May 5, 2025 • 20 mins
Eric is taking more of your questions because… he loves to do it. Today he answers if he thought there was an underlying story building all along about him and Lucy’s eventual romance on The Rookie, he gives some advice to a single mom who wants to respect her sons boundaries, and how into women’s sports is he really getting. All this and more on todays show.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is, he said a Yavi ho with Eric Winter
and Rosalind Fantas. All Right, welcome back to another episode,
he said. Yep, you guessed it, he said, he said,
because the wife is gone again. What can I do? Listen,
she travels, she's working, She's a busy lady. She's in
New York right now. She's having a great time watching
(00:23):
the play. Real women have curves and it is. She
was there with a bunch of her friends celebrating. It's
not opening, not the opening day but it's been open
for a little bit now, but celebrating and it was.
It was fantastic. She's there also doing a campaign for
a company, and it's, you know, a quick little getaway
for her. It's not bad. I'm just here tackling everything
(00:44):
with the kids and still enjoying my break from filming,
which has been awesome, and so much Palmer Republic stuff,
you know, happening people I know I've seen recently. I
posted something about a virtual signing that we're doing, and
I think this might be one of the first. I
don't think a lot of companies and let's hope this
stays under wraps for a bit have been doing virtual
(01:05):
virtual signings in the spirit space, and I think this
is gonna be a fun way for people who haven't
been able to make the signings we had at Total
Wins in Miami. And you know, we're only in a
few markets. We're in Florida, and we're in Texas. We're
gonna be starting some signings there at Specs once we
get fully locked in, and we're gonna be expanding here
slowly into California. We're I'll be doing some more signings
(01:25):
in La as well with Total Wines. But if you
haven't already, check out the virtual signing link, put your
email in. We'll keep giving updates and then we're going
to be you buy a package of two bottles signed,
and then you get to get a one on one
zoom with me for a few minutes to ask me
whatever you want chat just like you were at a
regular signing, but probably even a bit more intimate because
(01:46):
you don't have a line of people behind you hurrying
you along. So make sure you do sign up for that.
And this episode is going to be more audience questions,
which I always love to do, So let me go
ahead and jump in first. Questions, do you think throughout
the seasons of the Rookie, the writers put in flirtation
with Tim and Lucy in case it became a relationship,
or do you think it only started once they decided
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it was going to be a storyline. That's a great question.
And here's something interesting. I don't think there was like
an organic flirtiness or you know, romantic storyline set up
at all. I think Tim was a jerk. She was
somebody going through a lot. Then you realized Tim was
going through a lot, and little by little she started
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trying to over She was trying to overstep her boundaries
across the line with him to sort of help him,
and that was something he never wanted or was open to.
And so I think little by little they started seeing
this as a way in to a deeper relationship between
a training officer and a rookie, and then the fans
(02:49):
ran with that. And I think when the fans ran
with it, they started realizing, huh, okay, we might need
to turn Tim's snarkiness and sarcastic banter that he obviously
just has with people he works with into a little more.
So I think that's kind of how it evolved. That
it wasn't planted early on by any means, I don't
think it was established by the writers per se, until
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much later when the fans got involved. Second question, I
know you just spoke about how to communicate with your partner.
I wanted to see if you had advice for my case.
I tend to want to talk about things in the
moment and right away, and my boyfriend wants to walk
away and process and revisit. Do you think either way
is better? And how do we make the communication style work? Listen,
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that's a great question, not an easy one. I am
somebody that likes to talk about things on the spot.
My wife, I think she's open to it on the spot,
but she definitely prefers to process a bit more before
talking as well. And I think there isn't a right
or wrong for sure, but you've got to create space
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for that person who does want to walk away, process,
get their mind right, and then come back and have theeson. Now,
the tricky part is if you're a person like me
who wants to talk about things right away, you're afraid
you're gonna forget your thoughts, da da da. But a
good thing about taking a pause and walking away it
kind of goes back to an episode we had with
Deepak Chopra, which is you can breathe and let the
(04:14):
fight or flight that happens with an argument calm down.
Because nobody can communicate well when they're amped up where
they're too hyped. So you've got to kind of take
a moment, take a breath, give each other maybe a
little bit of space, write down your thoughts or your
questions if you have to. Sometimes that'll actually calm you down.
And then if the person doesn't come back to you
with a time, you need to make it a point
to say, hey, remember we were going to talk about this.
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This bothers me. Let's set a time up to have
a conversation. That's the way I would approach it. If
you had to, I say all this like it's easy.
