. Yes,
(25:03):
I will, I will buy too many. I have too
many sneakers. I don't need that many sneakers. I have
a lot of watches. I don't need that many watches.
I like those things, but I don't just yeah, Broslin
Will definitely you're much better, though, and I guess I'm
much better. I would say we both have rubbed off
on each other in a good way in this category.
You since we met, you have definitely slowed down your
(25:23):
spending and become much more thoughtful about what you spend
on and why you want it if you're going to
use it. And I have definitely improved on my spending
and bought some things. I just don't buy wasteful things.
I don't know. I don't even know that.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
And never has a problem with anything that has to
do with leaving money on the table, meaning if somebody
offers him, if there's a way for him to make
some cash. I like to make money, He's like, I'm
gonna do it, even if it's a lot of work
and it's not necessary or he doesn't need to do it.
I don't know how you do it, because I if
I don't want to do something and if it's just
(26:00):
too much trouble or two time consuming, and it's things
that don't matter. I don't care how much you pay me,
especially after this year, since since my nephew passed away,
is like a change. It rocked my world. Right, it's
been like life changing. I don't talk about it enough,
but it's been life changing in terms of my mind.
I don't know, and I just go. I can do
(26:21):
things that don't make me happy. I want to do
things that make me happy. That's why I have a
hard time when this job in New York about this
video game I know might be something amazing for my career,
but blah blah blah blah. But it is almost like
my body goes into panic and wants to shut down
because I just go, I don't want to be here.
(26:43):
It doesn't make me happy.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I will agree with that. And this happens when you
get older in life, as.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
To the point that you don't want to get invited
to anything. Yeah, it's true, like I don't want to, Guys,
I don't want to be invited to anything.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
I don't want to You don't want to be home.
We're similar like that, both their homebodies. Our daughter says
it the time, you guys are born. I'm a little
bit more going out than Rozlyn, a little bit more
but not much. But it's true twenties. Let's go there
is where forty PRIs change is a different world. It
She just sets in and I think it goes like
we're spending everything else, all right?
Speaker 2 (27:15):
Is I have a a friend of mine that I love,
and you know what, It's funny. She loves going out
and she's married, you know, with adult kids, but she
loves going out. And she's like, Ross, let's go to
this jazz place. They're gonna have this lady, this woman
singing Emmy white House is music and she's incredible. Should
we take the boys? But it's during the week or
(27:37):
Eric is probably going to be shooting, so let's just
you and me, right and I die. I was like,
oh my god, but I love her so much, and
I was like, you know what, Ross, The reality is
once i'ment there, Yeah, yeah, I know that I'm gonna
be like, oh my god, that girl was amazing and
I love the music and I'm gonna leave floating and
I'm gonna be like, this was a beautiful night out.
(27:59):
But it's just getting me to.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Go yeah, no. I'll give you an example. I went
to a Dodger game the other night and it was
a great. It was fine. I love going to any
sporting event, but i've taken our kids before, I've taken
both kids, and Sabella is always like, I want to
stay till the very end. I don't want to miss
a thing. I want them to call the game and
then we'll walk out. And I'm like, Sabella, I want
to beat the traffic. I want to get out of here.
(28:22):
I don't care if I see the last couple of
innings unless it's like the World Series and this is
the end all, be all, or any of any sport.
I'm gonna leave because I want to beat the traffic
and get out. Sadly, in the Dodger game, I missed
Tasker Hernandez's massive home run, which was a huge. They
were already winning, so it was as was a beautiful,
like big home run towards the end. But I don't
want to stay there and wait for the crowds. I
(28:43):
want to get out because it took me an hour
and something last time, Sabella made me mistay just to
get out of the parking lot. So I'm like, no, Sabella.
You see, this is why we leave.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Anyways, Guys, we're the couple that oh for like, Don'm
gonna give an example, which is crazy. So we go
to that by Bonnie concert, right, which is the biggest
event globally, right it is that residence. It's like incredible.
What is what has not? What it has done for
Puerto Rico is it's absolutely be the hottest ticket. And
we I'm getting to the Casita, which is where we were.
(29:13):
It's the biggest, so difficult, people pay crazy money. So
I got the tickets. We go to La Casita. Remember
when I was exhausted. I was exhausted, you know. I
came from like for poisoning, you guys know. It was
like Puerto Rico was like the whole thing. And I
was like, oh my god. We left early and everybody
was like, who leaves early? The freaking bad pony concert,
(29:36):
And guys, I couldn't be there anymore.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
All of us were going. We were like, all right,
I'm ready to go. Great concert. We loved it so much.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
But I was like, people are going to be so
mad when they realized that we decided to leave early.
Nothing against by Bunny. He's amazing and the concert was phenomenal,
but we were like, oh, you know what, I want
to say something, guys.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
I have a friend of mine that sends me this clip.
I think it was talk.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
I think it was that we're at the concert. Eric
actually is like Eric loves urban music, and Eric is
like loving it. I'm exhaustible. We're there and Eric.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
As a joke.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Because I was there with Boo and Carla and like
I said, because of the movie, and Helica was nega,
she flew already back to and anyways, so we're all there,
and every time there was a camera, Eric will go
was on the on the jumbo tron, yeah exactly, and
he will go the ideo mohic.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
In theaters now, and I can say.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Stop saying that because everybody's like his mouthing.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
The name of the movie. The entire arena is looking
at can see that screen.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Exactly, And I'm embarrassed because I don't want people thinking
we're there because I'm like shamelessly promoting my movie.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
And He's like every time, and then there was one
moment that is like the third time he goes the
adio MO, and I cover his mouth because I'm embarrassed,
and my friend is like, listen, they're just joying you,
saying that you shot him up and you're controlling, and
I'm going, oh my god, I was actually protecting my body.
Speaker 1 (31:11):
And by the way, it's not even that people have
to understand, like this is our sense of humor. ROZs
and I joke and do things like that to each
other all the time. For twenty years, we have had
a banter with each other, and honestly, probably the banter
that's kept our relationship going. And that's what's funny, is
(31:32):
like we will laugh at each other, we will tease
each other, we will joke about things in front of people.
We do it on our podcast. We make fun of
each other all the time. And I've said this when
people ask for relationship advice, if you can't make fun
of your partner and laugh about it, if you can't
laugh with your partner and not take yourself so seriously,
that's gonna be your biggest problem in the relationship. So
(31:52):
we do this and people don't get it because they
either they're just trying to find an issue, and I
think that happens in all public figures, like people just
try to find an issue. They think that somebody's having
a problem, somebody's having an affair, somebod's having blah blah blah.
They just make it up because they want to find
a problem. So for all those people who thought she
was trying to shut me up or or she was, uh,
(32:12):
you're taking away my masculinity by doing that, No, man,
we were having a lot. We were cracking up after
that TikTok click clip. So just so you know, that's
how people take social media out of context. They take
little viral moments and they turn it into something bigger.
So be mindful, be smart, don't pay attention to every
little clip you see on social media and think that's
(32:34):
the end all, be all. We were messing around.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
We were messing around, So I didn't mean to show
you up. I just didn't want you to talk about
the movie because it wasn't about the movie at that moment.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
And I was like, oh my god, everybody sees him.
It was fun I thought it was hilarious. That's why
I posted on my social you posted it. I even
showed you when I posted it.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
That's funny.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
All right. On that note, love you, thanks for listening,
and don't forget to write us a review and tell
us what you think.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
out at e said Jabo or Senas at email, Eric
and Ross at iHeartRadio dot com, he said. AJAB is
part of iHeartRadio's Miculduda podcast network.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
See you next time. Bye,
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