August 21, 2023 • 23 mins
A crabby encounter at a restaurant leaves Ros hangry for some answers.
Eric offers his take on the best way to respond to rudeness.
Plus, the pressure is paying off on the tennis court for their athletic daughter but at what price?
And, find out porque Ros is promising to "Let Go and Let God."
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said a v HO with Eric Winter
and Rosalind Fantaz.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hello back with another.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
The ho to our listeners to reality. Hi, guys, listen.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I want to jump right in because I saw this
thing on It was a clip, a social media clip
that randomly came up with Joe Rogan talking about AI
and wow, he's saying what they're doing in schools in
China right now. There's clips where the future is headed
(00:44):
with these children in classrooms with like a like a
head bracelet kind of a thing like a headband, like
around the ears and around the brain, around the skull part,
and it tracks everything the kid is thinking and sort
of doing, when they're engaged, when they check out, when
their brain is showing fatigue, and it all relays information
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to the teacher's computers so they know which kids are
actually engaged in the classroom at the you know, in
that moment, which kids are getting sleepy, who's yawning, who
is thinking like just completely daydreaming. They have robots already
in the classroom, and all of this stuff also gets
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sent to the parents to monitor the children's learning habits.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
We're screwed, We're screwed.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
They're saying it's a it's a a test run program
that parents are jumping throwing their kids in like they
can't wait. They're like competing to get a spot in
this program to really monitor the growth and development of
their child.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Do you agree?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Do you think it's too intrusive?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Yeah, to me, it's terrifying. It's terrifying, Like I don't
I don't love that all. Would you be okay with
that with the kids being to know when the kids
are checking out, you know, when they're don't I.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Don't think we need to give a teacher the power,
that power of knowing every single emotion, feeling, thought of
your child, you know, because all is Maybe it's not
even about that. Maybe it's about allowing computers and AI
taking over our lives. It's like we're like human human, Yeah, humankind,
(02:28):
it's going to be secondary very soon.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I just have this, you know. It's like I said,
one of our friends actually said this to Sebbe. It
was a great statement, and I explained it to Sebbe
as well. She's like, it's okay to be bored sometimes, Sebbie,
Like it's okay to you know, tune now essentially right
and This was just in a conversation hanging out at lunch,
but even in a classroom, I think it's okay for
a kid to daydream and come in and out because
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that's life. That's normal. You don't need to track it.
And at the end of the day, just because a
kid might not be the most BookSmart kid in the room,
they can be the most street smart or the most creative.
And if you look at all so many of these billionaires,
right jobs, all these people that have dropped out, like
we're getting bad grades in high school, dropped out of college,
whether they were too smart for the teachers or they
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just didn't care. They had a vision, they had a dream,
and they had the creativity to invent something needed and
revolutionize you know, an industry or culture right or societies
in general. And what if you were just monitoring those kids,
for example, twenty four to seven and telling them, oh,
you tuned out, right, you know, you checked out your
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daydream you maybe we wouldn't have there will be a
pressure to have Microsoft. Maybe we have all these things costs.
Who knows when someone's tuning out our daydream and what
they're you know about, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's interesting at the moment, Eric, you know how these
whole movement of mindset and the secret and be swelish
when you visualize and all these workshops about emotionally intellligence
and people that are very mindful about what they eat,
and the vegans, and you know people that are that
(04:07):
are going through this spiritual journey that they're no, no, no,
I'm not saying that, but you know how vegan is.
It's a very maybe this is a bad connotation, but
you people, your vegans are usually very much into yoga
and pilates and they have a very incredible connection between body,
mind and spirit for the most part, I think you
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know the real ones, the ones that are doing it
with intention and a purpose. Anyways, So it's becoming a
big movement, right, this whole emotional intelligence type of lifestyle.
I feel like this AI universe is, if it takes over,
is going to diminish every single movement and and and
(04:50):
this new energy of trying to connect again body mind
and spirit, because we are going to be so practical,
so computerized. It's almost like we're going to be like
robots that even.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
In the classroom at this school where they're testing all this,
there's like I forgot how many cameras they say, we're
put up all over the school to monitor every single
thing the children are doing from the start to the
end of such.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
But what is the end game of this? To control them,
to control that's what it is. It's awful.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It takes away the freedom, for sure, the human freedom
of speech, of action, of thought, of any of those things.
It's removing that from your process for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
So then what happens if you realize if they starty
this kid and from A to two he tunes out
and day dreams three times and then he basically is
too bored and the mind goes to whatever. And what
do they do? I don't know what you gained from that.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You get smacked on the wrist, do you get in trouble,
do you get.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Grabbed, you're going to be medicated?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
How do you Yeah, I don't know what you gain
from it, because at the end of the day, everybody
does that. You can't stop the brain. It's like a
healthy thing, I think for your brain to do that.
So then you're trying to control it.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
It's a mess. It's just unreal to think that. That's
how far Ai is already. You know where it's at already,
And I just again using kids in this process. Oh,
it's brutal. They don't have a choice. You look at
it's sad. You see them all in the classroom when
they have these like robotic you know, headbands around them. Oh,
it disturbs me. All right, here is something fun. Harvard
(06:31):
psychologists praises an airline pilot who yelled at his passengers. Huh.