Doesn't happen in our house like that. It's not that smooth,
It's not that easy. It's never as easy as it sounds.
You have to definitely make it a conscious effort and
choice when you're doing it. That's how that's how we've
tried to navigate it. How would you react if you've
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found out that one of your kids was caught vape
or smoking, and how would you handle that conversation with them.
I would lose my mind. I can tell you that
right away. I've seen way too many documentaries on vaping.
Vaping is horrible. It is misleading that it's not as
bad as a cigarette. It's worse in a lot of ways.
I just saw recently some teenage girl got popcorn lung
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because she thought she was vaping to be cool for
her boyfriend who vapes, and she ended up in the
hospital almost died. I would lose my mind. I would
show them video after video evidence, you know, more and
more evidence about how it's just killing teens and killing
people left and right. And I hate to use a
scare atack, but it's not even a scare attack. It's
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just facts. Smoking's gonna kill you. Vaping is gonna kill you.
And our kids know that, and we talked to them
about that, and thankfully, our kids are extremely turned off
by both at the moment. Like Dylan doesn't even like
to walk by a smoker on the street. He panics,
and I'm like, dude, you're gonna be fine if he
just walked by, it's okay. He wants to go completely round,
like a roundabout way to get there, but I think
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you look, you got to talk early, right away. You
cannot waste time, you cannot try to give them the
I get what you're going through. No, no, no, I
would show them every piece of evidence that leads to
death that this is going to kill you. Whether it's
right now, in the next few years, or in the
next ten years, it is going to cause a problem.
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And that's how I'd work with it. Very passionate about that.
Do you have advice for how I should talk to
my kids better about divorce. I know they have questions
they are scared to ask. Maybe I know I have
answers I may be afraid to give them as a parent,
how would you approach the situation? Oh, that's a good one.
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That is a good one. You know. I come from
divorced parents. I'll never forget I say it all the time.
At seven years old when my parents got divorced, I
remember that conversation. I mean perfectly, how they sat me
down and told me. I don't think I ever asked
questions throughout the years as to why. I kind of
just compartmentalized it and put it away. But I would
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encourage for sure now if I had it in reverse,
I would definitely encourage my kids to please talk to
me about it, ask me any questions they want they
might have. I don't know if I would immediately just
volunteer information unless they asked I would. I would definitely
volunteer something to give, like the basis for the divorce
or you know, the mom and dad just we love
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each other but not in love with each other, and
we have grown apart, but we love you guys the
same and we want to be there for you and
you know, hopefully learn how to navigate that co parenting
even though you're divorced and really putting the kids first
in the divorce. So I would definitely try to find
ways to communicate with the kids because I know from
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my own experience that the kids are just compartmentalizing and
closing it all in there. They don't want to talk
about it because it's very scary and it's very sad
to them. Even if they know heart said it's better
for mom and dad, it's not easy. So yeah, try
to strike conversation as much as you can to give
them that escape podcast is called he said, she said,
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And I love it when you guys have different opinions
on things and give different perspectives. Is this how you
your relationship together has always been. We've always been very
opposite and a lot of things, and you know, some
people are like, you know, opposites never work. And then
there's obviously the saying opposites attract. I do believe opposites attract.
And I have a funny story of a girl I
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dated years and years ago, and you know, beautiful girl
and a lot of things going for I had friends
that were like, well, you're so lucky you're dating this girl,
blah blah blah, she's so cool, and I could not
get into the relationship. But I couldn't figure out what
was holding me back. All I wanted to do was
go out. Finally got her to go out, and then
I was just not into it. And I realized after
watching an episode of Seinfeld. And maybe I've talked about
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this before, but no joke. I saw an episode of
Seinfeld and he was dating a version of himself, and really,
this girl is me, is the female me, and that's
why I couldn't get into it. I was driving myself crazy.
So I do love the opposite. So now listen, too
many disagreements, are too many things that you don't have
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in common can be a problem. Thankfully, Roz and I
have a lot of things in common as well. We
share a lot of core values. We laugh about a
lot of the same things, and I think laughter is key.
But we are opposite in a lot of our opinions,
and some of that's culturally, some of that's just the
way we grew up. So it is that there's no coincidence.
That's called he said, she said, because that is a
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lot of who we are as people. But it makes
it fun, keeps it interesting, and it keeps you on
your toes, that's for sure. When traveling is a couple
or a family, I find it hard when there are
too many cooks in the kitchen. Everyone wants to do
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something different. How do you manage who gets to see
what they want? Maybe what activities you have to have
to skip without disappointing someone in the family. That is
a great question. In our house. It's worked out pretty
easy so far on these big trips because I am
generally the planner. Roslind goes with the flow, which is
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awesome as long as I plan it in a way
that you know, sort of is comfortable with the family.
She doesn't like to be rushed, pushed to do too
many things at once, and sometimes she didn't realize how
much she would enjoy something that I set up. And
I think that's fun with the kids. Listen, I don't
when we go on big the couple big European trips
that we've taken, I don't give the kids much of
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a choice. I'm like, you're gonna see a lot of
amazing history, You're gonna learn some cool stuff. Sometimes we
hire a tour guide, and I want them to experience
what it's like to be in another country and not
just not just go shopping or not just see things.
I want them to learn. And funny enough, a lot
of people are like, isn't that the kids are gonna
are they gonna be bored? Or doesn't this Dylan Sometimes
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at a museum can get a little bored, But overall
they have found it very interesting the stuff that they've learned.
And if you have a great guide sharing that knowledge,
so it helps a lot. So I often I just
plan things. The kids have to roll with it, and
they've been really good at it so far. And Roz
does as well. She kind of trusts my opinion, but
I think you know, you got to throw in a
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thing or two that other family might want to do
and that you might not want to do. Eliminate something
that you have in mind for something that they want.
You got to compromise for sure, because everybody's gonna have
an opinion. Like you said, you got to make it
enjoyable for everybody. But whoever is the planner, I think
you know, stick to your plan for the most part
and try to make it flow with the family. I'm
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a single mom, and when it comes to male hygiene,
what is the best way to approach my son to
have a conversation about that? Is it appropriate for me
as his mom to talk about it or should I
find a male to handle the conversation. The more teenager
he becomes, the more I find myself having to remind
him about to you and showering. Look, if you're a
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single mom, I say you go all in. I wouldn't look.
If you look, if there's a male figure that you
can go to for something and you want to even
be a part of that conversation, I would do it.
And I only say this because I'm not a single
dad by any means. Obviously, I'm married and I have
an amazing wife, but I am all in about communicating
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with my daughter about female things. I listen, she got
her period. She came and told both of us she's cramping.
She tells me. If I'm with her, she's going through
her stuff as a female. I make her comfortable to
talk to me about it. I don't want it to
be a secret. I'm not. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it.
It's human development and it's human things, whether it's male
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or female. So I think talking to your son is
whether a girl or boy. If my daughter's not showering
or using yodurant, I say, I'll say something. I'll be like, look,
you're smelling right now. You stink. Why are your smell?
Put some yodorant on, Make sure you shower, make sure
you wash really well, do your hair really well. I'm
all about it with my son and my daughter. So listen.
If you're single, mom, just assume both. Don't even think
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about it as roles male or female. Just be a
parent and jump in and don't be afraid to communicate.
That's my biggest thing. The more your kids communicate with
you about things like that, they'll communicate with you about everything.
But again, if you have a male that you can
lean on for something, I think, go for it. It's
not going to hurt, but I would want to be
a part of that conversation. I've been living with my
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girlfriend for a year, but we have kept my apartment
that entire year. I'm finally getting rid of my apartment
at the end of the month and we are combining
all of our things. When did you and Roz know
it was a good time to take the step and
did you get married first? Oh? Good question, good question.
So we did the same thing. I had my own place,
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she had hers. We only lived like a mile apart,
so it was extremely convenient at the time. And it
was probably around the time you're saying, like a year
that we decided, okay, maybe we move in with each
other and give this a real shot. And I didn't
like I didn't have an apartment. I had a place
that I owned and I still own it. So I
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kept most of my stuff at that place, and just
little by little was moving you know, things into her
house to see what that was like. Now, we both
were married before, we did not get married first. Before
we decide to move in with each other. Obviously that
is a personal choice for a lot of people, whether
it be religious reasons or family reasons, et cetera. So
I think you can wait until you're married if that's
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what you want to do. For sure. I am definitely
of the mindset that you learn a lot about a
person when you live with somebody, and sometimes that could
be a defining part of the relationship if you can
even marry that person, if you can move forward. So
for my thinking, I would prefer move in first and
see how everything works as one, especially having come out
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of a divorce before Roslin. But it was about that
amount of time and it's nerve wracking. You got to
figure it out. It's you're You're probably there all the
time anyway, so it's not totally different. But once you
kind of you're giving up your own apartment now, which
is big, and now you feel like you have nowhere
else to go, right, You're you're definitely all in, but
you can always go back, you can always get another apartment,
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you can always move out. So I wouldn't stress about it.