When a video of an American airlines pilot scolding his
passengers during a pre flight announcement went viral, some people
deemed it patronizing. Others, including a Harvard University expert, are
hailing the pilot's speech as an example of strong leadership
at a time when passengers desperately needed.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So this is what he said. Remember, their flight attendance
are here for your safety. After that, they're here to
make your flight more enjoyed. They're going to take care
of you guys. But you will listen to what they
have to say because they represent my will in the cabin,
and my will is what matters. So that's what he said.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
So why people so mad about it? Why he's the one?
I mean, unless the flight attends are being just completely
rude and mean. But they're they have a job. The
pilot has a job. I don't know why there's a problem.
I have no issue with them having a little bit
of structure on a flight.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
You know what I think is happening because of this
social media era clip off, everybody can just grab a
phone a record you know the amount of problems inside
the cabins that are happening on a daily basis of
just passengers getting rowdy or disrespectful or out of line,
and flight attendants having to deal with a lot of kaka.
(07:50):
I'm not saying that all flight attendants are sayings because
a lot of times, once and while you get a
couple that you're like, you know what, that person was
just not very nice. She's having a bad day. He's
having a bad day, and he's stays get it out
on the passengers. But you know the human as well,
and you know what, you have to have compassion. You
don't know what they're going through. And I'm sure that
when you work in the service business you deal with
a lot of cargan at some point, I'm assuming their
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tolerance gets very thin. So this is happening because this
is a pilot probably sick and tired of dealing with
disrespectful passengers and people just trying to take a piss
because now everything is about my rights and my rights
and I'm allowed to say whatever I want, you know,
and everybody is so willing and searching for that moment
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where they because.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
It's so easy to break the rules nowadays and just
be like, oh, I'm gonna do whatever I want because
I'm not going to get reprimanded. And it sucks for
these people, I think being trapped on it. It's like
going to a restaurant but you're on a but you
can't leave for three hours, yeah, you know, maybe eight hours,
maybe fifteen hours. On a flight, you and you have
to all coexist for this long chunk of And I'm.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Going to tell you something. It makes a huge difference
when you have a pilot that is funny or engages,
not just reciting the words that they have to by law,
you know, but when you have a pilot that is
engaging and is funny, it makes the flight to be
so much enjoyable. The same thing with flight attendants. You know,
when you have a flight attendant that is wonderful and
sweet and accommodating. It changes everything.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, and then look, you're right. I've been I've been
on flight where flat attends weren't always in their best mood,
certain ones, and I'm like, just like a ben at
a restaurant and a waiter wasn't always my face.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
It just happened to me.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
That just happened to you.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
And this is funny, guys. I'm like the sidebar. So
I went to this restaurant with my friend and Sabella
and her daughter, and a restaurant that we've been so
many times that we love. It's great in the valley,
and we get this waiter and he had such an
issue with me it was laughable. And this is the
first time that I go to dinner with this friend
and her daughter and she's a tennis player like Sabella,
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and I'm just trying to be like, you know, so
I'm asking, you know, is the octopus it's a very
tender or it's a chewy and he'd well, it's not
supposed to be chewy, and no, but you know some
times when you when you when you to cook it right,
he needs to have an amount of hours boiling. It
can be true, Well, it's it's and he got so
annoyed walked away. So I tell my friend, I didn't
appreciate you that that was that was a little rude.
(10:14):
So the octopus comes in, it's delicious, so he was right,
it was not chruy. Then I proceed to ask for
the Brenzino, but he said a whole fish. I didn't
want the whole fish. I don't want to say I
don't on the tail. So I said to him, how
is it cooked? Is it a fil a? And he goes, well,
it's deboned, and I said, yeah, that's not what I'm asking.
I just I just don't want to see the head,
and he again was so annoyed. I mean, anyway, so
(10:36):
meg that it ruined my whole dinner. It was a nightmare.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
The point that she forced us to go back there
week later because she was dying to get this waiter.
So she could basically tell him to f off, I
want a different waiter. And I was like, be careable
to spit in your food, you know, you don't want
to piss the waiter out. She was like, she had
a mission ended this waiter, and I'm just gonna make
sure we get a different waiter, just right, in front
of his face, like I don't want you at somebody else.
(11:00):
So the whole time we're at the restaurant, like searching
for this waiter, this whole story in our mind.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
She maybe maybe he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Recognize me today because I've a hat on. I'm like,
what is happening right now? We just have a dinner.
She's like having a full fight with herself and like
trying to find this guy.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
And the guy.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Basically is there for she goes, that's him from the back,
and then we never see him again.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Great, you're making sound awful that my hat maybe he
doesn't recognize it?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Really affected? Did I agree?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Because I've had waiters like that that have been awful
and and but also like they this like I get
like the flight attendant, we went off topic, but like
they're dealing with people all their job, so I couldn't.