I would go all in if that's what you're You're
where you guys are at, and the next step is
if you're gonna move in with somebody, you're already thinking
marriage is down the road, So don't waste your time,
don't waste your partner's time moving in and taking that step.
If marriage isn't a thought, or if you're not even
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a person that's all about marriage, but you're gonna be
a you have a partner for the rest of your life.
If that's not in your mindset of like being with
that person for a long, long time forever, quote unquote,
then you shouldn't move in with each other. You should
just wait. But if it's in your if it's in
your cars, take that down the road that I think,
go for it and take that leap. Good for you, guys,
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all right. Next question, there are a lot of people
who are popping up women's sports bars for people who
watch women's sports. You have a liquor company and a
daughter in women's sports. Would you ever consider opening a
sports bar dedicated to women's sports. I have never thought
about that, and I find it fascinating that and if
people are opening up these bars, clearly there are statistics
showing that, which I love, women's sports are growing in viewership,
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and I I'm one of the new viewers you know
now listen not across all women's sports. I've always loved
women's dentis, Women's soccer has always grabbed me for quite
some time now, and now I'm starting to watch more WNBA.
So if you're getting that great mix of audience coming
in and you can sustain customers, I think a bar
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dedicated to women's sports would be incredible. I would have
to learn more about it, you know, because I feel
like if you can do if you can have a
bar that's just includes all genders, but you're going to
show all sports, you know, male sports and female sports,
but maybe you pick a night where it's just women's
sports night, and that nights can be dedicated to WNBA,
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or that night's can be dedicated to women's soccer or
tennis for that matter. That could be cool as well.
But every day dedicated to one gender, I don't know.
I mean, that's what kind of like a regular sports bar,
it kind of is dedicated to male sports. I don't
know that I've walked into many sports bars and seen
women's sports come on, unless it was the Olympics. I
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think there should be more of it. I like this idea,
like where it's headed. Getting Palm Republic at any of
these bars would be great. But you know, I'm always
about supporting women's sports in general. Obviously my daughter plays,
and I'm hoping to go, guys to my first WNBA
game in July. I've been watching ever since I was
not a big w NBA guy. I would watch clips
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and I knew a little bit about the players, and
I know I'm jumping on sort of this bandwagon of
Caitlin Clark and Angel Rees coming into the league. But
when that happened, that rivalry, I got into it. And
now I watched third and watch the full thing. But
I followed the WNBA draft this year with Page Becker's
Haley than Lift and all these players coming out. I
watched the final four, the women's final four as well
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as the men's and I am really trying to go
to the Chicago Sky Indiana Fever game in July, which
is going to be in Chicago when I'm there for
a signing. I'm hoping this happens. I'm pumped about it.
So look, I'm one of these people that very well
would show up at this women's sports bar. You know,
I would be there watching whatever's on TV, so let's see.
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I like where the space is headed. All right. Question ten,
would you like to do more films instead of television
or do you love the pace of scripted television more
than films? You know, listen, I'm open to both. I've
done movies. I've done more TV than movies. I love both.
I love being in Los Angeles. That's one of the
benefits of the television show that I'm on. And not
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every show is obviously like that, but I get to
be with my kids and my family. Rozland's had to
travel a lot, and it's hard. It's hard on the kids.
It's just it's in general, it's it's difficult for someone
to go away for months at a time, and movies
can often do that. But the benefit of a movie
is it's a one off. So if I go away
for like Rosen was doing a movie in Budapest for
a month, that was just she was gone maybe five
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weeks and we got to go see her. But it's
only five weeks. It's not ongoing year after year, and
that is where it gets tough. So I'm the lifestyle
of a TV show in LA is awesome. Even doing
a movie in La lifestyle would be great, but there's
a benefit to doing a film because it's short, it's
shorter lived and you can move on and go back
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to your life at home. However, there's stability and TV,
so let's at the pace of that. How it's made
doesn't really affect me. I do like the jumping in
and out of roles for the film side of it
because you get to, you know, expand more as an
actor doing playing different characters. So you know, toss a coin,
you flip a coin. I should say either one works,
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all right, everybody, I hope that were I hope I
all your questions in and you are satisfied with my answers.
We will have Roz back next week or next time
we do this podcast, which will be great. Thank you
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next time. Bye,
This is, he said a Yavi ho with Eric Winter
and Rosalind Fantas. All Right, welcome back to another episode,
he said. Yep, you guessed it, he said, he said,
because the wife is gone again. What can I do? Listen,
she travels, she's working, She's a busy lady. She's in
New York right now. She's having a great time watching
(00:23):
the play. Real women have curves and it is. She
was there with a bunch of her friends celebrating. It's
not opening, not the opening day but it's been open
for a little bit now, but celebrating and it was.
It was fantastic. She's there also doing a campaign for
a company, and it's, you know, a quick little getaway
for her. It's not bad. I'm just here tackling everything
(00:44):
with the kids and still enjoying my break from filming,
which has been awesome, and so much Palmer Republic stuff,
you know, happening people I know I've seen recently. I
posted something about a virtual signing that we're doing, and
I think this might be one of the first. I
don't think a lot of companies and let's hope this
stays under wraps for a bit have been doing virtual
(01:05):
virtual signings in the spirit space, and I think this
is gonna be a fun way for people who haven't
been able to make the signings we had at Total
Wins in Miami. And you know, we're only in a
few markets. We're in Florida, and we're in Texas. We're
gonna be starting some signings there at Specs once we
get fully locked in, and we're gonna be expanding here
slowly into California. We're I'll be doing some more signings
(01:25):
in La as well with Total Wines. But if you
haven't already, check out the virtual signing link, put your
email in. We'll keep giving updates and then we're going
to be you buy a package of two bottles signed,
and then you get to get a one on one
zoom with me for a few minutes to ask me
whatever you want chat just like you were at a
regular signing, but probably even a bit more intimate because
(01:46):
you don't have a line of people behind you hurrying
you along. So make sure you do sign up for that.
And this episode is going to be more audience questions,
which I always love to do, So let me go
ahead and jump in first. Questions, do you think throughout
the seasons of the Rookie, the writers put in flirtation
with Tim and Lucy in case it became a relationship,
or do you think it only started once they decided
(02:07):
it was going to be a storyline. That's a great question.
And here's something interesting. I don't think there was like
an organic flirtiness or you know, romantic storyline set up
at all. I think Tim was a jerk. She was
somebody going through a lot. Then you realized Tim was
going through a lot, and little by little she started
(02:28):
trying to over She was trying to overstep her boundaries
across the line with him to sort of help him,
and that was something he never wanted or was open to.
And so I think little by little they started seeing
this as a way in to a deeper relationship between
a training officer and a rookie, and then the fans
(02:49):
ran with that. And I think when the fans ran
with it, they started realizing, huh, okay, we might need
to turn Tim's snarkiness and sarcastic banter that he obviously
just has with people he works with into a little more.
So I think that's kind of how it evolved. That
it wasn't planted early on by any means, I don't
think it was established by the writers per se, until
(03:10):
much later when the fans got involved. Second question, I
know you just spoke about how to communicate with your partner.
I wanted to see if you had advice for my case.
I tend to want to talk about things in the
moment and right away, and my boyfriend wants to walk
away and process and revisit. Do you think either way
is better? And how do we make the communication style work? Listen,
(03:31):
that's a great question, not an easy one. I am
somebody that likes to talk about things on the spot.
My wife, I think she's open to it on the spot,
but she definitely prefers to process a bit more before
talking as well. And I think there isn't a right
or wrong for sure, but you've got to create space
(03:52):
for that person who does want to walk away, process,
get their mind right, and then come back and have theeson. Now,
the tricky part is if you're a person like me
who wants to talk about things right away, you're afraid
you're gonna forget your thoughts, da da da. But a
good thing about taking a pause and walking away it
kind of goes back to an episode we had with
Deepak Chopra, which is you can breathe and let the
(04:14):
fight or flight that happens with an argument calm down.
Because nobody can communicate well when they're amped up where
they're too hyped. So you've got to kind of take
a moment, take a breath, give each other maybe a
little bit of space, write down your thoughts or your
questions if you have to. Sometimes that'll actually calm you down.
And then if the person doesn't come back to you
with a time, you need to make it a point
to say, hey, remember we were going to talk about this.
(04:36):
This bothers me. Let's set a time up to have
a conversation. That's the way I would approach it. If
you had to, I say all this like it's easy.
Doesn't happen in our house like that. It's not that smooth,
It's not that easy. It's never as easy as it sounds.