People are difficult, man. People are so hard to be
in the service industry. So you know, it's just be
(11:51):
kind and stop tripping about people. It's all right if
this pilot wanted to say whatever you wanted to say,
as long as he wasn't rude. If the pilot was rude,
that's gonna screw the whole flat. But if you was
just a little bit like, hey, I'm in charge, this
is the deal, respects you, We're gonna have a great
flight safely. Yes, I know, I have no problem with it.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I know if it was ruthey, but if he said
it as a matter of fact, and he's just like
letting you know, guys, let's just have a decent, you know,
civil flight, it's okay. I have no problem anyway.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Tayka what I never can pronounce his name, A great director.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Love him, Yes, says Rita Aura proposed to him. Would
you be comfortable if Sabella says to your daddy, I'm
so in love with so and so I think I
want to propose to him.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I'm old school in the sense that I would like
a guy to now listen, but women wanted to propose
to me, I wouldn't have had a problem.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Oh God, no, Sarah, if you want to propose to me,
I wouldn't have cared if you proposed to me.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I wouldn't. But for my daughter, I do kind of
feel like I want the guy proposed to her. But
I know that, I know, I know, that's what I
always say, Like, Okay, I'm being a hypocrite. Listen, If
I like the guy and she wants to make that
kind of move, and she's an adult, obviously it's it's
her choice. I'm not gonna tell her she can't do it.
I don't have a problem, not a chance. What really?
(13:09):
But why, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
Pro You know, it's like, because women can do whatever
they want, they can, but when it comes to that,
I want I want the traditional way.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I want the guy to be like, you know what,
I want to marry you.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
What if she says, I know he wants to marry me,
but I want to be able to the punch. We've
talked about it. We both want to get married, but
I want to surprise him.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
You're so progressive.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I'm just saying I just said the same thing I
would prefer if the guy did her you propose to
her too, But I.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Even there was something about that old school Yeah, listen,
I get it. And if that's why she was going
to make her happy, fine.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
We'll take it away from her.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
My upbringing would be like and what I would like
to pass along is like said, you know what, you're
the price. You're the price.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
She just know that, but she can be the aways
she give me the price in control, but when it
comes to that, you're the price that the guy and
is who be the one saying do you want to
marry me?
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Not vice versa. Listen, Rita, that's awesome. You were in love.
This is the your man, this is your partner, and
you wanted to do it because he represented something to you.
That's amazing. Good for you, and they seem to be
very happy. I got no problem and he took it
like a champ and he loved it.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I have no problem in that adult situation. We're just
talking about our kid. It might be a little bit,
but I mean, you would never propose to me? Well
that's definitely not, definitely not Why don't even ask that question?
That was stupid after you proposed to me, I know,
but I mean just even the thought of you proposed
to me. I can't even imagine you would. That would
be awkward if what if you say no? I'm not say.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
If Sabella goes like you said no to me, you
want to marry me and the guy goes you know,
I have to think.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
To get rejected when they propose.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
All have it all the time, all the time.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
If deliver proposed to.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Somebody and they said, no, I don't want to marry you.
What if the girl propos to him, would you like, dude,
Dylan step up?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Maybe? Oh man, I don't know. I don't know what
to think about it.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
I got no problem.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I have to be in that position.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't really care.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh my god. Research says if you use any of
the nine phrases every day, you're more emotionally emotionally resilient
than most.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Emotionally resilient people are deliberate in the response to painful experiences.
They allow themselves to grieve, remind themselves of what they're
grateful for, and focus on what they can control in
the moment. Let's see, do we use any of these phrases?
I can get through this.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I'm not going to let myself be a victim. Life
is hard, This too shall pass. What can I learn
from this? I need some time, I say, have things,
should be grateful for. It is what it is. I'm
telling I'm letting this go.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I have not said any of these phrases, so I'm screwed.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
You as you have.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I guess I've said I can get through this. I've
never used the word I'm not the phrase I'm not
gonna let as well be a victim. Life is hard.
I guess sometimes I've thought it, this too shall pass. Yes,
I have said that, but it's hard to repeat it.
What can I learn from this? I need some time?
Have you? Do you say these phrases?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I say a lot of them, really, of course, I
say I say all the time, all the time, I'm
letting this. I don't say I'm letting this go. I
said I'm gonna let go and let God all the time.
I still have things to be grateful for all the time.
I am very much ready to when it comes to
the universe and life and God, and I say thank
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You every single day. It is what it is I
say all the time. What can I learn from this?
Is this something that I am actually implementing now?
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Yeah, I guess I do say as I'm thinking about it.
I don't say it in these phrases, but I do
say it in a version, So yeah, I guess I do.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
And you know that I'm very much I'm very big
into all this, Eric, I'm in this incredible on the
spirit spiritual search of understanding that everything has a purpose
and the importance of visualizing thing things and speaking things
to reality. I'm all about it, you know. And I'm
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teaching Sabella and I'm teaching Dylan, and I tell you
all the time. It's like it's the words are so
powerful that people have no idea. You know that your
mind can heal your body. And I truly believe in
a cellular level, if you concentrate and you pray, and
you meditate, and you truly believe with faith, you can
do whatever you want to do. You can heal yourself.