You have to definitely make it a conscious effort and
choice when you're doing it. That's how that's how we've
tried to navigate it. How would you react if you've
(04:57):
found out that one of your kids was caught vape
or smoking, and how would you handle that conversation with them.
I would lose my mind. I can tell you that
right away. I've seen way too many documentaries on vaping.
Vaping is horrible. It is misleading that it's not as
bad as a cigarette. It's worse in a lot of ways.
I just saw recently some teenage girl got popcorn lung
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because she thought she was vaping to be cool for
her boyfriend who vapes, and she ended up in the
hospital almost died. I would lose my mind. I would
show them video after video evidence, you know, more and
more evidence about how it's just killing teens and killing
people left and right. And I hate to use a
scare atack, but it's not even a scare attack. It's
(05:39):
just facts. Smoking's gonna kill you. Vaping is gonna kill you.
And our kids know that, and we talked to them
about that, and thankfully, our kids are extremely turned off
by both at the moment. Like Dylan doesn't even like
to walk by a smoker on the street. He panics,
and I'm like, dude, you're gonna be fine if he
just walked by, it's okay. He wants to go completely round,
like a roundabout way to get there, but I think
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you look, you got to talk early, right away. You
cannot waste time, you cannot try to give them the
I get what you're going through. No, no, no, I
would show them every piece of evidence that leads to
death that this is going to kill you. Whether it's
right now, in the next few years, or in the
next ten years, it is going to cause a problem.
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And that's how I'd work with it. Very passionate about that.
Do you have advice for how I should talk to
my kids better about divorce. I know they have questions
they are scared to ask. Maybe I know I have
answers I may be afraid to give them as a parent,
how would you approach the situation? Oh, that's a good one.
(06:43):
That is a good one. You know. I come from
divorced parents. I'll never forget I say it all the time.
At seven years old when my parents got divorced, I
remember that conversation. I mean perfectly, how they sat me
down and told me. I don't think I ever asked
questions throughout the years as to why. I kind of
just compartmentalized it and put it away. But I would
(07:05):
encourage for sure now if I had it in reverse,
I would definitely encourage my kids to please talk to
me about it, ask me any questions they want they
might have. I don't know if I would immediately just
volunteer information unless they asked I would. I would definitely
volunteer something to give, like the basis for the divorce
or you know, the mom and dad just we love
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each other but not in love with each other, and
we have grown apart, but we love you guys the
same and we want to be there for you and
you know, hopefully learn how to navigate that co parenting
even though you're divorced and really putting the kids first
in the divorce. So I would definitely try to find
ways to communicate with the kids because I know from
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my own experience that the kids are just compartmentalizing and
closing it all in there. They don't want to talk
about it because it's very scary and it's very sad
to them. Even if they know heart said it's better
for mom and dad, it's not easy. So yeah, try
to strike conversation as much as you can to give
them that escape podcast is called he said, she said,
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And I love it when you guys have different opinions
on things and give different perspectives. Is this how you
your relationship together has always been. We've always been very
opposite and a lot of things, and you know, some
people are like, you know, opposites never work. And then
there's obviously the saying opposites attract. I do believe opposites attract.
And I have a funny story of a girl I
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dated years and years ago, and you know, beautiful girl
and a lot of things going for I had friends
that were like, well, you're so lucky you're dating this girl,
blah blah blah, she's so cool, and I could not
get into the relationship. But I couldn't figure out what
was holding me back. All I wanted to do was
go out. Finally got her to go out, and then
I was just not into it. And I realized after
watching an episode of Seinfeld. And maybe I've talked about
(08:53):
this before, but no joke. I saw an episode of
Seinfeld and he was dating a version of himself, and really,
this girl is me, is the female me, and that's
why I couldn't get into it. I was driving myself crazy.
So I do love the opposite. So now listen, too
many disagreements, are too many things that you don't have
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in common can be a problem. Thankfully, Roz and I
have a lot of things in common as well. We
share a lot of core values. We laugh about a
lot of the same things, and I think laughter is key.
But we are opposite in a lot of our opinions,
and some of that's culturally, some of that's just the
way we grew up. So it is that there's no coincidence.
That's called he said, she said, because that is a
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lot of who we are as people. But it makes
it fun, keeps it interesting, and it keeps you on
your toes, that's for sure. When traveling is a couple
or a family, I find it hard when there are
too many cooks in the kitchen. Everyone wants to do
(09:57):
something different. How do you manage who gets to see
what they want? Maybe what activities you have to have
to skip without disappointing someone in the family. That is
a great question. In our house. It's worked out pretty
easy so far on these big trips because I am
generally the planner. Roslind goes with the flow, which is
(10:18):
awesome as long as I plan it in a way
that you know, sort of is comfortable with the family.
She doesn't like to be rushed, pushed to do too
many things at once, and sometimes she didn't realize how
much she would enjoy something that I set up. And
I think that's fun with the kids. Listen, I don't
when we go on big the couple big European trips
that we've taken, I don't give the kids much of
(10:39):
a choice. I'm like, you're gonna see a lot of
amazing history, You're gonna learn some cool stuff. Sometimes we
hire a tour guide, and I want them to experience
what it's like to be in another country and not
just not just go shopping or not just see things.
I want them to learn. And funny enough, a lot
of people are like, isn't that the kids are gonna
are they gonna be bored? Or doesn't this Dylan Sometimes
(10:59):
at a museum can get a little bored, But overall
they have found it very interesting the stuff that they've learned.
And if you have a great guide sharing that knowledge,
so it helps a lot. So I often I just
plan things. The kids have to roll with it, and
they've been really good at it so far. And Roz
does as well. She kind of trusts my opinion, but
I think you know, you got to throw in a
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thing or two that other family might want to do
and that you might not want to do. Eliminate something
that you have in mind for something that they want.
You got to compromise for sure, because everybody's gonna have
an opinion. Like you said, you got to make it
enjoyable for everybody. But whoever is the planner, I think
you know, stick to your plan for the most part
and try to make it flow with the family. I'm
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a single mom, and when it comes to male hygiene,
what is the best way to approach my son to
have a conversation about that? Is it appropriate for me
as his mom to talk about it or should I
find a male to handle the conversation. The more teenager
he becomes, the more I find myself having to remind
him about to you and showering. Look, if you're a
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single mom, I say you go all in. I wouldn't look.
If you look, if there's a male figure that you
can go to for something and you want to even
be a part of that conversation, I would do it.
And I only say this because I'm not a single
dad by any means. Obviously, I'm married and I have
an amazing wife, but I am all in about communicating
(12:23):
with my daughter about female things. I listen, she got
her period. She came and told both of us she's cramping.
She tells me. If I'm with her, she's going through
her stuff as a female. I make her comfortable to
talk to me about it. I don't want it to
be a secret. I'm not. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it.
It's human development and it's human things, whether it's male
(12:45):
or female. So I think talking to your son is
whether a girl or boy. If my daughter's not showering
or using yodurant, I say, I'll say something. I'll be like, look,
you're smelling right now. You stink. Why are your smell?
Put some yodorant on, Make sure you shower, make sure
you wash really well, do your hair really well. I'm
all about it with my son and my daughter. So listen.
If you're single, mom, just assume both. Don't even think
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about it as roles male or female. Just be a
parent and jump in and don't be afraid to communicate.
That's my biggest thing. The more your kids communicate with
you about things like that, they'll communicate with you about everything.
But again, if you have a male that you can
lean on for something, I think, go for it. It's
not going to hurt, but I would want to be
a part of that conversation. I've been living with my
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girlfriend for a year, but we have kept my apartment
that entire year. I'm finally getting rid of my apartment
at the end of the month and we are combining
all of our things. When did you and Roz know
it was a good time to take the step and
did you get married first? Oh? Good question, good question.
So we did the same thing. I had my own place,
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she had hers. We only lived like a mile apart,
so it was extremely convenient at the time. And it
was probably around the time you're saying, like a year
that we decided, okay, maybe we move in with each
other and give this a real shot. And I didn't
like I didn't have an apartment. I had a place
that I owned and I still own it. So I
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kept most of my stuff at that place, and just
little by little was moving you know, things into her
house to see what that was like. Now, we both
were married before, we did not get married first. Before
we decide to move in with each other. Obviously that
is a personal choice for a lot of people, whether
it be religious reasons or family reasons, et cetera. So
I think you can wait until you're married if that's
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what you want to do. For sure. I am definitely
of the mindset that you learn a lot about a
person when you live with somebody, and sometimes that could
be a defining part of the relationship if you can
even marry that person, if you can move forward. So
for my thinking, I would prefer move in first and
see how everything works as one, especially having come out
(14:55):
of a divorce before Roslin. But it was about that
amount of time and it's nerve wracking. You got to
figure it out. It's you're You're probably there all the
time anyway, so it's not totally different. But once you
kind of you're giving up your own apartment now, which
is big, and now you feel like you have nowhere
else to go, right, You're you're definitely all in, but
you can always go back, you can always get another apartment,
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you can always move out. So I wouldn't stress about it.