(17:32):
You can heal your mind. Is just a very difficult
practice because you do it for a little bit and
then you deviate, and it takes a lot of energy
and a lot of intention to be able to do that.
So very few people can conquer it. But is it
possible one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
With your arthritis and your job?
Speaker 1 (17:51):
I haven't.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You just preach to me.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yet, I'll get there. And it doesn't mean that he's
gonna miraculously like boom, my joy is not gonna bother
me anymore. But the pain can be much less because
you know what or where you put your thought. That's
what you give power to.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
You believe you can manipulate pain in your body with
your mind. I do believe that very difficult.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
It's very difficult. That's a problem.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
It's like a strong state of like it's like almost
a meditative state that you have to be in. All that.
That's tough. But I do I do believe in a
lot of these you know Phrasesn't that. Yeah, as we're
talking through it, I probably do say. I do say
a lot more of these that I'm giving myself credit for. Yeah,
you know, I think you I think these are It's funny.
I'll remind people, like you just said, of a lot
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of these phrases if somebody asked for my advice, and
always practice.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
You know, it's like therapy. As psychologists, you know, you're
amazing at giving advice to people. But I'm sure in
their personal lives it's it's a different story, you know.
And listen, I just witness something really incredible with Sabella.
I took her to tennis. She allowed me to take
her to her tennis class, and it was ninety something degrees.
It was twelve noon. The valley is exhausting. She was
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exhausting to the point that I saw her face. She
wanted to cry. And she's playing and she's telling you,
I know, yes, yes, yes, yes, but the conditions are like,
oh my god, it's like so hot. This girl is
gonna faint, and people have fainted it. You know, We've
been to tournaments that girls stopped playing because they feel like,
I cannot do this anymore because it's so hot. Anyways,
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so it's the last five minutes of class and she
is exhausted. She's like, and I'm sitting down. I don't
want to get involved. The teacher, which is the most supportive, nicest,
soft spoken person I know, to the point that sometimes
I tell Eric he needs to be a little bit
more firm, more stronger with her. He was like pushing her,
pushing her. She's dying. Anyways, he said, don't show me
(19:58):
that you're tired. You can. I don't want to see you.
If you show that to your opponent, you're screwed. Please
please don't do that. You know, as a matter of fact,
do ten What did you say? He needs to chairs
and jump jump jump jump and then keep playing right
And she did it right, and she's like, oh my god,
and goes go to the fence, turn your back to me,
(20:19):
take a breather, come back. You're not tired right, and
she I don't know how the heck, because I thought
she's gonna collapse. She was able to play the last
five minutes the best tennis I've seen her play in
her whole life.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
That's said. He texted me saying that she like she
switched dog.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yes, and I think she felt it because he said
to her, I don't know what happened to me, you know.
She said it was like a flip. I was like,
to the point that he was the teacher, the coach
wasn't it wasn't even getting to the balls because there
was so fantastic and I was like, oh my god,
the class is over. She sits down, she's sweating. She's
like about a collapse, and it's like, how do you feel?
And she's like, and do you feel strong?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
And she was.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
She felt so accomplished and and we talked to her
as Isabella, those are the moments that really matter, you know,
And the mind is so powerful. The second your mind
tells your body, I'm exhausted, I want to collapse. You're
going to collapse. Even if you have a little bit
more gas available, You're going to collapse. If your mind
tells your body I can do this, and I'm strong
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and I only have five more minutes. Just you know,
it's risk reward. Your risk very hard and your reward
was unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
And it's the beauty of sports because I always believe
that stuff translates in life. Yeah, big time. You know,
there are moments that you're going to have to dig
deep always in what you're doing and things like that,
and in sports in particular, you have no choice but
to fight if you keep doing well. That's one of things.
I just love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I never forget this, and we can close after this one.
I have a good friend of mine, Tyrese Gibson. He
is very very close to Brandy. You know Brandy the thing,
they're like family, and Brandy is a girl that it's
very month anointed in many ways when it comes to
her spirituality. You know, she's she's always been wise beyond
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her years. And he always says that this girl is
next level. And he taught him and then he taught
me in passing. It was just a conversation. He said,
I approach life this way that the way Brandy does,
which is when you have an issue a problem, right,
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whether it's a sickness, or a family situation or a relationship,
or anything that comes to you that depresses you or
basically shakes you. She will ask herself, is this going
to matter in three hundred and sixty five days? Is
this going to affect me this deeply? In three hundred
and sixty five days. If the answer is no, then
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it's not that important. He goes things that are really
really worth your tears and your depression, you know, and
feeling defeated. Are things that you just got diagnosed with
horrible cancer, or your kid at got diagnosed, you know,
things that you just go this is life changing and
heartbreaking everything else, if it's in three hundred and sixty
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five days, you're not gonna remember. Don't think about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I couldn't agree more, I know.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Anyways, Thank you, pretty preach girl.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
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Speaker 2 (23:40):
See you next time.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Bye,
This is he said a v HO with Eric Winter
and Rosalind Fantaz.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Hello back with another.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
The ho to our listeners to reality. Hi, guys, listen.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I want to jump right in because I saw this
thing on It was a clip, a social media clip
that randomly came up with Joe Rogan talking about AI
and wow, he's saying what they're doing in schools in
China right now. There's clips where the future is headed
(00:44):
with these children in classrooms with like a like a
head bracelet kind of a thing like a headband, like
around the ears and around the brain, around the skull part,
and it tracks everything the kid is thinking and sort
of doing, when they're engaged, when they check out, when
their brain is showing fatigue, and it all relays information
(01:06):
to the teacher's computers so they know which kids are
actually engaged in the classroom at the you know, in
that moment, which kids are getting sleepy, who's yawning, who
is thinking like just completely daydreaming. They have robots already
in the classroom, and all of this stuff also gets
(01:27):
sent to the parents to monitor the children's learning habits.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
We're screwed, We're screwed.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
They're saying it's a it's a a test run program
that parents are jumping throwing their kids in like they
can't wait. They're like competing to get a spot in
this program to really monitor the growth and development of
their child.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Do you agree?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Do you think it's too intrusive?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Yeah, to me, it's terrifying. It's terrifying, Like I don't
I don't love that all. Would you be okay with
that with the kids being to know when the kids
are checking out, you know, when they're don't I.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Don't think we need to give a teacher the power,
that power of knowing every single emotion, feeling, thought of
your child, you know, because all is Maybe it's not
even about that. Maybe it's about allowing computers and AI
taking over our lives. It's like we're like human human, Yeah, humankind,
(02:28):
it's going to be secondary very soon.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I just have this, you know. It's like I said,
one of our friends actually said this to Sebbe. It
was a great statement, and I explained it to Sebbe
as well. She's like, it's okay to be bored sometimes, Sebbie,
Like it's okay to you know, tune now essentially right
and This was just in a conversation hanging out at lunch,
but even in a classroom, I think it's okay for
a kid to daydream and come in and out because
(02:52):
that's life. That's normal. You don't need to track it.
And at the end of the day, just because a
kid might not be the most BookSmart kid in the room,
they can be the most street smart or the most creative.
And if you look at all so many of these billionaires,
right jobs, all these people that have dropped out, like
we're getting bad grades in high school, dropped out of college,
whether they were too smart for the teachers or they
(03:14):
just didn't care. They had a vision, they had a dream,
and they had the creativity to invent something needed and
revolutionize you know, an industry or culture right or societies
in general. And what if you were just monitoring those kids,
for example, twenty four to seven and telling them, oh,
you tuned out, right, you know, you checked out your
(03:34):
daydream you maybe we wouldn't have there will be a
pressure to have Microsoft. Maybe we have all these things costs.
Who knows when someone's tuning out our daydream and what
they're you know about, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
What's interesting at the moment, Eric, you know how these
whole movement of mindset and the secret and be swelish
when you visualize and all these workshops about emotionally intellligence
and people that are very mindful about what they eat,
and the vegans, and you know people that are that
(04:07):
are going through this spiritual journey that they're no, no, no,
I'm not saying that, but you know how vegan is.
It's a very maybe this is a bad connotation, but
you people, your vegans are usually very much into yoga
and pilates and they have a very incredible connection between body,
mind and spirit for the most part, I think you
(04:27):
know the real ones, the ones that are doing it
with intention and a purpose. Anyways, So it's becoming a
big movement, right, this whole emotional intelligence type of lifestyle.
I feel like this AI universe is, if it takes over,
is going to diminish every single movement and and and
(04:50):
this new energy of trying to connect again body mind
and spirit, because we are going to be so practical,
so computerized. It's almost like we're going to be like
robots that even.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
In the classroom at this school where they're testing all this,
there's like I forgot how many cameras they say, we're
put up all over the school to monitor every single
thing the children are doing from the start to the
end of such.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
But what is the end game of this? To control them,
to control that's what it is. It's awful.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It takes away the freedom, for sure, the human freedom
of speech, of action, of thought, of any of those things.
It's removing that from your process for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
So then what happens if you realize if they starty
this kid and from A to two he tunes out
and day dreams three times and then he basically is
too bored and the mind goes to whatever. And what
do they do? I don't know what you gained from that.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
You get smacked on the wrist, do you get in trouble,
do you get.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Grabbed, you're going to be medicated?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
How do you Yeah, I don't know what you gain
from it, because at the end of the day, everybody
does that. You can't stop the brain. It's like a
healthy thing, I think for your brain to do that.
So then you're trying to control it.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
It's a mess. It's just unreal to think that. That's
how far Ai is already. You know where it's at already,
And I just again using kids in this process. Oh,
it's brutal. They don't have a choice. You look at
it's sad. You see them all in the classroom when
they have these like robotic you know, headbands around them. Oh,
it disturbs me. All right, here is something fun. Harvard
(06:31):
psychologists praises an airline pilot who yelled at his passengers. Huh.