I would go all in if that's what you're You're
where you guys are at, and the next step is
if you're gonna move in with somebody, you're already thinking
marriage is down the road, So don't waste your time,
don't waste your partner's time moving in and taking that step.
If marriage isn't a thought, or if you're not even
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a person that's all about marriage, but you're gonna be
a you have a partner for the rest of your life.
If that's not in your mindset of like being with
that person for a long, long time forever, quote unquote,
then you shouldn't move in with each other. You should
just wait. But if it's in your if it's in
your cars, take that down the road that I think,
go for it and take that leap. Good for you, guys,
(16:00):
all right. Next question, there are a lot of people
who are popping up women's sports bars for people who
watch women's sports. You have a liquor company and a
daughter in women's sports. Would you ever consider opening a
sports bar dedicated to women's sports. I have never thought
about that, and I find it fascinating that and if
people are opening up these bars, clearly there are statistics
showing that, which I love, women's sports are growing in viewership,
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and I I'm one of the new viewers you know
now listen not across all women's sports. I've always loved
women's dentis, Women's soccer has always grabbed me for quite
some time now, and now I'm starting to watch more WNBA.
So if you're getting that great mix of audience coming
in and you can sustain customers, I think a bar
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dedicated to women's sports would be incredible. I would have
to learn more about it, you know, because I feel
like if you can do if you can have a
bar that's just includes all genders, but you're going to
show all sports, you know, male sports and female sports,
but maybe you pick a night where it's just women's
sports night, and that nights can be dedicated to WNBA,
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or that night's can be dedicated to women's soccer or
tennis for that matter. That could be cool as well.
But every day dedicated to one gender, I don't know.
I mean, that's what kind of like a regular sports bar,
it kind of is dedicated to male sports. I don't
know that I've walked into many sports bars and seen
women's sports come on, unless it was the Olympics. I
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think there should be more of it. I like this idea,
like where it's headed. Getting Palm Republic at any of
these bars would be great. But you know, I'm always
about supporting women's sports in general. Obviously my daughter plays,
and I'm hoping to go, guys to my first WNBA
game in July. I've been watching ever since I was
not a big w NBA guy. I would watch clips
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and I knew a little bit about the players, and
I know I'm jumping on sort of this bandwagon of
Caitlin Clark and Angel Rees coming into the league. But
when that happened, that rivalry, I got into it. And
now I watched third and watch the full thing. But
I followed the WNBA draft this year with Page Becker's
Haley than Lift and all these players coming out. I
watched the final four, the women's final four as well
(18:11):
as the men's and I am really trying to go
to the Chicago Sky Indiana Fever game in July, which
is going to be in Chicago when I'm there for
a signing. I'm hoping this happens. I'm pumped about it.
So look, I'm one of these people that very well
would show up at this women's sports bar. You know,
I would be there watching whatever's on TV, so let's see.
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I like where the space is headed. All right. Question ten,
would you like to do more films instead of television
or do you love the pace of scripted television more
than films? You know, listen, I'm open to both. I've
done movies. I've done more TV than movies. I love both.
I love being in Los Angeles. That's one of the
benefits of the television show that I'm on. And not
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every show is obviously like that, but I get to
be with my kids and my family. Rozland's had to
travel a lot, and it's hard. It's hard on the kids.
It's just it's in general, it's it's difficult for someone
to go away for months at a time, and movies
can often do that. But the benefit of a movie
is it's a one off. So if I go away
for like Rosen was doing a movie in Budapest for
a month, that was just she was gone maybe five
(19:15):
weeks and we got to go see her. But it's
only five weeks. It's not ongoing year after year, and
that is where it gets tough. So I'm the lifestyle
of a TV show in LA is awesome. Even doing
a movie in La lifestyle would be great, but there's
a benefit to doing a film because it's short, it's
shorter lived and you can move on and go back
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to your life at home. However, there's stability and TV,
so let's at the pace of that. How it's made
doesn't really affect me. I do like the jumping in
and out of roles for the film side of it
because you get to, you know, expand more as an
actor doing playing different characters. So you know, toss a coin,
you flip a coin. I should say either one works,
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all right, everybody, I hope that were I hope I
all your questions in and you are satisfied with my answers.
We will have Roz back next week or next time
we do this podcast, which will be great. Thank you
for sending your questions as always and for listening, and
remember continue to send us your thoughts your questions to
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