When a video of an American airlines pilot scolding his
passengers during a pre flight announcement went viral, some people
deemed it patronizing. Others, including a Harvard University expert, are
hailing the pilot's speech as an example of strong leadership
at a time when passengers desperately needed.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
So this is what he said. Remember, their flight attendance
are here for your safety. After that, they're here to
make your flight more enjoyed. They're going to take care
of you guys. But you will listen to what they
have to say because they represent my will in the cabin,
and my will is what matters. So that's what he said.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
So why people so mad about it? Why he's the one?
I mean, unless the flight attends are being just completely
rude and mean. But they're they have a job. The
pilot has a job. I don't know why there's a problem.
I have no issue with them having a little bit
of structure on a flight.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
You know what I think is happening because of this
social media era clip off, everybody can just grab a
phone a record you know the amount of problems inside
the cabins that are happening on a daily basis of
just passengers getting rowdy or disrespectful or out of line,
and flight attendants having to deal with a lot of kaka.
(07:50):
I'm not saying that all flight attendants are sayings because
a lot of times, once and while you get a
couple that you're like, you know what, that person was
just not very nice. She's having a bad day. He's
having a bad day, and he's stays get it out
on the passengers. But you know the human as well,
and you know what, you have to have compassion. You
don't know what they're going through. And I'm sure that
when you work in the service business you deal with
a lot of cargan at some point, I'm assuming their
(08:12):
tolerance gets very thin. So this is happening because this
is a pilot probably sick and tired of dealing with
disrespectful passengers and people just trying to take a piss
because now everything is about my rights and my rights
and I'm allowed to say whatever I want, you know,
and everybody is so willing and searching for that moment
(08:33):
where they because.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
It's so easy to break the rules nowadays and just
be like, oh, I'm gonna do whatever I want because
I'm not going to get reprimanded. And it sucks for
these people, I think being trapped on it. It's like
going to a restaurant but you're on a but you
can't leave for three hours, yeah, you know, maybe eight hours,
maybe fifteen hours. On a flight, you and you have
to all coexist for this long chunk of And I'm.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Going to tell you something. It makes a huge difference
when you have a pilot that is funny or engages,
not just reciting the words that they have to by law,
you know, but when you have a pilot that is
engaging and is funny, it makes the flight to be
so much enjoyable. The same thing with flight attendants. You know,
when you have a flight attendant that is wonderful and
sweet and accommodating. It changes everything.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Yeah, and then look, you're right. I've been I've been
on flight where flat attends weren't always in their best mood,
certain ones, and I'm like, just like a ben at
a restaurant and a waiter wasn't always my face.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
It just happened to me.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
That just happened to you.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
And this is funny, guys. I'm like the sidebar. So
I went to this restaurant with my friend and Sabella
and her daughter, and a restaurant that we've been so
many times that we love. It's great in the valley,
and we get this waiter and he had such an
issue with me it was laughable. And this is the
first time that I go to dinner with this friend
and her daughter and she's a tennis player like Sabella,
(09:51):
and I'm just trying to be like, you know, so
I'm asking, you know, is the octopus it's a very
tender or it's a chewy and he'd well, it's not
supposed to be chewy, and no, but you know some
times when you when you when you to cook it right,
he needs to have an amount of hours boiling. It
can be true, Well, it's it's and he got so
annoyed walked away. So I tell my friend, I didn't
appreciate you that that was that was a little rude.
(10:14):
So the octopus comes in, it's delicious, so he was right,
it was not chruy. Then I proceed to ask for
the Brenzino, but he said a whole fish. I didn't
want the whole fish. I don't want to say I
don't on the tail. So I said to him, how
is it cooked? Is it a fil a? And he goes, well,
it's deboned, and I said, yeah, that's not what I'm asking.
I just I just don't want to see the head,
and he again was so annoyed. I mean, anyway, so
(10:36):
meg that it ruined my whole dinner. It was a nightmare.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
The point that she forced us to go back there
week later because she was dying to get this waiter.
So she could basically tell him to f off, I
want a different waiter. And I was like, be careable
to spit in your food, you know, you don't want
to piss the waiter out. She was like, she had
a mission ended this waiter, and I'm just gonna make
sure we get a different waiter, just right, in front
of his face, like I don't want you at somebody else.
(11:00):
So the whole time we're at the restaurant, like searching
for this waiter, this whole story in our mind.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
She maybe maybe he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Recognize me today because I've a hat on. I'm like,
what is happening right now? We just have a dinner.
She's like having a full fight with herself and like
trying to find this guy.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
And the guy.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
Basically is there for she goes, that's him from the back,
and then we never see him again.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Great, you're making sound awful that my hat maybe he
doesn't recognize it?
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Really affected? Did I agree?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Because I've had waiters like that that have been awful
and and but also like they this like I get
like the flight attendant, we went off topic, but like
they're dealing with people all their job, so I couldn't.
People are difficult, man. People are so hard to be
in the service industry. So you know, it's just be
(11:51):
kind and stop tripping about people. It's all right if
this pilot wanted to say whatever you wanted to say,
as long as he wasn't rude. If the pilot was rude,
that's gonna screw the whole flat. But if you was
just a little bit like, hey, I'm in charge, this
is the deal, respects you, We're gonna have a great
flight safely. Yes, I know, I have no problem with it.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
I know if it was ruthey, but if he said
it as a matter of fact, and he's just like
letting you know, guys, let's just have a decent, you know,
civil flight, it's okay. I have no problem anyway.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Tayka what I never can pronounce his name, A great director.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Love him, Yes, says Rita Aura proposed to him. Would
you be comfortable if Sabella says to your daddy, I'm
so in love with so and so I think I
want to propose to him.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I'm old school in the sense that I would like
a guy to now listen, but women wanted to propose
to me, I wouldn't have had a problem.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Oh God, no, Sarah, if you want to propose to me,
I wouldn't have cared if you proposed to me.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I wouldn't. But for my daughter, I do kind of
feel like I want the guy proposed to her. But
I know that, I know, I know, that's what I
always say, Like, Okay, I'm being a hypocrite. Listen, If
I like the guy and she wants to make that
kind of move, and she's an adult, obviously it's it's
her choice. I'm not gonna tell her she can't do it.
I don't have a problem, not a chance. What really?
(13:09):
But why, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
Pro You know, it's like, because women can do whatever
they want, they can, but when it comes to that,
I want I want the traditional way.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I want the guy to be like, you know what,
I want to marry you.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
What if she says, I know he wants to marry me,
but I want to be able to the punch. We've
talked about it. We both want to get married, but
I want to surprise him.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
You're so progressive.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
I'm just saying I just said the same thing I
would prefer if the guy did her you propose to
her too, But I.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Even there was something about that old school Yeah, listen,
I get it. And if that's why she was going
to make her happy, fine.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
We'll take it away from her.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
My upbringing would be like and what I would like
to pass along is like said, you know what, you're
the price. You're the price.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
She just know that, but she can be the aways
she give me the price in control, but when it
comes to that, you're the price that the guy and
is who be the one saying do you want to
marry me?
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Not vice versa. Listen, Rita, that's awesome. You were in love.
This is the your man, this is your partner, and
you wanted to do it because he represented something to you.
That's amazing. Good for you, and they seem to be
very happy. I got no problem and he took it
like a champ and he loved it.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I have no problem in that adult situation. We're just
talking about our kid. It might be a little bit,
but I mean, you would never propose to me? Well
that's definitely not, definitely not Why don't even ask that question?
That was stupid after you proposed to me, I know,
but I mean just even the thought of you proposed
to me. I can't even imagine you would. That would
be awkward if what if you say no? I'm not say.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
If Sabella goes like you said no to me, you
want to marry me and the guy goes you know,
I have to think.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
To get rejected when they propose.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
All have it all the time, all the time.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
If deliver proposed to.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Somebody and they said, no, I don't want to marry you.
What if the girl propos to him, would you like, dude,
Dylan step up?
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Maybe? Oh man, I don't know. I don't know what
to think about it.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
I got no problem.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
I have to be in that position.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I don't really care.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Oh my god. Research says if you use any of
the nine phrases every day, you're more emotionally emotionally resilient
than most.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
Emotionally resilient people are deliberate in the response to painful experiences.
They allow themselves to grieve, remind themselves of what they're
grateful for, and focus on what they can control in
the moment. Let's see, do we use any of these phrases?
I can get through this.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I'm not going to let myself be a victim. Life
is hard, This too shall pass. What can I learn
from this? I need some time, I say, have things,
should be grateful for. It is what it is. I'm
telling I'm letting this go.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I have not said any of these phrases, so I'm screwed.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
You as you have.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I guess I've said I can get through this. I've
never used the word I'm not the phrase I'm not
gonna let as well be a victim. Life is hard.
I guess sometimes I've thought it, this too shall pass. Yes,
I have said that, but it's hard to repeat it.
What can I learn from this? I need some time?
Have you? Do you say these phrases?
Speaker 1 (16:14):
I say a lot of them, really, of course, I
say I say all the time, all the time, I'm
letting this. I don't say I'm letting this go. I
said I'm gonna let go and let God all the time.
I still have things to be grateful for all the time.
I am very much ready to when it comes to
the universe and life and God, and I say thank
(16:35):
You every single day. It is what it is I
say all the time. What can I learn from this?
Is this something that I am actually implementing now?
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Yeah, I guess I do say as I'm thinking about it.
I don't say it in these phrases, but I do
say it in a version, So yeah, I guess I do.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
And you know that I'm very much I'm very big
into all this, Eric, I'm in this incredible on the
spirit spiritual search of understanding that everything has a purpose
and the importance of visualizing thing things and speaking things
to reality. I'm all about it, you know. And I'm
(17:10):
teaching Sabella and I'm teaching Dylan, and I tell you
all the time. It's like it's the words are so
powerful that people have no idea. You know that your
mind can heal your body. And I truly believe in
a cellular level, if you concentrate and you pray, and
you meditate, and you truly believe with faith, you can
do whatever you want to do. You can heal yourself.
(17:32):
You can heal your mind. Is just a very difficult
practice because you do it for a little bit and
then you deviate, and it takes a lot of energy
and a lot of intention to be able to do that.
So very few people can conquer it. But is it
possible one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
With your arthritis and your job?
Speaker 1 (17:51):
I haven't.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
You just preach to me.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Yet, I'll get there. And it doesn't mean that he's
gonna miraculously like boom, my joy is not gonna bother
me anymore. But the pain can be much less because
you know what or where you put your thought. That's
what you give power to.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
You believe you can manipulate pain in your body with
your mind. I do believe that very difficult.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
It's very difficult. That's a problem.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
It's like a strong state of like it's like almost
a meditative state that you have to be in. All that.
That's tough. But I do I do believe in a
lot of these you know Phrasesn't that. Yeah, as we're
talking through it, I probably do say. I do say
a lot more of these that I'm giving myself credit for. Yeah,
you know, I think you I think these are It's funny.
I'll remind people, like you just said, of a lot
(18:44):
of these phrases if somebody asked for my advice, and
always practice.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
You know, it's like therapy. As psychologists, you know, you're
amazing at giving advice to people. But I'm sure in
their personal lives it's it's a different story, you know.
And listen, I just witness something really incredible with Sabella.
I took her to tennis. She allowed me to take
her to her tennis class, and it was ninety something degrees.
It was twelve noon. The valley is exhausting. She was
(19:11):
exhausting to the point that I saw her face. She
wanted to cry. And she's playing and she's telling you,
I know, yes, yes, yes, yes, but the conditions are like,
oh my god, it's like so hot. This girl is
gonna faint, and people have fainted it. You know, We've
been to tournaments that girls stopped playing because they feel like,
I cannot do this anymore because it's so hot. Anyways,
(19:34):
so it's the last five minutes of class and she
is exhausted. She's like, and I'm sitting down. I don't
want to get involved. The teacher, which is the most supportive, nicest,
soft spoken person I know, to the point that sometimes
I tell Eric he needs to be a little bit
more firm, more stronger with her. He was like pushing her,
pushing her. She's dying. Anyways, he said, don't show me
(19:58):
that you're tired. You can. I don't want to see you.
If you show that to your opponent, you're screwed. Please
please don't do that. You know, as a matter of fact,
do ten What did you say? He needs to chairs
and jump jump jump jump and then keep playing right
And she did it right, and she's like, oh my god,
and goes go to the fence, turn your back to me,
(20:19):
take a breather, come back. You're not tired right, and
she I don't know how the heck, because I thought
she's gonna collapse. She was able to play the last
five minutes the best tennis I've seen her play in
her whole life.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
That's said. He texted me saying that she like she
switched dog.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
Yes, and I think she felt it because he said
to her, I don't know what happened to me, you know.
She said it was like a flip. I was like,
to the point that he was the teacher, the coach
wasn't it wasn't even getting to the balls because there
was so fantastic and I was like, oh my god,
the class is over. She sits down, she's sweating. She's
like about a collapse, and it's like, how do you feel?
And she's like, and do you feel strong?
Speaker 2 (20:57):
And she was.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
She felt so accomplished and and we talked to her
as Isabella, those are the moments that really matter, you know,
And the mind is so powerful. The second your mind
tells your body, I'm exhausted, I want to collapse. You're
going to collapse. Even if you have a little bit
more gas available, You're going to collapse. If your mind
tells your body I can do this, and I'm strong
(21:19):
and I only have five more minutes. Just you know,
it's risk reward. Your risk very hard and your reward
was unbelievable.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
And it's the beauty of sports because I always believe
that stuff translates in life. Yeah, big time. You know,
there are moments that you're going to have to dig
deep always in what you're doing and things like that,
and in sports in particular, you have no choice but
to fight if you keep doing well. That's one of things.
I just love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I never forget this, and we can close after this one.
I have a good friend of mine, Tyrese Gibson. He
is very very close to Brandy. You know Brandy the thing,
they're like family, and Brandy is a girl that it's
very month anointed in many ways when it comes to
her spirituality. You know, she's she's always been wise beyond
(22:06):
her years. And he always says that this girl is
next level. And he taught him and then he taught
me in passing. It was just a conversation. He said,
I approach life this way that the way Brandy does,
which is when you have an issue a problem, right,
(22:26):
whether it's a sickness, or a family situation or a relationship,
or anything that comes to you that depresses you or
basically shakes you. She will ask herself, is this going
to matter in three hundred and sixty five days? Is
this going to affect me this deeply? In three hundred
and sixty five days. If the answer is no, then
(22:50):
it's not that important. He goes things that are really
really worth your tears and your depression, you know, and
feeling defeated. Are things that you just got diagnosed with
horrible cancer, or your kid at got diagnosed, you know,
things that you just go this is life changing and
heartbreaking everything else, if it's in three hundred and sixty
(23:13):
five days, you're not gonna remember. Don't think about it anymore.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I couldn't agree more, I know.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Anyways, Thank you, pretty preach girl.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
Tell you thanks for listening. Don't forget to write us
a review and tell us what you think.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
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Speaker 2 (23:40):
See you next time.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
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